Achieving Your Goals Is Not Done With Vision Boards!
Authenticity is overrated.
And it will halt all your goals.
And people will shame you for pretending.
And you’ll feel ashamed for pretending.
Then you will go back to what you know.
Then realize -AGAIN- that it doesn’t work.
Then you’ll revisit trying to change.
And you’ll conclude that being unlike the real you is better.
Now all that’s left, is to be that pretender
until you forget that it’s not what you are….
It might feel icky to be a fraud,
but that only because you believe that everyone around is telling
you the truth while being themselves.
You are being humored every DAY.
People are polite, act like they are interested in what you have to say,
some even pretend to be impressed
and attracted to you.
And here you are,
afraid to fail them by adopting a personality to fix your own life,
to get you results that could make you better.
So tell me this, how do you change while staying the same?
How do you grow while staying the same?
How can you get something you’ve never gotten before while having the same mentality?
Pathologies are created because of this “feeling”,
and if you take inventory of your emotional state
when you are “in love” you will see that you mistake
“fear and anxiety” for LOVE.
Those “butterflies” in your stomach,
Those “butterflies” in your stomach, your restlessness
and inability to focus on anything else but him and his dik. This is emotional instability forming,
but these women out here won’t tell you that.
You become emotionally unstable and exhibit signs of addiction,
insanity and codependency when you fall in love.
1-makes you neurotic,
The “I can’t live without him” makes you neurotic,
suspicious, anxious, needy,
as you throw healthy boundaries and your
standards out the window. I read most of your posts quietly.
I watch how you take trips you cannot afford to
“escape” yourselves or “find” happiness.
I watch some of you brag about how gangsta
you are and you don’t take no shit of men,
but every two seconds strike a pose in tight
clothes to get the attention
and validation of these same men you claim
to have sexual control over.
👉We are scammers.. Yeah… We are.. I include myself and can admit mistakes too,
after all, a healer usually has something
to heal before stepping out to heal others.
Painful truths here,
Painful truths here, some of you will say that, but I prefer to call this a sound bite or an excerpt from the “GODDESS compendium”, a manual for emotional control. Have a look at your free spirited girlfriend and really observe their temperament.
Is she ever relaxed?
Does she talk fast?
Does she need to be chewing something in her mouth constantly.
Does she ever express satisfaction in anything or anyone? The answer: NO!
She’s constantly spinning.
Looking for the next hit, the next drink,
the next dik to make her feel less invisible…
And so you have it, your “food” for the day.
This not something I wanted to say,
it is something I HAD to say, for I am on assignment.
My goal isn’t to make you feel good,
there’s enough distractions out here to serve that purpose.
My goal is to shake the shit out of you,
to help you wake up from your coma
so that you are never a doormat for any man ever again... Carry On…
Listen, I’ve been accused of being undercover feminist lesbian when I get into my cautionary rants;
the resistance usually comes from men who feel in threatening a reduction in their prospects/prey or women
who believe they are more attractive than I am which makes my message inapplicable to them…
The reoccurring theme here, the message within all of my writings is that you see the truth of how your emotions become weaponized and used against you.
The pressure to “look valuable” is real.
This is why we wear the form fitting clothes, plaster makeup on our faces, post selfies, wear weaves and high heels that some of can’t even walk in..
Somebody told you that you had to do this in order to be relevant and “considered”.
And MOST of us are looking like desperate fools in clown makeup and
clothing with spandex material in that that makes you assume you’ve bought the right size.
No. Waking here!
Wake up to the fact that you are in a game that’s set up for you to lose,
because when you lose (of feel lost) you turn into a consumer/believer/minion
for those that make sales to help cure your low self esteem.
What’s the truth here though?
The truth is that we are different, but different doesn’t necessarily mean better or worse; it simply means that I cannot be you and you cannot be me…
I’m interested in sisterhood . Though I cried it down as an impossible task -because women are emotional conn artists- I am renewing my vision for this because it is needed.
We are sick, depressed, suicidal, impoverished in every way because we sit around telling lies to each other, initiating new recruits into old sorrows,making it seem like even the mistakes you made in your life was “all planned out before your birth”.
Where are the healers? Where are the watchers?
Where are the CRONES to help and guide young women?
Are you sitting around to busy plucking your hormonal chin hair to care about the ones coming after you?
Looking good is a blessing and a curse for those of us who can transform to an acceptable level;
you WILL be picked, used, trophied, and discarded more than those if us who have minimal options.
You Can’t Quite Level Up
And the ones of who can’t quite “level up” feel that we live without luck or grace because the prospects are low,
so we go to extremes, often corrupting our health while making fool-hearty investments in so-called improvements,
and the only return you get on your alterations is laughed and more Usury than your previous looks allowed for..
So both spectrums meet pain and degradation, and the reason we do is because we do not help each other.
and diminish each other’s value by forming social cliques where women
that aren’t a threat to each other just pass around lies and swap war stories… And so it goes..
But I’m looking for my lost sheep just like Jesus did..
I’m here to help with the bitter BLACK PILL…
“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!
Written by Salkis Re
So word on the street is that NON black men love and appreciate black women more than our own black brothers do. The word on the street is that all black men are “colorists” and prefer light skin black women with straight hair and acquiline features. Word on the street is that black men HATE women who have dark skin and “nappy hair”.
This is just the word on the street, so I can’t definitively say that I agree that ALL our brothers feel this way NOR that these accusations hold no merit.
Well, I have been slighted, passed over and berated for the tone of my flesh by my “brothers”. I have been called a big-lipped, MonKey by brothers before. I have been exploited and degraded by my brothers because of how I looked..
My SISTERS did all those things to me too, lest the sexual part. There’s a Big, Fat, Game being played here.
The Name of this game is called:
“Point the Finger”.
And all this “THEY don’t love us” talk, if we are going to be totally transparent, should include SISTERS TOO!
We don’t love ourselves.
And sadly even some of our chocolate sistren shout self praises around how “exceptional” they are because they have smaller noses and lips “IN SPITE” of being dark skin. What is she really saying here: I may have darker skin put my features are like white women, so I’m NOT THAT UGLY!!
We class and caste our sisters with as much fervor as any man outside our circles. We say we are abused by them but offer no emotional refuge for our castaways to run too.
We say “Well honey, truth be told is that it’s not because you are dark, it’s because you are an ugly woman who HAPPENS to be dark”.
The Game is a Full Cord Press!
If you are a dark skin woman facing travail because of your tone AND features, alas my love, you have NO REAL ALLIES.
You are alone in your sorrows, but that is not necessarily a bad thing.
You simply are given by the grace of nature an opportunity to be a “sovereign thinker”. No one wants you to be a member of their club, but this means you get to be totally YOUR SELF instead of assimulating to the pressure and anguish that EVERY WOMAN puts herself through to conform to the rules of society and the social clubs they desperately want to be apart of.
You are alone.
And the beauty of that is that YOU have Card Blanche authority over the rules and regulations of your Mental Terrain..
And trust me, if you seize the opportunity that being on the outside of the pretentious, degradation fest that most of our women put themselves through, you will become a GOD/DESS over your precious gift called YOUR LIFE!!!
“Spiritual Advisor” “Artist” “Writer” ~Salkis Re
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Well my play husband wrote a 7 page letter in rebuttal to his ex wife Kelis and her claimed of physical abuse during their 5 year marriage.
Kelis stated in an interview that Was would imitate physical fights with her while under the influence of alcohol.
She stated she new about his extra marital affairs that went on for 2 years during their marriage, but she didn’t decided to leave because of that: “The cheating was more like the icing on the cake, she states.
Now I render when they had gotten a divorce and I honestly don’t remember hearing any bad blood between them, actually
I was impressed with the class that Kelis displayed when asked about what happened because she remained tight lipped about it.
Fast forward to today and the whole cat is out the bag, shyte slinging everywhere as each are publicly accusing the other of abusive behavior.
Nas’s accusation cut deep and really hit home about domestic abuse and how easy
it is to take advantage of another person who shoes emotions dependency for you.
He said he suspected she was crazy but she was “BeautifuL” , so I guess her beauty gave her character a pass, at least for a while.
Other things mentioned were her uncooperativeness with him in arranging to see his son and how he even faked a reconciliation with her in order to spend time with his son.
He said Kelis “fat shamed” his daughter from a previous relationship and verbally abused her often.
Its a mess.
A big mess!
I love Nas as an artist and I don’t him personally, so I would judge his character or takes sides with Kelis on her allegations against him.
But I have a message to men and women about choosing life partners.
When deciding to marry someone, you are putting yourself into a contractual commitment that holds more weight than a hand shake or a promise ring.
You are in fact stating that you are willing to risk potential loss or enjoy potential gain by cutting yourself off from any other options(dating) out here.
Do you weight the value or the compensation package of this crucial decision on looks, muscles, big booty, big d&*k or even money ?
Making decisions based on superficial things often leads to buyer’s remorse and heart breaking regret,
over time because a decision wasn’t made based on actual value inside the box but the Chiny packaging outside of it.
I have said this before that pretty women are often accused and assumed to be crazy, light skin women in particular seem to have a reputation for emotional instability.
But you GUYS say that the Coo-Coo FOR COCO PUFFS usually makes the sex even hotter!!
So listen guys, I know you want a woman who is beautiful, I know this is a top priority for most if not all of you whether your financial means can support it or not.
But you must weigh her character, you must observe and pace yourself just like I tell women to do when dating men. Especially you guys who have a lot to lose
. There are great women out here that you won’t give a chance to because she is not “pretty” enough to make a serious consideration for,
women who would bend over backwards to see to your comforts and to make sure that you are well fed,
that your secrets are protected, that will work just as has as you do to keep the house in order so that you come home to an oasis away from the grind.
But you will never know their sweetness because you don’t see their value.
This goes for women too of course…
IF you suspect that there is emotional instability in the woman you are interested in, take a pause, retreat,
RUN if necessary! And do not look back. MANY MANY MANY women hide their emotional unsteadiness behind their physical attractiveness.
I have said MANY MANY MANY times that attractiveness does not equate to SANITY or INTELLIGENCE or HIGH SELF ESTEEM either.
And I mean this with all the muscle I can flex
Women are bewitching, beautiful women even more so…
But who you MARRY has to be more than a pretty face and good sex. If she is to be the mother of your children
and potentially someone you are tied to in one way or another for life, give care in that she is mentally fit
to mother your children and provide the emotional stability and virtue I think you guys want..
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