Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

Abstract Art by Salkis Re
Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re

 

“Reasons”
Written by Salkis Re
 
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.
 

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Why?
Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.
 

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.
Why?

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

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                                                                                          ~Salkis Re

 

It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

🤔You are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

 

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Don’t Believe What They Say

African American Art
Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?

 

So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?
No.

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

I Put a Spell On Me!!

Big Eyes Art

 

Casting Love spells is a hot thing to do. I will admit it. I tried a couple spells back in the days too.

Did some pretty nasty stuff like smudging period blood on my neck, I even cooked dinner for an imaginary husband for 3 months straight.

My daughter thought I was bat shyte crazy.

And I was a little, still am actually.

I’m open to the impossible.

But…

What they say, or what I didn’t hear, was the key ingredient for ANY intention to work is focus,

That of belief and a sense of entitlement  for what you are going after.

I wasn’t ready for a man.

I didn’t think I really deserved the love that I wrote on paper.

So I ignored what I felt inside while hoping that the universe would overlook how fearful and unsure I was.

 

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Art by Salkis Re

Maybe you are in the same boat…

Hurt by the ghosts of your past loves.

Wondering if it’s your lot in life never to be the object of a man’s passions.

It doesn’t have to be this way though.

And the road to healing doesn’t have to feel like 5000 stomach crunches..

Because the road to being receptive to love, to companionship, and soul mating

is one of relaxation and confidence, NOT worry.

The first step is to stop worrying about not having a man.

Yessssssss. That’s what I said.

What you worry about, is what you will get.

Why?

Because of the intensity of your emotions and the concentration on that thing you are emotive about,

which of course is: not having a man.

Get busy right now with changing your attitude.

And the only way to bring the atmosphere of love into your existence is through self care.

Self Care..

Eat Right.

Sleep Right.

Create.

DO things that Challenge you.

There are too many things you need know,

too many things you could be doing right now instead of brooding over fantom penises.

And these TOO MANY THINGS are the very glue that with bring the fairy dust transmutation and irresistibility straight to your door step.

Worry will weaken you.

Feeling lonely is a sign of a lack of imagination.

Creativity ignites passion, and its when you are truly passionate about anything that you invite people to come as spectators, lovers  and so on.

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“The World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

SO the Answer?

Become MORE PASSIONATE.

Find something that gets your juices flowing. Do something that takes up your time in a constructive way.

And let whatever you choose transform you into a wanted woman!!!

XOXO,

Salkis

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

A Queen’s Way

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“The Throne”
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Queen’s Way”
Written by Salkis Re

When they tell you that you can’t, don’t believe it. You must stretch past their doubts so you can see it.
And know that how people feel is not your fault,
so don’t spend time worrying about what they have thought.

You must learn that your value is a matter of what you say,
because society has convinced us to be proud of how much we have to pay.

And you have the right to dictate exactly what you are worth,
but you have to understand that it starts with you becoming self-assured.

I know this because I was unsure for most of my entire life.
Wondering why my kindness never afforded me very many likes.

Then I released my responsibility for other’s emotions,
and turned inward to build control in what I have control over.

And I relaxed into the goddess that you see before you today.
And I stretch forth my hand to pull you towards A Queen’s Way.
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“Mistress of Words”©

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“Life Coach” ~Salkis Re

“Life Coach”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
*Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

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Spells Cast by Liars

 

African American Artist
“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re

 

“Spells and Liars”
Written by Salkis Re

Esoteric knowledge is great for good conversation. I like good conversations. But what I like even better is to quantifiable improvements in myself. When you have a strong foundation, your philosophical contemplations will be stress free and more enjoyable because the work you’ve done to improve yourself affords you more ownership over your time and more mastery over your physical existence.

I see self professed witches that have weight issues and express openly that they want to lose weight, so my thought is why doesn’t she cast a spell over her mouth and what she puts in it: problem solved!

You cast spells, workable spells as you say, butyour temple is disregarded?

Moors
“The Throne”
Art by Salkis Re

Listen, the magic you are looking for is in your commitment and discipline. Discipline of your mouth, your vagina, your time for mastery of your skill, of keeping even the humblest environment organized.

Obeying indulgences does NOT builds character, and you won’t garner any fortune from it, it is the “withholding” and reducing your options for distraction and dissuasion that builds a foundation for you to become the best you can be.

“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Self Esteem Coach”
“Queen Bee”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

 

 

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A New Day Wastes Away

 

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“The Power of the Sun”
Written by Salkis Re
You are depressed because you are preoccupied with thoughts of the past, what you used to be or what was done to you. And the new day your standing in gets no respect at all. This new day is tainted with old thoughts and the sun rises again for you, yet your dwelling mind has given the sunshine a purpose.
So you’ve decided to be depressed. And you have a juicy script to tell anyone that will listen. And you like the attention you get from sharing your anguish, you feel like “somebody” for a little while as people stand entranced by the tales of what your hard luck story.

And this new day just stands here. The sun watches you give reverence to past days, wondering to itself it you notice it shining and the clean slate from the new day it has made for you right now.

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“What’s All the Fuss About?”
Painting my Salkis Re

A new day is clean, empty vessel for you to fill with new experiences, joyful experiences so that can one day become your past you enjoy talking about. Whatever it was that has happened to you doesn’t need your energy anymore; what it needs is dissipation, and that can only happen if you shift your focus to the present instead of your past.
The people that have hurt you are not spending every moment thinking about you! They’ve long gone on with their lives and forgiven themselves for any damage they’re aware that they’ve caused you. Some people don’t even know they’ve hurt you as badly as they did, and others aren’t even alive for you to recoup an “I’m sorry” from.
Now what?
They are either dead, don’t care or never knew the pain they caused you and yet you make new stew, a new swill for your stale bread to sop up every forking day as you replay your past over and over again.

And yet the sun rises again for you, watching and listening to you prattle on about yesteryear, wondering why you’re ignoring the clean slate it has given you called “A New Day” and why refuse to make a new script and a new past and a new life!
Start respecting the new day. It needs you to make a life you like living.

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Self Esteem Coach”

~Salkis Re

 

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Kendrick Said Be Humble!!

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Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

Aww. Joy of Humility…

You know I have a bit of disdain for that word.

Well. A bit more than a little I suppose.

But it’s quite useful though. I thought it was beneath me to transpose humility onto myself. I thought that putting people first was an invitation to put myself last.

No my darlings… I was extremely wrong.

Humility as I see it, helps to find out the true intentions of one’s heart.

Why?

Because people naturally tell lies when you question them, and the more intimidated they are, bigger and more grandiose the lies get.

People want to loved and accepted, and they will say and do what needs to be done to ensure that they come out unharmed.

Intimidation is a threat. A perceived threat of course, but as I tell the fortunate ones who get to work with me, ‘perception is the only reality there is’.

Humility is chocked full of sugary goodness because you get to satisfy your guilt and shame that creep up in your mind from being too self absorbed by putting others before yourself and you get to create an environment of trust and safety for the other person/s involved. And trust and safety bring out the primal instincts in people.

They tend to let go of their pretenses and the wall they build to protect themselves emotionally.

Think of it like this: when you feel threatened, you tense up, you recoil and brace yourself so that minimal damage happens. You are not ‘open’ emotionally or physically when you are tense. Intimidation causing ‘tension’ and tension encourages abnormal behavior

Be humble creates a stress-less environment and it is in relaxation of one’s mind that they start ‘talking’. They start yo vomit out everything they love or fear, how their mother didn’t love them enough or how they feel inadequate about this or that. They will admit their perversions and all their weaknesses to you when totally relaxed by your humidity.

 

If You’ve Heard the term ‘Pillow Talk’

If You’ve Heard ‘You’re So Easy to Talk Too!’

Both of those are examples of how people response when they do not feel intimidated.

  1. Making you laugh let’s your guard down.
  2. Keeping you distracted let’s your guard down.
  3. Tell you secrets let’s your guard down.
  4. Asking your opinion makes you feel more important and let’s your guard down.
  5. Giving you gifts and attention let’s your guard down.

And so on and so on…

Aww… The Joys of Humility. .

Sell or be Sold my darling. Which one will you be?

Now, I’m on a shift myself, coming to terms with what I’m really called to do as a guide for you and women just like you. I have accepted how I must help you build your self esteem and my position is not pretty at times, but it’s magical nonetheless.  If you want more keys to train your mind so you can control your body and maybe even get people to do your bidding, then I can coach you

To contact me send inquires to salkis@iloveherart.com

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Life After My 90 Day Fruit Only Detox

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Me Now!

You have to take care of yourself. The biggest part of taking care of yourself is about being aware of what you need AND when you need to switch up the program. I recently completed a 90 fruit only detox, something happened to my mental while going through that detox. Yes I lost weight: a lot of weight. I started to get cut: abs were showing. My waistline started going in and I became soo tiny.

 

That was the highlight of that journey on a physical level. After a while though, I saw changes in my skin, it just felt thinner to me and I realized I was losing muscle AND fat!

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Me at 50th day Fruit Detox

So after I finished the detox and realized that I wasn’t fooling myself into thinking that I got some sort of enlightenment,  I had to come to the conclusion that I was actually hanging on to veganism waaaaay longer than it was productive for me to do so.

The fasting weakened me. At first, I felt great and it “seemed” like I was reversing time, then after a while it was the opposite.

Do Guess What I Doing Now???

I actually started eating meat again after over 10 years of veganism, sprouts and chic pea patties and stewed mushrooms and curry quinoa. I have done it all. Got certifications in raw food cuisine and wellness modalities.

So the question I had to ask myself was:”How do you feel?”

My answer was: “Could be better!”

Now the fact that I could not say fabulous was my “ah-ha” moment! And I came to the realization that I was simply holding onto to an “indentity” that has long since expired. Can veganism cure ailments, turn back the clock of aging, and bring spiritual enlightenment?  Yessssssssss.

BUT…

The question for me was am I still looking to be a priest? Do I really want to be a priest or a warrior? And I decided I did not was to be a priest anymore…. smiles

Now I am embracing my need for vanity. Something I had shunned for sooooo many years thinking it was immoral to be motivated by beauty when it was really my low self esteem telling me that I could never be beautiful. So what I did was live a “why bother” life to support the moral conflicts within me.

Now my language includes terms like “gene expression” and “epigenetics” which have to do with altering how genes respond to environmental stimuli, activating the cells to work efficiently, eat and rest cycles, how I manage stress, exercise etc..

I’m in bed by no later than 10 PM and my last meal is a 6 pm. I deactivated my old Facebook page because it was driving me insane with people posting mindless filth. I did start a new page though and I’m selecting friends slowly and carefully and really not interested in anyone who is not a fan of my work.

I’m eating meat now after all these years and at first, the smells threw me for a loop. I’m not gonna lie! The smell of eggs and raw meat took a bit of adjustment but after the first week, I was surprisingly fine. My typical breakfast is a shot load of butter, eggs, and turkey bacon with a glass of lemon water and I’m good till about noon, then I’ll have some sardines and spinach or smoked oysters, then dinner could be grass fed beef or chicken wings.

It’s called the Ketogenic Diet that I’m currentlyexperimenting with. You have to make sure you are not overdoing it on the protein but other than that, it’s pretty easy to follow.

III will give you updates on how that’s going in a few weeks.

So yeah folks,this is my current journey for now. If you are interested in trying the fruit detox or need tips on how to lose weight, I can coach you through that. I have been coaching women in how to lose Weight  since 2008 and if the goal is veganism,  I can certainly help you get started on that journey.

To find out how to work with me, send me an email to: salkis@iloveherart.com

 

OK ladies, see you soon

XoXo,

Salkis

 

 

 

He Called Me a Monkey!!

 

So I was doing my usual check in on my social media accounts and got a troll that called me a black “bitch” and an f’ing monkey. 

Not sure what got this man all ruffled up to say such a thing to me, but unfortunately it’s not new and most definitely not reserved to a particular ethnic group.

I have gotten comments like this from my own “kind”.

And it got me to thinking about the assumptions people place on the value of others by how one looks.

Do I really look like a monkey?

Of course not!

But why the anger and the association with a monkey?

I do think people have a right to feel the way they feel about me, I’m just not inclined to know what that feeling is unless I have to deal with you for business or pleasure.

Yeah, there is most definitely a problem with the notions of beauty in this society and colorism abounds , and to me, it’s really here to stay.

With my features unchanged, would I still be referenced with that of a monkey if I were lighter in skin tone? Not likely.

But to be darkskin, is somehow synonymous with being primitive, simple minded, ugly, and slavish.

That comment got me into thinking deeply about what I am presenting with my work and if my voice is being made clear enough for people to get my message.

It stoked the fire within me to continue my portrayal of “us” dark skin women 

as sensitive and sweet, and not the savage imaginings of the propaganda machine that people swear they are uninfluenced by.

Yup.

I got a job to do.

I got to put my two ‘sense’ in and neutralize some of the spells cast over us by members of this society.

I never wanted my art to be political, but slowly, it has become that it’s it’s own little way.

My poetry as reached the level of importance that my art has always had for me. The monkey jab touched me deeply, so much so that I had to write a poem to organize and unpack my thoughts.

To the person who called me a monkey this morning… Thank you..

 

“This Monkey” Written by Salkis Re(c) 2017

People assume the so called pretty amongst us

are the only ones entitled to hugs.

They also assume that esthetic deficits

means that I was born deserving of love.

They think that simple faces equates to simple minds, and that we somehow are easier to fool.

But they don’t know that their overconfidence

can be a tool used to get what we want too.

Real power comes from letting people think that they’re still in charge of their decisions.

We watch you rule with an iron fist,

and just sit back for a time and play the victim.

You will show your hand

and everything you feel

which happens to include

the weakness in your heart.

And you’ve trained this  “monkey”

to sit back and learn your patterns

and play vulnerable to get what I want.

So be self assured, I want you that way,

to reveal all the things that you front.

And I’m itching for the day when you’ve learned you made a colossal mistake

because didn’t know “This Monkey” could talk.

“Mistress of Words” ~Salkis Re

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Sometimes inspiration and fuel to catapult you to the next level, can come out from very nasty places.

Yet, friction sharpens the blade doesn’t it?

I’m more grateful for who I am now than ever before, and if you are going through a storm right now, this is your opportunity to become better than you were before.

If you need to contact me about a painting please feel free to send me an email to: Salkis@iloveherart.com or visit the website www.iloveherart.com

Toodles…

Salkis Re

 

You Can’t Sex Your Way into High Self Esteem

Conquering Self Defeat
By Salkis Re
Transforming is dirty business
You can’t f;&$k your way out of pain! You are tired. You are fed up with your condition. You have tried to change things to no avail. You entertain yourself through the pain, you eat and gorge food through the pain, you try to f;&$k your way out of the pain.

You burn candles and hug trees underneath the moonlight in hopes of winning fortunes and thwarting pain. You meditate while frustrated and worried.
You spruce yourself up with new hair do’s and fresh pedicures that aid as “posers” to true self care. These are great things to do, but not so great as a replacement for the internal work required for victory over “self defeat. No! Love cannot *love you out of the muck and mire; however, you can -cope- with it a bit better ,yet it will just manifest in other things like binge eating, depression etc. Can you become a goddess without adversity? Can you become a master without trials and tests? What is the need for bravery if you have nothing to fear? Your anguish is not the problem! We all have things that challenge our resolve. The problem is that you are not utilizing your adversity to change your life! “Go along to get along” is what you’ve been doing, and now, living in pain has become your new normal. “Smiling Depressive” is what I lovingly call you. When are you going to muster up enough courage to just admit that something is wrong with this way of living? I have news for you! You are not gonna smile or deny your way through transformation!
Your going to have to walk through the “shadow of death” to truly transform and become a new person. You have to face your dragons and slay them with valarian steel! You are going to have to make a decision that charity and giving of yourself requires that you first are able to regenerate what you give to others. You give away what you can’t afford to give because of guilt and this superstition in the benefit of humility: you are trying to replaced your feelings of unreservedness by pretending to be satisfied with being a “giver”, for you are ashamed to receive. Take my hand, I will lead you through the shadow of death with the rod and staff to slay the serpents waiting to bite your heel. Its time to transform.
~Salkis Re “Life Coach”