How Not to Influence People

How NOT To Influence People

You Cannot Influence ANYONE

if you do it from a position powerlessness.

This is why I do not engage in conversations about

why black men don’t like dark skin girls or whether “Light Skin Privilege

( fair skin women enjoy real relationships and happy lives)

is an actual thing for us to worry about, or even why

black men are going to white women or traveling

outside the U.S. to find exotic women to marry…

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What other woman experience is NOT a measure of what you can’t get or what you will experience yourself!

The only way you could have similar resultsis if you mirror how that other woman thinks, And I’m not interested (nor should you be) in believing that YOU cannot have what YOU DESERVE TO HAVE!

Why are you parroting off talking points from anyone who tells you that you don’t have a chance in hell to get what you want?

Do You value freedom?

Don’t you want to feel free??

Well what is freedom?

FREEDOM Doing what you want

when you want

with who you want!

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Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis RE

Freedom To Me Means HAVING A CHOICE!

And your first step to being able to choose what you want, is to OWN WHAT YOU WANT!

Meaning, don’t ever again feel ashamed for wanting something

whether that be a millionaire husband, having a lots of your own money,

having a child, being attractive, or living your life purpose!

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Art by Salkis Re Click the Image

You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that Life is Journey***

Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

You have to live on purpose just like you did when you went to

school everyday to get your degree, or go to the gym workout..

You do things to get a forking RESULT, not for a journey!!

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Why Should You Heed My Advice?

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“Life Coach”

“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”
~Salkis Re

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Being a Dumb Woman IS Profitable!

Transit Time 7:32 a.m.

Well I’ve been up since 4 a.m. actually.

Early rising helps bye think about the message I want to convey.

So I thought about.

And this post came to mind because of an exchange I had about relationships with a man on my facebook page

Men LOVE to tell a woman what to think..

To them, we all have the mentality of a 10 year girl who needs to be taught what to feel and what to think..

When you start trusting yourself, your own wisdom that your experiences have taught you, your eyes will become WIDE OPEN to the fallibilities of men.

Black Women And Self esteem Issues

Your insecurities and self doubt are how men get their needs met for little to no cost, for their mission (not all but most) is to either become the source of your confidence or knock you down a peg or two if you come equip with your own self governance…

The effectiveness of the indoctrination of men who want to spoon feed you an identity will start to wane when you decide to give your VANITY a back seat.

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No contracts nor real commitment required if he can’t get you in your “Feelings” .
 

Being VAIN means that you are INEFFECTUAL and FEEBLE MINDED.
Being EMOTIONALLY NEEDY means that you are STUPID, not by insinuation, but as an actual, quantifiable fact!

BUUUUUUUTTTT this is what men expect, what they hope for, what they encourage you to display because YOUR stupidity guarantees THEIR fulfillment.

ISSA GAME!

A real life Game of Thrones is what it is dealing with the mentality of men.

If you are a fan of the show, you would have noticed that a Queen ONLY PLAYS DUMB to get what she needs….
PERIOD!

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“Medicine Woman”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Coach”
“Writer”
“Poet”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

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Go to The Gym!

Self care supports your desires.

Self care makes you feel good about who you are.

Self care is a soup of oily habits that can also seal your fate!

But I am not talking about soaking in a bubble

bath or eating some calorically dense powdered donut.

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‘Skylar” Original Art by Salkis Re Click Here to buy

I am talking doing what I’m about to do which is head to the gym at 8 o’clock at night

to get my workout out in when I’d rather being under the covers scratching my are!

I am talking about eating the piece of fruit and some water before bed instead of greasy fries.

I’m talking about the extra hours of study or staying up late to finish a project that with get you big money.

I am talking about talking your vitamins and cutting down on your salt intake (which is soooo hard for me).

Self care is about doing what you don’t want to do in order to get the results you Do want to get.

Are you about THAT life?

GOOD.

Now Let’s Go to the gym! Wink!

“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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How To Love You!

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Self Love is a Relationship With Your Body

Sitting at my desk with my yoga gear on, all prepped for my

home yin yoga session and I’m thinking about why I am doing this.

I workout, eat right and stay of  trouble because that is the way I express love for myself.

I have come to realise that there is no separation in anything we feel, experience or suffer from..

What you put in your mouth will affect your bank account as well as your liver!

What you say out your mouth will make you feel guilty or make others feel threatened.

What you do today will affect the results you experience a year from now, even 10 year from now.

Nothing you do is a stand alone event.

You are constantly creating “Webs”, as you weave one consequence

or result into another with every decision you make.

This is the key to understanding why our lives are as they are.

Start with your body.

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“Do I Have Too?” Original Art by Salkis Re

Master your relationship with your body.

Listen to it’s arguments against some of your food choices.

Stretch your muscles when you are feeling like you are constricted.

Communicate with your physical heart, your liver, your kidneys.

Thank your cells for defending you against what should be in your body.

Think of nurturing in all that you do.


Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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The Best Way To GetWhat You Want!

Every woman should think of the “Bigger Picture”.

Never make decisions based on the moment…..

Always think of your future when you are trying to decide what to do.

You will change.

You will age.

You will be less in demand sexually later than you are now.

SO you must plan.

Do what is best for your future.

This means that you will have to withhold your pleasure.

This means that you are not a slut for instant gratification.

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Art by Salkis Re

This means that you know that anything quick diminishes in value quick as well.

So Plan.

Eat your veggies with a plan.

Have sex with a plan.

Have a baby with a plan.

Get married with a plan.

Work to finance your future plans..

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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Pretty Girls Want to Join the Ugly Girls Club

Hey  There UGLY GIRL!”
Transit time 6:19 a.m. Feb.8.2019

Pull of a chair, let me have a chat with you for a moment!
You wanna know what funny Ugly Girl?

Now that I’m focusing all of my energy on YOU,

women who are NOT Ugly, who are actually attractive, pretty,

beautiful, are coming to me asking to be apart of this coalition.
They are saying that “ugly” isn’t ONLY about looks Salkis,

it’s about how you FEEL inside. Attractive women are now admitting

to feeling low self esteem, to being manipulated and used just like US.

Dark skin women

 

 

But to qualify, they are coming with vague terms like
“I have an “ugly SOUL”: can I join?
Or ” I have an “ugly VIBE”: can I join?” 
Or “I have an “ugly HEART”, can I join?
Or “I have an “ugly ATTITUDE”, can I join?
And when I ask what they mean by it,

 

 their answers reveal what they PRETEND they don’t experience!!

So now I’m stepping back to see what I can use as a teaching lesson for you UGLY GIRL.
I told you Ugly Girls, you dark skin women in particular,

that there was no such thing as “light skin privilege” and that this term used

to describe feeling rather than a FACT because it created to create division and

an emotional assumption that a certain types of women are:

immune to being abused,

low self esteem,

depression,

poor mental and physical health,

being a baby mama,

being financially unstable etc..

 

I told you that any black woman that tells you that

she enjoys light skin privilege is LYING TO YOU,
and you got angry with me and pointed fingers at me while

accusing me of being “soft” on the issue and delusional at best..

 

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

 

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

And I’m thinking to myself, how do you women do not see the “game” here?

But how could you when you’ve been boxed into an emotional lens your entire life.

I tell you that I talk to these women,

I coach these women, they come to me in confidence and tell me their struggles,

and the consensus that I’ve concluded is that there is

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

It’s funny though that now that I want to create a space for UNATTRACTIVE women,

women who aren’t unattractive want to redefine the

term by admitting their failings in life so that they can be included..

I’m all over social media spreading this message!

 

 

This is all that I talk about on all my social media platforms.

The fallacy of attractiveness being the holy grail of a woman’s life must be debunked,

yet I do know first hand that unattractive women are more times than not,

are not given a chance to reveal their true value because of

prejudice and this assumed worthlessness based on how we look…

 

So I’m going to focus THAT, on THEM, on US, because

WE need tools and support to navigate through this thing called life..

“The Ugly Girls Club”
Founder, Salkis Re
Art behind me: by Salkis Re

 

 
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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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3 Ways That Your Emotional Dysfunction Took Form!!

3 Ways That Your Emotional Dysfunction Took Form!!
 

1#In The Womb

 Your emotions are formed in the womb.
Even before you are born, your seat feeling sadness,
excitement and fear.
Not only do you inherit your mother’s eye color and your father’s height,
you inherit their emotional imbalances too.
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“More Love” , Art by Salkis Re
 
 

2# Then Your Family Condemns You

 When you are born, then what you call your ‘family”

starts working on your self esteem, destroying your confidence,
shaming your tastes in food or clothing,
telling you that you look funny or flat out unattractive.
 
 

3# Then Your Lover Finished Breaking What’s Left of Your Self Esteem

 
 And then whatever is left of you is destroyed
by a romantic relationship
that ends in you feeling a broken heart,
unworthy of love and the cap stone on the
confirmation of all you’ve experienced
from the previous two on this list.
 
Reclamation of your mind, body and soul is about reject EVERYTHING you know to be true.
You must be reborn mentally in order to heal..
 
 

 

Why should you listen to me?

 

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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Dark Skin Women Get No Love From Dark Skin Men???

One of my viewers made a comment on my “Are Dark Skin Men The Enemy”
I did that video because Sooooooo many dark skin women have sentiments of
struggle and trauma around getting a dark skin man
want her or keeping the relationship positive and respectful.

She Stated:
“I was told by a Light Skin woman that her mother
told her to get the dark skin
man you could find and he would work like a “slave”
and cater to you, then you won’t have to work.
She married the dark skin man but she’s “in love”
with a light skin man who treats her like shyte!!”
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life coach for black women

YOU ARE SLAVES to THEM!!


I told you men previously that a whole LOT of you are work mules and called
a stupid MONKEYS when these women huddle in secret sister circles to
swap tactics and brag about what you do for them.
Spiritual Life Coach for Black Women
Your Self Esteem Coach: Salkis Re


I am Not Blaming Light Skin Women


The problem is not in your choice to love NOR is it with Light Skin women,
it’s the extra verbal condemning of women who more times than not actually
HAVE or COULD HAVE “genuine” feelings of endearment and concern for you.
You’ll call dark women names (and clown us WITH your light SKIN girlfriend)
because you are of the impression that you are MONKEY STATUS EXEMPT
because you can throw her a few yards and have a nice ride???
How Sway??

You will Choose A Woman Who Does Not Want You Again!!


You think that because you can make her moan
that you are disqualified from the classification you put dark women in??

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Lol This “enthusiastic” dating style has got y’all running after women who

are fucking other men behind your back, taking
YOUR money to help the man -she actually IS in love with- pay a few bills and so on..

Don’t I always say: “We are always looking for someone
BETTER than ourselves” And that this is exactly why we get out hearts broken!!!
Carry On

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Who Am I?

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
Need an emergency coaching session?
Have a question? goto- salkis@iloveherart.com

“The Pressure to Look Sexy!

“The Pressure to Look Sexy”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen, I’ve been accused of being undercover feminist lesbian when I get into my cautionary rants;

the resistance usually comes from men who feel in threatening a reduction in their prospects/prey or women

who believe they are more attractive than I am which makes my message inapplicable to them…

The reoccurring theme here, the message within all of my writings is that you see the truth of how your emotions become weaponized and used against you.
The pressure to “look valuable” is real.

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This is why we wear the form fitting clothes, plaster makeup on our faces, post selfies, wear weaves and high heels that some of can’t even walk in..
Somebody told you that you had to do this in order to be relevant and “considered”.

And MOST of us are looking like desperate fools in clown makeup and

clothing with spandex material in that that makes you assume you’ve bought the right size.

Shaming here?
No. Waking here!
Wake up to the fact that you are in a game that’s set up for you to lose,

because when you lose (of feel lost) you turn into a consumer/believer/minion

for those that make sales to help cure your low self esteem.

African Art by Salkis RE
African art by Salkis Re

What’s the truth here though?
The truth is that we are different, but different doesn’t necessarily mean better or worse; it simply means that I cannot be you and you cannot be me…

I’m interested in sisterhood.

 

I’m interested in sisterhood . Though I cried it down as an impossible task -because women are emotional conn artists- I am renewing my vision for this because it is needed.

We are sick, depressed, suicidal, impoverished in every way because we sit around telling lies to each other, initiating new recruits into old sorrows,making it seem like even the mistakes you made in your life was “all planned out before your birth”.

Where are the healers?
Where are the watchers?

 

 

Where are the CRONES to help and guide young women?
Are you sitting around to busy plucking your hormonal chin hair to care about the ones coming after you?

Looking good is a blessing and a curse for those of us who can transform to an acceptable level;

you WILL be picked, used, trophied, and discarded more than those if us who have minimal options.


African Art by Salkis RE
African Art by Salkis Re

You Can’t Quite Level Up

And the ones of who can’t quite “level up” feel that we live without luck or grace because the prospects are low,

so we go to extremes, often corrupting our health while making fool-hearty investments in so-called improvements,

and the only return you get on your alterations is laughed and more Usury than your previous looks allowed for..

So both spectrums meet pain and degradation, and the reason we do is because we do not help each other.

We rate,

categorize,

exclude,

and diminish each other’s value by forming social cliques where women

that aren’t a threat to each other just pass around lies and swap war stories…
And so it goes..
But I’m looking for my lost sheep just like Jesus did..

I’m here to help with the bitter BLACK PILL…
Carry On..

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Mentor”
“EMPATH”

If you need private mentoring in all matters of womanhood including health ad wellness, weightless, self esteem, life purpose, relationship advice, please reach out ay:

Salkis@iloveherart.com

There’s Nothing Special About You!

 

 

Beautiful Black Women

 

OK…
When I tell women that they are not “special”, they’re offended but this is indubitably true.
A woman stated to me that she was heart broken because her man left her for another white woman.

“Another” meaning he was previously married to one before that wife passed away.
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Well you knew when you met him that his preference was white women because he married one,

or are you devastated because he LEFT you or because he left you for a WHITE woman?

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I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman who dates or is married interracially who doesn’t make an announcement about this

“unique” and  special type of relationship she has.

It’s ALWAYS a point they make even though the question if ethnicity or race is brought up.
You think you are “extra special” because a man that “shouldn’t” love a woman like you does!????!!!??!!

👉IGNORING This Message Could Result In you Spinning Your Wheels and being PLAYED Again!!

****Some of you “dime pieces” are going to have a hard time

hearing this because men “appear” to worship you…

But they don’t see you pep talking yourself and obsessing in the mirror ritualistically every single day. You assume your beauty makes you a Goddess, but did every man you faced think so too?

Didn’t Cierra get “Baby Mothered by Future??

Didn’t Beyonce is cheated on by JayZ??

Didn’t Hallie Barry lose her hearing after getting punched in her head??

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World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

👉 See, we have to stop believing that we are the “best” anything when we come into a man’s life.

This is the game they run to stroke your fragile ego, soothe the worry and doubt

most women have about their looks, all so they can have access to you!
👉 Most people, men particularly have a “type”, and chances are high that you are

JUST LIKE MOST OTHER WOMEN he’s enjoyed sexually,

and you say the same fuccing things intellectually or and you look

the same aesthetically as every other woman he’s fell in love with!

So no my sweet, sweet daughters, you are NOT “special” :YOU ARE SIMPLY “NEW”.

Now take this BLACK PILL and wash it down with the glass of wisdom.
Carry On…

 

Black Women with Thick Locs

Who Am I?

“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
“Mentor”
“Lifecoach”
“Mother”
“The Crone”
~Salkis Re

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