How to Stop the Disease to Please!

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

How Not to Give a Shit! Oops! Did I Just Swear??

 

If you could get this one thing together, I mean this would blow this need to people please to smithereens, and
You’d have what you want out a life!

Validation and acceptance from the “tribe” was once a survival requirement.
You could have been ran out a town or burned at the stake if the important folk in your town thought you were a lunatic.

And your DNA is wired for tribal approval, which means that your brain is still operating in the vein
of “I need a group to love me so that I will gave food, protection and shelter”.
But those hunter gatherer days are long gone and you have to bribe your own mother to watch your children overnight.

You are alone…

(I get so excited saying this)
Why?
Because it means you are also FREE.

  • Free to be what you want.
  • Free to do what you want.
  • Free to have what you want.

[No tribe is gonna run you outa town for being whomever you’ve chosen to be.]

You must get this in your thick skull!
And the irony today is this: people prefer to be around people who have a strong identity.

People latch onto self aware people like white on rice!**
So you wouldn’t be alone even if you tried because you being you will also attract others who are looking for people that they too can be themselves with.
It’s a Win-Win situation my darling..

So today’s Mantra is:

The rescue I want to see is
In me being me.

Like this “makes all the sense in the world approach”? Then if you haven’t gotten a copy of my latest E-Book, I think you should start there. If you are ready to work with me, then go here.
I’m in the mist of restructuring my coaching program and it will definitely be out of reach for many people.

I’m being more selective in who I work with so you’d want to get in before the change happens to qualify for special goodies I have planned for my loyalists. Hehe

Queen Bee, Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

how to attract men

What If Your Man Finds You Unattractive?

In response to a you tube video I did yesterday discussing what to do if you are an unattractive girl as far as dating etc. A brother asked if it is wrong for him to pursue a woman he is not physically attracted too. He said that the woman has other qualities that he is interested in but the looks just don’t do it for him.

There is nothing wrong in dating someone you do not find attractive. Sometimes other traits do hold so much value that you can’t pass it up. The problem is when the other person has to develop a relationship with someone who is turned off by them physically.

If you are on the receiving end of that kind of union and you are NOT strong minded and strong willed, you WILL be treated like a charity case. The emotional high that is usually there with physical attraction, will not be there with you. Practicality rules, the bottom line will be in front every decision instead of pleasing you. You must develop mental strength here because lipstick won’t do much to create the illusion of attractiveness.

Neediness, even in attractive women, eventually becomes a repellant for her as well. You must develop independent thought. That is the only way to control a relationship were the other person thinks you are ugly. We can try to create the illusion of attractiveness by the right clothes and make up lessons, talking softly or learning poll dancing and other “body conscious” things that take your money before you have a chance to perfect them. But in the back of your mind(where the truth is) you know that no matter what you do, it’s not going to be enough if you are doing them to please another person.

You are in a charitable head space, a servant and master paradigm were you have decided to agree with the rank and file you have been placed in by the person that you are trying to please. Center yourself, Learn to please yourself and do things that build on the strengths that you already have. This is what will give you confidence, not worrying and pressing yourself to do and learn things that are only motivated by your need to distract from how  you look.

You could be a master of your life if you know how to fill your own cup. Being unemotional makes you attractive!!

When you don’t “need” on an emotional level, you simply cannot be manipulated no matter how plain you look. And this alone can make you a magnet for men. Focus on health and personal accomplishments to avoid the depression that comes from pleasing people that find you undesirable to begin with..

(I know you men read my stuff so this goes for you too: your welcome 😉

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

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