How to Use Men!!

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Art by Salkis Re

“I want to get to know you.”
That’s the first thing that he says..
And you get all giddy.
Thinking that you are being honored because a man wants to “know” you.
Well you should abhor it or at least be cautious.
No. Funk that!
I’m not going to coddle you.
You Should be against familiarity of any kind!
His knowledge of YOU is not beneficial for YOU.
“You’re Two-faced.”
I think that’s what it’s called.
A phrase meant to insult and defame you,
yet it be a character trait that keeps your protective fence electrified!
I told you that authenticity is overrated.
You expose every wound to bloody hounds,
and then cry when they bite you.
This is the residue of “knowledge“, of “knowing” Alllll about you.
So what should you do?
Stop blending and mixing and stirring and kneading every part of you together.
Gather up the council in your head and assign them duties that do not cross pollinate each other.
Be a total bitch when the circumstances call for it.
Be a mother when it it she required.
Be a lover when you want passion.
Be a wife to be secure your future.
Be a healer to protect your interests.
Be what is necessary for the appropriate time,
for the appropriate situation, and most importantly,
for the appropriate recipient… .
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“The Black Hat Society”
“Mistress of Words”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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He Doesn’t Want to F$#@ You Anymore

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“Goddess Energy”
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

When you beg for love, attention, affection or sex within a relationship, it means that the intimacy you provide no longer holds any value or meaning. If you are a woman Begging for any of those things, this means that you are leading with your vagina and have *used it to assert (total) value. But after something has been experienced, the *want for it decreases as with all things that you acquire. People grow resentful when you respond to them in spite of their unfairness because they know they haven’t earned nor do they deserve what you give. Familiarity breeds contempt is the old saying and it rings true unwaveringly.

 

Sex is exciting when it is wrapped around a woman who is constantly changing and growing and improving herself. When you maintain your mystery, a curiosity for life, and you should NOT be the same person you were the year before.

You must make it a point to become

  • better,,
  • smarter
  • faster,
  • efficient,
  • sleek,
  • clever,
  • charming and the like in order to hold a man’s interest captive for the duration.

Showing excessive need for attention means that you are bored with YOURSELF, and you need him to entertain and distract you from your internal dislikes. This is the reverse order, for we as women provide the “escape” and the fantasy for men. Begging is like a magician revealing the secrets behind his magic tricks: if you know how he does it, you would be as amazed by the presentation.

You think seduction is something literal and obvious when it has nothing to do with reality at all. It is the spark of one’s imagination in anticipation if what I’ve might receive.

Your man should wonder if you love him occasionally. He should always be concerned with measuring up. If you allow him to be rewarded through your initiatives towards sex, then where will the incentive to please YOU come from?

Hard questions, harsh realities, but knowledge is POWER!

The routine breeds contempt. Furthermore, you give your body over in spite unsavory conditions, lack of production, out of boredom and desperation and wonder why there’s no incentive for him to show you love.

“Mistress of Words”

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“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Spiritual Healer”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
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What If Your Man Finds You Unattractive?

In response to a you tube video I did yesterday discussing what to do if you are an unattractive girl as far as dating etc. A brother asked if it is wrong for him to pursue a woman he is not physically attracted too. He said that the woman has other qualities that he is interested in but the looks just don’t do it for him.

There is nothing wrong in dating someone you do not find attractive. Sometimes other traits do hold so much value that you can’t pass it up. The problem is when the other person has to develop a relationship with someone who is turned off by them physically.

If you are on the receiving end of that kind of union and you are NOT strong minded and strong willed, you WILL be treated like a charity case. The emotional high that is usually there with physical attraction, will not be there with you. Practicality rules, the bottom line will be in front every decision instead of pleasing you. You must develop mental strength here because lipstick won’t do much to create the illusion of attractiveness.

Neediness, even in attractive women, eventually becomes a repellant for her as well. You must develop independent thought. That is the only way to control a relationship were the other person thinks you are ugly. We can try to create the illusion of attractiveness by the right clothes and make up lessons, talking softly or learning poll dancing and other “body conscious” things that take your money before you have a chance to perfect them. But in the back of your mind(where the truth is) you know that no matter what you do, it’s not going to be enough if you are doing them to please another person.

You are in a charitable head space, a servant and master paradigm were you have decided to agree with the rank and file you have been placed in by the person that you are trying to please. Center yourself, Learn to please yourself and do things that build on the strengths that you already have. This is what will give you confidence, not worrying and pressing yourself to do and learn things that are only motivated by your need to distract from how  you look.

You could be a master of your life if you know how to fill your own cup. Being unemotional makes you attractive!!

When you don’t “need” on an emotional level, you simply cannot be manipulated no matter how plain you look. And this alone can make you a magnet for men. Focus on health and personal accomplishments to avoid the depression that comes from pleasing people that find you undesirable to begin with..

(I know you men read my stuff so this goes for you too: your welcome 😉

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

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