Black Girl IS MAGIC!!

African Art

 

2020 is HERE! and we need to stop walking around here waiting on permission to breathe the air we take into our lungs. We need to assert our authority over our own lives by the mimicry of other races behind.

we can say what is opulent and quality verses what is not if we run this race TOGETHER!

 

Decide that you matter.

decided that you deserve love.

Decide that abundance is your birthright as well as health and happiness!

So Let It Be Done!!

 

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Swirlers Are Attacking Me!!

And if you are going to base the prediction of results on statistics, black men can support their arguments for not fooling with black women on those same reports you are going to for emotional comfort and reassurance.

T.I Says That Black Women Are Happier Alone!

What black women have to keep in mind, especially those of us who want marriage with black men’s to ditch the badge of honor over your need to do what you need to do to survive.

Don’t ever allow your sacrifice to be center of your value when it comes to black men.

Black Girls Want to Rock Too!

If you wait on people to accept who and what you are, you’ll be waiting a life time to get it.

And I you manage to get it, you’ll son realize it wasn’t worth the wait to begin with.

 

I have always made it a point extend an olive branch to other women of all shapes and sizes and colors

so that I wouldn’t be classified as bitter or insecure over other women.

 

But the conclusion I’ve reached is that it doesn’t matter if you say hello first,

if you give first,

if you offer friendship or understanding first, all people see is COLOR.

“La Petite Moor”

 

As A black woman, that’s all I’ve been all my life: BLACK 

My talents, my wisdom or anything else I had of value always took a back seat to how I looked.

 

Even in the art world, there are private discussions about what “type” of work sells and WHO can sell it,

and I was advised on several occasions not to do the “Black Girl” thing cause it’s not what black people want to see.

Some hard conclusion arose though.

African Art
“La Negra”

And it wasn’t that black girls don’t sell, its that black girls created by black girls don’t move as fast.

I’ve seen white artists paint black girls, pitch black girls in folk art style on old doors and other eclectic stuff,

some of which can be misconstrued as “Coonery” and BLACK PEOPLE bought their art.

 

I’ve seen white women do paintings exclusively of black women who decide to keep themselves inconspicuous

and BLACK PEOPLE BUY THEIR WORK too!

 

And here I am, and actual black woman

And here I am, and actual black woman concerned about the politics of painting dark skin women because

I didn’t want to be misconstrued as a “hater”….

Imagine that?

Telling my story and worried about acceptance when everybody else can enjoy

( without scrutiny) what they prefer to paint for whatever reason they choose to paint it.

“I Don’t Know”

Everybody Can DO What They Want to Do Except Me??

Everyone else gets to enjoy the novelty of it all, but I need sensible reasons for why I do what I do?

No More…

 

It’s a New Day..

And Im here to tell OUR STORY through the faces of Dark skin women.

I won’t say that I’ll never paint another complexion again because I will,

but the FOCUS now is on Black Girl Magic.

To see the entire collection and buy something sweet. for you or someone you love, go to www.iloveherart.com

Kanye is Saved, Kim Kardashian is NOT??

So Yeezy wants his beautiful wife to stop dressing sexy because he has

finally realized that it was “Affecting My Soul” as he puts expressed in a reality T.V. video circulating around social media.

A lot of women weighed in on the matter with many of them saying that he basically got what he paid for.

With the recent surface of his “Sunday Best” choir church service type concerts,

I think Kanye is shifting into spirituality which seems to be helping him find a moral compass of his own.

I think that we have to make room for people to change or revolve when in a relationship,

but this situation is tricky because he got with her because he was attracted to the whore archetype she displayed.

Kim K’s brand IS HER BODY! This is how she has made a fortune and it essentially Is her “talent” so to speak.

To require someone like her to stop doing what even brought him to her yard, would prove a disaster for business model.

He is looking for a deeper connection with his wife now.
The vixen, whore, sexy arch is played out in his mind and he finally sees it for what it is..

But honestly, I think this is a full circle for Kanye.
It’s just “Jesus Walks With Me” all over again for him..

Kanye West Praying on Sunday
Running from who he as always been is over and he in finally getting to do music with a meaning and a spiritual base.

This fits neatly with my point about leading with your sexuality.

It gets old ladies, and for some of us , it spoils like milk.

Kim enjoyed a long run with the shenanigans, but I think she should follow her man’s lead.

Kanye West Sundays Best
Kayne West At His Sunday Service

I think he is also sensing that she is hitting a wall now, too old for the vixen shyte and the booty must be going through changes underneath those body shapers, but he loves her.

So he’s like hey: ” We did that! Now I want you to be my “First Lady”

and we could ride this wave until the wheels fall off, and go to heaven when its all over..

Tell me what ya’ll think about this. I’d love to hear what you ladies and gents have to say about this matter!

Watch the Video OF Kayne Telling Kim What He Thinks

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of

The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Jason Pope Black Girl Pimpin

Jason Pope

White Guy Lures Black Women for Sex

This news story came across my newsfeed on facebook two days ago.

Apparently this white man Jason Pope, also known as DJ KID, has been enticing black women and minors to have sex with him in exchange for concert tickets and other medial trinkets for years.

He is an accused pedophile who has been rumored to have exposed over 600 black women to HIV also.

What’s more is that he has been arrested and charged with sex trafficking minors and has a non sexually related criminal history going all the way back to 1995.

Jason Pope
Jason Pope, Aka DJ KID

 

He BlackMailed One of His Victims

He had blackmailed an underage victim in 2017 and pressured her into performing sex acts after she left him for two weeks.

He then proceeded to trash her all over social media when he couldn’t get her to comply.

Six months later, this same victim’s mother alerted deputies that Pope was luring girls for sex off of Facebook and Snapchat by promising prizes..

So apparently this creep would pay these girls for sex then talk about the experience on social media to entertain his followers.

 

 

Dark Skin Women, Unloved Everywhere

I think what disturbs me the most about this is that he strategically targeted dark skin black girls 

and women to solicit sex for money.

Every picture I’ve seen to date with this criminal has been in the arms of a dark skin black woman.

Reading and viewing the commentary about the pictures, I’ve heard these women described as “Duties”, Section 8 Recipients and Monkeys for the most part.

Jason Pope

Speaking as a Dark skin black woman myself, I know all too well the underlying bias and prejudice that society has for us. We are the rejects even amongst our own people, the throwaways of society if you will.

And I warn black women to stop sexualizing themselves and making themselves agreeable and available to men for pleasure or a few coins.

When you are considered unattractive, there’s no moral instinct in a man to not want to harm you.

And that is the cold, hard, facts of life.

 

 

Leave Vanity ALONE

The women I coach get an earful of that medicine because I want them to be aware and prepared emotionally so that they can resist the emotional mind f*(k  people, BOTH MALE AND FEMALE with play on them.

Dark skin women are always used for sexploitation because we are like animals to men in our society whether they are white OR black.

 

And this is why I telling all my black Doves, my clients, to LEAVE VANITY ALONE.

Women end up in the arms of men like this fool because you are seeking validation and a sense of self worth that you feel only a man can give you.

You want to be wanted, even if it’s only for sex.

And the temporary affection you get during the sex act satisfies a need to feel loved. But it also puts you in harms way. You can destroy your life while chasing a fantasy. And the sorrowful part about many of us ark skin women is that we turn to sexual freedom experience worthiness and the only attention many of us get is sexual attention.

It’s a GAME, and men will play with you LIFE if you let them.

Don’t give any man the authority to affirm you, to upgrade you, to give you an identity.

Your life is your responsibility. Clean it it. Clean yourself of the filthy thoughts of low self worth through RIGHT ACTION.

 

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

How to Handle Manipulators

So I was thinking about Passive Aggressive men this morning and what I wanted to
say about them since some of you have emailed me with your concerns about how to avoid or manage passive aggressive men.
I want to you to understand how I think of  these labels like
Narcissist,
Manipulators,
Passive Aggressive,
Pathological Liars
These are all fancy fartsy terms for people who are dedicated to getting you to do what they want you to do regardless if its hurtful or dangerous or selfish on their part.
The passive aggressive person will throw insults in the form of a question,
they will state opinions wrapped around the pretense of ignorance.
They will not come out and say what they feel because way back when they were young,
their opinions were shot down, so they’ve learned to spare themselves the pain of
rejection for the things they want by never being clear about what they feel or what they want..
The Pathological liar is usually egoistic and have low levels of self-pride.
One of their traits are that of story changing.
They usually cannot remember the previous lie, so they make up a completely new lie to keep the illusion going.
Pathological liars
The Manipulator is one who exploits other people specifically for their own gain.
They are experts at fishing out a persons weaknesses
Here are 4 common traits of a Manipulator:
  1. They know how to detect your weaknesses.
  2.  They use your weaknesses against you.
  3. Through their shrewd effort, they convince you to give up something of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
  4. Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, he or she will likely repeat the violation until you put a stop to the exploitation.
The Narcissist spends time demeaning outer people. It’s important for that person to make everyone around them feel small and insignificant.
A Narc needs constant approval and praise to feel self worth and has an abnormal feeling of gracious importance..
They exploit people without guilt or shame….

abstract potrait painting
“I Understand” Original Art by Salkis RE

All these types of people TAKE without giving.
They demand from you what they do not feel the need to give in return.
They are all users, some aggressively, some not.
But they will all make you feel uncomfortable with who you are.
They will all make what you are asking for seem pointless and have a total disregard for your feelings whether by outright insults or sarcasm…
You “Handle” people like this by having your own agenda.
And your simple vow is to put yourself first at all times because someone who truly cares about you; they will not want to take anything from you that you don’t want to give, They will respect your boundaries and your feelings..
You handle them ALL by never doing anything you don’t feel comfortable with doing. You destroy their power by becoming a FELINE!! 

Conjure Women, Witches Hold Imagination…

Black Women Witches
Salkis Re- Conjuring Up The Heavens

 

So what if everything we have seen, heard, read or know is misinformation?

What if we are living in a dream state and our dreams are actually reality..

Well if my dreams were true I’d be able to fly in helicopters, fight off lions with my bare hands and have sex with Angels… haha!

I think dreams are “potentials”…

I think they are excess thoughts that become junk because we do nothing with them; we don’t act upon them, so they have to release themselves from our minds to unburden us with thoughts that we cannot produce anything with..

Goddess art
“The Conjurer” Art by Salkis Re

To create your life, the life you want, takes a heavy dose of imagination and creativity.. It requires that you feels things you have never get in your hands, to know things you have not experienced first hand..

It requires a vivid imagination and a high tolerance for pain..

You’ve got to risk it all for what you want. You’ve got to be SO O.K. with putting yourself on the line, with looking like you don’t know what you are doing, with people not supporting you etc…

You want power.

I know I do.

And it was hard for me to admit that because it seemed like it had an immoral stain on it. Only evil people are powerful, right? But who told us that?

Who told us that a working man who barely gets to see his wife and kids is doing a more noble act than a man who would rather live on the street than be a slave for another man?

Abstract portrait painting
“This World Is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

Morality is marketed to us, just like lipstick and StarBucks coffee…

It’s all made up..

So now that you know this, and hopefully on a road to accepting it, which fears will you start to let go of? What doubts are you going to scratch off your little list of “Can’t Do’s” and “Never Gonna Happen”

 

 

 

Black women with thick locs

Who AM I?

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Why Calling Yourself UGLY IS IMPORTANT!

 

Inner Shame and Guilt That You Are Trying to Cover Up!

Listen, I know it’s “shameful” to call yourself UGLY..
I get it, truly..
It feels icky and degrading and self deprecating and whatever other

fancy word you’ve found in your thesaurus to use..

But guess what?
It’s everything that you ALREADY feel about yourself too!

So what are we doing here?

We are EXPOSING OURSELVES so that we can disarm the inner critic.

This is the only way to get to the root of our emotions so that we can fishing out the inner sabotage that happens on a daily basis.

Everything you feel that hold any negative connotation is tied into the way you look. VANITY is a woman’s curse.

 

It keeps us under control, it makes us obedient servants to those whom we feel can provide us an identity…

 

We look to others for this validation all day, every day.

 

And if other women seem to have more beauty than we do, we cease trying to better ourselves as we slump into the normality of GIVING UP.

Vanity is a CURSE. It destroys your ability to discern, to think clearly, to judge others justly and skews the perception of our TRUE worth…

 

You gotta embrace it..

The word Ugly is the key that unlocks the door to your mind in order to unleash your power!

 

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