Reasons and Justifications For Bullshit!

Abstract Art by Salkis Re
Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re

 

“Reasons”
Written by Salkis Re
 
Yeah we create them.
These elaborate excuses for why we can’t do this or that.
And these “thoughts” become “beliefs” as you because you start to design your entire life around them.
Sometimes, most times, you will say it’s because:
your mother was fucked up,
or you don’t have enough education,
or you’re not pretty enough,
or that you are set in your ways,
or you don’t have enough time,
or you need more training,
or you can’t find anyone to help you,
or you don’t have enough money.
 

But all those are is reasons, not truths.

Why?
Because you find money for the outfit, and you find the friends to wear it with, and the time to hang out with them,
and you research where to you go, and you place your time,
effort and money into what your perception says with will bring you immediate joy.
 

REASONS are elaborate thoughts based on fear and laziness,

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
and as you repeat them, you create the energy of justification behind them.
So here is the deal. I want you to see your reasons for NOT doing a thing as inverted ambition.
Yes. Inverted ambition.
Why?

Because you created these reasons to STOP yourself from trying or doing or being.

These are carefully crafted thoughts that you have DECIDED is your truth, and this took work to do too.
Now, what you want to do is the opposite of this in terms
of crafting reasons why you SHOULD do a thing that you have always wanted to do.
Why should you many 6 figures a year?
Why SHOULD you have an awesome relationship?
What are the reasons you can find to live the life of your dreams
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Don’t Believe What They Say

African American Art
Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?

 

So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?
No.

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

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When We Were Kings

African American Art
Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?

No!

They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?

No!

H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re

 

So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.

 

 

 

“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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What is Dating a Man Really For?

African Art
Salkis Re, Artist/ Life Coach

 

I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?

**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.

Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**

with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.

Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.

Why?
Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,

honesty,

goal appraisals and so forth.

Now Getting to know a person is another matter.

 

Now spending time with a person is another matter.

That could include sharing a ride home from work.

I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.

I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.

Would my presence be welcomed?

Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?

A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances  could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,

how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.

Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.

Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity

to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining  or making an impression on you!!

The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection

**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…

Take it for what it is, or not..

But this message is EXACT!

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**Please pass this email on to your girlfriends, especially the young ladies you know..**Thank You.

 

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

 

Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

African American Artist
Artist, Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

African American Art
Art by Salkis Re

STEP ONE

So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)

STEP TWO

Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.

STEP THREE

Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.

STEP FOUR

Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?

Xoxo,

Salkis

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

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Justification of Bullshit!!

Your Life Coach, Salkis Re

Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.

It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
But you know what this means too?
It means that you can also justify the things that give you pleasure,
the things or experiences that improve you physically and mentally.
Justification for laziness,
sloth,
indecisiveness,
fear,
and anger takes the same amount of energy as the justification for wanting a man with a gigantic penis,
or a house with 6 bedrooms.Why?
Because your justification creates the importance behind anything you do or don’t do,

and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.

There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.

African American Art by Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
The answer?
Nothing!
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships

because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.

I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.

The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,

or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.

I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!

And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
No Sir!
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!

So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,

or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
GAME!!
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

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You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

Black Art Eyes
                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

Black Art Eyes
African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

black artists

 

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Learning the Game Early

 

African American art
Art by Salkis Re

“We’ve Learned”
Written by Salkis Re

Little girls learn what the bigger girls have to do,
preoccupied their minds with looking pretty like them too.

Then mommy steps in
cause she wants to slow us down,
saying we have to wait till we’re a bit bigger to wear her crown.

But we see early
the inner workings of the game,
and we see the point, and we don’t see a point to wait.

Mommy says we look pretty,
and this makes us feel so good,
and Daddy give her more love when she puts on these clothes.

So we’re here
ransacking the dresser drawer looking for her swag,
cause we know we got to look more good
to get more than what we have.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
#artinprogress

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Today’s message is to learn quickly. To learn without the right or wrong contemplations with necessities. If you need to do it, do it!

Game isn’t going anywhere and if you want someone in your life, you WILL have to conform in order to get what you want.

You have to be pretty to create the environment of cooperation in men.

And if the cards of life have dealt you with mediocrity in the face, you MUST act like you are prettier than you actually are.

It’s as simple as that.

 

You Can’t Be YOURSELF!

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  • You are what you say.
    You are what you do.
    You are how you feel.
    And everything you do, say, and feel is a result of what you are getting out the deal.

What do I mean?

I mean there is a pay off for how you behave:
Attention, sympathy, validation, love, money etc..
You would not be what you are without an audience to provide an exchange for your performance.

And if it’s a pleasant reaction, if it makes you feel good, you will do it over and over and over again.
So what am I saying here?
I’m saying that there is no such thing as authenticity.

There is no such thing as the True Self.
If no one was watching you or interacting with you, you wouldn’t be what you are right now.

If you were stranded on a deserted island suddenly, you’d quickly become a new person because there would be no one around to be what you are for.

That said, you are like quantum physics that says the atom particle behaves differently when it’s being observed.
You are living your life as an actor on a stage, making motions to shock people or to make men think sexual thoughts about you.

Moors in Art
Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

You have a sense of your value based on your interactions with people. You can’t quantify or validate your own worth outside of the presence of others.
Seems grim but it’s not really.
All this means is that you have Card Blanche and full authority to create a persona deliberately. You get to decide what qualities get activated or deactivated within you.

You now understand that permission to BE is not going to fall in your lap, and no one is capable of granting it to you. They can only interact with you based on what they feel and you let them based on what you think you will experience and the value you think you will receive from them.

Don’t BE yourself, CREATE yourself!

“Spiritual Advisor for Hire”
“Black Hat Society”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

Do visit my website to book as session with me and to buy art to help you concentrate and focus your mind in order to control it..

Stop Beating Yourself Up..

Goddess Worship Kali
“The Conjurer”
Art by Salkis Re

Do not let anyone disturb your peace. Your vibrance and vitality is contingent upon have an environment that supports your emotional well-being. Everything you are experiencing now is a direct result of how you manage your emotions.

The World In Your Hands
Painting by Salkis Re

🤔The reason why you let people run over you is because of how you manage your emotions.

🤔The reason you think you can’t follow your dreams is the result of how you manage your emotions.

🤔The reason you feel you can’t live without a man that doesn’t love is a result of how you handle your emotions.

🤔The reason you won’t ask for a raise at a job you work so hard at is due to how you handle your emotions.

Some of you need an exercism!!
A total washing away of who you have “decided” to be.

I thought I was nothing my entire life. I thought I was the “monkey” that people called me. I did not handle my emotions well because I believed the moronic shyte that people said that I was.

Listen to me..
The only thing you have to conquer is your habit of being a slave to your own emotions.
You direct your mind!
You say what you are!
You determine what it is that you are!
I am here to guide you back to self!
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“Black Hat Society”

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Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

“Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

What Will You Do?

🌼What makes life worth living? I had to ask myself this to gain some clarity and perspective. And I realized that having “challenges” was a key component for my growth.

🌼I realized that I didn’t want to “suffer”. I need accomplishments and joy in my journey, still,
I came to the conclusion that the journey of champions is not filled with a lot of people.

🌼And I’ve come know, as you will also, that most people feel powerless, and in their daily grind, they simply look to others who can soothe their anxiety within the reality they’ve come to accept.

🌼You can’t let people abuse your time, your body, or your spirit because there is no “lesson” to be had if the outcome has given you a repeated result.

So what will you do?
🌼I know what I’m here to do! I am here to activate your memory, to creatively disseminate wisdom to women, to encourage you to come out of your mental prison and fly.. It’s more than wearing vintage garments and crazy hair styles; those are expressions of your “look at me” button, and hardly has anything to do with freedom of the mind.

🌼There are plenty of intellectual fools out here. There’s a plethora of well dressed manic depressives. There are cashiers with bachelors degrees. Choices, genetics, habits, environment try to script out your life, BUT you have the last say in how your world plays out..

🌼”Black Hat Society”

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Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

🌼”Spiritual Advisor for Hire”
🌼”Medicine Woman for Healing”
🌼”Mistress of Words for Spells”
🌼”Black Girl Magic for Life”
🌼”ARTIST”
~Salkis Re
🌼Website: www.iloveherart.com

Blow Your Whistle!

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many of you play yourselves small everyday? Worried about appeasing people’s fragile egos at the expense of your own heart and mind… Nobody is worth you diminishing yourself for, and you need to understand that your momentary display of humility won’t cure any of their self inflicted angst either.

Whatever they feel is what they have been feeling long before the knowledge of your existence. This means that you MUST aggrandize and affirm your self, and release the emotional shackles of wanting anyone’s stamp of approval to do so.

Today’s VIDEO is all about this and the step you need to take right now to fix this disease of humility once and for all.

Watch Here

A Woman’s Place

beautiful black women
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

witches
“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Woman’s Advocate”
“Spiritual Healer”
~Salkis Re

A Queen’s Way

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“The Throne”
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Queen’s Way”
Written by Salkis Re

When they tell you that you can’t, don’t believe it. You must stretch past their doubts so you can see it.
And know that how people feel is not your fault,
so don’t spend time worrying about what they have thought.

You must learn that your value is a matter of what you say,
because society has convinced us to be proud of how much we have to pay.

And you have the right to dictate exactly what you are worth,
but you have to understand that it starts with you becoming self-assured.

I know this because I was unsure for most of my entire life.
Wondering why my kindness never afforded me very many likes.

Then I released my responsibility for other’s emotions,
and turned inward to build control in what I have control over.

And I relaxed into the goddess that you see before you today.
And I stretch forth my hand to pull you towards A Queen’s Way.
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“Mistress of Words”©

witches
“Life Coach” ~Salkis Re

“Life Coach”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
*Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

This is Your Dream Killer

 

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“The Humans”   Art by Salkis Re

 

“The Dream Killer Is..”

Taking control of a thing is not a passive protocol. Some of you are “waiting” for something to fall out the sky, for the great Conjunction, a shooting star, waiting on Jesus, or the Pleadians to come for you, or some shamanic rites of passage to give you ceremony to trick you into moving your arse.

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Where Are Your Balls?

Black art
“Self Esteem Coach”
Salk is Re

Look at the world today!

The people who are getting along splendid in this world are the ballsy people. The people who don’t give a shyte what anyone thinks are the ones who live opulent lives.

But all the “good folk” seem to live the entirety of their days conflicted between their morals and desires, between manners and their secret desires to exercise conceit.

  • The good folk get used,
  • have low self esteem,
  • and are too scared of fire and brimstone to make a real move.

You got to be a little bad.

Yeah…

I said it.

dark skin girls in art
“Clementine”
Art by Salkis Re

A little scoundrel is what you need to incorporate into your personality so you can build a back bone and some conviction.

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Love Is Never Enough!

African American art
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

If love was enough then why are there so many women experiencing low self worth. Not all of us came from jacked up mothers. A great many of us came from loving homes, and yet, the issue of self worth and the question of you being worthy still rears it’s ugly head.

That is because “kind words” won’t heal you. Sweet words are like cracked and you become an addict looking for you next hit or shot of self esteem based on what other people would like you to believe they think of you.
It’s a game.
Words without action are like pages in a book that you read and put back on the shelf. You have stand on your own two feet and become an independent thinker because those words that make you feel good can stop coming at any moment.

At the drop of a dime, you could cause someone who once professed love for you to now wrath against you. And your self esteem, your confidence and worth go down the drain along side their concern.
Flattery is a spell. It can easily trap your emotions and make you addicted to the issuer of the compliment.

The whole point of this is that how a person feels about you means nothing at the end of the day. You can’t borrow their feelings for you. You can’t pretend to believe them.

Either you believe it or you don’t.

You need to hear it frequently that you are good as you are because you do not believe it!! Your little heart craves validation and it is for this reason that you can’t handle hearing anything that doesn’t support what you DON’T feel within yourself.

You are going to have to quit that drug girlfriend!

Yes.

That drug of validation has made you a cripple, a functioning retard trying to mask your inadequacy instead of facing your demons head on.
I’m no fairy.
I realize that my approach to coaching is a bit edgy, less “put your head on my shoulder” kind of deal. And I will admit that I’m jealous of those women who can package themselves in that airy fairy way because that way offers the least amount of work and the least amount of resistance from you.

But I just cannot do it though. Kind words are a spinning wheel to nowhere; and they disarm your intellect and your reason. Soothing words make you forget what you need to fix, what you need to address and tend too.
And it creates a stall in you the real progress you could be making towards mental ownership and your own soul retrieval.

 

Stop holding your breath.
Stop pretending to feel what you have never felt.
Uncover where these notions of yourself have come from, and withdraw your sword as you question your own beliefs. Start chopping down any belief that isn’t factual.
Ask what you are not, and that whatever is left after your omit the negatives should be examined for self improve.
It’s work ladies.
Yoni eggs, good sex and a shot of Bourbon will not cure what ails your heart.
You want a spell that will help reconstruct your life right now?
Here it is in 4 easy steps

  1.  Exercise Your Body-
    This means to get your ass up and move. Do yoga or go to gym. Body movement is the best drug to boost your self image, confidence and it’s awesome to stabilize your emotions. Your body is how you communicate to the world. It tells the world how you feel about yourself.
  2.  Clean
    Nothing moves the spirit of good fortune and a sound mind like a clean organized space. Look at your surroundings. Can you get rid of sone of that shit? Is there clutter and mess anywhere? Filth will affect your body, mind and spirit. It will also affect your money because you won’t know where to find what you need, what is due, you might be re-buying what you already have because your junk pile is hiding what you have.
  3.  Eat What Your Body Wants
    Yes. Eat what your body wants, not what YOU want. You want sweets but you it hurts your teeth. You want potato chips but the salt makes your ankle swell. You want fruit but it gives you diarrhea. You want beef but it constipates you. Now what? You disregard the imbalance and the warning signs your body gives you because you can’t control your feelings? No ma’am! Let your body tell you what it can handle and OBEY the answer you get. Period.
  4. Create
    I don’t care if it’s a math test or a table cloth: create something. We as women are designed to give birth/create to things. It is a nutritional requirement to have some sort of creative outlet that you can use to destress yourself. It could be dance, crocheting, painting , writing, whatever! Just have something you do that doesn’t have anything to do with anybody else.
    Have that “me time” set. Your creativity is the curator of your self worth and gives you am excuse to be selfish if you are one of those women who have a hard time saying no to people.

It’s time for you to change.. Let me help you.

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Black Girl Blues: I Tried to Straighten My Nose With a Cloths Pin

beautiful Dark Skin Women
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Clothes Pins on My Nose”

I remember when I would put clothes pin on my nose to try to make my nose less ‘African’. I’d steal one from the clothes line and after I said my prayers, I’d put it on my nose to try to sleep with it on through the night.

Almost made it through the night
I tossed and turned under sheets trying to console myself through the discomfort, and of course I never actually made it through the night: My record for the longest time spent with that forking clothes pin on my nose was whopping two hours though.

I know it you know

That feeling like you wish you born another way, as someone else. I would look at my mother and secretly be angry with her for mating with my dad because if she picked a lighter man, then I would have turned out prettier instead of this black and ugly that my peers called me everyday.

I thought I was Ugly

Now, my father was a handsome man. Hands down ‘Sagga Boy‘ as they say in Trinidad. I loved my father dearly, I was a ‘daddy’s girl’ through and through.

  • But I was tall like him,
  • But I had big lips like him,
  • But I had his nose
  • But I was dark like him,

so I thought I looked ugly because I looked like him and to like him meant I looked like a boy. And to top of that notion,( in my child mind) I also thought that boys should be dark and girls should be light-skin cause that’s all I saw in the media, my community etc.
It took years to get over my suppositions about beauty; It took years of allowing myself to be used, believing the biases of society and being played by the people I loved and respected for me to realize the lies.

You have to ‘decide’ to have self esteem. And in your decision to value yourself comes the responsibility of how you ‘act’ and what you do to support that. People are more concerned with themselves than you, so the approval you are seeking from others is never going to come. And They can’t give you approval because are in search of it for themselves too!

 

Your notions of yourself, if based solely on the reaction or response from other people, will be false and that’s whether they give you a compliment or a dis! Be careful with kind words too. You could become a slave to ‘positive reinforcement’ also. I’ve met gorgeous women who are used to hearing that they are gorgeous, and still get in a panic attack if the ‘aggrandizing’ from others is nonexistent or comes in a little slow.

And those early thoughts of myself is a major reason behind my artistry. I see the power of imagery.

You either Create who you want to be, or let others tell you what you are.
Which will you choose?

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How to Stop the Disease to Please!

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

How Not to Give a Shit! Oops! Did I Just Swear??

 

If you could get this one thing together, I mean this would blow this need to people please to smithereens, and
You’d have what you want out a life!

Validation and acceptance from the “tribe” was once a survival requirement.
You could have been ran out a town or burned at the stake if the important folk in your town thought you were a lunatic.

And your DNA is wired for tribal approval, which means that your brain is still operating in the vein
of “I need a group to love me so that I will gave food, protection and shelter”.
But those hunter gatherer days are long gone and you have to bribe your own mother to watch your children overnight.

You are alone…

(I get so excited saying this)
Why?
Because it means you are also FREE.

  • Free to be what you want.
  • Free to do what you want.
  • Free to have what you want.

[No tribe is gonna run you outa town for being whomever you’ve chosen to be.]

You must get this in your thick skull!
And the irony today is this: people prefer to be around people who have a strong identity.

People latch onto self aware people like white on rice!**
So you wouldn’t be alone even if you tried because you being you will also attract others who are looking for people that they too can be themselves with.
It’s a Win-Win situation my darling..

So today’s Mantra is:

The rescue I want to see is
In me being me.

Like this “makes all the sense in the world approach”? Then if you haven’t gotten a copy of my latest E-Book, I think you should start there. If you are ready to work with me, then go here.
I’m in the mist of restructuring my coaching program and it will definitely be out of reach for many people.

I’m being more selective in who I work with so you’d want to get in before the change happens to qualify for special goodies I have planned for my loyalists. Hehe

Queen Bee, Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Pied Piper and Your Willing Sacrifice!

Your love for the lies…

You have a love affair with presentation, with the sweet nothings whispered in your ear. You meet girlfriends for drinks and ask them to speculate on the true intent of the man you love.
You worry. You worry because you know the answer already, you just want hope that its other than what you suspect. But the pied piper leads you to doom, not with bravado or hurtful rants. He leads you there by becoming the source of everything you’ve ever wanted.He listens to your woes with great interest and attention. He maps your weaknesses while offering delightful experiences to “restore” your excitement to dream and your faith in the unknown.

The Secret About All Magic

Yet, as with all good magicians and seducers, he “asks” for your permission to enter your mind. Spells and Your Binding Agreement
See, spells do not work if you are resistant. You must be a willing participant for beguilement. You must be “open” to suggestion and this is why are find yourself all in love with him before he reveals his intent and the truth of his heart. No darling, you are very very much in control: you give up your control because you think his offer is more splendid than anything you already posses. You will learn more about real magic and how it operates in your life as we work together. But for now, understand that is the only way that manipulation can work is  you have to first believe that you have a problem and secondly, that HE possess the power to solve it!

Once that is established, then you are locked in.

I told you before, Dracula must be invited in, even the Devil had to has God permission to tempt you!! What does this mean for you personally though? Well it means that you are playing a victim of the very decisions you make. you have allowed your emotions to dictate policy and your mode of operations. And this is why your math never adds up, this is why you can’t quantify the value this person brings to your life. You can’t think straight because you are not using that part of your mind t think, you are using your emotions to think Big mistake!.
The warning signs come though.

You are NEVER let without Gods guidance.

You just choose to override the nudge, that off feeling, or that gnawing in your stomach because its unscientific. But what could be more unscientific than hypothetical plans for a future you may not be the one he chooses to have one with?

First Decree: Tell The Truth To Yourself At All Times..
Salkis Re “Your Life Coach”

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