SO you ladies know about my You Tube channel; I hope…..
And it’s so interesting to me when the guys muster up enough interest to comment on the content of my videos.
And what’s even more interesting is the context of their statements are always the same.
“Some dude must have really hurt you”, Or “You are just unattractive, their isn’t an issue with black women” Or “I like Your Mouth” etc..
The comments are always slight jabs or deliberate stabs at MY looks or MY temperament and not much is ever mentioned about the content itself.
This is why I advise ladies to be aware of “presentation”.
Though I will admit that I’m not a real life example of “perfect” presentation, I understand its power.
I understand that most of the time, its all the power you need really.
its never what you its: HOW you say it.
Its never about what you do: Its HOW you do it….
What’s the difference between a Sex Surrogate and a Prostitute?
The Answer: And OFFICE
People generally are interested in the surface stuff. Ok, let me stop talking in third person and talk to YOU right now..
YOU are concerned with surface stuff, with how you APPEAR to other people. You want people to think you are HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL, LOVED, INTELLIGENT, SEXY etc..
But how do you TRULY feel? NO as good as the pretense you give off?
I understand.. Believe me I do…
And the tragedy of that is that YOU spend so much time in that space,
the pretending part of your life,
that you put off all the elements that could actually assist you in truly feeling self worth and self esteem.
YOU have come to learn that the SHOW is all that matters because the show is all anyone sees…
What you feel about yourself manifests in ALLLLLLLLL your decisions.
Everything you decide to do, that you decide is right, that you think is wrong is shaped around YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOUR VALUE!!
SO guess what?!
People see the real you by way of your ACTIONS
You don’t get to hide low self esteem as well as you think you are doing…
It shows through, and these men quickly find out how fraudulent you are WHEN HE GETS TO NOW YOU…
And eventually you expose your weaknesses as you sit there perplexed as to why he doesn’t show up in your life anymore like he used too..
You showed your hand, your TRUE hand, and it was an insecure hand, a hand full of nothingness,
and the conclusion was that you really aren’t worth the effort or the sacrifice…
All MAN/Woman has the power to do is MAKE YOU AN OFFER, that is where their power begins and ends…
YOU get to decide if that offer is sufficient and if you will take it.
You get to negotiate the rules of engagement.
And your rules are your expectations
and your expectations are your boundaries,
and your boundaries are your protection..
ANYTHING OFFERED THAT IS NOT IN LINE WITH WHAT YOU WANT IS AN OFFENSE..
Who Am I ?
Salkis Re is a world Renown Artist and Life Coach
who uses offers therapy through art imagery which serves as the soothing
part to her tough love coaching style to help women heal from pain and trauma..
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