Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

African American Artist
Artist, Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

African American Art
Art by Salkis Re

STEP ONE

So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)

STEP TWO

Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.

STEP THREE

Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.

STEP FOUR

Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?

Xoxo,

Salkis

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

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Solar Eclipse Is Here! Time To Manifest Everything You Want#!

__********->A Total Solar Eclipse is Happening today!! The last time we had one was in 1979!!
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So the moon will block out the sun totally for a short time today and this natural event as not happened since 1979.. There’s a 70 mile stretch called the “path of totality” where areas of the US will be completely blacked out. States like South Carolina, Oregon and on into Canada and South America too..

  • So why is this one so freaking awesome?
    Because it will cut across the United States diagonally and the last time that happened was in the year 1918..
    OK, so what does it mean for you and I?
    This is like New Year’s Day.
    A new begining.
    A fresh start.
    Set your intentions and make SELF care an absolute priority today.
    This is your do over. Your zero time reference and you should treat it like your mother just gave birth to you today..
    Seriously…
    You might feel a little off emotionally and physically during this time, BUT this is a powerful manifesting time. The energy is high high high.

A few things you should do while we are in this solar eclipse:

1– Set Your Intentions
Write down on a piece of paper what you want to manifest or release. Smoke the paper with burning sage and watch the paper burn. Say your intention while watching the paper burn completely out. Then whisper a prayer of gratitude and end with “So shall it be done.

 

2-Drink Lots of Water
This is a perfect time for cleansing and detoxing. Flush your system out with water to purify yourself.

3-Create!
If you draw, paint, sew, write, or dance, then do it today! Your creativity will be heightened ten fold.

4- Channel Your Feminine Goddess
Now this one is what I’m doing in beast mode from this point on. It’s ALL about feminine sexual energy for me and I’m channeling it into everything that I do from my paintings, to exercise, even cooking is sensual event for me. My intention with harnessing the goddess energy is to arrest any residual suppressive thoughts and old programming about good girl verse bad shut within me. I am embracing ALL of me.
Be unapologetic today. Be in full reverence of your womanhood today because it will set the tone for the weeks and months to come.
Rock on Creatrixx!!

Recite this Affirmation I Created for You Today:
“I Have Everything”

Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017
I pledge allegiance to myself and all the things that I do.
All my thoughts turns to gold and all my dreams come true.
What I ask my Mother Earth for is what I absolutely deserve.
And good fortune is my best friend, for I get all I want in this world.

 

*Share that affirmation with your homegirls today.
Powerful!

And if you want to really kick this new you into hypermode, then let me teach you the secrets to fulfillment and total ownership of your life emotionally, financially and romantically.  Click Here

 

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