Love Who Loves You!

Native American Art
Artist, Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

When we women realize that love is the manipulated emotion a human being with ever have??

I am talking about romantic love…

There is nothing NATURAL about it.

Two people come together hiding what they are ashamed of, making promises/DEALS for what they intend to give each other IF one or the other subscribes to the SALES PITCH…

Then after some time together, each person oozes out their darker side, their unreasonable side, the side that was being held back right until the perfect time to reveal the venom and the devilish tendencies to the other person…

 

Then after a few emotional events, many some good sex and a lot of time together, they decide to pair bond and cuff each other down for the duration…

That is what love amounts too..

But it is STILL an awesome deal, relationships that is…

It is still one of the most satisfying things a woman can do!

Children come from that deal, and if two people can find common ground,

they actually can make each other BETTER souls on this earth…

Its just not a fairytale is all…

Its work, struggle,  and a great deal of disappointment,

but its better than going through life alone and unchallenged.

My opinion…

 

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

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YOU ARE UGLY!!

You ARE UGLY!!

So I did a video on my You Tube channel called:
“You Are Not Pretty Enough To Get The Man You Want?”
Now I addressed some sensitive things in that video about attractiveness and how it plays a major role in the quality level of the men we get.

The FACTS: All women are not beautiful. It sounds good, it Makes some us feel good when other women say it. But they are lying to those of us who know that we are not able average in looks, maybe even below average in looks.

I have stated many MANY times that I consider myself to be VERY average, some days less than that. So I make sure I eat right and do the things to maintain my wellbeing so that no deficits are exaggerated.

Women who are not conventional beauties must the need for validation in terms of beauty. It is often a lie, the flattery I mean. And it is used to ‘soften” your defenses: its purpose is to create emotional dependency and allows your body to be used as a tool for pleasure and recreation.

 

abstract artSo here is the deal actually, I advise ALL WOMEN, no matter how beautiful they are, to remove the NEED for validation of your vanity. Make you beauty or lack there of, inconsequential so that you are released from the anguish of acceptance by men or doing things to win their approval that perpetuates vulnerability and low self esteem…

When you take Vanity out of the equation, you remain RIGHT MINDED, not easily persuaded to conform to the will of men, and YOU get to remain in authority of YOUR perception of your worth whether pretty or ugly….

Do you know how autonomous it feels to eviscerate the “WORRY” that comes from he obsession with vanity?? Men have absolutely no emotional power over you when you take away the his power to validate your looks…

So nature has dealt you some cards, and you have to play these cards throughout your life. Take the vanity card OFF the table and get your AUTONOMY back…
Simple as That…

“Medicine Woman”
~ Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

 

Men Shouldn’t Have to PAY???

Male Viewer’s Comment to another Male Viewer on my You Tube Video:

“As long as you allow yourself to be USED by a woman she will never LOVE you or see you as a “companion”. She’ll only see you as an “employee”, a “mule”, or her “workhorse.
YOU CAN NOT BUY LOVE.
Also, you should NOT be giving a woman “things” when you date, because you’re only training her to be with you for “things” instead of being with you for YOU and appreciating you as a PERSON and appreciating your friendship and companionship.”
End Quote

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😼MY RESPONSE:
And if you are not “useful” she will never love either. Love is a “decision” based on opportunity and value displayed in “both” sides.
You guys think it’s unfair that a woman’s value/beauty/sex is equivalent to what you bring as men, but it’s because YOU ALL who express its importance, display favorable behaviors towards it, and make judgements and decisions that reflect how valuable it is.

We don’t make a man’s “looks” the main issue,
and MANY MANY women in relationships while SEXUALLY DISSATISFIED yet THEY STAY.
We compromise and “settle” all day long, so join the club!! Love you say?
You want “free” love?
When have you EVER had that? When HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN THAT???😼
~Salkis Re

abstract portrait painting
Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re for www.iloveherart.com

Now I posted this because I’m basically tired of this repeated narrative from men who want FREE love. None of them give anything without the intention of getting a return, but they argue about what they are expected to do to win a woman’s heart.

Are any of these men leading households: I doubt it.

Are these types of men inspired to commit to a ONE woman, I think it would be difficult for them.

These men always talk about virtue when they do not want to spend any money. But sacrifice is the barometer of the level of care a man OR woman has for the other person.

There is no way to measure your worth without compromise and sacrifice. You don’t know how important you are or how important a person thinks you are until  inconvenience presents itself…

And don’t you ladies think for one-second that these men do not understand the concept of “struggle”.

Frankly, I don’t see how you could think any other way when they repeatedly talk about “building together”.

Do you know what that term  “BUILDING TOGETHER means?

It means I cannot afford to take care of you,

and I want you to understand that,

and I want you to work to help me provide for you,

because then I will know you want me for me and not the money I don’t have

Then and only then have you earned their best efforts?? Through sacrifice and struggle we know right?

But the only problem with that is that the odds are not good for women when they invest in relationships that way.

Honestly, these are poor peoples problems ; wealthy people have a firm grasp of profit-loss, risk-reward, investment-liability. They understand that you can’t get something for nothing.

They understand  that you have to pay for what you want.

Sounds transactional right?

Tell me when is it not transactional?

You are both are INVESTING time, energy, resources, your bodies into each other. Relationships are INVESTMENTS, why else would you need or even want to commit to one person for the rest of your life if there was no gain to be had?

That is the cold, HARD truth!

Deal with it!!!!

………………………………………………………………………….

 

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

Love Really is A Game..

Dark Skin Girls in Art
“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

 

Love Games Played on Broken Hearts”
Written by Salkis Re

A broken heart comes as merely a consequence of living.

And it’s because we are “agreeable” as women, more understanding and forgiving, more accepting, and inclined to second, third, tenth chance givings that we inevitably feel the residue of regret for our understandings…

 

The solution is not to become intolerable, cold hearted spinsters who make love to donuts and pies in the middle of another night in an empty bed.

 

It is to understand that with your understanding, comes the inevitable display of his character that will surpass your understandings.

 

And of course we women cannot walk away blameless. In all good conscience, I couldn’t end this utterance without the admission that women enjoy the suffering men display from their passions. We are professional agitators of the attention and lust of men.

How else could men show love for us without the feeling of loss?
It is impossible to show love without fear.
I admittedly am a propagator for love’s cruelty.

Nonetheless, a woman’s game is the heart’s thermometer testing the temperature of the fever in her man, as she makes him “sick” every so often to encourage his “appreciation” to the surface…

So what is love?
Love is Beautiful Suffering for all parties involved….

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

Sex Should Frighten you!

“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.

This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.

Sex is a death ritual.

Sex is a  “giving up” of your soul to another soul.

Sex is A sacrifice.

Sex is  A melding together of thoughts,

emotions,

feelings,

bacteria,

shyte,

puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.

Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.

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But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.

But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!

Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.

And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.

Why?
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.

Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.

black women with locs
Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.

Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it

sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.

This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.

This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

“Virtuous Women Get No Love”

 

Beautiful Black Women
Life Coach\Artist ~Salkis Re

 

There are many women that have morals and values,

who are ready and willing to be the subordinate for a strong man,

but often times, she does not come packaged in vanity.

The virtuous woman often times will come in a thrifty, plain looking package,

not the TROPHY woman men are often in pursuit of.

But she will cook for you,

have sex when and how you want it, take care of your children and do as you say.

BUT YOU WILL OVERLOOK HER***

You men do not want THAT woman. You say you do, but you don’t.

You want that women who does NOT want you, it’s called the “hunt” isn’t it?

So you men look for women who are better looking than you,

and those women are looking for men who are better than them.

And you spin around in your hamster wheel asking why did she do this,

or how could she do that.
Why?

Because she NEVER wanted you in the first place, that’s why.
So it’s wrong from the start,

but the nature of man is to care more about what they do NOT have over what they DO have…

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach/Artist/Medicine Woman
Salkis Re

Struggle Love

We are now asking ourselves these days: why does love have to be soooo damn complicated??

We want that easy love. That Sunday morning in bed kinda love.

That fix me a sandwich after sex kinda love…

Can we be that happy all of the time?

Should we just reduce ourselves to the doom and glom of ‘reality”?????

WeLp, Yea and No!

Sunshine and rain make flowers grow. Snow and spring both bring beauty and deep contemplations..

Life cannot be all roses, but the darkness do not have to kill you…

Beautiful African American Women

A relationship is EARNED according to my sprint mother Eartha Kitt!

A relationship is given on the merit of good will and best practices, not of irrealities like NEVER doing this or that…

When you understand your flaws and shortcomings, you will naturally have patience and understanding for the hiccups in the person you love..

That is what true love is.

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There is no nothing perfect about love, nothing at all.

But improvement and advancement are the things we should always strive for within ourselves and to inspire those we love..

If you are not improving in some way, love with wither.

If you are not smarter today than you were yesterday,

if you are not more curious about life and learning how to change yourself for the better, then you will be forgotten..

That’s how this thing works.

Just like stagnant water is unsafe to drink, a body and mind immovable and unchallenged will atrophy over time..

Renew yourself. Continously.

That is how you keep struggle love at bay…

 So Who Am I?

African American art
              “Artist/Life Coach”
                    ~Salkis Re

I help women heal from relationships so they can gain the strength to reset their path in life.

Health and Wellness, Spirituality and Creativity are my specific interests.

If you need one on one instruction from me go to my website or email me at salkis@iloveherart.com

Subscribe to this blog and share with all those you know***

 

Marrying Poor Men, Here’s the Deal!

“Marrying Poor Men”
Written by Salkis Re

“Poor men” CAN’T provide anything, so they shouldn’t get married but they do.

The only purpose marriage has is share and protect current and future assets.

Now the truth is that the EMOTION of Love does not need marriage for validation

because most people can express the feeling of love without a license from the court system.

Marriage is simply the business aspect that creates the Commitment/non-emotional gesture

of a willingness to shoulder financial loss should the partner die or wake up one morning and say they don’t want you no more.
Time is MONEY.
Time is an INVESTMENT in itself. Marriage is a contract to exchange wealth between two people who enjoy sex and spending time with each other.

The “What You Bring to the Table” part…

 

Abstract Portait Painting
Art in Progress, Art by Salkis RE

Let me be clear here, I’m not saying that a woman should just be a pretty dimwit and nothing more.
I’m saying that the bring to the table” question directed towards her should be focused on the

nurturing aspect that every woman is capable of bringing if she is incentivized to do so.

Most women that work “hard” DO NOT want to work hard, and they would prefer alpha men who can fully finance her wants and needs.

An occupation doesn’t give you an IDENTITY, it gives you a CHECK.

What you are able to do without needing to be paid for it is more of an expression of identity.

Women don’t want “Independence/HARD WORK”, we simply do not want to be ABUSED because we depend on MEN.

 

Education is still important because intelligence is required whether you are raising children or in a corporate job.

The last half of life is going to look real ugly for many of us.

We make decisions based on “current options” instead of the 5-10-20 years down the line that sure like the air you breath COMING.

So the “struggle love” who’s narrative always seems to find it’s way to our compassionate hearts

. We always got to be grateful for the opportunity to struggle with black men.

No other woman, not white, not Indian not none of them

have exclusive terminology to emotionally express this ideal like US.

That “Ride or Die” shyte!

The fact that you are willing to endure SUFFERING and infidelity,

and mistreatment of every sort makes you a suitable candidate for respect and honor and Marriage???
You better think about that one again…

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
ARTIST ~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Pain Comes With Love

 

 

“What is A GOOD Relationship?”
Written by Salkis Re

The dark side exists in us all. We try as best we can to suppress our disagreeable nature,

but the moment there is cause for resentment or anger,

it will come gushing out like a ticklish sneeze.

So how do we manage?

By making a conscientious effort not to add on to our dysfunction by compounding on existing horrific decisions.

WE make amends simply by “thinking” before we do a thing.

And pray that there is enough goodness within us for someone to love.

This is why commitment is so important; It makes it more different for a lover to run when they come face to face with your demons,

and vice versa, of course.

Abstract Portrait Painting
Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re

Relationships are good when two people are interested in the well being of each other.

When each of you feel safe enough to challenge the other partner to improve.

But if you stay together long enough, you WILL WEAR hats like: Priest, Psychiatrist, Doctor, Friend, Lover, Punching Bag, Enemy and so on..

The love of your life WILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL  lie to you.

He will cheat on emotionally and/or sexually.

He will wish he had never met you. And he’ll develop persistent melancholy when you’re not around..

This is what relationships are…..
Except it so you can weather the storm.

Honor your commitment because chances are extremely favorable that you will simply

meet yourself and what you’re running from in another person…

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

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“You Are Not All Good, You Just Pretend to Be”

Witch Craft
Life Coach,, Salkis Re

I divulge secrets of emotional intelligence, the pitfalls of romantic relationships,

and how to handle self worth issues with my private clients as well as my lady friends here

because these are issues I’m fanatically passionate about.

 

So here is the unadulterated truth.
What you think is Value is a preset.
What you think is Opulence is preset.
What you perceive as Beauty is preset,
and the Social Stature you are striving for or jealous of, is preset as well.

Everything you “See” is not really what you see: it’s what you THINK you see based on consistent,

clever illusions and expensive pageantry created by the “higher ups” of society.

You as a woman have to UNDERSTAND the “Game”, and you will never understand it if DIVORCE yourself from it!
Why?

Because on a daily basis, you fraternize with men/women/people who aren’t in conflict

about their proclivities toward selfish behavior nor are they rattled with

guilt when they use the illusions generosity to further their station in life.

You think you’ll understand the GAME by merely adopting the role of a Casual Observer of it.

This is a harmful way to think and a dangerous way to BE!

You have to put on your BLACK HAT.

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                                                              Artist/Life Coach
                                                                   ~Salkis Re

You have to unveil your DARK SIDE

You have to unveil your DARK SIDE so that you are not pushed into a subordinate

role which GOOD yet Fearful people are much more predisposed too.

Am I saying to be vindictive and malicious?

Absolutely not!
I am saying that the dark side of you needs to be able to defend

and protect you because your GOOD side isn’t designed to do it!!!!

African American Art by Salkis Re
“Feel Me” Art by Salkis Re

 

She is ready to protect you because she is the side of your personality that will tell you the truth.

Goodness is a feel good thing, while Darkness is a protection thing.

Expunging yourself from your dark side, only creates further vulnerability and naivete.
Embrace ALL parts of you, and let the light and dark serve you…

~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

When We Were Kings

African American Art
Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?

No!

They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?

No!

H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re

 

So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.

 

 

 

“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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What is Dating a Man Really For?

African Art
Salkis Re, Artist/ Life Coach

 

I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?

**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.

Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**

with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.

Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.

Why?
Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,

honesty,

goal appraisals and so forth.

Now Getting to know a person is another matter.

 

Now spending time with a person is another matter.

That could include sharing a ride home from work.

I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.

I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.

Would my presence be welcomed?

Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?

A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances  could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,

how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.

Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.

Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity

to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining  or making an impression on you!!

The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection

**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…

Take it for what it is, or not..

But this message is EXACT!

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**Please pass this email on to your girlfriends, especially the young ladies you know..**Thank You.

 

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

 

You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

Black Art Eyes
                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

Black Art Eyes
African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

black artists

 

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

He is Using You!

African american art
African American Art by Salkis Re

Had a coaching session yesterday with an older woman who’s recently come back into the dating scene. She was very proud of her accomplishments financially and the fact that she “didn’t need a man”.

Unfortunately though, all that 😏 pride didn’t amount to a hill of beans when it came to her relationship with her boyfriend. Your *financial Independence doesn’t make you immune to disregard, complacency and disrespect in a *romantic relationship. You could be a waitress at Waffle House and display living in subsidized housing and still be Independent. You have all the money, but you’re still the grovelling and begging and beseeching him for quality time, sex and basic consideration.

Moors in Art
Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your bank statement can’t disguise your lack of 😯 emotional Independence 🙄 and this is why you can *make it rain for his ass and he spends YOUR money on a girl that grounded with standards that require him to either piss or get off the pot.

I’m hearing this story too often, and I’m telling you that it hurts you in the long run cause he’ll eventually see that you are only on point when it comes to your money, nothing else.
🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿
“Mistress of Words”

witches
“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“The Crone”
~Salkis Re
🤗Art by Salkis Re

 

 

websitewww.iloveherart.com

 

Manipulation All Around Us

Goddess Worship Kali
“The Conjurer”
Art by Salkis Re

Control and ownership over your life is essential. You will meet people along your journey who will want to reduce your self worth, and they do this for the sole purpose of placing you into a tiny box so they can micro manage you with the *tiny power they posses.
This is real life, daily scenarios and power plays ladies.

Learn to distance yourself *emotionally from people who try to reduce you, and if there is something of value they can offer you them maintain a connection with them for that purpose. In other words, don’t take it personally, treat it like *business.

If you find yourself getting caught in contemplating why people do what they do, ask yourself the same question.
🤔 Why do you do what you do? Why do you lie? 😀 Whydo you embellish the truth? 🤗 Why are you unable to be straightforward about what you want at times?

🤕 People are liars and good or not so good concealers of their agendas, so you have to learn what manipulation is and counteract it by practicing some manipulation of your own.

🤔 Resolve your issues with right and wrong towards people who show disregard and *fair weather friend tendencies. This is the Game of Life my sister’s, play it well and live strong..
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“Black Hat Society”
“Mistress of Words

African American Art
“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Kali Ma Activation”
“Spiritual Guide”
“Creative Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
*Art by Salkis Re
Website:

www.iloveherart.com

If you would like to own the painting featured above, send your inquiry to salkis@iloveherart.com “The Conjurer” is not apart of my collection for *secret reasons so if you want her, we must communicate privately.

 

 

A Woman’s Place

beautiful black women
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

witches
“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Woman’s Advocate”
“Spiritual Healer”
~Salkis Re

Whores Verses Hoes

African American Women
No more excuses!

I smile when people get on their soap boxes with wagging fingers against the moral character of people when they lie, cheat, manipulate on a daily basis as well. They hide behind religion and pretense, and glamor, proper English, and their expensive cars AND/OR meager dwellings so that they can and say “I’m better than you” because I’m more *blessed than you, or I’m better than you because I have *no desire to want what you have.

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

All of women utilize our sexuality in various degrees, but we pretend to abhor intense representations of feminine sexuality.

Why?

Because you can be discreet about rug burns on your knees as you gag from the flesh of man/men being pushed down your throat? The man you’re married to that doesn’t want to fork you anymore, boyfriends who are with you cause they need a place to stay, male friends that come and “maintenance” your hole every few  weeks like clock work.

Salkis Re

You are full of shit!

Church whores and Head Wrapped hoes alike! I regret my naivete that became my stupidity after I knew better.. I regret all the wasted moisture my body created for dicks that couldn’t fuck me well and the pretty *eggplants that were good but didn’t genuinely care for me. Whoring myself for NOTHING. I know what that is. I know the pain and wasted time that comes when you ignore the facts to insist on remaining *hopeful.

So I say all this to say: do not let ANY other woman make make you feel intimidated AT ALL! Some of us are just better at hiding the crosses we bear. If you want what she has, then you can get it too, but do outright assume her life is honky-dory because her shoe game and makeup is perfect OR because she gets to fork her boyfriend and make baby number 5 in a tree house he built to drag you into off the grid living cause he’s against paying taxes.

witches
“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Creative Soul”
“Spiritual Advisor”
~Salkis Re

You need me. OK. Then click this link and let me coach you.
Website: www.iloveherart.com

How a Woman Should Love a Man

“Understanding How to Love”
Written by Salkis Re

Appreciation rushes into your heart only when you’re about to lose what you’ve taken for granted. And Love works the same way; you don’t love until your life is disrupted by the anguish for losing someone. Familiarity breeds contempt and disregard for that person. But if they leave, if they display any indifference towards you, it levels the playing field and the upper hand you enjoyed crumbles like a house of cards.

Big eyes in art
Sketch by Salkis Re

You start questioning your value as it seems your kingdom was mirage of sorts, a figment of your ego instead of reality. Love is like that.
🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹 🌹
A give and take, which is a “loss” and “gain”, both intentionally or unexpected. You as a woman are a nurturing soul, designed to observe, create, absolver, build and repair the environment around you. You are designed to lead while being shielded, that may be from the back, or from the side, but never in harms way. Your obligation is to position yourself so that you are always protected.
🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺 🌺

Art in progress by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your cunning is your “natural defense”. All the things that you are to be: sensitive, respectful, loving, supportive should only come out in its fullest capacity AFTER the receiver is “tried and proven” worthy of it, and even then, you know what it does, so you give and take away in accordance with what’s needed to maintain an environment that keeps you intrigued and delighted.
🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻 🌻
“Mistress of Words”

African American Art
“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Black Hat Society”

“Spiritual Advisor”

“Creative Soul”

~Salkis Re

 

 

 

Website: www.iloveherart.com
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Stitching Up the Cut!

 

 

Sketch by Salkis Re

“People want trust, they want a guarantee. But they don’t keep their word to themselves. They do not honor personal commitment but quickly cite it as a character flaw in people they are expecting to produce for them. How can you trust anyone when you do have trust in yourself? You break vows you’ve made to treat your *own self better, yet you assert harsh criticism and disappointment in others who failed in keeping their pledge to treat you better. Better than what? How you treat yourself?¿

abstract portrait
Art by Salkis Re

To heal, you don’t “Ignore”, you “Expose” it. You have to acknowledge and face your own corruption and the graveyard of broken promises you’ve made to yourself. Don’t expect people to bandaid you. Stop expecting people to treat you better than you treat yourself. All a relationship amounts to is an outward extension of how you feel about you. The bandaid is not enough; you need clean out the wound and stitch it up so that it/you can heal.
♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
☆Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
#artinprogress

This is Your Dream Killer

 

mermaids
“The Humans”   Art by Salkis Re

 

“The Dream Killer Is..”

Taking control of a thing is not a passive protocol. Some of you are “waiting” for something to fall out the sky, for the great Conjunction, a shooting star, waiting on Jesus, or the Pleadians to come for you, or some shamanic rites of passage to give you ceremony to trick you into moving your arse.

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