Nas Puts Kelis on Blast!

Nas

Well my play husband wrote a 7 page letter in rebuttal to his ex wife Kelis and her claimed of physical abuse during their 5 year marriage.

Kelis stated in an interview that Was would imitate physical fights with her while under the influence of alcohol.

She stated she new about his extra marital affairs that went on for 2 years during their marriage, but she didn’t decided to leave because of that: “The cheating was more like the icing on the cake, she states.

Now I render when they had gotten a divorce and I honestly don’t remember hearing any bad blood between them, actually

I was impressed with the class that Kelis displayed when asked about what happened because she remained tight lipped about it.

Fast forward to today and the whole cat is out the bag, shyte slinging everywhere as each are publicly accusing the other of abusive behavior.

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Nas’s accusation cut deep and really hit home about domestic abuse and how easy

it is to take advantage of another person who shoes emotions dependency for you.

He said he suspected she was crazy but she was “BeautifuL” , so I guess her beauty gave her character a pass, at least for a while.

Other things mentioned were her uncooperativeness with him in arranging to see his son and how he even faked a reconciliation with her in order to spend time with his son.

He said Kelis “fat shamed” his daughter from a previous relationship and verbally abused her often.

Sigh…

Its a mess.

A big mess!

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I love Nas as an artist and I don’t him personally, so I would judge his character or takes sides with Kelis on her allegations against him.

But I have a message to men and women about choosing life partners.

When deciding to marry someone, you are putting yourself into a contractual commitment that holds more weight than a hand shake or a promise ring.

You are in fact stating that you are willing to risk potential loss or enjoy potential gain by cutting yourself off from any other options(dating) out here.

Do you weight the value or the compensation package of this crucial decision on looks, muscles, big booty, big d&*k or even money ?

Making decisions based on superficial things often leads to buyer’s remorse and heart breaking regret,

 over time because a decision wasn’t made based on actual value inside the box but the Chiny packaging outside of it.

I have said this before that pretty women are often accused and assumed to be crazy, light skin women in particular seem to have a reputation for emotional instability.

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Nas and Kelis on Their Wedding Day

But you GUYS say that the Coo-Coo FOR COCO PUFFS usually makes the sex even hotter!!

Shrugs…

So listen guys, I know you want a woman who is beautiful, I know this is a top priority for most if not all of you whether your financial means can support it or not.

But you must weigh her character, you must observe and pace yourself just like I tell women to do when dating men. Especially you guys who have a lot to lose

. There are great women out here that you won’t give a chance to because she is not “pretty” enough to make a serious consideration for,

women who would bend over backwards to see to your comforts and to make sure that you are well fed,

that your secrets are protected, that will work just as has as you do to keep the house in order so that you come home to an oasis away from the grind.

But you will never know their sweetness because you don’t see their value.

This goes for women too of course…

IF you suspect that there is emotional instability in the woman you are interested in, take a pause, retreat,

RUN if necessary! And do not look back. MANY MANY MANY women hide their emotional unsteadiness behind their physical attractiveness.

I have said MANY MANY MANY times that attractiveness does not equate to SANITY or INTELLIGENCE or HIGH SELF ESTEEM either.

And I mean this with all the muscle I can flex

Women are bewitching, beautiful women even more so…

But who you MARRY has to be more than a pretty face and good sex. If she is to be the mother of your children

and potentially someone you are tied to in one way or another for life, give care in that she is mentally fit

to mother your children and provide the emotional stability and virtue I think you  guys want..

Carry On…

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Life Coach~Salkis Re

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YOU ARE UGLY!!

You ARE UGLY!!

So I did a video on my You Tube channel called:
“You Are Not Pretty Enough To Get The Man You Want?”
Now I addressed some sensitive things in that video about attractiveness and how it plays a major role in the quality level of the men we get.

The FACTS: All women are not beautiful. It sounds good, it Makes some us feel good when other women say it. But they are lying to those of us who know that we are not able average in looks, maybe even below average in looks.

I have stated many MANY times that I consider myself to be VERY average, some days less than that. So I make sure I eat right and do the things to maintain my wellbeing so that no deficits are exaggerated.

Women who are not conventional beauties must the need for validation in terms of beauty. It is often a lie, the flattery I mean. And it is used to ‘soften” your defenses: its purpose is to create emotional dependency and allows your body to be used as a tool for pleasure and recreation.

 

abstract artSo here is the deal actually, I advise ALL WOMEN, no matter how beautiful they are, to remove the NEED for validation of your vanity. Make you beauty or lack there of, inconsequential so that you are released from the anguish of acceptance by men or doing things to win their approval that perpetuates vulnerability and low self esteem…

When you take Vanity out of the equation, you remain RIGHT MINDED, not easily persuaded to conform to the will of men, and YOU get to remain in authority of YOUR perception of your worth whether pretty or ugly….

Do you know how autonomous it feels to eviscerate the “WORRY” that comes from he obsession with vanity?? Men have absolutely no emotional power over you when you take away the his power to validate your looks…

So nature has dealt you some cards, and you have to play these cards throughout your life. Take the vanity card OFF the table and get your AUTONOMY back…
Simple as That…

“Medicine Woman”
~ Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

 

Sex Should Frighten you!

“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.

This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.

Sex is a death ritual.

Sex is a  “giving up” of your soul to another soul.

Sex is A sacrifice.

Sex is  A melding together of thoughts,

emotions,

feelings,

bacteria,

shyte,

puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.

Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.

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But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.

But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!

Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.

And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.

Why?
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.

Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.

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Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.

Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it

sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.

This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.

This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

“Virtuous Women Get No Love”

 

Beautiful Black Women
Life Coach\Artist ~Salkis Re

 

There are many women that have morals and values,

who are ready and willing to be the subordinate for a strong man,

but often times, she does not come packaged in vanity.

The virtuous woman often times will come in a thrifty, plain looking package,

not the TROPHY woman men are often in pursuit of.

But she will cook for you,

have sex when and how you want it, take care of your children and do as you say.

BUT YOU WILL OVERLOOK HER***

You men do not want THAT woman. You say you do, but you don’t.

You want that women who does NOT want you, it’s called the “hunt” isn’t it?

So you men look for women who are better looking than you,

and those women are looking for men who are better than them.

And you spin around in your hamster wheel asking why did she do this,

or how could she do that.
Why?

Because she NEVER wanted you in the first place, that’s why.
So it’s wrong from the start,

but the nature of man is to care more about what they do NOT have over what they DO have…

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach/Artist/Medicine Woman
Salkis Re

They Said You’re Ugly, And They Are Right!!!!

They Are Right About how you look!

When you are told over and over again that you are unattractive,
I want you to consider that “they”
might have just cause for saying it.
 
Now before you berate me or try simulate
“outrage” to go along with your other displaced emotions,
I would like for you to simply consider
what you are “projecting”, moreso than what you “look” like.

Approval Addiction Makes You Unattractive!

Your beauty, or “lack there of”, comes from
the showcasing of your anxiety and need for approval.
AND when you, BLACK girl, “conform” in any way,
you WILL display an improper fit and show
the world that you own no identity outside
of what you’ve been given.

You Wear your Insecurities On Your Sleeve

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                   Black Girl Magic by Salkis Re
 
And you sojourn while thinking you are
making progress, but you are stuck.
But you stay committed to the clownish makeup
while wearing clothes that will not compliment your form
with hairstyles that resemble assembly line wigs
at the China Man’s beauty supply store.
All of this will affect you swift “invisibility” to men.

Conformity KILLS Beauty

And the irony is that in your attempt to be
what Society considers beautiful, you become MORE unattractive,
BECAUSE you’ve positioned yourself
as a substandard DUPLICATE of what you CANNOT be,
a walking, talking, mannequin that represents
a type of woman whom you’ve decided is “better” that yourself.
 
And you think these facts can be “hidden” around glamor.
You can only suppress yourself emotions for so long: they will eventually burst forth to tell the truth of all you hide.
 

Beauty is NOT anxiety driven, it’s Peace based.

It is the personalization of what you were born
to represent in an unapologetically creative way.
 
And that peace within you will start to relax your furrowed lines on your face.
And that peace will cause your skin to glow.
And that peace will make your voice sound soothing to hear.
And that peace gives room for your individuality to be expressed.
And that peace makes grace hover over you.
And that peace makes you a moving meditation.
And that peace makes you enjoy caring for yourself.
And that peace will attraction men to you.
And on and on and on again… ~Salkis Re
 

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

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“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,

excitement,

thirst,

yearning,

 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

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Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

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                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

Black Art Eyes
African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

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So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

How a Woman Should Love a Man

“Understanding How to Love”
Written by Salkis Re

Appreciation rushes into your heart only when you’re about to lose what you’ve taken for granted. And Love works the same way; you don’t love until your life is disrupted by the anguish for losing someone. Familiarity breeds contempt and disregard for that person. But if they leave, if they display any indifference towards you, it levels the playing field and the upper hand you enjoyed crumbles like a house of cards.

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Sketch by Salkis Re

You start questioning your value as it seems your kingdom was mirage of sorts, a figment of your ego instead of reality. Love is like that.
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A give and take, which is a “loss” and “gain”, both intentionally or unexpected. You as a woman are a nurturing soul, designed to observe, create, absolver, build and repair the environment around you. You are designed to lead while being shielded, that may be from the back, or from the side, but never in harms way. Your obligation is to position yourself so that you are always protected.
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Art in progress by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your cunning is your “natural defense”. All the things that you are to be: sensitive, respectful, loving, supportive should only come out in its fullest capacity AFTER the receiver is “tried and proven” worthy of it, and even then, you know what it does, so you give and take away in accordance with what’s needed to maintain an environment that keeps you intrigued and delighted.
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“Mistress of Words”

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“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Black Hat Society”

“Spiritual Advisor”

“Creative Soul”

~Salkis Re

 

 

 

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“The ‘Act” of Unconditional Love”

                                                                      “Secrets Under My Skirt” Poem by Salkis Re

Most of us women have been “trained” to “act” in ways that will be appealing to men. To talk softly and smile, be agreeable and non threatening. No up-staging or acting like we know it all, I’d even go so far as to play dumb in order to be a good subordinate. You can’t overrule the king, and you certainly better not if you are closer to average looking or you’ll blow straight into oblivion the entire “mirage” of your “packaged” beauty.

Trained and ready to serve is the initiation into womanhood for most of us. Everybody worrying about gray hair and keep the body together so his “love” never ceases. And some of you still have the audacity to utter ideals of unconditional love when you’ve been conditioned your entire life for that love..

Great romances abound. I see intense kisses and braggadocios parading using “planned” photo ops of blissful folly to make the ether audience entertained and slightly jealous too. You’ve felt inadequate since the first cartoon you watched and that first comb you put to your barbie doll’s head. Everywhere you turn, there is a “problem” or a “flaw about you that needs tending too. EVERYWHERE!! And that inadequacy drowns the heart worry and fear. You compete with women who don’t even know you, you try up outclass and eclipse the women who threaten your livelihood/man.

Lol what is the tea? Men love sex more than they love women. And your hole holds more value than you whole. As a matter of fact, the rest of your body, your needs just get in the way as that hole is used like a toilet bowl for his frustration and stress. But that’s another post. I don’t want you to think I’m brooding here, and I certainly am not recruiting for any hidden: let’s all hate men propaganda. Men are yummy, and admirable, some god-like even.

Most of the people I look up to are indeed men. When they are worthy of course..

So no, I want you to have love by whatever it represents to you.  I don’t focus on the hope part because I know we have the scornful parts of ourselves to even get to a place where we can see what deserves the time to cultivate love. The parts you hide, are the parts you have to see so you can release your shame, doubt and fear of not being good enough for the very love you want..

Who’s zooming who? Like a Lady Aretha Franklin says..

I’m being bit facetious now, but the point must be made.

The tea is medicinal, tastes bitter, yet always needed.

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

Distraction Dingalings Are Expensive!

You must test man for mental and physical strength. You are too quick to allow entry into your mind far less your body. And it’s so easy to weed out the weak

minded. They are easily distracted, have no goals, very undisciplined, and emotionally fragile.

Self Portrait by artist Tim Baxter

 

He wants what they are to stingy to pay for.

He expects something for nothing and usually at your expense.

But your longing to quench your on thirst makes you a beggar of your own desires. You will become a new victim for a different face because you

never learn your lesson. The needle spins around the record of your life, skipping over the scratch again and again.

You admire the beauty of other women, and you want the power you think their beauty affords them. And you soak in their hollow doctrines and their enchantments and things, only to find out that you are right back where you started: starving for attention.

And the truth is that I’m not telling you anything that your heart does not already know. You just feel that the truth will bring you further away from companionship and love. But you are sleeping with men who do not love you, who don’t have the aptitude to provide or protect you, who will abandon you crisis hits.

Though a penis inserts itself into your vagina regularly, you are alone, even more alone than if you were by yourself.

So my question to you is when will you get out of the fog and face the truths? Distractions cost a lot of time and money you know, any they are never worth what you have to expel to maintain them. They devour you eventually.

But there is a light at the end of all these tunnel rats you’ve been trying to leap over. It will take a brain washing of sorts. It will mean that you have to challenge notions of sexuality, femininity, self worth, pleasure etc.. Smiling, what it means is that you will have to upgrade your thinking and the basic need to “just be heard”, and you will have to move into solution based thinking instead of get ‘coping’ with your problems.

Awww, you want to be a Goddess and you think its all fun right? No. It is not.

How many can sit at a throne seat?

That’s right! ONLY ONE! So be prepared for that, the alone time I mean.

That’s one of the biggest hurdles, being alone I mean. We want the sisterhood to hold us up, to give shoulders that we can soak with our tears. And it feels good for a moment. What you want is more than a moment, you want a lifetime fix!

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                                                                                                Art Sale!! Artist: Salkis Re

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