The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

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“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Soft Porn Everywhere!

“Soft Porn”
Written by Salkis Re
 

Soft porn is everywhere, whispering to women subconsciously

about how we should look and feel about ourselves and 
women with their knees wide open, looking ready to insert things into their mouths,
appearing to not have a care in the world because lustful men
are sprawled helplessly around her,
That’s what you think you have to have..
 
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You are being programed to feel insecure.

You are being programmed emotionally
to want what the manufacturer sells.
You will be wanted if you buy this.
You will be respected if you buy that.
You will get married if you buy 10 of these etc etc..
And you think your desires are “natural”
when everything you think about yourself,
every emotion you express is a manufactured one.
 
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They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain

 
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain that’s
responsible for memory and emotions and reward seeking.
EVERYTHING you do which includes what you eat, who you have sex with,
how you have sex, what you wear, your job, how many children you have,
your likes and dislikes are shaped by our fear a LOSS or the gain of a REWARD.
 
 
 
 
 
 
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No Reward!

You think you will be rewarded if you have sex with men. You think you won’t experience loss if you look pretty. You think you will be rewarded if you comply. You think you won’t lose friends if you think the same..

And down the rabbit hole you go, deeper and deeper into the abyss of illusion…  

Wake Up “Mummy”


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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Beauty for Black Women


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So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

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“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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Natural Beauty Is Not In You!

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

Everything you feel about yourself is wrong,

corrupt,

self serving,

addictive and dangerous.

This society will not give us the balance and the peace we are looking for.

And the road to wellness requires that you pull apart everything that you assume is normal in your lives.

We were taught how to love each other, how to have sex with each other and

most if not all of what we know about love and sex is wrong.

 

We have now a deep seeded feeling of guilt and inadequacy.

We want desperately to be like other people who are other than what we are.

And even within our own so-called black community we

have caste systems in place designed to differentiate women by features,

The worth of a black woman is measured from how her outer shell is formed.

 

 

The goodness of her heart is not treasured and appreciated.

His focus on your backside has roots in homosexuality and to be truthful, and

the appetites of men these days in many ways is suspect and not as “heterosexual” as we are made to think it is…

 

 

You are running around here trying to be like men because you are scared of being hurt and manipulated. And you mimic the toxicity of men which is double jeopardy in itself..

All of us are out of our minds in one way or another..
And its time to get back to basics and the love we want to feel will come…
Your Self Love Coach
~Salkis Re

 

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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Pretty But You Sick???

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If your goal is to truly love yourself

 

If your goal is to truly love yourself and you are not adding

what you eat into your transformation cocktail, then you are

playing games and fooling yourself at the same time too.

Holistic living requires that your diet be in line with nature.

 

Triggered to Eat Junk Food

This is a very emotional thing for us because

EVERYTHING we do is triggered by our emotions.

I don’t know anyone who eats for nutrition purposes.

 

Food Porn

We have to dress the food, lay it out really nicely,

make it look attractive and appetizing in order to want to eat it.

Ad this food porn only further makes us emotionally

dependent on the soothing that we think we are getting for food.

 

If you are eating for nutrition then salt would not be apart of your dish.

I know I know, food tastes like shit without salt,

, or so our tastes buds have been trained to believe.

 

 

You may not being doing crack, but the food you are eating a daily

basis is just as much of am addictive drug as any line of cocaine.

Salt is a chemical, it is not a food.

Sugar is a chemical. It is not a food.

Cooking oil is a chemical, it is not a food

 All manner of imbalances happen when you consume these chemicals, from colds to cancer.

 

If A baby Can’t Eat, Neither Should You!

The general rule here is if you can’t feed it to a baby or eat a bowl of it, or feed it to an elderly person,

THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BE EATING IT!!

The journey to self love REALLY BEGINS NOW.

Are you ready??

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

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The Ugly Girls Club!!

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The narrative that you have to look a certain to be classified as a woman is agreeing with people who profit from your violation of how NATURE MADE YOU.


Stop cowering down and watering down your magic!!
Rise black bird, RISE!!

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Embracing What You Are is TRUE POWER!

You can pretend that you mimic people for whatever reason makes you comfortable.

Maybe you do it for the job, maybe you do it cause HE likes it,

maybe you do it to influence people and win friends…
But whatever the reason is, when you do this as an “Ugly Girl”,

you are sending a message that you are:


INFERIOR,
compliant,
malleable,
a subordinate,
SECOND BEST,
apologetic,
regretful,
WORRIED

dissatisfied,


and unworthy of what they have to offer
AS YOU ARE!!!

We don’t have any more time to entertain foolish thinking like this.

You have let go of your regret and shame for not measuring up to what THEY SAY..

They don’t dictate what you deserve in this life!!

Your entire life is being wasted in your slumber and

constant day dreaming of being other than what you are. 

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

People will assume to know your worth

People will assume to know your worth based on face value, they will

contemplate your level of intelligence, cleverness, self esteem and

background based on your presentation.

We cannot do anything about what they conclude us to be at face value.

BUT you have ABSOLUTE POWER in what you agree with. 

And most of you have that nasty habit of agreeing with your oppressors

whether it be racist bigots or the man your

screwing because you want to be ACCEPTED even if it kills you!


No more my dear..
Stop casting your pearls to swine
GET UP!!!!!
Self Love Coach, Salkis RE

The Ugly Girls Club.com” COMING SOON!

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So if you are not quite ready for liberation road and you just want to get your feel wet for now while you. build up inner strength, I can help guide you in that process.

But I want you to know that you have to reform yourself here. The habits of thinking the way you do, will need to be shaken no stirred my love..


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals

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Achieving Your Goals Is Not Done With Vision Boards!

Authenticity is overrated.
And it will halt all your goals.
And people will shame you for pretending.
And you’ll feel ashamed for pretending.
Then you will go back to what you know.

Then realize -AGAIN- that it doesn’t work.
Then you’ll revisit trying to change.
And you’ll conclude that being unlike the real you is better.
Now all that’s left, is to be that pretender
until you forget that it’s not what you are….

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It might feel icky to be a fraud,

but that only because you believe that everyone around is telling

you the truth while being themselves.

You are being humored every DAY.

People are polite, act like they are interested in what you have to say,

some even pretend to be impressed

and attracted to you.

And here you are,

afraid to fail them by adopting a personality to fix your own life,

to get you results that could make you better.

So tell me this, how do you change while staying the same?

How do you grow while staying the same?

How can you get something you’ve never gotten before while having the same mentality?

I’ll answer the answer: It cannot be done!!

Continue reading “1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals”

3 Simple Ways to Get Him Chasing You Again!

You try to fix your relationship

When you try to fix a relationship by giving, you actually make him pull away further.

You don’t reward a complacent heart with charitable humility!!!

Don’t be so hard on yourself, you will do better.

What happens with most of us is that at the first sign of trouble,

you spring into action with a checklist of everything you have to do to win him back.

You make yourself more available to him on every level!

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Your self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

Cook meals:
Lose 10 pounds:
Have more sex:
Say YES to whatever he wants:

 

 

And you turn him off even further!!

You think:

“It makes me feel good when a man goes out of his

way to give me what I want,

so it must work the other way around as well.”

But it’s exactly the opposite.
Men love what they give YOU, not how you cater to them..

 

LOVE is about what a person is compelled to do to EARN your affection.

If a woman gives him everything he wants

without him having to work for it, will he treasure it, respect it?

 

👉He treasures what he has to take care of!!
👉He respect what he invest in.
👉He desires what’s hard for him to get..

 

So the goal here is to RELAX, the worst thing you can

do is act like you are afraid to lose him.

Fear and anxiety sends a message that you are unworthy

and that he is worth more to the relationship than you are…

 

It’s not the time to do anything he wants

 

 

It’s not the time to do anything he wants,

its time to make him feel good about giving to you again..

Why do you think when you break up with men

that they start acting well behaved and attentive?

They do this because you have shown him that you are unafraid of living

without him if necessary and that your comfort has to be

his goal too or consequences will be activated..

And let me be clear here, it’s not about making verbal

demands and increasing your sass my dear.

Arguing is a sign of emotional weakness and it

acting is a sign that you are unsure of yourself.

 

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO……

 

 1-Get quiet and strategic when he starts acting a fool.

Be even more unbothered emotionally than ever before.

2-Give him his space.

3-Don’t confirm or deny anything.

 

Make it clear what has to happen in order for you

to care about him again, then leave him to decide.

It has to be his decision not your forced ultimatum.

 

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Who Am I?

A “Self Esteem Coach”

Helping Black Women get knowledge about love,

Themselves

and Holistic Living.

Need some advice and guidance?

Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to have a one on one session with me?

You can book it right here

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Dark Skin Women Get No Love From Dark Skin Men???

One of my viewers made a comment on my “Are Dark Skin Men The Enemy”
I did that video because Sooooooo many dark skin women have sentiments of
struggle and trauma around getting a dark skin man
want her or keeping the relationship positive and respectful.

She Stated:
“I was told by a Light Skin woman that her mother
told her to get the dark skin
man you could find and he would work like a “slave”
and cater to you, then you won’t have to work.
She married the dark skin man but she’s “in love”
with a light skin man who treats her like shyte!!”
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YOU ARE SLAVES to THEM!!


I told you men previously that a whole LOT of you are work mules and called
a stupid MONKEYS when these women huddle in secret sister circles to
swap tactics and brag about what you do for them.
Spiritual Life Coach for Black Women
Your Self Esteem Coach: Salkis Re


I am Not Blaming Light Skin Women


The problem is not in your choice to love NOR is it with Light Skin women,
it’s the extra verbal condemning of women who more times than not actually
HAVE or COULD HAVE “genuine” feelings of endearment and concern for you.
You’ll call dark women names (and clown us WITH your light SKIN girlfriend)
because you are of the impression that you are MONKEY STATUS EXEMPT
because you can throw her a few yards and have a nice ride???
How Sway??

You will Choose A Woman Who Does Not Want You Again!!


You think that because you can make her moan
that you are disqualified from the classification you put dark women in??

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Lol This “enthusiastic” dating style has got y’all running after women who

are fucking other men behind your back, taking
YOUR money to help the man -she actually IS in love with- pay a few bills and so on..

Don’t I always say: “We are always looking for someone
BETTER than ourselves” And that this is exactly why we get out hearts broken!!!
Carry On

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Who Am I?

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
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