Stop Playing Small!

Some of us are wasting away at life.
The Great Pretenders I call them.
You are Afraid to make a mistake, and afraid to get your heart broken again.
So you wallow in denial of what you want

AND deny your responsibility in the results you’ve gotten so far.
Everything you could have been will die with you; that is the life you are living right now…

 

 

 

Goddess art

I refuse to conform.

To cower down into obscurity.

I wasn’t born to live an uneventful life, and neither are you!

I wasn’t born for people to have something to shame and ridicule for my nappy hair and big lips, and neither are you!

I want born for people to tell me I’m not smart enough for what I want to have, and neither are you!

And YOU weren’t born to live in quiet desperation, to play it safe to avoid pain.

Your trauma is your SCHOOL, and you are conditioned to lead because you survived it.
But you sit back and do nothing with all that experience you have.

You prefer to wallow and feel sorry for yourself like you earn money to be upset.

 

 

Abstract portrait painting
Art by Salkis RE

 

What does it benefit you to live in fear today?
How will your life be better out of your decision not to take a chance?
People need to know that they can do it, and you might be the only example of this,

but you’ve designed life that ensure that they will NEVER meet you.

A disservice is what you create in 360 degree form when you make decisions based on fear.
Its time to GET UP.

If you Need me to assist you, I am HERE

 

 

 

 

“Black Men DO Not Want Black Women???”

Written by Salkis Re
 
Begging of any kind immediately puts you in a subordinate position.
Stop harassing these black women that you “think” do not what to date you.black love
It doesn’t make a difference and NEWS FLASH,
you can’t SHAME men not changing their minds about where they want to insert their penises.
It is a totally waste of energy, and it send a message that you are insecure about your own self worth.
There is a power in SILENCE that is unequivocal to any vocalized aggression against black men who date outside their race.
 
And until YOU stop with your own hypocrisy, the double standards of who gets a pass when you YOURSELF are praying for an opportunity to have a mixed baby or a
Light skin child, when you stop supporting those swirling channels that get MILLIONS of views AND SUBSCRIBERS,
you stop beauty practices that reflected an alignment with what you CANNOT BE BIOLOGICALLY,
then and only then can we effectively take a position of “Injustice” with the vehicle of self honor and self respect and truth behind in.
 
You try to denigrate what you secretly have affection for.
You say you HATE when you really admire and privately wish
the cards of life would have dealt a different hand to you.
I have participated in the hypocrisy for many, MANY years.
I had a chip on my shoulder for light skin women for any woman
who appeared to be mixed race or who claimed blackness while enjoying ambiguity.
I went through a stage in high school were I relaxed my edges EVERY WEEEK!!.
Yeah, as soon as then naps started forming, I take a little tooth brush and zap that shit away.
I wanted no part of my blackness, and I hated other women because they didn’t have to go through what I went through.
Not being shut after sexually is a crushing blow to a girls self esteem here in America.
Because here in American, beauty is regarded as VIRTUE, as TRUTH, As GOODNESS.
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But beauty that comes from the validation of men always leads to self esteem issues.
It always leads to disease and mental instability.
Why?
Because his “love” for you is based on what he sees and this means that
you experience differences in your relationship when your looks start to change.
Beauty as a vehicle for companionship is a necessity, but approaching beauty as a “tool” rather than the sum total of your
self worth is a more balanced way to be because then you can manage
“change” and you will do things to maintain your beauty that are more productive
and nourishing to your body instead of destructive and corrosive to your physical form…
The bottom line is this: When you BEG, you get their PITY, Nothing more.
“Black Love” starts with you!
 
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis RE

Are You A PlaceHolder???

“Place Holders”
Written by Salkis Re
 
You think you fucked the shit outta him, yet he left you.
You think you are a dime piece, yet he left you.
You think you are the most intelligent woman he’s ever been with, yet he left you.
You think you are smarter than him, yet he left you.
You have a big ass, yet he left you.
You neck and chinned his dick till your throat was sore and snot ran out yuh nose, yet he left you.
You think you have manners and self respect, yet he left you.
You have a good paying job, yet he left.
You have a degree, yet he left you.
You didn’t have sex with him for 90 days, yet he still left
He never talked about sex, then you fucked him, and he still left you.
You have a tight pussy, yet he left you.
You look better than all his other girlfriends, yet he left you.
and on and on and on…
Lightskin black women
 
ALL of you’s on this list were/are PLACEHOLDERS.
A placeholder is a woman good enough for “now” or even a few years,
some of you are even married placeholders believe it or not!
And the gag is that all of the you’s on this list knew something wasn’t right.
You felt that something was wrong, you knew it!
 
You can regulate your pussy all day long, and it doesn’t cause you are not the “one” to begin with..
You claim you have preference, but men know you are liberal with your convictions, he’s banking on it.
 
You know what gets every woman caught into the net of PLACEHOLDER???
 

****FLATTERY******

 
Appealing to your vanity.
That knocks you off your throne EVERY FUCKING TIME!
What did I tell you before?
Without vanity, and appealing to your need to be validated through it, men have NO POWER OVER YOU..
He bends time, and dodges a lot of incidentals through flattering you.
He makes you feel like you are actually in a commitment,
that he actually has genuine feelings for you all through administering FLATTERY!
Lord help us if you feel he is handsome or better than you because of money or status our whatever,
then you’ll start making concessions in your boundaries in order to impress him!
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Be immoveable.
Be unshakable.
Be unimpressible.
Be unbothered.
Be self contained.
And just observe him like he is observing you.
DO not assume that anything being said, any show of affection, gifts or money is some actually show of true feelings.
Take your time.
DO not give u your vagina.
BE fabulous, cordial, and unapologetic about your personal magic…
Be different.
Be unafraid to show flaws.
Honor the value you have for yourself at all time,
and do not negotiate your morals..
Now go back and RECLAIM YOUR THRONE!!back queens
IF you need to talk to be privately, find me HERE
 
 

Being a Witch Over Your Life!

So today lets talk about you.
Why are you so afraid of people? Why do you care more about what they think about you, than what you think about yourself?

Doesn’t make sense right?
But you do it! You will spend the majority of your life doing it until you become old and with grouchy chip on your shoulders inspired by the reality that you have to face.

 

What’s that reality?
That you’ve wasted your life…

That is where you are headed if you don’t grow a new set of ovaries and get on with living.
Failure is UNAVOIDABLE.
But it’s not humiliating .
It will not diminish your value.

Failure is merely a blueprint of what NOT to do anymore.
And isn’t it a good thing to know what you should avoid?
Isn’t knowing a generally self serving thing that makes you wise!?

The Wiz

Ain’t you tired of playing yourself small to save face?
Are you not bored to tears with all this “playing it safe” that you are doing?

Are you getting more love and more LIFE for your lack of effort?

Are people respecting you more because they never see you make a mistake?

Are you satisfied with doing the same thing you’ve done for the last 10 years of your life?

No growth.
No change.

 

Yet you are not standing still. You are not moving forward with any of your goals, but you are on a slow decline.

That is scary: Moving downward instead of upward I mean.

Your actions are your magic wand you know.

You are the MAGI, the magician, The Fairy Godmother over your own life!!

But you sit there staring at the wand/your talents scared to use it because you are afraid of the outcome.

 

 

NEWS FLASH!!!

You will never be able to control the “outcome” of anything you do.
But you CAN control the PROCESS of getting there. What you toil on, what you practice daily is what you have 100% control over!
FOCUS ON THAT!!!!!!!

 

 

And release yourself from he anxiety over the end result.

The end result turn out to be less than you were hoping for,

or BETTER than your wildest dreams,

but doing NOTHING ensures that NOTHING will happen either way.

GET UP!!

Dorothy in the Wiz

So I’m gonna tell you to walk through your trials  just like Dorothy did.

Walk through it to find what you are made of,

and you will realize just like she did that **THE POWER WAS WITHIN YOU ALL ALONG!**

 

 

Thick Locs
Artist?Life Coach ~Salkis RE

 

Who Am I?
A Magi!
A Medicine Woman
AND and **ARTIST on a crusade to create a quiet revolution and **mental freedom** for women of color,

I have dedicated my life mission and purpose to helping your find that sweet spot, that hole that unlocks the key to color your black and white life…

I was afraid just like you.
And sometimes I still am, but I WELCOME THE PROCESS and invite you to do the same.<-

If you need me, find me :HERE

STOP ACTING DESPERATE!!!

If you act desperate, you will be used and abused: plain and simple.
Why?
Because desperation denotes powerlessness, and perception that you don’t have another option.

I don’t give a shit if you are a live-in girlfriend or a long time wife,

you can and had better maintain emotional control over your environment by decimating urges to share your vulnerability.

Do not allow any man to propagate to you that he is your ONLY option; he’ll just use your cosign to justify abusing you.

If you maintain an ABUNDANCE mindset, his propaganda can/will be cut at his jugular vein.
Do not give concern, do not be an audience member for his “tear you down show”

Freeform locs
Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

No ma’am!
Leave him to talk to HIMSELF about what he feels about YOU.
Your display of CONCERN is what gives his glibness meaning. And you get nothing but half-ass pity for showing your foibles too.

He acts a fool, you smirk, give a shrug, and walk away as if you are unconditionally unbothered!

To recap this transmission, I will say that the only reason you are being controlled

is because you allowed him to create *neediness and *insecurity within your mind.

How should you think?
You should think that he is in your life because you WANT/ED him there, not because you

NEED/ED him there. And you have to act like that even if you actually do need him.

NEVER acknowledge your weaknesses to him,

but always just be thankful and gracious for his *contributions and let that be that…

Remember that you are the gift. You are the prize. He should be the one fighting for your love, not the other way around!

Stop with the equality nonsense and understand your position as a woman is ALWAYS better than that of a man.

We are both cursed you know. Man being the beast of burden, cursed to work by the sweat of his brow, and we…

well are cursed by needing to submit to him…

There is no way around misfortune, unfairness, hardships,

but you make life harder for yourself when you spend it trying to be something that men do not respect, admire, or love…

 

YOU ARE A WOMAN!! That brings with it a treasure desperately imitated by so many pay bring money to mimic.

You walk around with your GOLD and your value is always present, always with and within you!

Don’t give that up to toil the earth like men. A man’s purpose is to protect you and provide for you;

there is no other need for him in your life besides that.

And when you narrow down the innuendo,

when you cut the ambiguity and misinterpretations that come with emotional feelings, that’s all you have left to surmise.

PROTECT AND PROVIDE!

*****If You need to Speak with me privately, I am HERE

Slave Mentality

As a business owner, I have to wear many hats. I am a marketer, a creator, a branding ambassador, a sales person, a counselor and sooooo many other things.

It’s HARD work. But the reward is that I get to call my own shots and for me, that position is priceless.

The road of self sufficiency is for lunatics!!

Yeah, I admit it!

You have to be crazy to actually try to salvage your freedom by working for yourself when it’s so much easier to work someone else’s 9-5.

DO your 8 hours and clock out, then rest of it is for someone else to worry about cause you are off the clock!

I have come to the conclusion that most of us do not want freedom.

Yep! Sad but true.

Most people just want to be comfortable, not FREE.

Just a little more paid vacation time. 5 dollars more an hour would feel like a life changing event for most.

And they’d take it willingly too.

That is all your time is worth?

A dollar or two more an hour plus “overtime” and you’d grind until your knuckles bleed for the bottom line of someone else you NEVER even see.

The listen to what someone ( who is barely more qualified than you) tell when to take a lunch or when you can leave. Grrrrrrrrrrrr!

Get’s me hot just typing this!

I’m doing this post to jolt you!

A lot of you women I coach  want to be entrepreneurs, but you’re too scared to make the start.

You are thinking about failure before you even try.

You think that ship has sailed and that you missed your boat of opportunity and correct timing.

ALL LIES!!

There is nothing more precious than time: NOTHING!!

And the time you spend toiling for someone else, working all that overtime hours for the Uncle Sam to take half of,

could be spent planting seeds for your personal growth and development.

You could be creating the next million dollar idea on those night and weekends.

You could be perfecting that invention instead of looking for an escape from the thought of going back to work come Monday morning..

TODAY IS A NEW PAGE OF YOUR LIFE

Will your story be boring, repetitious, filled with horrors?

Your actions are you pen… so write a story you’d be proud to tell…

“Medicine Woman”

~Salkis Re

“How Do You Get a Man to Love You? “

 

Beautiful Black Women
Life CoachArtist ~Salkis Re

Well there are a few hard truths to swallow before you can position yourself for that possibility.
Some things that you will have to do are:
🌼1)Bite your tongue.
🌼2)Swallow your pride.
🌼3) Be charming.
🌼4)Play dumb.
🌼5)Act helpless.
🌼6) Stay away from intoxicants.
🌼7) Have excellent hygiene.
🌼8) Dress to compliment your form,
🌼9)Workout.
🌼10) Eat right.
🌼11) Pray.
🌼12) Do not upstage him with your intellect.
🌼13) Do not act like you can’t live without sex.
🌼14) Do not have sex too frequently because your “novelty” will wear off faster than is beneficial to you.
🌼15) Act like you are accustomed to nice things.
🌼16) Make sure you are more good looking than he is, preferably 3-5 points higher in the scale.
🌼17) Resist being argumentative because this is a sign that you care. And you shouldn’t.
🌼18) Do not check up on him or grill him about whereabouts.
🌼19) Do not consider procreation with him until you have been Married for a while because being a mother is a “little death” towards your “sexual attractiveness”..

🌼🌼20) This one’s most important. Allow a man to “pick” you. Do not fall for the sexual liberation trap that makes you think you can discern interest in a man that YOU desire, you’ll end up giving him pussy he didn’t need to perform to get.

Motivational Quotes
Aritist/ Life Coach
~Salkis Re

Do NOT pursue a man you have to convince will like your “type” i.e.(fat, dark, shorthair, skinny),

That, “You don’t know what your missing” sales pitch: piss on it and let it burn cause you are setting yourself up for “pick me” abuse.

Final words, by no means is this a comprehensive list, it is merely a foundation to build on to the other things that must be done that require mentalism and self control.

Love Doesn’t exist in romantic relationships, this is why you HAVE to do all the steps I listed to coax those feelings out of him.

When you accept that love is a game, and an unfair one at that, then you will move your mind out of the conflict of right and wrong with what you MUST do to position yourself as a woman of value.

AND………
Get over your tug of war.
Get over this happily ever after that you are ashamed you don’t have yet.
Respect the wisdom your experience has bestowed upon you.
Stop thinking that the TRUTH is sad..
Take the “BLACK PILL”
And gain control of your emotions.

Amen, Amun, Ameen
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

Witches
Salkis Re, Artist/ Author/Poet/Life Coach

Love Who Loves You!

Native American Art
Artist, Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

When we women realize that love is the manipulated emotion a human being with ever have??

I am talking about romantic love…

There is nothing NATURAL about it.

Two people come together hiding what they are ashamed of, making promises/DEALS for what they intend to give each other IF one or the other subscribes to the SALES PITCH…

Then after some time together, each person oozes out their darker side, their unreasonable side, the side that was being held back right until the perfect time to reveal the venom and the devilish tendencies to the other person…

 

Then after a few emotional events, many some good sex and a lot of time together, they decide to pair bond and cuff each other down for the duration…

That is what love amounts too..

But it is STILL an awesome deal, relationships that is…

It is still one of the most satisfying things a woman can do!

Children come from that deal, and if two people can find common ground,

they actually can make each other BETTER souls on this earth…

Its just not a fairytale is all…

Its work, struggle,  and a great deal of disappointment,

but its better than going through life alone and unchallenged.

My opinion…

 

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

Click HERE

 

 

“Single Mothers are a HUGE Liability?”

 

The discussion about single mothers as potential wives came up on my recent You Tube Video… My response is REALITY, not filled with idealism or optimism for that matter. My posting this dialog for YOUNG ladies who do NOT have children yet.
Take Heed…

Male Viewer Comment:
I think love and relationships are more complex. If my son married a woman with a child, i would be happy for him.
Perhaps HE could be the only hero in the child’s life.

Child or no child, the woman should be a loving person. I hope that she would be less Machiavellian…less jaded.
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My Response:
Every woman who HAS a past is “jaded” to some degree. And if she was left a single mother, she should be EXTREMELY cautious in safeguarding against a repeating choices that led her there in the first place.
A single mother comes with extra scars, but if her motivation is strong enough, she CAN compensate for the any emotional shortcomings by concentration on her what is virtuous about her. But the “jaded” part really applies to ANY woman who has had sperm inside of her.
It creates a touch of lunacy in us all to be honest..

 

 

Abstract Portrait Painting
“Holding On To Love” Art by Salkis RE CLICK HERE

 

Male Viewer Comment:
Salkis Re Most women I know with one child say it is best thing that ever happened to them.
However, i understand what you are saying about exercising caution.

Do you think single men who have full custody of a child also lack a certain amount of character?
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My Response:
And why do you think women say that? I will tell you. It’s because for the FIRST time, they are experiencing TRUE love.

A man who has full custody of his children exemplifies compassion and emotional connect to his children even when he could have walked away. That is different, its “Noble” even.

Loving Single-motherS

WHY?
Because he is not expected to “want” to shoulder all the Responsibility like women. A woman’s value is in question because when “She” brings other mens children, she brings “bills”, she brings a “something must be wrong with you for him to walk from you and your children” UNLIKE the single father.

WHY?
Because she is looking to be cared for by a man. And because of this, for her, it is a FLAW, and a REDUCTION in her MARKETABILITY because she requires MORE output of his resources as well as the expectation to muster up some sort of LOVE and CARE for children that are not is own.

BIG Liability! Especially when men struggle to communicate and show interest/emotional concern for children that are biologically his.

Not what women want to hear and not what men would admit…..

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis RE

If you are looking for someone to talk to about your love life or anything you need help figuring out, please do not hesitate to contact me. Yo can reach me at salkis@iloveherart.com or book a session with me if your are ready to rock and roll!

YOU ARE UGLY!!

You ARE UGLY!!

So I did a video on my You Tube channel called:
“You Are Not Pretty Enough To Get The Man You Want?”
Now I addressed some sensitive things in that video about attractiveness and how it plays a major role in the quality level of the men we get.

The FACTS: All women are not beautiful. It sounds good, it Makes some us feel good when other women say it. But they are lying to those of us who know that we are not able average in looks, maybe even below average in looks.

I have stated many MANY times that I consider myself to be VERY average, some days less than that. So I make sure I eat right and do the things to maintain my wellbeing so that no deficits are exaggerated.

Women who are not conventional beauties must the need for validation in terms of beauty. It is often a lie, the flattery I mean. And it is used to ‘soften” your defenses: its purpose is to create emotional dependency and allows your body to be used as a tool for pleasure and recreation.

 

abstract artSo here is the deal actually, I advise ALL WOMEN, no matter how beautiful they are, to remove the NEED for validation of your vanity. Make you beauty or lack there of, inconsequential so that you are released from the anguish of acceptance by men or doing things to win their approval that perpetuates vulnerability and low self esteem…

When you take Vanity out of the equation, you remain RIGHT MINDED, not easily persuaded to conform to the will of men, and YOU get to remain in authority of YOUR perception of your worth whether pretty or ugly….

Do you know how autonomous it feels to eviscerate the “WORRY” that comes from he obsession with vanity?? Men have absolutely no emotional power over you when you take away the his power to validate your looks…

So nature has dealt you some cards, and you have to play these cards throughout your life. Take the vanity card OFF the table and get your AUTONOMY back…
Simple as That…

“Medicine Woman”
~ Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE