We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”

“We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”
Transit time January 25, 2019 3:45 a.m.
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Dark skin women
Your Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

👉Men: Give Love /
Women: React

👉Men: Say What They Have Knowledge In/  Women: Say What you Want to hear.

👉Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /
Women: Are vulnerable Physically

👉Men: Are Impersonal /
Women: Take Everything Personally

👉Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/
Women: Bored and find Reasoning exhausting

👉Men: Praise/  Women: Criticize

👉Men: Invent/  Women: Imitate

I am NOT pointing out these thing as a suggestion that we try to act like men, the goal here is for you to start learning about yourself so that you can be a more effective communicator with men AND you will also being to understand why you say/do the thing YOU do.

And this is why we get repetitiously limited results

And this is why we get repetitiously limited results in our lives as women. We need men to balance us, but women are so broken by numerous failed relationships that every character trait you posses is now pathological in scope.

We fake like we are unicorns flowing through life unbothered, yet it’s part of our disposition to be pretentious and critical of everything EXCEPT ourselves.

KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers

KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers are and how to shift away from a behavior that doesn’t give you the results you’re looking for.

We need to be seen, we NEED to be acknowledged and this need is easily exploitable by men people they have the upper hand of logic and analysis.

You THINK with your body

THINK with your body. You filter your world through a sense of what’s hot or cold, not wrong or right.
So walking with the awareness of this truth allows you to step back a bit because you are giving your body time to settle down so that you can THINK instead of REACT.

A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets

Take your first tiny little step towards happiness by simply acknowledging that you don’t think things through in the way that you should, and vow to only make a decisions after thinking them through first. A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets and WILL change your entire life!😉

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Do you want me to help figure out what to do? Drop me a quick email at salkis@iloveherart.com

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“Why You Will Get Hurt Again”

Written by Salkis Re

The truth of the matter is that most women will not change unless

there is some enjoyment attached to the task.

Women always need something new to look like or be.
We don’t innovate, we only mimic and

copy what we see other women do,

partly because we are communal by nature and mainly because

we are emotional and you do not posses the instinct to take risks..

We are unable to be objective because we judge everything by how we feel..

Logic is boring and uninteresting to us

Logic is boring and uninteresting to us and we dismiss things that

do not make us the center of attention.

Your vanity, your need to be SEEN is what has caused most

of the heart break you’ve experienced..

And because you communicate with your

body and you think with your body,

You process your environment by how you feel..

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you will more than likely make decisions that are not

reasonable and you will be hurt again…
You need some in your mouth that’s sweet,

you something in your vagina that feels good,

you need constant stimulation or

you feel invisible and a loss of self worth…

Compare some these attributes of men and women

MEN: Give Love / Women: React

MEN: Say What They Have Knowledge In/  Women: Say What you Want to hear.

Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /  Women: Are vulnerable Physically

Men: Are Impersonal /  Women: Take Everything Personally

Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/  Women: Bored and Exhausted by Reasoning

Men: Praise/  Women: Criticize

Men: invent/  Women: imitate

It is what it is..

But once we have understanding of ourselves we

can manipulate our thoughts to create

different habits and actions…

Everybody can’t be saved..

But I am here to save as many of us as I can..

Who Am I?

A Self Esteem Coach

I am an empath

A Spiritual Advisor

A relationship Expert

and an Artist
Need to talk to me one on one? Drop me a line at salkis@iloveherart.com

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“The Pressure to Look Sexy!

“The Pressure to Look Sexy”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen, I’ve been accused of being undercover feminist lesbian when I get into my cautionary rants;

the resistance usually comes from men who feel in threatening a reduction in their prospects/prey or women

who believe they are more attractive than I am which makes my message inapplicable to them…

The reoccurring theme here, the message within all of my writings is that you see the truth of how your emotions become weaponized and used against you.
The pressure to “look valuable” is real.

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This is why we wear the form fitting clothes, plaster makeup on our faces, post selfies, wear weaves and high heels that some of can’t even walk in..
Somebody told you that you had to do this in order to be relevant and “considered”.

And MOST of us are looking like desperate fools in clown makeup and

clothing with spandex material in that that makes you assume you’ve bought the right size.

Shaming here?
No. Waking here!
Wake up to the fact that you are in a game that’s set up for you to lose,

because when you lose (of feel lost) you turn into a consumer/believer/minion

for those that make sales to help cure your low self esteem.

African Art by Salkis RE
African art by Salkis Re

What’s the truth here though?
The truth is that we are different, but different doesn’t necessarily mean better or worse; it simply means that I cannot be you and you cannot be me…

I’m interested in sisterhood.

 

I’m interested in sisterhood . Though I cried it down as an impossible task -because women are emotional conn artists- I am renewing my vision for this because it is needed.

We are sick, depressed, suicidal, impoverished in every way because we sit around telling lies to each other, initiating new recruits into old sorrows,making it seem like even the mistakes you made in your life was “all planned out before your birth”.

Where are the healers?
Where are the watchers?

 

 

Where are the CRONES to help and guide young women?
Are you sitting around to busy plucking your hormonal chin hair to care about the ones coming after you?

Looking good is a blessing and a curse for those of us who can transform to an acceptable level;

you WILL be picked, used, trophied, and discarded more than those if us who have minimal options.


African Art by Salkis RE
African Art by Salkis Re

You Can’t Quite Level Up

And the ones of who can’t quite “level up” feel that we live without luck or grace because the prospects are low,

so we go to extremes, often corrupting our health while making fool-hearty investments in so-called improvements,

and the only return you get on your alterations is laughed and more Usury than your previous looks allowed for..

So both spectrums meet pain and degradation, and the reason we do is because we do not help each other.

We rate,

categorize,

exclude,

and diminish each other’s value by forming social cliques where women

that aren’t a threat to each other just pass around lies and swap war stories…
And so it goes..
But I’m looking for my lost sheep just like Jesus did..

I’m here to help with the bitter BLACK PILL…
Carry On..

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Mentor”
“EMPATH”

If you need private mentoring in all matters of womanhood including health ad wellness, weightless, self esteem, life purpose, relationship advice, please reach out ay:

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There’s Nothing Special About You!

 

 

Beautiful Black Women

 

OK…
When I tell women that they are not “special”, they’re offended but this is indubitably true.
A woman stated to me that she was heart broken because her man left her for another white woman.

“Another” meaning he was previously married to one before that wife passed away.
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Well you knew when you met him that his preference was white women because he married one,

or are you devastated because he LEFT you or because he left you for a WHITE woman?

Over sexualized black women
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I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman who dates or is married interracially who doesn’t make an announcement about this

“unique” and  special type of relationship she has.

It’s ALWAYS a point they make even though the question if ethnicity or race is brought up.
You think you are “extra special” because a man that “shouldn’t” love a woman like you does!????!!!??!!

👉IGNORING This Message Could Result In you Spinning Your Wheels and being PLAYED Again!!

****Some of you “dime pieces” are going to have a hard time

hearing this because men “appear” to worship you…

But they don’t see you pep talking yourself and obsessing in the mirror ritualistically every single day. You assume your beauty makes you a Goddess, but did every man you faced think so too?

Didn’t Cierra get “Baby Mothered by Future??

Didn’t Beyonce is cheated on by JayZ??

Didn’t Hallie Barry lose her hearing after getting punched in her head??

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Pink bunny rabbit
World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

👉 See, we have to stop believing that we are the “best” anything when we come into a man’s life.

This is the game they run to stroke your fragile ego, soothe the worry and doubt

most women have about their looks, all so they can have access to you!
👉 Most people, men particularly have a “type”, and chances are high that you are

JUST LIKE MOST OTHER WOMEN he’s enjoyed sexually,

and you say the same fuccing things intellectually or and you look

the same aesthetically as every other woman he’s fell in love with!

So no my sweet, sweet daughters, you are NOT “special” :YOU ARE SIMPLY “NEW”.

Now take this BLACK PILL and wash it down with the glass of wisdom.
Carry On…

 

Black Women with Thick Locs

Who Am I?

“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
“Mentor”
“Lifecoach”
“Mother”
“The Crone”
~Salkis Re

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Dating Outside Your Race Black Women?

I could join you picket line…but I won’t because part of the blame, well most of it was my doing,
for I chose to give men who I knew were not interest in me a chance.
I knew that the guys I LIKED didn’t really like me,
but I hadn’t any concrete “evidence” to substantiate my suspicions, yet and still, the situations
that by the grace of God revealed the truth, I dismissed the truth anyway.
I didn’t want to admit the truth because that would mean that in my mind,
I was acknowledging that I wasn’t good enough.
 
Watercolor Portrait Painting
“I’m a Girl!” Original Art by Salkis Re
And what’s the best way to relieve the mind of anxiety and depression: distraction!
Men pretended with me and I pretended right along with them, hoping that “proving value” by “selling myself” to an
*unmotivated buyer to begin with would somehow turn things around for me…
This what you do too.
You pretend.
You pretend you don’t see what you see.
You even pretend to be confused, but you know.
You ALWAYS know, the problem is that you do not trust in what you know because you
cannot differentiate your true self from the pretense you’ve created to get along with others.
 
Most of the time it was just a “feeling” though. In the mist of a conversation,
his mind does not seem fully engaged, and if a woman walked by that he liked,
he took the liberty to take a long and quite substantial look,
not feeling instinctively compelled to respectfully conceal his arousal from you.
 
There were other times when dates would be cancelled at the last minute
but then he’d show up at midnight to my door claiming to “miss me”,
I knew that he lied but I let him in because I wanted to feel wanted: truth be damned!
Then there were those times when holidays came around and gifts didn’t come neither the presence of his body,
probably because he was too busy stocking stuffing at “homes” of women who’s company he valued more.
And it was no buggy in my mind because
I bought my daughter all the gifts on her list which allowed me to a distraction from my feelings of inadequacy from being unwanted…
abstract portrait painting
“Powder” Original Abstract Portrait by Salkis RE
So now here you are, running from your acute ability to make poor decisions
by seeking refuge in the arms of men who do not share your genetic makeup.
You are fascinated with the “novelty” of it all. You get to even be “blacker” with him than you are
with your own brothers as you show and tell stories about what means to be a black woman in America.
And all well until you notice that he likes you a bit too much,
almost like you are trinket or an object of a fetish he has for black fresh.
And here you were thinking he is crazy about you…
Yeah he is krazy* about you…
You dismiss it though, still on somewhat of a high that a
man from another race considers you as beautiful.
 
But the truth is that you are that same woman who made agreements with men whom,
you knew were not to be trusted, not to be fucced, not to be husband or a father to your children.
Moving to another race doesn’t remove how your process and filter out your world and more importantly what you think of yourself.
You cannot run from you.
The respect and love that you desire comes when you become intimate with YOU.
It will come from black men when you have a love for your wellbeing that cannot be bought or bargained with.
Carry On…
Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
~Salkis Re
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Nas Puts Kelis on Blast!

Nas

Well my play husband wrote a 7 page letter in rebuttal to his ex wife Kelis and her claimed of physical abuse during their 5 year marriage.

Kelis stated in an interview that Was would imitate physical fights with her while under the influence of alcohol.

She stated she new about his extra marital affairs that went on for 2 years during their marriage, but she didn’t decided to leave because of that: “The cheating was more like the icing on the cake, she states.

Now I render when they had gotten a divorce and I honestly don’t remember hearing any bad blood between them, actually

I was impressed with the class that Kelis displayed when asked about what happened because she remained tight lipped about it.

Fast forward to today and the whole cat is out the bag, shyte slinging everywhere as each are publicly accusing the other of abusive behavior.

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Nas’s accusation cut deep and really hit home about domestic abuse and how easy

it is to take advantage of another person who shoes emotions dependency for you.

He said he suspected she was crazy but she was “BeautifuL” , so I guess her beauty gave her character a pass, at least for a while.

Other things mentioned were her uncooperativeness with him in arranging to see his son and how he even faked a reconciliation with her in order to spend time with his son.

He said Kelis “fat shamed” his daughter from a previous relationship and verbally abused her often.

Sigh…

Its a mess.

A big mess!

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I love Nas as an artist and I don’t him personally, so I would judge his character or takes sides with Kelis on her allegations against him.

But I have a message to men and women about choosing life partners.

When deciding to marry someone, you are putting yourself into a contractual commitment that holds more weight than a hand shake or a promise ring.

You are in fact stating that you are willing to risk potential loss or enjoy potential gain by cutting yourself off from any other options(dating) out here.

Do you weight the value or the compensation package of this crucial decision on looks, muscles, big booty, big d&*k or even money ?

Making decisions based on superficial things often leads to buyer’s remorse and heart breaking regret,

 over time because a decision wasn’t made based on actual value inside the box but the Chiny packaging outside of it.

I have said this before that pretty women are often accused and assumed to be crazy, light skin women in particular seem to have a reputation for emotional instability.

Kelis Green Wedding Dress
Nas and Kelis on Their Wedding Day

But you GUYS say that the Coo-Coo FOR COCO PUFFS usually makes the sex even hotter!!

Shrugs…

So listen guys, I know you want a woman who is beautiful, I know this is a top priority for most if not all of you whether your financial means can support it or not.

But you must weigh her character, you must observe and pace yourself just like I tell women to do when dating men. Especially you guys who have a lot to lose

. There are great women out here that you won’t give a chance to because she is not “pretty” enough to make a serious consideration for,

women who would bend over backwards to see to your comforts and to make sure that you are well fed,

that your secrets are protected, that will work just as has as you do to keep the house in order so that you come home to an oasis away from the grind.

But you will never know their sweetness because you don’t see their value.

This goes for women too of course…

IF you suspect that there is emotional instability in the woman you are interested in, take a pause, retreat,

RUN if necessary! And do not look back. MANY MANY MANY women hide their emotional unsteadiness behind their physical attractiveness.

I have said MANY MANY MANY times that attractiveness does not equate to SANITY or INTELLIGENCE or HIGH SELF ESTEEM either.

And I mean this with all the muscle I can flex

Women are bewitching, beautiful women even more so…

But who you MARRY has to be more than a pretty face and good sex. If she is to be the mother of your children

and potentially someone you are tied to in one way or another for life, give care in that she is mentally fit

to mother your children and provide the emotional stability and virtue I think you  guys want..

Carry On…

dark skin women
Life Coach~Salkis Re

P.S. If any of you are in need of private instruction and coaching on relationship matters and

self improvement by way of health, spiritual and emotional wellness, you can find me HERE

 

 

 

Seeing Things In Black and White

black and white minimalist painting
Art in Process by Salkis Re

 

“No Fillers”
Written by Salkis Re

Nearing the completion of this piece. I’m so tempted to put some color on her,

but I have to arrest my ego and let her simmer as she is…

I’m taking the minimalist approach to things lately.
Thinking more and more about how I really enjoy simplicity and less “stuff”.
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If the floor is clean, I could sleep on it now problem.

Give me some candles and I don’t need lamps.. I just don’t want to ” need” so much anymore.

I haven’t had food or water anything since last Sunday evening.
👉I’m dry fasting right for a goal of 48 hours for mind control and self improvement purposes.

I’m doing what Mystics I suppose. My sense of smell is acute, my heating too, and I’m trancing out as I work.
Feels more weird than usually but in a very good way.

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
*Prints will be available when she’s complete..

Website: www.iloveherart.com

How to Heal Your Body With The Right Man!

Something that I’ve come to know in my own journey towards physical and

emotional healing is that your emotions are responsible for disease.

The emotional body holds the feelings in place whether it be

depression,

anger,

fear,

sorrow

and it assists in creating a stable environment for those emotions to thrive and grow.

African American Art
“Please Forgive Me” Original Art by Salkis Re

 

Once your emotions have a stable atmosphere to thrive, you start to feel off balance physically,

your immune system starts to weaken and dysfunction and illness sets in.

This is why the relationships you choose are SO FREAKIN IMPORTANT to your overall health and emotional well being.

Men whom you have sex with that do not love you will affect your health.

A Man that you are in long term toxic relationship with will affect your health.

 

Lingering Sorrow is not good for your soul, it’s not good for your heart,

it’s not good for your mind…..

Decide that you will put your health ABOVE your compassion for other peoples foolery.

Decide that you will sacrifice your convenience and

instant gratification for the long term goal of longevity and vitality.

Your insulin level must be low to loose weight and to keep your hormones regulated.

 

High insulin means higher cortisol levels which is the fat storing hormone.

Stress will keep you sick and fat. Stress from junk food and junk people will keep you fat and exhausted.

You will kick yourself into early menopause along with a host of other physical imbalances…

 

Cut The Excess: ALL OF IT!!

 

Do you need a push to bring emotional and physical balance to your life again?

I am here to help you!

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You Want to Float in Sky

“You Can Be Anything, Now What?”
Written by Salkis Re

You want to learn how to levitate and walk through walls and see auras and things, but you can’t control what you put in your mouth or commit to anything practical that will assist in repairing your physical and mental state?????
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Ohhh you better wake up during the “witching hours” and put some energy into your mortal life instead trying to find ways to run from your shame and guilt.
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African Art
“I Wonder Why” “Pencil Portrait by Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

You Hide your low self esteem with finery and excess, and the only emotional sovereignty you can muster up is displayed in your ability to sexually seduce the minds of undisciplined people who are also looking to escape their reality.
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And here you are, afraid and hesitant to do ALL the things that offer ACTUAL improvement to your flesh and bone life, so your solution is to fly away…
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African American Art
“Am I Black Enough?” Art by Salkis Re

GROUND yourself and prepare to get your hands dirty rebuilding YOU. Do what you have to do so you can stop wishing you were a balloon…
Carry On….
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“Artist”
“Life Coach”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Am I Black Enough?”
Website: www.iloveherart.com
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