Alone and Afraid?

Being yourself is going to hurt people.

Its going to dispassion people against you.

Why?

Because they will not be able to control you,

to manipulate you to do things that are not in line with your safety or life goals.

The only reason you have friends or lovers is because they like the way you make them feel.

But once you step away from he act of pleasing and choose to be passionate and purposeful

about the act of self fulfillment, people are going to take issue with you.

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“I AM a GIRL!” Original Watercolor Portrait Art by Salkis Re

They will stop calling you, stop inviting you, stop fucking you, stop buying gifts for you and so on…

And then the harsh reality of your aloneness will start to take form.

Do you know when the revelation of aloneness usually hits?

When you start to get old..

And you realize that all your sacrificing didn’t afford you their loyalty or undying concern.

then you become old and bitter because you have to face that you wasted so much time TRYING.

Trying to get LOVE.

Trying to get RESPECT.

 

What matters is your time and how much of ti you spend on frivolity or purpose.

And your purpose will need most of your energy because

you will have to fight the status quo of mediocrity and the fear that others try to infect you with…

You are your OWN GOD/ESS because your ACTIONS determine your road and your destination…

Be a god today…..

Carry On…

 

I am an Empath,

a Spiritual Advisor,

An Artist,

And a Mentor

Here to Help Your Path Back to Selfhood

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Nas Puts Kelis on Blast!

Nas

Well my play husband wrote a 7 page letter in rebuttal to his ex wife Kelis and her claimed of physical abuse during their 5 year marriage.

Kelis stated in an interview that Was would imitate physical fights with her while under the influence of alcohol.

She stated she new about his extra marital affairs that went on for 2 years during their marriage, but she didn’t decided to leave because of that: “The cheating was more like the icing on the cake, she states.

Now I render when they had gotten a divorce and I honestly don’t remember hearing any bad blood between them, actually

I was impressed with the class that Kelis displayed when asked about what happened because she remained tight lipped about it.

Fast forward to today and the whole cat is out the bag, shyte slinging everywhere as each are publicly accusing the other of abusive behavior.

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Nas’s accusation cut deep and really hit home about domestic abuse and how easy

it is to take advantage of another person who shoes emotions dependency for you.

He said he suspected she was crazy but she was “BeautifuL” , so I guess her beauty gave her character a pass, at least for a while.

Other things mentioned were her uncooperativeness with him in arranging to see his son and how he even faked a reconciliation with her in order to spend time with his son.

He said Kelis “fat shamed” his daughter from a previous relationship and verbally abused her often.

Sigh…

Its a mess.

A big mess!

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I love Nas as an artist and I don’t him personally, so I would judge his character or takes sides with Kelis on her allegations against him.

But I have a message to men and women about choosing life partners.

When deciding to marry someone, you are putting yourself into a contractual commitment that holds more weight than a hand shake or a promise ring.

You are in fact stating that you are willing to risk potential loss or enjoy potential gain by cutting yourself off from any other options(dating) out here.

Do you weight the value or the compensation package of this crucial decision on looks, muscles, big booty, big d&*k or even money ?

Making decisions based on superficial things often leads to buyer’s remorse and heart breaking regret,

 over time because a decision wasn’t made based on actual value inside the box but the Chiny packaging outside of it.

I have said this before that pretty women are often accused and assumed to be crazy, light skin women in particular seem to have a reputation for emotional instability.

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Nas and Kelis on Their Wedding Day

But you GUYS say that the Coo-Coo FOR COCO PUFFS usually makes the sex even hotter!!

Shrugs…

So listen guys, I know you want a woman who is beautiful, I know this is a top priority for most if not all of you whether your financial means can support it or not.

But you must weigh her character, you must observe and pace yourself just like I tell women to do when dating men. Especially you guys who have a lot to lose

. There are great women out here that you won’t give a chance to because she is not “pretty” enough to make a serious consideration for,

women who would bend over backwards to see to your comforts and to make sure that you are well fed,

that your secrets are protected, that will work just as has as you do to keep the house in order so that you come home to an oasis away from the grind.

But you will never know their sweetness because you don’t see their value.

This goes for women too of course…

IF you suspect that there is emotional instability in the woman you are interested in, take a pause, retreat,

RUN if necessary! And do not look back. MANY MANY MANY women hide their emotional unsteadiness behind their physical attractiveness.

I have said MANY MANY MANY times that attractiveness does not equate to SANITY or INTELLIGENCE or HIGH SELF ESTEEM either.

And I mean this with all the muscle I can flex

Women are bewitching, beautiful women even more so…

But who you MARRY has to be more than a pretty face and good sex. If she is to be the mother of your children

and potentially someone you are tied to in one way or another for life, give care in that she is mentally fit

to mother your children and provide the emotional stability and virtue I think you  guys want..

Carry On…

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Life Coach~Salkis Re

P.S. If any of you are in need of private instruction and coaching on relationship matters and

self improvement by way of health, spiritual and emotional wellness, you can find me HERE

 

 

 

Fight Elegantly!

Decisions based solely on emotion NEVER stick.

You may be able to garner their pity and remorse for a little while,

but eventually that person goes back to his/her old ways after their emotions have settled back down,

This is why men feel sorry about about cheating when they get caught, and after the dust settles,

they are back out there at it again.

Black women are getting pimped out of their vaginas by everybody,

black men, white men, even other women

people generally do not change unless they experience some

tremendously emotional event that breaks the patterns within their nervous system.

Thick Locs

 

For the most part, we are all fixed as adults. Fixed in what we believe about ourselves,

how we perceive love, how we quantify our value.

Relationships are about the decision to share a life with someone as they are,

and with your love and encouragement,

you can “Influence” them to become “Improved” partners IFFFFFFFFFFF that is what HE desires to be…..

 

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Black women are emotionally exploited by everybody because our pathologies are well known and easy to recognize

while others enjoy living with the ambiguity of their depression and low self esteem whiling concealing

pharmaceutical remedies for their suicidal thoughts properly fitted garments, scantily clad pics or perfectly

coiffed hair that serve to disguise their emotional dysfunction.

 

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Our pathology includes the admiration and support of anybody who do not resemble ourselves,

and the admiration and support of people who mock, mimic and make fun of us.

We are enemies of each other perception based on “collective” biases that are based on propaganda and indoctrination.

 

Redeem yourself. Pull yourself up from the muck and Myer….

Divorce yourself from anything or anyone who’s opinions are self serving and decide that a

feeling is not a truth unless you start living in agreement with it,

and that goes for yourself or anyone else…

 

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“Black Men DO Not Want Black Women???”

Written by Salkis Re
 
Begging of any kind immediately puts you in a subordinate position.
Stop harassing these black women that you “think” do not what to date you.black love
It doesn’t make a difference and NEWS FLASH,
you can’t SHAME men not changing their minds about where they want to insert their penises.
It is a totally waste of energy, and it send a message that you are insecure about your own self worth.
There is a power in SILENCE that is unequivocal to any vocalized aggression against black men who date outside their race.
 
And until YOU stop with your own hypocrisy, the double standards of who gets a pass when you YOURSELF are praying for an opportunity to have a mixed baby or a
Light skin child, when you stop supporting those swirling channels that get MILLIONS of views AND SUBSCRIBERS,
you stop beauty practices that reflected an alignment with what you CANNOT BE BIOLOGICALLY,
then and only then can we effectively take a position of “Injustice” with the vehicle of self honor and self respect and truth behind in.
 
You try to denigrate what you secretly have affection for.
You say you HATE when you really admire and privately wish
the cards of life would have dealt a different hand to you.
I have participated in the hypocrisy for many, MANY years.
I had a chip on my shoulder for light skin women for any woman
who appeared to be mixed race or who claimed blackness while enjoying ambiguity.
I went through a stage in high school were I relaxed my edges EVERY WEEEK!!.
Yeah, as soon as then naps started forming, I take a little tooth brush and zap that shit away.
I wanted no part of my blackness, and I hated other women because they didn’t have to go through what I went through.
Not being shut after sexually is a crushing blow to a girls self esteem here in America.
Because here in American, beauty is regarded as VIRTUE, as TRUTH, As GOODNESS.
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But beauty that comes from the validation of men always leads to self esteem issues.
It always leads to disease and mental instability.
Why?
Because his “love” for you is based on what he sees and this means that
you experience differences in your relationship when your looks start to change.
Beauty as a vehicle for companionship is a necessity, but approaching beauty as a “tool” rather than the sum total of your
self worth is a more balanced way to be because then you can manage
“change” and you will do things to maintain your beauty that are more productive
and nourishing to your body instead of destructive and corrosive to your physical form…
The bottom line is this: When you BEG, you get their PITY, Nothing more.
“Black Love” starts with you!
 
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis RE

“Single Mothers are a HUGE Liability?”

 

The discussion about single mothers as potential wives came up on my recent You Tube Video… My response is REALITY, not filled with idealism or optimism for that matter. My posting this dialog for YOUNG ladies who do NOT have children yet.
Take Heed…

Male Viewer Comment:
I think love and relationships are more complex. If my son married a woman with a child, i would be happy for him.
Perhaps HE could be the only hero in the child’s life.

Child or no child, the woman should be a loving person. I hope that she would be less Machiavellian…less jaded.
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My Response:
Every woman who HAS a past is “jaded” to some degree. And if she was left a single mother, she should be EXTREMELY cautious in safeguarding against a repeating choices that led her there in the first place.
A single mother comes with extra scars, but if her motivation is strong enough, she CAN compensate for the any emotional shortcomings by concentration on her what is virtuous about her. But the “jaded” part really applies to ANY woman who has had sperm inside of her.
It creates a touch of lunacy in us all to be honest..

 

 

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“Holding On To Love” Art by Salkis RE CLICK HERE

 

Male Viewer Comment:
Salkis Re Most women I know with one child say it is best thing that ever happened to them.
However, i understand what you are saying about exercising caution.

Do you think single men who have full custody of a child also lack a certain amount of character?
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My Response:
And why do you think women say that? I will tell you. It’s because for the FIRST time, they are experiencing TRUE love.

A man who has full custody of his children exemplifies compassion and emotional connect to his children even when he could have walked away. That is different, its “Noble” even.

Loving Single-motherS

WHY?
Because he is not expected to “want” to shoulder all the Responsibility like women. A woman’s value is in question because when “She” brings other mens children, she brings “bills”, she brings a “something must be wrong with you for him to walk from you and your children” UNLIKE the single father.

WHY?
Because she is looking to be cared for by a man. And because of this, for her, it is a FLAW, and a REDUCTION in her MARKETABILITY because she requires MORE output of his resources as well as the expectation to muster up some sort of LOVE and CARE for children that are not is own.

BIG Liability! Especially when men struggle to communicate and show interest/emotional concern for children that are biologically his.

Not what women want to hear and not what men would admit…..

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis RE

If you are looking for someone to talk to about your love life or anything you need help figuring out, please do not hesitate to contact me. Yo can reach me at salkis@iloveherart.com or book a session with me if your are ready to rock and roll!

Sex Should Frighten you!

“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.

This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.

Sex is a death ritual.

Sex is a  “giving up” of your soul to another soul.

Sex is A sacrifice.

Sex is  A melding together of thoughts,

emotions,

feelings,

bacteria,

shyte,

puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.

Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.

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But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.

But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!

Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.

And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.

Why?
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.

Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.

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Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.

Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it

sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.

This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.

This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

How to Not Give a F&*^k

 

1)Do what you fear doing, and do it often.

2) Accept people’s right to their own opinion, so that you can formulate yours without guilt.

3) Understand that trying to be Perfect for Imperfect people is a hamster wheel with no destination. Get off the wheel.

4) You are ugly to somebody. You are pretty to somebody.

You will win.

And you will lose.

And you cannot avoid it.  

Make peace with life’s inconsistencies and ride the wave.

5) You will not live forever, so you really cannot afford to waste another day trying to please people,

trying to make them see your worth, your beauty. Relax. And wow those that are already impressed with you.

Declare who you are, even if it frightens you,abstract portrait painting

even If it seems like a lie because everything is a lie until you MAKE IT the truth…

 

So many of us feel that we have to be good at something in order to do it or love it even.

This is not the truth. Not at all.

Self esteem is not about hyper focused attention on only the things that are good about you,

but ALLLLLLLL of you.

Yes, even the silly, stupid unskilled parts of you .

True self esteem doesn’t crumble if things do not go well in your life.

Self esteem is more about the process mores than the outcome.

Living up to your values keeps you in a place of high regard for yourself.

I find that so many of us just do not take a chance because not doing good or

being better than someone else computes in your mind that you are not enough.

 

 

 

 

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You have to accept your flaws and while relaxing your drive for

praise and recognition over the good in your as well..

You just embrace ALL of you.
Be Luke warm as a Master Teacher once taught me…

Then a compliment or an insult become a consequence for the living without putting halt to your life…

 

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

Interracial Dating is For Desperate Lonely Black Women!

“Interracial Dating”
Written by Black Hat Practictioner, Salkis Re

👉SHARE THIS POST WITH EVERY GIRLFRIEND YOU KNOW!!👈

 

 

Artist and Life Coach, Salkis Re

SWIRLING, MATING AND YOUR RIGHT TO CHOOSE

I have made videos in the past addressing the matter of black women this thing called “swirling” before.

I personally feel that dating and mating is not a community event and that there are no obligations to

Ancestors, Ghosts, Angels, Demons, God, Krakens and whatever else you’ve passed your shame, blame and fears on too.

You can and will decide what you want to be matched to based on your own emotions,

your insecurities, self esteem, intellect, past sexual experiences, whether you’ve been sexually violated or not, and on and fucking on it goes.

 

YOU CHOOSE MATES BASED ON YOUR FEARS!!

And someone who chooses to “stay with their race” is NOT divorce from their fear of rejection, self doubt,

peer pressure, not wanting to go to hell,

people pleasing, and all manner of imaginative reasons for choosing or not choosing mates.

My only angst in all this is the perception that you as a woman could be “winning” by having relationships with “boyfriend’s”.

African American Women

 

Thinking Bigger Of Yourself than you Actually ARE!!

There is nothing to aggrandize yourself about if you have a “boyfriend”.

He, no matter what skin suit he wears, is enjoying you and your body without the requirement of motivation of Commitment or the shouldering any risk.

To me, the ultimate expression of “love” is when a person is willing to shoulder Commitment/cutting off other options/woman to have you in his life.
If he isn’t willing or able to do so, then there is no win for you. And your vagina is a “rental” until he finds his “dream home”.

 

So to end this CLASS session today

So to end this CLASS session today, I will tell you to think before you act. No matter how light skin he is, how soft his hair is, how pretty his smile is, how mannerly he seems, how good he sucks and fuccs you, THINK about your bottom fuccing line at ALL times… RELEASE THE KRAKEN and get what’s rightfully yours…

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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The Other Side of Your Good Side…

 

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Abstract Art Series by Salkis Re

Love isn’t what you think it is

Young women, I implore you to consider what you’ve already been through in order to absorb what I’m about to say.

I ask you to examine your past or even current relationship to find the congruency between your experience and my advice.

The love you want is called “passion”. It is a feeling of intense desire and longing for another person.

Passion itself is brought on by the building up of anxiety/suffering over what you do not posses.

Before you engage in sex with a man, he LOVES you.

By loves definition here, I mean that he has PASSION=love in his heart for you because he wants/desires to have your body.

So what will he do to quell and satisfy his desire for you?

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.

 

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.
The constant sweet nothings in your ear, the display of concern( calling after work or when you’ve arrived back home from a date).

If he is really attracted to you, you will get little gifts, nice dinners, all of which are INVESTMENTS towards swift SALE of your vagina.

The dates are to make you excited, to make you want him even more because of the joyous experiences he’s providing you with.

And the hours of cell phone talk and his attentiveness and interest in

what you have to say leaves you with the impression that guys have this thing you call a “Connection”.

And though you are a little unsure. Though you suspect it might be too soon to open your legs,

you let your emotions override your mental reasoning.

Why?

Oh because you don’t trust your own mind;

you think you are over thinking this and that you’re gonna miss an opportunity to be with a great man…

And then you open your thighs to him because he wined and dined you,

and you talked with him for hours, and enticing yet “Deferred” promises to you for month or more,

so you think he is THE ONE.
And the love making was fantastic, or average, or not so good at all.

But it doesn’t matter if it was good or not to you because you are “open” now.

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

 

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

His thirst is quenched, and HIS anxiety over you has turned back into self confidence.

The job is complete; the eagle has landed; the ejaculation has happened and now he can relax again.

The first thing you will notice is that your phone conversations shorten,

or that when you do talk, he seems distracted and not as enthralled with your conversation.

Then calls become less frequent because he is suddenly too “busy” to make time to talk.

Dates begin to cancel or begin to cheapen in quality.

The connection you swore you felt in the beginning,

now starts to dwindle down to begging for his time.

Why is this? Because after sex, women begin to smother,

cling, and display insecurity, couple this with having already tasted

your “sauce” and he has absolutely no incentive to DESIRE/LOVE you anymore.

So what do you do to avoid this?

The truth?

Some of you can’t avoid it because you are entrenched in insecurity and low self esteem.

Your heart will be broken again this year because your focus is the hot button tips and tricks on how to ensnare a man,

and the Snake Oil Conjurers will gladly exchange HOPE for your money.

A woman who Puts on her BLACK HAT understands that to fix this,

she must bring forth her inner BITCH!!!

YOUR “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

 

Her “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

She doesn’t think in CONJECTURE. She understands human nature.

She isn’t conflicted about her worth or the outcome she wants her lover to provide.

It IS, what F’ing IS!!!!!!!

Compassion and agreeableness is what women are hardwired to be,

but can your compassion protect you from Manipulation

that you will face whether HE IS GENUINELY INTERESTED OR NOT????
No. It won’t…
What YOU want comes FIRST, and what he wants is SECONDARY..

Life Coach, Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

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You Deserve the Best From Men!!

“Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

 

Listen, when it comes to relationships with men, this thing is really simple.

Relationships, whether it’s for romantic or for business purposes,

the RESULT should  ADVANCE you…

 

There is no reason to commit yourself to a man who does not provide an opportunity

to improve and enhance your physical experience. ~Salkis Re

 

This thing is not about empty promises.

And in my opinion, this notion that you have to have this thing called

LOVE to accompany the agreement to commit to someone,

more often than not, it causes blurred lines, confusion and,

misinterpretations of material and emotional unfairness.

 

What is the purpose of having a MAN?

Don’t answer so quick.

I want you think about this deeply.

I want you to consider the value that love has as a sentiment.

And value love has as an ACTION.

Because a great many women that I work with, hold equal merit for love as a statement and love as an action.

 

Protect, and Provide…

That should be the foundation of a relationship with any man….

Forget the fucking lists.

Forget all this complicated variables.

Forget what your FEELINGS tell you because they lie too!

Simplify your life WOMAN.

Don’t allow THEM to confuse you into paralysis and passivity  because you will end up giving in

and giving up without proper negotiation for a more secure standing.

Nothing is free in life, Not even LOVE!

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com