“You Are Good and BAD” Accept This!!!

 

 

African American Art

Do you know where virtue comes from?

It comes from your ability to be a villain, to be evil, to be treacherous and conniving,

to be a liar, to be a cut throat: YET you choose NOT TO BE.

Virtue is has nothing to do with being “incapable” of being unfair,

self absorbed, hurtful and selfish. Your ability to exercise “free will”

allows you to experience virtue because it comes from having the CHOICE to do good!!!

Watch out for people who claim to be “good” and selfless,

those people are often times dishonest and hide their intent to manipulate through appearing ‘charitable”.
If you are not ‘bad”, then that simply means that you are not assertive and lack the

confidence to say what you feel because you are worried about how you appear to others.

But again, your lack of assertiveness doesn’t mean you are incapable of making people uncomfortable,

of being a cheat, or wanting to better than those around you.

You want that too, you are just ashamed to display it because you are concerned about your self image.

Ohh but it’s there….
So accept it!!

“The Black Hat Society”

Salkis Re

Who AM I?

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            “Artist/Life Coach”
                   ~Salkis Re

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Safe Sex??? There Is NO Such Thing!

Life Coach, Salkis Re

I do not understand the logic of “safe sex” using condoms. How can you enjoy sex with a man you think by chance he could be caring a disease. You make him wear a condom, but he can eat your vagina raw. You swallow his sweat and his saliva.

You suck his dick raw too, but you make sure you use a condom to practice “safe sex”???

Listen, there is NOTHING safe about sex, nothing AT ALL.
Sex is  a physical risk,

an emotional risk

and afinancial risk too.

If a man is putting his mouth on vagina raw, licking your asshole raw, and you have his scrotum in your mouth raw, then you are not “Safe Sex” anything!!

He’s got your cum juice, your urine, fecal matter and your sweat in his mouth and probably that of OTHER women too.

Unless your mouth and your vagina secrete BLEACH, you should be VERY fucking scared to feel the NEED to use a condom….

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

African American Female Artist, Salkis Re captivates your eyes and your heart with her retro art pieces
“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.

 

And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

It WILL NOT….
Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Black Hat Society
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Spiritual Relationships are Bullshyte!

 

Abstract Art
“Be Who You Are” Art by Salkis Re

“Spiritual Connection”
Written by Salkis Re

What is that “Connection” that you feel when you’re describing that new man you want to be with?
Well this is the breakdown of the process by which that “connection” is created.

The connection that you refer to as a “spiritual connection” is an emotional assessment of how well you “relate” to him.

Spiritual equates to Emotional, and your emotions are based on your feelings.

And your Feelings are based on your Thoughts

AND your Thoughts are filtered and categorized by what you see, hear, touch: HIS ACTIONs…..

You cannot experience “Spirituality” without emotions and emotions is Energy created by movement=ACTION.
So when you speak of a “spiritual connection” as something “Nonphysical”,

you are misinformed and that farce leads many assuming women down a path of unmet expectations.

Let’s put on our Black Hats shall we….
What part of a male and female romantic or even platonic relationship is Nonphysical?
🤔He has to talk to you: that is a physical act.

🤔He has to spend time with you: that’s a physical act.

🤗He has to fucc you: that’s a physical act.

🤔He has to show care for you: that’s a physical act.

🤔He has to appreciate you: that’s a physical act.

🤔🤔He has to commit to you: that’s a physical limitations of choice and movement toward any other woman besides you.

We like to believe in things to make feel better about things we are powerless over or lack comprehension in.

 

🌼But the “spiritual” talk is mostly the ponderings and entertainment of women who are attracted to “Unresourceful Men”, for these men ONLY have the power of EMOTION to fuccing sell you on, nothing more.

😏🙄😱😮He can tell you that he’s looking for virtue because he thinks your lack attractiveness means that you are MORE MORAL than a woman who is physically out of his league.

AND THIS IS THE GOSPEL ACCORDING to SALKIS RE
AUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

“Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

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                                                                                          ~Salkis Re

 

It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

🤔You are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

 

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

You Can’t Be YOURSELF!

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  • You are what you say.
    You are what you do.
    You are how you feel.
    And everything you do, say, and feel is a result of what you are getting out the deal.

What do I mean?

I mean there is a pay off for how you behave:
Attention, sympathy, validation, love, money etc..
You would not be what you are without an audience to provide an exchange for your performance.

And if it’s a pleasant reaction, if it makes you feel good, you will do it over and over and over again.
So what am I saying here?
I’m saying that there is no such thing as authenticity.

There is no such thing as the True Self.
If no one was watching you or interacting with you, you wouldn’t be what you are right now.

If you were stranded on a deserted island suddenly, you’d quickly become a new person because there would be no one around to be what you are for.

That said, you are like quantum physics that says the atom particle behaves differently when it’s being observed.
You are living your life as an actor on a stage, making motions to shock people or to make men think sexual thoughts about you.

Moors in Art
Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

You have a sense of your value based on your interactions with people. You can’t quantify or validate your own worth outside of the presence of others.
Seems grim but it’s not really.
All this means is that you have Card Blanche and full authority to create a persona deliberately. You get to decide what qualities get activated or deactivated within you.

You now understand that permission to BE is not going to fall in your lap, and no one is capable of granting it to you. They can only interact with you based on what they feel and you let them based on what you think you will experience and the value you think you will receive from them.

Don’t BE yourself, CREATE yourself!

“Spiritual Advisor for Hire”
“Black Hat Society”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

Do visit my website to book as session with me and to buy art to help you concentrate and focus your mind in order to control it..

Stop Beating Yourself Up..

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“The Conjurer”
Art by Salkis Re

Do not let anyone disturb your peace. Your vibrance and vitality is contingent upon have an environment that supports your emotional well-being. Everything you are experiencing now is a direct result of how you manage your emotions.

The World In Your Hands
Painting by Salkis Re

🤔The reason why you let people run over you is because of how you manage your emotions.

🤔The reason you think you can’t follow your dreams is the result of how you manage your emotions.

🤔The reason you feel you can’t live without a man that doesn’t love is a result of how you handle your emotions.

🤔The reason you won’t ask for a raise at a job you work so hard at is due to how you handle your emotions.

Some of you need an exercism!!
A total washing away of who you have “decided” to be.

I thought I was nothing my entire life. I thought I was the “monkey” that people called me. I did not handle my emotions well because I believed the moronic shyte that people said that I was.

Listen to me..
The only thing you have to conquer is your habit of being a slave to your own emotions.
You direct your mind!
You say what you are!
You determine what it is that you are!
I am here to guide you back to self!
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“Black Hat Society”

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Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

“Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

A Woman’s Place

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Woman’s Advocate”
“Spiritual Healer”
~Salkis Re

Where Are Your Balls?

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“Self Esteem Coach”
Salk is Re

Look at the world today!

The people who are getting along splendid in this world are the ballsy people. The people who don’t give a shyte what anyone thinks are the ones who live opulent lives.

But all the “good folk” seem to live the entirety of their days conflicted between their morals and desires, between manners and their secret desires to exercise conceit.

  • The good folk get used,
  • have low self esteem,
  • and are too scared of fire and brimstone to make a real move.

You got to be a little bad.

Yeah…

I said it.

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“Clementine”
Art by Salkis Re

A little scoundrel is what you need to incorporate into your personality so you can build a back bone and some conviction.

Watch my New Video about Fear. IT’S TIME TO END YOUR FEAR

 

Be Who You Are!!

 

 

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

I get it!
You don’t want to look like a fool.
You don’t want to seem strange to people.
What want to be “normal” like everybody else.
All illusions though and elaborate figments of your imagination.
Why?
Because being like everybody else is comfortable, but it doesn’t mean that people will automatically care about you, and it certainly doesn’t guarantee love!
Quite the opposite is true.

Let me hip you to a secret about people. When you conform to their way, the perception of your value is immediately reduced in their minds.
Why Salkis?

Because to be like them when they have secret loathing within them means that you are as good or not as good as they are, and if you are on the same level, there is no reason to respect you.

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Abstract Portrait Painting by
Salkis Re

People respect those they deem better than themselves. The “herd” mentality offers comfort in that there is no one to compete with, no one to take her boyfriend away or get promoted over her at work. It’s like we all are comfortable in our collective misery, steering clear of out shining each other: BUT we don’t respect each other either.

So I got a bit sentimental today and loaded up my pen to write down what you should do.
The point is to NEVER conform. You will ALWAYS reduce yourself if you do.
Why? Because the people you are “trying” to be like are already “doing them” better than you can!

Do YOU!

My Poem:

What You See” Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Why are you so afraid
of people seeing who you are,
or doing what your heart wants you to do?
The best thing you should be wanting
is to do things so people stop fronting
like they ever really cared about you.

Your obligation is to your dreams
and making sure that what you’ve seen
becomes real for all to bear witness.
And if people admire you
then see that as nothing more than a result from you minding your business.

Pledge your allegiance to yourself
and all that you wish you could be.
Let no one interrupt,
the flow of what you want
And never be afraid of showing them
what you’ve always wanted yourself to see.

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
Website:www.iloveherart.com

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Your Sex Is a Gift

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Your Sex Matters
I know you’ve heard it before.
Sex is no big deal. Sex is easy to get.

Sex is doesn’t need to have commitment attached as so on..

*And I guess all of that is true: depending on who you talk too.

But I will say this, every man who has told me that to my face has NEVER cared about me. They never wanted anything outside of my “hole”.

So while the argument can be made that we are more than just a vagina, it’s that “just another hole” that they want straight away.

Don’t fall for that **devalue game. It implies that there’s no need for you to be sexual selective, to scrutinize or have “enforced” standards of conduct and intention from that man.**

A **dime a dozen vaginas** are out here in droves but your value is not **stock market based.**

Sex is a gift.

It’s a blessing if your vaginal is healthy and responsive. It is uplifting if you feel good about yourself. It’s a good luck charm if you live a life in awareness and appreciation.

  • If you are sexing to escape your reality,
  • to simulate love,
  • to distract you from your pain,
  • to make him fall in love either you,
  • to impress him,
  • because you are bored or lonely:

you are corrupting yourself!

What could be more important in your life than your vagina? That is the portal between the spirit and physical realm.

How can you excuse it’s magic and cast your pearls to swine?

Your depression,

lack of confidence

and self worth

have a great deal to do with sexual intrusion. The choice you make to “open” yourself to souls who cannot advance you is very costly. The stability you claim to have in spite of what you do is crippling you.

Am I addressing “morality‘ here?
Not at all.
Why?
Because once you have Sex, contemplating morality is inconsequential. Because after you’ve had Sex for the first time, it immediately becomes a game of “appearences” and not wanting to be perceived a particular way.
You have to make a choice here. Is your body a gift or is a “thing to play with”?

 

Do you know how awesome and deeply insightful it is to have an artist for a lifecoach? It is insanely inspiring. It is insightful on a deep, cerebral level. It’s creative and very simplistic experience, and what you learn eill be overlooked by Many!

I invite you to take a taste of what you can enjoy should you decide to do a full transformative program with me.

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Men Can Spot the Weakness in Women

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

We say men are hunters right? Ok what are the characteristics of a hunter? Isn’t Isn’t a hunter observant and watchful of what he has his eye on? Isn’t a hunter looking for the easiest prey?

Can a hunter not spot frailties and weaknesses? Men are more observant than you think. And when they care about what they’re after, then they REALLY watch.

Men can sniff out insecure women and “feed” off you just a kill. Desperation is not what you want to be; it will make you a sitting duck. Get your mind together and quit thinking you can conceal how you feel about yourself because you can’t.

 

We have to stOP thinking that we are really concealing our feelings. These things seep into everything we do. You are going look insecure, and you will act it out or reveal it eventually.

The point is to build yourself from the inside, to have integrity and follow through is what will build your self esteem. I tell the i coach girls Guilt will destroy you faster than any other emotion because leads to shame,  self doubt, fear, intimidation, and cowardly behavior.

So how do you break the cycle of low self esteem? You have to keep your word.

Yes!!!

Keep your fucking word to yourself#!

Make a promise and come hell or high water, (keep that shit)and actually finish what you start.

When you do this, your guilt will start falling away and you will begin to trust yourself. And trusting yourself means that you can say NO to what you need to walk away from. It means you can count on yourself yo always do what is in your best interest.

How freaking awesome is that!!!

To finally be your best friend!!!

AND what does this mean for men who are after you? It means that they have to right or not at all. It means that they cannot convince you to go against your better judgment because you no longer decide what is right or wrong for you based on the approval or disappointment of ANYONE.

You are chief.

The head Honcho!

Numero Uno baby!!!

BAM!

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Who am I?

I am your fairy Godmother

“Liberator of the Breath”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”

“The Lie Slayer”

~Salkis Re

 

Kendrick Said Be Humble!!

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Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

Aww. Joy of Humility…

You know I have a bit of disdain for that word.

Well. A bit more than a little I suppose.

But it’s quite useful though. I thought it was beneath me to transpose humility onto myself. I thought that putting people first was an invitation to put myself last.

No my darlings… I was extremely wrong.

Humility as I see it, helps to find out the true intentions of one’s heart.

Why?

Because people naturally tell lies when you question them, and the more intimidated they are, bigger and more grandiose the lies get.

People want to loved and accepted, and they will say and do what needs to be done to ensure that they come out unharmed.

Intimidation is a threat. A perceived threat of course, but as I tell the fortunate ones who get to work with me, ‘perception is the only reality there is’.

Humility is chocked full of sugary goodness because you get to satisfy your guilt and shame that creep up in your mind from being too self absorbed by putting others before yourself and you get to create an environment of trust and safety for the other person/s involved. And trust and safety bring out the primal instincts in people.

They tend to let go of their pretenses and the wall they build to protect themselves emotionally.

Think of it like this: when you feel threatened, you tense up, you recoil and brace yourself so that minimal damage happens. You are not ‘open’ emotionally or physically when you are tense. Intimidation causing ‘tension’ and tension encourages abnormal behavior

Be humble creates a stress-less environment and it is in relaxation of one’s mind that they start ‘talking’. They start yo vomit out everything they love or fear, how their mother didn’t love them enough or how they feel inadequate about this or that. They will admit their perversions and all their weaknesses to you when totally relaxed by your humidity.

 

If You’ve Heard the term ‘Pillow Talk’

If You’ve Heard ‘You’re So Easy to Talk Too!’

Both of those are examples of how people response when they do not feel intimidated.

  1. Making you laugh let’s your guard down.
  2. Keeping you distracted let’s your guard down.
  3. Tell you secrets let’s your guard down.
  4. Asking your opinion makes you feel more important and let’s your guard down.
  5. Giving you gifts and attention let’s your guard down.

And so on and so on…

Aww… The Joys of Humility. .

Sell or be Sold my darling. Which one will you be?

Now, I’m on a shift myself, coming to terms with what I’m really called to do as a guide for you and women just like you. I have accepted how I must help you build your self esteem and my position is not pretty at times, but it’s magical nonetheless.  If you want more keys to train your mind so you can control your body and maybe even get people to do your bidding, then I can coach you

To contact me send inquires to salkis@iloveherart.com

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How Tell If Someone is Lying!

Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

 

Sooo, I decided to make a video today about communication.

Why?

Because we are asking a million questions but still ain’t gettin the right answers.

There’s a way to get to the truth because truth be told, everybody lies and they lie about not telling lies too.

Let me put you up on game today. You can thanknow me later.

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Solar Eclipse Is Here! Time To Manifest Everything You Want#!

__********->A Total Solar Eclipse is Happening today!! The last time we had one was in 1979!!
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So the moon will block out the sun totally for a short time today and this natural event as not happened since 1979.. There’s a 70 mile stretch called the “path of totality” where areas of the US will be completely blacked out. States like South Carolina, Oregon and on into Canada and South America too..

  • So why is this one so freaking awesome?
    Because it will cut across the United States diagonally and the last time that happened was in the year 1918..
    OK, so what does it mean for you and I?
    This is like New Year’s Day.
    A new begining.
    A fresh start.
    Set your intentions and make SELF care an absolute priority today.
    This is your do over. Your zero time reference and you should treat it like your mother just gave birth to you today..
    Seriously…
    You might feel a little off emotionally and physically during this time, BUT this is a powerful manifesting time. The energy is high high high.

A few things you should do while we are in this solar eclipse:

1– Set Your Intentions
Write down on a piece of paper what you want to manifest or release. Smoke the paper with burning sage and watch the paper burn. Say your intention while watching the paper burn completely out. Then whisper a prayer of gratitude and end with “So shall it be done.

 

2-Drink Lots of Water
This is a perfect time for cleansing and detoxing. Flush your system out with water to purify yourself.

3-Create!
If you draw, paint, sew, write, or dance, then do it today! Your creativity will be heightened ten fold.

4- Channel Your Feminine Goddess
Now this one is what I’m doing in beast mode from this point on. It’s ALL about feminine sexual energy for me and I’m channeling it into everything that I do from my paintings, to exercise, even cooking is sensual event for me. My intention with harnessing the goddess energy is to arrest any residual suppressive thoughts and old programming about good girl verse bad shut within me. I am embracing ALL of me.
Be unapologetic today. Be in full reverence of your womanhood today because it will set the tone for the weeks and months to come.
Rock on Creatrixx!!

Recite this Affirmation I Created for You Today:
“I Have Everything”

Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017
I pledge allegiance to myself and all the things that I do.
All my thoughts turns to gold and all my dreams come true.
What I ask my Mother Earth for is what I absolutely deserve.
And good fortune is my best friend, for I get all I want in this world.

 

*Share that affirmation with your homegirls today.
Powerful!

And if you want to really kick this new you into hypermode, then let me teach you the secrets to fulfillment and total ownership of your life emotionally, financially and romantically.  Click Here

 

Dark skin Women
Your Self Esteem Coach- Salkis Re

 

 

 

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Lions and Tigers and Bears Dorothy!!! Follow The Yellow Brick Road

I have been added without request several crazy groups where women post provocative pics and guys, well guys get all excited and complimentary or at least they give the illusion of being complimentary, but some of these women are getting clowned and they are not well versed in communication, but I guess who needs to think that deep when the goal is attention. Its quite painful to watch actually because you know they have no clue that some are disgusted yet toying with her emotions.

I get all in my feelings about it.

If I was a bear, I’d growl,

 

 

 

 

 

 

if I was a wolf, I’d howl,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If I was a bird I’d watch you like a  hawk

 

 

 

 

and if I was a lion I’d stalk.

 

 

 

I  hate the misrepresentation and the mental weakness of it all.

Love yourself.

And in loving yourself, you can start to see what is nurturing to you. Some of you do not know that these men are “joshing” you and really not that big of a deal ,UNTIL it leads you into private conversations with him.

We need women to encourage us, sell is the dream, comfort and lick our wounds: and then there’s me. The one that holds the mirror up to all that you hide cause you can only concern things when you stop pretending they are not there.

I see new cycles of old shyte starting all over again and the year is only two days old. I see that some of you are gonna act like you were in a coma for all of 2016. Wake up sleeping beauty.

Here, drink this tea with me..
“Your Life Coach, Artist/Author/Poet” ~Salkis Re

 

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Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!

Aww the new year is here!! And we are alive to enjoy whoo-hoo. 2016 was a roller coaster for sure and I can’t say that im not relieved to see it go.

I brought in the new year on the phone with a client of mine. She booked a session with me just to thank me for the advice I give young women on love and Continue reading “Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!”

“The ‘Act” of Unconditional Love”

                                                                      “Secrets Under My Skirt” Poem by Salkis Re

Most of us women have been “trained” to “act” in ways that will be appealing to men. To talk softly and smile, be agreeable and non threatening. No up-staging or acting like we know it all, I’d even go so far as to play dumb in order to be a good subordinate. You can’t overrule the king, and you certainly better not if you are closer to average looking or you’ll blow straight into oblivion the entire “mirage” of your “packaged” beauty.

Trained and ready to serve is the initiation into womanhood for most of us. Everybody worrying about gray hair and keep the body together so his “love” never ceases. And some of you still have the audacity to utter ideals of unconditional love when you’ve been conditioned your entire life for that love..

Great romances abound. I see intense kisses and braggadocios parading using “planned” photo ops of blissful folly to make the ether audience entertained and slightly jealous too. You’ve felt inadequate since the first cartoon you watched and that first comb you put to your barbie doll’s head. Everywhere you turn, there is a “problem” or a “flaw about you that needs tending too. EVERYWHERE!! And that inadequacy drowns the heart worry and fear. You compete with women who don’t even know you, you try up outclass and eclipse the women who threaten your livelihood/man.

Lol what is the tea? Men love sex more than they love women. And your hole holds more value than you whole. As a matter of fact, the rest of your body, your needs just get in the way as that hole is used like a toilet bowl for his frustration and stress. But that’s another post. I don’t want you to think I’m brooding here, and I certainly am not recruiting for any hidden: let’s all hate men propaganda. Men are yummy, and admirable, some god-like even.

Most of the people I look up to are indeed men. When they are worthy of course..

So no, I want you to have love by whatever it represents to you.  I don’t focus on the hope part because I know we have the scornful parts of ourselves to even get to a place where we can see what deserves the time to cultivate love. The parts you hide, are the parts you have to see so you can release your shame, doubt and fear of not being good enough for the very love you want..

Who’s zooming who? Like a Lady Aretha Franklin says..

I’m being bit facetious now, but the point must be made.

The tea is medicinal, tastes bitter, yet always needed.

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

Tea Bagging the Control Trap!

 

 

I can’t help but laugh when I look at this lady in the pic so I had to include her in my message today. In a nut shell its this.  Controlling people may be needed at times, it may even be necessary for survival. Lord knows I’ve certainly been “hand to mouth” and had to rely on my Damsel in Distress sensibilities to get out of a jam or two.

The problem is in the preoccupation with controlling others. And this often comes at the expense of you own sanity and basic well being. Some of you go down with the ship, determined to make him love you at all costs when he probably didn’t like you to begin with.

Harsh, I know.

P&*sy rules right? Starts wars and all kinds of magnificently spectacular distruction to display affection.

But that affection is a mother sucker though. It get’s us all caught of in helplessness and the abyss of nothingness topped with some whip cream of regret!

Turned me into a soup kitchen charity case a few times. To possess people without your own self esteem, well, it will back fire on you.

You can’t hold the form of high regard when you are anxious, needy, and have unstructured boundaries. To control anyone effectively, you must first discipline yourself.

You have to build your sense of entitlement through what you do for yourself on a daily basis. I liken it to requiring that a man come with six pack abs while you shamefully stuff your muffin top into a body magic doohickey… That’s cheating!!!!!

The operative word here is SHAME. If you are ashamed of yourself, then you cannot affirm what you want and will not have the juice required to make demands for your pleasure. So how do you get out of the shame trap? One way is to accept what is.

Accept what is fixed about you, and don’t try to become something else to hide it. That will only weaken you.

We usually redirect or distract ourselves from what we don’t like about ourselves by being overly critical of ourselves in other ways.

REMEMBER THIS:What you accept, lays to rest.

And then you will have reserve power to focus on what you can improve, and what you have total control over.

If you don’t get this right, or get you right I mean, then you will fail to catch and hold the attention of the one you love.

How you gonna manipulate with low self esteem? LLLOL

Pause.

You should learn to control yourself! FIRST!

So my lovelies, I got a new website Im working on called “Drink That Tea.com , I felt it was time to give what I had to say and my coaching stuff it own platform so that I could free up more creativity to say what I wanted to say. I am planning to actually have tea for sale there too lol and lots of feel good things for 2017, so stay tuned up for that. In the meantime, I am here is you need one on one coaching, and my ebook is out and reading for instant download if you need some stronger tea, so cop that and read at your leisure if you like. Here’s the Link: My book! 

Have a gander at my lovely children too, (I call my art by babies) Im about being a little girl again and I can do that through my ‘dolls on walls’ lol check them out HERE

You Can’t See Through What You Want to See!

You need to know “how’ to get to know.

The “slight of hand” makes you think you know.

Your need for pleasure puts a filter over your eyes towards any truth that appears in front of you. You deny what you want, what you feel, and what you see because you think your will to have can affect a person’s character.

You think your prayers have been answered before you even give yourself a chance to test for false prophets. Your prayers and meditations do not calm your mind into the relaxation you need in order to see what is right or wrong in men.

You go into it with a sense of entitlement, yet you cannot see when the ‘show’ is being put on for you. You are hopeful, optimistic, cheerful, and appealing, and you think these things will get you what you want. They can assist of course, but they have to be in conjunction with your wisdom and a clear objective for your own life.

***Attractiveness will not cure boredom, or wandering eye. And being nice and sweet will not keep him interested. Keeping a level head is the only way to “know” what you need to know.

And what are you looking for?

*Emotional stability,

*natural tendencies,

*spontaneous reactions to unexpected things,

*what he says about people he loves, 

moors in art

 

 

*does he love his work,

*is he disciplined,

*does he take care of his body,

*how much leisure time does he need and how does he spend it. And so on.

BUT you have to know yourself in order to access others without projecting yourself on to him. 

If you need help with that, I can coach you..

But for now, just Take Your Time in order to see.

Know what you are deserving of and watch for his ability and motivation to give it to you.

If you want more, then check out my ebook when you get a moment , Its an easy read but filled with nuggets of wisdom you can apply to life right now! Click Here