Why You Get Rejected by Black Men

Glamorousity brings devils and Gods to the yard….
But you are still a slave though, a slave with what feels like an
advantage right up until he starrs rolling your panties on the floor. 

What Do You Want to Be?

Art by Salkis Re

 

Fight your self doubt because you don’t get any rewards for being pitiful.

Fight mediocrity, because you don’t get any rewards for not doing your best.

Fight conformity because you don’t get a reward for attempting to be a lesser version of what’s already been done.

 

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Black Girl IS MAGIC!!

African Art

 

2020 is HERE! and we need to stop walking around here waiting on permission to breathe the air we take into our lungs. We need to assert our authority over our own lives by the mimicry of other races behind.

we can say what is opulent and quality verses what is not if we run this race TOGETHER!

 

Decide that you matter.

decided that you deserve love.

Decide that abundance is your birthright as well as health and happiness!

So Let It Be Done!!

 

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2020 New Year for Manifesting!

Are you gonna REALLY be about Black Girl Magic for 2020?
I believe that the forces of nature will help you now more than ever before.

I also believe that the price to pay for what you want will be the greatest its ever been.
You will have to bleed for it, but it WILL come.
You will have be disciplined for it, but it will come.
You’re gonna be uncomfortable,
unsure,
maybe even a little afraid: BUT it will come.

“Colored Girl” Original Art by Salkis Re

Yes.

Whatever you focus on WILL come!.
But the key is to relax.
Your BREATH determines outcomes.
They make you think it’s luck or pedigree that dictates your fate, but no little dove, it’s your BREATH.

Breathing Regulates EVERYTHING!

What do you mean Salkis?
The breath holds the key to how you process food,

stress,

energy,

ecstasy,

perception,

fear,

depression,

anxiety,

insecurities etc..

Beautiful Black women

What are you doing right now?
You are breathing shallow..

Why?
Because you are bracing yourself.

Why?
Because you dont want to get hurt.

👉🏿You breathe like you are in pain.
And this causes a depletion of oxygenated blood, which inhibits proper nervous system function.
👉🏿You breathe like you are scared.
And this is why you fail at love, at weight loss, at abundance, and creativity..

Dark Skin women
Babies breath correctly..

BABIES CAN TEACH YOU TO MANIFEST

Watch how babies breathe.
They take full diaphragmatic breaths.
Why?
Because they haven’t learned to brace themselves for the “anticipation” of pain..

👉🏿You want to manifest?
It’s not about a vision board or a better business plan if you are creating these while holding your breath in fear.
Breathe through your self doubt.
Breathe through the physical pain.
Breathe through your low self worth.

The year of BEING is upon us.

You will have to stop all the excuses and being ruled by your fears now.. You have to become a woman who lives in the realm of certainty.

And your certainty get’s its nourishment from our daily activities.

You need to be careful what you absorb. This means, what you eat, what you hear, what you see, what you think, who you screw and what you say..

ALL of this plays a role in outcomes that show up as fate in your life.

Never again presume that you can write a vision and not FEEL IT, TALK ABOUT IT, LEARN IT and ACCEPT IT!

Yogic Breathing

What makes You A LIVING SOUL?

Give yourself the breath of life!
Were you not told that the breath made you a “Living Soul”?

Inhale completely, pause, then empty your lungs completely.
20x every day.
Then sit still.
Close your eyes and enjoy tingling as your body experiences

full nourishment for the first time since you were a youngling…

Do your breath ritual before you meditate,

eat food,

make love,

pray or anything requiring your full attention and you will become more confident,

efficient and stronger physically and mentally too.

Breathe.
Then you will MANIFEST.

Dark Skin Women
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting” Colored Girl”

 Questions? Need Private Consulting? email me at: info@salkisre.com

Women Who Deserve Abuse?

It’s not what you say, it’s what they think you said.
It’s not what you are, it’s what they think they see.
And moment even a smidgen of vulnerability is displayed,

you are immediately labeled emotionally broken and woman unfit for anything other sexual monopoly.

Why Evil is Stronger Than Good

And nothing you think about yourself will stick unless its backed by HEAT.

What do I mean by heat?
When you are angry, you are hot! Your heart beats fast and your body literally raises in temperature.

Reality T.V. HAS Made Us FAKE!

I think of Nina Simon and Lauryn Hill for instance.

Very multidimensional women.

Hard to love or should I say hard to contain… 

Loving someone requires respect. And it requires space.

Black Girls Want to Rock Too!

If you wait on people to accept who and what you are, you’ll be waiting a life time to get it.

And I you manage to get it, you’ll son realize it wasn’t worth the wait to begin with.

 

I have always made it a point extend an olive branch to other women of all shapes and sizes and colors

so that I wouldn’t be classified as bitter or insecure over other women.

 

But the conclusion I’ve reached is that it doesn’t matter if you say hello first,

if you give first,

if you offer friendship or understanding first, all people see is COLOR.

“La Petite Moor”

 

As A black woman, that’s all I’ve been all my life: BLACK 

My talents, my wisdom or anything else I had of value always took a back seat to how I looked.

 

Even in the art world, there are private discussions about what “type” of work sells and WHO can sell it,

and I was advised on several occasions not to do the “Black Girl” thing cause it’s not what black people want to see.

Some hard conclusion arose though.

African Art
“La Negra”

And it wasn’t that black girls don’t sell, its that black girls created by black girls don’t move as fast.

I’ve seen white artists paint black girls, pitch black girls in folk art style on old doors and other eclectic stuff,

some of which can be misconstrued as “Coonery” and BLACK PEOPLE bought their art.

 

I’ve seen white women do paintings exclusively of black women who decide to keep themselves inconspicuous

and BLACK PEOPLE BUY THEIR WORK too!

 

And here I am, and actual black woman

And here I am, and actual black woman concerned about the politics of painting dark skin women because

I didn’t want to be misconstrued as a “hater”….

Imagine that?

Telling my story and worried about acceptance when everybody else can enjoy

( without scrutiny) what they prefer to paint for whatever reason they choose to paint it.

“I Don’t Know”

Everybody Can DO What They Want to Do Except Me??

Everyone else gets to enjoy the novelty of it all, but I need sensible reasons for why I do what I do?

No More…

 

It’s a New Day..

And Im here to tell OUR STORY through the faces of Dark skin women.

I won’t say that I’ll never paint another complexion again because I will,

but the FOCUS now is on Black Girl Magic.

To see the entire collection and buy something sweet. for you or someone you love, go to www.iloveherart.com

Sanaa Says Marriage Ain’t That Important!

 

 

 

Sanaa Lathan And marriage
Taylor Rooks and Sanaa Lathan at CultureCon event,

 

A WEIRD obsession that black women have to get married??

Why is a woman wanting to get married now classified as a weird obsession??

Sanaa goes on to say that the divorce rate is over 50% and she doesn’t invest in anything that has such low odds..

She went on to say that black women are being pressured into marriage as well.

 

So we are pressured to get married and have a weird obsession with it as well.

Hmmm…

 

Well I will say this. With 72% of all black births from 2015 were from non married black women, how successful is this pressure on black women to get married???

 

Only 25% of Black Are Married??

Among currently married adults between the ages of 15 to 44 only 26 percent of black women were married, 45 percent of Hispanic women were married and 51 percent of white women were married (Goodwin, Mosher, and Chandra 2010

 

Over the life course, Blacks are the least likely of all racial groups to ever marry (Parker and Wang 2014).

 

We cannot subscribe to this feminism agenda.. Sanaa comes from a privileged background.

 

She is financially independent, childless and almost 50 years old. Good genetics has afforded her steady marketability with her industry BUT in real life, she would be considered a woman who has HIT A WALL.

 

Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese
Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese

Putting Marriage Last?

Putting yourself first is fabulous, and I support that 100%, but if you are unable

to have found and experienced a life partnership at almost 50 years old,

there is a probability that there is some mental instability or just narcissistic or extreme selfishness at play here.

 

There are no men dragging black women down the isle and the girlfriends of

black women are supporters, accomplices, providers of alibis

for black women who find it a more attainable goal to f*CK for money and fun and babies instead of marriage.

 

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“Women want POWER not Equality or Responsibility”~ DR Phil Valentine

That’s a problem.

To insinuate that a black woman is emotionally unstable because she earnestly wants a life partner is parasitic

in scope and an enemy to the structure of the family and our race in general.

 

The Problem With Our Black MEN

The problem we are having now is a lack of warriors and men to reset the order of society and men in general are not problem solvers. Men offer no solutions, no protection and no provisions for the black woman.

 

Therefore, black women have become their own protectors, their own providers, they educate their children on their own which leaves a residue of low self worth, hopelessness and suspiciousness of the intentions and the efficiency of black men altogether.

 

So This post is about becoming clear about what our collective aim is as black women. And we don’t need black women who have “given Up” on the goal of sacred unions to be the voice for the young black women coming up who SHAMED now  for even wanting to be marriage from women who can’t get a man to stay with them long enough to ask!

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of

The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com