You Will Pick The Wrong Man Again!

“You Will Pick The Wrong Person Again, So Rela
Written by Salkis Re

You pick partners not based on what you want, but what you are familiar with! You have your list of demands and characteristics that a man must have. And you are proud of this well thought out list because it represents a sane mind, a woman who exercises conscientiousness and reasonability.

But your list most likely contains what you’ve been TOLD to look for, NOT what you emotions predisposed you too.
You know how many women actually find the guy that fits all the characteristics on her list, but then she has lunch with her girlfriends and expresses how “boring” he is??

He’s perfect! He has everything, but he bores you.

Because he is unable to give you the “suffering” that YOU have come to associate with the feeling of REAL love.

Your Mother gives you a template for love, and if was irate and loud and intimidating, you will subconsciously seek men who will criticize and berate you.
If you had a Father whom you observed to be weak and emotionally fragile, you will find a partner who is weak and needs constant reassurance which you WILL find frustrating, BUT it provides a LOVE you know!!ūü§Ē

If a partner’s personality is NOT familiar with how you interpret love, you are going to consider him a miss-match.

The WRONG guy is the guy you go for because he is represents what REAL love is to you.
It is near impossible to rewire your templates for love, but you can “reframe” how you react and respond to the person representing your love template.

You like bullies? Then don’t let the bully be a bully to YOU.
You like loud, patronizing men?
Do NOT let him define YOU with his insults
And so on..

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To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

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I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.


And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

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To Be Like Her Means You Kill Yourself!

“What Woman Are You?”

Faith in yourself is built on a foundation of work not hope or prayer or wishing.
You have a mind and you know what you “should be doing”, yet you wrestle with yourself.

You allow other women to rate your your level of competence and relevance on a

“fact sheet” derived from their summations if how you look.
Women perpetuate division and the casting of other women, and we are fervently vicious in that regard.

So where is this fairness that nostalgically speak of, cause I’ve never seen it!
Worried about what the next woman has but you do nothing

outside the level of laziness to change your own condition, to improve yourself.

Everybody’s FUGAZI out here:Everybody!!


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“Thinking of You” Art by Salkis Re

Listen woman, yeah you!
What do you know about women? If you are a woman, you should quite a bit,

but if you are liar to yourself you might struggle in seeing under the veil of those around you.

I said before and I will say it again so that you can Direct your energy to pursuits that will pay you dividends.

You are unlike any other woman.

This is a fact.
And this means that you have to own that.
And accept what comes with that.

The fact that you are unlike other women means that there is no such thing as equality.

To execute Equality would mean that you and I were born at the same time,

have the same anatomical structure, emotional development, share the same IQ, biological functions and so on.
But we do not.
And it’s because you and I cannot physically, mentally nor emotionally

be identical that we should not spend one fucking moment fretting over “comparisons”.

I Wanted to Be So Many Things..


I am not academically astute. I struggled in school something awful. I thought I wanted to be a Nurse,

but I hated blood. I wanted to be a Lawyer but my self esteem was to low to accept that vision.

I wanted to be a Clinical Psychologist but the amount of schooling for that just disgusted me.

What was I looking for above all else? To be “somebody”.

I thought an academic route would give me the respect and the love that my esthetics could not afford me.
Everything I used to do was for THEM to accept me.

For black people to care about me, for white people to respect me, for men to Love me etc…

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“Love You Anyway” African American Art by Salkis Re

Chasing what I wasn’t designed to do or be took a massive chunk out of my life!

Don’t waste time.
Read what I’m about to say carefully, this is the KEY to success.

Figure out what you are capable of being and then figure out what you are willing to SACRIFICE to become that.

Please understand that you must choose your “SACRIFICE”

or should I say the “PRICE” you are willing to pay to be the woman you want to be.

Because everything COSTS.
And if you don’t choose your SUFFERING (yes I said suffering)

deliberately, you will end up sacrificing something

other than what’s needed to become the woman you aspire to be!
Be what you want to be, but being what you CAN be trumps ALL!


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~Salkis Re
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Marrying Poor Men, Here’s the Deal!

“Marrying Poor Men”
Written by Salkis Re

“Poor men” CAN’T provide anything, so they shouldn’t get married but they do.

The only purpose marriage has is share and protect current and future assets.

Now the truth is that the EMOTION of Love does not need marriage for validation

because most people can express the feeling of love without a license from the court system.

Marriage is simply the business aspect that creates the Commitment/non-emotional gesture

of a willingness to shoulder financial loss should the partner die or wake up one morning and say they don’t want you no more.
Time is MONEY.
Time is an INVESTMENT in itself. Marriage is a contract to exchange wealth between two people who enjoy sex and spending time with each other.

The “What You Bring to the Table” part…


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Art in Progress, Art by Salkis RE

Let me be clear here, I’m not saying that a woman should just be a pretty dimwit and nothing more.
I’m saying that the bring to the table” question directed towards her should be focused on the

nurturing aspect that every woman is capable of bringing if she is incentivized to do so.

Most women that work “hard” DO NOT want to work hard, and they would prefer alpha men who can fully finance her wants and needs.

An occupation doesn’t give you an IDENTITY, it gives you a CHECK.

What you are able to do without needing to be paid for it is more of an expression of identity.

Women don’t want “Independence/HARD WORK”, we simply do not want to be ABUSED because we depend on MEN.


Education is still important because intelligence is required whether you are raising children or in a corporate job.

The last half of life is going to look real ugly for many of us.

We make decisions based on “current options” instead of the 5-10-20 years down the line that sure like the air you breath COMING.

So the “struggle love” who’s narrative always seems to find it’s way to our compassionate hearts

. We always got to be grateful for the opportunity to struggle with black men.

No other woman, not white, not Indian not none of them

have exclusive terminology to emotionally express this ideal like US.

That “Ride or Die” shyte!

The fact that you are willing to endure SUFFERING and infidelity,

and mistreatment of every sort makes you a suitable candidate for respect and honor and Marriage???
You better think about that one again…

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re
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Fuck For Coins


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So this topic has been pillaging my mind of late.

This notion of immorality and requiring money for access to you vagina.

When aren’t we in negotations for our bodies?

I’m waiting for a real answer on this..

Some of us fuck for gas money.

Some of us fuck to pay a cell phone bill.

Some of us fuck for trips or to get half the rent money.

Some of us fuck to show our sexual value(especially the ugly girls)

Some us fuck for Commitment.

Some of us fuck for love.

But ALL of us fuck for an exchange in value.

The problem is that some exchanges are considered adequate compensation.


Some of our vaginas are not seen as value packed because the face it’s attached to lacks luster.

But the reason for default on a promise of reciprocity is not the point here.

The point is that you WANT something from him,

and have worked out in your heart and mind what you intend to GIVE in order to get it.

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“My Spliff” Art By Salkis Re

We all selling pussy round here.

Unfortunately some of us receive wooden nickels for it because we lack emotional control,

seductive presentation, and negotiation skills.

We think morality, being a moral woman will invite honor and respect and Fidelity.

How Sway???

So the question is this. Are you being unreasonable in your expectations?

Are you setting the bar too high?

Are your demands in line with the “value” you bring?

To be totally honest, if someone isn’t sold on your value, it’s because you haven’t lied enough.

It’s because you haven’t seduced enough.

It’s because you too busy presenting your fucking virtue instead of creating anxiety.

Men hold no power in the matter, and if you uncover their

secrets you will find that would like to ejaculate in any hole, any “type” of hole too.

Market yourself. Learn how to market yourself for results.

That is all “love” is about, especially for you girls who are NOT standard beauties,

though many of you would like to argue differently.

This is Black Hat Wisdom.

Put on Your Hat….

Life Coach, Salkis Re

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~Salkis Re
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Nappy-Headed “Spiritual” Hoes

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“Men Who Want Natural Sisters be like”
A man who has no aspirations for “worldly” things has nothing to lose. And a man who has nothing to lose ALSO has no incentive to commit nor sacrifice for HIMSELF or YOU.

Statistically they earn less, do not get married, have no formal education, and have fatherless children. A Relationship (while on the physical plane) IS a material act.

From your first date that you dress up for, to the gas you put in your car to meet her at the “park to talk”, to the penis that goes into the vagina, to the babies that are birthed as a result of sex. All material.

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Only men with little ambition ride the “Spirituality” wave because they assume that “natural sistahs” only want a tub of Shea butter from the street vendor and a meat-free gravy and brown rice on a styrofoam plate to make us happy.

Meanwhile, he is out here heckling BUT secretly lusting after those “material girls” for whom his pockets aren’t deep enough to get. It’s a game to exploit your compassion and steal your “understanding” and your “agreeableness” for “duty-free”, “effortless pussy” nothing more.


When the talk of Spirituality comes up in a conversation about relationships and this conversation is directed towards any “nappy-headed sista (and I this term with endearment) I gonna need for you to understand that a net is being cast out to your vagina FREE PUSSY.

And what is the truth here?

The truth is that you are MORE SPIRITUAL WITHOUT DIK than with it so his job is to bring MATERIAL things to your feet to PAY for the “blessings” he is hoping to receive from YOUUUUU.

~Salkis Re

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Love Attachments

“Holding On”
Written by Salkis Re
I love you so much, and this is why I keep holding onto you.
We’ve been through too much,
and you’ve done things I never thought you’d do.

But there is not much else that can actually hurt me
cause I’m not focused on your mistakes, only how I feel.

They told me to get rid of you
one million and a thousand times,
but they offer nothing to replace
the space you hold in my heart.

And I know it ain’t all you,
cause you were my emotional prisoner
and had all manner of reasons to run.
But know this baby, that my love is reformed.

And I realize that to love you,
I can’t be afraid to let you go.
All I can do now is simply is care,
and hope that my love is strong enough
to reignite the love we once shared.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re


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“Holding On” Art by Salkis Re


Sometimes, we have to take the blame for running people we love away from us.

Sometimes the love is just overbearing and people feel imprisoned by your excessive compulsion to express one’s feelings.

Saying “I love You” everyday isn’t as powerful as saying it when you TRULY feel it.

When you hold on too tight, people start to build resentment

and disregard for what you are desperately trying to convey.

Sometimes saying nothing is all you need to create a longing…

Sometime giving someone their space is the elixir for appreciation.

And then….

When they need to be held, hold them tight. Rock him in your arms so close that you leave your scent on him.

But allow him to WANT you.

This is key to love…

The KEY is to LET GO!!!



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~Salkis Re
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Being A Real Woman is Like Having an Infection!!





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“I Want This Dress” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

“Attack on Womanhood”
Written by Salkis Re


So I got cussed out after lending my opinion to a young woman’s post (by the way, she said she doesn’t consider herself a woman)

were she’s expressing that she didn’t want to have a family and that she “hated” children.

She said that there is more to life than “just” having babies and a husband.
I get it, and yes there is more to life than any single thing you are doing.

There is more to life than your job, there is more to life than your education,

there is more to life than the dik you ride, there is more to like than eating eggs for breakfast or talking shyte on the SOCIAL MEDIA too.


We are living in a time when everything that represents womanhood is being viewed as some sort of miasma,

like an infection “weak minded” women are catch. Like motherhood and marriage is a virus that women who lack ambition catch.

And, these “Career Minded Women will see what their decisions lead too like we all will.
Now, we all can have happiness the way that we want it.

BUuuuuuuuuuuut please understand that what you WANT and what you DO leads you somewhere.

How many of us know MANY single, older women with no children who are *truly Happy?

What are the statistics, what are the numbers?
You are on a path to SOMEWHERE,

so while you are defending your right to choose,

I need for you to project yourself into the FUTURE RESULT of your choices, cause boo-boo,

your Future is coming like a cyclone,

like a whirlwind, and this time right now,

the choices you enjoy right now,

WILL diminish 20 years from now!!

This is not speculation, it is a natural fact of LIFE!
So prepare for your future by making strategic decisions NOW…
You want to be alone and you are NOT wealthy? Where they do that at???
Your vagina is an INVESTMENT, not a forking playground!!!!
Sound Off!!!!

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Pain Comes With Love



“What is A GOOD Relationship?”
Written by Salkis Re

The dark side exists in us all. We try as best we can to suppress our disagreeable nature,

but the moment there is cause for resentment or anger,

it will come gushing out like a ticklish sneeze.

So how do we manage?

By making a conscientious effort not to add on to our dysfunction by compounding on existing horrific decisions.

WE make amends simply by “thinking” before we do a thing.

And pray that there is enough goodness within us for someone to love.

This is why commitment is so important; It makes it more different for a lover to run when they come face to face with your demons,

and vice versa, of course.

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Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re

Relationships are good when two people are interested in the well being of each other.

When each of you feel safe enough to challenge the other partner to improve.

But if you stay together long enough, you WILL WEAR hats like: Priest, Psychiatrist, Doctor, Friend, Lover, Punching Bag, Enemy and so on..

The love of your life WILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL  lie to you.

He will cheat on emotionally and/or sexually.

He will wish he had never met you. And he’ll develop persistent melancholy when you’re not around..

This is what relationships are…..
Except it so you can weather the storm.

Honor your commitment because chances are extremely favorable that you will simply

meet yourself and what you’re running from in another person…

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re



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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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She Taught Me How to Use Men!!

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“I Want You to Want Me” Art by Salkis Re


How do you get love?

Is it by being beautiful?

By speaking softly?

By being skilled at sex?

By learning how to cook?

By doing pretty hair styles?

By paying have the rent?
How do win the heart of a man?


He Kept Running Behind Her Ass

I was perplexed about this because I saw many women who couldn’t cook, but had a man who loved them to pieces. I know many women who are average looking, questionable hygiene, spastic, aggressive personalities, beautiful “bitches” who had men hearts on life support, but he KEPT running behind her ass!


She Took His Veterans Check!!

I remember when I had my salon, I had a client who would come in only on the 1st and the 15th of the month to look cute for her “visits” to some of Veteran companions.

She would doll herself up to go sit on their laps and if they broke off enough money, she’d play with their balls for an hour or two. These gentle would give her portions of their Social Security check as compensation for the “happy hour” Now, she wasn’t particularly spectacular looking, a some of her teeth were noticably gone whenever she smiled really wide, and she was fat but her fat was nicely distributed with a good hip to waist ratio.

Her Personality was larger than life!!

Her personality??? OMG her personality was truly larger than life. She would shut the entire salon down because we could stop laughing at her stories, and she orated with bravo and self confidence. She assumed what she did with the old men as “Good Samaritan” work, and I fell out my chair with roaring laughter at her comedic convictions..


Crippled Midgets and Ugly Husbands

What was more astonishing to me was that her main man knew about these seniors “Breaking Bread” with his girl. I asked her how she kept Harmony in her household with her man knowing what she does, and she simply said to him “I’m Going to Get OUR MONEY BOO”. Well, I flat lined again laughing so hard that I couldn’t breathe.

But I was examining her quietly too. I assumed that her man must have been an unattractive, crippled midget (no offensive to any cripple midgets reading this) but when we walked to PAY for her hairdo and gas for her car and brought her lunch, I was flabbergasted. He was cute!!! He was VERY attractive and well built too.


Who’s Your Daddy?

I Flat Lined Again!!!!


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“Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

So what is the lesson she can teach us as women about love?

She is an example of a woman who is NOT conflicted AT ALL about her value.

And her value was not predicated upon how she looked. Whether her hair was done or makeup on or not,

she commanded a room, she was the center of attention because her value wasn’t determined by your judgement of her.

She knew what to say, and more importantly, she knew HOW to say it.

Those that needed to feel in control (like her man), were allowed to think they were so that she could extract what she needed.
And her mouth was like Cannon FIRE,

she could cus on an executive level,

but she didn’t unsheathe‚Äč her¬†tongue¬†gun unless it was necessary.

So the conclusion is this: be what you need to be for the situation at hand.

Play up your strengths and give ZERO energy to your weaknesses

unless they are something you’re incentivized to change.


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“Eva” Art by Salkis Re

Understand that your self worth is not a community event and

true self worth doesn’t fluctuate in accordance with how good you look.

And lastly, being congruent with your wants and needs is essential to the manifestation of them.

If you feel ashamed about what you want, you will not get it,

and if you manage to get it, you won’t be able to hold it for long…

That is what my darling client taught me about being a woman…

Now lets be what we need to be, to get what we want to have…

~Salkis Re


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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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“You Are Not All Good, You Just Pretend to Be”

Witch Craft
Life Coach,, Salkis Re

I divulge secrets of emotional intelligence, the pitfalls of romantic relationships,

and how to handle self worth issues with my private clients as well as my lady friends here

because these are issues I’m fanatically passionate about.


So here is the unadulterated truth.
What you think is Value is a preset.
What you think is Opulence is preset.
What you perceive as Beauty is preset,
and the Social Stature you are striving for or jealous of, is preset as well.

Everything you “See” is not really what you see: it’s what you THINK you see based on consistent,

clever illusions and expensive pageantry created by the “higher ups” of society.

You as a woman have to UNDERSTAND the “Game”, and you will never understand it if DIVORCE yourself from it!

Because on a daily basis, you fraternize with men/women/people who aren’t in conflict

about their proclivities toward selfish behavior nor are they rattled with

guilt when they use the illusions generosity to further their station in life.

You think you’ll understand the GAME by merely adopting the role of a Casual Observer of it.

This is a harmful way to think and a dangerous way to BE!

You have to put on your BLACK HAT.

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                                                                   ~Salkis Re

You have to unveil your DARK SIDE

You have to unveil your DARK SIDE so that you are not pushed into a subordinate

role which GOOD yet Fearful people are much more predisposed too.

Am I saying to be vindictive and malicious?

Absolutely not!
I am saying that the dark side of you needs to be able to defend

and protect you because your GOOD side isn’t designed to do it!!!!

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“Feel Me” Art by Salkis Re


She is ready to protect you because she is the side of your personality that will tell you the truth.

Goodness is a feel good thing, while Darkness is a protection thing.

Expunging yourself from your dark side, only creates further vulnerability and naivete.
Embrace ALL parts of you, and let the light and dark serve you…

~Salkis Re

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“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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They Said You’re Ugly, And They Are Right!!!!

They Are Right About how you look!

When you are told over and over again that you are unattractive,
I want you to consider that “they”
might have just cause for saying it.
Now before you berate me or try simulate
“outrage” to go along with your other displaced emotions,
I would like for you to simply consider
what you are “projecting”, moreso than what you “look” like.

Approval Addiction Makes You Unattractive!

Your beauty, or “lack there of”, comes from
the showcasing of your anxiety and need for approval.
AND when you, BLACK girl, “conform” in any way,
you WILL display an improper fit and show
the world that you own no identity outside
of what you’ve been given.

You Wear your Insecurities On Your Sleeve

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                   Black Girl Magic by Salkis Re
And you sojourn while thinking you are
making progress, but you are stuck.
But you stay committed to the clownish makeup
while wearing clothes that will not compliment your form
with hairstyles that resemble assembly line wigs
at the China Man’s beauty supply store.
All of this will affect you swift “invisibility” to men.

Conformity KILLS Beauty

And the irony is that in your attempt to be
what Society considers beautiful, you become MORE unattractive,
BECAUSE you’ve positioned yourself
as a substandard DUPLICATE of what you CANNOT be,
a walking, talking, mannequin that represents
a type of woman whom you’ve decided is “better” that yourself.
And you think these facts can be “hidden” around glamor.
You can only suppress yourself emotions for so long: they will eventually burst forth to tell the truth of all you hide.

Beauty is NOT anxiety driven, it’s Peace based.

It is the personalization of what you were born
to represent in an unapologetically creative way.
And that peace within you will start to relax your furrowed lines on your face.
And that peace will cause your skin to glow.
And that peace will make your voice sound soothing to hear.
And that peace gives room for your individuality to be expressed.
And that peace makes grace hover over you.
And that peace makes you a moving meditation.
And that peace makes you enjoy caring for yourself.
And that peace will attraction men to you.
And on and on and on again… ~Salkis Re

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~Salkis Re
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Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

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Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re


Written by Salkis Re
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

Motivational Quotes
Artist/ Life Coach
                                                                                          ~Salkis Re


It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

ūü§ĒYou are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.


It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Don’t Believe What They Say

African American Art
Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?


So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

When We Were Kings

African American Art
Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?


They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?


H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re


So here is my interpretation of ¬†H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.




“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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Sugared Vagina

        Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re

Sweet Vagina!!

So I’m thinking about your vagina today, lllmao. And I want to help you keep it on point.

The best advice I can give on this matter is to ditch the SUGAR.

Sugar will dry your vagina walls out, and you will become yeast infections ready if you are a sugar addict.

Sugar will cause hormonal imbalances also. If you are going through night sweats and fatigue, get off the sugar!!

Because sugar dehydrates the body and a dehydrated vagina is an unhappy vagina. Sugar can also cause your vagina to smell like trash! Throws the whole pH out of wack.

And if you eat Sugar AND Meat, then that ammonia/fish/piss fumes at the end of your day, this is the result of that combination.
Just think hydration if you want to heal your body. We don’t want slack wulls now, so put that cookie in the garbage!

~Salkis Re

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What is Dating a Man Really For?

African Art
Salkis Re, Artist/ Life Coach


I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?

**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.

Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**

with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.

Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.

Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,


goal appraisals and so forth.

Now Getting to know a person is another matter.


Now spending time with a person is another matter.

That could include sharing a ride home from work.

I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.

I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.

Would my presence be welcomed?

Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?

A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances ¬†could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,

how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.

Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.

Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity

to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining ¬†or making an impression on you!!

The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection

**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…

Take it for what it is, or not..

But this message is EXACT!

[This is wisdom.](
**Please pass this email on to your girlfriends, especially the young ladies you know..**Thank You.


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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.


To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

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“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,




 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

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Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Love Ya!

Justification of Bullshit!!

Your Life Coach, Salkis Re

Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.

It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
But you know what this means too?
It means that you can also justify the things that give you pleasure,
the things or experiences that improve you physically and mentally.
Justification for laziness,
and anger takes the same amount of energy as the justification for wanting a man with a gigantic penis,
or a house with 6 bedrooms.Why?
Because your justification creates the importance behind anything you do or don’t do,

and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.

There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.

African American Art by Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
The answer?
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships

because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.

I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.

The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,

or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.

I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!

And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
No Sir!
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!

So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,

or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Salkis Re

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