The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

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“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Soft Porn Everywhere!

“Soft Porn”
Written by Salkis Re
 

Soft porn is everywhere, whispering to women subconsciously

about how we should look and feel about ourselves and 
women with their knees wide open, looking ready to insert things into their mouths,
appearing to not have a care in the world because lustful men
are sprawled helplessly around her,
That’s what you think you have to have..
 
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You are being programed to feel insecure.

You are being programmed emotionally
to want what the manufacturer sells.
You will be wanted if you buy this.
You will be respected if you buy that.
You will get married if you buy 10 of these etc etc..
And you think your desires are “natural”
when everything you think about yourself,
every emotion you express is a manufactured one.
 
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They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain

 
They target your Limbic Brain, that part of your brain that’s
responsible for memory and emotions and reward seeking.
EVERYTHING you do which includes what you eat, who you have sex with,
how you have sex, what you wear, your job, how many children you have,
your likes and dislikes are shaped by our fear a LOSS or the gain of a REWARD.
 
 
 
 
 
 
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No Reward!

You think you will be rewarded if you have sex with men. You think you won’t experience loss if you look pretty. You think you will be rewarded if you comply. You think you won’t lose friends if you think the same..

And down the rabbit hole you go, deeper and deeper into the abyss of illusion…  

Wake Up “Mummy”


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

Pretty Girls Want to Join the Ugly Girls Club

Hey  There UGLY GIRL!”
Transit time 6:19 a.m. Feb.8.2019

Pull of a chair, let me have a chat with you for a moment!
You wanna know what funny Ugly Girl?

Now that I’m focusing all of my energy on YOU,

women who are NOT Ugly, who are actually attractive, pretty,

beautiful, are coming to me asking to be apart of this coalition.
They are saying that “ugly” isn’t ONLY about looks Salkis,

it’s about how you FEEL inside. Attractive women are now admitting

to feeling low self esteem, to being manipulated and used just like US.

Dark skin women

 

 

But to qualify, they are coming with vague terms like
“I have an “ugly SOUL”: can I join?
Or ” I have an “ugly VIBE”: can I join?” 
Or “I have an “ugly HEART”, can I join?
Or “I have an “ugly ATTITUDE”, can I join?
And when I ask what they mean by it,

 

 their answers reveal what they PRETEND they don’t experience!!

So now I’m stepping back to see what I can use as a teaching lesson for you UGLY GIRL.
I told you Ugly Girls, you dark skin women in particular,

that there was no such thing as “light skin privilege” and that this term used

to describe feeling rather than a FACT because it created to create division and

an emotional assumption that a certain types of women are:

immune to being abused,

low self esteem,

depression,

poor mental and physical health,

being a baby mama,

being financially unstable etc..

 

I told you that any black woman that tells you that

she enjoys light skin privilege is LYING TO YOU,
and you got angry with me and pointed fingers at me while

accusing me of being “soft” on the issue and delusional at best..

 

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

 

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

And I’m thinking to myself, how do you women do not see the “game” here?

But how could you when you’ve been boxed into an emotional lens your entire life.

I tell you that I talk to these women,

I coach these women, they come to me in confidence and tell me their struggles,

and the consensus that I’ve concluded is that there is

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

It’s funny though that now that I want to create a space for UNATTRACTIVE women,

women who aren’t unattractive want to redefine the

term by admitting their failings in life so that they can be included..

I’m all over social media spreading this message!

 

 

This is all that I talk about on all my social media platforms.

The fallacy of attractiveness being the holy grail of a woman’s life must be debunked,

yet I do know first hand that unattractive women are more times than not,

are not given a chance to reveal their true value because of

prejudice and this assumed worthlessness based on how we look…

 

So I’m going to focus THAT, on THEM, on US, because

WE need tools and support to navigate through this thing called life..

“The Ugly Girls Club”
Founder, Salkis Re
Art behind me: by Salkis Re

 

 
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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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Natural Beauty Is Not In You!

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

Everything you feel about yourself is wrong,

corrupt,

self serving,

addictive and dangerous.

This society will not give us the balance and the peace we are looking for.

And the road to wellness requires that you pull apart everything that you assume is normal in your lives.

We were taught how to love each other, how to have sex with each other and

most if not all of what we know about love and sex is wrong.

 

We have now a deep seeded feeling of guilt and inadequacy.

We want desperately to be like other people who are other than what we are.

And even within our own so-called black community we

have caste systems in place designed to differentiate women by features,

The worth of a black woman is measured from how her outer shell is formed.

 

 

The goodness of her heart is not treasured and appreciated.

His focus on your backside has roots in homosexuality and to be truthful, and

the appetites of men these days in many ways is suspect and not as “heterosexual” as we are made to think it is…

 

 

You are running around here trying to be like men because you are scared of being hurt and manipulated. And you mimic the toxicity of men which is double jeopardy in itself..

All of us are out of our minds in one way or another..
And its time to get back to basics and the love we want to feel will come…
Your Self Love Coach
~Salkis Re

 

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

The Ugly Girls Club!!

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The narrative that you have to look a certain to be classified as a woman is agreeing with people who profit from your violation of how NATURE MADE YOU.


Stop cowering down and watering down your magic!!
Rise black bird, RISE!!

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Embracing What You Are is TRUE POWER!

You can pretend that you mimic people for whatever reason makes you comfortable.

Maybe you do it for the job, maybe you do it cause HE likes it,

maybe you do it to influence people and win friends…
But whatever the reason is, when you do this as an “Ugly Girl”,

you are sending a message that you are:


INFERIOR,
compliant,
malleable,
a subordinate,
SECOND BEST,
apologetic,
regretful,
WORRIED

dissatisfied,


and unworthy of what they have to offer
AS YOU ARE!!!

We don’t have any more time to entertain foolish thinking like this.

You have let go of your regret and shame for not measuring up to what THEY SAY..

They don’t dictate what you deserve in this life!!

Your entire life is being wasted in your slumber and

constant day dreaming of being other than what you are. 

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

People will assume to know your worth

People will assume to know your worth based on face value, they will

contemplate your level of intelligence, cleverness, self esteem and

background based on your presentation.

We cannot do anything about what they conclude us to be at face value.

BUT you have ABSOLUTE POWER in what you agree with. 

And most of you have that nasty habit of agreeing with your oppressors

whether it be racist bigots or the man your

screwing because you want to be ACCEPTED even if it kills you!


No more my dear..
Stop casting your pearls to swine
GET UP!!!!!
Self Love Coach, Salkis RE

The Ugly Girls Club.com” COMING SOON!

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So if you are not quite ready for liberation road and you just want to get your feel wet for now while you. build up inner strength, I can help guide you in that process.

But I want you to know that you have to reform yourself here. The habits of thinking the way you do, will need to be shaken no stirred my love..


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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

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Making Decisions Based On What You Are Is A Mistake!!

Young Women.

Let me talk to you.
What our society will influence you to do is to enjoy the moment.

Your friends, maybe even your well-meaning but unwise mother

will push you into believing that you are to young to plan for your future today.

Focus on your Career

(when what you really have is a “job” not a career) is what they say.

Travel the world

(and you spend money you had to save the whole year to purchase a trip you can’t afford truly to take)
DO YOU, is what they exclaim over and over again,

and the doing of YOU evolves around instantaneous

pleasures and making decisions based on what you are at this moment..

Let me explain this to you. Make decisions based on

what you want your “future” to be, NOT on what you are right now.

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Why?
Because what you are right now is TRANSIENT.

You won’t be what you are right now in 20 years,

the calls for dates or sex will slow down or stop altogether.

The “options” that you have today will NOT be here in in 10 years, so you must plan.

EVERYTHING you do is an investment in your future, from what you eat,

to who you have sex with,

to the children you have or decided NOT to have based on

THIS MOMENT INSTEAD OF YOUR FUTURE SELF

will affect your tomorrow.
We are not men.

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Artist, Author, Life Coach; Salkis Re

Thinking whole-listically is necessary for survival for us

because our worth is judged by TIME.

Nobody is going to tell you this but me..

And though I struggle daily with the relevance of social media.
And I admittedly grow impatient by the day for the

emotional prattling of women

who habitually deflect and deny to promote and maintain their facade.
But I have a mission here.

A mission to help you see things before

you become another case study or statistic..

So plan out your day.
Leave NOTHING to chance.

Carry On..

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Why should you listen to me?

 

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need My Help? Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to take a chance and get some badass wisdom to turn your life around now? Click Here

 
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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

3 Simple Ways to Get Him Chasing You Again!

You try to fix your relationship

When you try to fix a relationship by giving, you actually make him pull away further.

You don’t reward a complacent heart with charitable humility!!!

Don’t be so hard on yourself, you will do better.

What happens with most of us is that at the first sign of trouble,

you spring into action with a checklist of everything you have to do to win him back.

You make yourself more available to him on every level!

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Your self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

Cook meals:
Lose 10 pounds:
Have more sex:
Say YES to whatever he wants:

 

 

And you turn him off even further!!

You think:

“It makes me feel good when a man goes out of his

way to give me what I want,

so it must work the other way around as well.”

But it’s exactly the opposite.
Men love what they give YOU, not how you cater to them..

 

LOVE is about what a person is compelled to do to EARN your affection.

If a woman gives him everything he wants

without him having to work for it, will he treasure it, respect it?

 

👉He treasures what he has to take care of!!
👉He respect what he invest in.
👉He desires what’s hard for him to get..

 

So the goal here is to RELAX, the worst thing you can

do is act like you are afraid to lose him.

Fear and anxiety sends a message that you are unworthy

and that he is worth more to the relationship than you are…

 

It’s not the time to do anything he wants

 

 

It’s not the time to do anything he wants,

its time to make him feel good about giving to you again..

Why do you think when you break up with men

that they start acting well behaved and attentive?

They do this because you have shown him that you are unafraid of living

without him if necessary and that your comfort has to be

his goal too or consequences will be activated..

And let me be clear here, it’s not about making verbal

demands and increasing your sass my dear.

Arguing is a sign of emotional weakness and it

acting is a sign that you are unsure of yourself.

 

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO……

 

 1-Get quiet and strategic when he starts acting a fool.

Be even more unbothered emotionally than ever before.

2-Give him his space.

3-Don’t confirm or deny anything.

 

Make it clear what has to happen in order for you

to care about him again, then leave him to decide.

It has to be his decision not your forced ultimatum.

 

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Who Am I?

A “Self Esteem Coach”

Helping Black Women get knowledge about love,

Themselves

and Holistic Living.

Need some advice and guidance?

Send me an email to info@salkisre.com

Ready to have a one on one session with me?

You can book it right here

Be sure before you leave to grab your Free E-BOOK here

 

Dark Skin Women Get No Love From Dark Skin Men???

One of my viewers made a comment on my “Are Dark Skin Men The Enemy”
I did that video because Sooooooo many dark skin women have sentiments of
struggle and trauma around getting a dark skin man
want her or keeping the relationship positive and respectful.

She Stated:
“I was told by a Light Skin woman that her mother
told her to get the dark skin
man you could find and he would work like a “slave”
and cater to you, then you won’t have to work.
She married the dark skin man but she’s “in love”
with a light skin man who treats her like shyte!!”
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YOU ARE SLAVES to THEM!!


I told you men previously that a whole LOT of you are work mules and called
a stupid MONKEYS when these women huddle in secret sister circles to
swap tactics and brag about what you do for them.
Spiritual Life Coach for Black Women
Your Self Esteem Coach: Salkis Re


I am Not Blaming Light Skin Women


The problem is not in your choice to love NOR is it with Light Skin women,
it’s the extra verbal condemning of women who more times than not actually
HAVE or COULD HAVE “genuine” feelings of endearment and concern for you.
You’ll call dark women names (and clown us WITH your light SKIN girlfriend)
because you are of the impression that you are MONKEY STATUS EXEMPT
because you can throw her a few yards and have a nice ride???
How Sway??

You will Choose A Woman Who Does Not Want You Again!!


You think that because you can make her moan
that you are disqualified from the classification you put dark women in??

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Lol This “enthusiastic” dating style has got y’all running after women who

are fucking other men behind your back, taking
YOUR money to help the man -she actually IS in love with- pay a few bills and so on..

Don’t I always say: “We are always looking for someone
BETTER than ourselves” And that this is exactly why we get out hearts broken!!!
Carry On

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Who Am I?

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
Need an emergency coaching session?
Have a question? goto- salkis@iloveherart.com

We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”

“We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”
Transit time January 25, 2019 3:45 a.m.
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Your Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

👉Men: Give Love /
Women: React

👉Men: Say What They Have Knowledge In/  Women: Say What you Want to hear.

👉Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /
Women: Are vulnerable Physically

👉Men: Are Impersonal /
Women: Take Everything Personally

👉Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/
Women: Bored and find Reasoning exhausting

👉Men: Praise/  Women: Criticize

👉Men: Invent/  Women: Imitate

I am NOT pointing out these thing as a suggestion that we try to act like men, the goal here is for you to start learning about yourself so that you can be a more effective communicator with men AND you will also being to understand why you say/do the thing YOU do.

And this is why we get repetitiously limited results

And this is why we get repetitiously limited results in our lives as women. We need men to balance us, but women are so broken by numerous failed relationships that every character trait you posses is now pathological in scope.

We fake like we are unicorns flowing through life unbothered, yet it’s part of our disposition to be pretentious and critical of everything EXCEPT ourselves.

KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers

KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers are and how to shift away from a behavior that doesn’t give you the results you’re looking for.

We need to be seen, we NEED to be acknowledged and this need is easily exploitable by men people they have the upper hand of logic and analysis.

You THINK with your body

THINK with your body. You filter your world through a sense of what’s hot or cold, not wrong or right.
So walking with the awareness of this truth allows you to step back a bit because you are giving your body time to settle down so that you can THINK instead of REACT.

A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets

Take your first tiny little step towards happiness by simply acknowledging that you don’t think things through in the way that you should, and vow to only make a decisions after thinking them through first. A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets and WILL change your entire life!😉

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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“Why You Will Get Hurt Again”

Written by Salkis Re

The truth of the matter is that most women will not change unless

there is some enjoyment attached to the task.

Women always need something new to look like or be.
We don’t innovate, we only mimic and

copy what we see other women do,

partly because we are communal by nature and mainly because

we are emotional and you do not posses the instinct to take risks..

We are unable to be objective because we judge everything by how we feel..

Logic is boring and uninteresting to us

Logic is boring and uninteresting to us and we dismiss things that

do not make us the center of attention.

Your vanity, your need to be SEEN is what has caused most

of the heart break you’ve experienced..

And because you communicate with your

body and you think with your body,

You process your environment by how you feel..

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you will more than likely make decisions that are not

reasonable and you will be hurt again…
You need some in your mouth that’s sweet,

you something in your vagina that feels good,

you need constant stimulation or

you feel invisible and a loss of self worth…

Compare some these attributes of men and women

MEN: Give Love / Women: React

MEN: Say What They Have Knowledge In/  Women: Say What you Want to hear.

Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /  Women: Are vulnerable Physically

Men: Are Impersonal /  Women: Take Everything Personally

Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/  Women: Bored and Exhausted by Reasoning

Men: Praise/  Women: Criticize

Men: invent/  Women: imitate

It is what it is..

But once we have understanding of ourselves we

can manipulate our thoughts to create

different habits and actions…

Everybody can’t be saved..

But I am here to save as many of us as I can..

Who Am I?

A Self Esteem Coach

I am an empath

A Spiritual Advisor

A relationship Expert

and an Artist
Need to talk to me one on one? Drop me a line at salkis@iloveherart.com

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