Fight Elegantly!

Decisions based solely on emotion NEVER stick.

You may be able to garner their pity and remorse for a little while,

but eventually that person goes back to his/her old ways after their emotions have settled back down,

This is why men feel sorry about about cheating when they get caught, and after the dust settles,

they are back out there at it again.

Black women are getting pimped out of their vaginas by everybody,

black men, white men, even other women

people generally do not change unless they experience some

tremendously emotional event that breaks the patterns within their nervous system.

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For the most part, we are all fixed as adults. Fixed in what we believe about ourselves,

how we perceive love, how we quantify our value.

Relationships are about the decision to share a life with someone as they are,

and with your love and encouragement,

you can “Influence” them to become “Improved” partners IFFFFFFFFFFF that is what HE desires to be…..

 

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Black women are emotionally exploited by everybody because our pathologies are well known and easy to recognize

while others enjoy living with the ambiguity of their depression and low self esteem whiling concealing

pharmaceutical remedies for their suicidal thoughts properly fitted garments, scantily clad pics or perfectly

coiffed hair that serve to disguise their emotional dysfunction.

 

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Our pathology includes the admiration and support of anybody who do not resemble ourselves,

and the admiration and support of people who mock, mimic and make fun of us.

We are enemies of each other perception based on “collective” biases that are based on propaganda and indoctrination.

 

Redeem yourself. Pull yourself up from the muck and Myer….

Divorce yourself from anything or anyone who’s opinions are self serving and decide that a

feeling is not a truth unless you start living in agreement with it,

and that goes for yourself or anyone else…

 

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Are You A PlaceHolder???

“Place Holders”
Written by Salkis Re
 
You think you fucked the shit outta him, yet he left you.
You think you are a dime piece, yet he left you.
You think you are the most intelligent woman he’s ever been with, yet he left you.
You think you are smarter than him, yet he left you.
You have a big ass, yet he left you.
You neck and chinned his dick till your throat was sore and snot ran out yuh nose, yet he left you.
You think you have manners and self respect, yet he left you.
You have a good paying job, yet he left.
You have a degree, yet he left you.
You didn’t have sex with him for 90 days, yet he still left
He never talked about sex, then you fucked him, and he still left you.
You have a tight pussy, yet he left you.
You look better than all his other girlfriends, yet he left you.
and on and on and on…
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ALL of you’s on this list were/are PLACEHOLDERS.
A placeholder is a woman good enough for “now” or even a few years,
some of you are even married placeholders believe it or not!
And the gag is that all of the you’s on this list knew something wasn’t right.
You felt that something was wrong, you knew it!
 
You can regulate your pussy all day long, and it doesn’t cause you are not the “one” to begin with..
You claim you have preference, but men know you are liberal with your convictions, he’s banking on it.
 
You know what gets every woman caught into the net of PLACEHOLDER???
 

****FLATTERY******

 
Appealing to your vanity.
That knocks you off your throne EVERY FUCKING TIME!
What did I tell you before?
Without vanity, and appealing to your need to be validated through it, men have NO POWER OVER YOU..
He bends time, and dodges a lot of incidentals through flattering you.
He makes you feel like you are actually in a commitment,
that he actually has genuine feelings for you all through administering FLATTERY!
Lord help us if you feel he is handsome or better than you because of money or status our whatever,
then you’ll start making concessions in your boundaries in order to impress him!
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Be immoveable.
Be unshakable.
Be unimpressible.
Be unbothered.
Be self contained.
And just observe him like he is observing you.
DO not assume that anything being said, any show of affection, gifts or money is some actually show of true feelings.
Take your time.
DO not give u your vagina.
BE fabulous, cordial, and unapologetic about your personal magic…
Be different.
Be unafraid to show flaws.
Honor the value you have for yourself at all time,
and do not negotiate your morals..
Now go back and RECLAIM YOUR THRONE!!back queens
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Sex Should Frighten you!

“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.

This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.

Sex is a death ritual.

Sex is a  “giving up” of your soul to another soul.

Sex is A sacrifice.

Sex is  A melding together of thoughts,

emotions,

feelings,

bacteria,

shyte,

puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.

Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.

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But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.

But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!

Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.

And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.

Why?
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.

Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.

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Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.

Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it

sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.

This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.

This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

“Virtuous Women Get No Love”

 

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Life Coach\Artist ~Salkis Re

 

There are many women that have morals and values,

who are ready and willing to be the subordinate for a strong man,

but often times, she does not come packaged in vanity.

The virtuous woman often times will come in a thrifty, plain looking package,

not the TROPHY woman men are often in pursuit of.

But she will cook for you,

have sex when and how you want it, take care of your children and do as you say.

BUT YOU WILL OVERLOOK HER***

You men do not want THAT woman. You say you do, but you don’t.

You want that women who does NOT want you, it’s called the “hunt” isn’t it?

So you men look for women who are better looking than you,

and those women are looking for men who are better than them.

And you spin around in your hamster wheel asking why did she do this,

or how could she do that.
Why?

Because she NEVER wanted you in the first place, that’s why.
So it’s wrong from the start,

but the nature of man is to care more about what they do NOT have over what they DO have…

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach/Artist/Medicine Woman
Salkis Re

Why is Everybody Single??

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

MOST men, no matter what age they are, want “physically” young looking women and he would be a jackpot winner if he gets a woman who is young with her own money.

Lllllllmmao! But the issue with that is that if she is young and attractive and has her own coins, she can hold out for a man who is better looking than you, who fucks better than you, who makes enough money to “handle” everything she wants and needs.

And this is why people are single!
Everybody is scouting for a partner who is better than themselves in looks or money, and if you luck up on someone who IS better than you yet wants to be with you, trust that SHE/HE is “ALWAYS MENTALLY or PHYSICALLY SHOPPING” meaning she/he is with you yet open/motivated to finding a “better” replacement.

And why is this?
Because you are a “charity case”, not a boyfriend/girlfriend they fear of losing.
Chasing women/men out of your league gets you ALL OF THAT!

So when you are seeking the “best” partner, the perfect fit, be careful that you are not signing yourself up to be a beast of burden.

And ladies,
If a man is “better” than you, you mustn’t substantiate that claim by displaying insecurity, emotional neediness, and a total disregard of your own self interests or you WILL be dragged through the mud.
Carry on…

“Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re

Justification of Bullshit!!

Your Life Coach, Salkis Re

Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.

It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
But you know what this means too?
It means that you can also justify the things that give you pleasure,
the things or experiences that improve you physically and mentally.
Justification for laziness,
sloth,
indecisiveness,
fear,
and anger takes the same amount of energy as the justification for wanting a man with a gigantic penis,
or a house with 6 bedrooms.Why?
Because your justification creates the importance behind anything you do or don’t do,

and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.

There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.

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I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
The answer?
Nothing!
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships

because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.

I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.

The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,

or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.

I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!

And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
No Sir!
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!

So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,

or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
GAME!!
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

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You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

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                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

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African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

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So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Push Through!

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“Isabella Doesn’t Want to Leave” Art by Salkis Re

The weekend is almost here. Another week gone with tasks incomplete and more to hope to accomplish than anything actually done.

It’s easy not to try, but its cost will steal currency throughout your entire life. Not trying means that nobody gets hurt, no one suffers disappoint or the shame that comes from failing, but what also doesn’t happen is that you never get to experience what you could have become. You then live out your days in the shadow of quiet agony over what might have been.

Not trying is a the purchase of certain failure, it’s a sort death really, which is what surpression gifts you. Life is hard but it’s exciting too, and it becomes quite the game that it really is when you approach it as no big deal.

You lose, so what.

You gain, so what.

You keep moving at all costs, testing and stretching your abilities. This is ALL that life is about: trial and error.

Get out of your own way and fly my darling. Fall on your face just like a child first learning to walk. Don’t be ashamed to learn from your lessons, for this is how wisdom is obtained.

In other words, grow up AND become a child again…

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“Mistress of Words”

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Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

“Spiritual Healer”

“Life Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website:

www.iloveherart.com

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Men Can Spot the Weakness in Women

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

We say men are hunters right? Ok what are the characteristics of a hunter? Isn’t Isn’t a hunter observant and watchful of what he has his eye on? Isn’t a hunter looking for the easiest prey?

Can a hunter not spot frailties and weaknesses? Men are more observant than you think. And when they care about what they’re after, then they REALLY watch.

Men can sniff out insecure women and “feed” off you just a kill. Desperation is not what you want to be; it will make you a sitting duck. Get your mind together and quit thinking you can conceal how you feel about yourself because you can’t.

 

We have to stOP thinking that we are really concealing our feelings. These things seep into everything we do. You are going look insecure, and you will act it out or reveal it eventually.

The point is to build yourself from the inside, to have integrity and follow through is what will build your self esteem. I tell the i coach girls Guilt will destroy you faster than any other emotion because leads to shame,  self doubt, fear, intimidation, and cowardly behavior.

So how do you break the cycle of low self esteem? You have to keep your word.

Yes!!!

Keep your fucking word to yourself#!

Make a promise and come hell or high water, (keep that shit)and actually finish what you start.

When you do this, your guilt will start falling away and you will begin to trust yourself. And trusting yourself means that you can say NO to what you need to walk away from. It means you can count on yourself yo always do what is in your best interest.

How freaking awesome is that!!!

To finally be your best friend!!!

AND what does this mean for men who are after you? It means that they have to right or not at all. It means that they cannot convince you to go against your better judgment because you no longer decide what is right or wrong for you based on the approval or disappointment of ANYONE.

You are chief.

The head Honcho!

Numero Uno baby!!!

BAM!

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Who am I?

I am your fairy Godmother

“Liberator of the Breath”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”

“The Lie Slayer”

~Salkis Re

 

You Are One of A kind

You really are one of a kind. But is it hard to asses the value of your worth

without comparing it to something or should I say someone else. But this leads to anguish as

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“Waiting On Your Love Baby” Painted by Salkis Re

your mind can only cop an ease from self ridicule when in the company of less physically blessed beauties.

The constant internal conversation about who you can look better than, Continue reading “You Are One of A kind”

Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!

Aww the new year is here!! And we are alive to enjoy whoo-hoo. 2016 was a roller coaster for sure and I can’t say that im not relieved to see it go.

I brought in the new year on the phone with a client of mine. She booked a session with me just to thank me for the advice I give young women on love and Continue reading “Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!”

The Great Pretenders

I watch people,

I listen.

I ponder.

I wonder about ‘us’. Us women I mean.

And how we are afraid of things that give us no legitimate cause to fear while other things display their harm to us repeatedly yet we stay the course, weather the storm, hope for the best, bestow optimism towards. You do these things for everybody else but yourself. You can see the bright side of a slap in the face if his d&85k makes you cum.
But for you, well.. you doubt even what you know you are capable of!
Why do you do this?

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Who taught you to hate yourself this much? When one person says your nothing, you think the world agrees with him. Truth is, I’m asking like I have not been you, and I have. What I am trying to do here is save you time, to help you learn the lesson fast and live slow. Time is important, the most important thing you got.
Time is not money, its more valuable than money because money cannot renew it; once its gone, its gone forever… The truth is bitter, the truth is not harsh:

THE TRUTH IS YOUR BEST AND ONLY FRIEND!! I need for you to want it, to crave it.
It is the only thing that will bring your right mind back you know. You got to dance with it in order to heal and transform..
From the desk of “Your Life Coach” ~Salkis Re
If you are ready to be who you were meant to be, not what they say you HAVE to be, but what you were meant to be then pick up this template of wisdom I have to share.
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Honesty? Oh! Honestly Please!

I hear this verbado all the time. “Oh I don’t play no games, I’m straight up when it comes to relationships!” I hear this and immediately think: “This person has no clue in how to seduce!” Playing games is a part of courtship, its apart of creating emotional connections with people. Now, I am not talking about anything malicious here, I am speaking of creating fantasies in the mind of the person you are wanting to pursue YOU.

Telling him you can cook rather than surprising him with a 4 course meal is going to have a different effect. Both will yield a favorable result, but being caught off guard, being surprised will have more emotional cushioning surrounding the big reveal. This is what Im speaking of. We just talk to f’ing much and don’t allow the other person to paint a picture of us, to dream of us. By putting is ‘All Out There’, you leave nothing for discovery. You don’t give him a chance to feel happy and honored about being chosen by you…

Hold you tongue. This is not about you. This is about the man that you want to be with who cannot know that he has already won your heart. That is what hurried honesty does, it breeds contempt and a slow down in the chase. “Oh I got time, she wants me!” Is what he says to himself. If you are not aware of this yet, anxiety is the best friend of passion. Save your truth for your own heart and disclose over time, not in one 4 hour phone call. You do that talk all night ish on the first run, and you are done before you start… Pace Yourself..

~Salkis Re

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Growing Pains

Some pretty jacked up stuff has been going down in my life lately. Like major life changing ish! But I feel a little confused because I feel relieved for some strange reason. It’s like I don’t have to pretend anymore. I don’t have to be unsure of what I have to do. I’m devastated yet free at the same time. I’m emotionally ready to move back to GA or Florida. I’m still trying to decided but I definitely know its time to be back on the east coast.

I didn’t realize until recently that I’d been holding my breath for a few years. Waiting for the other shoe to drop.. And it finally did. I’m not ready to talk about the specifics of things until all my affairs are finalized, and even then, I may not tell. I have to keep a little grain of my honor I guess. But I will say this: to be a woman is a special special gift to me, one that I am appreciating more and more everyday. I am ready for peace, I am ready for romance. I want my soul mate and I want him now… I never said that out loud…*giggles but it feels good to admit it.

Let see what the heavens can muster up for me. In the mean time, I will keep on creating art pieces for you to connect with. My ‘girls” are more therapeutic to me now than ever before.. Get some love and hang it on your wall is all I can say… Hugs

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You Have a Right to Change!

Soooo being an artist has taught me how to be more fluid with everything in life. We have every right to change what no longer feels good, what no longer serves us. Our elders were consistent in their behaviors, and it was easy because there wasn’t too many things to distract them from their usual habits. But know the world is literally at our fingertips.

I KNOW TOO MUCH

We’ve got information overload, and with just a few clicks of your mouse, you can learn that you should be dissatisfied with your entire life!! You can read about how much sex you should have, or how fat you are compared to the national average.

Pap Smears and Underwear

Thanks to social media, I get to know how your pap smear exam went, who’s mother died and what you made for dinner. I’m frazzled by all the selfie pics from women who seem uncomfortable taking them in the first place and barrage of unwanted suitors that crowd my inbox with pleasantries even though they are clearly spoken for. I change my mind a lot! I don’t do it as much as I change underwear, but it would be a close second if I did wear underwear (insert diabolical laughter here) lol.

They Whisper to Me, Come here…

 Seems like when its really quiet, I could hear the paintings calling me to do something. My paintings are never really done. I just decide to put down the brush and walk away. But Sometimes they call me back and give them new life. 

Change is good….. Sometimes

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Ooooh She’s Naked!!!!

Soo I am revamping, cleaning house, looking our my business plans, my goals and motivations.  What is my message? What has been my message this entire time?

Empowerment of course. Female Empowerment to be precise. And healing..

I wanted and still do intend on portray life’s lessons through the eyes of the sweet little girls I paint. But questions were posed to me the other day, and it became apparent to me that I was editing myself as an artist so that I would not offend people. I dabbled here and there in sensuality and sexuality, but I realized that some of the story was being left untold. If I am truly for the autonomy of women, this means being comfortable with everything that being a woman is about.

Some people are offended by nudes and I respect that. But what I don’t have to do is make my work a reflection of what they are uncomfortable with. So I ask them now, are you offended when you take off your clothes? Maybe that is where the angst comes from. A disgust with one’s self possibly? I know that one very well too. So I face myself in the mirror while making corrections instead hiding behind morality like so many of my beloved sisters do. Anyone who has followed my work or commentary for any length of time knows that I’m not an advocate for parting your legs whenever the munchies hit you. Discipline is what I propose for all vices and corrections in character flaws not over indulgences.

Got a new website coming called “iloveherart.com”

Nudity in my work represents total relaxation with the self, nothing to hide and no need to hide. This is what I’m on a mission to embody as I shed old skin and look for new experiences to aid in the formation of my new personality. Self respect is about doing in the dark the same things you do in the light. Its about packing up the need to pretend that you ‘don’t this’ for anyone. Are we holding up billboards? No. Every man doesn’t need to know what I do in bed, but the man that I want to be with should be told without hesitation what my needs are. But  what I find is that people that hide what they fear also inadvertently hide and are unable to communicate what they really want too. Guilt has no place in healing. No place in my world. I will leave that charge to those of you who enjoy the dance of deception, so I will not carry your burden for you. One of the main reasons that I became an artist is for the freedom to do whatever I wanted to do and find those who resonate with my form of expression.

That’s it!

I hope my fans continue to walk with me as I evolve and explore the vastness of love as I see it. Some of you will drop off, and I don’t mind if you do. I just ask that you do classy and quietly like you expect me to be….

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DR Sebi Village

Dr Sebi, Weed, Sex and Love lessons

 

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Me and Dr Sebi

 

Dr. Sebi is one of those fearless people I’ve had the pleasure of spending one on one time with, and a nonstop comedy show actually. No filter, no edits, no “I shouldn’t say that”. Non of that. He is the first, well the only person I know that I was able be totally free to talk to about anything. You couldn’t make him blush, nothing was a ‘bad thing to say’ or inappropriate. He talked about his stint in the crazy hospital diagnosed with schizophrenia and how he cured his insanity and other ailments through diet and herbs. He talked a lot about his sex life. He leaned forward in his easy chair, took a puff to prep for his statement and yelled out:  “I love to f%%k, No, NO, I LIVE TO F%%K”  My mouth dropped and then I burst out laughing at the way he expressed his love of the p$$$y like he was reading the book of revelations. I wanted to jump up and say AMEN, but I was too busy laughing in shame at his bravado.

I Should Have Smoked With Him…

Sebi went in the back room and came out with a carry on size suitcase, he opened it up and it was full of weed. He looked at me smiling and I guess he was expecting me to prance up and down at the sight of plethora of green goodness, but I sat there with my mouth open. I think I lost some credibility with him cause I wouldn’t light one up cause he gave me this “Oh you one of them” looks. I did plan to try the peyote he raved about though, but I was scared of that too, hehe. I managed to muster up some courage to try the snake powder though. Pablo (Sebi’s right hand man) said, “Here Eat it, it cleans the blood”. With a squeamish look on my face, I sprinkled some powered on my tongue and waited to hurl, but It wasn’t bad though. It had a dried fish taste to me..

So back to Sebi. I sat there waiting for another wave of shameless banter to come from his lips but I had to wait for Pablo to finish rolling out his blunts, Sebi moved his attention to the soccer game on his wide screen while Pablo prepped the accoutrements for Sebi’s nonstop weed smoking fest. He lined up about 6 spliffs side by side on a little coffee table and put it next to Sebi’s chair with a lighter. The attendants came in with soup and tea for him. The food got cold, the tea collected dust, but ” Deh Erbs Cum Ahrund” like Collie Buddz say, lol. Well about an hour into the conversation I was in full contact off the smoke and I felt more relaxed and got the nerve up to ask him more personal questions. There was a young lady coming in and out of the bungalow periodically. She made his bed and picked up laundry and removed the food they kept bringing him that he wouldn’t eat. I’d catch her giving me the side eye every so often and I realized that she was possibly one of Sebi’s side chics.

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Sebi Likes them young but..

So I asked Sebi why he liked young girls . He said “I don’t want them, they want me and I can’t even insult them away from me, so I keep them around until they want to leave!” I looked at him and hung my head cracking up. Could this man be anymore full of himself I thought. But he was dead serious. “See I don’t believe in forcing people to love you, they either love you or they don’t. I don’t own anybody and they don’t own me!” So Sebi, you don’t get jealous? ” I asked. ” Once I caught my wife in bed f^^king another man, I told them don’t stop on my account, I’m just going to get my things so keep on f^^king!”. I bursted out laughing again but I was a little puzzled by his indifference, so the next question was: “SO you wouldn’t even fight for your woman Sebi?”

He took a puff and looked at me with this crazy look. “If she was mine, if she wanted to be with me, would I need to fight for her?” I’m not fighting with you or for you to be with me. We are all free.” He said. I looked at him and he looked at me. I had to process that you a minute. So simple yet powerfully true. He looked at me and I guess he knew he crushed some of my notions of love, but then I snapped back to life. “Wait Wait! You left your wife for sleeping around on you,but you expect your woman to stay with you if you cheat!” “I don’t expect sh&*t! If she feels another man can f$$k her better than me, I will help her pack and give him some herbs to keep hard too!”

Me glowing from the Thermal Waters *Dead.. I flat lined at that point and brother had to excuse himself for the umteenth time choking with laughter.

So clearly he is not into sharing his woman and not into keeping her if she don’t want to be kept. I asked about sex again. I couldn’t resist,lol. “Sebi  you never  had a good piece of a$$ to get you strung out? Be careful cause one of these young sweet thangs will put it on you and you will change your tune!” “I had a good piece of a$$. Actually, the best a$$ I ever had was from an older women, she was 65 at the time. She just knew how to touch me, that was the best a$$ I have ever had to this day! Sebi said. Laughing louder now cause I see his face and he is thinking about that woman deeply now. “So Sebi why didn’t you wife her up if she was the best you ever had?” He takes a puff why staring at the T.V. screen.. “Well I was married at the time, and she didn’t want to be my second wife!”  I Flat lined again beeeeeeep.

We talked for a few more hours and to sum up what I learned of love from this crazy, wonderful man is that self love is all you need to sustain your life, Its all you need to have a happy life filled with love. “Lovers come and go, right! Are you with your first love? NO! SO what is the same? YOU. You are the same, You carry yourself with you everywhere, so the only thing you HAVE to love is yourself!” Sebi said while wagging his finger in my face.

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You Not Gonna Waste My Time!

The unpleasant side of being an artist is having to deal with all the flakes and foolery from folks who pretend that they are interested in buying. I used to entertain conversations with anyone who made a statement about my work, especially on social media. But these days I have very guarded with my time and the emotional conversation pertaining to my art.

I GET SOME STUPID ASS QUESTIONS!!

I had to deal with a very combative troll a few weeks ago asking me why I don’t paint boys in my art. I simply said “Because I do what I want to do!” But he kept igging me on, trying to figure out if I’m some closet feminist man hater. I assumed because I didn’t have any pictures up with men. (I’ve never paraded my relationships on social media and I never will.) But I got hot about this because as an artist, I don’t have to ‘answer’ to anyone about why I do what I do. I never heard anyone ask an artist who only paints animals why they don’t paint people or artists who paint nature scenes why they don’t paint skyscrapers!!

And its always these mother suckers that what to make ‘suggestions’ about what you should add to your body of work: but if you added it for their sake, they still wouldn’t or probably could afford to buy from you. They are energy drainers indeed and I immediately put the brakes on when I see them. Everyone who ‘likes’ your work is NOT your market. And I had to learn that the hard way.

WOMAN ASKS ME WHY IM CHARGING SO MUCH!!

OMG! that conversation took all the restraint I had left and there wasn’t much to begin with. I told this girl the price of an original art piece and she goes into a whole dialog about being a young mother, not a corporate CEO and she wanted the painting for her daughter. Then she continues by asking about my pricing structure. I told her that I offered her the option of buying a print which was more within range of what she could afford, I even offered a payment plan for the original! And she was still yapping about pricing.

I politely told her that I don’t based my price or alter it because someone has a low paying job, or unemployed, or plan to give to their 1 year old daughter… That has nothing to do with me. By the end of the conversation, what she wanted was to license the art piece and she thought by buying the original that it gave her the right to reproduce it!! WTF!!! LOL SHe came back a few minutes later with the “My boyfriend said I was wrong and owed you an apology”.. Uh Yeah Whatever.

Needless to say, I had to fall back.. I mean waaaaay back from all the noise. I don’t allow people to gets minutes of my time when it starts with me having to alter anything. I see people try to play the emotional game and I guess that works for some, but I am very clear on the ‘why’ of my art business. Im not conflicted at all about the value I bring to the world…

~Salkis Re

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