How To Love You!

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Self Love is a Relationship With Your Body

Sitting at my desk with my yoga gear on, all prepped for my

home yin yoga session and I’m thinking about why I am doing this.

I workout, eat right and stay of  trouble because that is the way I express love for myself.

I have come to realise that there is no separation in anything we feel, experience or suffer from..

What you put in your mouth will affect your bank account as well as your liver!

What you say out your mouth will make you feel guilty or make others feel threatened.

What you do today will affect the results you experience a year from now, even 10 year from now.

Nothing you do is a stand alone event.

You are constantly creating “Webs”, as you weave one consequence

or result into another with every decision you make.

This is the key to understanding why our lives are as they are.

Start with your body.

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“Do I Have Too?” Original Art by Salkis Re

Master your relationship with your body.

Listen to it’s arguments against some of your food choices.

Stretch your muscles when you are feeling like you are constricted.

Communicate with your physical heart, your liver, your kidneys.

Thank your cells for defending you against what should be in your body.

Think of nurturing in all that you do.


Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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The Best Way To GetWhat You Want!

Every woman should think of the “Bigger Picture”.

Never make decisions based on the moment…..

Always think of your future when you are trying to decide what to do.

You will change.

You will age.

You will be less in demand sexually later than you are now.

SO you must plan.

Do what is best for your future.

This means that you will have to withhold your pleasure.

This means that you are not a slut for instant gratification.

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Art by Salkis Re

This means that you know that anything quick diminishes in value quick as well.

So Plan.

Eat your veggies with a plan.

Have sex with a plan.

Have a baby with a plan.

Get married with a plan.

Work to finance your future plans..

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Why Women Stay With Bad Men!

Someone “made” you feel ugly?
Some “made” you feel insecure?
Someone “made” your worthless?
All he did was express how he felt about you..
He gave you his perspective and packaged it with a sales pitch.

He habitually stated that pitch until your resistance withered away.

Why didn’t you defend yourself?
Why didn’t YOU walk away?
You Want the TRUTH?

Because he never told you a “lie”!!
He told you everything you ALREADY believed about yourself!
And though his words hurt to hear, it made you feel comfortable and

even “Closer” to him because you shared the same feelings about yourself…

FACTS!

Don’t blame him for holding up the mirror.
The question to ask is:
How do you feel about you?
If you Answer that honestly, your healing can begin…

So what do we want to do here exactly.

What you want to do is start clearing up misconceptions and opinions and “Truths”

that do not support the narrative you WANT to believe in!

I have said it before, and I will say it yet again.

Everything you think that you are is “Make Believe”,

it starts off as a feeling,

then from that feeling inspires an action

then from the action, you create a habit.

Then before long,

you’ve done or thought  whatever it is for so long that it moves as a truth in your life,

dictating and altering your perception of your reality..

We want to rewire our brains.

This is how you heal from ANYTHING. I don’t care what it is.

The depression, the disease, the lack ALL stem from your beliefs.

And your beliefs are NOTHING BUT DECISIONS MADE OVER AND OVER AGAIN..

You can start to change by become “AWARE” of everything you feel.

“Becoming aware means that you start catching yourself in the mist of doing something habitual. 


That negative self talk, or going for that piece of cake you don’t need,

you see what you are doing and from there you will want to start to questioning your behavior.

Why am I saying this about myself?

Why am I grabbing the chocolate cake when I know it makes me feel unstable?

What is it that I am looking to feel?

Am I trying to relieve my anxiety?

Am I trying to distract myself from pain?

What you want to start doing in begin to FEEL everything so

that you have to opportunity to question everything that you feel.


To pose a question breaks the script!

It breaks your confidence in your “Truth”.

It requires you to THINK!

THINKING is what will strengthen you!

Why?

Because thinking requires that you find TRUE answers…

THINKING brings the gift of resolution.

THINKING means that you get to change the narrative

when you figured out that what you believe is bull s%Jt!

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist,

AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities

and throw that bitch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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Pretty Girls Want to Join the Ugly Girls Club

Hey  There UGLY GIRL!”
Transit time 6:19 a.m. Feb.8.2019

Pull of a chair, let me have a chat with you for a moment!
You wanna know what funny Ugly Girl?

Now that I’m focusing all of my energy on YOU,

women who are NOT Ugly, who are actually attractive, pretty,

beautiful, are coming to me asking to be apart of this coalition.
They are saying that “ugly” isn’t ONLY about looks Salkis,

it’s about how you FEEL inside. Attractive women are now admitting

to feeling low self esteem, to being manipulated and used just like US.

Dark skin women

 

 

But to qualify, they are coming with vague terms like
“I have an “ugly SOUL”: can I join?
Or ” I have an “ugly VIBE”: can I join?” 
Or “I have an “ugly HEART”, can I join?
Or “I have an “ugly ATTITUDE”, can I join?
And when I ask what they mean by it,

 

 their answers reveal what they PRETEND they don’t experience!!

So now I’m stepping back to see what I can use as a teaching lesson for you UGLY GIRL.
I told you Ugly Girls, you dark skin women in particular,

that there was no such thing as “light skin privilege” and that this term used

to describe feeling rather than a FACT because it created to create division and

an emotional assumption that a certain types of women are:

immune to being abused,

low self esteem,

depression,

poor mental and physical health,

being a baby mama,

being financially unstable etc..

 

I told you that any black woman that tells you that

she enjoys light skin privilege is LYING TO YOU,
and you got angry with me and pointed fingers at me while

accusing me of being “soft” on the issue and delusional at best..

 

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

 

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

And I’m thinking to myself, how do you women do not see the “game” here?

But how could you when you’ve been boxed into an emotional lens your entire life.

I tell you that I talk to these women,

I coach these women, they come to me in confidence and tell me their struggles,

and the consensus that I’ve concluded is that there is

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

It’s funny though that now that I want to create a space for UNATTRACTIVE women,

women who aren’t unattractive want to redefine the

term by admitting their failings in life so that they can be included..

I’m all over social media spreading this message!

 

 

This is all that I talk about on all my social media platforms.

The fallacy of attractiveness being the holy grail of a woman’s life must be debunked,

yet I do know first hand that unattractive women are more times than not,

are not given a chance to reveal their true value because of

prejudice and this assumed worthlessness based on how we look…

 

So I’m going to focus THAT, on THEM, on US, because

WE need tools and support to navigate through this thing called life..

“The Ugly Girls Club”
Founder, Salkis Re
Art behind me: by Salkis Re

 

 
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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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Beauty for Black Women


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So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

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“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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Natural Beauty Is Not In You!

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

Everything you feel about yourself is wrong,

corrupt,

self serving,

addictive and dangerous.

This society will not give us the balance and the peace we are looking for.

And the road to wellness requires that you pull apart everything that you assume is normal in your lives.

We were taught how to love each other, how to have sex with each other and

most if not all of what we know about love and sex is wrong.

 

We have now a deep seeded feeling of guilt and inadequacy.

We want desperately to be like other people who are other than what we are.

And even within our own so-called black community we

have caste systems in place designed to differentiate women by features,

The worth of a black woman is measured from how her outer shell is formed.

 

 

The goodness of her heart is not treasured and appreciated.

His focus on your backside has roots in homosexuality and to be truthful, and

the appetites of men these days in many ways is suspect and not as “heterosexual” as we are made to think it is…

 

 

You are running around here trying to be like men because you are scared of being hurt and manipulated. And you mimic the toxicity of men which is double jeopardy in itself..

All of us are out of our minds in one way or another..
And its time to get back to basics and the love we want to feel will come…
Your Self Love Coach
~Salkis Re

 

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

Pretty But You Sick???

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If your goal is to truly love yourself

 

If your goal is to truly love yourself and you are not adding

what you eat into your transformation cocktail, then you are

playing games and fooling yourself at the same time too.

Holistic living requires that your diet be in line with nature.

 

Triggered to Eat Junk Food

This is a very emotional thing for us because

EVERYTHING we do is triggered by our emotions.

I don’t know anyone who eats for nutrition purposes.

 

Food Porn

We have to dress the food, lay it out really nicely,

make it look attractive and appetizing in order to want to eat it.

Ad this food porn only further makes us emotionally

dependent on the soothing that we think we are getting for food.

 

If you are eating for nutrition then salt would not be apart of your dish.

I know I know, food tastes like shit without salt,

, or so our tastes buds have been trained to believe.

 

 

You may not being doing crack, but the food you are eating a daily

basis is just as much of am addictive drug as any line of cocaine.

Salt is a chemical, it is not a food.

Sugar is a chemical. It is not a food.

Cooking oil is a chemical, it is not a food

 All manner of imbalances happen when you consume these chemicals, from colds to cancer.

 

If A baby Can’t Eat, Neither Should You!

The general rule here is if you can’t feed it to a baby or eat a bowl of it, or feed it to an elderly person,

THEN YOU SHOULD NOT BE EATING IT!!

The journey to self love REALLY BEGINS NOW.

Are you ready??

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

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The Ugly Girls Club!!

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The narrative that you have to look a certain to be classified as a woman is agreeing with people who profit from your violation of how NATURE MADE YOU.


Stop cowering down and watering down your magic!!
Rise black bird, RISE!!

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Embracing What You Are is TRUE POWER!

You can pretend that you mimic people for whatever reason makes you comfortable.

Maybe you do it for the job, maybe you do it cause HE likes it,

maybe you do it to influence people and win friends…
But whatever the reason is, when you do this as an “Ugly Girl”,

you are sending a message that you are:


INFERIOR,
compliant,
malleable,
a subordinate,
SECOND BEST,
apologetic,
regretful,
WORRIED

dissatisfied,


and unworthy of what they have to offer
AS YOU ARE!!!

We don’t have any more time to entertain foolish thinking like this.

You have let go of your regret and shame for not measuring up to what THEY SAY..

They don’t dictate what you deserve in this life!!

Your entire life is being wasted in your slumber and

constant day dreaming of being other than what you are. 

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

People will assume to know your worth

People will assume to know your worth based on face value, they will

contemplate your level of intelligence, cleverness, self esteem and

background based on your presentation.

We cannot do anything about what they conclude us to be at face value.

BUT you have ABSOLUTE POWER in what you agree with. 

And most of you have that nasty habit of agreeing with your oppressors

whether it be racist bigots or the man your

screwing because you want to be ACCEPTED even if it kills you!


No more my dear..
Stop casting your pearls to swine
GET UP!!!!!
Self Love Coach, Salkis RE

The Ugly Girls Club.com” COMING SOON!

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So if you are not quite ready for liberation road and you just want to get your feel wet for now while you. build up inner strength, I can help guide you in that process.

But I want you to know that you have to reform yourself here. The habits of thinking the way you do, will need to be shaken no stirred my love..


Black Women with Thick Locs

Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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3 Ways That Your Emotional Dysfunction Took Form!!

3 Ways That Your Emotional Dysfunction Took Form!!
 

1#In The Womb

 Your emotions are formed in the womb.
Even before you are born, your seat feeling sadness,
excitement and fear.
Not only do you inherit your mother’s eye color and your father’s height,
you inherit their emotional imbalances too.
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“More Love” , Art by Salkis Re
 
 

2# Then Your Family Condemns You

 When you are born, then what you call your ‘family”

starts working on your self esteem, destroying your confidence,
shaming your tastes in food or clothing,
telling you that you look funny or flat out unattractive.
 
 

3# Then Your Lover Finished Breaking What’s Left of Your Self Esteem

 
 And then whatever is left of you is destroyed
by a romantic relationship
that ends in you feeling a broken heart,
unworthy of love and the cap stone on the
confirmation of all you’ve experienced
from the previous two on this list.
 
Reclamation of your mind, body and soul is about reject EVERYTHING you know to be true.
You must be reborn mentally in order to heal..
 
 

 

Why should you listen to me?

 

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

 
 
 
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Making Decisions Based On What You Are Is A Mistake!!

Young Women.

Let me talk to you.
What our society will influence you to do is to enjoy the moment.

Your friends, maybe even your well-meaning but unwise mother

will push you into believing that you are to young to plan for your future today.

Focus on your Career

(when what you really have is a “job” not a career) is what they say.

Travel the world

(and you spend money you had to save the whole year to purchase a trip you can’t afford truly to take)
DO YOU, is what they exclaim over and over again,

and the doing of YOU evolves around instantaneous

pleasures and making decisions based on what you are at this moment..

Let me explain this to you. Make decisions based on

what you want your “future” to be, NOT on what you are right now.

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

Why?
Because what you are right now is TRANSIENT.

You won’t be what you are right now in 20 years,

the calls for dates or sex will slow down or stop altogether.

The “options” that you have today will NOT be here in in 10 years, so you must plan.

EVERYTHING you do is an investment in your future, from what you eat,

to who you have sex with,

to the children you have or decided NOT to have based on

THIS MOMENT INSTEAD OF YOUR FUTURE SELF

will affect your tomorrow.
We are not men.

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Artist, Author, Life Coach; Salkis Re

Thinking whole-listically is necessary for survival for us

because our worth is judged by TIME.

Nobody is going to tell you this but me..

And though I struggle daily with the relevance of social media.
And I admittedly grow impatient by the day for the

emotional prattling of women

who habitually deflect and deny to promote and maintain their facade.
But I have a mission here.

A mission to help you see things before

you become another case study or statistic..

So plan out your day.
Leave NOTHING to chance.

Carry On..

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Why should you listen to me?

 

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

 
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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re