Marrying Poor Men, Here’s the Deal!

“Marrying Poor Men”
Written by Salkis Re

“Poor men” CAN’T provide anything, so they shouldn’t get married but they do.

The only purpose marriage has is share and protect current and future assets.

Now the truth is that the EMOTION of Love does not need marriage for validation

because most people can express the feeling of love without a license from the court system.

Marriage is simply the business aspect that creates the Commitment/non-emotional gesture

of a willingness to shoulder financial loss should the partner die or wake up one morning and say they don’t want you no more.
Time is MONEY.
Time is an INVESTMENT in itself. Marriage is a contract to exchange wealth between two people who enjoy sex and spending time with each other.

The “What You Bring to the Table” part…


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Art in Progress, Art by Salkis RE

Let me be clear here, I’m not saying that a woman should just be a pretty dimwit and nothing more.
I’m saying that the bring to the table” question directed towards her should be focused on the

nurturing aspect that every woman is capable of bringing if she is incentivized to do so.

Most women that work “hard” DO NOT want to work hard, and they would prefer alpha men who can fully finance her wants and needs.

An occupation doesn’t give you an IDENTITY, it gives you a CHECK.

What you are able to do without needing to be paid for it is more of an expression of identity.

Women don’t want “Independence/HARD WORK”, we simply do not want to be ABUSED because we depend on MEN.


Education is still important because intelligence is required whether you are raising children or in a corporate job.

The last half of life is going to look real ugly for many of us.

We make decisions based on “current options” instead of the 5-10-20 years down the line that sure like the air you breath COMING.

So the “struggle love” who’s narrative always seems to find it’s way to our compassionate hearts

. We always got to be grateful for the opportunity to struggle with black men.

No other woman, not white, not Indian not none of them

have exclusive terminology to emotionally express this ideal like US.

That “Ride or Die” shyte!

The fact that you are willing to endure SUFFERING and infidelity,

and mistreatment of every sort makes you a suitable candidate for respect and honor and Marriage???
You better think about that one again…

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re



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ARTIST ~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Pain Comes With Love



“What is A GOOD Relationship?”
Written by Salkis Re

The dark side exists in us all. We try as best we can to suppress our disagreeable nature,

but the moment there is cause for resentment or anger,

it will come gushing out like a ticklish sneeze.

So how do we manage?

By making a conscientious effort not to add on to our dysfunction by compounding on existing horrific decisions.

WE make amends simply by “thinking” before we do a thing.

And pray that there is enough goodness within us for someone to love.

This is why commitment is so important; It makes it more different for a lover to run when they come face to face with your demons,

and vice versa, of course.

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Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re

Relationships are good when two people are interested in the well being of each other.

When each of you feel safe enough to challenge the other partner to improve.

But if you stay together long enough, you WILL WEAR hats like: Priest, Psychiatrist, Doctor, Friend, Lover, Punching Bag, Enemy and so on..

The love of your life WILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL  lie to you.

He will cheat on emotionally and/or sexually.

He will wish he had never met you. And he’ll develop persistent melancholy when you’re not around..

This is what relationships are…..
Except it so you can weather the storm.

Honor your commitment because chances are extremely favorable that you will simply

meet yourself and what you’re running from in another person…

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re



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“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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“You Are Not All Good, You Just Pretend to Be”

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Life Coach,, Salkis Re

I divulge secrets of emotional intelligence, the pitfalls of romantic relationships,

and how to handle self worth issues with my private clients as well as my lady friends here

because these are issues I’m fanatically passionate about.


So here is the unadulterated truth.
What you think is Value is a preset.
What you think is Opulence is preset.
What you perceive as Beauty is preset,
and the Social Stature you are striving for or jealous of, is preset as well.

Everything you “See” is not really what you see: it’s what you THINK you see based on consistent,

clever illusions and expensive pageantry created by the “higher ups” of society.

You as a woman have to UNDERSTAND the “Game”, and you will never understand it if DIVORCE yourself from it!

Because on a daily basis, you fraternize with men/women/people who aren’t in conflict

about their proclivities toward selfish behavior nor are they rattled with

guilt when they use the illusions generosity to further their station in life.

You think you’ll understand the GAME by merely adopting the role of a Casual Observer of it.

This is a harmful way to think and a dangerous way to BE!

You have to put on your BLACK HAT.

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                                                                   ~Salkis Re

You have to unveil your DARK SIDE

You have to unveil your DARK SIDE so that you are not pushed into a subordinate

role which GOOD yet Fearful people are much more predisposed too.

Am I saying to be vindictive and malicious?

Absolutely not!
I am saying that the dark side of you needs to be able to defend

and protect you because your GOOD side isn’t designed to do it!!!!

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“Feel Me” Art by Salkis Re


She is ready to protect you because she is the side of your personality that will tell you the truth.

Goodness is a feel good thing, while Darkness is a protection thing.

Expunging yourself from your dark side, only creates further vulnerability and naivete.
Embrace ALL parts of you, and let the light and dark serve you…

~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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When We Were Kings

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Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?


They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?


H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re


So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.




“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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What is Dating a Man Really For?

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Salkis Re, Artist/ Life Coach


I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?

**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.

Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**

with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.

Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.

Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,


goal appraisals and so forth.

Now Getting to know a person is another matter.


Now spending time with a person is another matter.

That could include sharing a ride home from work.

I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.

I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.

Would my presence be welcomed?

Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?

A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances  could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,

how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.

Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.

Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity

to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining  or making an impression on you!!

The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection

**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…

Take it for what it is, or not..

But this message is EXACT!

[This is wisdom.](
**Please pass this email on to your girlfriends, especially the young ladies you know..**Thank You.


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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.





We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.


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                                                       African Art by Salkis Re


Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.


The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

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African Art by Salkis RE for

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,


get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Salkis Re


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So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

He is Using You!

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African American Art by Salkis Re

Had a coaching session yesterday with an older woman who’s recently come back into the dating scene. She was very proud of her accomplishments financially and the fact that she “didn’t need a man”.

Unfortunately though, all that 😏 pride didn’t amount to a hill of beans when it came to her relationship with her boyfriend. Your *financial Independence doesn’t make you immune to disregard, complacency and disrespect in a *romantic relationship. You could be a waitress at Waffle House and display living in subsidized housing and still be Independent. You have all the money, but you’re still the grovelling and begging and beseeching him for quality time, sex and basic consideration.

Moors in Art
Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re








Your bank statement can’t disguise your lack of 😯 emotional Independence 🙄 and this is why you can *make it rain for his ass and he spends YOUR money on a girl that grounded with standards that require him to either piss or get off the pot.

I’m hearing this story too often, and I’m telling you that it hurts you in the long run cause he’ll eventually see that you are only on point when it comes to your money, nothing else.
“Mistress of Words”

“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“The Crone”
~Salkis Re
🤗Art by Salkis Re


Manipulation All Around Us

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“The Conjurer”
Art by Salkis Re

Control and ownership over your life is essential. You will meet people along your journey who will want to reduce your self worth, and they do this for the sole purpose of placing you into a tiny box so they can micro manage you with the *tiny power they posses.
This is real life, daily scenarios and power plays ladies.

Learn to distance yourself *emotionally from people who try to reduce you, and if there is something of value they can offer you them maintain a connection with them for that purpose. In other words, don’t take it personally, treat it like *business.

If you find yourself getting caught in contemplating why people do what they do, ask yourself the same question.
🤔 Why do you do what you do? Why do you lie? 😀 Whydo you embellish the truth? 🤗 Why are you unable to be straightforward about what you want at times?

🤕 People are liars and good or not so good concealers of their agendas, so you have to learn what manipulation is and counteract it by practicing some manipulation of your own.

🤔 Resolve your issues with right and wrong towards people who show disregard and *fair weather friend tendencies. This is the Game of Life my sister’s, play it well and live strong..

“Black Hat Society”
“Mistress of Words

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“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Kali Ma Activation”
“Spiritual Guide”
“Creative Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
*Art by Salkis Re

If you would like to own the painting featured above, send your inquiry to “The Conjurer” is not apart of my collection for *secret reasons so if you want her, we must communicate privately.



A Woman’s Place

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Art by Salkis Re



“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Woman’s Advocate”
“Spiritual Healer”
~Salkis Re

Whores Verses Hoes

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No more excuses!

I smile when people get on their soap boxes with wagging fingers against the moral character of people when they lie, cheat, manipulate on a daily basis as well. They hide behind religion and pretense, and glamor, proper English, and their expensive cars AND/OR meager dwellings so that they can and say “I’m better than you” because I’m more *blessed than you, or I’m better than you because I have *no desire to want what you have.

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

All of women utilize our sexuality in various degrees, but we pretend to abhor intense representations of feminine sexuality.


Because you can be discreet about rug burns on your knees as you gag from the flesh of man/men being pushed down your throat? The man you’re married to that doesn’t want to fork you anymore, boyfriends who are with you cause they need a place to stay, male friends that come and “maintenance” your hole every few  weeks like clock work.

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You are full of shit!

Church whores and Head Wrapped hoes alike! I regret my naivete that became my stupidity after I knew better.. I regret all the wasted moisture my body created for dicks that couldn’t fuck me well and the pretty *eggplants that were good but didn’t genuinely care for me. Whoring myself for NOTHING. I know what that is. I know the pain and wasted time that comes when you ignore the facts to insist on remaining *hopeful.

So I say all this to say: do not let ANY other woman make make you feel intimidated AT ALL! Some of us are just better at hiding the crosses we bear. If you want what she has, then you can get it too, but do outright assume her life is honky-dory because her shoe game and makeup is perfect OR because she gets to fork her boyfriend and make baby number 5 in a tree house he built to drag you into off the grid living cause he’s against paying taxes.

“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Creative Soul”
“Spiritual Advisor”
~Salkis Re

You need me. OK. Then click this link and let me coach you.

How a Woman Should Love a Man

“Understanding How to Love”
Written by Salkis Re

Appreciation rushes into your heart only when you’re about to lose what you’ve taken for granted. And Love works the same way; you don’t love until your life is disrupted by the anguish for losing someone. Familiarity breeds contempt and disregard for that person. But if they leave, if they display any indifference towards you, it levels the playing field and the upper hand you enjoyed crumbles like a house of cards.

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Sketch by Salkis Re

You start questioning your value as it seems your kingdom was mirage of sorts, a figment of your ego instead of reality. Love is like that.
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A give and take, which is a “loss” and “gain”, both intentionally or unexpected. You as a woman are a nurturing soul, designed to observe, create, absolver, build and repair the environment around you. You are designed to lead while being shielded, that may be from the back, or from the side, but never in harms way. Your obligation is to position yourself so that you are always protected.
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Your cunning is your “natural defense”. All the things that you are to be: sensitive, respectful, loving, supportive should only come out in its fullest capacity AFTER the receiver is “tried and proven” worthy of it, and even then, you know what it does, so you give and take away in accordance with what’s needed to maintain an environment that keeps you intrigued and delighted.
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“Mistress of Words”

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“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Black Hat Society”

“Spiritual Advisor”

“Creative Soul”

~Salkis Re




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Stitching Up the Cut!



Sketch by Salkis Re

“People want trust, they want a guarantee. But they don’t keep their word to themselves. They do not honor personal commitment but quickly cite it as a character flaw in people they are expecting to produce for them. How can you trust anyone when you do have trust in yourself? You break vows you’ve made to treat your *own self better, yet you assert harsh criticism and disappointment in others who failed in keeping their pledge to treat you better. Better than what? How you treat yourself?¿

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Art by Salkis Re

To heal, you don’t “Ignore”, you “Expose” it. You have to acknowledge and face your own corruption and the graveyard of broken promises you’ve made to yourself. Don’t expect people to bandaid you. Stop expecting people to treat you better than you treat yourself. All a relationship amounts to is an outward extension of how you feel about you. The bandaid is not enough; you need clean out the wound and stitch it up so that it/you can heal.
Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
☆Art by Salkis Re

This is Your Dream Killer


“The Humans”   Art by Salkis Re


“The Dream Killer Is..”

Taking control of a thing is not a passive protocol. Some of you are “waiting” for something to fall out the sky, for the great Conjunction, a shooting star, waiting on Jesus, or the Pleadians to come for you, or some shamanic rites of passage to give you ceremony to trick you into moving your arse.

Continue reading “This is Your Dream Killer”

A Time To Die!

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“Self Esteem Coach”~Salkis Re




Time for a slow singing, flower bringing moment for the ‘old’ you.

Time to let go of that script you like to spit out to every new person you meet.

You know the one.

The one that gives you sympathy points. The story that makes people are pity on you, that makes people what to stop and hug you because it looks like you are about to fall apart..for the thousandth time.



Stop being a ‘show’ for people to laugh and talk about when you leave the room. Stop wanting the kind of attention empathy brings.

In order to become the goddess you want to be, you have to set yourself to a higher standard and ‘own’ your tragedies in a results producing way.

Your momma didn’t love you?


How can you use that to make you better?

You were molested as a child?


What can you do with that experience to make you better or the lives of other children better?

What can you do with your pain besides cower down and wait for people to hand you a tissue?

This moment is your time if you decide that it is. This moment can be the death AND the Rebirth of your being if you want it too.

Time does NOT heal all wounds, a DECISION does!!!


OK let me wrap up this message by saying that I want to work with you. If you are reading this, then we are already resonating with each other. But you may still have reservations and that’s cool too! If you want to set up an informal session with me to get a some real time experience and to see if you want to commit to working together on a full time basis,  then click here to get your feet wet

I did a video today that I want you to watch. explains the 4 principles of building up your self worth so you can start living a life free from lack, ugliness and self doubt.


Love Is Never Enough!

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re



If love was enough then why are there so many women experiencing low self worth. Not all of us came from jacked up mothers. A great many of us came from loving homes, and yet, the issue of self worth and the question of you being worthy still rears it’s ugly head.

That is because “kind words” won’t heal you. Sweet words are like cracked and you become an addict looking for you next hit or shot of self esteem based on what other people would like you to believe they think of you.
It’s a game.
Words without action are like pages in a book that you read and put back on the shelf. You have stand on your own two feet and become an independent thinker because those words that make you feel good can stop coming at any moment.

At the drop of a dime, you could cause someone who once professed love for you to now wrath against you. And your self esteem, your confidence and worth go down the drain along side their concern.
Flattery is a spell. It can easily trap your emotions and make you addicted to the issuer of the compliment.

The whole point of this is that how a person feels about you means nothing at the end of the day. You can’t borrow their feelings for you. You can’t pretend to believe them.

Either you believe it or you don’t.

You need to hear it frequently that you are good as you are because you do not believe it!! Your little heart craves validation and it is for this reason that you can’t handle hearing anything that doesn’t support what you DON’T feel within yourself.

You are going to have to quit that drug girlfriend!


That drug of validation has made you a cripple, a functioning retard trying to mask your inadequacy instead of facing your demons head on.
I’m no fairy.
I realize that my approach to coaching is a bit edgy, less “put your head on my shoulder” kind of deal. And I will admit that I’m jealous of those women who can package themselves in that airy fairy way because that way offers the least amount of work and the least amount of resistance from you.

But I just cannot do it though. Kind words are a spinning wheel to nowhere; and they disarm your intellect and your reason. Soothing words make you forget what you need to fix, what you need to address and tend too.
And it creates a stall in you the real progress you could be making towards mental ownership and your own soul retrieval.


Stop holding your breath.
Stop pretending to feel what you have never felt.
Uncover where these notions of yourself have come from, and withdraw your sword as you question your own beliefs. Start chopping down any belief that isn’t factual.
Ask what you are not, and that whatever is left after your omit the negatives should be examined for self improve.
It’s work ladies.
Yoni eggs, good sex and a shot of Bourbon will not cure what ails your heart.
You want a spell that will help reconstruct your life right now?
Here it is in 4 easy steps

  1.  Exercise Your Body-
    This means to get your ass up and move. Do yoga or go to gym. Body movement is the best drug to boost your self image, confidence and it’s awesome to stabilize your emotions. Your body is how you communicate to the world. It tells the world how you feel about yourself.
  2.  Clean
    Nothing moves the spirit of good fortune and a sound mind like a clean organized space. Look at your surroundings. Can you get rid of sone of that shit? Is there clutter and mess anywhere? Filth will affect your body, mind and spirit. It will also affect your money because you won’t know where to find what you need, what is due, you might be re-buying what you already have because your junk pile is hiding what you have.
  3.  Eat What Your Body Wants
    Yes. Eat what your body wants, not what YOU want. You want sweets but you it hurts your teeth. You want potato chips but the salt makes your ankle swell. You want fruit but it gives you diarrhea. You want beef but it constipates you. Now what? You disregard the imbalance and the warning signs your body gives you because you can’t control your feelings? No ma’am! Let your body tell you what it can handle and OBEY the answer you get. Period.
  4. Create
    I don’t care if it’s a math test or a table cloth: create something. We as women are designed to give birth/create to things. It is a nutritional requirement to have some sort of creative outlet that you can use to destress yourself. It could be dance, crocheting, painting , writing, whatever! Just have something you do that doesn’t have anything to do with anybody else.
    Have that “me time” set. Your creativity is the curator of your self worth and gives you am excuse to be selfish if you are one of those women who have a hard time saying no to people.

It’s time for you to change.. Let me help you.

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Selling Out or Selling Myself?

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Me and a painting in progress













OK sooo, I have been trying to put some energy into myself lately, fighting my ‘I don’t give a shit’ attitude for a bit more refinement.

Just a bit!

I know us as artists do have creative license to be outlaws and misfits; I think it’s even expected actually. But for who I want to reach and how far I am expecting to take my personal brand, just be a rogue will not do.

I like money, LOTS of money, and I realized a while back that tapping into the reservoir of abundance does require a balance of freedom and conformity, thus the dreaded word for artists: stability.

  • My paintbrush and my pen and my voice are all mediums I use to communicate with you, and it’s my job to make it all cohesive.

Offers to sell out’ come pretty often, nice checks to commercialize my brand are coming in more and more. But I told myself a long time ago that I would wear a dress and red lipstick to get your attention, but I will never compromise my babies/art.

They will always have a message, they have to, or there’s no point in doing any of this. I could make art that has a broader market, but then, they wouldn’t be as meaningful and as special as I intend for them to be.

But I did have to cave in and show my face a little more. All these hot young girls all over social media displaying their ‘art’ along with their nice round asses and perky tits broke me down, I bite and admit I wanted a piece of that action. I watched how that no matter what skill level they had, they were the ones gaining exposure and buyers.

My girls are sweet. My girls are magical. The eyes are that way for more than the look of innocence. My art is liken to real children.

They feel very real!

But I have come to know that I am as important as the work itself, and it is part of my job description to show up and talk and shmooze and explain, and display and interview, and whatever else is needed to their respective homes.

So yeah, I resisted, then I joined in. And it’s not as bad as all that really. I love that people get to see the person behind those big doe-like eyes I paint. I see what seeing ‘me’ has done for for those connected to my work They understanding of my work so much more now that I’m front and center.

I had to tap into my own sexuality to pull out what I liked about myself in order for you all to understand the ‘me’ on these canvases.

So here I am. More open, yet More in control. And walking towards my destiny. …

~Salkis Re

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You Are One of A kind

You really are one of a kind. But is it hard to asses the value of your worth

without comparing it to something or should I say someone else. But this leads to anguish as

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“Waiting On Your Love Baby” Painted by Salkis Re

your mind can only cop an ease from self ridicule when in the company of less physically blessed beauties.

The constant internal conversation about who you can look better than, Continue reading “You Are One of A kind”

Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!

Aww the new year is here!! And we are alive to enjoy whoo-hoo. 2016 was a roller coaster for sure and I can’t say that im not relieved to see it go.

I brought in the new year on the phone with a client of mine. She booked a session with me just to thank me for the advice I give young women on love and Continue reading “Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!”

“The ‘Act” of Unconditional Love”

                                                                      “Secrets Under My Skirt” Poem by Salkis Re

Most of us women have been “trained” to “act” in ways that will be appealing to men. To talk softly and smile, be agreeable and non threatening. No up-staging or acting like we know it all, I’d even go so far as to play dumb in order to be a good subordinate. You can’t overrule the king, and you certainly better not if you are closer to average looking or you’ll blow straight into oblivion the entire “mirage” of your “packaged” beauty.

Trained and ready to serve is the initiation into womanhood for most of us. Everybody worrying about gray hair and keep the body together so his “love” never ceases. And some of you still have the audacity to utter ideals of unconditional love when you’ve been conditioned your entire life for that love..

Great romances abound. I see intense kisses and braggadocios parading using “planned” photo ops of blissful folly to make the ether audience entertained and slightly jealous too. You’ve felt inadequate since the first cartoon you watched and that first comb you put to your barbie doll’s head. Everywhere you turn, there is a “problem” or a “flaw about you that needs tending too. EVERYWHERE!! And that inadequacy drowns the heart worry and fear. You compete with women who don’t even know you, you try up outclass and eclipse the women who threaten your livelihood/man.

Lol what is the tea? Men love sex more than they love women. And your hole holds more value than you whole. As a matter of fact, the rest of your body, your needs just get in the way as that hole is used like a toilet bowl for his frustration and stress. But that’s another post. I don’t want you to think I’m brooding here, and I certainly am not recruiting for any hidden: let’s all hate men propaganda. Men are yummy, and admirable, some god-like even.

Most of the people I look up to are indeed men. When they are worthy of course..

So no, I want you to have love by whatever it represents to you.  I don’t focus on the hope part because I know we have the scornful parts of ourselves to even get to a place where we can see what deserves the time to cultivate love. The parts you hide, are the parts you have to see so you can release your shame, doubt and fear of not being good enough for the very love you want..

Who’s zooming who? Like a Lady Aretha Franklin says..

I’m being bit facetious now, but the point must be made.

The tea is medicinal, tastes bitter, yet always needed.

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

Tea Bagging the Control Trap!



I can’t help but laugh when I look at this lady in the pic so I had to include her in my message today. In a nut shell its this.  Controlling people may be needed at times, it may even be necessary for survival. Lord knows I’ve certainly been “hand to mouth” and had to rely on my Damsel in Distress sensibilities to get out of a jam or two.

The problem is in the preoccupation with controlling others. And this often comes at the expense of you own sanity and basic well being. Some of you go down with the ship, determined to make him love you at all costs when he probably didn’t like you to begin with.

Harsh, I know.

P&*sy rules right? Starts wars and all kinds of magnificently spectacular distruction to display affection.

But that affection is a mother sucker though. It get’s us all caught of in helplessness and the abyss of nothingness topped with some whip cream of regret!

Turned me into a soup kitchen charity case a few times. To possess people without your own self esteem, well, it will back fire on you.

You can’t hold the form of high regard when you are anxious, needy, and have unstructured boundaries. To control anyone effectively, you must first discipline yourself.

You have to build your sense of entitlement through what you do for yourself on a daily basis. I liken it to requiring that a man come with six pack abs while you shamefully stuff your muffin top into a body magic doohickey… That’s cheating!!!!!

The operative word here is SHAME. If you are ashamed of yourself, then you cannot affirm what you want and will not have the juice required to make demands for your pleasure. So how do you get out of the shame trap? One way is to accept what is.

Accept what is fixed about you, and don’t try to become something else to hide it. That will only weaken you.

We usually redirect or distract ourselves from what we don’t like about ourselves by being overly critical of ourselves in other ways.

REMEMBER THIS:What you accept, lays to rest.

And then you will have reserve power to focus on what you can improve, and what you have total control over.

If you don’t get this right, or get you right I mean, then you will fail to catch and hold the attention of the one you love.

How you gonna manipulate with low self esteem? LLLOL


You should learn to control yourself! FIRST!

So my lovelies, I got a new website Im working on called “Drink That , I felt it was time to give what I had to say and my coaching stuff it own platform so that I could free up more creativity to say what I wanted to say. I am planning to actually have tea for sale there too lol and lots of feel good things for 2017, so stay tuned up for that. In the meantime, I am here is you need one on one coaching, and my ebook is out and reading for instant download if you need some stronger tea, so cop that and read at your leisure if you like. Here’s the Link: My book! 

Have a gander at my lovely children too, (I call my art by babies) Im about being a little girl again and I can do that through my ‘dolls on walls’ lol check them out HERE