Poem: “You’re Not a Real Angel”

“You’re Not a Real Angel”
Written by Salkis Re

 

 

“This World is Yours” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

When they call you an angel,
you choose not to receive it,
You think angels don’t look like yourself,
and you feel you ought to look as them to believe it.

Their wings are pretty and all uniformed and white,
while you sit here in bursts of all this color.
And somehow you view your rainbows
as an embarrassment to the others.

White wings are just more classy,
is what your mind makes you say.
And all your colors are just too festive
to show the earthlings how to seriously pray…

But when God made you my angel,
he was more adventurous and brave.
And he added his sharpened skill onto you
and made what he once couldn’t create.

So open up your wings, flap them like thunder
and give the wind something to do.
And show the world that angels come in all colors
and that the best of them do look like you…

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING:”This World is Yours”
Available Here: https://www.iloveherart.com/signature…/the-world-in-my-hands

This poem I wrote today is about ownership and respect for the difference that make you who you are.

We are always looking at the grass over there thinking that its better than the patch of grass we are standing on.

Decide that you will take ownership of what makes you YOU.

We do not have to be the same.

I do not have to look the same.

And peace won’t come to you if you were to suddenly become

somebody else because inner peace only comes from acceptance of self.

Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

Abstract Art by Salkis Re
Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re

 

“Reasons”
Written by Salkis Re
 
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.
 

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Why?
Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.
 

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.
Why?

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Don’t Believe What They Say

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Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?

 

So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?
No.

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

When We Were Kings

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I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?

No!

They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?

No!

H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re

 

So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.

 

 

 

“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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Justification of Bullshit!!

Your Life Coach, Salkis Re

Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.

It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
But you know what this means too?
It means that you can also justify the things that give you pleasure,
the things or experiences that improve you physically and mentally.
Justification for laziness,
sloth,
indecisiveness,
fear,
and anger takes the same amount of energy as the justification for wanting a man with a gigantic penis,
or a house with 6 bedrooms.Why?
Because your justification creates the importance behind anything you do or don’t do,

and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.

There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.

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I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
The answer?
Nothing!
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships

because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.

I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.

The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,

or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.

I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!

And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
No Sir!
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!

So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,

or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
GAME!!
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

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I Put a Spell On Me!!

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Casting Love spells is a hot thing to do. I will admit it. I tried a couple spells back in the days too.

Did some pretty nasty stuff like smudging period blood on my neck, I even cooked dinner for an imaginary husband for 3 months straight.

My daughter thought I was bat shyte crazy.

And I was a little, still am actually.

I’m open to the impossible.

But…

What they say, or what I didn’t hear, was the key ingredient for ANY intention to work is focus,

That of belief and a sense of entitlement  for what you are going after.

I wasn’t ready for a man.

I didn’t think I really deserved the love that I wrote on paper.

So I ignored what I felt inside while hoping that the universe would overlook how fearful and unsure I was.

 

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Art by Salkis Re

Maybe you are in the same boat…

Hurt by the ghosts of your past loves.

Wondering if it’s your lot in life never to be the object of a man’s passions.

It doesn’t have to be this way though.

And the road to healing doesn’t have to feel like 5000 stomach crunches..

Because the road to being receptive to love, to companionship, and soul mating

is one of relaxation and confidence, NOT worry.

The first step is to stop worrying about not having a man.

Yessssssss. That’s what I said.

What you worry about, is what you will get.

Why?

Because of the intensity of your emotions and the concentration on that thing you are emotive about,

which of course is: not having a man.

Get busy right now with changing your attitude.

And the only way to bring the atmosphere of love into your existence is through self care.

Self Care..

Eat Right.

Sleep Right.

Create.

DO things that Challenge you.

There are too many things you need know,

too many things you could be doing right now instead of brooding over fantom penises.

And these TOO MANY THINGS are the very glue that with bring the fairy dust transmutation and irresistibility straight to your door step.

Worry will weaken you.

Feeling lonely is a sign of a lack of imagination.

Creativity ignites passion, and its when you are truly passionate about anything that you invite people to come as spectators, lovers  and so on.

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“The World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

SO the Answer?

Become MORE PASSIONATE.

Find something that gets your juices flowing. Do something that takes up your time in a constructive way.

And let whatever you choose transform you into a wanted woman!!!

XOXO,

Salkis

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

How To Become What You Need to Be to Get What You Want?!

 

 

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Aren’t you tired of being used?
Aren’t you tired of falling for the con game?
Aren’t you tired of giving till your hands bleed with no reciprocity in sight?
I know you are tired, but apparently not tired enough to switch your style.
You still believe in things that tell lies to your face.

You still doubt what it is that you know.
And now it’s even worse because you have access granted into Social Media Relationships. Perfect lighting, Rosy filters, and exotics locals make you fume like warm shit as you eat yourself into a drunken woe-is-me stupor.

Fussing over illusions and staged photos of people pretending to be madly in love, has now become your portion to eat..
Evaluating your life against that of women whom you’ve no clue as to the price they’ve paid for the appearance of luxury they enjoy.

Why can’t that be you is what you ask..
So what’s the answer here?
The answer is that your tongue is your sword and your word is your bond, AND whatever you desire AND EXPECT, you will get.
So am I saying that you can have the fairytale?

Absolutely!! You can have it, if, and only if, you are willing to pay the price!!

Go back to Instagram and your Facebook feeds. Take a closer look at those girls you are jealous of. What are their habits, their daily regimen? If they live in the gym, or walk around the grocery aisles with faces beat for the Gods, are you willing to do that in order to be ranked worthy of her kind of relationship?

Look again.
Are you willing to live in a van and eat berries off trees while teaching yoga classes to bum enough money for an evening meal of beans and rice? (I love those yoga couples by the way, I imagine their sex game is outstanding!!?🙈).
Sexy passion without the want/need for material things sound like a great life to you?

Or maybe it’s a 6 bedroom house with chefs and nannies with lots of shopping more your tune?
Or maybe you are one of those “Independent” girls and your dream is just to go Dutch on the dinner, half on the mortgage and the car note?
Which ever one you decide on, has its own UNIFORM, its own protocol, its rules and regulations in order to execute it successfully.
There is a mentality you have to adopt in order to affix yourself into the role you want to star in.
The point of it all is that ALL of them require WORK on your part if you plan to have some semblance of happiness within the experience.

Listen darling, you can even be a combination of all the choices I’ve listed and Hallelujah, the Saints will be marching in on your behalf for sure!

Once you decide what position you want to play, it’s then time to start working on a personality conducive to the outcome you hope to achieve.
An artist paints.
A writer, writes.
A chef, cooks.
And so on, and so on.
A wish with out work is like faith without work : DEAD!
You assignment today is to ACT as if!
You want to appear beautiful?
Then ACT like beautiful women act!!
Yesssss damn it! ACT LIKE IT!
Well what about the “Just Be YOURSELF” thing Salkis?

I call BULLSHIT on that right now!!!!!

Why?
Because you DON’T have what you want right now because you are yourself.

So this means you can’t achieve what you by being yourself!

Create the personality that YOUR mind feels is synonymous with beauty and abundance and you will train your brain to respond in that way. Even more importantly, you will be sending out feelers into the atmosphere to attract that energy back to you.
It is as simple as that.

You have to rinse and repeat..

Then rinse and repeat again

until it doesn’t feel like a lie anymore.

You have to put hand gestures into it.

You have to get excited about it because creating anything should fucking excite you!!!

You are the magician over your life, and acting AS-If is what turns ANYTHING you say into the mother sucking TRUTH!!
Doing anything long enough and loud enough, you will make you FORGET that it’s a lie, and it will STOP being a lie too!

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As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And what I have found is this: when you rid the of shame and guilt you begin to SOAR.

You have to heal

You have to believe.

And you have to do!

Allow me to help you..

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Your Dark Side

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“Goddess Energy”
Art by Salkis Re

 

Every woman I Coach is in conflict to some degree with their darker side. They want things that they carry shame for wanting. They want to be in control but they want it to come naturally.. They want to be the center and the main focus in the lives of men who are not incentivized to put them in that position.

And they repress and deny their desires because it’s not ‘good’ to have them, yet in a sick twist of irony, the every men who’s will they concede to get to exercise their dark sides by imposing emotional hardship and in some instances,  physical trauma too.

Women ‘allow’ a center stage to the free will and the selfish proclivities of the people, yet think its ‘wrong’ to insist that their own free will is undeserving to roam free.

Self decieving is what that’s called. A belief in something you do NOT agree with.

What fools women ‘decide’ that they have to be.

Wake Up Little Mummy.

Rise from your sarcophagus and start to live your life, on your terms and in a way that preserves LIVING flesh.

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“Mistress of Words”

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“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Medicine Woman”

“Creative Soul”

~Salkis Re

 

 

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He is Using You!

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Had a coaching session yesterday with an older woman who’s recently come back into the dating scene. She was very proud of her accomplishments financially and the fact that she “didn’t need a man”.

Unfortunately though, all that 😏 pride didn’t amount to a hill of beans when it came to her relationship with her boyfriend. Your *financial Independence doesn’t make you immune to disregard, complacency and disrespect in a *romantic relationship. You could be a waitress at Waffle House and display living in subsidized housing and still be Independent. You have all the money, but you’re still the grovelling and begging and beseeching him for quality time, sex and basic consideration.

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Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your bank statement can’t disguise your lack of 😯 emotional Independence 🙄 and this is why you can *make it rain for his ass and he spends YOUR money on a girl that grounded with standards that require him to either piss or get off the pot.

I’m hearing this story too often, and I’m telling you that it hurts you in the long run cause he’ll eventually see that you are only on point when it comes to your money, nothing else.
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“Mistress of Words”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“The Crone”
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🤗Art by Salkis Re

 

 

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Stitching Up the Cut!

 

 

Sketch by Salkis Re

“People want trust, they want a guarantee. But they don’t keep their word to themselves. They do not honor personal commitment but quickly cite it as a character flaw in people they are expecting to produce for them. How can you trust anyone when you do have trust in yourself? You break vows you’ve made to treat your *own self better, yet you assert harsh criticism and disappointment in others who failed in keeping their pledge to treat you better. Better than what? How you treat yourself?¿

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Art by Salkis Re

To heal, you don’t “Ignore”, you “Expose” it. You have to acknowledge and face your own corruption and the graveyard of broken promises you’ve made to yourself. Don’t expect people to bandaid you. Stop expecting people to treat you better than you treat yourself. All a relationship amounts to is an outward extension of how you feel about you. The bandaid is not enough; you need clean out the wound and stitch it up so that it/you can heal.
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Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
☆Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
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Your Sex Is a Gift

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Your Sex Matters
I know you’ve heard it before.
Sex is no big deal. Sex is easy to get.

Sex is doesn’t need to have commitment attached as so on..

*And I guess all of that is true: depending on who you talk too.

But I will say this, every man who has told me that to my face has NEVER cared about me. They never wanted anything outside of my “hole”.

So while the argument can be made that we are more than just a vagina, it’s that “just another hole” that they want straight away.

Don’t fall for that **devalue game. It implies that there’s no need for you to be sexual selective, to scrutinize or have “enforced” standards of conduct and intention from that man.**

A **dime a dozen vaginas** are out here in droves but your value is not **stock market based.**

Sex is a gift.

It’s a blessing if your vaginal is healthy and responsive. It is uplifting if you feel good about yourself. It’s a good luck charm if you live a life in awareness and appreciation.

  • If you are sexing to escape your reality,
  • to simulate love,
  • to distract you from your pain,
  • to make him fall in love either you,
  • to impress him,
  • because you are bored or lonely:

you are corrupting yourself!

What could be more important in your life than your vagina? That is the portal between the spirit and physical realm.

How can you excuse it’s magic and cast your pearls to swine?

Your depression,

lack of confidence

and self worth

have a great deal to do with sexual intrusion. The choice you make to “open” yourself to souls who cannot advance you is very costly. The stability you claim to have in spite of what you do is crippling you.

Am I addressing “morality‘ here?
Not at all.
Why?
Because once you have Sex, contemplating morality is inconsequential. Because after you’ve had Sex for the first time, it immediately becomes a game of “appearences” and not wanting to be perceived a particular way.
You have to make a choice here. Is your body a gift or is a “thing to play with”?

 

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I invite you to take a taste of what you can enjoy should you decide to do a full transformative program with me.

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Men Can Spot the Weakness in Women

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

We say men are hunters right? Ok what are the characteristics of a hunter? Isn’t Isn’t a hunter observant and watchful of what he has his eye on? Isn’t a hunter looking for the easiest prey?

Can a hunter not spot frailties and weaknesses? Men are more observant than you think. And when they care about what they’re after, then they REALLY watch.

Men can sniff out insecure women and “feed” off you just a kill. Desperation is not what you want to be; it will make you a sitting duck. Get your mind together and quit thinking you can conceal how you feel about yourself because you can’t.

 

We have to stOP thinking that we are really concealing our feelings. These things seep into everything we do. You are going look insecure, and you will act it out or reveal it eventually.

The point is to build yourself from the inside, to have integrity and follow through is what will build your self esteem. I tell the i coach girls Guilt will destroy you faster than any other emotion because leads to shame,  self doubt, fear, intimidation, and cowardly behavior.

So how do you break the cycle of low self esteem? You have to keep your word.

Yes!!!

Keep your fucking word to yourself#!

Make a promise and come hell or high water, (keep that shit)and actually finish what you start.

When you do this, your guilt will start falling away and you will begin to trust yourself. And trusting yourself means that you can say NO to what you need to walk away from. It means you can count on yourself yo always do what is in your best interest.

How freaking awesome is that!!!

To finally be your best friend!!!

AND what does this mean for men who are after you? It means that they have to right or not at all. It means that they cannot convince you to go against your better judgment because you no longer decide what is right or wrong for you based on the approval or disappointment of ANYONE.

You are chief.

The head Honcho!

Numero Uno baby!!!

BAM!

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I am your fairy Godmother

“Liberator of the Breath”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”

“The Lie Slayer”

~Salkis Re

 

Black Girl Blues: I Tried to Straighten My Nose With a Cloths Pin

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Clothes Pins on My Nose”

I remember when I would put clothes pin on my nose to try to make my nose less ‘African’. I’d steal one from the clothes line and after I said my prayers, I’d put it on my nose to try to sleep with it on through the night.

Almost made it through the night
I tossed and turned under sheets trying to console myself through the discomfort, and of course I never actually made it through the night: My record for the longest time spent with that forking clothes pin on my nose was whopping two hours though.

I know it you know

That feeling like you wish you born another way, as someone else. I would look at my mother and secretly be angry with her for mating with my dad because if she picked a lighter man, then I would have turned out prettier instead of this black and ugly that my peers called me everyday.

I thought I was Ugly

Now, my father was a handsome man. Hands down ‘Sagga Boy‘ as they say in Trinidad. I loved my father dearly, I was a ‘daddy’s girl’ through and through.

  • But I was tall like him,
  • But I had big lips like him,
  • But I had his nose
  • But I was dark like him,

so I thought I looked ugly because I looked like him and to like him meant I looked like a boy. And to top of that notion,( in my child mind) I also thought that boys should be dark and girls should be light-skin cause that’s all I saw in the media, my community etc.
It took years to get over my suppositions about beauty; It took years of allowing myself to be used, believing the biases of society and being played by the people I loved and respected for me to realize the lies.

You have to ‘decide’ to have self esteem. And in your decision to value yourself comes the responsibility of how you ‘act’ and what you do to support that. People are more concerned with themselves than you, so the approval you are seeking from others is never going to come. And They can’t give you approval because are in search of it for themselves too!

 

Your notions of yourself, if based solely on the reaction or response from other people, will be false and that’s whether they give you a compliment or a dis! Be careful with kind words too. You could become a slave to ‘positive reinforcement’ also. I’ve met gorgeous women who are used to hearing that they are gorgeous, and still get in a panic attack if the ‘aggrandizing’ from others is nonexistent or comes in a little slow.

And those early thoughts of myself is a major reason behind my artistry. I see the power of imagery.

You either Create who you want to be, or let others tell you what you are.
Which will you choose?

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Kendrick Said Be Humble!!

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Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

Aww. Joy of Humility…

You know I have a bit of disdain for that word.

Well. A bit more than a little I suppose.

But it’s quite useful though. I thought it was beneath me to transpose humility onto myself. I thought that putting people first was an invitation to put myself last.

No my darlings… I was extremely wrong.

Humility as I see it, helps to find out the true intentions of one’s heart.

Why?

Because people naturally tell lies when you question them, and the more intimidated they are, bigger and more grandiose the lies get.

People want to loved and accepted, and they will say and do what needs to be done to ensure that they come out unharmed.

Intimidation is a threat. A perceived threat of course, but as I tell the fortunate ones who get to work with me, ‘perception is the only reality there is’.

Humility is chocked full of sugary goodness because you get to satisfy your guilt and shame that creep up in your mind from being too self absorbed by putting others before yourself and you get to create an environment of trust and safety for the other person/s involved. And trust and safety bring out the primal instincts in people.

They tend to let go of their pretenses and the wall they build to protect themselves emotionally.

Think of it like this: when you feel threatened, you tense up, you recoil and brace yourself so that minimal damage happens. You are not ‘open’ emotionally or physically when you are tense. Intimidation causing ‘tension’ and tension encourages abnormal behavior

Be humble creates a stress-less environment and it is in relaxation of one’s mind that they start ‘talking’. They start yo vomit out everything they love or fear, how their mother didn’t love them enough or how they feel inadequate about this or that. They will admit their perversions and all their weaknesses to you when totally relaxed by your humidity.

 

If You’ve Heard the term ‘Pillow Talk’

If You’ve Heard ‘You’re So Easy to Talk Too!’

Both of those are examples of how people response when they do not feel intimidated.

  1. Making you laugh let’s your guard down.
  2. Keeping you distracted let’s your guard down.
  3. Tell you secrets let’s your guard down.
  4. Asking your opinion makes you feel more important and let’s your guard down.
  5. Giving you gifts and attention let’s your guard down.

And so on and so on…

Aww… The Joys of Humility. .

Sell or be Sold my darling. Which one will you be?

Now, I’m on a shift myself, coming to terms with what I’m really called to do as a guide for you and women just like you. I have accepted how I must help you build your self esteem and my position is not pretty at times, but it’s magical nonetheless.  If you want more keys to train your mind so you can control your body and maybe even get people to do your bidding, then I can coach you

To contact me send inquires to salkis@iloveherart.com

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How Tell If Someone is Lying!

Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

 

Sooo, I decided to make a video today about communication.

Why?

Because we are asking a million questions but still ain’t gettin the right answers.

There’s a way to get to the truth because truth be told, everybody lies and they lie about not telling lies too.

Let me put you up on game today. You can thanknow me later.

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Artists Shaming ME, Another Artist: YIKES!

 

Facebook Group Flunkies

So this has been an interesting few days. I have been scolded in a few facebook art groups for the commentary that usually accompanies my artwork. I have never been an artist to just post a pic of my work with the measurements and a buy now link at the bottom of it. That is fuvking boring and it doesn’t stimulate emotions like words along with work do.

No Why NO WAY!

But I understand that this is my way of doing things, this is my “style” and I get it: I LOVE IT! But my problem is when the admins of these groups tell me how I ‘should’ present my work. I was told recently that I should just stick to art instead of writing a “book” length post because the opinion was that I didn’t write well enough to lend relevance to my work.

BIHHHHHHHHHH! lllmao. It is always these washed up, non visionary artists that want to lend critique on the way an artist should present their work. My art started because I wanted to illustrate a book I was writing, so I would have never picked up a brush if I didn’t have a need to ‘write” something. But I’m thankful this happened though, because it forced me to audit my time and where I was dispersing my energies, and booooooy was I wasting time “entertaining” people who really didn’t care for my words.

 

I think this is a sign that I’m getting better at orchestrating my words though, the fact that I’m making people’s skin crawl  with what means that they are tasting the bitter medicine of truth. I tell my fans that they have to develop a thick skin. Yes. You have to grow armor and not give a fuvk what people think: especially people who have nothing and who’s lives offer little to no fuvking semblance of where you aspire to be.

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If you want to show off your artwork while twirling a baton in stilettos and a see-through tu-tu , then DO IT! Seriously though, you got to know the “why” behind what you do or you will drift with every insinuation these forking losers can muster up while they take a break from their miserable lives. I am invested in my success as an artist,  and exposing all the dimensions of myself with the world. AND meeting the people who show tangible appreciation for what it is I do is the mission..

Listen, make you voice heard. Do your art with passion and curiosity to make yourself better with each canvas you paint on. Insecurity is the demon to slay. Insecurity affects you physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and all the other ALLY’s I left out.

DO YOU!!

“Your Life Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re

Fie Art by Salkis Re

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You Are One of A kind

You really are one of a kind. But is it hard to asses the value of your worth

without comparing it to something or should I say someone else. But this leads to anguish as

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“Waiting On Your Love Baby” Painted by Salkis Re

your mind can only cop an ease from self ridicule when in the company of less physically blessed beauties.

The constant internal conversation about who you can look better than, Continue reading “You Are One of A kind”

You Can’t See Through What You Want to See!

You need to know “how’ to get to know.

The “slight of hand” makes you think you know.

Your need for pleasure puts a filter over your eyes towards any truth that appears in front of you. You deny what you want, what you feel, and what you see because you think your will to have can affect a person’s character.

You think your prayers have been answered before you even give yourself a chance to test for false prophets. Your prayers and meditations do not calm your mind into the relaxation you need in order to see what is right or wrong in men.

You go into it with a sense of entitlement, yet you cannot see when the ‘show’ is being put on for you. You are hopeful, optimistic, cheerful, and appealing, and you think these things will get you what you want. They can assist of course, but they have to be in conjunction with your wisdom and a clear objective for your own life.

***Attractiveness will not cure boredom, or wandering eye. And being nice and sweet will not keep him interested. Keeping a level head is the only way to “know” what you need to know.

And what are you looking for?

*Emotional stability,

*natural tendencies,

*spontaneous reactions to unexpected things,

*what he says about people he loves, 

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*does he love his work,

*is he disciplined,

*does he take care of his body,

*how much leisure time does he need and how does he spend it. And so on.

BUT you have to know yourself in order to access others without projecting yourself on to him. 

If you need help with that, I can coach you..

But for now, just Take Your Time in order to see.

Know what you are deserving of and watch for his ability and motivation to give it to you.

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You Can’t Sex Your Way into High Self Esteem

Conquering Self Defeat
By Salkis Re
Transforming is dirty business
You can’t f;&$k your way out of pain! You are tired. You are fed up with your condition. You have tried to change things to no avail. You entertain yourself through the pain, you eat and gorge food through the pain, you try to f;&$k your way out of the pain.

You burn candles and hug trees underneath the moonlight in hopes of winning fortunes and thwarting pain. You meditate while frustrated and worried.
You spruce yourself up with new hair do’s and fresh pedicures that aid as “posers” to true self care. These are great things to do, but not so great as a replacement for the internal work required for victory over “self defeat. No! Love cannot *love you out of the muck and mire; however, you can -cope- with it a bit better ,yet it will just manifest in other things like binge eating, depression etc. Can you become a goddess without adversity? Can you become a master without trials and tests? What is the need for bravery if you have nothing to fear? Your anguish is not the problem! We all have things that challenge our resolve. The problem is that you are not utilizing your adversity to change your life! “Go along to get along” is what you’ve been doing, and now, living in pain has become your new normal. “Smiling Depressive” is what I lovingly call you. When are you going to muster up enough courage to just admit that something is wrong with this way of living? I have news for you! You are not gonna smile or deny your way through transformation!
Your going to have to walk through the “shadow of death” to truly transform and become a new person. You have to face your dragons and slay them with valarian steel! You are going to have to make a decision that charity and giving of yourself requires that you first are able to regenerate what you give to others. You give away what you can’t afford to give because of guilt and this superstition in the benefit of humility: you are trying to replaced your feelings of unreservedness by pretending to be satisfied with being a “giver”, for you are ashamed to receive. Take my hand, I will lead you through the shadow of death with the rod and staff to slay the serpents waiting to bite your heel. Its time to transform.
~Salkis Re “Life Coach”

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Natural Hair and Self love The Easy Escape

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Im an artist right. I paint little girls and young ladies with natural hair right. I know the importance of imagery and their power to alter the perceptions of one’s self worth. I didn’t see what I paint when I was growing up. No symbols of affection and love for my “kind”. And I get it. Every black girl needs a super hero, an alter ego like the boys have with their Transformers, G.I.Joes, Batman etc.

But what do we really have?

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