The Disease Called Love

“The Disease Called Love”
Written by Salkis Re

I’m sitting here at my desk trying to arrange my thoughts into something you

can take and apply to your life today. Of course its about love. It’s always going to be about love.
Why?
Because this thing called “falling in love” does something adverse to our minds.

Pathologies are created because of this “feeling”, and if you take inventory of your emotional state when you are “in love” you will see that you mistake “fear and anxiety” for LOVE.

Those “butterflies” in your stomach,

Those “butterflies” in your stomach, your restlessness and inability to focus on anything else but him and his dik.
This is emotional instability forming, but these women out here won’t tell you that.

You become emotionally unstable and exhibit signs of addiction, insanity and codependency when you fall in love.

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“Difference” Original African Art by Salkis RE

makes you neurotic, suspicious, anxious, needy

The “I can’t live without him” makes you neurotic, suspicious, anxious, needy,

as you throw healthy boundaries and your standards out the window.
I read most of your posts quietly. I watch how you take trips you cannot afford to “escape” yourselves or “find” happiness.

I watch some of you brag about how gangsta you are and you don’t take no shit of men,

but every two seconds strike a pose in tight clothes to get the attention

and validation of these same men you claim to have sexual control over.

 

ūüĎČWe are scammers.. Yeah… We are..
I include myself and can admit mistakes too, after all, a healer usually has something to heal before stepping out to heal others.

Painful truths here,

Painful truths here, some of you will say that, but I prefer to call this a sound bite or an excerpt from the “GODDESS compendium”, a manual for emotional control.
Have a look at your free spirited girlfriend and really observe their temperament.

Is she ever relaxed?

Does she talk fast?

Does she need to be chewing something in her mouth constantly.

Does she ever express satisfaction in anything or anyone?
The answer: NO!

She’s constantly spinning. Looking for the next hit, the next drink, the next dik to make her feel less invisible…

And so you have it. Your “food” for the day. This not something I wanted to say, it is something I HAD to say, for I am on assignment.

My goal isn’t to make you feel good, there’s enough distractions out here to serve that purpose.

My goal is to shake the shit out of you, to help you wake up from your coma so that you are never a doormat for any man ever again...
Carry On…

Black Women with Thick Locs

“Medicine Woman”

“Artist”

“Writer”

“Poet”

~Salkis Re

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Dating Outside Your Race Black Women?

I could join you picket line…but I won’t because part of the blame, well most of it was my doing,
for I chose to give men who I knew were not interest in me a chance.
I knew that the guys I LIKED didn’t really like me,
but I hadn’t any concrete “evidence” to substantiate my suspicions, yet and still, the situations
that by the grace of God revealed the truth, I dismissed the truth anyway.
I didn’t want to admit the truth because that would mean that in my mind,
I was acknowledging that I wasn’t good enough.
 
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“I’m a Girl!” Original Art by Salkis Re
And what’s the best way to relieve the mind of anxiety and depression: distraction!
Men pretended with me and I pretended right along with them, hoping that “proving value” by “selling myself” to an
*unmotivated buyer to begin with would somehow turn things around for me…
This what you do too.
You pretend.
You pretend you don’t see what you see.
You even pretend to be confused, but you know.
You ALWAYS know, the problem is that you do not trust in what you know because you
cannot differentiate your true self from the pretense you’ve created to get along with others.
 
Most of the time it was just a “feeling” though. In the mist of a conversation,
his mind does not seem fully engaged, and if a woman walked by that he liked,
he took the liberty to take a long and quite substantial look,
not feeling instinctively compelled to respectfully conceal his arousal from you.
 
There were other times when dates would be cancelled at the last minute
but then he’d show up at midnight to my door claiming to “miss me”,
I knew that he lied but I let him in because I wanted to feel wanted: truth be damned!
Then there were those times when holidays came around and gifts didn’t come neither the presence of his body,
probably because he was too busy stocking stuffing at “homes” of women who’s company he valued more.
And it was no buggy in my mind because
I bought my daughter all the gifts on her list which allowed me to a distraction from my feelings of inadequacy from being unwanted…
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“Powder” Original Abstract Portrait by Salkis RE
So now here you are, running from your acute ability to make poor decisions
by seeking refuge in the arms of men who do not share your genetic makeup.
You are fascinated with the “novelty” of it all. You get to even be “blacker” with him than you are
with your own brothers as you show and tell stories about what means to be a black woman in America.
And all well until you notice that he likes you a bit too much,
almost like you are trinket or an object of a fetish he has for black fresh.
And here you were thinking he is crazy about you…
Yeah he is krazy* about you…
You dismiss it though, still on somewhat of a high that a
man from another race considers you as beautiful.
 
But the truth is that you are that same woman who made agreements with men whom,
you knew were not to be trusted, not to be fucced, not to be husband or a father to your children.
Moving to another race doesn’t remove how your process and filter out your world and more importantly what you think of yourself.
You cannot run from you.
The respect and love that you desire comes when you become intimate with YOU.
It will come from black men when you have a love for your wellbeing that cannot be bought or bargained with.
Carry On…
Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
~Salkis Re
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Butt Ugly Beauties

Awwww. Listen Linda, Listen!!

I know what it feels like, what it be like to dance with self doubt.

Everywhere you turn, there is another thing you NEED because

somebody is saying that you have look better than what you are in order to compete with…

well don’t even damn know!!

SO we buy the next gadget, the next cream, the next corset,

and the next promise that we will magically look good even for a man to fall on a sword for us…

Beautiful Black Women

I know gorgeous women… I mean women who’s stock remains high whether or not they have clothes on.

THEY ARE DROP DEAD GORGEOUS 

And guess what they also are?

They are doubtful of their value, challenged by their perception of their own self worth.

Questioning themselves like a broken record as they wonder if they are truly deserving of the THINGS THEY GET!!!

Can you imagine having that forking problem???

You get what you want with ease, but a whisper in your head keeps

saying it’s an accident or a fluke that you receive what you receive…

You are so beautiful that men that you like a pet, they are so insecure around you that they

think you are incapable of telling the truth or being faithful to them…

Imagine that….

Stacked Those Chips On Your Shoulder

 

 

Black artLow Self esteem escape ver few people who are actually adults..

By the time you can go to the corner store by yourself or take your road test for your drivers license,

you’ve stacked up enough insecurities to create a stairway to heaven…

Fixed and confident in all the degradation you’ve accumulated over the years.

You don’t want to think of yourself ¬†jacked up, but that is what you are thanks to society.

 

Its Time to Die

Time to put to bed those thoughts. Time to die and be reborn again… It takes a little death you know.

A death to transform into what you want to become,

a death to assert what you want to feel like you deserve.

This goes for love OR ANYTHING you want in life too.

 

You Are Programmed!

You are programmed to wait for a “qualifier” to feel like you can claim the good life.

You need the degree to feel smart.

You need the crowd to feel important.

You need a man’s love to feel esteem.

You need your parents to be proud of you to feel like a winner.

And on and on and on……….

 

Three things you need to know and adopt in your life transformation..

No ones Opinion of you is LAW or the ABSOLUTE TRUTH

You Will Always Have a Choice to Accept or Regret What People Think of You.

Most People You know is battling their own self esteem issues, so they CANNOT help you.

 

 

 

 

 

Some immediate suggestions:

Turn off the T.V..

Unplug from social media.

Find a hobby

Find a way to help other people…

Come out of your own head and let your ego starve a little bit…

We often feel miserable because we are self centered and need constant

reassurance when the attention we want to receive is not matched to what we actually get..

You Are enough!!

If you are healthy, you are blessed.

IF you have sight, you are blessed.

If you can read, you are blessed.

If you can call you mother today, you are blessed…

Carry On….

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“Label Makers, Label Breakers”

Written by Salkis Re

Self esteem challenges can happen in people who are attractive,

in people with higher IQs, in people with money, in people who are religious etc.
You’d be surprised at the type of people who really emotionally fragile out here.
Don’t let appearances fool you…

I remember a “Guy Friday” I had working for me at my salon back in the day.

He was dark skin an older man, but you could tell he was extremely handsome

in his youth because he still had six pack abs and pretty white teeth.
He come in a few times a week and clean my shop for a six pack of beer,

pork rinds and on Fridays, I threw in a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken just to see his face light up.

 

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He didn’t want much, he didn’t need much really because of his lifestyle.

But he wasn’t ashamed of his standard of living.

He was quick-witted, wisdom filled, and his sense of humor would shortened any difficult day I’d have.

I remember him inviting me to his home that he’d often call his “Palace”.

He was so proud that he had this home and he often told stories of his lovers tryna lay claim to it by leaving panties and toothbrushes behind..lol

So I went to see the palace, and it turned out to be an old, tiny,

Southern Georgia shack! He had a dirty couch on the patio with a rickety table next to it to prop his beer.

He called it his “seating area” lllllmao.
I asked, “You entertain your hoes here Millified?”
“Yes Boss Lady, haha ha ha”, he said with his raspy voice.

 

He opened the door and invited me inside. The floor boards screeched and some of them lifted when we took a step.

I was scared I was going to fall through the floor, so he took my hand and we zig-zagged through the living.

He chuckled looking at my “wtf” face. But he still wasn’t fazed by my frowning giggles.

The floor of the entire house was on an incline, you could have slid right into the kitchen if the floor was wet.

The walls were painted with dirt. A few water bugs came out to see who was in the house too.

He had plastic lawn cheers in front of a 52 inch TV. That TV was the focal piece of the house and would be the reason all the ladies didn’t want to leave his chateau, hahaha!

He said he had cable and he’d make some squash casserole and fried chicken if I ever wanted to come hang out on Sunday after church.

We went to his bedroom and he had a queen size mattress on the floor that looked like he pulled it out a land fill,

and the bedroom closet was almost as small as a medicine cabinet.
His bathroom couldn’t hold two people at the same time; you could literally shit, shower and shave all in one cause it was so damn tiny!

He said he was ready to whip up a batch of red Kool Aid if I was thirsty and motioned him not to bother.

When the tour was done, I looked at him in disbelief.

I wanted him to see how disgusted I was,

but he continued to look at me and laugh.

 

He was unfazed by my distain, and I showed my distain because I knew he didn’t give a shit what I thought.
He was proud of himself. He was proud of who he was. He had “pretty teeth” so to him he was a “pretty boy”..lllllmao

He was one of the few people I’ve met that was just unbothered by people’s opinions,

he stated what he was and that was all his heart and mind had room for.

The rest of us have so much more than him, but we disregard it for the perpetual fear that others may feel we are not good enough.

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Your self esteem is built on a weaker foundation than his one room shack!

All while you look good, you work a so-called “good job”.

You can save for vacation and occasionally splurge on nonessential things,

but you still are afraid of what people think of you.
You don’t take a chance, because your thoughts of failure plaque you without rest.

You have their degrees, their licenses and certificates but still feel invalid..

Your Perception of who you are has been “Given” to you.

That is why you are not empowered, and that is why you live so unsure of yourself in spite of all your accolades.

My Guy Friday stayed happy, even with what I classified as an impoverished lifestyle, he had a mentality of wealth.

Maybe that was the reason he remained so attractive and charismatic.

He could have been more I suppose had he taken advantage of the education system, maybe he would be more than hustler.

But that was my opinion of him, and one he didn’t share in…

He wasn’t intimidated by others who had more.

He talked to everybody, and free beer and free meals were the regular thank you gifts he received for his humor and charismatic optimism.

So what will you do?

Continue to live in fear of not being good enough,

not living good enough,

not being attractive enough,

not having enough money to be enough?

When will you arrest those hypothesizing thoughts of imaginary restraints?

When you say fuck it, this is what I am and I’m fabulous as is???
You can do it right now.

You don’t need to kneel before a Queen,

or get a certificate in the mail,

or have an engagement ring on your finger to claim your right to feel fantastic about yourself today!!

Make the shift.
Make the decision..
And be what YOU say you are…

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

 

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Fight Elegantly!

Decisions based solely on emotion NEVER stick.

You may be able to garner their pity and remorse for a little while,

but eventually that person goes back to his/her old ways after their emotions have settled back down,

This is why men feel sorry about about cheating when they get caught, and after the dust settles,

they are back out there at it again.

Black women are getting pimped out of their vaginas by everybody,

black men, white men, even other women

people generally do not change unless they experience some

tremendously emotional event that breaks the patterns within their nervous system.

Thick Locs

 

For the most part, we are all fixed as adults. Fixed in what we believe about ourselves,

how we perceive love, how we quantify our value.

Relationships are about the decision to share a life with someone as they are,

and with your love and encouragement,

you can “Influence” them to become “Improved” partners IFFFFFFFFFFF that is what HE desires to be…..

 

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Black women are emotionally exploited by everybody because our pathologies are well known and easy to recognize

while others enjoy living with the ambiguity of their depression and low self esteem whiling concealing

pharmaceutical remedies for their suicidal thoughts properly fitted garments, scantily clad pics or perfectly

coiffed hair that serve to disguise their emotional dysfunction.

 

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Our pathology includes the admiration and support of anybody who do not resemble ourselves,

and the admiration and support of people who mock, mimic and make fun of us.

We are enemies of each other perception based on “collective” biases that are based on propaganda and indoctrination.

 

Redeem yourself. Pull yourself up from the muck and Myer….

Divorce yourself from anything or anyone who’s opinions are self serving and decide that a

feeling is not a truth unless you start living in agreement with it,

and that goes for yourself or anyone else…

 

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Stop Playing Small!

Some of us are wasting away at life.
The Great Pretenders I call them.
You are Afraid to make a mistake, and afraid to get your heart broken again.
So you wallow in denial of what you want

AND deny your responsibility in the results you’ve gotten so far.
Everything you could have been will die with you; that is the life you are living right now…

 

 

 

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I refuse to conform.

To cower down into obscurity.

I wasn’t born to live an uneventful life, and neither are you!

I wasn’t born for people to have something to shame and ridicule for my nappy hair and big lips, and neither are you!

I want born for people to tell me I’m not smart enough for what I want to have, and neither are you!

And YOU weren’t born to live in quiet desperation, to play it safe to avoid pain.

Your trauma is your SCHOOL, and you are conditioned to lead because you survived it.
But you sit back and do nothing with all that experience you have.

You prefer to wallow and feel sorry for yourself like you earn money to be upset.

 

 

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Art by Salkis RE

 

What does it benefit you to live in fear today?
How will your life be better out of your decision not to take a chance?
People need to know that they can do it, and you might be the only example of this,

but you’ve designed life that ensure that they will NEVER meet you.

A disservice is what you create in 360 degree form when you make decisions based on fear.
Its time to GET UP.

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“Single Mothers are a HUGE Liability?”

 

The discussion about single mothers as potential wives came up on my recent You Tube Video… My response is REALITY, not filled with idealism or optimism for that matter. My posting this dialog for YOUNG ladies who do NOT have children yet.
Take Heed…

Male Viewer Comment:
I think love and relationships are more complex. If my son married a woman with a child, i would be happy for him.
Perhaps HE could be the only hero in the child’s life.

Child or no child, the woman should be a loving person. I hope that she would be less Machiavellian…less jaded.
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My Response:
Every woman who HAS a past is “jaded” to some degree. And if she was left a single mother, she should be EXTREMELY cautious in safeguarding against a repeating choices that led her there in the first place.
A single mother comes with extra scars, but if her motivation is strong enough, she CAN compensate for the any emotional shortcomings by concentration on her what is virtuous about her. But the “jaded” part really applies to ANY woman who has had sperm inside of her.
It creates a touch of lunacy in us all to be honest..

 

 

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“Holding On To Love” Art by Salkis RE CLICK HERE

 

Male Viewer Comment:
Salkis Re Most women I know with one child say it is best thing that ever happened to them.
However, i understand what you are saying about exercising caution.

Do you think single men who have full custody of a child also lack a certain amount of character?
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My Response:
And why do you think women say that? I will tell you. It’s because for the FIRST time, they are experiencing TRUE love.

A man who has full custody of his children exemplifies compassion and emotional connect to his children even when he could have walked away. That is different, its “Noble” even.

Loving Single-motherS

WHY?
Because he is not expected to “want” to shoulder all the Responsibility like women. A woman’s value is in question because when “She” brings other mens children, she brings “bills”, she brings a “something must be wrong with you for him to walk from you and your children” UNLIKE the single father.

WHY?
Because she is looking to be cared for by a man. And because of this, for her, it is a FLAW, and a REDUCTION in her MARKETABILITY because she requires MORE output of his resources as well as the expectation to muster up some sort of LOVE and CARE for children that are not is own.

BIG Liability! Especially when men struggle to communicate and show interest/emotional concern for children that are biologically his.

Not what women want to hear and not what men would admit…..

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis RE

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Sex Should Frighten you!

“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.

This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.

Sex is a death ritual.

Sex is a ¬†“giving up” of your soul to another soul.

Sex is A sacrifice.

Sex is  A melding together of thoughts,

emotions,

feelings,

bacteria,

shyte,

puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.

Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.

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But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.

But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!

Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.

And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.

Why?
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.

Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.

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Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.

Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it

sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.

This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.

This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy. ¬†And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

How to Not Give a F&*^k

 

1)Do what you fear doing, and do it often.

2) Accept people’s right to their own opinion, so that you can formulate yours without guilt.

3) Understand that trying to be Perfect for Imperfect people is a hamster wheel with no destination. Get off the wheel.

4) You are ugly to somebody. You are pretty to somebody.

You will win.

And you will lose.

And you cannot avoid it.  

Make peace with life’s inconsistencies and ride the wave.

5) You will not live forever, so you really cannot afford to waste another day trying to please people,

trying to make them see your worth, your beauty. Relax. And wow those that are already impressed with you.

Declare who you are, even if it frightens you,abstract portrait painting

even If it seems like a lie because everything is a lie until you MAKE IT the truth…

 

So many of us feel that we have to be good at something in order to do it or love it even.

This is not the truth. Not at all.

Self esteem is not about hyper focused attention on only the things that are good about you,

but ALLLLLLLL of you.

Yes, even the silly, stupid unskilled parts of you .

True self esteem doesn’t crumble if things do not go well in your life.

Self esteem is more about the process mores than the outcome.

Living up to your values keeps you in a place of high regard for yourself.

I find that so many of us just do not take a chance because not doing good or

being better than someone else computes in your mind that you are not enough.

 

 

 

 

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You have to accept your flaws and while relaxing your drive for

praise and recognition over the good in your as well..

You just embrace ALL of you.
Be Luke warm as a Master Teacher once taught me…

Then a compliment or an insult become a consequence for the living without putting halt to your life…

 

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy. ¬†And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

Being A Real Woman is Like Having an Infection!!

 

 

 

 

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“I Want This Dress” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

“Attack on Womanhood”
Written by Salkis Re

SHE CUSSED ME OUT!

So I got cussed out after lending my opinion to a young woman’s post (by the way, she said she doesn’t consider herself a woman)

were she’s expressing that she didn’t want to have a family and that she “hated” children.

She said that there is more to life than “just” having babies and a husband.
I get it, and yes there is more to life than any single thing you are doing.

There is more to life than your job, there is more to life than your education,

there is more to life than the dik you ride, there is more to like than eating eggs for breakfast or talking shyte on the SOCIAL MEDIA too.

LIKE BEING A WOMAN IS AN INFECTION NOW!

We are living in a time when everything that represents womanhood is being viewed as some sort of miasma,

like an infection “weak minded” women are catch. Like motherhood and marriage is a virus that women who lack ambition catch.

And, these “Career Minded Women will see what their decisions lead too like we all will.
Now, we all can have happiness the way that we want it.

BUuuuuuuuuuuut please understand that what you WANT and what you DO leads you somewhere.

How many of us know MANY single, older women with no children who are *truly Happy?

What are the statistics, what are the numbers?
You are on a path to SOMEWHERE,

so while you are defending your right to choose,

I need for you to project yourself into the FUTURE RESULT of your choices, cause boo-boo,

your Future is coming like a cyclone,

like a whirlwind, and this time right now,

the choices you enjoy right now,

WILL diminish 20 years from now!!

This is not speculation, it is a natural fact of LIFE!
So prepare for your future by making strategic decisions NOW…
You want to be alone and you are NOT wealthy? Where they do that at???
Your vagina is an INVESTMENT, not a forking playground!!!!
Sound Off!!!!

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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