Interracial Dating is For Desperate Lonely Black Women!

“Interracial Dating”
Written by Black Hat Practictioner, Salkis Re

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SWIRLING, MATING AND YOUR RIGHT TO CHOOSE

I have made videos in the past addressing the matter of black women this thing called “swirling” before.

I personally feel that dating and mating is not a community event and that there are no obligations to

Ancestors, Ghosts, Angels, Demons, God, Krakens and whatever else you’ve passed your shame, blame and fears on too.

You can and will decide what you want to be matched to based on your own emotions,

your insecurities, self esteem, intellect, past sexual experiences, whether you’ve been sexually violated or not, and on and fucking on it goes.

 

YOU CHOOSE MATES BASED ON YOUR FEARS!!

And someone who chooses to “stay with their race” is NOT divorce from their fear of rejection, self doubt,

peer pressure, not wanting to go to hell,

people pleasing, and all manner of imaginative reasons for choosing or not choosing mates.

My only angst in all this is the perception that you as a woman could be “winning” by having relationships with “boyfriend’s”.

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Thinking Bigger Of Yourself than you Actually ARE!!

There is nothing to aggrandize yourself about if you have a “boyfriend”.

He, no matter what skin suit he wears, is enjoying you and your body without the requirement of motivation of Commitment or the shouldering any risk.

To me, the ultimate expression of “love” is when a person is willing to shoulder Commitment/cutting off other options/woman to have you in his life.
If he isn’t willing or able to do so, then there is no win for you. And your vagina is a “rental” until he finds his “dream home”.

 

So to end this CLASS session today

So to end this CLASS session today, I will tell you to think before you act. No matter how light skin he is, how soft his hair is, how pretty his smile is, how mannerly he seems, how good he sucks and fuccs you, THINK about your bottom fuccing line at ALL times… RELEASE THE KRAKEN and get what’s rightfully yours…

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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The Other Side of Your Good Side…

 

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Abstract Art Series by Salkis Re

Love isn’t what you think it is

Young women, I implore you to consider what you’ve already been through in order to absorb what I’m about to say.

I ask you to examine your past or even current relationship to find the congruency between your experience and my advice.

The love you want is called “passion”. It is a feeling of intense desire and longing for another person.

Passion itself is brought on by the building up of anxiety/suffering over what you do not posses.

Before you engage in sex with a man, he LOVES you.

By loves definition here, I mean that he has PASSION=love in his heart for you because he wants/desires to have your body.

So what will he do to quell and satisfy his desire for you?

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.

 

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.
The constant sweet nothings in your ear, the display of concern( calling after work or when you’ve arrived back home from a date).

If he is really attracted to you, you will get little gifts, nice dinners, all of which are INVESTMENTS towards swift SALE of your vagina.

The dates are to make you excited, to make you want him even more because of the joyous experiences he’s providing you with.

And the hours of cell phone talk and his attentiveness and interest in

what you have to say leaves you with the impression that guys have this thing you call a “Connection”.

And though you are a little unsure. Though you suspect it might be too soon to open your legs,

you let your emotions override your mental reasoning.

Why?

Oh because you don’t trust your own mind;

you think you are over thinking this and that you’re gonna miss an opportunity to be with a great man…

And then you open your thighs to him because he wined and dined you,

and you talked with him for hours, and enticing yet “Deferred” promises to you for month or more,

so you think he is THE ONE.
And the love making was fantastic, or average, or not so good at all.

But it doesn’t matter if it was good or not to you because you are “open” now.

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

 

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

His thirst is quenched, and HIS anxiety over you has turned back into self confidence.

The job is complete; the eagle has landed; the ejaculation has happened and now he can relax again.

The first thing you will notice is that your phone conversations shorten,

or that when you do talk, he seems distracted and not as enthralled with your conversation.

Then calls become less frequent because he is suddenly too “busy” to make time to talk.

Dates begin to cancel or begin to cheapen in quality.

The connection you swore you felt in the beginning,

now starts to dwindle down to begging for his time.

Why is this? Because after sex, women begin to smother,

cling, and display insecurity, couple this with having already tasted

your “sauce” and he has absolutely no incentive to DESIRE/LOVE you anymore.

So what do you do to avoid this?

The truth?

Some of you can’t avoid it because you are entrenched in insecurity and low self esteem.

Your heart will be broken again this year because your focus is the hot button tips and tricks on how to ensnare a man,

and the Snake Oil Conjurers will gladly exchange HOPE for your money.

A woman who Puts on her BLACK HAT understands that to fix this,

she must bring forth her inner BITCH!!!

YOUR “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

 

Her “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

She doesn’t think in CONJECTURE. She understands human nature.

She isn’t conflicted about her worth or the outcome she wants her lover to provide.

It IS, what F’ing IS!!!!!!!

Compassion and agreeableness is what women are hardwired to be,

but can your compassion protect you from Manipulation

that you will face whether HE IS GENUINELY INTERESTED OR NOT????
No. It won’t…
What YOU want comes FIRST, and what he wants is SECONDARY..

Life Coach, Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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You Deserve the Best From Men!!

“Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

 

Listen, when it comes to relationships with men, this thing is really simple.

Relationships, whether it’s for romantic or for business purposes,

the RESULT should  ADVANCE you…

 

There is no reason to commit yourself to a man who does not provide an opportunity

to improve and enhance your physical experience. ~Salkis Re

 

This thing is not about empty promises.

And in my opinion, this notion that you have to have this thing called

LOVE to accompany the agreement to commit to someone,

more often than not, it causes blurred lines, confusion and,

misinterpretations of material and emotional unfairness.

 

What is the purpose of having a MAN?

Don’t answer so quick.

I want you think about this deeply.

I want you to consider the value that love has as a sentiment.

And value love has as an ACTION.

Because a great many women that I work with, hold equal merit for love as a statement and love as an action.

 

Protect, and Provide…

That should be the foundation of a relationship with any man….

Forget the fucking lists.

Forget all this complicated variables.

Forget what your FEELINGS tell you because they lie too!

Simplify your life WOMAN.

Don’t allow THEM to confuse you into paralysis and passivity  because you will end up giving in

and giving up without proper negotiation for a more secure standing.

Nothing is free in life, Not even LOVE!

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Your Dark Side

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“Goddess Energy”
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Every woman I Coach is in conflict to some degree with their darker side. They want things that they carry shame for wanting. They want to be in control but they want it to come naturally.. They want to be the center and the main focus in the lives of men who are not incentivized to put them in that position.

And they repress and deny their desires because it’s not ‘good’ to have them, yet in a sick twist of irony, the every men who’s will they concede to get to exercise their dark sides by imposing emotional hardship and in some instances,  physical trauma too.

Women ‘allow’ a center stage to the free will and the selfish proclivities of the people, yet think its ‘wrong’ to insist that their own free will is undeserving to roam free.

Self decieving is what that’s called. A belief in something you do NOT agree with.

What fools women ‘decide’ that they have to be.

Wake Up Little Mummy.

Rise from your sarcophagus and start to live your life, on your terms and in a way that preserves LIVING flesh.

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“Mistress of Words”

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“Medicine Woman”

“Creative Soul”

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Stitching Up the Cut!

 

 

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“People want trust, they want a guarantee. But they don’t keep their word to themselves. They do not honor personal commitment but quickly cite it as a character flaw in people they are expecting to produce for them. How can you trust anyone when you do have trust in yourself? You break vows you’ve made to treat your *own self better, yet you assert harsh criticism and disappointment in others who failed in keeping their pledge to treat you better. Better than what? How you treat yourself?¿

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To heal, you don’t “Ignore”, you “Expose” it. You have to acknowledge and face your own corruption and the graveyard of broken promises you’ve made to yourself. Don’t expect people to bandaid you. Stop expecting people to treat you better than you treat yourself. All a relationship amounts to is an outward extension of how you feel about you. The bandaid is not enough; you need clean out the wound and stitch it up so that it/you can heal.
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Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
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Be Who You Are!!

 

 

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

I get it!
You don’t want to look like a fool.
You don’t want to seem strange to people.
What want to be “normal” like everybody else.
All illusions though and elaborate figments of your imagination.
Why?
Because being like everybody else is comfortable, but it doesn’t mean that people will automatically care about you, and it certainly doesn’t guarantee love!
Quite the opposite is true.

Let me hip you to a secret about people. When you conform to their way, the perception of your value is immediately reduced in their minds.
Why Salkis?

Because to be like them when they have secret loathing within them means that you are as good or not as good as they are, and if you are on the same level, there is no reason to respect you.

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Salkis Re

People respect those they deem better than themselves. The “herd” mentality offers comfort in that there is no one to compete with, no one to take her boyfriend away or get promoted over her at work. It’s like we all are comfortable in our collective misery, steering clear of out shining each other: BUT we don’t respect each other either.

So I got a bit sentimental today and loaded up my pen to write down what you should do.
The point is to NEVER conform. You will ALWAYS reduce yourself if you do.
Why? Because the people you are “trying” to be like are already “doing them” better than you can!

Do YOU!

My Poem:

What You See” Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Why are you so afraid
of people seeing who you are,
or doing what your heart wants you to do?
The best thing you should be wanting
is to do things so people stop fronting
like they ever really cared about you.

Your obligation is to your dreams
and making sure that what you’ve seen
becomes real for all to bear witness.
And if people admire you
then see that as nothing more than a result from you minding your business.

Pledge your allegiance to yourself
and all that you wish you could be.
Let no one interrupt,
the flow of what you want
And never be afraid of showing them
what you’ve always wanted yourself to see.

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
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Lions and Tigers and Bears Dorothy!!! Follow The Yellow Brick Road

I have been added without request several crazy groups where women post provocative pics and guys, well guys get all excited and complimentary or at least they give the illusion of being complimentary, but some of these women are getting clowned and they are not well versed in communication, but I guess who needs to think that deep when the goal is attention. Its quite painful to watch actually because you know they have no clue that some are disgusted yet toying with her emotions.

I get all in my feelings about it.

If I was a bear, I’d growl,

 

 

 

 

 

 

if I was a wolf, I’d howl,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If I was a bird I’d watch you like a  hawk

 

 

 

 

and if I was a lion I’d stalk.

 

 

 

I  hate the misrepresentation and the mental weakness of it all.

Love yourself.

And in loving yourself, you can start to see what is nurturing to you. Some of you do not know that these men are “joshing” you and really not that big of a deal ,UNTIL it leads you into private conversations with him.

We need women to encourage us, sell is the dream, comfort and lick our wounds: and then there’s me. The one that holds the mirror up to all that you hide cause you can only concern things when you stop pretending they are not there.

I see new cycles of old shyte starting all over again and the year is only two days old. I see that some of you are gonna act like you were in a coma for all of 2016. Wake up sleeping beauty.

Here, drink this tea with me..
“Your Life Coach, Artist/Author/Poet” ~Salkis Re

 

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“The ‘Act” of Unconditional Love”

                                                                      “Secrets Under My Skirt” Poem by Salkis Re

Most of us women have been “trained” to “act” in ways that will be appealing to men. To talk softly and smile, be agreeable and non threatening. No up-staging or acting like we know it all, I’d even go so far as to play dumb in order to be a good subordinate. You can’t overrule the king, and you certainly better not if you are closer to average looking or you’ll blow straight into oblivion the entire “mirage” of your “packaged” beauty.

Trained and ready to serve is the initiation into womanhood for most of us. Everybody worrying about gray hair and keep the body together so his “love” never ceases. And some of you still have the audacity to utter ideals of unconditional love when you’ve been conditioned your entire life for that love..

Great romances abound. I see intense kisses and braggadocios parading using “planned” photo ops of blissful folly to make the ether audience entertained and slightly jealous too. You’ve felt inadequate since the first cartoon you watched and that first comb you put to your barbie doll’s head. Everywhere you turn, there is a “problem” or a “flaw about you that needs tending too. EVERYWHERE!! And that inadequacy drowns the heart worry and fear. You compete with women who don’t even know you, you try up outclass and eclipse the women who threaten your livelihood/man.

Lol what is the tea? Men love sex more than they love women. And your hole holds more value than you whole. As a matter of fact, the rest of your body, your needs just get in the way as that hole is used like a toilet bowl for his frustration and stress. But that’s another post. I don’t want you to think I’m brooding here, and I certainly am not recruiting for any hidden: let’s all hate men propaganda. Men are yummy, and admirable, some god-like even.

Most of the people I look up to are indeed men. When they are worthy of course..

So no, I want you to have love by whatever it represents to you.  I don’t focus on the hope part because I know we have the scornful parts of ourselves to even get to a place where we can see what deserves the time to cultivate love. The parts you hide, are the parts you have to see so you can release your shame, doubt and fear of not being good enough for the very love you want..

Who’s zooming who? Like a Lady Aretha Franklin says..

I’m being bit facetious now, but the point must be made.

The tea is medicinal, tastes bitter, yet always needed.

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

The Great Pretenders

I watch people,

I listen.

I ponder.

I wonder about ‘us’. Us women I mean.

And how we are afraid of things that give us no legitimate cause to fear while other things display their harm to us repeatedly yet we stay the course, weather the storm, hope for the best, bestow optimism towards. You do these things for everybody else but yourself. You can see the bright side of a slap in the face if his d&85k makes you cum.
But for you, well.. you doubt even what you know you are capable of!
Why do you do this?

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Who taught you to hate yourself this much? When one person says your nothing, you think the world agrees with him. Truth is, I’m asking like I have not been you, and I have. What I am trying to do here is save you time, to help you learn the lesson fast and live slow. Time is important, the most important thing you got.
Time is not money, its more valuable than money because money cannot renew it; once its gone, its gone forever… The truth is bitter, the truth is not harsh:

THE TRUTH IS YOUR BEST AND ONLY FRIEND!! I need for you to want it, to crave it.
It is the only thing that will bring your right mind back you know. You got to dance with it in order to heal and transform..
From the desk of “Your Life Coach” ~Salkis Re
If you are ready to be who you were meant to be, not what they say you HAVE to be, but what you were meant to be then pick up this template of wisdom I have to share.
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The Farce of Romance


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I love..love. I think romance is the juice that runs through the veins of all relationships. Its makes people crave each other, makes them want to fuck and give gifts and procreate. Romance and love, people think they are the same.

But they are not.

Love needs no entertaining, it’s a feeling you have when you don’t have to speak to each other. It’s a comfort that comes from just being in the space you room as the person you care about.

Yeah.

Love is ‘care’ it’s a deep concern for the person you are sharing your life with. It’s those kisses he wants even before you’ve brushed your teeth. It’s the encouragement she knows you need without you even saying a word. Love becomes instinctive when you care deeply about a person.

Romance is beguiling

Smiling…. But romance.. Romance is beguiling. It encourages feelings that you may not want to feel. It ‘creates’ emotional, coaxes them to the surface. Romance confuses all logic. He may not be good for you, but he feels good to you kind of a thing.

We all want to tune out or turn off reality at times, romance obliges that need with pleasurable escapes. Get-ways from responsibilities back home. You can have another  life for a night or maybe a whole weekend where there is all this good food you didn’t have to cook and fucking in a bed you don’t have to make up.

It would be beautiful to have both though!

All the things you want to hear are said, true or not they may be, but the honesty in it all is not a requirement for romance to pull off without a hitch.  It would be beautiful to have both though. But it would mean that you have to be close and then a little vague too. To push and pull each other in order to make things feel new.

The etymology of the word Romance is defined as:

recite; composition in vernacular; verse narrative

In other words, it’s a pleasurable story, a language of niceties, verbal entertainment 

Me? Well, I don’t want your kiss as a gesture of good manners, I want the I’ve missed you kiss. But you have to actually miss me to be able to kiss me like that. Separate rooms maybe? Go see me mom for a month? Fuck you in another country? Awwwwww lol My vagina jumped for the latter option!

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The Pied Piper and Your Willing Sacrifice!

Your love for the lies…

You have a love affair with presentation, with the sweet nothings whispered in your ear. You meet girlfriends for drinks and ask them to speculate on the true intent of the man you love.
You worry. You worry because you know the answer already, you just want hope that its other than what you suspect. But the pied piper leads you to doom, not with bravado or hurtful rants. He leads you there by becoming the source of everything you’ve ever wanted.He listens to your woes with great interest and attention. He maps your weaknesses while offering delightful experiences to “restore” your excitement to dream and your faith in the unknown.

The Secret About All Magic

Yet, as with all good magicians and seducers, he “asks” for your permission to enter your mind. Spells and Your Binding Agreement
See, spells do not work if you are resistant. You must be a willing participant for beguilement. You must be “open” to suggestion and this is why are find yourself all in love with him before he reveals his intent and the truth of his heart. No darling, you are very very much in control: you give up your control because you think his offer is more splendid than anything you already posses. You will learn more about real magic and how it operates in your life as we work together. But for now, understand that is the only way that manipulation can work is  you have to first believe that you have a problem and secondly, that HE possess the power to solve it!

Once that is established, then you are locked in.

I told you before, Dracula must be invited in, even the Devil had to has God permission to tempt you!! What does this mean for you personally though? Well it means that you are playing a victim of the very decisions you make. you have allowed your emotions to dictate policy and your mode of operations. And this is why your math never adds up, this is why you can’t quantify the value this person brings to your life. You can’t think straight because you are not using that part of your mind t think, you are using your emotions to think Big mistake!.
The warning signs come though.

You are NEVER let without Gods guidance.

You just choose to override the nudge, that off feeling, or that gnawing in your stomach because its unscientific. But what could be more unscientific than hypothetical plans for a future you may not be the one he chooses to have one with?

First Decree: Tell The Truth To Yourself At All Times..
Salkis Re “Your Life Coach”

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Baking Cakes So He Can Break Bread!

Those women that tell you that you can do without, are themselves doing WITH and laugh as that ransack your house while they steal the spoils of war. This aggression makes us diseased, angry for no reason, it bloats our binge-eating bellies and hurries us to our graves.

We must let go.

We must let go of what we think is power and ignite what is actually power. Men take orders, they don’t give them. They need a purpose and a reason to strive or they’ll fall back in their beer stained easy chairs sweating out piss from their foreheads while they wonder all the “what if’s” of life. His purpose should be to please you and keep you safe. This is what he’s designed to do. If you play your part, your role will not wear him out, it will strengthen him and make him sharper still. Be a woman through and true woman.


I’m talking about being in expectation, NOT neediness

I’m designed to receive and when i’m not receiving, i’m not thriving. Getting your own is good but it doesn’t satisfy like being given does. There are parts of me that are off limits to everyone, those parts require my energy alone, and we all should have an off limit side to keep the mind mentally balanced. Being needy is an example of an unbalanced woman. I’m talking about being in expectation, NOT neediness; there is a difference in results and a difference in respect for each of those. Become a woman who expects the best from your man. You can make do if you’re by yourself. Wink!

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Love Tender, Love Me True…

Never had a real shot at this love thing. I’m either caught begging or regretting. I’m either settling or chasing. They love me and I don’t love them, or I love them and they could care less about me. Been looking for the circle of reciprocity for as long as penises have entered my vagina. I hurt and supplied hurt. I sit at the window of my thoughts hoping that my karma has finally burned out for a fresh start at this romance game. Looking for someone I could be proud to call my own. Will it come? I’m not sure. I hope so. I can only settle my mind, body and soul in preparation for receiving it. But I got a million stories out the heartbreak deal, and my willingness to share has made for new friends. I would rather they not try to exploit my transparency cause its as if they think I expose myself in order to be used again.. Lol I laugh when they come trying to put band aids on old wounds.

I’m bored with their attempts to console me. Don’t play me for a victim because I have exposed myself to you. Those things you know of me have been worked out already, so its time to tell me about you. Can you reveal the things that make you look less put together? Can you show vulnerability? Will you show concern for me more than proper manners of “how are you”? How deep will you go to have me in your world? That is the question. Stop trying to figure out how you can get something out of me without risk or loss. You will have to give up something to be with me, your job is simply to decide how much of a risk im worth you taking. Its as simple as that. I win however the dice may role. There are plenty of ‘sure bets’ out here so don’t try to guilt me into offering you the opportunity to receive the results you are used to getting for those girls who are not goal oriented. I am not a manipulator: what I am however, is an “Uncoverer”, and by the time I’m finished finding out all you try to hide we both will be giggling as we relax into friendshipping each other.

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I’m Pretty? Ok, What’s the Catch?

I can’t help it, I immediately go to suspicion of motives when I here kind words. I can accept a compliment, and I do enjoy them. I just know that there is most often an intention from the giver that drives them to these utterances. It could be as something as them feeling good about themselves so they are compelled to spread the cheer, to someone wanting to hold your attention long enough to invite further conversation. Then there are others who just use it to fish out what you feel about yourself by paying attention to your responses.

Let’s use the weight thing as an example cause I’ve been , skinny and now I”m slim thick I suppose so here:

“You look great in that dress!”

“Oh! this ole thing, maybe 10lbs ago!”.

“Your proportioned very nicely, I think you are perfect!”

You smile as you try to accept the kindness within his words.

He is attractive, so in your mind he can exercise his authority to speak on matters of attractiveness. He has your mind occupied with plethora of possibilities. You finally buy few new things for yourself, and it has been forever since a new dress has touch your thighs. You want more of that reassurance, and he is the only one that has given it to you without asking for anything in return. He is genuine, and humble to think of you as his equal when you clearly do not think of yourself as such. BUT ,you ate the bait, hook, line and sinker. And after a few more episodes of pleasantries that he peppers with affirmations of seeing you the way no one else can, your resistance to any possible falsehood is obliterated!

It is just a dangerous game to engage in the dance of mating when you feel unsure of yourself . You are like an open wound waiting for someone to come and stitch you up because you want them to love what you don’t love about yourself. This my dear will cost you dearly. Commit to self improvement and the accept what is unchangeable about you. This way, you can stay grounded when anyone comes into your life with declarations of loving what they themselves might think of as flaws. Essentially, it’s about knowing exactly who you are, not waiting for someone to affirm things you cannot  independently validate.

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Dr Sebi Cures
Me and Dr Sebi

 

Dr. Sebi is one of those fearless people I’ve had the pleasure of spending one on one time with, and a nonstop comedy show actually. No filter, no edits, no “I shouldn’t say that”. Non of that. He is the first, well the only person I know that I was able be totally free to talk to about anything. You couldn’t make him blush, nothing was a ‘bad thing to say’ or inappropriate. He talked about his stint in the crazy hospital diagnosed with schizophrenia and how he cured his insanity and other ailments through diet and herbs. He talked a lot about his sex life. He leaned forward in his easy chair, took a puff to prep for his statement and yelled out:  “I love to f%%k, No, NO, I LIVE TO F%%K”  My mouth dropped and then I burst out laughing at the way he expressed his love of the p$$$y like he was reading the book of revelations. I wanted to jump up and say AMEN, but I was too busy laughing in shame at his bravado.

I Should Have Smoked With Him…

Sebi went in the back room and came out with a carry on size suitcase, he opened it up and it was full of weed. He looked at me smiling and I guess he was expecting me to prance up and down at the sight of plethora of green goodness, but I sat there with my mouth open. I think I lost some credibility with him cause I wouldn’t light one up cause he gave me this “Oh you one of them” looks. I did plan to try the peyote he raved about though, but I was scared of that too, hehe. I managed to muster up some courage to try the snake powder though. Pablo (Sebi’s right hand man) said, “Here Eat it, it cleans the blood”. With a squeamish look on my face, I sprinkled some powered on my tongue and waited to hurl, but It wasn’t bad though. It had a dried fish taste to me..

So back to Sebi. I sat there waiting for another wave of shameless banter to come from his lips but I had to wait for Pablo to finish rolling out his blunts, Sebi moved his attention to the soccer game on his wide screen while Pablo prepped the accoutrements for Sebi’s nonstop weed smoking fest. He lined up about 6 spliffs side by side on a little coffee table and put it next to Sebi’s chair with a lighter. The attendants came in with soup and tea for him. The food got cold, the tea collected dust, but ” Deh Erbs Cum Ahrund” like Collie Buddz say, lol. Well about an hour into the conversation I was in full contact off the smoke and I felt more relaxed and got the nerve up to ask him more personal questions. There was a young lady coming in and out of the bungalow periodically. She made his bed and picked up laundry and removed the food they kept bringing him that he wouldn’t eat. I’d catch her giving me the side eye every so often and I realized that she was possibly one of Sebi’s side chics.

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Sebi Likes them young but..

So I asked Sebi why he liked young girls . He said “I don’t want them, they want me and I can’t even insult them away from me, so I keep them around until they want to leave!” I looked at him and hung my head cracking up. Could this man be anymore full of himself I thought. But he was dead serious. “See I don’t believe in forcing people to love you, they either love you or they don’t. I don’t own anybody and they don’t own me!” So Sebi, you don’t get jealous? ” I asked. ” Once I caught my wife in bed f^^king another man, I told them don’t stop on my account, I’m just going to get my things so keep on f^^king!”. I bursted out laughing again but I was a little puzzled by his indifference, so the next question was: “SO you wouldn’t even fight for your woman Sebi?”

He took a puff and looked at me with this crazy look. “If she was mine, if she wanted to be with me, would I need to fight for her?” I’m not fighting with you or for you to be with me. We are all free.” He said. I looked at him and he looked at me. I had to process that you a minute. So simple yet powerfully true. He looked at me and I guess he knew he crushed some of my notions of love, but then I snapped back to life. “Wait Wait! You left your wife for sleeping around on you,but you expect your woman to stay with you if you cheat!” “I don’t expect sh&*t! If she feels another man can f$$k her better than me, I will help her pack and give him some herbs to keep hard too!”

Me glowing from the Thermal Waters *Dead.. I flat lined at that point and brother had to excuse himself for the umteenth time choking with laughter.

So clearly he is not into sharing his woman and not into keeping her if she don’t want to be kept. I asked about sex again. I couldn’t resist,lol. “Sebi  you never  had a good piece of a$$ to get you strung out? Be careful cause one of these young sweet thangs will put it on you and you will change your tune!” “I had a good piece of a$$. Actually, the best a$$ I ever had was from an older women, she was 65 at the time. She just knew how to touch me, that was the best a$$ I have ever had to this day! Sebi said. Laughing louder now cause I see his face and he is thinking about that woman deeply now. “So Sebi why didn’t you wife her up if she was the best you ever had?” He takes a puff why staring at the T.V. screen.. “Well I was married at the time, and she didn’t want to be my second wife!”  I Flat lined again beeeeeeep.

We talked for a few more hours and to sum up what I learned of love from this crazy, wonderful man is that self love is all you need to sustain your life, Its all you need to have a happy life filled with love. “Lovers come and go, right! Are you with your first love? NO! SO what is the same? YOU. You are the same, You carry yourself with you everywhere, so the only thing you HAVE to love is yourself!” Sebi said while wagging his finger in my face.

Awwww… Self Love is the way to everything we want isn’t it? Did you like this little snapshot of wisdom? Well subscribe so you don’t miss all of my insights and creative thoughts. And I have love you can take home with you right now, Have a look here: Love Love Love!