“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN???
So the gag is that Tiny, T.I’s wife is a fool for staying with Tip because once again he is caught cheating.
Some of y’all say she has no self esteem because she keeps forgiving him for his infidelity.
That could very well be the case, but let me say something about commitment: it is a sacrifice!!!
She took him in at the height of her career with escape, he was TI back then, he wasn’t anything, but she backed him.
She gave him the best years of her life and 5 children. She gave him passes, and threesomes too. She got surgery to keep her tits and ass tight and high, she took the charge when they got caught with cocaine in they car, she stayed chase while he was doing his bid in jail.
And guess what? HE STILL CHEATED over and over and over again.
So what SHOULD that tell you ladies. What should be included in all those seminars, You tube vids, vegan potlucks, yoni egg user brigades and the like, need to just say what is inevitable, what is highly probable, what is almost a guarantee if your make has a half way working penis and/or a little bit of money. And that is that men CHEAT.
You are killing yourself trying to hold it together for HIM, when all he wants is simply someone NEW. Your loyalty doesn’t mean shit, how much of the rent you can pay or even if you’re paying ALL of the rent, it doesn’t mean shit, you can think you’re hot or maybe you actually are hot, and guess what?
It doesn’t matter!!!
So Tiny should walk away from time and money SHE put into him so he can be free and clear to dick hop? She can move out the house and get a condo across town with a nice looking Guy Friday who comes to check her “plumbing”, but divorce?
Divorce him to do what? Date again?
To find another fool that just wants to say he fucked T.I’s ex wife?
NO! She should ride it out. Ride that shit into the sunset and find joy however she can because at this stage the odds that she can pull another T.I is slim.
She got time and the stamina to build up another man at this stage of her life?
And at is the point of all of that when all roads still lead to what she is facing now..
She need to do what Snoop Dog wife did: visit down and let him figure it out while the bag keeps coming in
Tiny, monitor your bag. The rest is irrelevant… Period…
Take the Black Pill!!
“Sex is a Return on His Investment, Not an Act of Good Faith!”
Sex is NOT important. It should really be the last thing on your list of must-haves.
Because you can maintain your advantage and the upper hand.
What do you think he is chasing you for? Cause he likes to tell you his problems?
You think he is tracking you cause you’re an excellent cook?
Is that what keeps him thinking about you all day?
Its your snatch my dear.
That slime box shaped like a flower pedal between your legs.
That is what the game is about. So if you give it to him without a commitment, the GAME IS OVER.
Quite Frankly, the game is over the moment you give him sex no matter when you do it,
but if you give it to him AFTER he’s made an investment of time and ANNNNNNNNNDDDD MONEY,
it will be a challenge to just abandon the relationship.
The key word here is “LOSS”.
If he has already spent money on you, then he is INVESTED. He has paid into the relationship and wants to recoup a “return”.
Any women still requiring love to be at the top of her list for commitment is going to be a lonely fool…
“TAKE THE BLACK PILL”
“The Black Hat Society”
Now, we do try desperately to stave off our worn out vaginas
Don’t let Yourself GO!
If you want to get money or resources out of a man, then NEVER act like you like sex as much as he does. Its masculine, and to get taken care of, you must act feminine or a “damsel in distress”.
If you are showing lust and encouraging talks about how you can do Olympic feats of Water Park style SQUIRTING on your 300 thread count sheets, you are going to make him think that his “peens” can be EQUAL in exchange of value when you do have sex..
NOT if you are trying to be cared for: HELL NAWL its NOT!
Hide your lust. Do not offer conversations about how skilled YOU are.
If you must go there, simply indulge in his need to express what he likes and take note,
giggle, blush, and keep it classy…
Why would you do this?
To establish that you are here to RECEiVE and his JOB as a man to to give IN EVERY WAY.
AND the sex he offers is NOT PAYMENT or COMPENSATION for the time your are spending with him..
That is the trap you pseudo feminists are getting yourself into.
The equality of the sexuality is NOT beneficial to women who want to portion themselves to be some man’s SUGAR BABY.
In order for a man to feel compelled to take care of you in any way,
he has to feel like you NEED him, he has to feel like he can solve your problems and rescue you.
And you cannot pull of the DAMSEL ideal by matching him it wit and sexual brawn.
RUN from the modern notions of womanhood and all that WOMAN CAN DO WHAT MEN DO
IF the goal is to be a woman getting her bills paid by a ma who is madly in love with her.
It takes work. More work than I care to admit or WANT to do myself.
I fought the need to do all this nonsense for soooo many years and pissed away a large portion of my own sexual fertility shadow boxing with the notion that I too had to be vulnerable.
But I was thinking of it all wrong, it’s not about BEING vulnerable, its about ACTING vulnerable.
And these are two entirely different things.
So my advice to you is not think of yourself as dumbing down your brilliance .
Think of all the feminine charm as a TOOL to sift your brilliance through,
because if your smarts doesn’t pad up your bottom line, then you are living “stupidly” anyway…
Fight this if you want too, and all you’ll have left is a mouth full of spermatozoa and an empty change purse..
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“Closed Mouths DO Get Fed”
Written by Salkis Re
You should NEVER be totally open with your man. He is impersonating “friendship” with you, especially in the beginning. Leave the “real” details if your life for a “somewhere down the road” discussion or never at all.
We just chat-tup too much and women are under the impression that revealing your entire life is what brings closeness with your man.
He doesn’t care about all of that. He likes what get sees and he is doing what he does for access to your body: that’s it!
Commitment isn’t a factor until YOU start talking about it unless you are the woman if his dreams: and most of may START off that way, then after SEX the dream diminishes because when your clothes are off and your mouth is around his peenus, it REVEALS how much you are really worth.
So you’d better resolve any moral conflict you have with running game so that you are prepared for the latter half if your life.
Men serve a purpose, just like a job, and they should only be a factor if they can better your life. THAT’S IT!!
Don’t listen to him talk about character and that “good woman” reverb while “beeches” he claims he wants nothing to do with and give him a hard time are the ones making his “peenus” hard as a rock as soon as she starts ranting.
Relax. Let Go of Guilt.
And Get Man to serve you…
Male Viewer’s Comment to another Male Viewer on my You Tube Video:
“As long as you allow yourself to be USED by a woman she will never LOVE you or see you as a “companion”. She’ll only see you as an “employee”, a “mule”, or her “workhorse.
YOU CAN NOT BUY LOVE.
Also, you should NOT be giving a woman “things” when you date, because you’re only training her to be with you for “things” instead of being with you for YOU and appreciating you as a PERSON and appreciating your friendship and companionship.”
And if you are not “useful” she will never love either. Love is a “decision” based on opportunity and value displayed in “both” sides.
You guys think it’s unfair that a woman’s value/beauty/sex is equivalent to what you bring as men, but it’s because YOU ALL who express its importance, display favorable behaviors towards it, and make judgements and decisions that reflect how valuable it is.
We don’t make a man’s “looks” the main issue,
and MANY MANY women in relationships while SEXUALLY DISSATISFIED yet THEY STAY.
We compromise and “settle” all day long, so join the club!! Love you say?
You want “free” love?
When have you EVER had that? When HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN THAT???😼
Now I posted this because I’m basically tired of this repeated narrative from men who want FREE love. None of them give anything without the intention of getting a return, but they argue about what they are expected to do to win a woman’s heart.
Are any of these men leading households: I doubt it.
Are these types of men inspired to commit to a ONE woman, I think it would be difficult for them.
These men always talk about virtue when they do not want to spend any money. But sacrifice is the barometer of the level of care a man OR woman has for the other person.
There is no way to measure your worth without compromise and sacrifice. You don’t know how important you are or how important a person thinks you are until inconvenience presents itself…
And don’t you ladies think for one-second that these men do not understand the concept of “struggle”.
Frankly, I don’t see how you could think any other way when they repeatedly talk about “building together”.
Do you know what that term “BUILDING TOGETHER means?
It means I cannot afford to take care of you,
and I want you to understand that,
and I want you to work to help me provide for you,
because then I will know you want me for me and not the money I don’t have…
Then and only then have you earned their best efforts?? Through sacrifice and struggle we know right?
But the only problem with that is that the odds are not good for women when they invest in relationships that way.
Honestly, these are poor peoples problems ; wealthy people have a firm grasp of profit-loss, risk-reward, investment-liability. They understand that you can’t get something for nothing.
They understand that you have to pay for what you want.
Sounds transactional right?
Tell me when is it not transactional?
You are both are INVESTING time, energy, resources, your bodies into each other. Relationships are INVESTMENTS, why else would you need or even want to commit to one person for the rest of your life if there was no gain to be had?
That is the cold, HARD truth!
Deal with it!!!!
So Who Am I?
Well, Im a black woman.
A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.
I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.
I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy. And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.
It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.
In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.
A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.
I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.
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“MGTOW Will Let the Devil Take Your Pussy”
Written by Salkis Re
Men are saying that they don’t need women in their lives and that women offer nothing.
And men who think like this absolutely do not gain from being with a woman,
AND a woman gains nothing being with you. That is what I call a fair exchange.!
The truth is that men are hitting a “wall” with or without grey hairs, limps penises and pot bellies.
And the problem is that your complaints about women are inspired by YOUR “wall”.
It is not beneficial for women to attempt to mate with men who aren’t interested in that, so guys actually being honest is sooo f’ing refreshing.
Examine your future as well though, because you have an expiration date too..
The men are advising young men towards MGTOW(Men Going Their Own Way) seem to be complaining about what women ought to be,
YET I fail to see images of a emotional euphoria or any high level of happiness because they are NOT caring for women.
Give me some well defined examples of a man’s happiness that is totally devoid of women in it…
Nikola Tesla is the only man I know of who did, and ended up falling in love with a pigeon later on in life…
So listen up, The stats also state that across the board, women make up 70 percent of University graduates.
Black and Latino women outnumber black men in education, for every 100 men in school, there are 200 women in school as well.
And guess who the employers will hire: women.
Because it’s cheaper to keep her than having to pay more for hiring men.
So very soon my phallus carrying friends, there will be nothing for women to GET from any man other than his penis,
and I going to get the pop corn ready to the mating game tournament into the greatest show on earth
when you guys are reduced to the proficiency of your penises and nothing more.
You men are be suckered in by propaganda and slowly, your relevance is being snatch from under your nose.
Fight for your ability to be self sufficient men!!
Public policy caters to women and you guys don’t have a MGTOW programs that demand and services
and outreach for men in school and the going into the workplace.
What you’d rather do is complain about women wanting to be supported by men when that is the nature of things.
But your wish is coming like a freight train on fire. Be prepared to be happy, and irrelevant guys..
“The Black Hat Society”
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Selfish people are full of complaints and convoluted notions about love. They want what they NEVER give, yet call the world unfair.
If no one wants to love you, there is a reason for that. Search for why that is..
Then Start BEING the love you wish to receive ..
I really give a side eye to people who say this because it reflective of a disconnect with people a humanitarian level.
We are all here to help people you know.
By working for them,
caring for them ,
If no one can say they have benefited from your existence, then you are not using your life in way that invites reciprocity you think you are entitled too.
We want love, right? But most want to hide behind the emotions of other people to disguise how they feel about themselves.
More people abuse love than cherish it, then regret and try to repair the corrupted hearts they’ve created, and it just becomes this endless cycle of
BEG FOR FORGIVENESS/
HURT YOU etc….
Why are people so naturally fucked up in the first place?
Why is it that we respect what we LOSE rather than cherish what we have?
Because this society is the THROW AWAY Society
We are constantly waiting for the next NEW thing to come out, even if the old phone works fine.
You wait in line and pay inflated prices for the NEW thing in order to feel like SOMEBODY.
We trade people in as well. The moment a flaw surfaces, we are outa there.
How self righteous of us indeed!
To maneuver as if parts of you do not have to be “tolerated” by another person,
to act like you are so perfect that you cannot allow anyone around you to slip: How Sway?
You want microwave food and microwave love.
No one wants to take time to cultivate a relationship anymore.
But those blazing hot relationships fizzle out just as fast though.
Sex will get boring no matter who you are screwing, especially if you are doing it too often.
There is no other solution for boredom and the contempt of familiarity than ABSTINENCE and DISCIPLINE.
You build together.
You grow love for each other based on time spent together learning and improving individually and as a unit.
If you have the same conversation that you had 5 years ago: you are dead.
If you haven’t tried anything new to challenge your abilities: you are dead.
If you have not done anything to support your physical health: you are dead.
Good Relationships are about MOVEMENT and PROGRESS…
This is Not about pole dancing, and other unnecessary acrobatic bedroom antics…
A person doesn’t want to kiss you because you’re a good kisser,
a person will want to kiss you are using your lips as an instrument to express emotions for them.
Love( which is PASSION) is not that hard to attain if you are to fulfill your needs BY fulfilling the needs of others.
I have been getting so much comments from males about their perception of what black women choose for dating /Marriage etc. The repetitive talk is this “Black women ONLY want Attractive/Rich men”.
Where these men get these notions from, I have no idea but I’m going to clear it up today.
MOST women are with unattractive men. This could mean unattractive as in literally *ugly or unattractive as in SHE LOOKS BETTER THAN HE DOES. Most women are falling into one of either of those catergories.
And why is this? Because ALL men seek out women who are attractive whether they themselves posses handsomeness or not; this is how men are wired to choose.
And for women, a man’s looks generally comes in second place to the size of his wallet(security) so the emotional needs of men and women actually compliment each other.
Look around you… How many brothers do you come across in your day that look like a 10?? Even a 7??? There are NOT that many “really attractive”, and there are not too many above average men out here either.
And the gag is that men who make bank, who gather REAL BAGS are VERY “average” looking. But God bless the suit and tie because they can easily bring a man up 2-3 notches in the looks department.
Most women are or will be with men who are “odd looking” disporportion noses and lips, big ears with a little mouth, etc. But generally, his face doesn’t have perfect symmetry. But she loves him anyway.
Most women will not be with men who match her beauty, but that is ok cause it really works in our favor in end.
The moral is this: Men want women that look better than them, and women want men to earn more than them.
And everybody is looking for somebody who is better than themselves, so nobody hardly ever gets everything they want. We are all “SETTLING” at the end of the day…
“The Black Hat Society”
We are now asking ourselves these days: why does love have to be soooo damn complicated??
We want that easy love. That Sunday morning in bed kinda love.
That fix me a sandwich after sex kinda love…
Can we be that happy all of the time?
Should we just reduce ourselves to the doom and glom of ‘reality”?????
WeLp, Yea and No!
Sunshine and rain make flowers grow. Snow and spring both bring beauty and deep contemplations..
Life cannot be all roses, but the darkness do not have to kill you…
A relationship is EARNED according to my sprint mother Eartha Kitt!
A relationship is given on the merit of good will and best practices, not of irrealities like NEVER doing this or that…
When you understand your flaws and shortcomings, you will naturally have patience and understanding for the hiccups in the person you love..
That is what true love is.
There is no nothing perfect about love, nothing at all.
But improvement and advancement are the things we should always strive for within ourselves and to inspire those we love..
If you are not improving in some way, love with wither.
If you are not smarter today than you were yesterday,
if you are not more curious about life and learning how to change yourself for the better, then you will be forgotten..
That’s how this thing works.
Just like stagnant water is unsafe to drink, a body and mind immovable and unchallenged will atrophy over time..
Renew yourself. Continously.
That is how you keep struggle love at bay…
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Everywhere you turn, your emotions and insecurity is exploited for sensationalism and financial gain from “marketers” and “commentators” who are only concern with “click views”. I’m specifically talking about the “trend” to discuss topics concerning discrimination against dark skin women.
I’m watching these “leaders/healers/activists” of these dark skin movements rant and rave to you. I listen to them tell dark skin women dress up when going to the grocery store, or confront light skin women about their biases.
People are profiting and helping to perpectuate a stereotype where the only “gain” you actually receive is “justification” and validation for feeling inferior to lighter skinned women.
It’s a hamster wheel.
And they CANNOT help you to heal.
Step away from ALL “ME TOO” movements because ALL those “look at me, I’m sexy too” campaigns offer is a superficial, feel good “moment”
Your REPAIR will only come from understanding and accepting that NO MAN is obligated to WANT to fuck you, because that is what all this shyte is really about!
The sex force is making you feel like you are inferior because the sexual desires/perversions are not directed your way as they are with women of other skin tones and races. But let me give you dark skin women some facts: light skin women do not in any advantage over you. They suffer emotional breakdowns, identity crisis’s, self esteem issues, panic attacks, depression, suicidal thoughts, and sexual exploitation just like women of other skin tones do.
You HAVE to step away from your need to be accepted!
You have to decide that you are enough while expanding and improving yourself through self discipline, not joining no foaming at the mouth, fanatic who’s just pretending to be sincere.
You have to learn to love aloneness so that YOUR oWn thoughts can be heard by your heart .
Conformity has you looking EXTREMELY COUNTERFEIT, and an obvious BEGGAR for a seat at the table of EXPLOITED women who are seemingly at an advantage because society says they’re attractive.
You better think again!
NO WOMAN is better than you, do not fall for that lie!!!
And you have walk with that ideal until your nervous system relaxes when in the presence of ANY woman..
LOOKS ARE ALWAYS DECEIVING!!!!!!
“The Black Hat Society”
MOST men, no matter what age they are, want “physically” young looking women and he would be a jackpot winner if he gets a woman who is young with her own money.
Lllllllmmao! But the issue with that is that if she is young and attractive and has her own coins, she can hold out for a man who is better looking than you, who fucks better than you, who makes enough money to “handle” everything she wants and needs.
And this is why people are single!
Everybody is scouting for a partner who is better than themselves in looks or money, and if you luck up on someone who IS better than you yet wants to be with you, trust that SHE/HE is “ALWAYS MENTALLY or PHYSICALLY SHOPPING” meaning she/he is with you yet open/motivated to finding a “better” replacement.
And why is this?
Because you are a “charity case”, not a boyfriend/girlfriend they fear of losing.
Chasing women/men out of your league gets you ALL OF THAT!
So when you are seeking the “best” partner, the perfect fit, be careful that you are not signing yourself up to be a beast of burden.
If a man is “better” than you, you mustn’t substantiate that claim by displaying insecurity, emotional neediness, and a total disregard of your own self interests or you WILL be dragged through the mud.
“Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Yes darling, pain can be a true gift to your life if utilized correctly. But most of you will not use it.
You will run from it.
You run because you actually feel that you can get away from your feelings.
Sure you can distract yourself for a little while, or “pretend” to have moved on like most of you do, but destiny still arrives to meet you.
You worry about how you look: Daily.
You worry about him not loving you: Daily.
You insist on being happy and having all the things “they” say are needed in order to experience that.
But you really never reach that Utopia they promise you when you supposedly “let go” and let it flow.
You take pics to show people how great your life is, how much weight you’ve lost, how sexy you hope THEY think that YOU think you are, now and so on, but inside….. Your mind sends you reminders that you are not well, and you become extremely ashamed and depressed that the pain caught up to you again.
Will you change?
It’s not impossible that you will, it’s just not probable that you will.
Because it takes being present and conscious and having vigilant watchfulness to change, and most people prefer to divorce themselves from “thinking” too much.
Thinking itself is given a bad rap, and most people who do express deep thoughts are considered pessimistic, cat-shit crazy nut bags with nothing better to do than look for everything wrong with the world.
But pain is the light bulb that helps you SEE where you are if you can bear to look. Joy does not bring enlightenment like pain because joy is “inspirational” while pain is a “Learning/ Experiential” encounter.
What you have been through HURTS, but that hurt can have usefulness when you conclude that you HAVE to change if you’re going to survive this thing called LIFE…
“The Black Hat Society”
“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”
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“You Will Pick The Wrong Person Again, So Rela
Written by Salkis Re
You pick partners not based on what you want, but what you are familiar with! You have your list of demands and characteristics that a man must have. And you are proud of this well thought out list because it represents a sane mind, a woman who exercises conscientiousness and reasonability.
But your list most likely contains what you’ve been TOLD to look for, NOT what you emotions predisposed you too.
You know how many women actually find the guy that fits all the characteristics on her list, but then she has lunch with her girlfriends and expresses how “boring” he is??
He’s perfect! He has everything, but he bores you.
Because he is unable to give you the “suffering” that YOU have come to associate with the feeling of REAL love.
Your Mother gives you a template for love, and if was irate and loud and intimidating, you will subconsciously seek men who will criticize and berate you.
If you had a Father whom you observed to be weak and emotionally fragile, you will find a partner who is weak and needs constant reassurance which you WILL find frustrating, BUT it provides a LOVE you know!!🤔
If a partner’s personality is NOT familiar with how you interpret love, you are going to consider him a miss-match.
The WRONG guy is the guy you go for because he is represents what REAL love is to you.
It is near impossible to rewire your templates for love, but you can “reframe” how you react and respond to the person representing your love template.
You like bullies? Then don’t let the bully be a bully to YOU.
You like loud, patronizing men?
Do NOT let him define YOU with his insults
And so on..
“The Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
I do not understand the logic of “safe sex” using condoms. How can you enjoy sex with a man you think by chance he could be caring a disease. You make him wear a condom, but he can eat your vagina raw. You swallow his sweat and his saliva.
You suck his dick raw too, but you make sure you use a condom to practice “safe sex”???
Listen, there is NOTHING safe about sex, nothing AT ALL.
Sex is a physical risk,
an emotional risk
and afinancial risk too.
If a man is putting his mouth on vagina raw, licking your asshole raw, and you have his scrotum in your mouth raw, then you are not “Safe Sex” anything!!
He’s got your cum juice, your urine, fecal matter and your sweat in his mouth and probably that of OTHER women too.
Unless your mouth and your vagina secrete BLEACH, you should be VERY fucking scared to feel the NEED to use a condom….
“The Black Hat Society”
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“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”
If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?
I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.
Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.
I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.
I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!
I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!
I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.
No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!
I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.
Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.
And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!
All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.
It WILL NOT….
Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.
“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Black Hat Society
Art by Salkis Re
“Breaking that Spell”
Written by Salkis Re
You wait for an invitation to the celebration of your own life.
You are under a spell, a spell that makes you think you are not worthy,
that you are nothing in this world.
How do you break that spell?
By using the gift of Thoth/Thought.
To THINK before you act can break ANY and every manner of deception imposed upon you.
You are here for a reason. And the “reason” is what YOU, (by you actions and focus) decide it to be.
“Think Things Through”= Reasoning
“Let Me Sleep on it before I decide” =Meditation
The breath of life is within you.
God/dess is within you.
Turn yourself inside out and learn to trust what you have THOUGHT through..
Written by Salkis Re
I wish you weren’t afraid of getting it wrong.
Because being afraid of being wrong, of failing, will not stop you getting things wrong.
When you allow fear to paralyze you, the chance that you will fail increases because
you’ve added improper timing created by your delay to expand your stumble into a actual fall.
Walk with fear and you will succeed.
“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Art by Salkis Re
- Unless you emotionally/sexually damaged beyond repair, your heart’s *string* will still be attached to your vagina and you WILL develop feelings.
So, the deal is this, if you want to be wiped clean of burdensome emotions for a man, DO NOT have sex with him.
🤔If you do not mind being emotionally attached, then KEEP ON having sex with him.
🤔If you are having sex with him in HOPES that he will like you( love you)more then STOP having sex with him.
🤔If you are having sex with him to display your “value” as a woman, but he gives you nothing in return, then STOP having sex with him.
🤔If you are saying to yourself “it’s only sex, but we will see what happens”, YOU ARE LYING on your heart strings and you WILL get hurt, so Do NOT START having sex with him!!
Sex is dangerous, SERIOUS business ladies. And the only reason you are so many of you are PRETENDING to be caviler about it is simply be of the use of contraception i.e condoms, birth control pills, IUD’s etc.. Birth control has superbly done away with the need to “think” and “reason” before you open your legs and it has made you equal to men, BUT your fucking emotions are IN TACT and you still REACT as a woman while trying to ACT like a man….
Hold tight my loves.
Tinker with your intellect and activate your 6 senses. You KNOW things you cannot explain. You can FEEL what he is THINKING. You just do not trust your own ability to SEEEEEEE things..
Put your “Black Hat” on an activate your inner Goddess…
“Black Hat Practictioner”
Art by Salkis Re
“What Woman Are You?”
Faith in yourself is built on a foundation of work not hope or prayer or wishing.
You have a mind and you know what you “should be doing”, yet you wrestle with yourself.
You allow other women to rate your your level of competence and relevance on a
“fact sheet” derived from their summations if how you look.
Women perpetuate division and the casting of other women, and we are fervently vicious in that regard.
So where is this fairness that nostalgically speak of, cause I’ve never seen it!
Worried about what the next woman has but you do nothing
outside the level of laziness to change your own condition, to improve yourself.
Everybody’s FUGAZI out here:Everybody!!
Listen woman, yeah you!
What do you know about women? If you are a woman, you should quite a bit,
but if you are liar to yourself you might struggle in seeing under the veil of those around you.
I said before and I will say it again so that you can Direct your energy to pursuits that will pay you dividends.
You are unlike any other woman.
This is a fact.
And this means that you have to own that.
And accept what comes with that.
The fact that you are unlike other women means that there is no such thing as equality.
To execute Equality would mean that you and I were born at the same time,
have the same anatomical structure, emotional development, share the same IQ, biological functions and so on.
But we do not.
And it’s because you and I cannot physically, mentally nor emotionally
be identical that we should not spend one fucking moment fretting over “comparisons”.
I Wanted to Be So Many Things..
I am not academically astute. I struggled in school something awful. I thought I wanted to be a Nurse,
but I hated blood. I wanted to be a Lawyer but my self esteem was to low to accept that vision.
I wanted to be a Clinical Psychologist but the amount of schooling for that just disgusted me.
What was I looking for above all else? To be “somebody”.
I thought an academic route would give me the respect and the love that my esthetics could not afford me.
Everything I used to do was for THEM to accept me.
For black people to care about me, for white people to respect me, for men to Love me etc…
Chasing what I wasn’t designed to do or be took a massive chunk out of my life!
Don’t waste time.
Read what I’m about to say carefully, this is the KEY to success.
Figure out what you are capable of being and then figure out what you are willing to SACRIFICE to become that.
Please understand that you must choose your “SACRIFICE”
or should I say the “PRICE” you are willing to pay to be the woman you want to be.
Because everything COSTS.
And if you don’t choose your SUFFERING (yes I said suffering)
deliberately, you will end up sacrificing something
other than what’s needed to become the woman you aspire to be!
Be what you want to be, but being what you CAN be trumps ALL!
on matters of self esteem, relationships, wellness and sexuality .
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So Who Am I?
Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
Art by Salkis Re