How to Heal Your Body With The Right Man!

Something that I’ve come to know in my own journey towards physical and

emotional healing is that your emotions are responsible for disease.

The emotional body holds the feelings in place whether it be

depression,

anger,

fear,

sorrow

and it assists in creating a stable environment for those emotions to thrive and grow.

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“Please Forgive Me” Original Art by Salkis Re

 

Once your emotions have a stable atmosphere to thrive, you start to feel off balance physically,

your immune system starts to weaken and dysfunction and illness sets in.

This is why the relationships you choose are SO FREAKIN IMPORTANT to your overall health and emotional well being.

Men whom you have sex with that do not love you will affect your health.

A Man that you are in long term toxic relationship with will affect your health.

 

Lingering Sorrow is not good for your soul, it’s not good for your heart,

it’s not good for your mind…..

Decide that you will put your health ABOVE your compassion for other peoples foolery.

Decide that you will sacrifice your convenience and

instant gratification for the long term goal of longevity and vitality.

Your insulin level must be low to loose weight and to keep your hormones regulated.

 

High insulin means higher cortisol levels which is the fat storing hormone.

Stress will keep you sick and fat. Stress from junk food and junk people will keep you fat and exhausted.

You will kick yourself into early menopause along with a host of other physical imbalances…

 

Cut The Excess: ALL OF IT!!

 

Do you need a push to bring emotional and physical balance to your life again?

I am here to help you!

You can Find Me HERE

 

 

 

Butt Ugly Beauties

Awwww. Listen Linda, Listen!!

I know what it feels like, what it be like to dance with self doubt.

Everywhere you turn, there is another thing you NEED because

somebody is saying that you have look better than what you are in order to compete with…

well don’t even damn know!!

SO we buy the next gadget, the next cream, the next corset,

and the next promise that we will magically look good even for a man to fall on a sword for us…

Beautiful Black Women

I know gorgeous women… I mean women who’s stock remains high whether or not they have clothes on.

THEY ARE DROP DEAD GORGEOUS 

And guess what they also are?

They are doubtful of their value, challenged by their perception of their own self worth.

Questioning themselves like a broken record as they wonder if they are truly deserving of the THINGS THEY GET!!!

Can you imagine having that forking problem???

You get what you want with ease, but a whisper in your head keeps

saying it’s an accident or a fluke that you receive what you receive…

You are so beautiful that men that you like a pet, they are so insecure around you that they

think you are incapable of telling the truth or being faithful to them…

Imagine that….

Stacked Those Chips On Your Shoulder

 

 

Black artLow Self esteem escape ver few people who are actually adults..

By the time you can go to the corner store by yourself or take your road test for your drivers license,

you’ve stacked up enough insecurities to create a stairway to heaven…

Fixed and confident in all the degradation you’ve accumulated over the years.

You don’t want to think of yourself  jacked up, but that is what you are thanks to society.

 

Its Time to Die

Time to put to bed those thoughts. Time to die and be reborn again… It takes a little death you know.

A death to transform into what you want to become,

a death to assert what you want to feel like you deserve.

This goes for love OR ANYTHING you want in life too.

 

You Are Programmed!

You are programmed to wait for a “qualifier” to feel like you can claim the good life.

You need the degree to feel smart.

You need the crowd to feel important.

You need a man’s love to feel esteem.

You need your parents to be proud of you to feel like a winner.

And on and on and on……….

 

Three things you need to know and adopt in your life transformation..

No ones Opinion of you is LAW or the ABSOLUTE TRUTH

You Will Always Have a Choice to Accept or Regret What People Think of You.

Most People You know is battling their own self esteem issues, so they CANNOT help you.

 

 

 

 

 

Some immediate suggestions:

Turn off the T.V..

Unplug from social media.

Find a hobby

Find a way to help other people…

Come out of your own head and let your ego starve a little bit…

We often feel miserable because we are self centered and need constant

reassurance when the attention we want to receive is not matched to what we actually get..

You Are enough!!

If you are healthy, you are blessed.

IF you have sight, you are blessed.

If you can read, you are blessed.

If you can call you mother today, you are blessed…

Carry On….

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My email your questions and concerns to: Salkis@iloveherart.com

 

 

 

“Label Makers, Label Breakers”

Written by Salkis Re

Self esteem challenges can happen in people who are attractive,

in people with higher IQs, in people with money, in people who are religious etc.
You’d be surprised at the type of people who really emotionally fragile out here.
Don’t let appearances fool you…

I remember a “Guy Friday” I had working for me at my salon back in the day.

He was dark skin an older man, but you could tell he was extremely handsome

in his youth because he still had six pack abs and pretty white teeth.
He come in a few times a week and clean my shop for a six pack of beer,

pork rinds and on Fridays, I threw in a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken just to see his face light up.

 

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He didn’t want much, he didn’t need much really because of his lifestyle.

But he wasn’t ashamed of his standard of living.

He was quick-witted, wisdom filled, and his sense of humor would shortened any difficult day I’d have.

I remember him inviting me to his home that he’d often call his “Palace”.

He was so proud that he had this home and he often told stories of his lovers tryna lay claim to it by leaving panties and toothbrushes behind..lol

So I went to see the palace, and it turned out to be an old, tiny,

Southern Georgia shack! He had a dirty couch on the patio with a rickety table next to it to prop his beer.

He called it his “seating area” lllllmao.
I asked, “You entertain your hoes here Millified?”
“Yes Boss Lady, haha ha ha”, he said with his raspy voice.

 

He opened the door and invited me inside. The floor boards screeched and some of them lifted when we took a step.

I was scared I was going to fall through the floor, so he took my hand and we zig-zagged through the living.

He chuckled looking at my “wtf” face. But he still wasn’t fazed by my frowning giggles.

The floor of the entire house was on an incline, you could have slid right into the kitchen if the floor was wet.

The walls were painted with dirt. A few water bugs came out to see who was in the house too.

He had plastic lawn cheers in front of a 52 inch TV. That TV was the focal piece of the house and would be the reason all the ladies didn’t want to leave his chateau, hahaha!

He said he had cable and he’d make some squash casserole and fried chicken if I ever wanted to come hang out on Sunday after church.

We went to his bedroom and he had a queen size mattress on the floor that looked like he pulled it out a land fill,

and the bedroom closet was almost as small as a medicine cabinet.
His bathroom couldn’t hold two people at the same time; you could literally shit, shower and shave all in one cause it was so damn tiny!

He said he was ready to whip up a batch of red Kool Aid if I was thirsty and motioned him not to bother.

When the tour was done, I looked at him in disbelief.

I wanted him to see how disgusted I was,

but he continued to look at me and laugh.

 

He was unfazed by my distain, and I showed my distain because I knew he didn’t give a shit what I thought.
He was proud of himself. He was proud of who he was. He had “pretty teeth” so to him he was a “pretty boy”..lllllmao

He was one of the few people I’ve met that was just unbothered by people’s opinions,

he stated what he was and that was all his heart and mind had room for.

The rest of us have so much more than him, but we disregard it for the perpetual fear that others may feel we are not good enough.

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Your self esteem is built on a weaker foundation than his one room shack!

All while you look good, you work a so-called “good job”.

You can save for vacation and occasionally splurge on nonessential things,

but you still are afraid of what people think of you.
You don’t take a chance, because your thoughts of failure plaque you without rest.

You have their degrees, their licenses and certificates but still feel invalid..

Your Perception of who you are has been “Given” to you.

That is why you are not empowered, and that is why you live so unsure of yourself in spite of all your accolades.

My Guy Friday stayed happy, even with what I classified as an impoverished lifestyle, he had a mentality of wealth.

Maybe that was the reason he remained so attractive and charismatic.

He could have been more I suppose had he taken advantage of the education system, maybe he would be more than hustler.

But that was my opinion of him, and one he didn’t share in…

He wasn’t intimidated by others who had more.

He talked to everybody, and free beer and free meals were the regular thank you gifts he received for his humor and charismatic optimism.

So what will you do?

Continue to live in fear of not being good enough,

not living good enough,

not being attractive enough,

not having enough money to be enough?

When will you arrest those hypothesizing thoughts of imaginary restraints?

When you say fuck it, this is what I am and I’m fabulous as is???
You can do it right now.

You don’t need to kneel before a Queen,

or get a certificate in the mail,

or have an engagement ring on your finger to claim your right to feel fantastic about yourself today!!

Make the shift.
Make the decision..
And be what YOU say you are…

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

 

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Fight Elegantly!

Decisions based solely on emotion NEVER stick.

You may be able to garner their pity and remorse for a little while,

but eventually that person goes back to his/her old ways after their emotions have settled back down,

This is why men feel sorry about about cheating when they get caught, and after the dust settles,

they are back out there at it again.

Black women are getting pimped out of their vaginas by everybody,

black men, white men, even other women

people generally do not change unless they experience some

tremendously emotional event that breaks the patterns within their nervous system.

Thick Locs

 

For the most part, we are all fixed as adults. Fixed in what we believe about ourselves,

how we perceive love, how we quantify our value.

Relationships are about the decision to share a life with someone as they are,

and with your love and encouragement,

you can “Influence” them to become “Improved” partners IFFFFFFFFFFF that is what HE desires to be…..

 

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Black women are emotionally exploited by everybody because our pathologies are well known and easy to recognize

while others enjoy living with the ambiguity of their depression and low self esteem whiling concealing

pharmaceutical remedies for their suicidal thoughts properly fitted garments, scantily clad pics or perfectly

coiffed hair that serve to disguise their emotional dysfunction.

 

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Our pathology includes the admiration and support of anybody who do not resemble ourselves,

and the admiration and support of people who mock, mimic and make fun of us.

We are enemies of each other perception based on “collective” biases that are based on propaganda and indoctrination.

 

Redeem yourself. Pull yourself up from the muck and Myer….

Divorce yourself from anything or anyone who’s opinions are self serving and decide that a

feeling is not a truth unless you start living in agreement with it,

and that goes for yourself or anyone else…

 

If you need to talk with me privately, find me HERE

 

Stop Playing Small!

Some of us are wasting away at life.
The Great Pretenders I call them.
You are Afraid to make a mistake, and afraid to get your heart broken again.
So you wallow in denial of what you want

AND deny your responsibility in the results you’ve gotten so far.
Everything you could have been will die with you; that is the life you are living right now…

 

 

 

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I refuse to conform.

To cower down into obscurity.

I wasn’t born to live an uneventful life, and neither are you!

I wasn’t born for people to have something to shame and ridicule for my nappy hair and big lips, and neither are you!

I want born for people to tell me I’m not smart enough for what I want to have, and neither are you!

And YOU weren’t born to live in quiet desperation, to play it safe to avoid pain.

Your trauma is your SCHOOL, and you are conditioned to lead because you survived it.
But you sit back and do nothing with all that experience you have.

You prefer to wallow and feel sorry for yourself like you earn money to be upset.

 

 

Abstract portrait painting
Art by Salkis RE

 

What does it benefit you to live in fear today?
How will your life be better out of your decision not to take a chance?
People need to know that they can do it, and you might be the only example of this,

but you’ve designed life that ensure that they will NEVER meet you.

A disservice is what you create in 360 degree form when you make decisions based on fear.
Its time to GET UP.

If you Need me to assist you, I am HERE

 

 

 

 

Are You A PlaceHolder???

“Place Holders”
Written by Salkis Re
 
You think you fucked the shit outta him, yet he left you.
You think you are a dime piece, yet he left you.
You think you are the most intelligent woman he’s ever been with, yet he left you.
You think you are smarter than him, yet he left you.
You have a big ass, yet he left you.
You neck and chinned his dick till your throat was sore and snot ran out yuh nose, yet he left you.
You think you have manners and self respect, yet he left you.
You have a good paying job, yet he left.
You have a degree, yet he left you.
You didn’t have sex with him for 90 days, yet he still left
He never talked about sex, then you fucked him, and he still left you.
You have a tight pussy, yet he left you.
You look better than all his other girlfriends, yet he left you.
and on and on and on…
Lightskin black women
 
ALL of you’s on this list were/are PLACEHOLDERS.
A placeholder is a woman good enough for “now” or even a few years,
some of you are even married placeholders believe it or not!
And the gag is that all of the you’s on this list knew something wasn’t right.
You felt that something was wrong, you knew it!
 
You can regulate your pussy all day long, and it doesn’t cause you are not the “one” to begin with..
You claim you have preference, but men know you are liberal with your convictions, he’s banking on it.
 
You know what gets every woman caught into the net of PLACEHOLDER???
 

****FLATTERY******

 
Appealing to your vanity.
That knocks you off your throne EVERY FUCKING TIME!
What did I tell you before?
Without vanity, and appealing to your need to be validated through it, men have NO POWER OVER YOU..
He bends time, and dodges a lot of incidentals through flattering you.
He makes you feel like you are actually in a commitment,
that he actually has genuine feelings for you all through administering FLATTERY!
Lord help us if you feel he is handsome or better than you because of money or status our whatever,
then you’ll start making concessions in your boundaries in order to impress him!
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Be immoveable.
Be unshakable.
Be unimpressible.
Be unbothered.
Be self contained.
And just observe him like he is observing you.
DO not assume that anything being said, any show of affection, gifts or money is some actually show of true feelings.
Take your time.
DO not give u your vagina.
BE fabulous, cordial, and unapologetic about your personal magic…
Be different.
Be unafraid to show flaws.
Honor the value you have for yourself at all time,
and do not negotiate your morals..
Now go back and RECLAIM YOUR THRONE!!back queens
IF you need to talk to be privately, find me HERE
 
 

Being a Witch Over Your Life!

So today lets talk about you.
Why are you so afraid of people? Why do you care more about what they think about you, than what you think about yourself?

Doesn’t make sense right?
But you do it! You will spend the majority of your life doing it until you become old and with grouchy chip on your shoulders inspired by the reality that you have to face.

 

What’s that reality?
That you’ve wasted your life…

That is where you are headed if you don’t grow a new set of ovaries and get on with living.
Failure is UNAVOIDABLE.
But it’s not humiliating .
It will not diminish your value.

Failure is merely a blueprint of what NOT to do anymore.
And isn’t it a good thing to know what you should avoid?
Isn’t knowing a generally self serving thing that makes you wise!?

The Wiz

Ain’t you tired of playing yourself small to save face?
Are you not bored to tears with all this “playing it safe” that you are doing?

Are you getting more love and more LIFE for your lack of effort?

Are people respecting you more because they never see you make a mistake?

Are you satisfied with doing the same thing you’ve done for the last 10 years of your life?

No growth.
No change.

 

Yet you are not standing still. You are not moving forward with any of your goals, but you are on a slow decline.

That is scary: Moving downward instead of upward I mean.

Your actions are your magic wand you know.

You are the MAGI, the magician, The Fairy Godmother over your own life!!

But you sit there staring at the wand/your talents scared to use it because you are afraid of the outcome.

 

 

NEWS FLASH!!!

You will never be able to control the “outcome” of anything you do.
But you CAN control the PROCESS of getting there. What you toil on, what you practice daily is what you have 100% control over!
FOCUS ON THAT!!!!!!!

 

 

And release yourself from he anxiety over the end result.

The end result turn out to be less than you were hoping for,

or BETTER than your wildest dreams,

but doing NOTHING ensures that NOTHING will happen either way.

GET UP!!

Dorothy in the Wiz

So I’m gonna tell you to walk through your trials  just like Dorothy did.

Walk through it to find what you are made of,

and you will realize just like she did that **THE POWER WAS WITHIN YOU ALL ALONG!**

 

 

Thick Locs
Artist?Life Coach ~Salkis RE

 

Who Am I?
A Magi!
A Medicine Woman
AND and **ARTIST on a crusade to create a quiet revolution and **mental freedom** for women of color,

I have dedicated my life mission and purpose to helping your find that sweet spot, that hole that unlocks the key to color your black and white life…

I was afraid just like you.
And sometimes I still am, but I WELCOME THE PROCESS and invite you to do the same.<-

If you need me, find me :HERE

No Reason to Love a Woman Like You!!

“Emotional Decisions”
 
Decisions made by the heart alone NEVER stick.
And this is why decisions made solely from an emotional place ALWAYS END.
Sometimes quickly… Most times quickly actually.
Him loving you doesn’t compel him to stay, does it?
You loving him doesn’t mean you don’t want to leave, does it?
 
So why do you stay? And why does he leave?
Because BOTH of you give it some thought.
You start weighing your options as you try to figure out a reason to NOT to carry out that conclusion your emotions offered you…
Kloe Kardashian and
 
Some people are not mentally stable enough to allow themselves time to think things through.
The ole saying “Let me sleep on it” is real and necessary to get your mind back into the rational space to give the final YES or NO.
 
Love is a scam in that way really.
You are loved today, and forgotten tomorrow based on “feelings”
I tell no lies here today.
You know its true because you have been with past lovers who you
swore you’d spend the rest of your life with that are barely even a fleeting thought now.
 
And so it is…
When you ask him “why” he loves you and he answers you with a “just because” RUN!!!
Run like a bat outa hell looking for fresh blood!
RUN like you’re in hell with gasoline draws on because you
know you are with someone who DOESN’T have a concrete reason to STAY with you.
Will and Jada Smith
 
Emotions make the decision and Logic KEEPS people together: NOT EMOTIONS...
You can decide to accept this or not, it’s certainly up to you as we all are resonating on different frequencies.
But if you’ve been “burned” by love, puzzled at how a person can love you and still hurt you,
perplexed that you’ve reached a space of loneliness when you thought you found your soul mate,
then this message is most definitely for you to eat and digest.
I know, I know, but Salkis there are happily married couples who have been together for blah blah blah amount of time,
so true love does exist, that’s what you are saying.
At least that’s what the seminars tell you, and they’d better tell you that cause you are paying good money for “HOPE”
I am not saying that love does not exist, Im saying that love is erratic, and inconsistent, therefore unreliable as a stand alone measure of the value of a relationship.
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you fell in love with him?
DL Hugley
What were your reasons for that emotion?
Was he cute in the face? Nice beard? Bow-legged?
Did he f*(k the shit out you till you came 4 times in a row?
What was it that conjured up the I can’t live without you feeling?
It was probably something that felt good of course.
Some action he performed that produced a feel good moment that became repetitious ,
and before you knew it, you couldn’t see life without HIM in it!
But aside from the rigors and the conflicts and the betrayal, relationships can sharpen you as a person.
They can teach you what you like or don’t like or didn’t know about yourself.
Lovers have an uncanny way of showing you who you really are by creating hardship and challenges for you to overcome.
And if you do manage to snag a person that can hang in there with all your baggage,
you too can assist him in becoming better person as well.
While unpleasant, STRUGGLE LOVE is an opportunity you invite into your lives to “expose” for The initial purpose of an escape,
but on the back end, a miraculous thing happens and you start to dance with The Real YOU.
Learn the lesson and endure or move on….
Take the “Black Pill”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis RE
 If you need to talk, find me HERE

“How Do You Get a Man to Love You? “

 

Beautiful Black Women
Life CoachArtist ~Salkis Re

Well there are a few hard truths to swallow before you can position yourself for that possibility.
Some things that you will have to do are:
🌼1)Bite your tongue.
🌼2)Swallow your pride.
🌼3) Be charming.
🌼4)Play dumb.
🌼5)Act helpless.
🌼6) Stay away from intoxicants.
🌼7) Have excellent hygiene.
🌼8) Dress to compliment your form,
🌼9)Workout.
🌼10) Eat right.
🌼11) Pray.
🌼12) Do not upstage him with your intellect.
🌼13) Do not act like you can’t live without sex.
🌼14) Do not have sex too frequently because your “novelty” will wear off faster than is beneficial to you.
🌼15) Act like you are accustomed to nice things.
🌼16) Make sure you are more good looking than he is, preferably 3-5 points higher in the scale.
🌼17) Resist being argumentative because this is a sign that you care. And you shouldn’t.
🌼18) Do not check up on him or grill him about whereabouts.
🌼19) Do not consider procreation with him until you have been Married for a while because being a mother is a “little death” towards your “sexual attractiveness”..

🌼🌼20) This one’s most important. Allow a man to “pick” you. Do not fall for the sexual liberation trap that makes you think you can discern interest in a man that YOU desire, you’ll end up giving him pussy he didn’t need to perform to get.

Motivational Quotes
Aritist/ Life Coach
~Salkis Re

Do NOT pursue a man you have to convince will like your “type” i.e.(fat, dark, shorthair, skinny),

That, “You don’t know what your missing” sales pitch: piss on it and let it burn cause you are setting yourself up for “pick me” abuse.

Final words, by no means is this a comprehensive list, it is merely a foundation to build on to the other things that must be done that require mentalism and self control.

Love Doesn’t exist in romantic relationships, this is why you HAVE to do all the steps I listed to coax those feelings out of him.

When you accept that love is a game, and an unfair one at that, then you will move your mind out of the conflict of right and wrong with what you MUST do to position yourself as a woman of value.

AND………
Get over your tug of war.
Get over this happily ever after that you are ashamed you don’t have yet.
Respect the wisdom your experience has bestowed upon you.
Stop thinking that the TRUTH is sad..
Take the “BLACK PILL”
And gain control of your emotions.

Amen, Amun, Ameen
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

Witches
Salkis Re, Artist/ Author/Poet/Life Coach

Love Who Loves You!

Native American Art
Artist, Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

When we women realize that love is the manipulated emotion a human being with ever have??

I am talking about romantic love…

There is nothing NATURAL about it.

Two people come together hiding what they are ashamed of, making promises/DEALS for what they intend to give each other IF one or the other subscribes to the SALES PITCH…

Then after some time together, each person oozes out their darker side, their unreasonable side, the side that was being held back right until the perfect time to reveal the venom and the devilish tendencies to the other person…

 

Then after a few emotional events, many some good sex and a lot of time together, they decide to pair bond and cuff each other down for the duration…

That is what love amounts too..

But it is STILL an awesome deal, relationships that is…

It is still one of the most satisfying things a woman can do!

Children come from that deal, and if two people can find common ground,

they actually can make each other BETTER souls on this earth…

Its just not a fairytale is all…

Its work, struggle,  and a great deal of disappointment,

but its better than going through life alone and unchallenged.

My opinion…

 

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

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