“Label Makers, Label Breakers”

Written by Salkis Re

Self esteem challenges can happen in people who are attractive,

in people with higher IQs, in people with money, in people who are religious etc.
You’d be surprised at the type of people who really emotionally fragile out here.
Don’t let appearances fool you…

I remember a “Guy Friday” I had working for me at my salon back in the day.

He was dark skin an older man, but you could tell he was extremely handsome

in his youth because he still had six pack abs and pretty white teeth.
He come in a few times a week and clean my shop for a six pack of beer,

pork rinds and on Fridays, I threw in a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken just to see his face light up.

 

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He didn’t want much, he didn’t need much really because of his lifestyle.

But he wasn’t ashamed of his standard of living.

He was quick-witted, wisdom filled, and his sense of humor would shortened any difficult day I’d have.

I remember him inviting me to his home that he’d often call his “Palace”.

He was so proud that he had this home and he often told stories of his lovers tryna lay claim to it by leaving panties and toothbrushes behind..lol

So I went to see the palace, and it turned out to be an old, tiny,

Southern Georgia shack! He had a dirty couch on the patio with a rickety table next to it to prop his beer.

He called it his “seating area” lllllmao.
I asked, “You entertain your hoes here Millified?”
“Yes Boss Lady, haha ha ha”, he said with his raspy voice.

 

He opened the door and invited me inside. The floor boards screeched and some of them lifted when we took a step.

I was scared I was going to fall through the floor, so he took my hand and we zig-zagged through the living.

He chuckled looking at my “wtf” face. But he still wasn’t fazed by my frowning giggles.

The floor of the entire house was on an incline, you could have slid right into the kitchen if the floor was wet.

The walls were painted with dirt. A few water bugs came out to see who was in the house too.

He had plastic lawn cheers in front of a 52 inch TV. That TV was the focal piece of the house and would be the reason all the ladies didn’t want to leave his chateau, hahaha!

He said he had cable and he’d make some squash casserole and fried chicken if I ever wanted to come hang out on Sunday after church.

We went to his bedroom and he had a queen size mattress on the floor that looked like he pulled it out a land fill,

and the bedroom closet was almost as small as a medicine cabinet.
His bathroom couldn’t hold two people at the same time; you could literally shit, shower and shave all in one cause it was so damn tiny!

He said he was ready to whip up a batch of red Kool Aid if I was thirsty and motioned him not to bother.

When the tour was done, I looked at him in disbelief.

I wanted him to see how disgusted I was,

but he continued to look at me and laugh.

 

He was unfazed by my distain, and I showed my distain because I knew he didn’t give a shit what I thought.
He was proud of himself. He was proud of who he was. He had “pretty teeth” so to him he was a “pretty boy”..lllllmao

He was one of the few people I’ve met that was just unbothered by people’s opinions,

he stated what he was and that was all his heart and mind had room for.

The rest of us have so much more than him, but we disregard it for the perpetual fear that others may feel we are not good enough.

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Your self esteem is built on a weaker foundation than his one room shack!

All while you look good, you work a so-called “good job”.

You can save for vacation and occasionally splurge on nonessential things,

but you still are afraid of what people think of you.
You don’t take a chance, because your thoughts of failure plaque you without rest.

You have their degrees, their licenses and certificates but still feel invalid..

Your Perception of who you are has been “Given” to you.

That is why you are not empowered, and that is why you live so unsure of yourself in spite of all your accolades.

My Guy Friday stayed happy, even with what I classified as an impoverished lifestyle, he had a mentality of wealth.

Maybe that was the reason he remained so attractive and charismatic.

He could have been more I suppose had he taken advantage of the education system, maybe he would be more than hustler.

But that was my opinion of him, and one he didn’t share in…

He wasn’t intimidated by others who had more.

He talked to everybody, and free beer and free meals were the regular thank you gifts he received for his humor and charismatic optimism.

So what will you do?

Continue to live in fear of not being good enough,

not living good enough,

not being attractive enough,

not having enough money to be enough?

When will you arrest those hypothesizing thoughts of imaginary restraints?

When you say fuck it, this is what I am and I’m fabulous as is???
You can do it right now.

You don’t need to kneel before a Queen,

or get a certificate in the mail,

or have an engagement ring on your finger to claim your right to feel fantastic about yourself today!!

Make the shift.
Make the decision..
And be what YOU say you are…

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

 

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Men Want Women To Like Them!

Men are curious creatures ready to play.

The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.

Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.

That’s all courtship is really.

Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.

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Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

 

 

His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,

to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..

So what’s the true tea here?

DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.

But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good

because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..

Except it.

Expect it.

 

Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!

And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.

They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”

which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.

But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.

 

So what should you do?

Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,

heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,

throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?

I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.

You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.

You want be kind, but not compromising.

You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.

You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,

and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!

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Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.

And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.

Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.

 

All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”

is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.

So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!

This means that you trust your instincts;

you move only when you are comfortable;

you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind

ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!

 

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Being a Witch Over Your Life!

So today lets talk about you.
Why are you so afraid of people? Why do you care more about what they think about you, than what you think about yourself?

Doesn’t make sense right?
But you do it! You will spend the majority of your life doing it until you become old and with grouchy chip on your shoulders inspired by the reality that you have to face.

 

What’s that reality?
That you’ve wasted your life…

That is where you are headed if you don’t grow a new set of ovaries and get on with living.
Failure is UNAVOIDABLE.
But it’s not humiliating .
It will not diminish your value.

Failure is merely a blueprint of what NOT to do anymore.
And isn’t it a good thing to know what you should avoid?
Isn’t knowing a generally self serving thing that makes you wise!?

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Ain’t you tired of playing yourself small to save face?
Are you not bored to tears with all this “playing it safe” that you are doing?

Are you getting more love and more LIFE for your lack of effort?

Are people respecting you more because they never see you make a mistake?

Are you satisfied with doing the same thing you’ve done for the last 10 years of your life?

No growth.
No change.

 

Yet you are not standing still. You are not moving forward with any of your goals, but you are on a slow decline.

That is scary: Moving downward instead of upward I mean.

Your actions are your magic wand you know.

You are the MAGI, the magician, The Fairy Godmother over your own life!!

But you sit there staring at the wand/your talents scared to use it because you are afraid of the outcome.

 

 

NEWS FLASH!!!

You will never be able to control the “outcome” of anything you do.
But you CAN control the PROCESS of getting there. What you toil on, what you practice daily is what you have 100% control over!
FOCUS ON THAT!!!!!!!

 

 

And release yourself from he anxiety over the end result.

The end result turn out to be less than you were hoping for,

or BETTER than your wildest dreams,

but doing NOTHING ensures that NOTHING will happen either way.

GET UP!!

Dorothy in the Wiz

So I’m gonna tell you to walk through your trials  just like Dorothy did.

Walk through it to find what you are made of,

and you will realize just like she did that **THE POWER WAS WITHIN YOU ALL ALONG!**

 

 

Thick Locs
Artist?Life Coach ~Salkis RE

 

Who Am I?
A Magi!
A Medicine Woman
AND and **ARTIST on a crusade to create a quiet revolution and **mental freedom** for women of color,

I have dedicated my life mission and purpose to helping your find that sweet spot, that hole that unlocks the key to color your black and white life…

I was afraid just like you.
And sometimes I still am, but I WELCOME THE PROCESS and invite you to do the same.<-

If you need me, find me :HERE

No Reason to Love a Woman Like You!!

“Emotional Decisions”
 
Decisions made by the heart alone NEVER stick.
And this is why decisions made solely from an emotional place ALWAYS END.
Sometimes quickly… Most times quickly actually.
Him loving you doesn’t compel him to stay, does it?
You loving him doesn’t mean you don’t want to leave, does it?
 
So why do you stay? And why does he leave?
Because BOTH of you give it some thought.
You start weighing your options as you try to figure out a reason to NOT to carry out that conclusion your emotions offered you…
Kloe Kardashian and
 
Some people are not mentally stable enough to allow themselves time to think things through.
The ole saying “Let me sleep on it” is real and necessary to get your mind back into the rational space to give the final YES or NO.
 
Love is a scam in that way really.
You are loved today, and forgotten tomorrow based on “feelings”
I tell no lies here today.
You know its true because you have been with past lovers who you
swore you’d spend the rest of your life with that are barely even a fleeting thought now.
 
And so it is…
When you ask him “why” he loves you and he answers you with a “just because” RUN!!!
Run like a bat outa hell looking for fresh blood!
RUN like you’re in hell with gasoline draws on because you
know you are with someone who DOESN’T have a concrete reason to STAY with you.
Will and Jada Smith
 
Emotions make the decision and Logic KEEPS people together: NOT EMOTIONS...
You can decide to accept this or not, it’s certainly up to you as we all are resonating on different frequencies.
But if you’ve been “burned” by love, puzzled at how a person can love you and still hurt you,
perplexed that you’ve reached a space of loneliness when you thought you found your soul mate,
then this message is most definitely for you to eat and digest.
I know, I know, but Salkis there are happily married couples who have been together for blah blah blah amount of time,
so true love does exist, that’s what you are saying.
At least that’s what the seminars tell you, and they’d better tell you that cause you are paying good money for “HOPE”
I am not saying that love does not exist, Im saying that love is erratic, and inconsistent, therefore unreliable as a stand alone measure of the value of a relationship.
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you fell in love with him?
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What were your reasons for that emotion?
Was he cute in the face? Nice beard? Bow-legged?
Did he f*(k the shit out you till you came 4 times in a row?
What was it that conjured up the I can’t live without you feeling?
It was probably something that felt good of course.
Some action he performed that produced a feel good moment that became repetitious ,
and before you knew it, you couldn’t see life without HIM in it!
But aside from the rigors and the conflicts and the betrayal, relationships can sharpen you as a person.
They can teach you what you like or don’t like or didn’t know about yourself.
Lovers have an uncanny way of showing you who you really are by creating hardship and challenges for you to overcome.
And if you do manage to snag a person that can hang in there with all your baggage,
you too can assist him in becoming better person as well.
While unpleasant, STRUGGLE LOVE is an opportunity you invite into your lives to “expose” for The initial purpose of an escape,
but on the back end, a miraculous thing happens and you start to dance with The Real YOU.
Learn the lesson and endure or move on….
Take the “Black Pill”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis RE
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“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN????

“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN???

So the gag is that Tiny, T.I’s wife is a fool for staying with Tip because once again he is caught cheating.
Some of y’all say she has no self esteem because she keeps forgiving him for his infidelity.

That could very well be the case, but let me say something about commitment: it is a sacrifice!!!
She took him in at the height of her career with escape, he was TI back then, he wasn’t anything, but she backed him.

She gave him the best years of her life and 5 children. She gave him passes, and threesomes too. She got surgery to keep her tits and ass tight and high, she took the charge when they got caught with cocaine in they car, she stayed chase while he was doing his bid in jail.

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And guess what? HE STILL CHEATED over and over and over again.

So what SHOULD that tell you ladies. What should be included in all those seminars, You tube vids, vegan potlucks, yoni egg user brigades and the like, need to just say what is inevitable, what is highly probable, what is almost a guarantee if your make has a half way working penis and/or a little bit of money. And that is that men CHEAT.

You are killing yourself trying to hold it together for HIM, when all he wants is simply someone NEW. Your loyalty doesn’t mean shit, how much of the rent you can pay or even if you’re paying ALL of the rent, it doesn’t mean shit, you can think you’re hot or maybe you actually are hot, and guess what?
It doesn’t matter!!!

So Tiny should walk away from time and money SHE put into him so he can be free and clear to dick hop? She can move out the house and get a condo across town with a nice looking Guy Friday who comes to check her “plumbing”, but divorce?
Divorce him to do what? Date again?
To find another fool that just wants to say he fucked T.I’s ex wife?
NO! She should ride it out. Ride that shit into the sunset and find joy however she can because at this stage the odds that she can pull another T.I is slim.

She got time and the stamina to build up another man at this stage of her life?
And at is the point of all of that when all roads still lead to what she is facing now..

She need to do what Snoop Dog wife did: visit down and let him figure it out while the bag keeps coming in

Tiny, monitor your bag. The rest is irrelevant… Period…
Take the Black Pill!!

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Sexual Abuse Happens to Every Woman”

All women I have had the pleasure of talking to,
coaching with, friendships and associates have a sexual abuse story from their past: ALL OF THEM!
It was an uncle here, a stepfather there, an older cousin here,
a brother there, a boyfriend over here, and a husband after that, and so on and so on…..

I remember when I was it the 4th grade, I got dragged behind a tree by this boy that I actually had a crush on.
I asked him what he was doing and he slammed me against the tree and started dry humping me.
My face was bruised cause he held my neck against the trunk of the tree so that I couldn’t move..

I started crying. Then he laughed, backed off, and ran away…
I stood there picking bits of tree trunk off my face, shaken, feeling ashamed and really confused like what the fuck just happened here!
But he laughing so I wasn’t sure if what he’d just done was even wrong.

No ‘I’m sorry’ was said, he just laughed when he saw my tears.
So I thought that maybe I was perceiving it wrong…

Isn’t that what we always do?
Second guess ourselves and our feelings because HE won’t own up to his actions…

No penetration physically happened, but a disruption of my self worth and confidence sure did!


Why?
Because I secretly LIKED that boy.
Which means I looked up to him.
And because I liked him and he didn’t like me:
it meant that HE was BETTER than me…..

This is the typical pattern that starts after you’ve been physically violated.
You don’t trust yourself anymore, you feel in your heart that the pain inflicted is somehow what you deserved..
And every relationship you seek, only aids in solidifying your false sense of low worth…

Wives aren’t exempt from this either, in fact, a lot of them are simply “under contract” to be abused because you have taken the “I’m powerless’ position..

So he gets to tell you he doesn’t like your body while he’s fucking you because he pays the mortgage. He gets to tell you that he thinks you are stupid while he rides your back to relieve his stress. He gets to blame you for his dik not being able to hold an erection, but as the “good wife” you swallow and wallow quietly in degradation because that ring says you have NO voice.

But you can repair your heart and mind..

Your heart can heal,
your emotions can stabilize when you finally come to realization of what men are,
what they can and CANNOT do for you, and the proper order of importance they fit in..

So The Maxims For Today Are:

Do NOT second guess YOURSELF anymore…
What you SEE IS what you GET…
There is NO BENEFIT IN A DOUBT,
So DON’T give the BENEFIT OF A DOUBT.
DISMISS ANY talk that calls to question your perception of reality…
And remember, you CANNOT have SELF CONFIDENCE when you Do Not trust YOUR feelings…

Aummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re
The Black Hat Society”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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“Sex is a Return on His Investment, Not an Act of Good Faith!”

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Art by Salkis RE

“Sex is a Return on His Investment, Not an Act of Good Faith!”

Sex is NOT important. It should really be the last thing on your list of must-haves.
Why?
Because you can maintain your advantage and the upper hand.
What do you think he is chasing you for? Cause he likes to tell you his problems?

You think he is tracking you cause you’re an excellent cook?

Is that what keeps him thinking about you all day?
Its your snatch my dear.

That slime box shaped like a flower pedal between your legs.
That is what the game is about. So if you give it to him without a commitment, the GAME IS OVER.

Quite Frankly, the game is over the moment you give him sex no matter when you do it,

but if you give it to him AFTER he’s made an investment of time and ANNNNNNNNNDDDD MONEY,

it will be a challenge to just abandon the relationship.

The key word here is “LOSS”.

If he has already spent money on you, then he is INVESTED. He has paid into the relationship and wants to recoup a “return”.

Any women still requiring love to be at the top of her list for commitment is going to be a lonely fool…
“TAKE THE BLACK PILL”

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

 

The “Black Pill” He WANTS TO FOOK ANOTHER WOMAN!

So here is the deal. If you are with a man, and he has fooked you at least 50 times, then he probably,
in all likelihood, wishes he had the opportunity to fook a “new” woman!
 
It doesn’t matter how pretty your are or “think you are”, HE WILL WANT ANOTHER WOMAN.
Why?
Because you are no longer a novelty, that’s why. And being “new” is what creates sexual excitement/attraction in men.
Him only having eyes for you is a joke, an UNREALITY, a delusional of grandeur on your part at best.
He WANT’s TO FOOK ANOTHER WOMAN, SO GET OVER IT!!
 
I do not care how fat your arse is; I don’t care how perfect your skin is; I don’t care if your hip to waist ratio is spot on. NONE of that matters if he has put his “peenus” in every hole in your body that the Lord hath made…
HE’S DONE WITH YOU. MISSION COMPLETE!
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Hypergamy IS A WOMAN’S WAY!!

Now, we do try desperately to stave off our worn out vaginas

Now, we do try desperately to stave off our worn out vaginas by wearing new hair do’s and clothes, some of y’all graceless, wobbly arses take poll dancing lessons, role play in bed, and the really desperate ones invite other women in for a knock down drag out mucus, piss and shyte swapping brigade of funk-filled sex (for which I HAVE found my dumb arse recruiting chics to join my ‘team” back in the day, but luckily nobody was interested in fooking the man I was with, *the irony).
 

Don’t let Yourself GO!

Anyway, So the deal isn’t to let yourself go, you still have to take your fat arse to the gym, eat right , smell good, look good. Don’t stop trying to improve yourself because the odds of infidelity are high.
 
You want to improve yourself SO that you can COLLECT YOUR COINS so that you are only enduring emotional struggles from a man with resources instead of some hungry-ass, bathing once duh week nagga who washes his car more than he washes his nut sack!
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Life Coach/Artist ~Salkis Re
 
It’s time to stop the fear you have over him wanting another women, he DOES.
Now What?
What are you going to do to SECURE your life so that whatever happens, you are not left sick, old and penniless?
 
This is why CONNECTION doesn’t matter.
This is why ATTRACTION doesn’t matter.
This is why VIRTUE doesn’t matter.
This is why BEAUTY doesn’t matter.
This is why CLASS doesn’t matter.
 
Sis, step back. Take a breath. Stop fighting with the selfishness of his mind.
It’s a waste of time and energy, and you can’t afford to give those away.
 
But you know what this really means about sexuality?
It means that we are not wired to have sex as frequently as we do.
This means that sex ‘drive’ is manufactured and created through
over stimulation” through programming social “norms” about what sex drive is.
Beautiful African American Women
 
Biologically, when a man ejaculates in you, and does it a few times, his mission is complete.
His sex drive naturally diminishes and he no longer has
a biological or a psychological need to continue mating with you.
 
Now some will say that this is because men are wired to spread their seed around
because he could cum every day if he were screwing a new woman every day.
 
but that is not healthy for HIM either.
Arousal is manipulated by our environment.
And truth be told, men with nothing to do, no goals, or a drive
to make major accomplishments have an excessive drive for sex.
To me, a man who stays busy WORKING, TOILING, INVENTING,
and hardly any time for me, is a perfect guy.
Get the COINS BOO!

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“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis

“Don’t Like Sex SOOO MUCH GIRL!!!”

 

If you want to get money or resources out of a man, then NEVER act like you like sex as much as he does. Its masculine, and to get taken care of, you must act feminine or a “damsel in distress”.

If you are showing lust and encouraging talks about how you can do Olympic feats of Water Park style SQUIRTING on your 300 thread count sheets, you are going to make him think that his “peens” can be EQUAL in exchange of value when you do have sex..

Is it?……….

NOT if you are trying to be cared for: HELL NAWL its NOT!

Hide your lust. Do not offer conversations about how skilled YOU are.

If you must go there, simply indulge in his need to express what he likes and take note,

giggle, blush, and keep it classy…

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Why would you do this?

To establish that you are here to RECEiVE and his JOB as a man to to give IN EVERY WAY.

AND the sex he offers is NOT PAYMENT or COMPENSATION for the time your are spending with him..

That is the trap you pseudo feminists are getting yourself into.

The equality of the sexuality is NOT beneficial to women who want to portion themselves to be some man’s SUGAR BABY.

 

In order for a man to feel compelled to take care of you in any way,

he has to feel like you NEED him, he has to feel like he can solve your problems and rescue you.

And you cannot pull of the DAMSEL ideal by matching him it wit and sexual brawn.

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Art by Salkis Re for SalkisRe.com

Think delicate.

Think soft.

Think charm.

Think beauty.

RUN from the modern notions of womanhood and all that WOMAN CAN DO WHAT MEN DO

IF the goal is to be a woman getting her bills paid by a ma who is madly in love with her.

It takes work. More work than I care to admit or WANT to do myself.

I fought the need to do all this nonsense for soooo many years and pissed away a large portion of my own sexual fertility shadow boxing with the notion that I too had to be vulnerable.

But I was thinking of it all wrong, it’s not about BEING vulnerable, its about ACTING vulnerable.

And these are two entirely different things.

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So my advice to you is not think of yourself as dumbing down your brilliance .

Think of all the feminine charm as a TOOL to sift your brilliance through,

because if your smarts doesn’t pad up your bottom line, then you are living “stupidly” anyway…

Fight this if you want too, and all you’ll have left is a mouth full of spermatozoa and an empty change purse..

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“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis

 

 

Men Shouldn’t Have to PAY???

Male Viewer’s Comment to another Male Viewer on my You Tube Video:

“As long as you allow yourself to be USED by a woman she will never LOVE you or see you as a “companion”. She’ll only see you as an “employee”, a “mule”, or her “workhorse.
YOU CAN NOT BUY LOVE.
Also, you should NOT be giving a woman “things” when you date, because you’re only training her to be with you for “things” instead of being with you for YOU and appreciating you as a PERSON and appreciating your friendship and companionship.”
End Quote

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😼MY RESPONSE:
And if you are not “useful” she will never love either. Love is a “decision” based on opportunity and value displayed in “both” sides.
You guys think it’s unfair that a woman’s value/beauty/sex is equivalent to what you bring as men, but it’s because YOU ALL who express its importance, display favorable behaviors towards it, and make judgements and decisions that reflect how valuable it is.

We don’t make a man’s “looks” the main issue,
and MANY MANY women in relationships while SEXUALLY DISSATISFIED yet THEY STAY.
We compromise and “settle” all day long, so join the club!! Love you say?
You want “free” love?
When have you EVER had that? When HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN THAT???😼
~Salkis Re

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Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re for www.iloveherart.com

Now I posted this because I’m basically tired of this repeated narrative from men who want FREE love. None of them give anything without the intention of getting a return, but they argue about what they are expected to do to win a woman’s heart.

Are any of these men leading households: I doubt it.

Are these types of men inspired to commit to a ONE woman, I think it would be difficult for them.

These men always talk about virtue when they do not want to spend any money. But sacrifice is the barometer of the level of care a man OR woman has for the other person.

There is no way to measure your worth without compromise and sacrifice. You don’t know how important you are or how important a person thinks you are until  inconvenience presents itself…

And don’t you ladies think for one-second that these men do not understand the concept of “struggle”.

Frankly, I don’t see how you could think any other way when they repeatedly talk about “building together”.

Do you know what that term  “BUILDING TOGETHER means?

It means I cannot afford to take care of you,

and I want you to understand that,

and I want you to work to help me provide for you,

because then I will know you want me for me and not the money I don’t have

Then and only then have you earned their best efforts?? Through sacrifice and struggle we know right?

But the only problem with that is that the odds are not good for women when they invest in relationships that way.

Honestly, these are poor peoples problems ; wealthy people have a firm grasp of profit-loss, risk-reward, investment-liability. They understand that you can’t get something for nothing.

They understand  that you have to pay for what you want.

Sounds transactional right?

Tell me when is it not transactional?

You are both are INVESTING time, energy, resources, your bodies into each other. Relationships are INVESTMENTS, why else would you need or even want to commit to one person for the rest of your life if there was no gain to be had?

That is the cold, HARD truth!

Deal with it!!!!

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So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE