“Why You Will Get Hurt Again”

Written by Salkis Re

The truth of the matter is that most women will not change unless

there is some enjoyment attached to the task.

Women always need something new to look like or be.
We don’t innovate, we only mimic and

copy what we see other women do,

partly because we are communal by nature and mainly because

we are emotional and you do not posses the instinct to take risks..

We are unable to be objective because we judge everything by how we feel..

Logic is boring and uninteresting to us

Logic is boring and uninteresting to us and we dismiss things that

do not make us the center of attention.

Your vanity, your need to be SEEN is what has caused most

of the heart break you’ve experienced..

And because you communicate with your

body and you think with your body,

You process your environment by how you feel..

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you will more than likely make decisions that are not

reasonable and you will be hurt again…
You need some in your mouth that’s sweet,

you something in your vagina that feels good,

you need constant stimulation or

you feel invisible and a loss of self worth…

Compare some these attributes of men and women

MEN: Give Love / Women: React

MEN: Say What They Have Knowledge In/  Women: Say What you Want to hear.

Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /  Women: Are vulnerable Physically

Men: Are Impersonal /  Women: Take Everything Personally

Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/  Women: Bored and Exhausted by Reasoning

Men: Praise/  Women: Criticize

Men: invent/  Women: imitate

It is what it is..

But once we have understanding of ourselves we

can manipulate our thoughts to create

different habits and actions…

Everybody can’t be saved..

But I am here to save as many of us as I can..

Who Am I?

A Self Esteem Coach

I am an empath

A Spiritual Advisor

A relationship Expert

and an Artist
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There’s Nothing Special About You!

 

 

Beautiful Black Women

 

OK…
When I tell women that they are not “special”, they’re offended but this is indubitably true.
A woman stated to me that she was heart broken because her man left her for another white woman.

“Another” meaning he was previously married to one before that wife passed away.
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Well you knew when you met him that his preference was white women because he married one,

or are you devastated because he LEFT you or because he left you for a WHITE woman?

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I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman who dates or is married interracially who doesn’t make an announcement about this

“unique” and  special type of relationship she has.

It’s ALWAYS a point they make even though the question if ethnicity or race is brought up.
You think you are “extra special” because a man that “shouldn’t” love a woman like you does!????!!!??!!

👉IGNORING This Message Could Result In you Spinning Your Wheels and being PLAYED Again!!

****Some of you “dime pieces” are going to have a hard time

hearing this because men “appear” to worship you…

But they don’t see you pep talking yourself and obsessing in the mirror ritualistically every single day. You assume your beauty makes you a Goddess, but did every man you faced think so too?

Didn’t Cierra get “Baby Mothered by Future??

Didn’t Beyonce is cheated on by JayZ??

Didn’t Hallie Barry lose her hearing after getting punched in her head??

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

 

 

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World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

👉 See, we have to stop believing that we are the “best” anything when we come into a man’s life.

This is the game they run to stroke your fragile ego, soothe the worry and doubt

most women have about their looks, all so they can have access to you!
👉 Most people, men particularly have a “type”, and chances are high that you are

JUST LIKE MOST OTHER WOMEN he’s enjoyed sexually,

and you say the same fuccing things intellectually or and you look

the same aesthetically as every other woman he’s fell in love with!

So no my sweet, sweet daughters, you are NOT “special” :YOU ARE SIMPLY “NEW”.

Now take this BLACK PILL and wash it down with the glass of wisdom.
Carry On…

 

Black Women with Thick Locs

Who Am I?

“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
“Mentor”
“Lifecoach”
“Mother”
“The Crone”
~Salkis Re

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Is Your Body Sacred?

We are too cavalier when it comes to that gateway that is nestled betweenour knees.

Too many men have had access to it for nothing more than a kind word and Big Mac with super sized fries…

 

It takes no effort to get inside of you. You don’t require him to do any grand in exchange for the risk you take in opening your uterus and cervix to his bacteria and anxiety..

Pink bunny rabbit
World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

Trash receptacles for sperm is what many women have become, and we are having more sex than ever before in history, yet we are more depressed and dissatisfied than ever before too.

 

Now men want to claim that they are the prize because they do all the work. They have to entertain us, feed us, cloth us, teach us, protect us, yet we bring nothing to the table according to them.

 

To answer that, I will ask this: what price should you pay to have lifetime access to my body, my heart and my mind? How much is gaining almost total control over me worth?

👉How much is my nurturing and forgiveness worth?

👉How much are the babies that I will give birth to worth?

👉How much is all the time I have taken preoccupied with while simultaneously being taken off the dating market worth?

You can make the money back that you’ve given me should you decide that I am not the one for you, but what you can’t give ME back is the time I put into a relationship with you.

That part is gone forever. Every year that I am with you, the pool of other candidates that could take your place diminishes.

And you expect that a woman isn’t entitled to care and resources when she’s dealing with a race against the clock from you and any other man who shows interest?

Your role is your role and you are curse to work and I am cursed to obey you. Live with it!

Or don’t take on the responsibility…

Carry On…..

“Spiritual Advisor”

~Salkis Re

 

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God’s Child

“God’s Child”
Written by Salkis Re

Perfection is something none of us possess but we all criticize others for not being…

And the more critical you are of others,

the more it exposes of the secret hell you live in as you surround yourself with persistent, private condemnation.

When you release your desires for perfectionism, you can AND will enjoy your life a whole lot more…

Colorism in the Black Community
“Blacky” Art by Salkis Re

You will give yourself permission to make mistakes, to take chances, to explore the unknown.
You will become intriguing and exciting to be around.

You will give every inhale and exhale of your lungs a purpose outside of causing others pain…

And then your soul will begin to create your mission, a reason for living,

and a good reason for living is what your life will become when you inspire others,

when you uplift the weak, when you encourage the fearful instead

of the being the one fueling discouragement in others…..

This is what God’s children do…
Who’s child are you?

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Blacky”

Please click the picture if you’d like to ave collector piece of this painting…

Work Without Pain

racist cartoons and postcards
“Blacky” Art by Salkis RE

Smiling..

SO you ladies know about my You Tube channel; I hope…..

And it’s so interesting to me when the guys muster up enough interest to comment on the content of my videos.

And what’s even more interesting is the context of their statements are always the same.

“Some dude must have really hurt you”, Or “You are just unattractive, their isn’t an issue with black women” Or “I like Your Mouth” etc..

 

The comments are always slight jabs or deliberate stabs at MY looks or MY temperament and not much is ever mentioned about the content itself.

 

This is why I advise ladies to be aware of “presentation”.

Though I will admit that I’m not a real life example of “perfect” presentation, I understand its power.

I understand that most of the time, its all the power you need really.

its never what you its: HOW you say it.

Its never about what you do: Its HOW you do it….

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The Answer: And OFFICE 

 

People generally are interested in the surface stuff. Ok, let me stop talking in third person and talk to YOU right now..

YOU are concerned with surface stuff, with how you APPEAR to other people. You want people to think you are HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL, LOVED, INTELLIGENT, SEXY etc..

But how do you TRULY feel? NO as good as the pretense you give off?

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“Powder” Original Abstract Portrait by Salkis RE

I understand.. Believe me I do…

And the tragedy of that is that YOU spend so much time in that space,

the pretending part of your life,

that you put off all the elements that could actually assist you in truly feeling self worth and self esteem.

YOU have come to learn that the SHOW is all that matters because the show is all anyone sees…

WRONG!!!

What you feel about yourself manifests in ALLLLLLLLL your decisions.

Everything  you decide to do, that you decide is right, that you think is wrong is shaped around YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOUR VALUE!!

SO guess what?!

People see the real you by way of your ACTIONS 

You don’t get to hide low self esteem as well as you think you are doing…

It shows through, and these men quickly find out how fraudulent you are WHEN HE GETS TO NOW YOU

And eventually you expose your weaknesses as you sit there perplexed as to why he doesn’t show up in your life anymore like he used too..

You showed your hand, your TRUE hand, and it was an insecure hand, a hand full of nothingness,

and the conclusion was that you really aren’t worth the effort or the sacrifice…

 

All MAN/Woman has the power to do is MAKE YOU AN OFFER, that is where their power begins and ends…

YOU get to decide if that offer is sufficient and if you will take it.

You get to negotiate the rules of engagement.

And your rules are your expectations

and your expectations are your boundaries,

and your boundaries are your protection..

ANYTHING OFFERED THAT IS NOT IN LINE WITH WHAT YOU WANT IS AN OFFENSE..

Remember That!

 

Who Am I ?

dark skin women
Life Coach~Salkis Re

Salkis Re is a world Renown Artist and Life Coach

who uses offers therapy through art imagery which serves as the soothing

part to her tough love coaching style to help women heal from pain and trauma..

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Seeing Things In Black and White

black and white minimalist painting
Art in Process by Salkis Re

 

“No Fillers”
Written by Salkis Re

Nearing the completion of this piece. I’m so tempted to put some color on her,

but I have to arrest my ego and let her simmer as she is…

I’m taking the minimalist approach to things lately.
Thinking more and more about how I really enjoy simplicity and less “stuff”.
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If the floor is clean, I could sleep on it now problem.

Give me some candles and I don’t need lamps.. I just don’t want to ” need” so much anymore.

I haven’t had food or water anything since last Sunday evening.
👉I’m dry fasting right for a goal of 48 hours for mind control and self improvement purposes.

I’m doing what Mystics I suppose. My sense of smell is acute, my heating too, and I’m trancing out as I work.
Feels more weird than usually but in a very good way.

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
*Prints will be available when she’s complete..

Website: www.iloveherart.com

How to Heal Your Body With The Right Man!

Something that I’ve come to know in my own journey towards physical and

emotional healing is that your emotions are responsible for disease.

The emotional body holds the feelings in place whether it be

depression,

anger,

fear,

sorrow

and it assists in creating a stable environment for those emotions to thrive and grow.

African American Art
“Please Forgive Me” Original Art by Salkis Re

 

Once your emotions have a stable atmosphere to thrive, you start to feel off balance physically,

your immune system starts to weaken and dysfunction and illness sets in.

This is why the relationships you choose are SO FREAKIN IMPORTANT to your overall health and emotional well being.

Men whom you have sex with that do not love you will affect your health.

A Man that you are in long term toxic relationship with will affect your health.

 

Lingering Sorrow is not good for your soul, it’s not good for your heart,

it’s not good for your mind…..

Decide that you will put your health ABOVE your compassion for other peoples foolery.

Decide that you will sacrifice your convenience and

instant gratification for the long term goal of longevity and vitality.

Your insulin level must be low to loose weight and to keep your hormones regulated.

 

High insulin means higher cortisol levels which is the fat storing hormone.

Stress will keep you sick and fat. Stress from junk food and junk people will keep you fat and exhausted.

You will kick yourself into early menopause along with a host of other physical imbalances…

 

Cut The Excess: ALL OF IT!!

 

Do you need a push to bring emotional and physical balance to your life again?

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Butt Ugly Beauties

Awwww. Listen Linda, Listen!!

I know what it feels like, what it be like to dance with self doubt.

Everywhere you turn, there is another thing you NEED because

somebody is saying that you have look better than what you are in order to compete with…

well don’t even damn know!!

SO we buy the next gadget, the next cream, the next corset,

and the next promise that we will magically look good even for a man to fall on a sword for us…

Beautiful Black Women

I know gorgeous women… I mean women who’s stock remains high whether or not they have clothes on.

THEY ARE DROP DEAD GORGEOUS 

And guess what they also are?

They are doubtful of their value, challenged by their perception of their own self worth.

Questioning themselves like a broken record as they wonder if they are truly deserving of the THINGS THEY GET!!!

Can you imagine having that forking problem???

You get what you want with ease, but a whisper in your head keeps

saying it’s an accident or a fluke that you receive what you receive…

You are so beautiful that men that you like a pet, they are so insecure around you that they

think you are incapable of telling the truth or being faithful to them…

Imagine that….

Stacked Those Chips On Your Shoulder

 

 

Black artLow Self esteem escape ver few people who are actually adults..

By the time you can go to the corner store by yourself or take your road test for your drivers license,

you’ve stacked up enough insecurities to create a stairway to heaven…

Fixed and confident in all the degradation you’ve accumulated over the years.

You don’t want to think of yourself  jacked up, but that is what you are thanks to society.

 

Its Time to Die

Time to put to bed those thoughts. Time to die and be reborn again… It takes a little death you know.

A death to transform into what you want to become,

a death to assert what you want to feel like you deserve.

This goes for love OR ANYTHING you want in life too.

 

You Are Programmed!

You are programmed to wait for a “qualifier” to feel like you can claim the good life.

You need the degree to feel smart.

You need the crowd to feel important.

You need a man’s love to feel esteem.

You need your parents to be proud of you to feel like a winner.

And on and on and on……….

 

Three things you need to know and adopt in your life transformation..

No ones Opinion of you is LAW or the ABSOLUTE TRUTH

You Will Always Have a Choice to Accept or Regret What People Think of You.

Most People You know is battling their own self esteem issues, so they CANNOT help you.

 

 

 

 

 

Some immediate suggestions:

Turn off the T.V..

Unplug from social media.

Find a hobby

Find a way to help other people…

Come out of your own head and let your ego starve a little bit…

We often feel miserable because we are self centered and need constant

reassurance when the attention we want to receive is not matched to what we actually get..

You Are enough!!

If you are healthy, you are blessed.

IF you have sight, you are blessed.

If you can read, you are blessed.

If you can call you mother today, you are blessed…

Carry On….

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“Label Makers, Label Breakers”

Written by Salkis Re

Self esteem challenges can happen in people who are attractive,

in people with higher IQs, in people with money, in people who are religious etc.
You’d be surprised at the type of people who really emotionally fragile out here.
Don’t let appearances fool you…

I remember a “Guy Friday” I had working for me at my salon back in the day.

He was dark skin an older man, but you could tell he was extremely handsome

in his youth because he still had six pack abs and pretty white teeth.
He come in a few times a week and clean my shop for a six pack of beer,

pork rinds and on Fridays, I threw in a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken just to see his face light up.

 

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He didn’t want much, he didn’t need much really because of his lifestyle.

But he wasn’t ashamed of his standard of living.

He was quick-witted, wisdom filled, and his sense of humor would shortened any difficult day I’d have.

I remember him inviting me to his home that he’d often call his “Palace”.

He was so proud that he had this home and he often told stories of his lovers tryna lay claim to it by leaving panties and toothbrushes behind..lol

So I went to see the palace, and it turned out to be an old, tiny,

Southern Georgia shack! He had a dirty couch on the patio with a rickety table next to it to prop his beer.

He called it his “seating area” lllllmao.
I asked, “You entertain your hoes here Millified?”
“Yes Boss Lady, haha ha ha”, he said with his raspy voice.

 

He opened the door and invited me inside. The floor boards screeched and some of them lifted when we took a step.

I was scared I was going to fall through the floor, so he took my hand and we zig-zagged through the living.

He chuckled looking at my “wtf” face. But he still wasn’t fazed by my frowning giggles.

The floor of the entire house was on an incline, you could have slid right into the kitchen if the floor was wet.

The walls were painted with dirt. A few water bugs came out to see who was in the house too.

He had plastic lawn cheers in front of a 52 inch TV. That TV was the focal piece of the house and would be the reason all the ladies didn’t want to leave his chateau, hahaha!

He said he had cable and he’d make some squash casserole and fried chicken if I ever wanted to come hang out on Sunday after church.

We went to his bedroom and he had a queen size mattress on the floor that looked like he pulled it out a land fill,

and the bedroom closet was almost as small as a medicine cabinet.
His bathroom couldn’t hold two people at the same time; you could literally shit, shower and shave all in one cause it was so damn tiny!

He said he was ready to whip up a batch of red Kool Aid if I was thirsty and motioned him not to bother.

When the tour was done, I looked at him in disbelief.

I wanted him to see how disgusted I was,

but he continued to look at me and laugh.

 

He was unfazed by my distain, and I showed my distain because I knew he didn’t give a shit what I thought.
He was proud of himself. He was proud of who he was. He had “pretty teeth” so to him he was a “pretty boy”..lllllmao

He was one of the few people I’ve met that was just unbothered by people’s opinions,

he stated what he was and that was all his heart and mind had room for.

The rest of us have so much more than him, but we disregard it for the perpetual fear that others may feel we are not good enough.

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Your self esteem is built on a weaker foundation than his one room shack!

All while you look good, you work a so-called “good job”.

You can save for vacation and occasionally splurge on nonessential things,

but you still are afraid of what people think of you.
You don’t take a chance, because your thoughts of failure plaque you without rest.

You have their degrees, their licenses and certificates but still feel invalid..

Your Perception of who you are has been “Given” to you.

That is why you are not empowered, and that is why you live so unsure of yourself in spite of all your accolades.

My Guy Friday stayed happy, even with what I classified as an impoverished lifestyle, he had a mentality of wealth.

Maybe that was the reason he remained so attractive and charismatic.

He could have been more I suppose had he taken advantage of the education system, maybe he would be more than hustler.

But that was my opinion of him, and one he didn’t share in…

He wasn’t intimidated by others who had more.

He talked to everybody, and free beer and free meals were the regular thank you gifts he received for his humor and charismatic optimism.

So what will you do?

Continue to live in fear of not being good enough,

not living good enough,

not being attractive enough,

not having enough money to be enough?

When will you arrest those hypothesizing thoughts of imaginary restraints?

When you say fuck it, this is what I am and I’m fabulous as is???
You can do it right now.

You don’t need to kneel before a Queen,

or get a certificate in the mail,

or have an engagement ring on your finger to claim your right to feel fantastic about yourself today!!

Make the shift.
Make the decision..
And be what YOU say you are…

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

 

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