Sexual Energy: How to Get An Abundance of it!

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Sexual energy is about -energy- not so much about intentionally looking sexy. And the truth that some of are trying so hard to look sexy that it reads like desperation instead of attractiveness.

Eye contact can transmit sexual energy, so can your scent, how you walk and how you talk..

Does proper hip to waist ratio help: of course.

But if you do not posses this it does not mean you are out the game.

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You are only out the game when you are ashamed of yourself, when you’ve given in to excuses and vices to distract you from the reality that you need to change..

A few things that will boost your sex appeal:

Less Makeup.

Ditch the -beat face- for a fresh face look.. When you wear excessive amounts of makeup you hide your natural beauty which is your fertility.

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Workout.

Working out will change your body composition but more importantly it will regulate your hormones. It helps to keep you emotionally grounded and it should be seen as a self honoring ritual rather than torture.

Ditch the Sugar.

Eating process sugar causes cellular death. It dries out the skin and causes it to thin and sag. It dries out the vagina too. Depression and food are linked and sugar causes you to lose mental focus and invites hallucinations like depression and boredom when your blood sugar crashes after the high.

Wash your Vagina:

A stink vagina can cause a lack of confidence too.ūüĎÄ If you open your legs and it smells like tilapia and hot blue cheese, you need to douche that playground and go on a dik diet. Diks make the vagina itch and smell, so if you are fuccing several men at the same time, I know your puwsy smells like a butcher’s box. Stop believing these hoes who tell you that you are “winning” when you can get a nut from men who don’t even really like you. ISSA LIE!

Don’t be Afraid of Men!

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STOP taking men so seriously too. Men are scared of being hurt and wished they didn’t have that bell pepper nose or that dark skin just like you.ūüĎÄ
Some wish they had more money or bigger diks but they manage to still feel entitled even with the shyte load of flaws they posses.
Understand that they want something from you, and work out what your exchange rate is- i.e. marriage/money/girlfriend/lover etc..

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“Black” Art by Salkis RE

And I need for you to resist the conditioning of “pricing” yourself as a supposed negative concept.

Everyone around you is judging your worth.

It may be based on how you look, or you talents and intelligence, but everybody is “adding you up”.

From your employer to your boyfriend, everyone is quantifying and making assessments about your value.

SO you need to have a number in your head  that you’ve reached through introspection and self evaluation.

If you feed people nourishing food from scratch, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are extremely efficient and conscientious, that’s worth SUMthing.

If you are a healer and generous, that is worth SUMthing.

What is your worth black woman?

“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Love Does Not Exist!

I know I know…

WTF Salkis! You’re just a bitter Dark skin woman who’s been beaten down by life and you want to bring every else down with you! Blah blah blah…..

 

HaHa! I can hear you through the computer screen..

But it’s true..

You can be accommodating.

You can be attractive.

You can be selfless.

You can be Beautiful.

 

 

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“The Sun” Original Art by Salkis Re

And love… can/will/does flutter away….

Why is it so hard to love?

Because LOVE is a fool game!

It for the ignorant people who are first getting to know each other.

The excitement of the first kiss.

The discovery of hidden talents.

The wonderment around not knowing what a person is capable of..

That is LOVE in a nutshell!

Love is infatuation.

Love happens when you DO NOT KNOW A PERSON.

Why?

Because its your imaginings of them that seduce you into having feelings of clinginess and attachment.

Then once you get to know them. And you realize that they are not as perfect as you imagined..

The LOVE for them goes away..

And you are left with reality..

The reality that they have perversions and dirty habits and that they are not as self assured and all knowing as you perceived them to be..

You see them get frustrated and doubtful when paying bills or interacting with others..

Reality crushes the illusion/LOVE and what was an escape at the beginning of the relationship is now a sink hole pulling you into the miasma of everyday life.

BORING..

Boredom kills love.

And boredom is inevitable as you become familiar with another person.

So prepare to be dissapointed.

Prepare to be turned off.

Prepare for them scorn you when they sell your first Bowel Movement because you mistakenly didn’t flush to toilet before you left the bathroom..

 

Prepare for what relationship really are: a journey in forgiveness and understanding of someone who gets on your nerves most of the time..

 

 

 

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Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, Pirate, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

How to Handle Manipulators

So I was thinking about Passive Aggressive men this morning and what I wanted to
say about them since some of you have emailed me with your concerns about how to avoid or manage passive aggressive men.
I want to you to understand how I think of  these labels like
Narcissist,
Manipulators,
Passive Aggressive,
Pathological Liars
These are all fancy fartsy terms for people who are dedicated to getting you to do what they want you to do regardless if its hurtful or dangerous or selfish on their part.
The passive aggressive person will throw insults in the form of a question,
they will state opinions wrapped around the pretense of ignorance.
They will not come out and say what they feel because way back when they were young,
their opinions were shot down, so they’ve learned to spare themselves the pain of
rejection for the things they want by never being clear about what they feel or what they want..
The Pathological liar is usually egoistic and have low levels of self-pride.
One of their traits are that of story changing.
They usually cannot remember the previous lie, so they make up a completely new lie to keep the illusion going.
Pathological liars
The Manipulator is one who exploits other people specifically for their own gain.
They are experts at fishing out a persons weaknesses
Here are 4 common traits of a Manipulator:
  1. They know how to detect your weaknesses.
  2.  They use your weaknesses against you.
  3. Through their shrewd effort, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
  4. Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.
The Narcissist spends time demeaning outer people. It’s important for that person to make everyone around them feel small and insignificant.
A Narc needs constant approval and praise to feel self worth and has an abnormal feeling of gracious importance..
They exploit people without guilt or shame….
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“I Understand” Original Art by Salkis RE
All these types of people TAKE without giving.
They demand from you what they do not feel the need to give in return.
They are all users, some aggressively, some not.
But they will all make you feel uncomfortable with who you are.
They will all make what you are asking for seem pointless and have a total disregard for your feelings whether by outright insults or sarcasm…
You “Handle” people like this by having your own agenda.
And your simple vow is to put yourself first at all times because someone who truly cares about you; they will not want to take anything from you that you don’t want to give, They will respect your boundaries and your feelings..
You handle them ALL by never doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with doing. You destroy their power by becoming¬†a FELINE!!¬†

Dark Skin Girls As Video Vixens???

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Rapper- Tory Lanez

 

Someone asked me to state my opinion about dark skin girls being represented in rap music because of some artist named Tory Lanez checking a video director for replacing a dark skin model with a light skin model for a video shoot.

My thoughts on being represented in rap videos is that it’s nothing to fight for or fight over.. We are ALREADY seen as sex objects to the world as black women.

From my vantage point, we are classified in two catergories. There’s the “Mamie” that nobody wants to fucc and the “Whore” that everybody wants to fucc.

 

We might get sprinkles of intellectual simulacrums here and there, but measured against the history of media and what’s put out for us to consume even to this day, they’re not even enough for an honorable mention…

I’m exhausted with topic, and the fact that women steadily want to rope into protests around colorism gets on my fuccing nerves actually..
Why?

Because even within the argument of segregation based on skin tone, dark skin women with small noses and small lips and small waistlines are the “Show Ponies” for the argument that we are just as attractive as any other woman, we just so happen to be dark skin..

 

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Do you see ISSA GAME?
Hierarchy will ALWAYS exist, even amongst the oppressed…

Y’all want another panel discussion to justify your depression, your laziness, your misfortune?

Nobody owes you SELF ESTEEM!!

You are not going to get that by watching women who look you shake their ass on screen!

 

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Media IS SOCERY. Media is MAGIC.

Makes you feel hopeful or helpless depending on the agenda..

So we must admit that we are like children.

We are affected emotionally by what we see even though we know it’s not real.

Cut off their supply of your energy.

Stop letting society VAMP on your emotions.
Be SELF aware!

 

 

 

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Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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Why Calling Yourself UGLY IS IMPORTANT!

 

Inner Shame and Guilt That You Are Trying to Cover Up!

Listen, I know it’s “shameful” to call yourself UGLY..
I get it, truly..
It feels icky and degrading and self deprecating and whatever other

fancy word you’ve found in your thesaurus to use..

But guess what?
It’s everything that you ALREADY feel about yourself too!

So what are we doing here?

We are EXPOSING OURSELVES so that we can disarm the inner critic.

This is the only way to get to the root of our emotions so that we can fishing out the inner sabotage that happens on a daily basis.

Everything you feel that hold any negative connotation is tied into the way you look. VANITY is a woman’s curse.

 

It keeps us under control, it makes us obedient servants to those whom we feel can provide us an identity…

 

We look to others for this validation all day, every day.

 

And if other women seem to have more beauty than we do, we cease trying to better ourselves as we slump into the normality of GIVING UP.

Vanity is a CURSE. It destroys your ability to discern, to think clearly, to judge others justly and skews the perception of our TRUE worth…

 

You gotta embrace it..

The word Ugly is the key that unlocks the door to your mind in order to unleash your power!

 

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Why Is It So Easy to Con Women?

Criticism leads to a need for one to defend her position.

Whether it’s right or wrong is not as important as feeling demeaned by another person.

This is why it’s so effective to just tell you what you want to hear.
Make it sounds supportive, beef it up with praise and your “Wulls” come tumbling down.

Your wallet open, and you become an emotional pawn for every charismatic charlatan out here.

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I think we are smarter than we REALIZE though.
I just think we use our intellect when it’s too late for it to make a difference.

It’s always when the damage is already done that we ADMIT that we always “knew” that this or that was a misrepresentation or an outright lie.

It’s our fear of the REALITY of rejection that keeps you hopeful for hopeless things..

You will defend what will ultimately destroys you.
You defend what doesn’t reciprocate love.
Willing footstools you be, a purveyor and propagator of IMAGINATION not reality..

Don’t be a “Dumb” woman.

There are enough women out here who are only fit for the slaughter house,

but HER level of comprehension doesn’t have to be YOURS.
If your instincts are telling you that something isn’t right,

resist the fear of ostracism, and stand on your principals.
Don’t go for the herd mentality to feel “safe”.

Because the this: Your friends and family are the ones who seek to, and often times, are VERY successful in making you feel diminished and unworthy under the guise of “care” and “concern”.

So my dear.. Don’t worry about the Devil, for the Devil TELLS you what he wants; it’s the SAINT PRETENDS not to want anything from you so it can take EVERYTHING from you.

You need me to coach you?
Need a breakthrough?
Tired of feeling like you are beneath other women?

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Contact ME!
“Medicine Woman”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
~Salkis Re

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How Not to Influence People

How NOT To Influence People

You Cannot Influence ANYONE

if you do it from a position powerlessness.

This is why I do not engage in conversations about

why black men don’t like dark skin girls or whether “Light Skin Privilege

( fair skin women enjoy real relationships and happy lives)

is an actual thing for us to worry about, or even why

black men are going to white women or traveling

outside the U.S. to find exotic women to marry…

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What other¬†woman experience¬†is NOT¬†a measure of what you can’t get or what you will¬†experience¬†yourself!

The only way you could have¬†similar resultsis if you mirror how that¬†other woman¬†thinks, And I’m not interested (nor¬†should you be)¬†in believing that YOU¬†cannot have what YOU¬†DESERVE TO HAVE!

Why are you parroting off talking points from anyone who tells you that you don’t have a chance in hell to get what you want?

Do You value freedom?

Don’t you want to feel free??

Well what is freedom?

FREEDOM Doing what you want

when you want

with who you want!

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~Salkis RE

Freedom To Me Means HAVING A CHOICE!

And your first step to being able to choose what you want, is to OWN WHAT YOU WANT!

Meaning, don’t ever again feel ashamed¬†for wanting something

whether that be a millionaire husband, having a lots of your own money,

having a child, being attractive, or living your life purpose!

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You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that¬†Life is¬†Journey***

Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

You have to live on purpose just like you did when you went to

school everyday to get your degree, or go to the gym workout..

You do things to get a forking RESULT, not for a journey!!

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Why Should You Heed My Advice?

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“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”
~Salkis Re

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Why You Need to Be Different!

It Must be emotionally exhausting carrying around feelings of self doubt of your low self worth every day of your life right?

You wake up unexcited, barely looking at yourself in the mirror and if you do, you grimmace with dissapointment at your reflection!
Day in, day out, the same secret sentiments of self loathe and dissatisfaction infect your mind…

If you keep waking up like this, where do you think you are headed?

You want some relief…

I know…
Cause I was exhausted feeling fu8ked up about myself too.
I felt jacked up because I believed the corrupted side of my imagination!

I talked myself into believing that I was stupid, unworthy of success and love,

and in my mind, everyone around me presumed they same things that I assumed about myself..

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“Skylar” art by Salkis Re

So I decide one day to acknowledge that I had FEAR.
FEAR of rejection.
FEAR of failure.
FEAR of being alone.
And every decision I made or avoided, was because I used my (corrupted) imagination to convince me that my failure was almost a guarantee.

SO I suppressed my desires.

I spent a lot of years being quiet and careful not to say too¬†much because (as a ‘stupid’ woman) I thought I’d probably say the wrong thing.

I spent a lot of years being quiet and careful not to say too

much because (as a ‘stupid’ woman) I thought I’d probably say the wrong thing.
I had decided back then, to be “compliant” and “submissive” to avoid pain and rejection…

And guess what happened?
Pain and rejection came ANYWAY!!
PAIN AND NO RESULTS is all this way of thinking got me.

Is this how you live right now?
Is this your Every Day Life?.
Are you Scared to start?
Scared to even want what you want?

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“This Is The Way” Art by Salkis RE

Even at the expense of your own safety and emotional stability.
BUT you still get no results!
So what does change require?
*It requires you to FAIL.
**It needs for to prepared to TAKE RISKS.
It requires that you GO FOR BROKE while obtaining guidance, while developing your skill for measurable SELF improvement !

SELF LOVE is the foundation that success is created on!
And you need to LEARN HOW to love yourself.
I’m the only black woman who can truly help change your lowly

thinking and your proclivities towards self defeatism .

AND:
You won’t have to be 20 years younger to do it!
An hourglass shape is not need to do it!
It’s not in creating stipulations that you don’t have to

inspiration, the discipline or the biology to meet!
You are going to focus ONLY on what you CAN DO!!
This is how you will get what you want of life!.
Lets Get It!

 

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Being a Dumb Woman IS Profitable!

Transit Time 7:32 a.m.

Well I’ve been up since 4 a.m. actually.

Early rising helps bye think about the message I want to convey.

So I thought about.

And this post came to mind because of an exchange I had about relationships with a man on my facebook page

Men LOVE to tell a woman what to think..

To them, we all have the mentality of a 10 year girl who needs to be taught what to feel and what to think..

When you start trusting yourself, your own wisdom that your experiences have taught you, your eyes will become WIDE OPEN to the fallibilities of men.

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Your insecurities and self doubt are how men get their needs met for little to no cost, for their mission (not all but most) is to either become the source of your confidence or knock you down a peg or two if you come equip with your own self governance…

The effectiveness of the indoctrination of men who want to spoon feed you an identity will start to wane when you decide to give your VANITY a back seat.

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No contracts nor real commitment required if he can’t get you in your “Feelings” .
 

Being VAIN means that you are INEFFECTUAL and FEEBLE MINDED.
Being EMOTIONALLY NEEDY means that you are STUPID, not by insinuation, but as an actual, quantifiable fact!

BUUUUUUUTTTT this is what men expect, what they hope for, what they encourage you to display because YOUR stupidity guarantees THEIR fulfillment.

ISSA GAME!

A real life Game of Thrones is what it is dealing with the mentality of men.

If you are a fan of the show, you would have noticed that a Queen ONLY PLAYS DUMB to get what she needs….
PERIOD!

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“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Coach”
“Writer”
“Poet”
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DO You Feel Threatened?

 

 

 

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“Room For Two” Original Art by Salkis

 

 

Every choice has a bit of risk.

Every choice as an element of suffering involved in it..

But there is a difference between THREAT and a CHALLENGE.

 

 Having challenges is a nutritional requirement to be challenged in life.

I tell all my clients/collectors that  having challenges is a nutritional requirement to be challenged in life.

You have toface your problemshead on or you

leave them to grow roots and stipend its own blood supply.

Once you get clear on what is a threat and what is a challenge,

you will start to venture out and take more risks.

 

 

You’ll create the potential to receive.

You’ll create the potential to receive.

This thing called YOUR LIFE is a numbers game.

The more you do a thing, the better you get at it.

The more you practice, the more you give is the more

you will master and the more you’ll receive…

 

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“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”
~Salkis Re

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