Me and my boyfriend, (hehe) Sebi talked for hours about healing and he told me that healing was a psychological thing, and that most of us are angry and suppressed which is why we are sick.
He said that we should strive to be “child-like” which is a ‘free thinking” way to be, but that it was difficult because we are so attached to what we identify with.
Food he said, was part of a person’s identity because it’s attached to their culture. “When I take away someone’s food, I take away someone’s IDENTITY and most people can’t deal with that, he said.
He also said: “This is why I had no luck in Africa, I couldn’t get past the “witch doctors” to help the people heal… They had too much “belief” in spirits and things to listen to me… And it’s the same thing here in America.
I can’t get a man from Louisiana to stop eating his ‘dirty rice’ cause that’s what he grew up on….
In fact, my success rate with healing people from there is very low!
Listen to me, if you really want to heal yourself, you have to let go of everything you think you NEED to be: EVERYTHING!!!
Let it all go and strip yourself down to a NAKED baby because the identity you have now is what created the environment for disease the to manifest…
SO BECOME WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO BE TO HEAL YOURSELF!!!
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Written by Salkis Re
Perfection is something none of us possess but we all criticize others for not being…
And the more critical you are of others,
the more it exposes of the secret hell you live in as you surround yourself with persistent, private condemnation.
When you release your desires for perfectionism, you can AND will enjoy your life a whole lot more…
You will give yourself permission to make mistakes, to take chances, to explore the unknown.
You will become intriguing and exciting to be around.
You will give every inhale and exhale of your lungs a purpose outside of causing others pain…
And then your soul will begin to create your mission, a reason for living,
and a good reason for living is what your life will become when you inspire others,
when you uplift the weak, when you encourage the fearful instead
of the being the one fueling discouragement in others…..
This is what God’s children do…
Who’s child are you?
Art by Salkis Re
Please click the picture if you’d like to ave collector piece of this painting…
Something that I’ve come to know in my own journey towards physical and
emotional healing is that your emotions are responsible for disease.
The emotional body holds the feelings in place whether it be
and it assists in creating a stable environment for those emotions to thrive and grow.
Once your emotions have a stable atmosphere to thrive, you start to feel off balance physically,
your immune system starts to weaken and dysfunction and illness sets in.
This is why the relationships you choose are SO FREAKIN IMPORTANT to your overall health and emotional well being.
Men whom you have sex with that do not love you will affect your health.
A Man that you are in long term toxic relationship with will affect your health.
Lingering Sorrow is not good for your soul, it’s not good for your heart,
it’s not good for your mind…..
Decide that you will put your health ABOVE your compassion for other peoples foolery.
Decide that you will sacrifice your convenience and
instant gratification for the long term goal of longevity and vitality.
Your insulin level must be low to loose weight and to keep your hormones regulated.
High insulin means higher cortisol levels which is the fat storing hormone.
Stress will keep you sick and fat. Stress from junk food and junk people will keep you fat and exhausted.
You will kick yourself into early menopause along with a host of other physical imbalances…
Cut The Excess: ALL OF IT!!
Do you need a push to bring emotional and physical balance to your life again?
I am here to help you!
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I had a session with a client yesterday and she was explaining
to me how the conversation went on her pseudo date for the evening.
She told me that it basically tuned into a **therapy session**
for him to complain about all the money he was expected to spend in **his previous relationship**
and how he felt it was unfair that he was required to
give her so much of his money among other things…
SO let me tell all of you ladies something that I did want to accept for a long time.
**YOUR APPEARANCE MATTERS!!**
Why do I say this?
Because she saw him for a “quick” informal date,
she wore a new pair of jeans(but they were jeans) and a cute casual looking blouse= **Minimal Effort**
Now she assured me that she looked very **VERY cute.**
But the message she sent to him was that of *convenience and *less requirements because she
was ok with riding around with him in his car with no plan and no money spent for her time.
And to top it off, he is all of 60 years old man with 4 baby mama’s
to divvy out child support too.
A 60 year old man has to pay to TALK far yes pay for an actual date.
**Get over it!**
Because HE assumed from the gate that this sister
WASN’T WORTH doing as much for like the previous woman was,
cause what? HE SAID HE GAVE THE OTHER WOMAN THE MONEY SHE ASKED FOR…..
SO his complaints are really a mute point AFTER the fact…
Do not ever take that take as some sort of compliment to your **”good girl”** archetype.
Being GOOD serves a purpose, and if that purpose isn’t being met,
then you should walk alone with the virtue you are so proud of.
Bottom line is that he didn’t think my client was on
the level of the previous woman he was complaining about.
You think if he thought she was ‘high maintenance’
AND deserved to be take care of, that he’d suffer her
through the entire date complaining about how much
money he didn’t want to spend on a mother woman????
Men know who they will low ball from the gate.
And they will spend on what they think is worth the effort and the price.
You being a Good Woman, a woman of fairness and honesty is beneficial only if the man has no alter agenda, and what man doesn’t???
A relationship with you becomes something of quality based on how YOU respond to offers and insinuations and sexual advances etc..
You make it ‘something more” than a one night bang” by not banging?
His morals are based on what you require.. PERIOD!!
Do not compromise on your requirements at all! You won’t get a no crown for suffering or not getting your basic needs met!!
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“You Can Be Anything, Now What?”
Written by Salkis Re
You want to learn how to levitate and walk through walls and see auras and things, but you can’t control what you put in your mouth or commit to anything practical that will assist in repairing your physical and mental state?????
Ohhh you better wake up during the “witching hours” and put some energy into your mortal life instead trying to find ways to run from your shame and guilt.
You Hide your low self esteem with finery and excess, and the only emotional sovereignty you can muster up is displayed in your ability to sexually seduce the minds of undisciplined people who are also looking to escape their reality.
And here you are, afraid and hesitant to do ALL the things that offer ACTUAL improvement to your flesh and bone life, so your solution is to fly away…
GROUND yourself and prepare to get your hands dirty rebuilding YOU. Do what you have to do so you can stop wishing you were a balloon…
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Am I Black Enough?”
Why is it so hard for you to consider how you feel FIRST??
I will tell you why.
Because a long time ago, when you were just a little girl, someone you loved and depended on told you it was wrong not to want to share.
These people were giants to you and you looked up to them literally and figuratively. They told you that you have to listen to what you are told regardless of what your desires were. They told you that it was wrong and disrespectful to be or show anger.
So you learned to hide your emotions.
You learned that for people to love you, you could not disagree with them in anyway lest you become a disappointment to them and yourself.
And so, here we are today…
And the same reasonings, the same thinking process you had as a little still prevails.
So what is the truth here?
The truth is that this all proves how “conditional” love actually is.
It also proves that what you thought you had to be was never the TRUTH, for it was merely
Indoctrination to conform you for easier control over your behavior and actions.
You are FREE now baby girl…
You are no longer under the jurisdiction of your parents; furthermore, lovers and husbands that enter your life are there by your grace and the generosity within you to give them the opportunity to be a “part” of your life…
Take these broken wings and learn to fly again..
Get the book that will help you here.
If you need to talk to me, I am here..
Written by Salkis Re
Self esteem challenges can happen in people who are attractive,
in people with higher IQs, in people with money, in people who are religious etc.
You’d be surprised at the type of people who really emotionally fragile out here.
Don’t let appearances fool you…
I remember a “Guy Friday” I had working for me at my salon back in the day.
He was dark skin an older man, but you could tell he was extremely handsome
in his youth because he still had six pack abs and pretty white teeth.
He come in a few times a week and clean my shop for a six pack of beer,
pork rinds and on Fridays, I threw in a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken just to see his face light up.
He didn’t want much, he didn’t need much really because of his lifestyle.
But he wasn’t ashamed of his standard of living.
He was quick-witted, wisdom filled, and his sense of humor would shortened any difficult day I’d have.
I remember him inviting me to his home that he’d often call his “Palace”.
He was so proud that he had this home and he often told stories of his lovers tryna lay claim to it by leaving panties and toothbrushes behind..lol
So I went to see the palace, and it turned out to be an old, tiny,
Southern Georgia shack! He had a dirty couch on the patio with a rickety table next to it to prop his beer.
He called it his “seating area” lllllmao.
I asked, “You entertain your hoes here Millified?”
“Yes Boss Lady, haha ha ha”, he said with his raspy voice.
He opened the door and invited me inside. The floor boards screeched and some of them lifted when we took a step.
I was scared I was going to fall through the floor, so he took my hand and we zig-zagged through the living.
He chuckled looking at my “wtf” face. But he still wasn’t fazed by my frowning giggles.
The floor of the entire house was on an incline, you could have slid right into the kitchen if the floor was wet.
The walls were painted with dirt. A few water bugs came out to see who was in the house too.
He had plastic lawn cheers in front of a 52 inch TV. That TV was the focal piece of the house and would be the reason all the ladies didn’t want to leave his chateau, hahaha!
He said he had cable and he’d make some squash casserole and fried chicken if I ever wanted to come hang out on Sunday after church.
We went to his bedroom and he had a queen size mattress on the floor that looked like he pulled it out a land fill,
and the bedroom closet was almost as small as a medicine cabinet.
His bathroom couldn’t hold two people at the same time; you could literally shit, shower and shave all in one cause it was so damn tiny!
He said he was ready to whip up a batch of red Kool Aid if I was thirsty and motioned him not to bother.
When the tour was done, I looked at him in disbelief.
I wanted him to see how disgusted I was,
but he continued to look at me and laugh.
He was unfazed by my distain, and I showed my distain because I knew he didn’t give a shit what I thought.
He was proud of himself. He was proud of who he was. He had “pretty teeth” so to him he was a “pretty boy”..lllllmao
He was one of the few people I’ve met that was just unbothered by people’s opinions,
he stated what he was and that was all his heart and mind had room for.
The rest of us have so much more than him, but we disregard it for the perpetual fear that others may feel we are not good enough.
Your self esteem is built on a weaker foundation than his one room shack!
All while you look good, you work a so-called “good job”.
You can save for vacation and occasionally splurge on nonessential things,
but you still are afraid of what people think of you.
You don’t take a chance, because your thoughts of failure plaque you without rest.
You have their degrees, their licenses and certificates but still feel invalid..
Your Perception of who you are has been “Given” to you.
That is why you are not empowered, and that is why you live so unsure of yourself in spite of all your accolades.
My Guy Friday stayed happy, even with what I classified as an impoverished lifestyle, he had a mentality of wealth.
Maybe that was the reason he remained so attractive and charismatic.
He could have been more I suppose had he taken advantage of the education system, maybe he would be more than hustler.
But that was my opinion of him, and one he didn’t share in…
He wasn’t intimidated by others who had more.
He talked to everybody, and free beer and free meals were the regular thank you gifts he received for his humor and charismatic optimism.
So what will you do?
Continue to live in fear of not being good enough,
not living good enough,
not being attractive enough,
not having enough money to be enough?
When will you arrest those hypothesizing thoughts of imaginary restraints?
When you say fuck it, this is what I am and I’m fabulous as is???
You can do it right now.
You don’t need to kneel before a Queen,
or get a certificate in the mail,
or have an engagement ring on your finger to claim your right to feel fantastic about yourself today!!
Make the shift.
Make the decision..
And be what YOU say you are…
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Men are curious creatures ready to play.
The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.
Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.
That’s all courtship is really.
Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.
His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,
to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..
So what’s the true tea here?
DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.
But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good
because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..
Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!
And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.
They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”
which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.
But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.
So what should you do?
Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,
heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,
throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?
I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.
You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.
You want be kind, but not compromising.
You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.
You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,
and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!
Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.
And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.
Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.
All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”
is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.
So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!
This means that you trust your instincts;
you move only when you are comfortable;
you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind
ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!
If you need to talk, I’m HERE
So today lets talk about you.
Why are you so afraid of people? Why do you care more about what they think about you, than what you think about yourself?
Doesn’t make sense right?
But you do it! You will spend the majority of your life doing it until you become old and with grouchy chip on your shoulders inspired by the reality that you have to face.
What’s that reality?
That you’ve wasted your life…
That is where you are headed if you don’t grow a new set of ovaries and get on with living.
Failure is UNAVOIDABLE.
But it’s not humiliating .
It will not diminish your value.
Failure is merely a blueprint of what NOT to do anymore.
And isn’t it a good thing to know what you should avoid?
Isn’t knowing a generally self serving thing that makes you wise!?
Ain’t you tired of playing yourself small to save face?
Are you not bored to tears with all this “playing it safe” that you are doing?
Are you getting more love and more LIFE for your lack of effort?
Are people respecting you more because they never see you make a mistake?
Are you satisfied with doing the same thing you’ve done for the last 10 years of your life?
Yet you are not standing still. You are not moving forward with any of your goals, but you are on a slow decline.
That is scary: Moving downward instead of upward I mean.
You are the MAGI, the magician, The Fairy Godmother over your own life!!
But you sit there staring at the wand/your talents scared to use it because you are afraid of the outcome.
You will never be able to control the “outcome” of anything you do.
But you CAN control the PROCESS of getting there. What you toil on, what you practice daily is what you have 100% control over!
FOCUS ON THAT!!!!!!!
And release yourself from he anxiety over the end result.
The end result turn out to be less than you were hoping for,
or BETTER than your wildest dreams,
but doing NOTHING ensures that NOTHING will happen either way.
So I’m gonna tell you to walk through your trials just like Dorothy did.
Walk through it to find what you are made of,
and you will realize just like she did that **THE POWER WAS WITHIN YOU ALL ALONG!**
Who Am I?
A Medicine Woman
AND and **ARTIST on a crusade to create a quiet revolution and **mental freedom** for women of color,
I have dedicated my life mission and purpose to helping your find that sweet spot, that hole that unlocks the key to color your black and white life…
I was afraid just like you.
And sometimes I still am, but I WELCOME THE PROCESS and invite you to do the same.<-
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