The Disease Called Love

“The Disease Called Love”
Written by Salkis Re

I’m sitting here at my desk trying to arrange my thoughts into something you

can take and apply to your life today. Of course its about love. It’s always going to be about love.
Why?
Because this thing called “falling in love” does something adverse to our minds.

Pathologies are created because of this “feeling”, and if you take inventory of your emotional state when you are “in love” you will see that you mistake “fear and anxiety” for LOVE.

Those “butterflies” in your stomach,

Those “butterflies” in your stomach, your restlessness and inability to focus on anything else but him and his dik.
This is emotional instability forming, but these women out here won’t tell you that.

You become emotionally unstable and exhibit signs of addiction, insanity and codependency when you fall in love.

African Art
“Difference” Original African Art by Salkis RE

makes you neurotic, suspicious, anxious, needy

The “I can’t live without him” makes you neurotic, suspicious, anxious, needy,

as you throw healthy boundaries and your standards out the window.
I read most of your posts quietly. I watch how you take trips you cannot afford to “escape” yourselves or “find” happiness.

I watch some of you brag about how gangsta you are and you don’t take no shit of men,

but every two seconds strike a pose in tight clothes to get the attention

and validation of these same men you claim to have sexual control over.

 

👉We are scammers.. Yeah… We are..
I include myself and can admit mistakes too, after all, a healer usually has something to heal before stepping out to heal others.

Painful truths here,

Painful truths here, some of you will say that, but I prefer to call this a sound bite or an excerpt from the “GODDESS compendium”, a manual for emotional control.
Have a look at your free spirited girlfriend and really observe their temperament.

Is she ever relaxed?

Does she talk fast?

Does she need to be chewing something in her mouth constantly.

Does she ever express satisfaction in anything or anyone?
The answer: NO!

She’s constantly spinning. Looking for the next hit, the next drink, the next dik to make her feel less invisible…

And so you have it. Your “food” for the day. This not something I wanted to say, it is something I HAD to say, for I am on assignment.

My goal isn’t to make you feel good, there’s enough distractions out here to serve that purpose.

My goal is to shake the shit out of you, to help you wake up from your coma so that you are never a doormat for any man ever again...
Carry On…

Black Women with Thick Locs

“Medicine Woman”

“Artist”

“Writer”

“Poet”

~Salkis Re

If you need private mentoring or have a question please contact me at: salkis@iloveherart.com

“The Pressure to Look Sexy!

“The Pressure to Look Sexy”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen, I’ve been accused of being undercover feminist lesbian when I get into my cautionary rants;

the resistance usually comes from men who feel in threatening a reduction in their prospects/prey or women

who believe they are more attractive than I am which makes my message inapplicable to them…

The reoccurring theme here, the message within all of my writings is that you see the truth of how your emotions become weaponized and used against you.
The pressure to “look valuable” is real.

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This is why we wear the form fitting clothes, plaster makeup on our faces, post selfies, wear weaves and high heels that some of can’t even walk in..
Somebody told you that you had to do this in order to be relevant and “considered”.

And MOST of us are looking like desperate fools in clown makeup and

clothing with spandex material in that that makes you assume you’ve bought the right size.

Shaming here?
No. Waking here!
Wake up to the fact that you are in a game that’s set up for you to lose,

because when you lose (of feel lost) you turn into a consumer/believer/minion

for those that make sales to help cure your low self esteem.

African Art by Salkis RE
African art by Salkis Re

What’s the truth here though?
The truth is that we are different, but different doesn’t necessarily mean better or worse; it simply means that I cannot be you and you cannot be me…

I’m interested in sisterhood.

 

I’m interested in sisterhood . Though I cried it down as an impossible task -because women are emotional conn artists- I am renewing my vision for this because it is needed.

We are sick, depressed, suicidal, impoverished in every way because we sit around telling lies to each other, initiating new recruits into old sorrows,making it seem like even the mistakes you made in your life was “all planned out before your birth”.

Where are the healers?
Where are the watchers?

 

 

Where are the CRONES to help and guide young women?
Are you sitting around to busy plucking your hormonal chin hair to care about the ones coming after you?

Looking good is a blessing and a curse for those of us who can transform to an acceptable level;

you WILL be picked, used, trophied, and discarded more than those if us who have minimal options.


African Art by Salkis RE
African Art by Salkis Re

You Can’t Quite Level Up

And the ones of who can’t quite “level up” feel that we live without luck or grace because the prospects are low,

so we go to extremes, often corrupting our health while making fool-hearty investments in so-called improvements,

and the only return you get on your alterations is laughed and more Usury than your previous looks allowed for..

So both spectrums meet pain and degradation, and the reason we do is because we do not help each other.

We rate,

categorize,

exclude,

and diminish each other’s value by forming social cliques where women

that aren’t a threat to each other just pass around lies and swap war stories…
And so it goes..
But I’m looking for my lost sheep just like Jesus did..

I’m here to help with the bitter BLACK PILL…
Carry On..

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Mentor”
“EMPATH”

If you need private mentoring in all matters of womanhood including health ad wellness, weightless, self esteem, life purpose, relationship advice, please reach out ay:

Salkis@iloveherart.com

There’s Nothing Special About You!

 

 

Beautiful Black Women

 

OK…
When I tell women that they are not “special”, they’re offended but this is indubitably true.
A woman stated to me that she was heart broken because her man left her for another white woman.

“Another” meaning he was previously married to one before that wife passed away.
🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

Well you knew when you met him that his preference was white women because he married one,

or are you devastated because he LEFT you or because he left you for a WHITE woman?

Over sexualized black women
🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸
I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman who dates or is married interracially who doesn’t make an announcement about this

“unique” and  special type of relationship she has.

It’s ALWAYS a point they make even though the question if ethnicity or race is brought up.
You think you are “extra special” because a man that “shouldn’t” love a woman like you does!????!!!??!!

👉IGNORING This Message Could Result In you Spinning Your Wheels and being PLAYED Again!!

****Some of you “dime pieces” are going to have a hard time

hearing this because men “appear” to worship you…

But they don’t see you pep talking yourself and obsessing in the mirror ritualistically every single day. You assume your beauty makes you a Goddess, but did every man you faced think so too?

Didn’t Cierra get “Baby Mothered by Future??

Didn’t Beyonce is cheated on by JayZ??

Didn’t Hallie Barry lose her hearing after getting punched in her head??

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

 

 

Pink bunny rabbit
World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

👉 See, we have to stop believing that we are the “best” anything when we come into a man’s life.

This is the game they run to stroke your fragile ego, soothe the worry and doubt

most women have about their looks, all so they can have access to you!
👉 Most people, men particularly have a “type”, and chances are high that you are

JUST LIKE MOST OTHER WOMEN he’s enjoyed sexually,

and you say the same fuccing things intellectually or and you look

the same aesthetically as every other woman he’s fell in love with!

So no my sweet, sweet daughters, you are NOT “special” :YOU ARE SIMPLY “NEW”.

Now take this BLACK PILL and wash it down with the glass of wisdom.
Carry On…

 

Black Women with Thick Locs

Who Am I?

“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
“Mentor”
“Lifecoach”
“Mother”
“The Crone”
~Salkis Re

👉If you feel you could use some private mentoring please send your questions/concerns to: salkis@iloveherart.com

 

“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!”

“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!
Written by Salkis Re

So word on the street is that NON black men love and appreciate black women more than our own black brothers do. The word on the street is that all black men are “colorists” and prefer light skin black women with straight hair and acquiline features. Word on the street is that black men HATE women who have dark skin and “nappy hair”.

This is just the word on the street, so I can’t definitively say that I agree that ALL our brothers feel this way NOR that these accusations hold no merit.

My experience?
Well, I have been slighted, passed over and berated for the tone of my flesh by my “brothers”. I have been called a big-lipped, ‌ MonKey by brothers before. I have been exploited and degraded by my brothers because of how I looked..
Yes…..

But……

My SISTERS did all those things to me too, lest the sexual part. There’s a Big, Fat, Game being played here.
The Name of this game is called:
“Point the Finger”.

And all this “THEY don’t love us” talk, if we are going to be totally transparent, should include SISTERS TOO!

racist cartoons and postcards
“Black” Art by Salkis RE

We don’t love ourselves.
And sadly even some of our chocolate sistren shout self praises around how “exceptional” they are because they have smaller noses and lips “IN SPITE” of being dark skin. What is she really saying here: I may have darker skin put my features are like white women, so I’m NOT THAT UGLY!!

We class and caste our sisters with as much fervor as any man outside our circles. We say we are abused by them but offer no emotional refuge for our castaways to run too.
We say “Well honey, truth be told is that it’s not because you are dark, it’s because you are an ugly woman who HAPPENS to be dark”.

The Game is a Full Cord Press!

If you are a dark skin woman facing travail because of your tone AND features, alas my love, you have NO REAL ALLIES.
You are alone in your sorrows, but that is not necessarily a bad thing.
You simply are given by the grace of nature an opportunity to be a “sovereign thinker”. No one wants you to be a member of their club, but this means you get to be totally YOUR SELF instead of assimulating to the pressure and anguish that EVERY WOMAN puts herself through to conform to the rules of society and the social clubs they desperately want to be apart of.

You are alone.
And the beauty of that is that YOU have Card Blanche authority over the rules and regulations of your Mental Terrain..
And trust me, if you seize the opportunity that being on the outside of the pretentious, degradation fest that most of our women put themselves through, you will become a GOD/DESS over your precious gift called YOUR LIFE!!!

Black Women with Thick Locs

“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
~Salkis Re

If you would to connect with privately on any matter pertaining to womanhood, wellness, weight loss, relationship goals or life purpose, please send an email to: salkis@iloveherart.com

 

Work Without Pain

racist cartoons and postcards
“Blacky” Art by Salkis RE

Smiling..

SO you ladies know about my You Tube channel; I hope…..

And it’s so interesting to me when the guys muster up enough interest to comment on the content of my videos.

And what’s even more interesting is the context of their statements are always the same.

“Some dude must have really hurt you”, Or “You are just unattractive, their isn’t an issue with black women” Or “I like Your Mouth” etc..

 

The comments are always slight jabs or deliberate stabs at MY looks or MY temperament and not much is ever mentioned about the content itself.

 

This is why I advise ladies to be aware of “presentation”.

Though I will admit that I’m not a real life example of “perfect” presentation, I understand its power.

I understand that most of the time, its all the power you need really.

its never what you its: HOW you say it.

Its never about what you do: Its HOW you do it….

What’s the difference between a Sex Surrogate and a Prostitute?

The Answer: And OFFICE 

 

People generally are interested in the surface stuff. Ok, let me stop talking in third person and talk to YOU right now..

YOU are concerned with surface stuff, with how you APPEAR to other people. You want people to think you are HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL, LOVED, INTELLIGENT, SEXY etc..

But how do you TRULY feel? NO as good as the pretense you give off?

abstract portrait painting
“Powder” Original Abstract Portrait by Salkis RE

I understand.. Believe me I do…

And the tragedy of that is that YOU spend so much time in that space,

the pretending part of your life,

that you put off all the elements that could actually assist you in truly feeling self worth and self esteem.

YOU have come to learn that the SHOW is all that matters because the show is all anyone sees…

WRONG!!!

What you feel about yourself manifests in ALLLLLLLLL your decisions.

Everything  you decide to do, that you decide is right, that you think is wrong is shaped around YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOUR VALUE!!

SO guess what?!

People see the real you by way of your ACTIONS 

You don’t get to hide low self esteem as well as you think you are doing…

It shows through, and these men quickly find out how fraudulent you are WHEN HE GETS TO NOW YOU

And eventually you expose your weaknesses as you sit there perplexed as to why he doesn’t show up in your life anymore like he used too..

You showed your hand, your TRUE hand, and it was an insecure hand, a hand full of nothingness,

and the conclusion was that you really aren’t worth the effort or the sacrifice…

 

All MAN/Woman has the power to do is MAKE YOU AN OFFER, that is where their power begins and ends…

YOU get to decide if that offer is sufficient and if you will take it.

You get to negotiate the rules of engagement.

And your rules are your expectations

and your expectations are your boundaries,

and your boundaries are your protection..

ANYTHING OFFERED THAT IS NOT IN LINE WITH WHAT YOU WANT IS AN OFFENSE..

Remember That!

 

Who Am I ?

dark skin women
Life Coach~Salkis Re

Salkis Re is a world Renown Artist and Life Coach

who uses offers therapy through art imagery which serves as the soothing

part to her tough love coaching style to help women heal from pain and trauma..

Want more? Click Here

 

Nas Puts Kelis on Blast!

Nas

Well my play husband wrote a 7 page letter in rebuttal to his ex wife Kelis and her claimed of physical abuse during their 5 year marriage.

Kelis stated in an interview that Was would imitate physical fights with her while under the influence of alcohol.

She stated she new about his extra marital affairs that went on for 2 years during their marriage, but she didn’t decided to leave because of that: “The cheating was more like the icing on the cake, she states.

Now I render when they had gotten a divorce and I honestly don’t remember hearing any bad blood between them, actually

I was impressed with the class that Kelis displayed when asked about what happened because she remained tight lipped about it.

Fast forward to today and the whole cat is out the bag, shyte slinging everywhere as each are publicly accusing the other of abusive behavior.

black love

 

 

Nas’s accusation cut deep and really hit home about domestic abuse and how easy

it is to take advantage of another person who shoes emotions dependency for you.

He said he suspected she was crazy but she was “BeautifuL” , so I guess her beauty gave her character a pass, at least for a while.

Other things mentioned were her uncooperativeness with him in arranging to see his son and how he even faked a reconciliation with her in order to spend time with his son.

He said Kelis “fat shamed” his daughter from a previous relationship and verbally abused her often.

Sigh…

Its a mess.

A big mess!

black love

I love Nas as an artist and I don’t him personally, so I would judge his character or takes sides with Kelis on her allegations against him.

But I have a message to men and women about choosing life partners.

When deciding to marry someone, you are putting yourself into a contractual commitment that holds more weight than a hand shake or a promise ring.

You are in fact stating that you are willing to risk potential loss or enjoy potential gain by cutting yourself off from any other options(dating) out here.

Do you weight the value or the compensation package of this crucial decision on looks, muscles, big booty, big d&*k or even money ?

Making decisions based on superficial things often leads to buyer’s remorse and heart breaking regret,

 over time because a decision wasn’t made based on actual value inside the box but the Chiny packaging outside of it.

I have said this before that pretty women are often accused and assumed to be crazy, light skin women in particular seem to have a reputation for emotional instability.

Kelis Green Wedding Dress
Nas and Kelis on Their Wedding Day

But you GUYS say that the Coo-Coo FOR COCO PUFFS usually makes the sex even hotter!!

Shrugs…

So listen guys, I know you want a woman who is beautiful, I know this is a top priority for most if not all of you whether your financial means can support it or not.

But you must weigh her character, you must observe and pace yourself just like I tell women to do when dating men. Especially you guys who have a lot to lose

. There are great women out here that you won’t give a chance to because she is not “pretty” enough to make a serious consideration for,

women who would bend over backwards to see to your comforts and to make sure that you are well fed,

that your secrets are protected, that will work just as has as you do to keep the house in order so that you come home to an oasis away from the grind.

But you will never know their sweetness because you don’t see their value.

This goes for women too of course…

IF you suspect that there is emotional instability in the woman you are interested in, take a pause, retreat,

RUN if necessary! And do not look back. MANY MANY MANY women hide their emotional unsteadiness behind their physical attractiveness.

I have said MANY MANY MANY times that attractiveness does not equate to SANITY or INTELLIGENCE or HIGH SELF ESTEEM either.

And I mean this with all the muscle I can flex

Women are bewitching, beautiful women even more so…

But who you MARRY has to be more than a pretty face and good sex. If she is to be the mother of your children

and potentially someone you are tied to in one way or another for life, give care in that she is mentally fit

to mother your children and provide the emotional stability and virtue I think you  guys want..

Carry On…

dark skin women
Life Coach~Salkis Re

P.S. If any of you are in need of private instruction and coaching on relationship matters and

self improvement by way of health, spiritual and emotional wellness, you can find me HERE

 

 

 

Seeing Things In Black and White

black and white minimalist painting
Art in Process by Salkis Re

 

“No Fillers”
Written by Salkis Re

Nearing the completion of this piece. I’m so tempted to put some color on her,

but I have to arrest my ego and let her simmer as she is…

I’m taking the minimalist approach to things lately.
Thinking more and more about how I really enjoy simplicity and less “stuff”.
😑
If the floor is clean, I could sleep on it now problem.

Give me some candles and I don’t need lamps.. I just don’t want to ” need” so much anymore.

I haven’t had food or water anything since last Sunday evening.
👉I’m dry fasting right for a goal of 48 hours for mind control and self improvement purposes.

I’m doing what Mystics I suppose. My sense of smell is acute, my heating too, and I’m trancing out as I work.
Feels more weird than usually but in a very good way.

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
*Prints will be available when she’s complete..

Website: www.iloveherart.com

How to Heal Your Body With The Right Man!

Something that I’ve come to know in my own journey towards physical and

emotional healing is that your emotions are responsible for disease.

The emotional body holds the feelings in place whether it be

depression,

anger,

fear,

sorrow

and it assists in creating a stable environment for those emotions to thrive and grow.

African American Art
“Please Forgive Me” Original Art by Salkis Re

 

Once your emotions have a stable atmosphere to thrive, you start to feel off balance physically,

your immune system starts to weaken and dysfunction and illness sets in.

This is why the relationships you choose are SO FREAKIN IMPORTANT to your overall health and emotional well being.

Men whom you have sex with that do not love you will affect your health.

A Man that you are in long term toxic relationship with will affect your health.

 

Lingering Sorrow is not good for your soul, it’s not good for your heart,

it’s not good for your mind…..

Decide that you will put your health ABOVE your compassion for other peoples foolery.

Decide that you will sacrifice your convenience and

instant gratification for the long term goal of longevity and vitality.

Your insulin level must be low to loose weight and to keep your hormones regulated.

 

High insulin means higher cortisol levels which is the fat storing hormone.

Stress will keep you sick and fat. Stress from junk food and junk people will keep you fat and exhausted.

You will kick yourself into early menopause along with a host of other physical imbalances…

 

Cut The Excess: ALL OF IT!!

 

Do you need a push to bring emotional and physical balance to your life again?

I am here to help you!

You can Find Me HERE

 

 

 

Are You A CHEAP Date?

 

 

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

 

I had a session with a client yesterday and she was explaining
to me how the conversation went on her pseudo date for the evening.

She told me that it basically tuned into a **therapy session**
for him to complain about all the money he was expected to spend in **his previous relationship**
and how he felt it was unfair that he was required to
give her so much of his money among other things…

Uh……

SO let me tell all of you ladies something that I did want to accept for a long time.
**YOUR APPEARANCE MATTERS!!**

 

Why do I say this?

Because she saw him for a “quick” informal date,

she wore a new pair of jeans(but they were jeans) and a cute casual looking blouse= **Minimal Effort**

 

Now she assured me that she looked very **VERY cute.**
But the message she sent to him was that of *convenience and *less requirements because she

was ok with riding around with him in his car with no plan and no money spent for her time.

And to top it off, he is all of 60 years old man with 4 baby mama’s

to divvy out child support too.
A 60 year old man has to pay to TALK far yes pay for an actual date.

Sound sluttish?
==========

**Get over it!**
Why?
Because HE assumed from the gate that this sister
WASN’T WORTH doing as much for like the previous woman was,
cause what? HE SAID HE GAVE THE OTHER WOMAN THE MONEY SHE ASKED FOR…..
SO his complaints are really a mute point AFTER the fact…

African Art
“Never Again” Art by Salkis Re

Do not ever take that take as some sort of compliment to your **”good girl”** archetype.
Being GOOD serves a purpose, and if that purpose isn’t being met,
then you should walk alone with the virtue you are so proud of.

Bottom line is that he didn’t think my client was on
the level of the previous woman he was complaining about.

You think if he thought she was ‘high maintenance’
AND deserved to be take care of, that he’d suffer her
through the entire date complaining about how much
money he didn’t want to spend on a mother woman????

NOOOOOOOOOOO!

Men know who they will low ball from the gate.

And they will spend on what they think is worth the effort and the price.

You being a Good Woman, a woman of fairness and honesty is beneficial only if the man has no alter agenda, and what man doesn’t???

A relationship with you becomes something of quality based on how YOU respond to offers and insinuations and sexual advances etc..

You make it ‘something more” than a one night bang” by not banging?

His morals are based on what you require.. PERIOD!!

Do not compromise on your requirements at all! You won’t get a no crown for suffering or not getting your basic needs met!!

 

If you need my help, find me here

Butt Ugly Beauties

Awwww. Listen Linda, Listen!!

I know what it feels like, what it be like to dance with self doubt.

Everywhere you turn, there is another thing you NEED because

somebody is saying that you have look better than what you are in order to compete with…

well don’t even damn know!!

SO we buy the next gadget, the next cream, the next corset,

and the next promise that we will magically look good even for a man to fall on a sword for us…

Beautiful Black Women

I know gorgeous women… I mean women who’s stock remains high whether or not they have clothes on.

THEY ARE DROP DEAD GORGEOUS 

And guess what they also are?

They are doubtful of their value, challenged by their perception of their own self worth.

Questioning themselves like a broken record as they wonder if they are truly deserving of the THINGS THEY GET!!!

Can you imagine having that forking problem???

You get what you want with ease, but a whisper in your head keeps

saying it’s an accident or a fluke that you receive what you receive…

You are so beautiful that men that you like a pet, they are so insecure around you that they

think you are incapable of telling the truth or being faithful to them…

Imagine that….

Stacked Those Chips On Your Shoulder

 

 

Black artLow Self esteem escape ver few people who are actually adults..

By the time you can go to the corner store by yourself or take your road test for your drivers license,

you’ve stacked up enough insecurities to create a stairway to heaven…

Fixed and confident in all the degradation you’ve accumulated over the years.

You don’t want to think of yourself  jacked up, but that is what you are thanks to society.

 

Its Time to Die

Time to put to bed those thoughts. Time to die and be reborn again… It takes a little death you know.

A death to transform into what you want to become,

a death to assert what you want to feel like you deserve.

This goes for love OR ANYTHING you want in life too.

 

You Are Programmed!

You are programmed to wait for a “qualifier” to feel like you can claim the good life.

You need the degree to feel smart.

You need the crowd to feel important.

You need a man’s love to feel esteem.

You need your parents to be proud of you to feel like a winner.

And on and on and on……….

 

Three things you need to know and adopt in your life transformation..

No ones Opinion of you is LAW or the ABSOLUTE TRUTH

You Will Always Have a Choice to Accept or Regret What People Think of You.

Most People You know is battling their own self esteem issues, so they CANNOT help you.

 

 

 

 

 

Some immediate suggestions:

Turn off the T.V..

Unplug from social media.

Find a hobby

Find a way to help other people…

Come out of your own head and let your ego starve a little bit…

We often feel miserable because we are self centered and need constant

reassurance when the attention we want to receive is not matched to what we actually get..

You Are enough!!

If you are healthy, you are blessed.

IF you have sight, you are blessed.

If you can read, you are blessed.

If you can call you mother today, you are blessed…

Carry On….

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