How to take back control of your mind. Its as simple as understanding the illusion that created your enslavement.
How to take back control of your mind. Its as simple as understanding the illusion that created your enslavement.
“Everybody Wants to Look Better Than They Actually Are”
January 24, 2019 8:04 a.m.
Women wear WIGS to be more attractive, and Men wear 👉WOMEN to be more attractive..
Everbody trying to look better than they actually are out here..
I’ll tell you why Shaming women is so effective, it’s effective because we WANT to subjugated, we WANT to comply, we WANT to help, we WANT fairness.
And because we are by nature inclined to comply, these campaigns to make us feel worthless and nonsensical work because women are NOT negotiators.
I have never met a man yet who felt “shame” about what he liked have , be or do!! But women are put on blast accused of being unreasonable, impractical, delusional and emotionally unstable at every turn.
This is because men know that more times than not, we want give in, we’d rather have fairness than GET WHAT WE WANT..
Please stop taking men seriously. It’s all a game, chess moves if you will. The way to get you to become a team player is by “leading” you and to lead you he has to show you that he knows what’s best for you.
He has to establish that his goals should be yours (this is what get you to open your legs for him before it safe or profitable to do so).
This is also why “showing” that you are smarter than him or 👉aggressively noncompliant is makes you unattractive in general to men..
Have your convictions and your boundaries set in STONE..
Your “Self Esteem Coach”
Decisions based solely on emotion NEVER stick.
You may be able to garner their pity and remorse for a little while,
but eventually that person goes back to his/her old ways after their emotions have settled back down,
This is why men feel sorry about about cheating when they get caught, and after the dust settles,
they are back out there at it again.
Black women are getting pimped out of their vaginas by everybody,
black men, white men, even other women…
people generally do not change unless they experience some
tremendously emotional event that breaks the patterns within their nervous system.
For the most part, we are all fixed as adults. Fixed in what we believe about ourselves,
how we perceive love, how we quantify our value.
Relationships are about the decision to share a life with someone as they are,
and with your love and encouragement,
you can “Influence” them to become “Improved” partners IFFFFFFFFFFF that is what HE desires to be…..
Black women are emotionally exploited by everybody because our pathologies are well known and easy to recognize
while others enjoy living with the ambiguity of their depression and low self esteem whiling concealing
pharmaceutical remedies for their suicidal thoughts properly fitted garments, scantily clad pics or perfectly
coiffed hair that serve to disguise their emotional dysfunction.
Our pathology includes the admiration and support of anybody who do not resemble ourselves,
and the admiration and support of people who mock, mimic and make fun of us.
We are enemies of each other perception based on “collective” biases that are based on propaganda and indoctrination.
Redeem yourself. Pull yourself up from the muck and Myer….
Divorce yourself from anything or anyone who’s opinions are self serving and decide that a
feeling is not a truth unless you start living in agreement with it,
and that goes for yourself or anyone else…
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“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re
Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.
This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.
Sex is a death ritual.
Sex is a “giving up” of your soul to another soul.
Sex is A sacrifice.
Sex is A melding together of thoughts,
puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.
Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.
But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.
But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!
Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.
And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.
Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.
Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.
Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it
sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.
This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.
This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
Well, Im a black woman.
A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.
I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.
I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy. And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.
It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.
In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.
A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.
I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.
If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: email@example.com
There are many women that have morals and values,
who are ready and willing to be the subordinate for a strong man,
but often times, she does not come packaged in vanity.
The virtuous woman often times will come in a thrifty, plain looking package,
not the TROPHY woman men are often in pursuit of.
have sex when and how you want it, take care of your children and do as you say.
BUT YOU WILL OVERLOOK HER***
You men do not want THAT woman. You say you do, but you don’t.
So you men look for women who are better looking than you,
and those women are looking for men who are better than them.
And you spin around in your hamster wheel asking why did she do this,
or how could she do that.
Because she NEVER wanted you in the first place, that’s why.
So it’s wrong from the start,
but the nature of man is to care more about what they do NOT have over what they DO have…
“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach/Artist/Medicine Woman
MOST men, no matter what age they are, want “physically” young looking women and he would be a jackpot winner if he gets a woman who is young with her own money.
Lllllllmmao! But the issue with that is that if she is young and attractive and has her own coins, she can hold out for a man who is better looking than you, who fucks better than you, who makes enough money to “handle” everything she wants and needs.
And this is why people are single!
Everybody is scouting for a partner who is better than themselves in looks or money, and if you luck up on someone who IS better than you yet wants to be with you, trust that SHE/HE is “ALWAYS MENTALLY or PHYSICALLY SHOPPING” meaning she/he is with you yet open/motivated to finding a “better” replacement.
And why is this?
Because you are a “charity case”, not a boyfriend/girlfriend they fear of losing.
Chasing women/men out of your league gets you ALL OF THAT!
So when you are seeking the “best” partner, the perfect fit, be careful that you are not signing yourself up to be a beast of burden.
If a man is “better” than you, you mustn’t substantiate that claim by displaying insecurity, emotional neediness, and a total disregard of your own self interests or you WILL be dragged through the mud.
“Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.
It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.
So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.
There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.
I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships
because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.
I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.
The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,
or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.
I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!
And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!
So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,
or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Not saying you need help with finding new justifications, but if you do Click HERE
We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.
Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.
Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.
Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!
A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,
or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.
Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.
The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.
What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.
You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?
How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?
I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.
From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,
she was upset about a friend making a decision to f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.
Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.
and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.
I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.
And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!
I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.
Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?
More than likely…
All worked up for what? Gossip?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?
The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.
Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.
Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.
We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.
This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..
So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,
and if you can’t find a
legitimate reason to engage,
get worked up,
then simply let it go
because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…
So who am I?
A Life Coach
A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,
self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.
I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.
I hope you share this message with all you know.
The weekend is almost here. Another week gone with tasks incomplete and more to hope to accomplish than anything actually done.
It’s easy not to try, but its cost will steal currency throughout your entire life. Not trying means that nobody gets hurt, no one suffers disappoint or the shame that comes from failing, but what also doesn’t happen is that you never get to experience what you could have become. You then live out your days in the shadow of quiet agony over what might have been.
Not trying is a the purchase of certain failure, it’s a sort death really, which is what surpression gifts you. Life is hard but it’s exciting too, and it becomes quite the game that it really is when you approach it as no big deal.
You lose, so what.
You gain, so what.
You keep moving at all costs, testing and stretching your abilities. This is ALL that life is about: trial and error.
Get out of your own way and fly my darling. Fall on your face just like a child first learning to walk. Don’t be ashamed to learn from your lessons, for this is how wisdom is obtained.
In other words, grow up AND become a child again…
“Mistress of Words”