“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

Motivational Quotes
Artist/ Life Coach
                                                                                          ~Salkis Re

 

It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

🤔You are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

 

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

You Are What You FEEL You Are!!

Heal From Past Relationships

Everybody sees things in their own way. There is no possible way to be completely objective.

Why? Because you process everything in your world based on the information files in your head.

You gauge what you are seeing by what you have seen before, always in route to the familiar road.

We all filter our environment in this way, and it’s necessary to do so in order to avoid stimulation overload.

You see what you see based on how you feel about yourself, and how you feel about yourself is based on your health, how your nervous system responds, and, of course, your past experiences.

The important thing to remember is that we ALL have a lense, a filter by which we SEE, so this means that reality will ALWAYS be somewhat distorted.

This also means that because we are all innately see in distortion, we should not take what we see for face value.

There’s a lot of unconscious whoo-ha happening at the same time too.

So how do you combat the distortion in your perception?

By becoming a little skeptical.

Check things out further and ask questions for clarity.

Never assume that you know exactly what you are seeing.

You cannot control what you see ALL of the time!

Your genetics as well as your experiences determine how you see and how you think.

Your:

Needs

Beliefs

Emotional State

Physiological State

and Habitual Behavior Patterns

ALL decide what you see and experience.

So let’s break down each one.

NEEDS:

Needs alter your reality because it makes you focus on fulfilling  not particular need. If you are thirsty, you are gonna be looking everywhere for water.

Ormaybe you have a need to impress a new boyfriend, so you go out of your way to find something special to wear when you have perfect clothes n your closet already.

Having a need makes you dissatisfied with your surroundings, with people, even yourself.

BELIEFS

Beliefs are predetermined or preconceived notions, Values, Prejudices, about ongoing interactions. Of instance, a neat freak who Values being extra clean will think that everything around her isn’t clean enough and often this leads to exaggeration of the level untidiness in the environment she is in.

 

EMOTIONAL STATE

When you are aroused with emotions like anger, you are gonna see the world as dangerous and unpleasant.

When you are in love, you see the world through Rose colored glasses.

And when you are depressed(you are feeling Blue).

You are, whatever you are feeling at the time, and you SEE based on what you are feeling in that moment.

 

PHYSIOLOGICAL STATE

What you see through your filter is predicated upon your physical being. If you have a fever, headache, tired, under medication, even hungry can cause you to act frustrated, detached, or argumentative.

And a lot of times, we don’t even notice the shift in our emotional constitution that the physical body invites us into.

HABITUAL BEHAVIOR PATTERNS

These are coping strategies applied to justfiable or unjustifiable situations. You simply act in a certain way to avoid pain or harm whether or not you are in situations that call for it. Most people simply reach into their bag of tricks to pull out a familiar response to their world, never taking the time to base a response on accurate assessments instead.

 

So here an exercise for you:

Spend the next few days imagining that your eyes are a camera and your ears are a microphone. Bring awareness to your ears and create a voice over in your head narrating what you see and hear.

Imagine responses you would NOT normally give and take note of how your awareness of your reality shifts.

In other words: Flip the script!

You will start to SEE with broader focus and more accurately too because you will be outside of your usual distorted response patterns.

Let me end here by saying this:

People do dastardly things for a myriad of reasons;
low blood sugar,

disease,

fear,

anxiety,

loneliness and so forth,

can and WILL distort the lenses of one’s reality AND decision making.

Take your hands off THEIR wheel!

The part were you come in is with how you respond to it, and what you do with the ‘awareness ‘ they’ve now given to you.
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“Medicine Woman”

“Artist”

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
My Website for coaching and art: www.iloveherart.com

 

 

 

Learning the Game Early

 

African American art
Art by Salkis Re

“We’ve Learned”
Written by Salkis Re

Little girls learn what the bigger girls have to do,
preoccupied their minds with looking pretty like them too.

Then mommy steps in
cause she wants to slow us down,
saying we have to wait till we’re a bit bigger to wear her crown.

But we see early
the inner workings of the game,
and we see the point, and we don’t see a point to wait.

Mommy says we look pretty,
and this makes us feel so good,
and Daddy give her more love when she puts on these clothes.

So we’re here
ransacking the dresser drawer looking for her swag,
cause we know we got to look more good
to get more than what we have.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
#artinprogress

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Today’s message is to learn quickly. To learn without the right or wrong contemplations with necessities. If you need to do it, do it!

Game isn’t going anywhere and if you want someone in your life, you WILL have to conform in order to get what you want.

You have to be pretty to create the environment of cooperation in men.

And if the cards of life have dealt you with mediocrity in the face, you MUST act like you are prettier than you actually are.

It’s as simple as that.

 

Blow Your Whistle!

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many of you play yourselves small everyday? Worried about appeasing people’s fragile egos at the expense of your own heart and mind… Nobody is worth you diminishing yourself for, and you need to understand that your momentary display of humility won’t cure any of their self inflicted angst either.

Whatever they feel is what they have been feeling long before the knowledge of your existence. This means that you MUST aggrandize and affirm your self, and release the emotional shackles of wanting anyone’s stamp of approval to do so.

Today’s VIDEO is all about this and the step you need to take right now to fix this disease of humility once and for all.

Watch Here

You Think He Doesn’t Know He Hurts You?

“People Know Exactly What They Are Doing”
Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Women often create this romanticism around the pain inflicted upon them. All of a sudden that person who is mistreating you is reduced and excused into having the brain matter of a drippling toddler, while you inadvertently defend their actions while creating a barrier of delusion and blame to match your emotional fragility by saying he must be “unaware” and “clueless” of what he has done to”continuously” hurt you…

Dark Skin Girls in Art
“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

He’s only smart when he treats you kind?

But when he is in the mood to treat you nicely, somehow, on that particular day, you don’t doubt that his intellect and facilities are in tact.
So here is an thought brought to life step by step:

  1. When someone makes a decision, a thought must come to their mind first.
  2.  After that, plans are made to actualize that thought. Included in the planning phase are: the be best times to do it; contingencies to make sure it’s conceal from you;
  3. and a budget may also be implemented  put in place depending on how much this decision costs to execute and how often it will be happening.

Doing Good or Bad has zip to do with intelligence!

In other words, it’s the same thought process to do “good” as it is to do “bad“. Stop thinking your that your pain is an instrument being used to increase their maturity level. People do what they want to do and regret AFTER they get caught. It’s just circumstances and consequences playing out for YOUR growth, NOT theirs…

“Self Esteem Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re
Nurture your heart by
getting some Art Therapy here: www.iloveherart.com
**private self esteem coaching available here

Selling Out or Selling Myself?

African American art
Me and a painting in progress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OK sooo, I have been trying to put some energy into myself lately, fighting my ‘I don’t give a shit’ attitude for a bit more refinement.

Just a bit!

I know us as artists do have creative license to be outlaws and misfits; I think it’s even expected actually. But for who I want to reach and how far I am expecting to take my personal brand, just be a rogue will not do.

I like money, LOTS of money, and I realized a while back that tapping into the reservoir of abundance does require a balance of freedom and conformity, thus the dreaded word for artists: stability.

  • My paintbrush and my pen and my voice are all mediums I use to communicate with you, and it’s my job to make it all cohesive.

Offers to sell out’ come pretty often, nice checks to commercialize my brand are coming in more and more. But I told myself a long time ago that I would wear a dress and red lipstick to get your attention, but I will never compromise my babies/art.

They will always have a message, they have to, or there’s no point in doing any of this. I could make art that has a broader market, but then, they wouldn’t be as meaningful and as special as I intend for them to be.

But I did have to cave in and show my face a little more. All these hot young girls all over social media displaying their ‘art’ along with their nice round asses and perky tits broke me down, I bite and admit I wanted a piece of that action. I watched how that no matter what skill level they had, they were the ones gaining exposure and buyers.

My girls are sweet. My girls are magical. The eyes are that way for more than the look of innocence. My art is liken to real children.

They feel very real!

But I have come to know that I am as important as the work itself, and it is part of my job description to show up and talk and shmooze and explain, and display and interview, and whatever else is needed to their respective homes.

So yeah, I resisted, then I joined in. And it’s not as bad as all that really. I love that people get to see the person behind those big doe-like eyes I paint. I see what seeing ‘me’ has done for for those connected to my work They understanding of my work so much more now that I’m front and center.

I had to tap into my own sexuality to pull out what I liked about myself in order for you all to understand the ‘me’ on these canvases.

So here I am. More open, yet More in control. And walking towards my destiny. …

~Salkis Re

Oh, and the links below are where you can reach me on social media and for private coaching sessions too!

 

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Email: Salkis@iloveherart.com

 

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http://www.iloveherart.com/life-coach-here/hour-of-power-coaching-session

 

My books:

http://www.iloveherart.com/life-coach-here/ooh-let-me-write-that-down-e-book

 

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He Called Me a Monkey!!

 

So I was doing my usual check in on my social media accounts and got a troll that called me a black “bitch” and an f’ing monkey. 

Not sure what got this man all ruffled up to say such a thing to me, but unfortunately it’s not new and most definitely not reserved to a particular ethnic group.

I have gotten comments like this from my own “kind”.

And it got me to thinking about the assumptions people place on the value of others by how one looks.

Do I really look like a monkey?

Of course not!

But why the anger and the association with a monkey?

I do think people have a right to feel the way they feel about me, I’m just not inclined to know what that feeling is unless I have to deal with you for business or pleasure.

Yeah, there is most definitely a problem with the notions of beauty in this society and colorism abounds , and to me, it’s really here to stay.

With my features unchanged, would I still be referenced with that of a monkey if I were lighter in skin tone? Not likely.

But to be darkskin, is somehow synonymous with being primitive, simple minded, ugly, and slavish.

That comment got me into thinking deeply about what I am presenting with my work and if my voice is being made clear enough for people to get my message.

It stoked the fire within me to continue my portrayal of “us” dark skin women 

as sensitive and sweet, and not the savage imaginings of the propaganda machine that people swear they are uninfluenced by.

Yup.

I got a job to do.

I got to put my two ‘sense’ in and neutralize some of the spells cast over us by members of this society.

I never wanted my art to be political, but slowly, it has become that it’s it’s own little way.

My poetry as reached the level of importance that my art has always had for me. The monkey jab touched me deeply, so much so that I had to write a poem to organize and unpack my thoughts.

To the person who called me a monkey this morning… Thank you..

 

“This Monkey” Written by Salkis Re(c) 2017

People assume the so called pretty amongst us

are the only ones entitled to hugs.

They also assume that esthetic deficits

means that I was born deserving of love.

They think that simple faces equates to simple minds, and that we somehow are easier to fool.

But they don’t know that their overconfidence

can be a tool used to get what we want too.

Real power comes from letting people think that they’re still in charge of their decisions.

We watch you rule with an iron fist,

and just sit back for a time and play the victim.

You will show your hand

and everything you feel

which happens to include

the weakness in your heart.

And you’ve trained this  “monkey”

to sit back and learn your patterns

and play vulnerable to get what I want.

So be self assured, I want you that way,

to reveal all the things that you front.

And I’m itching for the day when you’ve learned you made a colossal mistake

because didn’t know “This Monkey” could talk.

“Mistress of Words” ~Salkis Re

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Sometimes inspiration and fuel to catapult you to the next level, can come out from very nasty places.

Yet, friction sharpens the blade doesn’t it?

I’m more grateful for who I am now than ever before, and if you are going through a storm right now, this is your opportunity to become better than you were before.

If you need to contact me about a painting please feel free to send me an email to: Salkis@iloveherart.com or visit the website www.iloveherart.com

Toodles…

Salkis Re