Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

Abstract Art by Salkis Re
Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re

 

“Reasons”
Written by Salkis Re
 
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.
 

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Why?
Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.
 

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.
Why?

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

Motivational Quotes
Artist/ Life Coach
                                                                                          ~Salkis Re

 

It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

🤔You are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

 

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

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Kendrick Said Be Humble!!

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Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

Aww. Joy of Humility…

You know I have a bit of disdain for that word.

Well. A bit more than a little I suppose.

But it’s quite useful though. I thought it was beneath me to transpose humility onto myself. I thought that putting people first was an invitation to put myself last.

No my darlings… I was extremely wrong.

Humility as I see it, helps to find out the true intentions of one’s heart.

Why?

Because people naturally tell lies when you question them, and the more intimidated they are, bigger and more grandiose the lies get.

People want to loved and accepted, and they will say and do what needs to be done to ensure that they come out unharmed.

Intimidation is a threat. A perceived threat of course, but as I tell the fortunate ones who get to work with me, ‘perception is the only reality there is’.

Humility is chocked full of sugary goodness because you get to satisfy your guilt and shame that creep up in your mind from being too self absorbed by putting others before yourself and you get to create an environment of trust and safety for the other person/s involved. And trust and safety bring out the primal instincts in people.

They tend to let go of their pretenses and the wall they build to protect themselves emotionally.

Think of it like this: when you feel threatened, you tense up, you recoil and brace yourself so that minimal damage happens. You are not ‘open’ emotionally or physically when you are tense. Intimidation causing ‘tension’ and tension encourages abnormal behavior

Be humble creates a stress-less environment and it is in relaxation of one’s mind that they start ‘talking’. They start yo vomit out everything they love or fear, how their mother didn’t love them enough or how they feel inadequate about this or that. They will admit their perversions and all their weaknesses to you when totally relaxed by your humidity.

 

If You’ve Heard the term ‘Pillow Talk’

If You’ve Heard ‘You’re So Easy to Talk Too!’

Both of those are examples of how people response when they do not feel intimidated.

  1. Making you laugh let’s your guard down.
  2. Keeping you distracted let’s your guard down.
  3. Tell you secrets let’s your guard down.
  4. Asking your opinion makes you feel more important and let’s your guard down.
  5. Giving you gifts and attention let’s your guard down.

And so on and so on…

Aww… The Joys of Humility. .

Sell or be Sold my darling. Which one will you be?

Now, I’m on a shift myself, coming to terms with what I’m really called to do as a guide for you and women just like you. I have accepted how I must help you build your self esteem and my position is not pretty at times, but it’s magical nonetheless.  If you want more keys to train your mind so you can control your body and maybe even get people to do your bidding, then I can coach you

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Artists Shaming ME, Another Artist: YIKES!

 

Facebook Group Flunkies

So this has been an interesting few days. I have been scolded in a few facebook art groups for the commentary that usually accompanies my artwork. I have never been an artist to just post a pic of my work with the measurements and a buy now link at the bottom of it. That is fuvking boring and it doesn’t stimulate emotions like words along with work do.

No Why NO WAY!

But I understand that this is my way of doing things, this is my “style” and I get it: I LOVE IT! But my problem is when the admins of these groups tell me how I ‘should’ present my work. I was told recently that I should just stick to art instead of writing a “book” length post because the opinion was that I didn’t write well enough to lend relevance to my work.

BIHHHHHHHHHH! lllmao. It is always these washed up, non visionary artists that want to lend critique on the way an artist should present their work. My art started because I wanted to illustrate a book I was writing, so I would have never picked up a brush if I didn’t have a need to ‘write” something. But I’m thankful this happened though, because it forced me to audit my time and where I was dispersing my energies, and booooooy was I wasting time “entertaining” people who really didn’t care for my words.

 

I think this is a sign that I’m getting better at orchestrating my words though, the fact that I’m making people’s skin crawl  with what means that they are tasting the bitter medicine of truth. I tell my fans that they have to develop a thick skin. Yes. You have to grow armor and not give a fuvk what people think: especially people who have nothing and who’s lives offer little to no fuvking semblance of where you aspire to be.

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If you want to show off your artwork while twirling a baton in stilettos and a see-through tu-tu , then DO IT! Seriously though, you got to know the “why” behind what you do or you will drift with every insinuation these forking losers can muster up while they take a break from their miserable lives. I am invested in my success as an artist,  and exposing all the dimensions of myself with the world. AND meeting the people who show tangible appreciation for what it is I do is the mission..

Listen, make you voice heard. Do your art with passion and curiosity to make yourself better with each canvas you paint on. Insecurity is the demon to slay. Insecurity affects you physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and all the other ALLY’s I left out.

DO YOU!!

“Your Life Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re

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Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!

Aww the new year is here!! And we are alive to enjoy whoo-hoo. 2016 was a roller coaster for sure and I can’t say that im not relieved to see it go.

I brought in the new year on the phone with a client of mine. She booked a session with me just to thank me for the advice I give young women on love and Continue reading “Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!”

Distraction Dingalings Are Expensive!

You must test man for mental and physical strength. You are too quick to allow entry into your mind far less your body. And it’s so easy to weed out the weak

minded. They are easily distracted, have no goals, very undisciplined, and emotionally fragile.

Self Portrait by artist Tim Baxter

 

He wants what they are to stingy to pay for.

He expects something for nothing and usually at your expense.

But your longing to quench your on thirst makes you a beggar of your own desires. You will become a new victim for a different face because you

never learn your lesson. The needle spins around the record of your life, skipping over the scratch again and again.

You admire the beauty of other women, and you want the power you think their beauty affords them. And you soak in their hollow doctrines and their enchantments and things, only to find out that you are right back where you started: starving for attention.

And the truth is that I’m not telling you anything that your heart does not already know. You just feel that the truth will bring you further away from companionship and love. But you are sleeping with men who do not love you, who don’t have the aptitude to provide or protect you, who will abandon you crisis hits.

Though a penis inserts itself into your vagina regularly, you are alone, even more alone than if you were by yourself.

So my question to you is when will you get out of the fog and face the truths? Distractions cost a lot of time and money you know, any they are never worth what you have to expel to maintain them. They devour you eventually.

But there is a light at the end of all these tunnel rats you’ve been trying to leap over. It will take a brain washing of sorts. It will mean that you have to challenge notions of sexuality, femininity, self worth, pleasure etc.. Smiling, what it means is that you will have to upgrade your thinking and the basic need to “just be heard”, and you will have to move into solution based thinking instead of get ‘coping’ with your problems.

Awww, you want to be a Goddess and you think its all fun right? No. It is not.

How many can sit at a throne seat?

That’s right! ONLY ONE! So be prepared for that, the alone time I mean.

That’s one of the biggest hurdles, being alone I mean. We want the sisterhood to hold us up, to give shoulders that we can soak with our tears. And it feels good for a moment. What you want is more than a moment, you want a lifetime fix!

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You Can’t See Through What You Want to See!

You need to know “how’ to get to know.

The “slight of hand” makes you think you know.

Your need for pleasure puts a filter over your eyes towards any truth that appears in front of you. You deny what you want, what you feel, and what you see because you think your will to have can affect a person’s character.

You think your prayers have been answered before you even give yourself a chance to test for false prophets. Your prayers and meditations do not calm your mind into the relaxation you need in order to see what is right or wrong in men.

You go into it with a sense of entitlement, yet you cannot see when the ‘show’ is being put on for you. You are hopeful, optimistic, cheerful, and appealing, and you think these things will get you what you want. They can assist of course, but they have to be in conjunction with your wisdom and a clear objective for your own life.

***Attractiveness will not cure boredom, or wandering eye. And being nice and sweet will not keep him interested. Keeping a level head is the only way to “know” what you need to know.

And what are you looking for?

*Emotional stability,

*natural tendencies,

*spontaneous reactions to unexpected things,

*what he says about people he loves, 

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*does he love his work,

*is he disciplined,

*does he take care of his body,

*how much leisure time does he need and how does he spend it. And so on.

BUT you have to know yourself in order to access others without projecting yourself on to him. 

If you need help with that, I can coach you..

But for now, just Take Your Time in order to see.

Know what you are deserving of and watch for his ability and motivation to give it to you.

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Do I think Interracial Dating is a Bad Thing?

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Someone asked me about interracial dating.

I will be asking two questions:

1)do black men watch porn?

2)Do black men have a “type” of female they like?

And then more questions:

3)Do you understand that most of them watch non black women and are very excited by the pink snatch and Tu Ball Cains jumping around ?

4)Do you understand that what they watch is what turns them on?

5)How many times is it going to be someone that looks exactly like you?

6)Do you understand that having a “type” is a prejudice within itself, and that it’s a predisposition towards a particular esthetic?

7)What are you ashamed of admitting exactly?

8)And why when men have no problem objectifying and separating parts of your body into what is valuable and what is not useful?

You are attracted to what you are attracted to and that’s it. We can cradle the politics of it and the turncoat , coon labels can be rather discomforting to say the least. But you must know that what should concern you most is what happens behind the door of your own house. You are ALONE:I keep drilling this into your head because its this collective allegiance to nothingness that as many of us putting opportunity on hold or passing it up altogether.

Prejudice is everywhere. And YES, it is within the ‘black community’ of which there really isn’t a community more so than neighborhoods where we densely reside. The truth of someone’s heart, you can never really know, so why rely on what you hope is comradery when the only man you can put to task on defending you, is the one you go to bed with?! You must narrow your focus and listen to your heart and mind. You make vows to people who will not help you in times of need. You show you are ‘down’ for men who will never consider you as wife material.

Self care is the first and the most important vow you will ever make. Angry people cannot love, hateful people cannot love, racist people cannot love etc.

When you start looking at EVERYTHING for what it really is, you start to really grasp how much “performing” is going on. Some of us have allegiance to those that look at us as an “experiment” or something to do when they are bored or have a dry spell. You are ALONE.. This walk is yours. No one is coming to save you. No revolution. . Look around and you can see if u open your eyes. You are aligned with nostalgia and illusions.

Live YOUR life..
“Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

 

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What If Your Man Finds You Unattractive?

In response to a you tube video I did yesterday discussing what to do if you are an unattractive girl as far as dating etc. A brother asked if it is wrong for him to pursue a woman he is not physically attracted too. He said that the woman has other qualities that he is interested in but the looks just don’t do it for him.

There is nothing wrong in dating someone you do not find attractive. Sometimes other traits do hold so much value that you can’t pass it up. The problem is when the other person has to develop a relationship with someone who is turned off by them physically.

If you are on the receiving end of that kind of union and you are NOT strong minded and strong willed, you WILL be treated like a charity case. The emotional high that is usually there with physical attraction, will not be there with you. Practicality rules, the bottom line will be in front every decision instead of pleasing you. You must develop mental strength here because lipstick won’t do much to create the illusion of attractiveness.

Neediness, even in attractive women, eventually becomes a repellant for her as well. You must develop independent thought. That is the only way to control a relationship were the other person thinks you are ugly. We can try to create the illusion of attractiveness by the right clothes and make up lessons, talking softly or learning poll dancing and other “body conscious” things that take your money before you have a chance to perfect them. But in the back of your mind(where the truth is) you know that no matter what you do, it’s not going to be enough if you are doing them to please another person.

You are in a charitable head space, a servant and master paradigm were you have decided to agree with the rank and file you have been placed in by the person that you are trying to please. Center yourself, Learn to please yourself and do things that build on the strengths that you already have. This is what will give you confidence, not worrying and pressing yourself to do and learn things that are only motivated by your need to distract from how  you look.

You could be a master of your life if you know how to fill your own cup. Being unemotional makes you attractive!!

When you don’t “need” on an emotional level, you simply cannot be manipulated no matter how plain you look. And this alone can make you a magnet for men. Focus on health and personal accomplishments to avoid the depression that comes from pleasing people that find you undesirable to begin with..

(I know you men read my stuff so this goes for you too: your welcome 😉

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

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The Pied Piper and Your Willing Sacrifice!

Your love for the lies…

You have a love affair with presentation, with the sweet nothings whispered in your ear. You meet girlfriends for drinks and ask them to speculate on the true intent of the man you love.
You worry. You worry because you know the answer already, you just want hope that its other than what you suspect. But the pied piper leads you to doom, not with bravado or hurtful rants. He leads you there by becoming the source of everything you’ve ever wanted.He listens to your woes with great interest and attention. He maps your weaknesses while offering delightful experiences to “restore” your excitement to dream and your faith in the unknown.

The Secret About All Magic

Yet, as with all good magicians and seducers, he “asks” for your permission to enter your mind. Spells and Your Binding Agreement
See, spells do not work if you are resistant. You must be a willing participant for beguilement. You must be “open” to suggestion and this is why are find yourself all in love with him before he reveals his intent and the truth of his heart. No darling, you are very very much in control: you give up your control because you think his offer is more splendid than anything you already posses. You will learn more about real magic and how it operates in your life as we work together. But for now, understand that is the only way that manipulation can work is  you have to first believe that you have a problem and secondly, that HE possess the power to solve it!

Once that is established, then you are locked in.

I told you before, Dracula must be invited in, even the Devil had to has God permission to tempt you!! What does this mean for you personally though? Well it means that you are playing a victim of the very decisions you make. you have allowed your emotions to dictate policy and your mode of operations. And this is why your math never adds up, this is why you can’t quantify the value this person brings to your life. You can’t think straight because you are not using that part of your mind t think, you are using your emotions to think Big mistake!.
The warning signs come though.

You are NEVER let without Gods guidance.

You just choose to override the nudge, that off feeling, or that gnawing in your stomach because its unscientific. But what could be more unscientific than hypothetical plans for a future you may not be the one he chooses to have one with?

First Decree: Tell The Truth To Yourself At All Times..
Salkis Re “Your Life Coach”

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You Can’t Sex Your Way into High Self Esteem

Conquering Self Defeat
By Salkis Re
Transforming is dirty business
You can’t f;&$k your way out of pain! You are tired. You are fed up with your condition. You have tried to change things to no avail. You entertain yourself through the pain, you eat and gorge food through the pain, you try to f;&$k your way out of the pain.

You burn candles and hug trees underneath the moonlight in hopes of winning fortunes and thwarting pain. You meditate while frustrated and worried.
You spruce yourself up with new hair do’s and fresh pedicures that aid as “posers” to true self care. These are great things to do, but not so great as a replacement for the internal work required for victory over “self defeat. No! Love cannot *love you out of the muck and mire; however, you can -cope- with it a bit better ,yet it will just manifest in other things like binge eating, depression etc. Can you become a goddess without adversity? Can you become a master without trials and tests? What is the need for bravery if you have nothing to fear? Your anguish is not the problem! We all have things that challenge our resolve. The problem is that you are not utilizing your adversity to change your life! “Go along to get along” is what you’ve been doing, and now, living in pain has become your new normal. “Smiling Depressive” is what I lovingly call you. When are you going to muster up enough courage to just admit that something is wrong with this way of living? I have news for you! You are not gonna smile or deny your way through transformation!
Your going to have to walk through the “shadow of death” to truly transform and become a new person. You have to face your dragons and slay them with valarian steel! You are going to have to make a decision that charity and giving of yourself requires that you first are able to regenerate what you give to others. You give away what you can’t afford to give because of guilt and this superstition in the benefit of humility: you are trying to replaced your feelings of unreservedness by pretending to be satisfied with being a “giver”, for you are ashamed to receive. Take my hand, I will lead you through the shadow of death with the rod and staff to slay the serpents waiting to bite your heel. Its time to transform.
~Salkis Re “Life Coach”

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Shadow Boxing, But You Can’t Win

I don’t thinking arguing is effective to get one’s point across. Though I do get my panties in a bunch when I hear someone trying to indoctrinate me with their foolery, I have been exercising great care in responding emotionally to every shit stirrer that crosses my path. I have to say I feel more empowered by my silence than in any illusionary win I could have created with my foot stomping banter. I don’t think I’m physically designed for that anyway. I’m one of those that loses her voice after a view minutes irateness, so I guess I was born to keep the peace. So my advice to you ladies is exert your energy where it can be utilized in the most beneficial way possible.

And I want you to understand that people do the things they do because they want to, you can’t guilt someone into changing their character. That my darlings is something I would tell my younger self if I could. I thought my pleas could change hearts, but it halted offenses long enough for your guard to diminish, and then the offense was committed again. Now, I am not saying that you shouldn’t address the ills that affect your life, you most certainly need to be on record so no one can throw the ignorance card in your face. But should you find yourself repetitive in the beseechment of his mercy and good doings, then you have an issue in that person that was probably created shortly after he was weaned from his mother’s breast.

Find a way to cope or cut your loses and move on. Think your moves through, twist them, reorder them, picture possible results, and if your ok with what could potentially happen then move on it and let the chips fall. Time and your body are the two priceless things you have,and one of them in nonrenewable and the other has an expiration date. Live your life… It’s Yours….

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Be A Quiet Hoe!

I don’t think there is anything worse than wanting someone in your life that doesn’t want to be with you. I have been on the receiving end of this more times than I care to admit. I have also been the progenitor of emotional devastation in men I no longer wanted to be with. It’s not easy letting people go, but what’s worse than that moment you break someone’s heart,is the loss of time. Time is that shit you can’t get back. You can get another lover but you can’t recover the time you wasted trying to make things work with someone you know you no longer want to be with.

Break ups can get tricky when the sex is good, when children are born into it, or when financial investments are tied into it. But time is more valuable than anything you could lose because it is not a renewable resource.  When you are not sure, you’re not sure. But when you know, when you have already tallied up the cost of separation, talked to the lawyers secretly, took vacations to see another lover, well you know that you know.

A piece of mind is priceless. Being free to start over is scary but exciting at the same time when you are perfectly clear on your objectives. We are not jumping from the frying pan into the fire here. You need to stay your ass put if that is the case. I have seen breakups happen and the chic just goes on dick binge: in one fell swoop, her virtue and reputation ends up in the toilet cause she couldn’t handle the responsibility of her new freedom. Freedom does not negate consequence. You can’t escape consequence just because no one can stop you from making a decision.

Results will happen, and you need to know what you are striving for. But if you must be a hoe, just don’t be a noisy one. Work your “hoedom” quietly and stop leaving verifiable evidence all over the place for people to point fingers at you. Tell your mama if you must and maybe one tried and proven friend, but no bull horns unless your getting tell all book deal like Super Head. Just do you best to reason out your decisions because adding “causal pu$$y giving” regret to a roster  already filled with years of unfulfilling obligation, just invites more confusion and turmoil to your mind and heart.

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Damsels Make Distress

My mother always said “Even if yuh dun need, yuh need!” Translation: Make a man useful by needing him to do things for you. Now my mom is like me. She is soft and non aggressive, but she definitely gets what ever she wants by being her sweet feminine self. I have been talking a great deal about feminine charm, and us as women need to take another look at the most receptive way to posture in order to have a peaceful and fulfilling relationship.

There is too much blame and vindictiveness going on among us as women. Too many pity party’s and rants about our disappointments in men and not enough effective introspection and behavioral modification. They treat us bad and we respond in kind. Then they treat us bad some more and we rebut with more revenge. The cycle just spins out of control with no end in site.

I really believe that femininity is power. Submissiveness doesn’t have to be jail time if done with a mission to achieve and receive the things you want and desire. Real men are not compelled to care for women who act like men. Having an attitude invites contempt and defensiveness ,not respect. Speak what you want gently yet firmly as if you expect to get it. Ditch the loud, abrasive tone and stand your ground by expectation, not fights.

And if you don’t get what you want, then you pull back quietly. No announcement please!! Just do more of you to fill the space of whatever you were doing for him. BUT, I must say that you should ALWAYS be busy being and doing you. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you give up your interests and passions. If you start falling off your program, you will become a bore quickly. Be busy with life. ALWAYS. And with sweetness make your demands so he can be the man he is designed to be: a problem solver!

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Me and Dr Sebi

 

Dr. Sebi is one of those fearless people I’ve had the pleasure of spending one on one time with, and a nonstop comedy show actually. No filter, no edits, no “I shouldn’t say that”. Non of that. He is the first, well the only person I know that I was able be totally free to talk to about anything. You couldn’t make him blush, nothing was a ‘bad thing to say’ or inappropriate. He talked about his stint in the crazy hospital diagnosed with schizophrenia and how he cured his insanity and other ailments through diet and herbs. He talked a lot about his sex life. He leaned forward in his easy chair, took a puff to prep for his statement and yelled out:  “I love to f%%k, No, NO, I LIVE TO F%%K”  My mouth dropped and then I burst out laughing at the way he expressed his love of the p$$$y like he was reading the book of revelations. I wanted to jump up and say AMEN, but I was too busy laughing in shame at his bravado.

I Should Have Smoked With Him…

Sebi went in the back room and came out with a carry on size suitcase, he opened it up and it was full of weed. He looked at me smiling and I guess he was expecting me to prance up and down at the sight of plethora of green goodness, but I sat there with my mouth open. I think I lost some credibility with him cause I wouldn’t light one up cause he gave me this “Oh you one of them” looks. I did plan to try the peyote he raved about though, but I was scared of that too, hehe. I managed to muster up some courage to try the snake powder though. Pablo (Sebi’s right hand man) said, “Here Eat it, it cleans the blood”. With a squeamish look on my face, I sprinkled some powered on my tongue and waited to hurl, but It wasn’t bad though. It had a dried fish taste to me..

So back to Sebi. I sat there waiting for another wave of shameless banter to come from his lips but I had to wait for Pablo to finish rolling out his blunts, Sebi moved his attention to the soccer game on his wide screen while Pablo prepped the accoutrements for Sebi’s nonstop weed smoking fest. He lined up about 6 spliffs side by side on a little coffee table and put it next to Sebi’s chair with a lighter. The attendants came in with soup and tea for him. The food got cold, the tea collected dust, but ” Deh Erbs Cum Ahrund” like Collie Buddz say, lol. Well about an hour into the conversation I was in full contact off the smoke and I felt more relaxed and got the nerve up to ask him more personal questions. There was a young lady coming in and out of the bungalow periodically. She made his bed and picked up laundry and removed the food they kept bringing him that he wouldn’t eat. I’d catch her giving me the side eye every so often and I realized that she was possibly one of Sebi’s side chics.

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Sebi Likes them young but..

So I asked Sebi why he liked young girls . He said “I don’t want them, they want me and I can’t even insult them away from me, so I keep them around until they want to leave!” I looked at him and hung my head cracking up. Could this man be anymore full of himself I thought. But he was dead serious. “See I don’t believe in forcing people to love you, they either love you or they don’t. I don’t own anybody and they don’t own me!” So Sebi, you don’t get jealous? ” I asked. ” Once I caught my wife in bed f^^king another man, I told them don’t stop on my account, I’m just going to get my things so keep on f^^king!”. I bursted out laughing again but I was a little puzzled by his indifference, so the next question was: “SO you wouldn’t even fight for your woman Sebi?”

He took a puff and looked at me with this crazy look. “If she was mine, if she wanted to be with me, would I need to fight for her?” I’m not fighting with you or for you to be with me. We are all free.” He said. I looked at him and he looked at me. I had to process that you a minute. So simple yet powerfully true. He looked at me and I guess he knew he crushed some of my notions of love, but then I snapped back to life. “Wait Wait! You left your wife for sleeping around on you,but you expect your woman to stay with you if you cheat!” “I don’t expect sh&*t! If she feels another man can f$$k her better than me, I will help her pack and give him some herbs to keep hard too!”

Me glowing from the Thermal Waters *Dead.. I flat lined at that point and brother had to excuse himself for the umteenth time choking with laughter.

So clearly he is not into sharing his woman and not into keeping her if she don’t want to be kept. I asked about sex again. I couldn’t resist,lol. “Sebi  you never  had a good piece of a$$ to get you strung out? Be careful cause one of these young sweet thangs will put it on you and you will change your tune!” “I had a good piece of a$$. Actually, the best a$$ I ever had was from an older women, she was 65 at the time. She just knew how to touch me, that was the best a$$ I have ever had to this day! Sebi said. Laughing louder now cause I see his face and he is thinking about that woman deeply now. “So Sebi why didn’t you wife her up if she was the best you ever had?” He takes a puff why staring at the T.V. screen.. “Well I was married at the time, and she didn’t want to be my second wife!”  I Flat lined again beeeeeeep.

We talked for a few more hours and to sum up what I learned of love from this crazy, wonderful man is that self love is all you need to sustain your life, Its all you need to have a happy life filled with love. “Lovers come and go, right! Are you with your first love? NO! SO what is the same? YOU. You are the same, You carry yourself with you everywhere, so the only thing you HAVE to love is yourself!” Sebi said while wagging his finger in my face.

Awwww… Self Love is the way to everything we want isn’t it? Did you like this little snapshot of wisdom? Well subscribe so you don’t miss all of my insights and creative thoughts. And I have love you can take home with you right now, Have a look here: Love Love Love!

Your a Mean One Ms Grinch: Cosmic love??

So, I Really, really do not believe in “cosmic love”, I hear all these wonderful, dare I say narcotic influenced definitions of love. MOSTLY FROM women who swear their lovers come to their dreams and they time travel while having sex on shooting stars… Sigh.. I love hearing the stories though. It entertains me much like a good book you read then put away until u need to be entertained again.

Are they listening to what they are saying though. Do their partners feel the same way? Is this all because the “nut” was really good? How on earth can they say that their love is unconditional? How do you decide that you want to be with this person as opposed that person without some process of logic and reason. What makes you think he is the one if there is nothing to quantify?

These are tall tales women are telling, mostly to justify mistakes or their need for indulgences. To me, these things are merely coping stories concocted to take them “off the hook” and not be responsible for the things they do with partners or lovers. All this fluff, but in the after glow, or that “pillow talk” they ask him: “Why Do You Love Me” as they gleefully wait with bated breath (you egomaniacs) for the praises of their magnificent love and vaginas.

What is wrong with setting boundaries, or having standards when it comes to love? How many heartbreaks does it take to understand that HEART AND MIND need to be present when dealing with the will power of men.

Yeah Yeah, I know… it’s deeper than physical as some of you say. But how do you maintain a relationship that is non-physical? Air kisses, mental “I love you’s” and monopoly money to pay the rent?

I can’t with all this fluff. But I do appreciate the creative ways we lie to ourselves..it makes for great poetry…

Here’s to love, by whatever means I you experience it!