You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

Black Art Eyes
                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

Black Art Eyes
African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

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So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

How To Become What You Need to Be to Get What You Want?!

 

 

African American art by Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Aren’t you tired of being used?
Aren’t you tired of falling for the con game?
Aren’t you tired of giving till your hands bleed with no reciprocity in sight?
I know you are tired, but apparently not tired enough to switch your style.
You still believe in things that tell lies to your face.

You still doubt what it is that you know.
And now it’s even worse because you have access granted into Social Media Relationships. Perfect lighting, Rosy filters, and exotics locals make you fume like warm shit as you eat yourself into a drunken woe-is-me stupor.

Fussing over illusions and staged photos of people pretending to be madly in love, has now become your portion to eat..
Evaluating your life against that of women whom you’ve no clue as to the price they’ve paid for the appearance of luxury they enjoy.

Why can’t that be you is what you ask..
So what’s the answer here?
The answer is that your tongue is your sword and your word is your bond, AND whatever you desire AND EXPECT, you will get.
So am I saying that you can have the fairytale?

Absolutely!! You can have it, if, and only if, you are willing to pay the price!!

Go back to Instagram and your Facebook feeds. Take a closer look at those girls you are jealous of. What are their habits, their daily regimen? If they live in the gym, or walk around the grocery aisles with faces beat for the Gods, are you willing to do that in order to be ranked worthy of her kind of relationship?

Look again.
Are you willing to live in a van and eat berries off trees while teaching yoga classes to bum enough money for an evening meal of beans and rice? (I love those yoga couples by the way, I imagine their sex game is outstanding!!?🙈).
Sexy passion without the want/need for material things sound like a great life to you?

Or maybe it’s a 6 bedroom house with chefs and nannies with lots of shopping more your tune?
Or maybe you are one of those “Independent” girls and your dream is just to go Dutch on the dinner, half on the mortgage and the car note?
Which ever one you decide on, has its own UNIFORM, its own protocol, its rules and regulations in order to execute it successfully.
There is a mentality you have to adopt in order to affix yourself into the role you want to star in.
The point of it all is that ALL of them require WORK on your part if you plan to have some semblance of happiness within the experience.

Listen darling, you can even be a combination of all the choices I’ve listed and Hallelujah, the Saints will be marching in on your behalf for sure!

Once you decide what position you want to play, it’s then time to start working on a personality conducive to the outcome you hope to achieve.
An artist paints.
A writer, writes.
A chef, cooks.
And so on, and so on.
A wish with out work is like faith without work : DEAD!
You assignment today is to ACT as if!
You want to appear beautiful?
Then ACT like beautiful women act!!
Yesssss damn it! ACT LIKE IT!
Well what about the “Just Be YOURSELF” thing Salkis?

I call BULLSHIT on that right now!!!!!

Why?
Because you DON’T have what you want right now because you are yourself.

So this means you can’t achieve what you by being yourself!

Create the personality that YOUR mind feels is synonymous with beauty and abundance and you will train your brain to respond in that way. Even more importantly, you will be sending out feelers into the atmosphere to attract that energy back to you.
It is as simple as that.

You have to rinse and repeat..

Then rinse and repeat again

until it doesn’t feel like a lie anymore.

You have to put hand gestures into it.

You have to get excited about it because creating anything should fucking excite you!!!

You are the magician over your life, and acting AS-If is what turns ANYTHING you say into the mother sucking TRUTH!!
Doing anything long enough and loud enough, you will make you FORGET that it’s a lie, and it will STOP being a lie too!

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Are you ready for the secrets of mind control and self esteem? These are the two things you need to acquisition what you want from this life of yours.

As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And what I have found is this: when you rid the of shame and guilt you begin to SOAR.

You have to heal

You have to believe.

And you have to do!

Allow me to help you..

Email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Website: http://www.iloveherart.com/life-coach-here/

Your Dark Side

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“Goddess Energy”
Art by Salkis Re

 

Every woman I Coach is in conflict to some degree with their darker side. They want things that they carry shame for wanting. They want to be in control but they want it to come naturally.. They want to be the center and the main focus in the lives of men who are not incentivized to put them in that position.

And they repress and deny their desires because it’s not ‘good’ to have them, yet in a sick twist of irony, the every men who’s will they concede to get to exercise their dark sides by imposing emotional hardship and in some instances,  physical trauma too.

Women ‘allow’ a center stage to the free will and the selfish proclivities of the people, yet think its ‘wrong’ to insist that their own free will is undeserving to roam free.

Self decieving is what that’s called. A belief in something you do NOT agree with.

What fools women ‘decide’ that they have to be.

Wake Up Little Mummy.

Rise from your sarcophagus and start to live your life, on your terms and in a way that preserves LIVING flesh.

☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘

“Mistress of Words”

African American Art
“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Medicine Woman”

“Creative Soul”

~Salkis Re

 

 

Website: www.iloveherart.com

Blow Your Whistle!

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many of you play yourselves small everyday? Worried about appeasing people’s fragile egos at the expense of your own heart and mind… Nobody is worth you diminishing yourself for, and you need to understand that your momentary display of humility won’t cure any of their self inflicted angst either.

Whatever they feel is what they have been feeling long before the knowledge of your existence. This means that you MUST aggrandize and affirm your self, and release the emotional shackles of wanting anyone’s stamp of approval to do so.

Today’s VIDEO is all about this and the step you need to take right now to fix this disease of humility once and for all.

Watch Here

He is Using You!

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African American Art by Salkis Re

Had a coaching session yesterday with an older woman who’s recently come back into the dating scene. She was very proud of her accomplishments financially and the fact that she “didn’t need a man”.

Unfortunately though, all that 😏 pride didn’t amount to a hill of beans when it came to her relationship with her boyfriend. Your *financial Independence doesn’t make you immune to disregard, complacency and disrespect in a *romantic relationship. You could be a waitress at Waffle House and display living in subsidized housing and still be Independent. You have all the money, but you’re still the grovelling and begging and beseeching him for quality time, sex and basic consideration.

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Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your bank statement can’t disguise your lack of 😯 emotional Independence 🙄 and this is why you can *make it rain for his ass and he spends YOUR money on a girl that grounded with standards that require him to either piss or get off the pot.

I’m hearing this story too often, and I’m telling you that it hurts you in the long run cause he’ll eventually see that you are only on point when it comes to your money, nothing else.
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“Mistress of Words”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“The Crone”
~Salkis Re
🤗Art by Salkis Re

 

 

websitewww.iloveherart.com

 

Push Through!

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“Isabella Doesn’t Want to Leave” Art by Salkis Re

The weekend is almost here. Another week gone with tasks incomplete and more to hope to accomplish than anything actually done.

It’s easy not to try, but its cost will steal currency throughout your entire life. Not trying means that nobody gets hurt, no one suffers disappoint or the shame that comes from failing, but what also doesn’t happen is that you never get to experience what you could have become. You then live out your days in the shadow of quiet agony over what might have been.

Not trying is a the purchase of certain failure, it’s a sort death really, which is what surpression gifts you. Life is hard but it’s exciting too, and it becomes quite the game that it really is when you approach it as no big deal.

You lose, so what.

You gain, so what.

You keep moving at all costs, testing and stretching your abilities. This is ALL that life is about: trial and error.

Get out of your own way and fly my darling. Fall on your face just like a child first learning to walk. Don’t be ashamed to learn from your lessons, for this is how wisdom is obtained.

In other words, grow up AND become a child again…

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“Mistress of Words”

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Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

“Spiritual Healer”

“Life Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website:

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Manipulation All Around Us

Goddess Worship Kali
“The Conjurer”
Art by Salkis Re

Control and ownership over your life is essential. You will meet people along your journey who will want to reduce your self worth, and they do this for the sole purpose of placing you into a tiny box so they can micro manage you with the *tiny power they posses.
This is real life, daily scenarios and power plays ladies.

Learn to distance yourself *emotionally from people who try to reduce you, and if there is something of value they can offer you them maintain a connection with them for that purpose. In other words, don’t take it personally, treat it like *business.

If you find yourself getting caught in contemplating why people do what they do, ask yourself the same question.
🤔 Why do you do what you do? Why do you lie? 😀 Whydo you embellish the truth? 🤗 Why are you unable to be straightforward about what you want at times?

🤕 People are liars and good or not so good concealers of their agendas, so you have to learn what manipulation is and counteract it by practicing some manipulation of your own.

🤔 Resolve your issues with right and wrong towards people who show disregard and *fair weather friend tendencies. This is the Game of Life my sister’s, play it well and live strong..
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“Black Hat Society”
“Mistress of Words

African American Art
“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Kali Ma Activation”
“Spiritual Guide”
“Creative Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
*Art by Salkis Re
Website:

www.iloveherart.com

If you would like to own the painting featured above, send your inquiry to salkis@iloveherart.com “The Conjurer” is not apart of my collection for *secret reasons so if you want her, we must communicate privately.

 

 

He Doesn’t Want to F$#@ You Anymore

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“Goddess Energy”
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

When you beg for love, attention, affection or sex within a relationship, it means that the intimacy you provide no longer holds any value or meaning. If you are a woman Begging for any of those things, this means that you are leading with your vagina and have *used it to assert (total) value. But after something has been experienced, the *want for it decreases as with all things that you acquire. People grow resentful when you respond to them in spite of their unfairness because they know they haven’t earned nor do they deserve what you give. Familiarity breeds contempt is the old saying and it rings true unwaveringly.

 

Sex is exciting when it is wrapped around a woman who is constantly changing and growing and improving herself. When you maintain your mystery, a curiosity for life, and you should NOT be the same person you were the year before.

You must make it a point to become

  • better,,
  • smarter
  • faster,
  • efficient,
  • sleek,
  • clever,
  • charming and the like in order to hold a man’s interest captive for the duration.

Showing excessive need for attention means that you are bored with YOURSELF, and you need him to entertain and distract you from your internal dislikes. This is the reverse order, for we as women provide the “escape” and the fantasy for men. Begging is like a magician revealing the secrets behind his magic tricks: if you know how he does it, you would be as amazed by the presentation.

You think seduction is something literal and obvious when it has nothing to do with reality at all. It is the spark of one’s imagination in anticipation if what I’ve might receive.

Your man should wonder if you love him occasionally. He should always be concerned with measuring up. If you allow him to be rewarded through your initiatives towards sex, then where will the incentive to please YOU come from?

Hard questions, harsh realities, but knowledge is POWER!

The routine breeds contempt. Furthermore, you give your body over in spite unsavory conditions, lack of production, out of boredom and desperation and wonder why there’s no incentive for him to show you love.

“Mistress of Words”

African American Art
“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Spiritual Healer”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
🤗Art by Salkis Re
Website:www.iloveherart.com

Solar Eclipse Is Here! Time To Manifest Everything You Want#!

__********->A Total Solar Eclipse is Happening today!! The last time we had one was in 1979!!
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So the moon will block out the sun totally for a short time today and this natural event as not happened since 1979.. There’s a 70 mile stretch called the “path of totality” where areas of the US will be completely blacked out. States like South Carolina, Oregon and on into Canada and South America too..

  • So why is this one so freaking awesome?
    Because it will cut across the United States diagonally and the last time that happened was in the year 1918..
    OK, so what does it mean for you and I?
    This is like New Year’s Day.
    A new begining.
    A fresh start.
    Set your intentions and make SELF care an absolute priority today.
    This is your do over. Your zero time reference and you should treat it like your mother just gave birth to you today..
    Seriously…
    You might feel a little off emotionally and physically during this time, BUT this is a powerful manifesting time. The energy is high high high.

A few things you should do while we are in this solar eclipse:

1– Set Your Intentions
Write down on a piece of paper what you want to manifest or release. Smoke the paper with burning sage and watch the paper burn. Say your intention while watching the paper burn completely out. Then whisper a prayer of gratitude and end with “So shall it be done.

 

2-Drink Lots of Water
This is a perfect time for cleansing and detoxing. Flush your system out with water to purify yourself.

3-Create!
If you draw, paint, sew, write, or dance, then do it today! Your creativity will be heightened ten fold.

4- Channel Your Feminine Goddess
Now this one is what I’m doing in beast mode from this point on. It’s ALL about feminine sexual energy for me and I’m channeling it into everything that I do from my paintings, to exercise, even cooking is sensual event for me. My intention with harnessing the goddess energy is to arrest any residual suppressive thoughts and old programming about good girl verse bad shut within me. I am embracing ALL of me.
Be unapologetic today. Be in full reverence of your womanhood today because it will set the tone for the weeks and months to come.
Rock on Creatrixx!!

Recite this Affirmation I Created for You Today:
“I Have Everything”

Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017
I pledge allegiance to myself and all the things that I do.
All my thoughts turns to gold and all my dreams come true.
What I ask my Mother Earth for is what I absolutely deserve.
And good fortune is my best friend, for I get all I want in this world.

 

*Share that affirmation with your homegirls today.
Powerful!

And if you want to really kick this new you into hypermode, then let me teach you the secrets to fulfillment and total ownership of your life emotionally, financially and romantically.  Click Here

 

Dark skin Women
Your Self Esteem Coach- Salkis Re