Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

Abstract Art by Salkis Re
Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re

 

“Reasons”
Written by Salkis Re
 
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.
 

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Why?
Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.
 

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.
Why?

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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When We Were Kings

African American Art
Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?

No!

They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?

No!

H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re

 

So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.

 

 

 

“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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I Put a Spell On Me!!

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Casting Love spells is a hot thing to do. I will admit it. I tried a couple spells back in the days too.

Did some pretty nasty stuff like smudging period blood on my neck, I even cooked dinner for an imaginary husband for 3 months straight.

My daughter thought I was bat shyte crazy.

And I was a little, still am actually.

I’m open to the impossible.

But…

What they say, or what I didn’t hear, was the key ingredient for ANY intention to work is focus,

That of belief and a sense of entitlement  for what you are going after.

I wasn’t ready for a man.

I didn’t think I really deserved the love that I wrote on paper.

So I ignored what I felt inside while hoping that the universe would overlook how fearful and unsure I was.

 

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Art by Salkis Re

Maybe you are in the same boat…

Hurt by the ghosts of your past loves.

Wondering if it’s your lot in life never to be the object of a man’s passions.

It doesn’t have to be this way though.

And the road to healing doesn’t have to feel like 5000 stomach crunches..

Because the road to being receptive to love, to companionship, and soul mating

is one of relaxation and confidence, NOT worry.

The first step is to stop worrying about not having a man.

Yessssssss. That’s what I said.

What you worry about, is what you will get.

Why?

Because of the intensity of your emotions and the concentration on that thing you are emotive about,

which of course is: not having a man.

Get busy right now with changing your attitude.

And the only way to bring the atmosphere of love into your existence is through self care.

Self Care..

Eat Right.

Sleep Right.

Create.

DO things that Challenge you.

There are too many things you need know,

too many things you could be doing right now instead of brooding over fantom penises.

And these TOO MANY THINGS are the very glue that with bring the fairy dust transmutation and irresistibility straight to your door step.

Worry will weaken you.

Feeling lonely is a sign of a lack of imagination.

Creativity ignites passion, and its when you are truly passionate about anything that you invite people to come as spectators, lovers  and so on.

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“The World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

SO the Answer?

Become MORE PASSIONATE.

Find something that gets your juices flowing. Do something that takes up your time in a constructive way.

And let whatever you choose transform you into a wanted woman!!!

XOXO,

Salkis

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

The Critics Love You!

 

 

What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

African American Artist, Salkis Re

Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

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                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Brothers that Hate Sisters!

Beautiful Black WomenI get trolling men who enjoy “attempting” to inflict emotional pain on me with crass, emotionally packed comments which are nearly always sexually charged.

Their curiosity for my dick-sucking skills or how of dicks have actually been in my mouth is a common sentiment from our “brothers”. Another common response is in the defense of this collective notion amongst them which states that black women are manly- looking, sperm- guzzling sluts who do not deserve respect or any of the comforts other “types” of women enjoy.

I take no issue with ANY brother who expresses this IF they would just stay away from us. But here they are, pretending to like you, impregnating you, wasting your time, your money, and your body, all while having degrading thoughts within their heads about you.

And you are lost because you think the main criteria for a relationship is in how much you LOVE him. You gamble your life, your beauty, your hopes and dreams on an EMOTION. And these very men resent and call you a fool for doing so.

So what are we to do here?
What is the solution to keeping men like this at Bay?
No Sex would be THE solution.
But many of is prove our worth through sex. And we become the chasers and the subordinates straight out the gate.
You can’t win doing it in this order.
So what does this mean for you?
It means that your position, the only had you play, would be that of SHOW ME!

Salkis Re, Artist, Healer, Medicine Woman

Love is not up for interpretation, and love is quite easy to create. Spend enough time with ANY man, whether you are deeply attracted to him or not, you will begin to have feelings for him and he for you.
No Sex equates to EMOTIONAL CONTROL of your own mind!
It allows you to maintain objectivity and reasoning as you quantify the value of the man you are spending time with.

You can love any man who is interested in you, who cares for you in word AND deed. That is TRUE LOVE because you able to be practical and reasonable in your relationship with him. You are not a fiend or his sexual puppet which often happens when you give up your vagina before merit is displayed. You don’t give yourself time to see if he’s after you to fill his curiosity or have the opportunity to win your love.
The point?
The point is that he MUST win your love!
And that my dear, the winning of your love, should NEVER end!

 

 

 

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“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Savor”
~Salkis Re
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He is Using You!

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African American Art by Salkis Re

Had a coaching session yesterday with an older woman who’s recently come back into the dating scene. She was very proud of her accomplishments financially and the fact that she “didn’t need a man”.

Unfortunately though, all that 😏 pride didn’t amount to a hill of beans when it came to her relationship with her boyfriend. Your *financial Independence doesn’t make you immune to disregard, complacency and disrespect in a *romantic relationship. You could be a waitress at Waffle House and display living in subsidized housing and still be Independent. You have all the money, but you’re still the grovelling and begging and beseeching him for quality time, sex and basic consideration.

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Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your bank statement can’t disguise your lack of 😯 emotional Independence 🙄 and this is why you can *make it rain for his ass and he spends YOUR money on a girl that grounded with standards that require him to either piss or get off the pot.

I’m hearing this story too often, and I’m telling you that it hurts you in the long run cause he’ll eventually see that you are only on point when it comes to your money, nothing else.
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“Mistress of Words”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“The Crone”
~Salkis Re
🤗Art by Salkis Re

 

 

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Are You Begging to Be Used?

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Never beg cause begging is like asking someone if it’s OK to pay to abuse you…”
~Salkis Re

I see it all over the place. Women “asking” to be accepted, crying or foaming at the mouth with anger for not having a “fair shot” at love and companionship.

I worry about them a lot.

In fact, I was one of them.

Bitter. Angry. Vulnerable.

I spent so much time crafting rants and venting session, orchestrated smear campaigns and rebuttals to all the low life basterds who didn’t think a “woman like me” deserved to be respected and loved.

It felt good; but it was pointless.

I had to come to that stark conclusion after a while.

My look is that of a “slave archetype“, large lips, dark skin and nappy hair.

Yup. That’s all me.

But what I realized that I didn’t need to intentionally fight the stereotypes put forth by society.

In fact, as I examined things further, a lot of the notions of beauty are really a matter of “class” than esthetics. If you have a certain amount of money, you can get whatever the funk you want and WHO ever the future know you want.

That is top, middle AND the bottom line.

Money brings status and self esteem and a sense of entitlement which are the attributes that opens doors for anyone.It’s best to condition your mind to start thinking like you are rich already, instead of waiting on what might never come in actual numbers.

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Art by Salkis Re

Begging for love is what slaves do. Begging or should say (in a kinder way)’asking’ to be accepted and admired will only reduce you to servitude status.

Why?

  • Because when you ask for these things

its because they are not inside of you.

  • You think the person you want it from is responsible for giving it to you.
  • And more importantly than any reason is the fact that you think they are BETTER than you are or you would never ask it of them in the first place.

Ahh…

Servitude indeed…

Are you a master in training or a professional slave?

“Black Hat Wisdom”

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Self Esteem Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website: www.iloveherart.com

Where Are Your Balls?

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“Self Esteem Coach”
Salk is Re

Look at the world today!

The people who are getting along splendid in this world are the ballsy people. The people who don’t give a shyte what anyone thinks are the ones who live opulent lives.

But all the “good folk” seem to live the entirety of their days conflicted between their morals and desires, between manners and their secret desires to exercise conceit.

  • The good folk get used,
  • have low self esteem,
  • and are too scared of fire and brimstone to make a real move.

You got to be a little bad.

Yeah…

I said it.

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“Clementine”
Art by Salkis Re

A little scoundrel is what you need to incorporate into your personality so you can build a back bone and some conviction.

Watch my New Video about Fear. IT’S TIME TO END YOUR FEAR

 

Moors

Spells Cast by Liars

 

African American Artist
“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re

 

“Spells and Liars”
Written by Salkis Re

Esoteric knowledge is great for good conversation. I like good conversations. But what I like even better is to quantifiable improvements in myself. When you have a strong foundation, your philosophical contemplations will be stress free and more enjoyable because the work you’ve done to improve yourself affords you more ownership over your time and more mastery over your physical existence.

I see self professed witches that have weight issues and express openly that they want to lose weight, so my thought is why doesn’t she cast a spell over her mouth and what she puts in it: problem solved!

You cast spells, workable spells as you say, butyour temple is disregarded?

Moors
“The Throne”
Art by Salkis Re

Listen, the magic you are looking for is in your commitment and discipline. Discipline of your mouth, your vagina, your time for mastery of your skill, of keeping even the humblest environment organized.

Obeying indulgences does NOT builds character, and you won’t garner any fortune from it, it is the “withholding” and reducing your options for distraction and dissuasion that builds a foundation for you to become the best you can be.

“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Self Esteem Coach”
“Queen Bee”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

 

 

Pretty Dark Skin Women

Your Vagina is Tired!

 

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

 

Your Vagina is Tired
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself how many men you’ve slept with that you wish you’d never had sex with? How many of them hold regrets for you and the wish to turn back “Father Time” for a clean slate again.

How many?

One?

Two?

ALL of them maybe?

The vagina is used to make friends,

make money,

make love,

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“Eyota and Her Thunderbird”:Art by Salkis Re

and life decisions, all while being pounded and tossed about like she is separate from the rest of your body.

You act like your vagina doesn’t feel your regrets, like it doesn’t feel your shame or desire to be washed clean from your disregard of her. I think Queen Afua coined it :”The Angry Vagina”. Your vagina has been through alot.

***Your indifference and how you’ve isolated her from your heart and mind have taken a toll on you.

It’s time to stop chasing love and pleasure from those who wanted to heartlessly use your vagina like it wasn’t attached to a living breathing soul being.
It’s time to heal through right action..

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“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re ”
She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe ”
“Self Esteem Coach ”
“Queen Bee”
“Artist ”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

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Your Sex Is a Gift

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Your Sex Matters
I know you’ve heard it before.
Sex is no big deal. Sex is easy to get.

Sex is doesn’t need to have commitment attached as so on..

*And I guess all of that is true: depending on who you talk too.

But I will say this, every man who has told me that to my face has NEVER cared about me. They never wanted anything outside of my “hole”.

So while the argument can be made that we are more than just a vagina, it’s that “just another hole” that they want straight away.

Don’t fall for that **devalue game. It implies that there’s no need for you to be sexual selective, to scrutinize or have “enforced” standards of conduct and intention from that man.**

A **dime a dozen vaginas** are out here in droves but your value is not **stock market based.**

Sex is a gift.

It’s a blessing if your vaginal is healthy and responsive. It is uplifting if you feel good about yourself. It’s a good luck charm if you live a life in awareness and appreciation.

  • If you are sexing to escape your reality,
  • to simulate love,
  • to distract you from your pain,
  • to make him fall in love either you,
  • to impress him,
  • because you are bored or lonely:

you are corrupting yourself!

What could be more important in your life than your vagina? That is the portal between the spirit and physical realm.

How can you excuse it’s magic and cast your pearls to swine?

Your depression,

lack of confidence

and self worth

have a great deal to do with sexual intrusion. The choice you make to “open” yourself to souls who cannot advance you is very costly. The stability you claim to have in spite of what you do is crippling you.

Am I addressing “morality‘ here?
Not at all.
Why?
Because once you have Sex, contemplating morality is inconsequential. Because after you’ve had Sex for the first time, it immediately becomes a game of “appearences” and not wanting to be perceived a particular way.
You have to make a choice here. Is your body a gift or is a “thing to play with”?

 

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How Not To Care What People Think

I thought about this today. How can a person just stop caring what people think? I believe the best way to do this is to understand that unsolicited criticism, and vitriolic banter only come of discontented people. It comes from people who are outwardly projecting their murky of their hearts onto others to infect them with their distain.

You Think that the people who criticize you are better than you

You are under some impression that criticism is coming from someone/s better than you, but guess what, people who are better than you don’t offer “critiques” for free. They just don’t have the time to care that much!

To be unbothered by opinions of haters is about making your self esteem as high as the sky.

So what’s the way to build up your self esteem?

Integrity
Yeah! That’s it!
Integrity means that when you don’t have to do a thing, you still do it anyway. It means that you keep the promises you’ve made to yourself.
It means you have follow through and something isn’t right for you, then you smash it to smithereens!

It means that arrest this thought that everyone around you is focused on you because people are more worried about you focusing on them.

And finally, you need to kill your proclivity to conform. You don’t have to be like anyone else, and why would you want to be like people who do not like you to begin with.

All of these are what having Integrity is all about.
Makes sense? Hope so.

I coach women to regain their self worth and self esteem through tough love, stealth-like observations, and customized prescriptions to get over emotional blocks, and simple yet powerful techniques to overcome self defeat from bad relationships with family, fruends, husband’s or lovers. When you are ready to prepare your mind for the mental stability needed to actualize ALL you want in this life.

Then let me coach you!

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Salkis Re and Her
“Wall Doll”

Solar Eclipse Is Here! Time To Manifest Everything You Want#!

__********->A Total Solar Eclipse is Happening today!! The last time we had one was in 1979!!
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So the moon will block out the sun totally for a short time today and this natural event as not happened since 1979.. There’s a 70 mile stretch called the “path of totality” where areas of the US will be completely blacked out. States like South Carolina, Oregon and on into Canada and South America too..

  • So why is this one so freaking awesome?
    Because it will cut across the United States diagonally and the last time that happened was in the year 1918..
    OK, so what does it mean for you and I?
    This is like New Year’s Day.
    A new begining.
    A fresh start.
    Set your intentions and make SELF care an absolute priority today.
    This is your do over. Your zero time reference and you should treat it like your mother just gave birth to you today..
    Seriously…
    You might feel a little off emotionally and physically during this time, BUT this is a powerful manifesting time. The energy is high high high.

A few things you should do while we are in this solar eclipse:

1– Set Your Intentions
Write down on a piece of paper what you want to manifest or release. Smoke the paper with burning sage and watch the paper burn. Say your intention while watching the paper burn completely out. Then whisper a prayer of gratitude and end with “So shall it be done.

 

2-Drink Lots of Water
This is a perfect time for cleansing and detoxing. Flush your system out with water to purify yourself.

3-Create!
If you draw, paint, sew, write, or dance, then do it today! Your creativity will be heightened ten fold.

4- Channel Your Feminine Goddess
Now this one is what I’m doing in beast mode from this point on. It’s ALL about feminine sexual energy for me and I’m channeling it into everything that I do from my paintings, to exercise, even cooking is sensual event for me. My intention with harnessing the goddess energy is to arrest any residual suppressive thoughts and old programming about good girl verse bad shut within me. I am embracing ALL of me.
Be unapologetic today. Be in full reverence of your womanhood today because it will set the tone for the weeks and months to come.
Rock on Creatrixx!!

Recite this Affirmation I Created for You Today:
“I Have Everything”

Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017
I pledge allegiance to myself and all the things that I do.
All my thoughts turns to gold and all my dreams come true.
What I ask my Mother Earth for is what I absolutely deserve.
And good fortune is my best friend, for I get all I want in this world.

 

*Share that affirmation with your homegirls today.
Powerful!

And if you want to really kick this new you into hypermode, then let me teach you the secrets to fulfillment and total ownership of your life emotionally, financially and romantically.  Click Here

 

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Your Self Esteem Coach- Salkis Re

 

 

 

Future Plans Or The Here and Now!

 

Women get caught up in ill-fated relationships because you believe in

“future plans” instead of “right now” actions.

We like dreaming. We love about reading romance and passion and we loving “hearing” nice things. But all that you have to base your decision on is right now, is in what you’ve experienced so far.

For some of you, that may equate to 10 years of shyte, and for others maybe a couple of months. Some of you have decided that “struggle love” gives some sort of extra respect, like ur a real woman cause you endured suffering imposed upon you. Sigh… That has more to do with low self worth than anything else. I know it very well.

You have been prepped to expect less and it sounds logical because you internally feel that its all you deserve. What are you dreams? What do you wish ur life to be? No! Don’t give me what you’ve been conditioned to say by other weak women! What do YOU need to live secure and comfortable?

And is what you have gotten, (im talk about looking at FACTS now not dreams) remotely close to the life you planned for yourself? Then start writing down your life as you want to be. Clear your mind, and design your day on paper and look at, study it. And take a step towards that reality.

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Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!

Aww the new year is here!! And we are alive to enjoy whoo-hoo. 2016 was a roller coaster for sure and I can’t say that im not relieved to see it go.

I brought in the new year on the phone with a client of mine. She booked a session with me just to thank me for the advice I give young women on love and Continue reading “Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!”

“The ‘Act” of Unconditional Love”

                                                                      “Secrets Under My Skirt” Poem by Salkis Re

Most of us women have been “trained” to “act” in ways that will be appealing to men. To talk softly and smile, be agreeable and non threatening. No up-staging or acting like we know it all, I’d even go so far as to play dumb in order to be a good subordinate. You can’t overrule the king, and you certainly better not if you are closer to average looking or you’ll blow straight into oblivion the entire “mirage” of your “packaged” beauty.

Trained and ready to serve is the initiation into womanhood for most of us. Everybody worrying about gray hair and keep the body together so his “love” never ceases. And some of you still have the audacity to utter ideals of unconditional love when you’ve been conditioned your entire life for that love..

Great romances abound. I see intense kisses and braggadocios parading using “planned” photo ops of blissful folly to make the ether audience entertained and slightly jealous too. You’ve felt inadequate since the first cartoon you watched and that first comb you put to your barbie doll’s head. Everywhere you turn, there is a “problem” or a “flaw about you that needs tending too. EVERYWHERE!! And that inadequacy drowns the heart worry and fear. You compete with women who don’t even know you, you try up outclass and eclipse the women who threaten your livelihood/man.

Lol what is the tea? Men love sex more than they love women. And your hole holds more value than you whole. As a matter of fact, the rest of your body, your needs just get in the way as that hole is used like a toilet bowl for his frustration and stress. But that’s another post. I don’t want you to think I’m brooding here, and I certainly am not recruiting for any hidden: let’s all hate men propaganda. Men are yummy, and admirable, some god-like even.

Most of the people I look up to are indeed men. When they are worthy of course..

So no, I want you to have love by whatever it represents to you.  I don’t focus on the hope part because I know we have the scornful parts of ourselves to even get to a place where we can see what deserves the time to cultivate love. The parts you hide, are the parts you have to see so you can release your shame, doubt and fear of not being good enough for the very love you want..

Who’s zooming who? Like a Lady Aretha Franklin says..

I’m being bit facetious now, but the point must be made.

The tea is medicinal, tastes bitter, yet always needed.

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

Tea Bagging the Control Trap!

 

 

I can’t help but laugh when I look at this lady in the pic so I had to include her in my message today. In a nut shell its this.  Controlling people may be needed at times, it may even be necessary for survival. Lord knows I’ve certainly been “hand to mouth” and had to rely on my Damsel in Distress sensibilities to get out of a jam or two.

The problem is in the preoccupation with controlling others. And this often comes at the expense of you own sanity and basic well being. Some of you go down with the ship, determined to make him love you at all costs when he probably didn’t like you to begin with.

Harsh, I know.

P&*sy rules right? Starts wars and all kinds of magnificently spectacular distruction to display affection.

But that affection is a mother sucker though. It get’s us all caught of in helplessness and the abyss of nothingness topped with some whip cream of regret!

Turned me into a soup kitchen charity case a few times. To possess people without your own self esteem, well, it will back fire on you.

You can’t hold the form of high regard when you are anxious, needy, and have unstructured boundaries. To control anyone effectively, you must first discipline yourself.

You have to build your sense of entitlement through what you do for yourself on a daily basis. I liken it to requiring that a man come with six pack abs while you shamefully stuff your muffin top into a body magic doohickey… That’s cheating!!!!!

The operative word here is SHAME. If you are ashamed of yourself, then you cannot affirm what you want and will not have the juice required to make demands for your pleasure. So how do you get out of the shame trap? One way is to accept what is.

Accept what is fixed about you, and don’t try to become something else to hide it. That will only weaken you.

We usually redirect or distract ourselves from what we don’t like about ourselves by being overly critical of ourselves in other ways.

REMEMBER THIS:What you accept, lays to rest.

And then you will have reserve power to focus on what you can improve, and what you have total control over.

If you don’t get this right, or get you right I mean, then you will fail to catch and hold the attention of the one you love.

How you gonna manipulate with low self esteem? LLLOL

Pause.

You should learn to control yourself! FIRST!

So my lovelies, I got a new website Im working on called “Drink That Tea.com , I felt it was time to give what I had to say and my coaching stuff it own platform so that I could free up more creativity to say what I wanted to say. I am planning to actually have tea for sale there too lol and lots of feel good things for 2017, so stay tuned up for that. In the meantime, I am here is you need one on one coaching, and my ebook is out and reading for instant download if you need some stronger tea, so cop that and read at your leisure if you like. Here’s the Link: My book! 

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You Can’t See Through What You Want to See!

You need to know “how’ to get to know.

The “slight of hand” makes you think you know.

Your need for pleasure puts a filter over your eyes towards any truth that appears in front of you. You deny what you want, what you feel, and what you see because you think your will to have can affect a person’s character.

You think your prayers have been answered before you even give yourself a chance to test for false prophets. Your prayers and meditations do not calm your mind into the relaxation you need in order to see what is right or wrong in men.

You go into it with a sense of entitlement, yet you cannot see when the ‘show’ is being put on for you. You are hopeful, optimistic, cheerful, and appealing, and you think these things will get you what you want. They can assist of course, but they have to be in conjunction with your wisdom and a clear objective for your own life.

***Attractiveness will not cure boredom, or wandering eye. And being nice and sweet will not keep him interested. Keeping a level head is the only way to “know” what you need to know.

And what are you looking for?

*Emotional stability,

*natural tendencies,

*spontaneous reactions to unexpected things,

*what he says about people he loves, 

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*does he love his work,

*is he disciplined,

*does he take care of his body,

*how much leisure time does he need and how does he spend it. And so on.

BUT you have to know yourself in order to access others without projecting yourself on to him. 

If you need help with that, I can coach you..

But for now, just Take Your Time in order to see.

Know what you are deserving of and watch for his ability and motivation to give it to you.

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The Farce of Romance


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I love..love. I think romance is the juice that runs through the veins of all relationships. Its makes people crave each other, makes them want to fuck and give gifts and procreate. Romance and love, people think they are the same.

But they are not.

Love needs no entertaining, it’s a feeling you have when you don’t have to speak to each other. It’s a comfort that comes from just being in the space you room as the person you care about.

Yeah.

Love is ‘care’ it’s a deep concern for the person you are sharing your life with. It’s those kisses he wants even before you’ve brushed your teeth. It’s the encouragement she knows you need without you even saying a word. Love becomes instinctive when you care deeply about a person.

Romance is beguiling

Smiling…. But romance.. Romance is beguiling. It encourages feelings that you may not want to feel. It ‘creates’ emotional, coaxes them to the surface. Romance confuses all logic. He may not be good for you, but he feels good to you kind of a thing.

We all want to tune out or turn off reality at times, romance obliges that need with pleasurable escapes. Get-ways from responsibilities back home. You can have another  life for a night or maybe a whole weekend where there is all this good food you didn’t have to cook and fucking in a bed you don’t have to make up.

It would be beautiful to have both though!

All the things you want to hear are said, true or not they may be, but the honesty in it all is not a requirement for romance to pull off without a hitch.  It would be beautiful to have both though. But it would mean that you have to be close and then a little vague too. To push and pull each other in order to make things feel new.

The etymology of the word Romance is defined as:

recite; composition in vernacular; verse narrative

In other words, it’s a pleasurable story, a language of niceties, verbal entertainment 

Me? Well, I don’t want your kiss as a gesture of good manners, I want the I’ve missed you kiss. But you have to actually miss me to be able to kiss me like that. Separate rooms maybe? Go see me mom for a month? Fuck you in another country? Awwwwww lol My vagina jumped for the latter option!

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What If Your Man Finds You Unattractive?

In response to a you tube video I did yesterday discussing what to do if you are an unattractive girl as far as dating etc. A brother asked if it is wrong for him to pursue a woman he is not physically attracted too. He said that the woman has other qualities that he is interested in but the looks just don’t do it for him.

There is nothing wrong in dating someone you do not find attractive. Sometimes other traits do hold so much value that you can’t pass it up. The problem is when the other person has to develop a relationship with someone who is turned off by them physically.

If you are on the receiving end of that kind of union and you are NOT strong minded and strong willed, you WILL be treated like a charity case. The emotional high that is usually there with physical attraction, will not be there with you. Practicality rules, the bottom line will be in front every decision instead of pleasing you. You must develop mental strength here because lipstick won’t do much to create the illusion of attractiveness.

Neediness, even in attractive women, eventually becomes a repellant for her as well. You must develop independent thought. That is the only way to control a relationship were the other person thinks you are ugly. We can try to create the illusion of attractiveness by the right clothes and make up lessons, talking softly or learning poll dancing and other “body conscious” things that take your money before you have a chance to perfect them. But in the back of your mind(where the truth is) you know that no matter what you do, it’s not going to be enough if you are doing them to please another person.

You are in a charitable head space, a servant and master paradigm were you have decided to agree with the rank and file you have been placed in by the person that you are trying to please. Center yourself, Learn to please yourself and do things that build on the strengths that you already have. This is what will give you confidence, not worrying and pressing yourself to do and learn things that are only motivated by your need to distract from how  you look.

You could be a master of your life if you know how to fill your own cup. Being unemotional makes you attractive!!

When you don’t “need” on an emotional level, you simply cannot be manipulated no matter how plain you look. And this alone can make you a magnet for men. Focus on health and personal accomplishments to avoid the depression that comes from pleasing people that find you undesirable to begin with..

(I know you men read my stuff so this goes for you too: your welcome 😉

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

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