Fuck For Coins

 

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So this topic has been pillaging my mind of late.

This notion of immorality and requiring money for access to you vagina.

When aren’t we in negotations for our bodies?

I’m waiting for a real answer on this..

Some of us fuck for gas money.

Some of us fuck to pay a cell phone bill.

Some of us fuck for trips or to get half the rent money.

Some of us fuck to show our sexual value(especially the ugly girls)

Some us fuck for Commitment.

Some of us fuck for love.

But ALL of us fuck for an exchange in value.

The problem is that some exchanges are considered adequate compensation.

 

Some of our vaginas are not seen as value packed because the face it’s attached to lacks luster.

But the reason for default on a promise of reciprocity is not the point here.

The point is that you WANT something from him,

and have worked out in your heart and mind what you intend to GIVE in order to get it.

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“My Spliff” Art By Salkis Re

We all selling pussy round here.

Unfortunately some of us receive wooden nickels for it because we lack emotional control,

seductive presentation, and negotiation skills.

We think morality, being a moral woman will invite honor and respect and Fidelity.

How Sway???

So the question is this. Are you being unreasonable in your expectations?

Are you setting the bar too high?

Are your demands in line with the “value” you bring?

To be totally honest, if someone isn’t sold on your value, it’s because you haven’t lied enough.

It’s because you haven’t seduced enough.

It’s because you too busy presenting your fucking virtue instead of creating anxiety.

Men hold no power in the matter, and if you uncover their

secrets you will find that would like to ejaculate in any hole, any “type” of hole too.

Market yourself. Learn how to market yourself for results.

That is all “love” is about, especially for you girls who are NOT standard beauties,

though many of you would like to argue differently.

This is Black Hat Wisdom.

Put on Your Hat….

Life Coach, Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

 

Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

Abstract Art by Salkis Re
Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re

 

“Reasons”
Written by Salkis Re
 
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.
 

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Why?
Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.
 

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.
Why?

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

You Are What You FEEL You Are!!

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Everybody sees things in their own way. There is no possible way to be completely objective.

Why? Because you process everything in your world based on the information files in your head.

You gauge what you are seeing by what you have seen before, always in route to the familiar road.

We all filter our environment in this way, and it’s necessary to do so in order to avoid stimulation overload.

You see what you see based on how you feel about yourself, and how you feel about yourself is based on your health, how your nervous system responds, and, of course, your past experiences.

The important thing to remember is that we ALL have a lense, a filter by which we SEE, so this means that reality will ALWAYS be somewhat distorted.

This also means that because we are all innately see in distortion, we should not take what we see for face value.

There’s a lot of unconscious whoo-ha happening at the same time too.

So how do you combat the distortion in your perception?

By becoming a little skeptical.

Check things out further and ask questions for clarity.

Never assume that you know exactly what you are seeing.

You cannot control what you see ALL of the time!

Your genetics as well as your experiences determine how you see and how you think.

Your:

Needs

Beliefs

Emotional State

Physiological State

and Habitual Behavior Patterns

ALL decide what you see and experience.

So let’s break down each one.

NEEDS:

Needs alter your reality because it makes you focus on fulfilling  not particular need. If you are thirsty, you are gonna be looking everywhere for water.

Ormaybe you have a need to impress a new boyfriend, so you go out of your way to find something special to wear when you have perfect clothes n your closet already.

Having a need makes you dissatisfied with your surroundings, with people, even yourself.

BELIEFS

Beliefs are predetermined or preconceived notions, Values, Prejudices, about ongoing interactions. Of instance, a neat freak who Values being extra clean will think that everything around her isn’t clean enough and often this leads to exaggeration of the level untidiness in the environment she is in.

 

EMOTIONAL STATE

When you are aroused with emotions like anger, you are gonna see the world as dangerous and unpleasant.

When you are in love, you see the world through Rose colored glasses.

And when you are depressed(you are feeling Blue).

You are, whatever you are feeling at the time, and you SEE based on what you are feeling in that moment.

 

PHYSIOLOGICAL STATE

What you see through your filter is predicated upon your physical being. If you have a fever, headache, tired, under medication, even hungry can cause you to act frustrated, detached, or argumentative.

And a lot of times, we don’t even notice the shift in our emotional constitution that the physical body invites us into.

HABITUAL BEHAVIOR PATTERNS

These are coping strategies applied to justfiable or unjustifiable situations. You simply act in a certain way to avoid pain or harm whether or not you are in situations that call for it. Most people simply reach into their bag of tricks to pull out a familiar response to their world, never taking the time to base a response on accurate assessments instead.

 

So here an exercise for you:

Spend the next few days imagining that your eyes are a camera and your ears are a microphone. Bring awareness to your ears and create a voice over in your head narrating what you see and hear.

Imagine responses you would NOT normally give and take note of how your awareness of your reality shifts.

In other words: Flip the script!

You will start to SEE with broader focus and more accurately too because you will be outside of your usual distorted response patterns.

Let me end here by saying this:

People do dastardly things for a myriad of reasons;
low blood sugar,

disease,

fear,

anxiety,

loneliness and so forth,

can and WILL distort the lenses of one’s reality AND decision making.

Take your hands off THEIR wheel!

The part were you come in is with how you respond to it, and what you do with the ‘awareness ‘ they’ve now given to you.
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“Medicine Woman”

“Artist”

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
My Website for coaching and art: www.iloveherart.com

 

 

 

Learning the Game Early

 

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Art by Salkis Re

“We’ve Learned”
Written by Salkis Re

Little girls learn what the bigger girls have to do,
preoccupied their minds with looking pretty like them too.

Then mommy steps in
cause she wants to slow us down,
saying we have to wait till we’re a bit bigger to wear her crown.

But we see early
the inner workings of the game,
and we see the point, and we don’t see a point to wait.

Mommy says we look pretty,
and this makes us feel so good,
and Daddy give her more love when she puts on these clothes.

So we’re here
ransacking the dresser drawer looking for her swag,
cause we know we got to look more good
to get more than what we have.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
#artinprogress

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Today’s message is to learn quickly. To learn without the right or wrong contemplations with necessities. If you need to do it, do it!

Game isn’t going anywhere and if you want someone in your life, you WILL have to conform in order to get what you want.

You have to be pretty to create the environment of cooperation in men.

And if the cards of life have dealt you with mediocrity in the face, you MUST act like you are prettier than you actually are.

It’s as simple as that.

 

A Woman’s Place

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Woman’s Advocate”
“Spiritual Healer”
~Salkis Re

Are You Begging to Be Used?

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Never beg cause begging is like asking someone if it’s OK to pay to abuse you…”
~Salkis Re

I see it all over the place. Women “asking” to be accepted, crying or foaming at the mouth with anger for not having a “fair shot” at love and companionship.

I worry about them a lot.

In fact, I was one of them.

Bitter. Angry. Vulnerable.

I spent so much time crafting rants and venting session, orchestrated smear campaigns and rebuttals to all the low life basterds who didn’t think a “woman like me” deserved to be respected and loved.

It felt good; but it was pointless.

I had to come to that stark conclusion after a while.

My look is that of a “slave archetype“, large lips, dark skin and nappy hair.

Yup. That’s all me.

But what I realized that I didn’t need to intentionally fight the stereotypes put forth by society.

In fact, as I examined things further, a lot of the notions of beauty are really a matter of “class” than esthetics. If you have a certain amount of money, you can get whatever the funk you want and WHO ever the future know you want.

That is top, middle AND the bottom line.

Money brings status and self esteem and a sense of entitlement which are the attributes that opens doors for anyone.It’s best to condition your mind to start thinking like you are rich already, instead of waiting on what might never come in actual numbers.

African American Art
Art by Salkis Re

Begging for love is what slaves do. Begging or should say (in a kinder way)’asking’ to be accepted and admired will only reduce you to servitude status.

Why?

  • Because when you ask for these things

its because they are not inside of you.

  • You think the person you want it from is responsible for giving it to you.
  • And more importantly than any reason is the fact that you think they are BETTER than you are or you would never ask it of them in the first place.

Ahh…

Servitude indeed…

Are you a master in training or a professional slave?

“Black Hat Wisdom”

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Self Esteem Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website: www.iloveherart.com

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Your Sex Is a Gift

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Your Sex Matters
I know you’ve heard it before.
Sex is no big deal. Sex is easy to get.

Sex is doesn’t need to have commitment attached as so on..

*And I guess all of that is true: depending on who you talk too.

But I will say this, every man who has told me that to my face has NEVER cared about me. They never wanted anything outside of my “hole”.

So while the argument can be made that we are more than just a vagina, it’s that “just another hole” that they want straight away.

Don’t fall for that **devalue game. It implies that there’s no need for you to be sexual selective, to scrutinize or have “enforced” standards of conduct and intention from that man.**

A **dime a dozen vaginas** are out here in droves but your value is not **stock market based.**

Sex is a gift.

It’s a blessing if your vaginal is healthy and responsive. It is uplifting if you feel good about yourself. It’s a good luck charm if you live a life in awareness and appreciation.

  • If you are sexing to escape your reality,
  • to simulate love,
  • to distract you from your pain,
  • to make him fall in love either you,
  • to impress him,
  • because you are bored or lonely:

you are corrupting yourself!

What could be more important in your life than your vagina? That is the portal between the spirit and physical realm.

How can you excuse it’s magic and cast your pearls to swine?

Your depression,

lack of confidence

and self worth

have a great deal to do with sexual intrusion. The choice you make to “open” yourself to souls who cannot advance you is very costly. The stability you claim to have in spite of what you do is crippling you.

Am I addressing “morality‘ here?
Not at all.
Why?
Because once you have Sex, contemplating morality is inconsequential. Because after you’ve had Sex for the first time, it immediately becomes a game of “appearences” and not wanting to be perceived a particular way.
You have to make a choice here. Is your body a gift or is a “thing to play with”?

 

Do you know how awesome and deeply insightful it is to have an artist for a lifecoach? It is insanely inspiring. It is insightful on a deep, cerebral level. It’s creative and very simplistic experience, and what you learn eill be overlooked by Many!

I invite you to take a taste of what you can enjoy should you decide to do a full transformative program with me.

A Time To Die!

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“Self Esteem Coach”~Salkis Re

 

 

Yup!

Time for a slow singing, flower bringing moment for the ‘old’ you.

Time to let go of that script you like to spit out to every new person you meet.

You know the one.

The one that gives you sympathy points. The story that makes people are pity on you, that makes people what to stop and hug you because it looks like you are about to fall apart..for the thousandth time.

 

Enough!

Stop being a ‘show’ for people to laugh and talk about when you leave the room. Stop wanting the kind of attention empathy brings.

In order to become the goddess you want to be, you have to set yourself to a higher standard and ‘own’ your tragedies in a results producing way.

Your momma didn’t love you?

Ok.

How can you use that to make you better?

You were molested as a child?

Ok.

What can you do with that experience to make you better or the lives of other children better?

What can you do with your pain besides cower down and wait for people to hand you a tissue?

This moment is your time if you decide that it is. This moment can be the death AND the Rebirth of your being if you want it too.

Time does NOT heal all wounds, a DECISION does!!!

 

OK let me wrap up this message by saying that I want to work with you. If you are reading this, then we are already resonating with each other. But you may still have reservations and that’s cool too! If you want to set up an informal session with me to get a some real time experience and to see if you want to commit to working together on a full time basis,  then click here to get your feet wet

I did a video today that I want you to watch. explains the 4 principles of building up your self worth so you can start living a life free from lack, ugliness and self doubt.

CLICK HERE

How Tell If Someone is Lying!

Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

 

Sooo, I decided to make a video today about communication.

Why?

Because we are asking a million questions but still ain’t gettin the right answers.

There’s a way to get to the truth because truth be told, everybody lies and they lie about not telling lies too.

Let me put you up on game today. You can thanknow me later.

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You Think He Doesn’t Know He Hurts You?

“People Know Exactly What They Are Doing”
Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Women often create this romanticism around the pain inflicted upon them. All of a sudden that person who is mistreating you is reduced and excused into having the brain matter of a drippling toddler, while you inadvertently defend their actions while creating a barrier of delusion and blame to match your emotional fragility by saying he must be “unaware” and “clueless” of what he has done to”continuously” hurt you…

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“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

He’s only smart when he treats you kind?

But when he is in the mood to treat you nicely, somehow, on that particular day, you don’t doubt that his intellect and facilities are in tact.
So here is an thought brought to life step by step:

  1. When someone makes a decision, a thought must come to their mind first.
  2.  After that, plans are made to actualize that thought. Included in the planning phase are: the be best times to do it; contingencies to make sure it’s conceal from you;
  3. and a budget may also be implemented  put in place depending on how much this decision costs to execute and how often it will be happening.

Doing Good or Bad has zip to do with intelligence!

In other words, it’s the same thought process to do “good” as it is to do “bad“. Stop thinking your that your pain is an instrument being used to increase their maturity level. People do what they want to do and regret AFTER they get caught. It’s just circumstances and consequences playing out for YOUR growth, NOT theirs…

“Self Esteem Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re
Nurture your heart by
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“The ‘Act” of Unconditional Love”

                                                                      “Secrets Under My Skirt” Poem by Salkis Re

Most of us women have been “trained” to “act” in ways that will be appealing to men. To talk softly and smile, be agreeable and non threatening. No up-staging or acting like we know it all, I’d even go so far as to play dumb in order to be a good subordinate. You can’t overrule the king, and you certainly better not if you are closer to average looking or you’ll blow straight into oblivion the entire “mirage” of your “packaged” beauty.

Trained and ready to serve is the initiation into womanhood for most of us. Everybody worrying about gray hair and keep the body together so his “love” never ceases. And some of you still have the audacity to utter ideals of unconditional love when you’ve been conditioned your entire life for that love..

Great romances abound. I see intense kisses and braggadocios parading using “planned” photo ops of blissful folly to make the ether audience entertained and slightly jealous too. You’ve felt inadequate since the first cartoon you watched and that first comb you put to your barbie doll’s head. Everywhere you turn, there is a “problem” or a “flaw about you that needs tending too. EVERYWHERE!! And that inadequacy drowns the heart worry and fear. You compete with women who don’t even know you, you try up outclass and eclipse the women who threaten your livelihood/man.

Lol what is the tea? Men love sex more than they love women. And your hole holds more value than you whole. As a matter of fact, the rest of your body, your needs just get in the way as that hole is used like a toilet bowl for his frustration and stress. But that’s another post. I don’t want you to think I’m brooding here, and I certainly am not recruiting for any hidden: let’s all hate men propaganda. Men are yummy, and admirable, some god-like even.

Most of the people I look up to are indeed men. When they are worthy of course..

So no, I want you to have love by whatever it represents to you.  I don’t focus on the hope part because I know we have the scornful parts of ourselves to even get to a place where we can see what deserves the time to cultivate love. The parts you hide, are the parts you have to see so you can release your shame, doubt and fear of not being good enough for the very love you want..

Who’s zooming who? Like a Lady Aretha Franklin says..

I’m being bit facetious now, but the point must be made.

The tea is medicinal, tastes bitter, yet always needed.

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

Tea Bagging the Control Trap!

 

 

I can’t help but laugh when I look at this lady in the pic so I had to include her in my message today. In a nut shell its this.  Controlling people may be needed at times, it may even be necessary for survival. Lord knows I’ve certainly been “hand to mouth” and had to rely on my Damsel in Distress sensibilities to get out of a jam or two.

The problem is in the preoccupation with controlling others. And this often comes at the expense of you own sanity and basic well being. Some of you go down with the ship, determined to make him love you at all costs when he probably didn’t like you to begin with.

Harsh, I know.

P&*sy rules right? Starts wars and all kinds of magnificently spectacular distruction to display affection.

But that affection is a mother sucker though. It get’s us all caught of in helplessness and the abyss of nothingness topped with some whip cream of regret!

Turned me into a soup kitchen charity case a few times. To possess people without your own self esteem, well, it will back fire on you.

You can’t hold the form of high regard when you are anxious, needy, and have unstructured boundaries. To control anyone effectively, you must first discipline yourself.

You have to build your sense of entitlement through what you do for yourself on a daily basis. I liken it to requiring that a man come with six pack abs while you shamefully stuff your muffin top into a body magic doohickey… That’s cheating!!!!!

The operative word here is SHAME. If you are ashamed of yourself, then you cannot affirm what you want and will not have the juice required to make demands for your pleasure. So how do you get out of the shame trap? One way is to accept what is.

Accept what is fixed about you, and don’t try to become something else to hide it. That will only weaken you.

We usually redirect or distract ourselves from what we don’t like about ourselves by being overly critical of ourselves in other ways.

REMEMBER THIS:What you accept, lays to rest.

And then you will have reserve power to focus on what you can improve, and what you have total control over.

If you don’t get this right, or get you right I mean, then you will fail to catch and hold the attention of the one you love.

How you gonna manipulate with low self esteem? LLLOL

Pause.

You should learn to control yourself! FIRST!

So my lovelies, I got a new website Im working on called “Drink That Tea.com , I felt it was time to give what I had to say and my coaching stuff it own platform so that I could free up more creativity to say what I wanted to say. I am planning to actually have tea for sale there too lol and lots of feel good things for 2017, so stay tuned up for that. In the meantime, I am here is you need one on one coaching, and my ebook is out and reading for instant download if you need some stronger tea, so cop that and read at your leisure if you like. Here’s the Link: My book! 

Have a gander at my lovely children too, (I call my art by babies) Im about being a little girl again and I can do that through my ‘dolls on walls’ lol check them out HERE

You Can’t See Through What You Want to See!

You need to know “how’ to get to know.

The “slight of hand” makes you think you know.

Your need for pleasure puts a filter over your eyes towards any truth that appears in front of you. You deny what you want, what you feel, and what you see because you think your will to have can affect a person’s character.

You think your prayers have been answered before you even give yourself a chance to test for false prophets. Your prayers and meditations do not calm your mind into the relaxation you need in order to see what is right or wrong in men.

You go into it with a sense of entitlement, yet you cannot see when the ‘show’ is being put on for you. You are hopeful, optimistic, cheerful, and appealing, and you think these things will get you what you want. They can assist of course, but they have to be in conjunction with your wisdom and a clear objective for your own life.

***Attractiveness will not cure boredom, or wandering eye. And being nice and sweet will not keep him interested. Keeping a level head is the only way to “know” what you need to know.

And what are you looking for?

*Emotional stability,

*natural tendencies,

*spontaneous reactions to unexpected things,

*what he says about people he loves, 

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*does he love his work,

*is he disciplined,

*does he take care of his body,

*how much leisure time does he need and how does he spend it. And so on.

BUT you have to know yourself in order to access others without projecting yourself on to him. 

If you need help with that, I can coach you..

But for now, just Take Your Time in order to see.

Know what you are deserving of and watch for his ability and motivation to give it to you.

If you want more, then check out my ebook when you get a moment , Its an easy read but filled with nuggets of wisdom you can apply to life right now! Click Here

The Great Pretenders

I watch people,

I listen.

I ponder.

I wonder about ‘us’. Us women I mean.

And how we are afraid of things that give us no legitimate cause to fear while other things display their harm to us repeatedly yet we stay the course, weather the storm, hope for the best, bestow optimism towards. You do these things for everybody else but yourself. You can see the bright side of a slap in the face if his d&85k makes you cum.
But for you, well.. you doubt even what you know you are capable of!
Why do you do this?

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Who taught you to hate yourself this much? When one person says your nothing, you think the world agrees with him. Truth is, I’m asking like I have not been you, and I have. What I am trying to do here is save you time, to help you learn the lesson fast and live slow. Time is important, the most important thing you got.
Time is not money, its more valuable than money because money cannot renew it; once its gone, its gone forever… The truth is bitter, the truth is not harsh:

THE TRUTH IS YOUR BEST AND ONLY FRIEND!! I need for you to want it, to crave it.
It is the only thing that will bring your right mind back you know. You got to dance with it in order to heal and transform..
From the desk of “Your Life Coach” ~Salkis Re
If you are ready to be who you were meant to be, not what they say you HAVE to be, but what you were meant to be then pick up this template of wisdom I have to share.
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The Farce of Romance


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I love..love. I think romance is the juice that runs through the veins of all relationships. Its makes people crave each other, makes them want to fuck and give gifts and procreate. Romance and love, people think they are the same.

But they are not.

Love needs no entertaining, it’s a feeling you have when you don’t have to speak to each other. It’s a comfort that comes from just being in the space you room as the person you care about.

Yeah.

Love is ‘care’ it’s a deep concern for the person you are sharing your life with. It’s those kisses he wants even before you’ve brushed your teeth. It’s the encouragement she knows you need without you even saying a word. Love becomes instinctive when you care deeply about a person.

Romance is beguiling

Smiling…. But romance.. Romance is beguiling. It encourages feelings that you may not want to feel. It ‘creates’ emotional, coaxes them to the surface. Romance confuses all logic. He may not be good for you, but he feels good to you kind of a thing.

We all want to tune out or turn off reality at times, romance obliges that need with pleasurable escapes. Get-ways from responsibilities back home. You can have another  life for a night or maybe a whole weekend where there is all this good food you didn’t have to cook and fucking in a bed you don’t have to make up.

It would be beautiful to have both though!

All the things you want to hear are said, true or not they may be, but the honesty in it all is not a requirement for romance to pull off without a hitch.  It would be beautiful to have both though. But it would mean that you have to be close and then a little vague too. To push and pull each other in order to make things feel new.

The etymology of the word Romance is defined as:

recite; composition in vernacular; verse narrative

In other words, it’s a pleasurable story, a language of niceties, verbal entertainment 

Me? Well, I don’t want your kiss as a gesture of good manners, I want the I’ve missed you kiss. But you have to actually miss me to be able to kiss me like that. Separate rooms maybe? Go see me mom for a month? Fuck you in another country? Awwwwww lol My vagina jumped for the latter option!

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What If Your Man Finds You Unattractive?

In response to a you tube video I did yesterday discussing what to do if you are an unattractive girl as far as dating etc. A brother asked if it is wrong for him to pursue a woman he is not physically attracted too. He said that the woman has other qualities that he is interested in but the looks just don’t do it for him.

There is nothing wrong in dating someone you do not find attractive. Sometimes other traits do hold so much value that you can’t pass it up. The problem is when the other person has to develop a relationship with someone who is turned off by them physically.

If you are on the receiving end of that kind of union and you are NOT strong minded and strong willed, you WILL be treated like a charity case. The emotional high that is usually there with physical attraction, will not be there with you. Practicality rules, the bottom line will be in front every decision instead of pleasing you. You must develop mental strength here because lipstick won’t do much to create the illusion of attractiveness.

Neediness, even in attractive women, eventually becomes a repellant for her as well. You must develop independent thought. That is the only way to control a relationship were the other person thinks you are ugly. We can try to create the illusion of attractiveness by the right clothes and make up lessons, talking softly or learning poll dancing and other “body conscious” things that take your money before you have a chance to perfect them. But in the back of your mind(where the truth is) you know that no matter what you do, it’s not going to be enough if you are doing them to please another person.

You are in a charitable head space, a servant and master paradigm were you have decided to agree with the rank and file you have been placed in by the person that you are trying to please. Center yourself, Learn to please yourself and do things that build on the strengths that you already have. This is what will give you confidence, not worrying and pressing yourself to do and learn things that are only motivated by your need to distract from how  you look.

You could be a master of your life if you know how to fill your own cup. Being unemotional makes you attractive!!

When you don’t “need” on an emotional level, you simply cannot be manipulated no matter how plain you look. And this alone can make you a magnet for men. Focus on health and personal accomplishments to avoid the depression that comes from pleasing people that find you undesirable to begin with..

(I know you men read my stuff so this goes for you too: your welcome 😉

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

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Love Tender, Love Me True…

Never had a real shot at this love thing. I’m either caught begging or regretting. I’m either settling or chasing. They love me and I don’t love them, or I love them and they could care less about me. Been looking for the circle of reciprocity for as long as penises have entered my vagina. I hurt and supplied hurt. I sit at the window of my thoughts hoping that my karma has finally burned out for a fresh start at this romance game. Looking for someone I could be proud to call my own. Will it come? I’m not sure. I hope so. I can only settle my mind, body and soul in preparation for receiving it. But I got a million stories out the heartbreak deal, and my willingness to share has made for new friends. I would rather they not try to exploit my transparency cause its as if they think I expose myself in order to be used again.. Lol I laugh when they come trying to put band aids on old wounds.

I’m bored with their attempts to console me. Don’t play me for a victim because I have exposed myself to you. Those things you know of me have been worked out already, so its time to tell me about you. Can you reveal the things that make you look less put together? Can you show vulnerability? Will you show concern for me more than proper manners of “how are you”? How deep will you go to have me in your world? That is the question. Stop trying to figure out how you can get something out of me without risk or loss. You will have to give up something to be with me, your job is simply to decide how much of a risk im worth you taking. Its as simple as that. I win however the dice may role. There are plenty of ‘sure bets’ out here so don’t try to guilt me into offering you the opportunity to receive the results you are used to getting for those girls who are not goal oriented. I am not a manipulator: what I am however, is an “Uncoverer”, and by the time I’m finished finding out all you try to hide we both will be giggling as we relax into friendshipping each other.

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I’m Pretty? Ok, What’s the Catch?

I can’t help it, I immediately go to suspicion of motives when I here kind words. I can accept a compliment, and I do enjoy them. I just know that there is most often an intention from the giver that drives them to these utterances. It could be as something as them feeling good about themselves so they are compelled to spread the cheer, to someone wanting to hold your attention long enough to invite further conversation. Then there are others who just use it to fish out what you feel about yourself by paying attention to your responses.

Let’s use the weight thing as an example cause I’ve been , skinny and now I”m slim thick I suppose so here:

“You look great in that dress!”

“Oh! this ole thing, maybe 10lbs ago!”.

“Your proportioned very nicely, I think you are perfect!”

You smile as you try to accept the kindness within his words.

He is attractive, so in your mind he can exercise his authority to speak on matters of attractiveness. He has your mind occupied with plethora of possibilities. You finally buy few new things for yourself, and it has been forever since a new dress has touch your thighs. You want more of that reassurance, and he is the only one that has given it to you without asking for anything in return. He is genuine, and humble to think of you as his equal when you clearly do not think of yourself as such. BUT ,you ate the bait, hook, line and sinker. And after a few more episodes of pleasantries that he peppers with affirmations of seeing you the way no one else can, your resistance to any possible falsehood is obliterated!

It is just a dangerous game to engage in the dance of mating when you feel unsure of yourself . You are like an open wound waiting for someone to come and stitch you up because you want them to love what you don’t love about yourself. This my dear will cost you dearly. Commit to self improvement and the accept what is unchangeable about you. This way, you can stay grounded when anyone comes into your life with declarations of loving what they themselves might think of as flaws. Essentially, it’s about knowing exactly who you are, not waiting for someone to affirm things you cannot  independently validate.

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Shadow Boxing, But You Can’t Win

I don’t thinking arguing is effective to get one’s point across. Though I do get my panties in a bunch when I hear someone trying to indoctrinate me with their foolery, I have been exercising great care in responding emotionally to every shit stirrer that crosses my path. I have to say I feel more empowered by my silence than in any illusionary win I could have created with my foot stomping banter. I don’t think I’m physically designed for that anyway. I’m one of those that loses her voice after a view minutes irateness, so I guess I was born to keep the peace. So my advice to you ladies is exert your energy where it can be utilized in the most beneficial way possible.

And I want you to understand that people do the things they do because they want to, you can’t guilt someone into changing their character. That my darlings is something I would tell my younger self if I could. I thought my pleas could change hearts, but it halted offenses long enough for your guard to diminish, and then the offense was committed again. Now, I am not saying that you shouldn’t address the ills that affect your life, you most certainly need to be on record so no one can throw the ignorance card in your face. But should you find yourself repetitive in the beseechment of his mercy and good doings, then you have an issue in that person that was probably created shortly after he was weaned from his mother’s breast.

Find a way to cope or cut your loses and move on. Think your moves through, twist them, reorder them, picture possible results, and if your ok with what could potentially happen then move on it and let the chips fall. Time and your body are the two priceless things you have,and one of them in nonrenewable and the other has an expiration date. Live your life… It’s Yours….

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Be A Quiet Hoe!

I don’t think there is anything worse than wanting someone in your life that doesn’t want to be with you. I have been on the receiving end of this more times than I care to admit. I have also been the progenitor of emotional devastation in men I no longer wanted to be with. It’s not easy letting people go, but what’s worse than that moment you break someone’s heart,is the loss of time. Time is that shit you can’t get back. You can get another lover but you can’t recover the time you wasted trying to make things work with someone you know you no longer want to be with.

Break ups can get tricky when the sex is good, when children are born into it, or when financial investments are tied into it. But time is more valuable than anything you could lose because it is not a renewable resource.  When you are not sure, you’re not sure. But when you know, when you have already tallied up the cost of separation, talked to the lawyers secretly, took vacations to see another lover, well you know that you know.

A piece of mind is priceless. Being free to start over is scary but exciting at the same time when you are perfectly clear on your objectives. We are not jumping from the frying pan into the fire here. You need to stay your ass put if that is the case. I have seen breakups happen and the chic just goes on dick binge: in one fell swoop, her virtue and reputation ends up in the toilet cause she couldn’t handle the responsibility of her new freedom. Freedom does not negate consequence. You can’t escape consequence just because no one can stop you from making a decision.

Results will happen, and you need to know what you are striving for. But if you must be a hoe, just don’t be a noisy one. Work your “hoedom” quietly and stop leaving verifiable evidence all over the place for people to point fingers at you. Tell your mama if you must and maybe one tried and proven friend, but no bull horns unless your getting tell all book deal like Super Head. Just do you best to reason out your decisions because adding “causal pu$$y giving” regret to a roster  already filled with years of unfulfilling obligation, just invites more confusion and turmoil to your mind and heart.