Why Calling Yourself UGLY IS IMPORTANT!

 

Inner Shame and Guilt That You Are Trying to Cover Up!

Listen, I know it’s “shameful” to call yourself UGLY..
I get it, truly..
It feels icky and degrading and self deprecating and whatever other

fancy word you’ve found in your thesaurus to use..

But guess what?
It’s everything that you ALREADY feel about yourself too!

So what are we doing here?

We are EXPOSING OURSELVES so that we can disarm the inner critic.

This is the only way to get to the root of our emotions so that we can fishing out the inner sabotage that happens on a daily basis.

Everything you feel that hold any negative connotation is tied into the way you look. VANITY is a woman’s curse.

 

It keeps us under control, it makes us obedient servants to those whom we feel can provide us an identity…

 

We look to others for this validation all day, every day.

 

And if other women seem to have more beauty than we do, we cease trying to better ourselves as we slump into the normality of GIVING UP.

Vanity is a CURSE. It destroys your ability to discern, to think clearly, to judge others justly and skews the perception of our TRUE worth…

 

You gotta embrace it..

The word Ugly is the key that unlocks the door to your mind in order to unleash your power!

 

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Why Is It So Easy to Con Women?

Criticism leads to a need for one to defend her position.

Whether it’s right or wrong is not as important as feeling demeaned by another person.

This is why it’s so effective to just tell you what you want to hear.
Make it sounds supportive, beef it up with praise and your “Wulls” come tumbling down.

Your wallet open, and you become an emotional pawn for every charismatic charlatan out here.

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I think we are smarter than we REALIZE though.
I just think we use our intellect when it’s too late for it to make a difference.

It’s always when the damage is already done that we ADMIT that we always “knew” that this or that was a misrepresentation or an outright lie.

It’s our fear of the REALITY of rejection that keeps you hopeful for hopeless things..

You will defend what will ultimately destroys you.
You defend what doesn’t reciprocate love.
Willing footstools you be, a purveyor and propagator of IMAGINATION not reality..

Don’t be a “Dumb” woman.

There are enough women out here who are only fit for the slaughter house,

but HER level of comprehension doesn’t have to be YOURS.
If your instincts are telling you that something isn’t right,

resist the fear of ostracism, and stand on your principals.
Don’t go for the herd mentality to feel “safe”.

Because the this: Your friends and family are the ones who seek to, and often times, are VERY successful in making you feel diminished and unworthy under the guise of “care” and “concern”.

So my dear.. Don’t worry about the Devil, for the Devil TELLS you what he wants; it’s the SAINT PRETENDS not to want anything from you so it can take EVERYTHING from you.

You need me to coach you?
Need a breakthrough?
Tired of feeling like you are beneath other women?

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Contact ME!
“Medicine Woman”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
~Salkis Re

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How Not to Influence People

How NOT To Influence People

You Cannot Influence ANYONE

if you do it from a position powerlessness.

This is why I do not engage in conversations about

why black men don’t like dark skin girls or whether “Light Skin Privilege

( fair skin women enjoy real relationships and happy lives)

is an actual thing for us to worry about, or even why

black men are going to white women or traveling

outside the U.S. to find exotic women to marry…

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What other woman experience is NOT a measure of what you can’t get or what you will experience yourself!

The only way you could have similar resultsis if you mirror how that other woman thinks, And I’m not interested (nor should you be) in believing that YOU cannot have what YOU DESERVE TO HAVE!

Why are you parroting off talking points from anyone who tells you that you don’t have a chance in hell to get what you want?

Do You value freedom?

Don’t you want to feel free??

Well what is freedom?

FREEDOM Doing what you want

when you want

with who you want!

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~Salkis RE

Freedom To Me Means HAVING A CHOICE!

And your first step to being able to choose what you want, is to OWN WHAT YOU WANT!

Meaning, don’t ever again feel ashamed for wanting something

whether that be a millionaire husband, having a lots of your own money,

having a child, being attractive, or living your life purpose!

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You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that Life is Journey***

Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

You have to live on purpose just like you did when you went to

school everyday to get your degree, or go to the gym workout..

You do things to get a forking RESULT, not for a journey!!

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Why Should You Heed My Advice?

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“Life Coach”

“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”
~Salkis Re

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Being a Dumb Woman IS Profitable!

Transit Time 7:32 a.m.

Well I’ve been up since 4 a.m. actually.

Early rising helps bye think about the message I want to convey.

So I thought about.

And this post came to mind because of an exchange I had about relationships with a man on my facebook page

Men LOVE to tell a woman what to think..

To them, we all have the mentality of a 10 year girl who needs to be taught what to feel and what to think..

When you start trusting yourself, your own wisdom that your experiences have taught you, your eyes will become WIDE OPEN to the fallibilities of men.

Black Women And Self esteem Issues

Your insecurities and self doubt are how men get their needs met for little to no cost, for their mission (not all but most) is to either become the source of your confidence or knock you down a peg or two if you come equip with your own self governance…

The effectiveness of the indoctrination of men who want to spoon feed you an identity will start to wane when you decide to give your VANITY a back seat.

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No contracts nor real commitment required if he can’t get you in your “Feelings” .
 

Being VAIN means that you are INEFFECTUAL and FEEBLE MINDED.
Being EMOTIONALLY NEEDY means that you are STUPID, not by insinuation, but as an actual, quantifiable fact!

BUUUUUUUTTTT this is what men expect, what they hope for, what they encourage you to display because YOUR stupidity guarantees THEIR fulfillment.

ISSA GAME!

A real life Game of Thrones is what it is dealing with the mentality of men.

If you are a fan of the show, you would have noticed that a Queen ONLY PLAYS DUMB to get what she needs….
PERIOD!

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“Medicine Woman”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Coach”
“Writer”
“Poet”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

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Go to The Gym!

Self care supports your desires.

Self care makes you feel good about who you are.

Self care is a soup of oily habits that can also seal your fate!

But I am not talking about soaking in a bubble

bath or eating some calorically dense powdered donut.

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I am talking doing what I’m about to do which is head to the gym at 8 o’clock at night

to get my workout out in when I’d rather being under the covers scratching my are!

I am talking about eating the piece of fruit and some water before bed instead of greasy fries.

I’m talking about the extra hours of study or staying up late to finish a project that with get you big money.

I am talking about talking your vitamins and cutting down on your salt intake (which is soooo hard for me).

Self care is about doing what you don’t want to do in order to get the results you Do want to get.

Are you about THAT life?

GOOD.

Now Let’s Go to the gym! Wink!

“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Natural Beauty Is Not In You!

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

Everything you feel about yourself is wrong,

corrupt,

self serving,

addictive and dangerous.

This society will not give us the balance and the peace we are looking for.

And the road to wellness requires that you pull apart everything that you assume is normal in your lives.

We were taught how to love each other, how to have sex with each other and

most if not all of what we know about love and sex is wrong.

 

We have now a deep seeded feeling of guilt and inadequacy.

We want desperately to be like other people who are other than what we are.

And even within our own so-called black community we

have caste systems in place designed to differentiate women by features,

The worth of a black woman is measured from how her outer shell is formed.

 

 

The goodness of her heart is not treasured and appreciated.

His focus on your backside has roots in homosexuality and to be truthful, and

the appetites of men these days in many ways is suspect and not as “heterosexual” as we are made to think it is…

 

 

You are running around here trying to be like men because you are scared of being hurt and manipulated. And you mimic the toxicity of men which is double jeopardy in itself..

All of us are out of our minds in one way or another..
And its time to get back to basics and the love we want to feel will come…
Your Self Love Coach
~Salkis Re

 

 

Black Women with Thick Locs


Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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The Ugly Girls Club!!

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The narrative that you have to look a certain to be classified as a woman is agreeing with people who profit from your violation of how NATURE MADE YOU.


Stop cowering down and watering down your magic!!
Rise black bird, RISE!!

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Embracing What You Are is TRUE POWER!

You can pretend that you mimic people for whatever reason makes you comfortable.

Maybe you do it for the job, maybe you do it cause HE likes it,

maybe you do it to influence people and win friends…
But whatever the reason is, when you do this as an “Ugly Girl”,

you are sending a message that you are:


INFERIOR,
compliant,
malleable,
a subordinate,
SECOND BEST,
apologetic,
regretful,
WORRIED

dissatisfied,


and unworthy of what they have to offer
AS YOU ARE!!!

We don’t have any more time to entertain foolish thinking like this.

You have let go of your regret and shame for not measuring up to what THEY SAY..

They don’t dictate what you deserve in this life!!

Your entire life is being wasted in your slumber and

constant day dreaming of being other than what you are. 

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

People will assume to know your worth

People will assume to know your worth based on face value, they will

contemplate your level of intelligence, cleverness, self esteem and

background based on your presentation.

We cannot do anything about what they conclude us to be at face value.

BUT you have ABSOLUTE POWER in what you agree with. 

And most of you have that nasty habit of agreeing with your oppressors

whether it be racist bigots or the man your

screwing because you want to be ACCEPTED even if it kills you!


No more my dear..
Stop casting your pearls to swine
GET UP!!!!!
Self Love Coach, Salkis RE

The Ugly Girls Club.com” COMING SOON!

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So if you are not quite ready for liberation road and you just want to get your feel wet for now while you. build up inner strength, I can help guide you in that process.

But I want you to know that you have to reform yourself here. The habits of thinking the way you do, will need to be shaken no stirred my love..


Black Women with Thick Locs

Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Making Decisions Based On What You Are Is A Mistake!!

Young Women.

Let me talk to you.
What our society will influence you to do is to enjoy the moment.

Your friends, maybe even your well-meaning but unwise mother

will push you into believing that you are to young to plan for your future today.

Focus on your Career

(when what you really have is a “job” not a career) is what they say.

Travel the world

(and you spend money you had to save the whole year to purchase a trip you can’t afford truly to take)
DO YOU, is what they exclaim over and over again,

and the doing of YOU evolves around instantaneous

pleasures and making decisions based on what you are at this moment..

Let me explain this to you. Make decisions based on

what you want your “future” to be, NOT on what you are right now.

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Why?
Because what you are right now is TRANSIENT.

You won’t be what you are right now in 20 years,

the calls for dates or sex will slow down or stop altogether.

The “options” that you have today will NOT be here in in 10 years, so you must plan.

EVERYTHING you do is an investment in your future, from what you eat,

to who you have sex with,

to the children you have or decided NOT to have based on

THIS MOMENT INSTEAD OF YOUR FUTURE SELF

will affect your tomorrow.
We are not men.

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Artist, Author, Life Coach; Salkis Re

Thinking whole-listically is necessary for survival for us

because our worth is judged by TIME.

Nobody is going to tell you this but me..

And though I struggle daily with the relevance of social media.
And I admittedly grow impatient by the day for the

emotional prattling of women

who habitually deflect and deny to promote and maintain their facade.
But I have a mission here.

A mission to help you see things before

you become another case study or statistic..

So plan out your day.
Leave NOTHING to chance.

Carry On..

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Why should you listen to me?

 

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals

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Achieving Your Goals Is Not Done With Vision Boards!

Authenticity is overrated.
And it will halt all your goals.
And people will shame you for pretending.
And you’ll feel ashamed for pretending.
Then you will go back to what you know.

Then realize -AGAIN- that it doesn’t work.
Then you’ll revisit trying to change.
And you’ll conclude that being unlike the real you is better.
Now all that’s left, is to be that pretender
until you forget that it’s not what you are….

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It might feel icky to be a fraud,

but that only because you believe that everyone around is telling

you the truth while being themselves.

You are being humored every DAY.

People are polite, act like they are interested in what you have to say,

some even pretend to be impressed

and attracted to you.

And here you are,

afraid to fail them by adopting a personality to fix your own life,

to get you results that could make you better.

So tell me this, how do you change while staying the same?

How do you grow while staying the same?

How can you get something you’ve never gotten before while having the same mentality?

I’ll answer the answer: It cannot be done!!

Continue reading “1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals”

“Why You Will Get Hurt Again”

Written by Salkis Re

The truth of the matter is that most women will not change unless

there is some enjoyment attached to the task.

Women always need something new to look like or be.
We don’t innovate, we only mimic and

copy what we see other women do,

partly because we are communal by nature and mainly because

we are emotional and you do not posses the instinct to take risks..

We are unable to be objective because we judge everything by how we feel..

Logic is boring and uninteresting to us

Logic is boring and uninteresting to us and we dismiss things that

do not make us the center of attention.

Your vanity, your need to be SEEN is what has caused most

of the heart break you’ve experienced..

And because you communicate with your

body and you think with your body,

You process your environment by how you feel..

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you will more than likely make decisions that are not

reasonable and you will be hurt again…
You need some in your mouth that’s sweet,

you something in your vagina that feels good,

you need constant stimulation or

you feel invisible and a loss of self worth…

Compare some these attributes of men and women

MEN: Give Love / Women: React

MEN: Say What They Have Knowledge In/  Women: Say What you Want to hear.

Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /  Women: Are vulnerable Physically

Men: Are Impersonal /  Women: Take Everything Personally

Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/  Women: Bored and Exhausted by Reasoning

Men: Praise/  Women: Criticize

Men: invent/  Women: imitate

It is what it is..

But once we have understanding of ourselves we

can manipulate our thoughts to create

different habits and actions…

Everybody can’t be saved..

But I am here to save as many of us as I can..

Who Am I?

A Self Esteem Coach

I am an empath

A Spiritual Advisor

A relationship Expert

and an Artist
Need to talk to me one on one? Drop me a line at salkis@iloveherart.com

And be sure to grab your free copy of my e-book: “What Kind Of Man DO You Have?”