Reality T.V. HAS Made Us FAKE!

I think of Nina Simon and Lauryn Hill for instance.

Very multidimensional women.

Hard to love or should I say hard to contain… 

Loving someone requires respect. And it requires space.

Sanaa Says Marriage Ain’t That Important!

 

 

 

Sanaa Lathan And marriage
Taylor Rooks and Sanaa Lathan at CultureCon event,

 

A WEIRD obsession that black women have to get married??

Why is a woman wanting to get married now classified as a weird obsession??

Sanaa goes on to say that the divorce rate is over 50% and she doesn’t invest in anything that has such low odds..

She went on to say that black women are being pressured into marriage as well.

 

So we are pressured to get married and have a weird obsession with it as well.

Hmmm…

 

Well I will say this. With 72% of all black births from 2015 were from non married black women, how successful is this pressure on black women to get married???

 

Only 25% of Black Are Married??

Among currently married adults between the ages of 15 to 44 only 26 percent of black women were married, 45 percent of Hispanic women were married and 51 percent of white women were married (Goodwin, Mosher, and Chandra 2010

 

Over the life course, Blacks are the least likely of all racial groups to ever marry (Parker and Wang 2014).

 

We cannot subscribe to this feminism agenda.. Sanaa comes from a privileged background.

 

She is financially independent, childless and almost 50 years old. Good genetics has afforded her steady marketability with her industry BUT in real life, she would be considered a woman who has HIT A WALL.

 

Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese
Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese

Putting Marriage Last?

Putting yourself first is fabulous, and I support that 100%, but if you are unable

to have found and experienced a life partnership at almost 50 years old,

there is a probability that there is some mental instability or just narcissistic or extreme selfishness at play here.

 

There are no men dragging black women down the isle and the girlfriends of

black women are supporters, accomplices, providers of alibis

for black women who find it a more attainable goal to f*CK for money and fun and babies instead of marriage.

 

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“Women want POWER not Equality or Responsibility”~ DR Phil Valentine

That’s a problem.

To insinuate that a black woman is emotionally unstable because she earnestly wants a life partner is parasitic

in scope and an enemy to the structure of the family and our race in general.

 

The Problem With Our Black MEN

The problem we are having now is a lack of warriors and men to reset the order of society and men in general are not problem solvers. Men offer no solutions, no protection and no provisions for the black woman.

 

Therefore, black women have become their own protectors, their own providers, they educate their children on their own which leaves a residue of low self worth, hopelessness and suspiciousness of the intentions and the efficiency of black men altogether.

 

So This post is about becoming clear about what our collective aim is as black women. And we don’t need black women who have “given Up” on the goal of sacred unions to be the voice for the young black women coming up who SHAMED now  for even wanting to be marriage from women who can’t get a man to stay with them long enough to ask!

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of

The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Kanye is Saved, Kim Kardashian is NOT??

So Yeezy wants his beautiful wife to stop dressing sexy because he has

finally realized that it was “Affecting My Soul” as he puts expressed in a reality T.V. video circulating around social media.

A lot of women weighed in on the matter with many of them saying that he basically got what he paid for.

With the recent surface of his “Sunday Best” choir church service type concerts,

I think Kanye is shifting into spirituality which seems to be helping him find a moral compass of his own.

I think that we have to make room for people to change or revolve when in a relationship,

but this situation is tricky because he got with her because he was attracted to the whore archetype she displayed.

Kim K’s brand IS HER BODY! This is how she has made a fortune and it essentially Is her “talent” so to speak.

To require someone like her to stop doing what even brought him to her yard, would prove a disaster for business model.

He is looking for a deeper connection with his wife now.
The vixen, whore, sexy arch is played out in his mind and he finally sees it for what it is..

But honestly, I think this is a full circle for Kanye.
It’s just “Jesus Walks With Me” all over again for him..

Kanye West Praying on Sunday
Running from who he as always been is over and he in finally getting to do music with a meaning and a spiritual base.

This fits neatly with my point about leading with your sexuality.

It gets old ladies, and for some of us , it spoils like milk.

Kim enjoyed a long run with the shenanigans, but I think she should follow her man’s lead.

Kanye West Sundays Best
Kayne West At His Sunday Service

I think he is also sensing that she is hitting a wall now, too old for the vixen shyte and the booty must be going through changes underneath those body shapers, but he loves her.

So he’s like hey: ” We did that! Now I want you to be my “First Lady”

and we could ride this wave until the wheels fall off, and go to heaven when its all over..

Tell me what ya’ll think about this. I’d love to hear what you ladies and gents have to say about this matter!

Watch the Video OF Kayne Telling Kim What He Thinks

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of

The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Jason Pope Black Girl Pimpin

Jason Pope

White Guy Lures Black Women for Sex

This news story came across my newsfeed on facebook two days ago.

Apparently this white man Jason Pope, also known as DJ KID, has been enticing black women and minors to have sex with him in exchange for concert tickets and other medial trinkets for years.

He is an accused pedophile who has been rumored to have exposed over 600 black women to HIV also.

What’s more is that he has been arrested and charged with sex trafficking minors and has a non sexually related criminal history going all the way back to 1995.

Jason Pope
Jason Pope, Aka DJ KID

 

He BlackMailed One of His Victims

He had blackmailed an underage victim in 2017 and pressured her into performing sex acts after she left him for two weeks.

He then proceeded to trash her all over social media when he couldn’t get her to comply.

Six months later, this same victim’s mother alerted deputies that Pope was luring girls for sex off of Facebook and Snapchat by promising prizes..

So apparently this creep would pay these girls for sex then talk about the experience on social media to entertain his followers.

 

 

Dark Skin Women, Unloved Everywhere

I think what disturbs me the most about this is that he strategically targeted dark skin black girls 

and women to solicit sex for money.

Every picture I’ve seen to date with this criminal has been in the arms of a dark skin black woman.

Reading and viewing the commentary about the pictures, I’ve heard these women described as “Duties”, Section 8 Recipients and Monkeys for the most part.

Jason Pope

Speaking as a Dark skin black woman myself, I know all too well the underlying bias and prejudice that society has for us. We are the rejects even amongst our own people, the throwaways of society if you will.

And I warn black women to stop sexualizing themselves and making themselves agreeable and available to men for pleasure or a few coins.

When you are considered unattractive, there’s no moral instinct in a man to not want to harm you.

And that is the cold, hard, facts of life.

 

 

Leave Vanity ALONE

The women I coach get an earful of that medicine because I want them to be aware and prepared emotionally so that they can resist the emotional mind f*(k  people, BOTH MALE AND FEMALE with play on them.

Dark skin women are always used for sexploitation because we are like animals to men in our society whether they are white OR black.

 

And this is why I telling all my black Doves, my clients, to LEAVE VANITY ALONE.

Women end up in the arms of men like this fool because you are seeking validation and a sense of self worth that you feel only a man can give you.

You want to be wanted, even if it’s only for sex.

And the temporary affection you get during the sex act satisfies a need to feel loved. But it also puts you in harms way. You can destroy your life while chasing a fantasy. And the sorrowful part about many of us ark skin women is that we turn to sexual freedom experience worthiness and the only attention many of us get is sexual attention.

It’s a GAME, and men will play with you LIFE if you let them.

Don’t give any man the authority to affirm you, to upgrade you, to give you an identity.

Your life is your responsibility. Clean it it. Clean yourself of the filthy thoughts of low self worth through RIGHT ACTION.

 

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

How Not to Influence People

You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that Life is Journey***Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

Being a Dumb Woman IS Profitable!

Transit Time 7:32 a.m.

Well I’ve been up since 4 a.m. actually.

Early rising helps bye think about the message I want to convey.

So I thought about.

And this post came to mind because of an exchange I had about relationships with a man on my facebook page

Men LOVE to tell a woman what to think..

To them, we all have the mentality of a 10 year girl who needs to be taught what to feel and what to think..

When you start trusting yourself, your own wisdom that your experiences have taught you, your eyes will become WIDE OPEN to the fallibilities of men.

Black Women And Self esteem Issues

Your insecurities and self doubt are how men get their needs met for little to no cost, for their mission (not all but most) is to either become the source of your confidence or knock you down a peg or two if you come equip with your own self governance…

The effectiveness of the indoctrination of men who want to spoon feed you an identity will start to wane when you decide to give your VANITY a back seat.

Black women therapy

No contracts nor real commitment required if he can’t get you in your “Feelings” .
 

Being VAIN means that you are INEFFECTUAL and FEEBLE MINDED.
Being EMOTIONALLY NEEDY means that you are STUPID, not by insinuation, but as an actual, quantifiable fact!

BUUUUUUUTTTT this is what men expect, what they hope for, what they encourage you to display because YOUR stupidity guarantees THEIR fulfillment.

ISSA GAME!

A real life Game of Thrones is what it is dealing with the mentality of men.

If you are a fan of the show, you would have noticed that a Queen ONLY PLAYS DUMB to get what she needs….
PERIOD!

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“Medicine Woman”
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~Salkis Re

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Go to The Gym!

Self care supports your desires.

Self care makes you feel good about who you are.

Self care is a soup of oily habits that can also seal your fate!

But I am not talking about soaking in a bubble

bath or eating some calorically dense powdered donut.

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‘Skylar” Original Art by Salkis Re Click Here to buy

I am talking doing what I’m about to do which is head to the gym at 8 o’clock at night

to get my workout out in when I’d rather being under the covers scratching my are!

I am talking about eating the piece of fruit and some water before bed instead of greasy fries.

I’m talking about the extra hours of study or staying up late to finish a project that with get you big money.

I am talking about talking your vitamins and cutting down on your salt intake (which is soooo hard for me).

Self care is about doing what you don’t want to do in order to get the results you Do want to get.

Are you about THAT life?

GOOD.

Now Let’s Go to the gym! Wink!

“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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How To Love You!

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Self Love is a Relationship With Your Body

Sitting at my desk with my yoga gear on, all prepped for my

home yin yoga session and I’m thinking about why I am doing this.

I workout, eat right and stay of  trouble because that is the way I express love for myself.

I have come to realise that there is no separation in anything we feel, experience or suffer from..

What you put in your mouth will affect your bank account as well as your liver!

What you say out your mouth will make you feel guilty or make others feel threatened.

What you do today will affect the results you experience a year from now, even 10 year from now.

Nothing you do is a stand alone event.

You are constantly creating “Webs”, as you weave one consequence

or result into another with every decision you make.

This is the key to understanding why our lives are as they are.

Start with your body.

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“Do I Have Too?” Original Art by Salkis Re

Master your relationship with your body.

Listen to it’s arguments against some of your food choices.

Stretch your muscles when you are feeling like you are constricted.

Communicate with your physical heart, your liver, your kidneys.

Thank your cells for defending you against what should be in your body.

Think of nurturing in all that you do.


Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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The Best Way To GetWhat You Want!

Every woman should think of the “Bigger Picture”.

Never make decisions based on the moment…..

Always think of your future when you are trying to decide what to do.

You will change.

You will age.

You will be less in demand sexually later than you are now.

SO you must plan.

Do what is best for your future.

This means that you will have to withhold your pleasure.

This means that you are not a slut for instant gratification.

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Art by Salkis Re

This means that you know that anything quick diminishes in value quick as well.

So Plan.

Eat your veggies with a plan.

Have sex with a plan.

Have a baby with a plan.

Get married with a plan.

Work to finance your future plans..

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Pretty Girls Want to Join the Ugly Girls Club

Hey  There UGLY GIRL!”
Transit time 6:19 a.m. Feb.8.2019

Pull of a chair, let me have a chat with you for a moment!
You wanna know what funny Ugly Girl?

Now that I’m focusing all of my energy on YOU,

women who are NOT Ugly, who are actually attractive, pretty,

beautiful, are coming to me asking to be apart of this coalition.
They are saying that “ugly” isn’t ONLY about looks Salkis,

it’s about how you FEEL inside. Attractive women are now admitting

to feeling low self esteem, to being manipulated and used just like US.

Dark skin women

 

 

But to qualify, they are coming with vague terms like
“I have an “ugly SOUL”: can I join?
Or ” I have an “ugly VIBE”: can I join?” 
Or “I have an “ugly HEART”, can I join?
Or “I have an “ugly ATTITUDE”, can I join?
And when I ask what they mean by it,

 

 their answers reveal what they PRETEND they don’t experience!!

So now I’m stepping back to see what I can use as a teaching lesson for you UGLY GIRL.
I told you Ugly Girls, you dark skin women in particular,

that there was no such thing as “light skin privilege” and that this term used

to describe feeling rather than a FACT because it created to create division and

an emotional assumption that a certain types of women are:

immune to being abused,

low self esteem,

depression,

poor mental and physical health,

being a baby mama,

being financially unstable etc..

 

I told you that any black woman that tells you that

she enjoys light skin privilege is LYING TO YOU,
and you got angry with me and pointed fingers at me while

accusing me of being “soft” on the issue and delusional at best..

 

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

 

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

And I’m thinking to myself, how do you women do not see the “game” here?

But how could you when you’ve been boxed into an emotional lens your entire life.

I tell you that I talk to these women,

I coach these women, they come to me in confidence and tell me their struggles,

and the consensus that I’ve concluded is that there is

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

It’s funny though that now that I want to create a space for UNATTRACTIVE women,

women who aren’t unattractive want to redefine the

term by admitting their failings in life so that they can be included..

I’m all over social media spreading this message!

 

 

This is all that I talk about on all my social media platforms.

The fallacy of attractiveness being the holy grail of a woman’s life must be debunked,

yet I do know first hand that unattractive women are more times than not,

are not given a chance to reveal their true value because of

prejudice and this assumed worthlessness based on how we look…

 

So I’m going to focus THAT, on THEM, on US, because

WE need tools and support to navigate through this thing called life..

“The Ugly Girls Club”
Founder, Salkis Re
Art behind me: by Salkis Re

 

 
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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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