Slave Mentality

As a business owner, I have to wear many hats. I am a marketer, a creator, a branding ambassador, a sales person, a counselor and sooooo many other things.

It’s HARD work. But the reward is that I get to call my own shots and for me, that position is priceless.

The road of self sufficiency is for lunatics!!

Yeah, I admit it!

You have to be crazy to actually try to salvage your freedom by working for yourself when it’s so much easier to work someone else’s 9-5.

DO your 8 hours and clock out, then rest of it is for someone else to worry about cause you are off the clock!

I have come to the conclusion that most of us do not want freedom.

Yep! Sad but true.

Most people just want to be comfortable, not FREE.

Just a little more paid vacation time. 5 dollars more an hour would feel like a life changing event for most.

And they’d take it willingly too.

That is all your time is worth?

A dollar or two more an hour plus “overtime” and you’d grind until your knuckles bleed for the bottom line of someone else you NEVER even see.

The listen to what someone ( who is barely more qualified than you) tell when to take a lunch or when you can leave. Grrrrrrrrrrrr!

Get’s me hot just typing this!

I’m doing this post to jolt you!

A lot of you women I coach  want to be entrepreneurs, but you’re too scared to make the start.

You are thinking about failure before you even try.

You think that ship has sailed and that you missed your boat of opportunity and correct timing.

ALL LIES!!

There is nothing more precious than time: NOTHING!!

And the time you spend toiling for someone else, working all that overtime hours for the Uncle Sam to take half of,

could be spent planting seeds for your personal growth and development.

You could be creating the next million dollar idea on those night and weekends.

You could be perfecting that invention instead of looking for an escape from the thought of going back to work come Monday morning..

TODAY IS A NEW PAGE OF YOUR LIFE

Will your story be boring, repetitious, filled with horrors?

Your actions are you pen… so write a story you’d be proud to tell…

“Medicine Woman”

~Salkis Re

“Sexual Abuse Happens to Every Woman”

All women I have had the pleasure of talking to,
coaching with, friendships and associates have a sexual abuse story from their past: ALL OF THEM!
It was an uncle here, a stepfather there, an older cousin here,
a brother there, a boyfriend over here, and a husband after that, and so on and so on…..

I remember when I was it the 4th grade, I got dragged behind a tree by this boy that I actually had a crush on.
I asked him what he was doing and he slammed me against the tree and started dry humping me.
My face was bruised cause he held my neck against the trunk of the tree so that I couldn’t move..

I started crying. Then he laughed, backed off, and ran away…
I stood there picking bits of tree trunk off my face, shaken, feeling ashamed and really confused like what the fuck just happened here!
But he laughing so I wasn’t sure if what he’d just done was even wrong.

No ‘I’m sorry’ was said, he just laughed when he saw my tears.
So I thought that maybe I was perceiving it wrong…

Isn’t that what we always do?
Second guess ourselves and our feelings because HE won’t own up to his actions…

No penetration physically happened, but a disruption of my self worth and confidence sure did!


Why?
Because I secretly LIKED that boy.
Which means I looked up to him.
And because I liked him and he didn’t like me:
it meant that HE was BETTER than me…..

This is the typical pattern that starts after you’ve been physically violated.
You don’t trust yourself anymore, you feel in your heart that the pain inflicted is somehow what you deserved..
And every relationship you seek, only aids in solidifying your false sense of low worth…

Wives aren’t exempt from this either, in fact, a lot of them are simply “under contract” to be abused because you have taken the “I’m powerless’ position..

So he gets to tell you he doesn’t like your body while he’s fucking you because he pays the mortgage. He gets to tell you that he thinks you are stupid while he rides your back to relieve his stress. He gets to blame you for his dik not being able to hold an erection, but as the “good wife” you swallow and wallow quietly in degradation because that ring says you have NO voice.

But you can repair your heart and mind..

Your heart can heal,
your emotions can stabilize when you finally come to realization of what men are,
what they can and CANNOT do for you, and the proper order of importance they fit in..

So The Maxims For Today Are:

Do NOT second guess YOURSELF anymore…
What you SEE IS what you GET…
There is NO BENEFIT IN A DOUBT,
So DON’T give the BENEFIT OF A DOUBT.
DISMISS ANY talk that calls to question your perception of reality…
And remember, you CANNOT have SELF CONFIDENCE when you Do Not trust YOUR feelings…

Aummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

African American Women in witch craft
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re
The Black Hat Society”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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What IS YOUR CULTURE?

abstract art

 

“Be An Eagle”
Written by Salkis Re

Your identity is yours to create, especially if no one wants to claim you. That’s the fate of copper skin tones who are born on Northern soil.
Maybe you are pretending not to know, but your mirror tell NO lies.


Ask your blood to whisper its secrets in your ear. Let the Sequoia trees secrete the tales of those who burned fires and sang songs under the shade of its leaves.
Heal your heart and your confusion by creating your own legends and hero’s.
What are you?
Who are you?


If you still do not know, then declare yourself an Eagle.
The Eagle NEVER asks what it is. It doesn’t cut through the clouds wondering if it is good enough to fly. She doesn’t perch upon a tree branch contemplating her worthiness to be there.


The Eagle does not spend its days jealous and fretful over not being able to run like those beautiful Lions are down below. The Eagle is just as it, unaware that there is anything better than being an Eagle..

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING: “FALA”

 

Men Shouldn’t Have to PAY???

Male Viewer’s Comment to another Male Viewer on my You Tube Video:

“As long as you allow yourself to be USED by a woman she will never LOVE you or see you as a “companion”. She’ll only see you as an “employee”, a “mule”, or her “workhorse.
YOU CAN NOT BUY LOVE.
Also, you should NOT be giving a woman “things” when you date, because you’re only training her to be with you for “things” instead of being with you for YOU and appreciating you as a PERSON and appreciating your friendship and companionship.”
End Quote

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😼MY RESPONSE:
And if you are not “useful” she will never love either. Love is a “decision” based on opportunity and value displayed in “both” sides.
You guys think it’s unfair that a woman’s value/beauty/sex is equivalent to what you bring as men, but it’s because YOU ALL who express its importance, display favorable behaviors towards it, and make judgements and decisions that reflect how valuable it is.

We don’t make a man’s “looks” the main issue,
and MANY MANY women in relationships while SEXUALLY DISSATISFIED yet THEY STAY.
We compromise and “settle” all day long, so join the club!! Love you say?
You want “free” love?
When have you EVER had that? When HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN THAT???😼
~Salkis Re

abstract portrait painting
Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re for www.iloveherart.com

Now I posted this because I’m basically tired of this repeated narrative from men who want FREE love. None of them give anything without the intention of getting a return, but they argue about what they are expected to do to win a woman’s heart.

Are any of these men leading households: I doubt it.

Are these types of men inspired to commit to a ONE woman, I think it would be difficult for them.

These men always talk about virtue when they do not want to spend any money. But sacrifice is the barometer of the level of care a man OR woman has for the other person.

There is no way to measure your worth without compromise and sacrifice. You don’t know how important you are or how important a person thinks you are until  inconvenience presents itself…

And don’t you ladies think for one-second that these men do not understand the concept of “struggle”.

Frankly, I don’t see how you could think any other way when they repeatedly talk about “building together”.

Do you know what that term  “BUILDING TOGETHER means?

It means I cannot afford to take care of you,

and I want you to understand that,

and I want you to work to help me provide for you,

because then I will know you want me for me and not the money I don’t have

Then and only then have you earned their best efforts?? Through sacrifice and struggle we know right?

But the only problem with that is that the odds are not good for women when they invest in relationships that way.

Honestly, these are poor peoples problems ; wealthy people have a firm grasp of profit-loss, risk-reward, investment-liability. They understand that you can’t get something for nothing.

They understand  that you have to pay for what you want.

Sounds transactional right?

Tell me when is it not transactional?

You are both are INVESTING time, energy, resources, your bodies into each other. Relationships are INVESTMENTS, why else would you need or even want to commit to one person for the rest of your life if there was no gain to be had?

That is the cold, HARD truth!

Deal with it!!!!

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So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

Love Really is A Game..

Dark Skin Girls in Art
“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

 

Love Games Played on Broken Hearts”
Written by Salkis Re

A broken heart comes as merely a consequence of living.

And it’s because we are “agreeable” as women, more understanding and forgiving, more accepting, and inclined to second, third, tenth chance givings that we inevitably feel the residue of regret for our understandings…

 

The solution is not to become intolerable, cold hearted spinsters who make love to donuts and pies in the middle of another night in an empty bed.

 

It is to understand that with your understanding, comes the inevitable display of his character that will surpass your understandings.

 

And of course we women cannot walk away blameless. In all good conscience, I couldn’t end this utterance without the admission that women enjoy the suffering men display from their passions. We are professional agitators of the attention and lust of men.

How else could men show love for us without the feeling of loss?
It is impossible to show love without fear.
I admittedly am a propagator for love’s cruelty.

Nonetheless, a woman’s game is the heart’s thermometer testing the temperature of the fever in her man, as she makes him “sick” every so often to encourage his “appreciation” to the surface…

So what is love?
Love is Beautiful Suffering for all parties involved….

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

Sex Should Frighten you!

“Sex and Women”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen to me my little flowers. Women stay sweet the less men are inside of them.

This something not promoted because it doesn’t exploit our emotions and if our emotions aren’t exploited, no one makes money.

Sex is a death ritual.

Sex is a  “giving up” of your soul to another soul.

Sex is A sacrifice.

Sex is  A melding together of thoughts,

emotions,

feelings,

bacteria,

shyte,

puss, and sputum(saliva/phlegm) and all his Specters too.

Sex should FRIGHTEN every woman.

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But the technology of contraception has given us a false sense of fearlessness while it promotes reckless abandon.

But guess what hasn’t changed: Your feelings!

Technology has assisted in helping us as women ACT like men.

And so the bastard children come, no father’s to shield them, no protection and guidance from men.

Why?
Because we are no longer “afraid” of the consequences of sex.

Your body is a receiver and a recorder of everything that goes into it.

black women with locs
Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re

Sperm isn’t designed to be inside you.

Your body sends out white blood cells to “fight” the “infection” called “sperm” because it

sees it as a foreign bacteria that shouldn’t be there.

This is why you should pray before sex.
This why he should pray over you before sex.

This is why you should be Committed to each other before sex.
This is also why you should not over indulge in sex.
Love and Light
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

Ok, sigh…

I have been getting so much comments from males about their perception of what black women choose for dating /Marriage etc. The repetitive talk is this “Black women ONLY want Attractive/Rich men”.
Where these men get these notions from, I have no idea but I’m going to clear it up today.

MOST women are with unattractive men. This could mean unattractive as in literally *ugly or unattractive as in SHE LOOKS BETTER THAN HE DOES. Most women are falling into one of either of those catergories.

Women with locs
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

And why is this? Because ALL men seek out women who are attractive whether they themselves posses handsomeness or not; this is how men are wired to choose.
And for women, a man’s looks generally comes in second place to the size of his wallet(security) so the emotional needs of men and women actually compliment each other.

Look around you… How many brothers do you come across in your day that look like a 10?? Even a 7??? There are NOT that many “really attractive”, and there are not too many above average men out here either.

And the gag is that men who make bank, who gather REAL BAGS are VERY “average” looking. But God bless the suit and tie because they can easily bring a man up 2-3 notches in the looks department.

Most women are or will be with men who are “odd looking” disporportion noses and lips, big ears with a little mouth, etc. But generally, his face doesn’t have perfect symmetry. But she loves him anyway.

Most women will not be with men who match her beauty, but that is ok cause it really works in our favor in end.

The moral is this: Men want women that look better than them, and women want men to earn more than them.

And everybody is looking for somebody who is better than themselves, so nobody hardly ever gets everything they want. We are all “SETTLING” at the end of the day…

AUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
Salkis Re

Why is Everybody Single??

Women with locs
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

MOST men, no matter what age they are, want “physically” young looking women and he would be a jackpot winner if he gets a woman who is young with her own money.

Lllllllmmao! But the issue with that is that if she is young and attractive and has her own coins, she can hold out for a man who is better looking than you, who fucks better than you, who makes enough money to “handle” everything she wants and needs.

And this is why people are single!
Everybody is scouting for a partner who is better than themselves in looks or money, and if you luck up on someone who IS better than you yet wants to be with you, trust that SHE/HE is “ALWAYS MENTALLY or PHYSICALLY SHOPPING” meaning she/he is with you yet open/motivated to finding a “better” replacement.

And why is this?
Because you are a “charity case”, not a boyfriend/girlfriend they fear of losing.
Chasing women/men out of your league gets you ALL OF THAT!

So when you are seeking the “best” partner, the perfect fit, be careful that you are not signing yourself up to be a beast of burden.

And ladies,
If a man is “better” than you, you mustn’t substantiate that claim by displaying insecurity, emotional neediness, and a total disregard of your own self interests or you WILL be dragged through the mud.
Carry on…

“Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re

You Will Pick The Wrong Man Again!

“You Will Pick The Wrong Person Again, So Rela
Written by Salkis Re

You pick partners not based on what you want, but what you are familiar with! You have your list of demands and characteristics that a man must have. And you are proud of this well thought out list because it represents a sane mind, a woman who exercises conscientiousness and reasonability.

But your list most likely contains what you’ve been TOLD to look for, NOT what you emotions predisposed you too.
You know how many women actually find the guy that fits all the characteristics on her list, but then she has lunch with her girlfriends and expresses how “boring” he is??

He’s perfect! He has everything, but he bores you.

Why?
Because he is unable to give you the “suffering” that YOU have come to associate with the feeling of REAL love.

Your Mother gives you a template for love, and if was irate and loud and intimidating, you will subconsciously seek men who will criticize and berate you.
If you had a Father whom you observed to be weak and emotionally fragile, you will find a partner who is weak and needs constant reassurance which you WILL find frustrating, BUT it provides a LOVE you know!!🤔

If a partner’s personality is NOT familiar with how you interpret love, you are going to consider him a miss-match.

The WRONG guy is the guy you go for because he is represents what REAL love is to you.
It is near impossible to rewire your templates for love, but you can “reframe” how you react and respond to the person representing your love template.

You like bullies? Then don’t let the bully be a bully to YOU.
You like loud, patronizing men?
Do NOT let him define YOU with his insults
And so on..

Women with Locs
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

“The Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re

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To Be Like Her Means You Kill Yourself!

“What Woman Are You?”

Faith in yourself is built on a foundation of work not hope or prayer or wishing.
You have a mind and you know what you “should be doing”, yet you wrestle with yourself.

You allow other women to rate your your level of competence and relevance on a

“fact sheet” derived from their summations if how you look.
Women perpetuate division and the casting of other women, and we are fervently vicious in that regard.

So where is this fairness that nostalgically speak of, cause I’ve never seen it!
Worried about what the next woman has but you do nothing

outside the level of laziness to change your own condition, to improve yourself.

Everybody’s FUGAZI out here:Everybody!!

 

Black Women with Locs
“Thinking of You” Art by Salkis Re

Listen woman, yeah you!
What do you know about women? If you are a woman, you should quite a bit,

but if you are liar to yourself you might struggle in seeing under the veil of those around you.

I said before and I will say it again so that you can Direct your energy to pursuits that will pay you dividends.

You are unlike any other woman.

This is a fact.
And this means that you have to own that.
And accept what comes with that.

The fact that you are unlike other women means that there is no such thing as equality.

To execute Equality would mean that you and I were born at the same time,

have the same anatomical structure, emotional development, share the same IQ, biological functions and so on.
But we do not.
And it’s because you and I cannot physically, mentally nor emotionally

be identical that we should not spend one fucking moment fretting over “comparisons”.

I Wanted to Be So Many Things..

 

I am not academically astute. I struggled in school something awful. I thought I wanted to be a Nurse,

but I hated blood. I wanted to be a Lawyer but my self esteem was to low to accept that vision.

I wanted to be a Clinical Psychologist but the amount of schooling for that just disgusted me.

What was I looking for above all else? To be “somebody”.

I thought an academic route would give me the respect and the love that my esthetics could not afford me.
Everything I used to do was for THEM to accept me.

For black people to care about me, for white people to respect me, for men to Love me etc…

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“Love You Anyway” African American Art by Salkis Re

Chasing what I wasn’t designed to do or be took a massive chunk out of my life!

Don’t waste time.
Read what I’m about to say carefully, this is the KEY to success.

Figure out what you are capable of being and then figure out what you are willing to SACRIFICE to become that.

Please understand that you must choose your “SACRIFICE”

or should I say the “PRICE” you are willing to pay to be the woman you want to be.

Why?
Because everything COSTS.
And if you don’t choose your SUFFERING (yes I said suffering)

deliberately, you will end up sacrificing something

other than what’s needed to become the woman you aspire to be!
Be what you want to be, but being what you CAN be trumps ALL!

 

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So Who Am I?

Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re