You Think He Doesn’t Know He Hurts You?

“People Know Exactly What They Are Doing”
Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Women often create this romanticism around the pain inflicted upon them. All of a sudden that person who is mistreating you is reduced and excused into having the brain matter of a drippling toddler, while you inadvertently defend their actions while creating a barrier of delusion and blame to match your emotional fragility by saying he must be “unaware” and “clueless” of what he has done to”continuously” hurt you…

Dark Skin Girls in Art
“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

He’s only smart when he treats you kind?

But when he is in the mood to treat you nicely, somehow, on that particular day, you don’t doubt that his intellect and facilities are in tact.
So here is an thought brought to life step by step:

  1. When someone makes a decision, a thought must come to their mind first.
  2.  After that, plans are made to actualize that thought. Included in the planning phase are: the be best times to do it; contingencies to make sure it’s conceal from you;
  3. and a budget may also be implemented  put in place depending on how much this decision costs to execute and how often it will be happening.

Doing Good or Bad has zip to do with intelligence!

In other words, it’s the same thought process to do “good” as it is to do “bad“. Stop thinking your that your pain is an instrument being used to increase their maturity level. People do what they want to do and regret AFTER they get caught. It’s just circumstances and consequences playing out for YOUR growth, NOT theirs…

“Self Esteem Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re
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Selling Out or Selling Myself?

African American art
Me and a painting in progress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OK sooo, I have been trying to put some energy into myself lately, fighting my ‘I don’t give a shit’ attitude for a bit more refinement.

Just a bit!

I know us as artists do have creative license to be outlaws and misfits; I think it’s even expected actually. But for who I want to reach and how far I am expecting to take my personal brand, just be a rogue will not do.

I like money, LOTS of money, and I realized a while back that tapping into the reservoir of abundance does require a balance of freedom and conformity, thus the dreaded word for artists: stability.

  • My paintbrush and my pen and my voice are all mediums I use to communicate with you, and it’s my job to make it all cohesive.

Offers to sell out’ come pretty often, nice checks to commercialize my brand are coming in more and more. But I told myself a long time ago that I would wear a dress and red lipstick to get your attention, but I will never compromise my babies/art.

They will always have a message, they have to, or there’s no point in doing any of this. I could make art that has a broader market, but then, they wouldn’t be as meaningful and as special as I intend for them to be.

But I did have to cave in and show my face a little more. All these hot young girls all over social media displaying their ‘art’ along with their nice round asses and perky tits broke me down, I bite and admit I wanted a piece of that action. I watched how that no matter what skill level they had, they were the ones gaining exposure and buyers.

My girls are sweet. My girls are magical. The eyes are that way for more than the look of innocence. My art is liken to real children.

They feel very real!

But I have come to know that I am as important as the work itself, and it is part of my job description to show up and talk and shmooze and explain, and display and interview, and whatever else is needed to their respective homes.

So yeah, I resisted, then I joined in. And it’s not as bad as all that really. I love that people get to see the person behind those big doe-like eyes I paint. I see what seeing ‘me’ has done for for those connected to my work They understanding of my work so much more now that I’m front and center.

I had to tap into my own sexuality to pull out what I liked about myself in order for you all to understand the ‘me’ on these canvases.

So here I am. More open, yet More in control. And walking towards my destiny. …

~Salkis Re

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He Called Me a Monkey!!

 

So I was doing my usual check in on my social media accounts and got a troll that called me a black “bitch” and an f’ing monkey. 

Not sure what got this man all ruffled up to say such a thing to me, but unfortunately it’s not new and most definitely not reserved to a particular ethnic group.

I have gotten comments like this from my own “kind”.

And it got me to thinking about the assumptions people place on the value of others by how one looks.

Do I really look like a monkey?

Of course not!

But why the anger and the association with a monkey?

I do think people have a right to feel the way they feel about me, I’m just not inclined to know what that feeling is unless I have to deal with you for business or pleasure.

Yeah, there is most definitely a problem with the notions of beauty in this society and colorism abounds , and to me, it’s really here to stay.

With my features unchanged, would I still be referenced with that of a monkey if I were lighter in skin tone? Not likely.

But to be darkskin, is somehow synonymous with being primitive, simple minded, ugly, and slavish.

That comment got me into thinking deeply about what I am presenting with my work and if my voice is being made clear enough for people to get my message.

It stoked the fire within me to continue my portrayal of “us” dark skin women 

as sensitive and sweet, and not the savage imaginings of the propaganda machine that people swear they are uninfluenced by.

Yup.

I got a job to do.

I got to put my two ‘sense’ in and neutralize some of the spells cast over us by members of this society.

I never wanted my art to be political, but slowly, it has become that it’s it’s own little way.

My poetry as reached the level of importance that my art has always had for me. The monkey jab touched me deeply, so much so that I had to write a poem to organize and unpack my thoughts.

To the person who called me a monkey this morning… Thank you..

 

“This Monkey” Written by Salkis Re(c) 2017

People assume the so called pretty amongst us

are the only ones entitled to hugs.

They also assume that esthetic deficits

means that I was born deserving of love.

They think that simple faces equates to simple minds, and that we somehow are easier to fool.

But they don’t know that their overconfidence

can be a tool used to get what we want too.

Real power comes from letting people think that they’re still in charge of their decisions.

We watch you rule with an iron fist,

and just sit back for a time and play the victim.

You will show your hand

and everything you feel

which happens to include

the weakness in your heart.

And you’ve trained this  “monkey”

to sit back and learn your patterns

and play vulnerable to get what I want.

So be self assured, I want you that way,

to reveal all the things that you front.

And I’m itching for the day when you’ve learned you made a colossal mistake

because didn’t know “This Monkey” could talk.

“Mistress of Words” ~Salkis Re

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Sometimes inspiration and fuel to catapult you to the next level, can come out from very nasty places.

Yet, friction sharpens the blade doesn’t it?

I’m more grateful for who I am now than ever before, and if you are going through a storm right now, this is your opportunity to become better than you were before.

If you need to contact me about a painting please feel free to send me an email to: Salkis@iloveherart.com or visit the website www.iloveherart.com

Toodles…

Salkis Re