How to Use Men!!

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Art by Salkis Re

“I want to get to know you.”
That’s the first thing that he says..
And you get all giddy.
Thinking that you are being honored because a man wants to “know” you.
Well you should abhor it or at least be cautious.
No. Funk that!
I’m not going to coddle you.
You Should be against familiarity of any kind!
His knowledge of YOU is not beneficial for YOU.
“You’re Two-faced.”
I think that’s what it’s called.
A phrase meant to insult and defame you,
yet it be a character trait that keeps your protective fence electrified!
I told you that authenticity is overrated.
You expose every wound to bloody hounds,
and then cry when they bite you.
This is the residue of “knowledge“, of “knowing” Alllll about you.
So what should you do?
Stop blending and mixing and stirring and kneading every part of you together.
Gather up the council in your head and assign them duties that do not cross pollinate each other.
Be a total bitch when the circumstances call for it.
Be a mother when it it she required.
Be a lover when you want passion.
Be a wife to be secure your future.
Be a healer to protect your interests.
Be what is necessary for the appropriate time,
for the appropriate situation, and most importantly,
for the appropriate recipient… .
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“The Black Hat Society”
“Mistress of Words”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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Wishing You Were Someone Else?

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When you start every day and end every day thinking about the grass being greener on the other side, what is your body supposed to do with that?

You think your thoughts just dissipates after you forget what you’ve thought?

How?

How can is dissolve when your actions and the words coming out of your mouth are all carefully crafted to be in congruence with what you feel?!

Words are food just like a piece of broccoli or an apple.

Words get ingested just like any meal that touches your lips, and it can, like any food, either nourish your body or poison it.

You have to understand that you are casting spells continuously with your thoughts, and the knowledge of that fact should invite you to take inventory of what you are saying to yourself on an ongoing basis.

You wanting to be other than you are, is a result of self neglect. You thinking that you are not enough means that you have too much time on your hands.

Too much time to think about the wrong thing.

And that thinking will cripple you eventually.

It is time to consider you tonque to be your personal draftsman, the Grand Architect if you will.

Why?

Because it’s your mouth that solidifies the thoughts of your mind, for it pulls your thought out of the ethers and into the physical realm.

And once it’s made a word, YOU WILL RESPOND to it.

That’s how prayer works doesn’t it?

Do you not believe in an insult?

Have you not been hurt by the arrangement of words accompanied by strong emotion before.

What you say to others can hurt or heal them, and so it be with you also my darling..

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“Mistress of Words”African American museum

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~Salkis Re

 

You Can’t Sex Your Way into High Self Esteem

Conquering Self Defeat
By Salkis Re
Transforming is dirty business
You canโ€™t f;&$k your way out of pain!ย You are tired. You are fed up with your condition. You have tried to change things to no avail. You entertain yourself through the pain, you eat and gorge food through the pain, you try to f;&$k your way out of the pain.

You burn candles and hug trees underneath the moonlight in hopes of winning fortunes and thwarting pain. You meditate while frustrated and worried.
You spruce yourself up with new hair do’s and fresh pedicures that aid as “posers” to true self care. These are great things to do, but not so great as a replacement for the internal work required for victory over “self defeat. No! Love cannot *love you out of the muck and mire; however, you can -cope- with it a bit better ,yet it will just manifest in other things like binge eating, depression etc. Can you become a goddess without adversity?ย Can you become a master without trials and tests? What is the need for bravery if you have nothing to fear? Your anguish is not the problem! We all have things that challenge our resolve. The problem is that you are not utilizing your adversity to change your life! “Go along to get along” is what you’ve been doing, and now, living in pain has become your new normal. “Smiling Depressive” is what I lovingly call you. When are you going to muster up enough courage to just admit that something is wrong with this way of living? I have news for you! You are not gonna smile or deny your way through transformation!
Your going to have to walk through the “shadow of death” to truly transform and become a new person. You have to face your dragons and slay them with valarian steel! You are going to have to make a decision that charity and giving of yourself requires that you first are able to regenerate what you give to others. You give away what you can’t afford to give because of guilt and this superstition in the benefit of humility: you are trying to replaced your feelings of unreservedness by pretending to be satisfied with being a “giver”, for you are ashamed to receive. Take my hand, I will lead you through the shadow of death with the rod and staff to slay the serpents waiting to bite your heel. Its time to transform.
~Salkis Re “Life Coach”