“Label Makers, Label Breakers”

Written by Salkis Re

Self esteem challenges can happen in people who are attractive,

in people with higher IQs, in people with money, in people who are religious etc.
You’d be surprised at the type of people who really emotionally fragile out here.
Don’t let appearances fool you…

I remember a “Guy Friday” I had working for me at my salon back in the day.

He was dark skin an older man, but you could tell he was extremely handsome

in his youth because he still had six pack abs and pretty white teeth.
He come in a few times a week and clean my shop for a six pack of beer,

pork rinds and on Fridays, I threw in a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken just to see his face light up.

 

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He didn’t want much, he didn’t need much really because of his lifestyle.

But he wasn’t ashamed of his standard of living.

He was quick-witted, wisdom filled, and his sense of humor would shortened any difficult day I’d have.

I remember him inviting me to his home that he’d often call his “Palace”.

He was so proud that he had this home and he often told stories of his lovers tryna lay claim to it by leaving panties and toothbrushes behind..lol

So I went to see the palace, and it turned out to be an old, tiny,

Southern Georgia shack! He had a dirty couch on the patio with a rickety table next to it to prop his beer.

He called it his “seating area” lllllmao.
I asked, “You entertain your hoes here Millified?”
“Yes Boss Lady, haha ha ha”, he said with his raspy voice.

 

He opened the door and invited me inside. The floor boards screeched and some of them lifted when we took a step.

I was scared I was going to fall through the floor, so he took my hand and we zig-zagged through the living.

He chuckled looking at my “wtf” face. But he still wasn’t fazed by my frowning giggles.

The floor of the entire house was on an incline, you could have slid right into the kitchen if the floor was wet.

The walls were painted with dirt. A few water bugs came out to see who was in the house too.

He had plastic lawn cheers in front of a 52 inch TV. That TV was the focal piece of the house and would be the reason all the ladies didn’t want to leave his chateau, hahaha!

He said he had cable and he’d make some squash casserole and fried chicken if I ever wanted to come hang out on Sunday after church.

We went to his bedroom and he had a queen size mattress on the floor that looked like he pulled it out a land fill,

and the bedroom closet was almost as small as a medicine cabinet.
His bathroom couldn’t hold two people at the same time; you could literally shit, shower and shave all in one cause it was so damn tiny!

He said he was ready to whip up a batch of red Kool Aid if I was thirsty and motioned him not to bother.

When the tour was done, I looked at him in disbelief.

I wanted him to see how disgusted I was,

but he continued to look at me and laugh.

 

He was unfazed by my distain, and I showed my distain because I knew he didn’t give a shit what I thought.
He was proud of himself. He was proud of who he was. He had “pretty teeth” so to him he was a “pretty boy”..lllllmao

He was one of the few people I’ve met that was just unbothered by people’s opinions,

he stated what he was and that was all his heart and mind had room for.

The rest of us have so much more than him, but we disregard it for the perpetual fear that others may feel we are not good enough.

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Your self esteem is built on a weaker foundation than his one room shack!

All while you look good, you work a so-called “good job”.

You can save for vacation and occasionally splurge on nonessential things,

but you still are afraid of what people think of you.
You don’t take a chance, because your thoughts of failure plaque you without rest.

You have their degrees, their licenses and certificates but still feel invalid..

Your Perception of who you are has been “Given” to you.

That is why you are not empowered, and that is why you live so unsure of yourself in spite of all your accolades.

My Guy Friday stayed happy, even with what I classified as an impoverished lifestyle, he had a mentality of wealth.

Maybe that was the reason he remained so attractive and charismatic.

He could have been more I suppose had he taken advantage of the education system, maybe he would be more than hustler.

But that was my opinion of him, and one he didn’t share in…

He wasn’t intimidated by others who had more.

He talked to everybody, and free beer and free meals were the regular thank you gifts he received for his humor and charismatic optimism.

So what will you do?

Continue to live in fear of not being good enough,

not living good enough,

not being attractive enough,

not having enough money to be enough?

When will you arrest those hypothesizing thoughts of imaginary restraints?

When you say fuck it, this is what I am and I’m fabulous as is???
You can do it right now.

You don’t need to kneel before a Queen,

or get a certificate in the mail,

or have an engagement ring on your finger to claim your right to feel fantastic about yourself today!!

Make the shift.
Make the decision..
And be what YOU say you are…

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

 

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Stop Playing Small!

Some of us are wasting away at life.
The Great Pretenders I call them.
You are Afraid to make a mistake, and afraid to get your heart broken again.
So you wallow in denial of what you want

AND deny your responsibility in the results you’ve gotten so far.
Everything you could have been will die with you; that is the life you are living right now…

 

 

 

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I refuse to conform.

To cower down into obscurity.

I wasn’t born to live an uneventful life, and neither are you!

I wasn’t born for people to have something to shame and ridicule for my nappy hair and big lips, and neither are you!

I want born for people to tell me I’m not smart enough for what I want to have, and neither are you!

And YOU weren’t born to live in quiet desperation, to play it safe to avoid pain.

Your trauma is your SCHOOL, and you are conditioned to lead because you survived it.
But you sit back and do nothing with all that experience you have.

You prefer to wallow and feel sorry for yourself like you earn money to be upset.

 

 

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What does it benefit you to live in fear today?
How will your life be better out of your decision not to take a chance?
People need to know that they can do it, and you might be the only example of this,

but you’ve designed life that ensure that they will NEVER meet you.

A disservice is what you create in 360 degree form when you make decisions based on fear.
Its time to GET UP.

If you Need me to assist you, I am HERE

 

 

 

 

“Black Men DO Not Want Black Women???”

Written by Salkis Re
 
Begging of any kind immediately puts you in a subordinate position.
Stop harassing these black women that you “think” do not what to date you.black love
It doesn’t make a difference and NEWS FLASH,
you can’t SHAME men not changing their minds about where they want to insert their penises.
It is a totally waste of energy, and it send a message that you are insecure about your own self worth.
There is a power in SILENCE that is unequivocal to any vocalized aggression against black men who date outside their race.
 
And until YOU stop with your own hypocrisy, the double standards of who gets a pass when you YOURSELF are praying for an opportunity to have a mixed baby or a
Light skin child, when you stop supporting those swirling channels that get MILLIONS of views AND SUBSCRIBERS,
you stop beauty practices that reflected an alignment with what you CANNOT BE BIOLOGICALLY,
then and only then can we effectively take a position of “Injustice” with the vehicle of self honor and self respect and truth behind in.
 
You try to denigrate what you secretly have affection for.
You say you HATE when you really admire and privately wish
the cards of life would have dealt a different hand to you.
I have participated in the hypocrisy for many, MANY years.
I had a chip on my shoulder for light skin women for any woman
who appeared to be mixed race or who claimed blackness while enjoying ambiguity.
I went through a stage in high school were I relaxed my edges EVERY WEEEK!!.
Yeah, as soon as then naps started forming, I take a little tooth brush and zap that shit away.
I wanted no part of my blackness, and I hated other women because they didn’t have to go through what I went through.
Not being shut after sexually is a crushing blow to a girls self esteem here in America.
Because here in American, beauty is regarded as VIRTUE, as TRUTH, As GOODNESS.
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But beauty that comes from the validation of men always leads to self esteem issues.
It always leads to disease and mental instability.
Why?
Because his “love” for you is based on what he sees and this means that
you experience differences in your relationship when your looks start to change.
Beauty as a vehicle for companionship is a necessity, but approaching beauty as a “tool” rather than the sum total of your
self worth is a more balanced way to be because then you can manage
“change” and you will do things to maintain your beauty that are more productive
and nourishing to your body instead of destructive and corrosive to your physical form…
The bottom line is this: When you BEG, you get their PITY, Nothing more.
“Black Love” starts with you!
 
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis RE

“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN????

“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN???

So the gag is that Tiny, T.I’s wife is a fool for staying with Tip because once again he is caught cheating.
Some of y’all say she has no self esteem because she keeps forgiving him for his infidelity.

That could very well be the case, but let me say something about commitment: it is a sacrifice!!!
She took him in at the height of her career with escape, he was TI back then, he wasn’t anything, but she backed him.

She gave him the best years of her life and 5 children. She gave him passes, and threesomes too. She got surgery to keep her tits and ass tight and high, she took the charge when they got caught with cocaine in they car, she stayed chase while he was doing his bid in jail.

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And guess what? HE STILL CHEATED over and over and over again.

So what SHOULD that tell you ladies. What should be included in all those seminars, You tube vids, vegan potlucks, yoni egg user brigades and the like, need to just say what is inevitable, what is highly probable, what is almost a guarantee if your make has a half way working penis and/or a little bit of money. And that is that men CHEAT.

You are killing yourself trying to hold it together for HIM, when all he wants is simply someone NEW. Your loyalty doesn’t mean shit, how much of the rent you can pay or even if you’re paying ALL of the rent, it doesn’t mean shit, you can think you’re hot or maybe you actually are hot, and guess what?
It doesn’t matter!!!

So Tiny should walk away from time and money SHE put into him so he can be free and clear to dick hop? She can move out the house and get a condo across town with a nice looking Guy Friday who comes to check her “plumbing”, but divorce?
Divorce him to do what? Date again?
To find another fool that just wants to say he fucked T.I’s ex wife?
NO! She should ride it out. Ride that shit into the sunset and find joy however she can because at this stage the odds that she can pull another T.I is slim.

She got time and the stamina to build up another man at this stage of her life?
And at is the point of all of that when all roads still lead to what she is facing now..

She need to do what Snoop Dog wife did: visit down and let him figure it out while the bag keeps coming in

Tiny, monitor your bag. The rest is irrelevant… Period…
Take the Black Pill!!

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

“How Do You Get a Man to Love You? “

 

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Well there are a few hard truths to swallow before you can position yourself for that possibility.
Some things that you will have to do are:
🌼1)Bite your tongue.
🌼2)Swallow your pride.
🌼3) Be charming.
🌼4)Play dumb.
🌼5)Act helpless.
🌼6) Stay away from intoxicants.
🌼7) Have excellent hygiene.
🌼8) Dress to compliment your form,
🌼9)Workout.
🌼10) Eat right.
🌼11) Pray.
🌼12) Do not upstage him with your intellect.
🌼13) Do not act like you can’t live without sex.
🌼14) Do not have sex too frequently because your “novelty” will wear off faster than is beneficial to you.
🌼15) Act like you are accustomed to nice things.
🌼16) Make sure you are more good looking than he is, preferably 3-5 points higher in the scale.
🌼17) Resist being argumentative because this is a sign that you care. And you shouldn’t.
🌼18) Do not check up on him or grill him about whereabouts.
🌼19) Do not consider procreation with him until you have been Married for a while because being a mother is a “little death” towards your “sexual attractiveness”..

🌼🌼20) This one’s most important. Allow a man to “pick” you. Do not fall for the sexual liberation trap that makes you think you can discern interest in a man that YOU desire, you’ll end up giving him pussy he didn’t need to perform to get.

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~Salkis Re

Do NOT pursue a man you have to convince will like your “type” i.e.(fat, dark, shorthair, skinny),

That, “You don’t know what your missing” sales pitch: piss on it and let it burn cause you are setting yourself up for “pick me” abuse.

Final words, by no means is this a comprehensive list, it is merely a foundation to build on to the other things that must be done that require mentalism and self control.

Love Doesn’t exist in romantic relationships, this is why you HAVE to do all the steps I listed to coax those feelings out of him.

When you accept that love is a game, and an unfair one at that, then you will move your mind out of the conflict of right and wrong with what you MUST do to position yourself as a woman of value.

AND………
Get over your tug of war.
Get over this happily ever after that you are ashamed you don’t have yet.
Respect the wisdom your experience has bestowed upon you.
Stop thinking that the TRUTH is sad..
Take the “BLACK PILL”
And gain control of your emotions.

Amen, Amun, Ameen
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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Salkis Re, Artist/ Author/Poet/Life Coach

“Single Mothers are a HUGE Liability?”

 

The discussion about single mothers as potential wives came up on my recent You Tube Video… My response is REALITY, not filled with idealism or optimism for that matter. My posting this dialog for YOUNG ladies who do NOT have children yet.
Take Heed…

Male Viewer Comment:
I think love and relationships are more complex. If my son married a woman with a child, i would be happy for him.
Perhaps HE could be the only hero in the child’s life.

Child or no child, the woman should be a loving person. I hope that she would be less Machiavellian…less jaded.
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My Response:
Every woman who HAS a past is “jaded” to some degree. And if she was left a single mother, she should be EXTREMELY cautious in safeguarding against a repeating choices that led her there in the first place.
A single mother comes with extra scars, but if her motivation is strong enough, she CAN compensate for the any emotional shortcomings by concentration on her what is virtuous about her. But the “jaded” part really applies to ANY woman who has had sperm inside of her.
It creates a touch of lunacy in us all to be honest..

 

 

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“Holding On To Love” Art by Salkis RE CLICK HERE

 

Male Viewer Comment:
Salkis Re Most women I know with one child say it is best thing that ever happened to them.
However, i understand what you are saying about exercising caution.

Do you think single men who have full custody of a child also lack a certain amount of character?
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My Response:
And why do you think women say that? I will tell you. It’s because for the FIRST time, they are experiencing TRUE love.

A man who has full custody of his children exemplifies compassion and emotional connect to his children even when he could have walked away. That is different, its “Noble” even.

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WHY?
Because he is not expected to “want” to shoulder all the Responsibility like women. A woman’s value is in question because when “She” brings other mens children, she brings “bills”, she brings a “something must be wrong with you for him to walk from you and your children” UNLIKE the single father.

WHY?
Because she is looking to be cared for by a man. And because of this, for her, it is a FLAW, and a REDUCTION in her MARKETABILITY because she requires MORE output of his resources as well as the expectation to muster up some sort of LOVE and CARE for children that are not is own.

BIG Liability! Especially when men struggle to communicate and show interest/emotional concern for children that are biologically his.

Not what women want to hear and not what men would admit…..

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis RE

If you are looking for someone to talk to about your love life or anything you need help figuring out, please do not hesitate to contact me. Yo can reach me at salkis@iloveherart.com or book a session with me if your are ready to rock and roll!

YOU ARE UGLY!!

You ARE UGLY!!

So I did a video on my You Tube channel called:
“You Are Not Pretty Enough To Get The Man You Want?”
Now I addressed some sensitive things in that video about attractiveness and how it plays a major role in the quality level of the men we get.

The FACTS: All women are not beautiful. It sounds good, it Makes some us feel good when other women say it. But they are lying to those of us who know that we are not able average in looks, maybe even below average in looks.

I have stated many MANY times that I consider myself to be VERY average, some days less than that. So I make sure I eat right and do the things to maintain my wellbeing so that no deficits are exaggerated.

Women who are not conventional beauties must the need for validation in terms of beauty. It is often a lie, the flattery I mean. And it is used to ‘soften” your defenses: its purpose is to create emotional dependency and allows your body to be used as a tool for pleasure and recreation.

 

abstract artSo here is the deal actually, I advise ALL WOMEN, no matter how beautiful they are, to remove the NEED for validation of your vanity. Make you beauty or lack there of, inconsequential so that you are released from the anguish of acceptance by men or doing things to win their approval that perpetuates vulnerability and low self esteem…

When you take Vanity out of the equation, you remain RIGHT MINDED, not easily persuaded to conform to the will of men, and YOU get to remain in authority of YOUR perception of your worth whether pretty or ugly….

Do you know how autonomous it feels to eviscerate the “WORRY” that comes from he obsession with vanity?? Men have absolutely no emotional power over you when you take away the his power to validate your looks…

So nature has dealt you some cards, and you have to play these cards throughout your life. Take the vanity card OFF the table and get your AUTONOMY back…
Simple as That…

“Medicine Woman”
~ Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

 

Sex Should Frighten you!

“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.

This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.

Sex is a death ritual.

Sex is a  “giving up” of your soul to another soul.

Sex is A sacrifice.

Sex is  A melding together of thoughts,

emotions,

feelings,

bacteria,

shyte,

puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.

Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.

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But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.

But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!

Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.

And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.

Why?
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.

Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.

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Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.

Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it

sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.

This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.

This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

I’ve Never Been in Love!?/???

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Selfish people are full of complaints and convoluted notions about love. They want what they NEVER give, yet call the world unfair.

If no one wants to love you, there is a reason for that. Search for why that is..
Then Start BEING the love you wish to receive ..

I really give a side eye to people who say this because it reflective of a disconnect with people a humanitarian level.

We are all here to help people you know.

 By working for them,

caring for them ,

teaching them,

healing them 

Protecting them

If no one can say they have benefited from your existence, then you are not using your life in way that invites reciprocity you think you are entitled too.

We want love, right? But most want to hide behind the emotions of other people to disguise how they feel about themselves.

More people abuse love than cherish it, then regret and try to repair the corrupted hearts they’ve created, and it just becomes this endless cycle of

HURT YOU/

REPAIR YOU/

HURT YOU/

BEG FOR FORGIVENESS/

HURT YOU etc….

Why are people so naturally fucked up in the first place?

Why is it that we respect what we LOSE rather than cherish what we have?

WHY?

 

Because this society is the THROW AWAY Society

We are constantly waiting for the next NEW thing to come out, even if the old phone works fine.

You wait in line and pay inflated prices for the NEW thing in order to feel like SOMEBODY.

We trade people in as well. The moment a flaw surfaces, we are outa there.

How self righteous of us indeed!

 

To maneuver as if parts of you do not have to be “tolerated” by another person,

to act like you are so perfect that you cannot allow anyone around you to slip: How Sway?

You want microwave food and microwave love.

No one wants to take time to cultivate a relationship anymore.

But those blazing hot relationships fizzle out just as fast though.

Sex will get boring no matter who you are screwing, especially if you are doing it too often.

There is no other solution for boredom and the contempt of familiarity than ABSTINENCE and DISCIPLINE.

You build together.

You grow love for each other based on time spent together learning and improving individually and as a unit.

If you have the same conversation that you had 5 years ago: you are dead.

If you haven’t tried anything new to challenge your abilities: you are dead.

If you have not done anything to support your physical health: you are dead.

Good Relationships are about MOVEMENT and PROGRESS…

This is Not about pole dancing, and other unnecessary acrobatic bedroom antics…

A person doesn’t want to kiss you because you’re a good kisser,

a person will want to kiss you are using your lips as an instrument to express emotions for them.

Love( which is PASSION) is not that hard to attain if you are to fulfill your needs BY  fulfilling the needs of others.

PERIOD!!

 

 

Pain Comes With Love

 

 

“What is A GOOD Relationship?”
Written by Salkis Re

The dark side exists in us all. We try as best we can to suppress our disagreeable nature,

but the moment there is cause for resentment or anger,

it will come gushing out like a ticklish sneeze.

So how do we manage?

By making a conscientious effort not to add on to our dysfunction by compounding on existing horrific decisions.

WE make amends simply by “thinking” before we do a thing.

And pray that there is enough goodness within us for someone to love.

This is why commitment is so important; It makes it more different for a lover to run when they come face to face with your demons,

and vice versa, of course.

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Relationships are good when two people are interested in the well being of each other.

When each of you feel safe enough to challenge the other partner to improve.

But if you stay together long enough, you WILL WEAR hats like: Priest, Psychiatrist, Doctor, Friend, Lover, Punching Bag, Enemy and so on..

The love of your life WILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL  lie to you.

He will cheat on emotionally and/or sexually.

He will wish he had never met you. And he’ll develop persistent melancholy when you’re not around..

This is what relationships are…..
Except it so you can weather the storm.

Honor your commitment because chances are extremely favorable that you will simply

meet yourself and what you’re running from in another person…

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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They Said You’re Ugly, And They Are Right!!!!

They Are Right About how you look!

When you are told over and over again that you are unattractive,
I want you to consider that “they”
might have just cause for saying it.
 
Now before you berate me or try simulate
“outrage” to go along with your other displaced emotions,
I would like for you to simply consider
what you are “projecting”, moreso than what you “look” like.

Approval Addiction Makes You Unattractive!

Your beauty, or “lack there of”, comes from
the showcasing of your anxiety and need for approval.
AND when you, BLACK girl, “conform” in any way,
you WILL display an improper fit and show
the world that you own no identity outside
of what you’ve been given.

You Wear your Insecurities On Your Sleeve

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                   Black Girl Magic by Salkis Re
 
And you sojourn while thinking you are
making progress, but you are stuck.
But you stay committed to the clownish makeup
while wearing clothes that will not compliment your form
with hairstyles that resemble assembly line wigs
at the China Man’s beauty supply store.
All of this will affect you swift “invisibility” to men.

Conformity KILLS Beauty

And the irony is that in your attempt to be
what Society considers beautiful, you become MORE unattractive,
BECAUSE you’ve positioned yourself
as a substandard DUPLICATE of what you CANNOT be,
a walking, talking, mannequin that represents
a type of woman whom you’ve decided is “better” that yourself.
 
And you think these facts can be “hidden” around glamor.
You can only suppress yourself emotions for so long: they will eventually burst forth to tell the truth of all you hide.
 

Beauty is NOT anxiety driven, it’s Peace based.

It is the personalization of what you were born
to represent in an unapologetically creative way.
 
And that peace within you will start to relax your furrowed lines on your face.
And that peace will cause your skin to glow.
And that peace will make your voice sound soothing to hear.
And that peace gives room for your individuality to be expressed.
And that peace makes grace hover over you.
And that peace makes you a moving meditation.
And that peace makes you enjoy caring for yourself.
And that peace will attraction men to you.
And on and on and on again… ~Salkis Re
 

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

Abstract Art by Salkis Re
Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re

 

“Reasons”
Written by Salkis Re
 
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.
 

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Why?
Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.
 

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.
Why?

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

Motivational Quotes
Artist/ Life Coach
                                                                                          ~Salkis Re

 

It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

🤔You are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

 

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Kendrick Said Be Humble!!

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Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

Aww. Joy of Humility…

You know I have a bit of disdain for that word.

Well. A bit more than a little I suppose.

But it’s quite useful though. I thought it was beneath me to transpose humility onto myself. I thought that putting people first was an invitation to put myself last.

No my darlings… I was extremely wrong.

Humility as I see it, helps to find out the true intentions of one’s heart.

Why?

Because people naturally tell lies when you question them, and the more intimidated they are, bigger and more grandiose the lies get.

People want to loved and accepted, and they will say and do what needs to be done to ensure that they come out unharmed.

Intimidation is a threat. A perceived threat of course, but as I tell the fortunate ones who get to work with me, ‘perception is the only reality there is’.

Humility is chocked full of sugary goodness because you get to satisfy your guilt and shame that creep up in your mind from being too self absorbed by putting others before yourself and you get to create an environment of trust and safety for the other person/s involved. And trust and safety bring out the primal instincts in people.

They tend to let go of their pretenses and the wall they build to protect themselves emotionally.

Think of it like this: when you feel threatened, you tense up, you recoil and brace yourself so that minimal damage happens. You are not ‘open’ emotionally or physically when you are tense. Intimidation causing ‘tension’ and tension encourages abnormal behavior

Be humble creates a stress-less environment and it is in relaxation of one’s mind that they start ‘talking’. They start yo vomit out everything they love or fear, how their mother didn’t love them enough or how they feel inadequate about this or that. They will admit their perversions and all their weaknesses to you when totally relaxed by your humidity.

 

If You’ve Heard the term ‘Pillow Talk’

If You’ve Heard ‘You’re So Easy to Talk Too!’

Both of those are examples of how people response when they do not feel intimidated.

  1. Making you laugh let’s your guard down.
  2. Keeping you distracted let’s your guard down.
  3. Tell you secrets let’s your guard down.
  4. Asking your opinion makes you feel more important and let’s your guard down.
  5. Giving you gifts and attention let’s your guard down.

And so on and so on…

Aww… The Joys of Humility. .

Sell or be Sold my darling. Which one will you be?

Now, I’m on a shift myself, coming to terms with what I’m really called to do as a guide for you and women just like you. I have accepted how I must help you build your self esteem and my position is not pretty at times, but it’s magical nonetheless.  If you want more keys to train your mind so you can control your body and maybe even get people to do your bidding, then I can coach you

To contact me send inquires to salkis@iloveherart.com

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Artists Shaming ME, Another Artist: YIKES!

 

Facebook Group Flunkies

So this has been an interesting few days. I have been scolded in a few facebook art groups for the commentary that usually accompanies my artwork. I have never been an artist to just post a pic of my work with the measurements and a buy now link at the bottom of it. That is fuvking boring and it doesn’t stimulate emotions like words along with work do.

No Why NO WAY!

But I understand that this is my way of doing things, this is my “style” and I get it: I LOVE IT! But my problem is when the admins of these groups tell me how I ‘should’ present my work. I was told recently that I should just stick to art instead of writing a “book” length post because the opinion was that I didn’t write well enough to lend relevance to my work.

BIHHHHHHHHHH! lllmao. It is always these washed up, non visionary artists that want to lend critique on the way an artist should present their work. My art started because I wanted to illustrate a book I was writing, so I would have never picked up a brush if I didn’t have a need to ‘write” something. But I’m thankful this happened though, because it forced me to audit my time and where I was dispersing my energies, and booooooy was I wasting time “entertaining” people who really didn’t care for my words.

 

I think this is a sign that I’m getting better at orchestrating my words though, the fact that I’m making people’s skin crawl  with what means that they are tasting the bitter medicine of truth. I tell my fans that they have to develop a thick skin. Yes. You have to grow armor and not give a fuvk what people think: especially people who have nothing and who’s lives offer little to no fuvking semblance of where you aspire to be.

Naked in Stilettoes

If you want to show off your artwork while twirling a baton in stilettos and a see-through tu-tu , then DO IT! Seriously though, you got to know the “why” behind what you do or you will drift with every insinuation these forking losers can muster up while they take a break from their miserable lives. I am invested in my success as an artist,  and exposing all the dimensions of myself with the world. AND meeting the people who show tangible appreciation for what it is I do is the mission..

Listen, make you voice heard. Do your art with passion and curiosity to make yourself better with each canvas you paint on. Insecurity is the demon to slay. Insecurity affects you physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and all the other ALLY’s I left out.

DO YOU!!

“Your Life Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re

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Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!

Aww the new year is here!! And we are alive to enjoy whoo-hoo. 2016 was a roller coaster for sure and I can’t say that im not relieved to see it go.

I brought in the new year on the phone with a client of mine. She booked a session with me just to thank me for the advice I give young women on love and Continue reading “Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!”

Distraction Dingalings Are Expensive!

You must test man for mental and physical strength. You are too quick to allow entry into your mind far less your body. And it’s so easy to weed out the weak

minded. They are easily distracted, have no goals, very undisciplined, and emotionally fragile.

Self Portrait by artist Tim Baxter

 

He wants what they are to stingy to pay for.

He expects something for nothing and usually at your expense.

But your longing to quench your on thirst makes you a beggar of your own desires. You will become a new victim for a different face because you

never learn your lesson. The needle spins around the record of your life, skipping over the scratch again and again.

You admire the beauty of other women, and you want the power you think their beauty affords them. And you soak in their hollow doctrines and their enchantments and things, only to find out that you are right back where you started: starving for attention.

And the truth is that I’m not telling you anything that your heart does not already know. You just feel that the truth will bring you further away from companionship and love. But you are sleeping with men who do not love you, who don’t have the aptitude to provide or protect you, who will abandon you crisis hits.

Though a penis inserts itself into your vagina regularly, you are alone, even more alone than if you were by yourself.

So my question to you is when will you get out of the fog and face the truths? Distractions cost a lot of time and money you know, any they are never worth what you have to expel to maintain them. They devour you eventually.

But there is a light at the end of all these tunnel rats you’ve been trying to leap over. It will take a brain washing of sorts. It will mean that you have to challenge notions of sexuality, femininity, self worth, pleasure etc.. Smiling, what it means is that you will have to upgrade your thinking and the basic need to “just be heard”, and you will have to move into solution based thinking instead of get ‘coping’ with your problems.

Awww, you want to be a Goddess and you think its all fun right? No. It is not.

How many can sit at a throne seat?

That’s right! ONLY ONE! So be prepared for that, the alone time I mean.

That’s one of the biggest hurdles, being alone I mean. We want the sisterhood to hold us up, to give shoulders that we can soak with our tears. And it feels good for a moment. What you want is more than a moment, you want a lifetime fix!

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“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

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You Can’t See Through What You Want to See!

You need to know “how’ to get to know.

The “slight of hand” makes you think you know.

Your need for pleasure puts a filter over your eyes towards any truth that appears in front of you. You deny what you want, what you feel, and what you see because you think your will to have can affect a person’s character.

You think your prayers have been answered before you even give yourself a chance to test for false prophets. Your prayers and meditations do not calm your mind into the relaxation you need in order to see what is right or wrong in men.

You go into it with a sense of entitlement, yet you cannot see when the ‘show’ is being put on for you. You are hopeful, optimistic, cheerful, and appealing, and you think these things will get you what you want. They can assist of course, but they have to be in conjunction with your wisdom and a clear objective for your own life.

***Attractiveness will not cure boredom, or wandering eye. And being nice and sweet will not keep him interested. Keeping a level head is the only way to “know” what you need to know.

And what are you looking for?

*Emotional stability,

*natural tendencies,

*spontaneous reactions to unexpected things,

*what he says about people he loves, 

moors in art

 

 

*does he love his work,

*is he disciplined,

*does he take care of his body,

*how much leisure time does he need and how does he spend it. And so on.

BUT you have to know yourself in order to access others without projecting yourself on to him. 

If you need help with that, I can coach you..

But for now, just Take Your Time in order to see.

Know what you are deserving of and watch for his ability and motivation to give it to you.

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Do I think Interracial Dating is a Bad Thing?

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Someone asked me about interracial dating.

I will be asking two questions:

1)do black men watch porn?

2)Do black men have a “type” of female they like?

And then more questions:

3)Do you understand that most of them watch non black women and are very excited by the pink snatch and Tu Ball Cains jumping around ?

4)Do you understand that what they watch is what turns them on?

5)How many times is it going to be someone that looks exactly like you?

6)Do you understand that having a “type” is a prejudice within itself, and that it’s a predisposition towards a particular esthetic?

7)What are you ashamed of admitting exactly?

8)And why when men have no problem objectifying and separating parts of your body into what is valuable and what is not useful?

You are attracted to what you are attracted to and that’s it. We can cradle the politics of it and the turncoat , coon labels can be rather discomforting to say the least. But you must know that what should concern you most is what happens behind the door of your own house. You are ALONE:I keep drilling this into your head because its this collective allegiance to nothingness that as many of us putting opportunity on hold or passing it up altogether.

Prejudice is everywhere. And YES, it is within the ‘black community’ of which there really isn’t a community more so than neighborhoods where we densely reside. The truth of someone’s heart, you can never really know, so why rely on what you hope is comradery when the only man you can put to task on defending you, is the one you go to bed with?! You must narrow your focus and listen to your heart and mind. You make vows to people who will not help you in times of need. You show you are ‘down’ for men who will never consider you as wife material.

Self care is the first and the most important vow you will ever make. Angry people cannot love, hateful people cannot love, racist people cannot love etc.

When you start looking at EVERYTHING for what it really is, you start to really grasp how much “performing” is going on. Some of us have allegiance to those that look at us as an “experiment” or something to do when they are bored or have a dry spell. You are ALONE.. This walk is yours. No one is coming to save you. No revolution. . Look around and you can see if u open your eyes. You are aligned with nostalgia and illusions.

Live YOUR life..
“Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

 

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What If Your Man Finds You Unattractive?

In response to a you tube video I did yesterday discussing what to do if you are an unattractive girl as far as dating etc. A brother asked if it is wrong for him to pursue a woman he is not physically attracted too. He said that the woman has other qualities that he is interested in but the looks just don’t do it for him.

There is nothing wrong in dating someone you do not find attractive. Sometimes other traits do hold so much value that you can’t pass it up. The problem is when the other person has to develop a relationship with someone who is turned off by them physically.

If you are on the receiving end of that kind of union and you are NOT strong minded and strong willed, you WILL be treated like a charity case. The emotional high that is usually there with physical attraction, will not be there with you. Practicality rules, the bottom line will be in front every decision instead of pleasing you. You must develop mental strength here because lipstick won’t do much to create the illusion of attractiveness.

Neediness, even in attractive women, eventually becomes a repellant for her as well. You must develop independent thought. That is the only way to control a relationship were the other person thinks you are ugly. We can try to create the illusion of attractiveness by the right clothes and make up lessons, talking softly or learning poll dancing and other “body conscious” things that take your money before you have a chance to perfect them. But in the back of your mind(where the truth is) you know that no matter what you do, it’s not going to be enough if you are doing them to please another person.

You are in a charitable head space, a servant and master paradigm were you have decided to agree with the rank and file you have been placed in by the person that you are trying to please. Center yourself, Learn to please yourself and do things that build on the strengths that you already have. This is what will give you confidence, not worrying and pressing yourself to do and learn things that are only motivated by your need to distract from how  you look.

You could be a master of your life if you know how to fill your own cup. Being unemotional makes you attractive!!

When you don’t “need” on an emotional level, you simply cannot be manipulated no matter how plain you look. And this alone can make you a magnet for men. Focus on health and personal accomplishments to avoid the depression that comes from pleasing people that find you undesirable to begin with..

(I know you men read my stuff so this goes for you too: your welcome 😉

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

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