“The Pressure to Look Sexy!

“The Pressure to Look Sexy”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen, I’ve been accused of being undercover feminist lesbian when I get into my cautionary rants;

the resistance usually comes from men who feel in threatening a reduction in their prospects/prey or women

who believe they are more attractive than I am which makes my message inapplicable to them…

The reoccurring theme here, the message within all of my writings is that you see the truth of how your emotions become weaponized and used against you.
The pressure to “look valuable” is real.

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This is why we wear the form fitting clothes, plaster makeup on our faces, post selfies, wear weaves and high heels that some of can’t even walk in..
Somebody told you that you had to do this in order to be relevant and “considered”.

And MOST of us are looking like desperate fools in clown makeup and

clothing with spandex material in that that makes you assume you’ve bought the right size.

Shaming here?
No. Waking here!
Wake up to the fact that you are in a game that’s set up for you to lose,

because when you lose (of feel lost) you turn into a consumer/believer/minion

for those that make sales to help cure your low self esteem.

African Art by Salkis RE
African art by Salkis Re

What’s the truth here though?
The truth is that we are different, but different doesn’t necessarily mean better or worse; it simply means that I cannot be you and you cannot be me…

I’m interested in sisterhood.

 

I’m interested in sisterhood . Though I cried it down as an impossible task -because women are emotional conn artists- I am renewing my vision for this because it is needed.

We are sick, depressed, suicidal, impoverished in every way because we sit around telling lies to each other, initiating new recruits into old sorrows,making it seem like even the mistakes you made in your life was “all planned out before your birth”.

Where are the healers?
Where are the watchers?

 

 

Where are the CRONES to help and guide young women?
Are you sitting around to busy plucking your hormonal chin hair to care about the ones coming after you?

Looking good is a blessing and a curse for those of us who can transform to an acceptable level;

you WILL be picked, used, trophied, and discarded more than those if us who have minimal options.


African Art by Salkis RE
African Art by Salkis Re

You Can’t Quite Level Up

And the ones of who can’t quite “level up” feel that we live without luck or grace because the prospects are low,

so we go to extremes, often corrupting our health while making fool-hearty investments in so-called improvements,

and the only return you get on your alterations is laughed and more Usury than your previous looks allowed for..

So both spectrums meet pain and degradation, and the reason we do is because we do not help each other.

We rate,

categorize,

exclude,

and diminish each other’s value by forming social cliques where women

that aren’t a threat to each other just pass around lies and swap war stories…
And so it goes..
But I’m looking for my lost sheep just like Jesus did..

I’m here to help with the bitter BLACK PILL…
Carry On..

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Mentor”
“EMPATH”

If you need private mentoring in all matters of womanhood including health ad wellness, weightless, self esteem, life purpose, relationship advice, please reach out ay:

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There’s Nothing Special About You!

 

 

Beautiful Black Women

 

OK…
When I tell women that they are not “special”, they’re offended but this is indubitably true.
A woman stated to me that she was heart broken because her man left her for another white woman.

“Another” meaning he was previously married to one before that wife passed away.
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Well you knew when you met him that his preference was white women because he married one,

or are you devastated because he LEFT you or because he left you for a WHITE woman?

Over sexualized black women
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I don’t think I’ve ever met a woman who dates or is married interracially who doesn’t make an announcement about this

“unique” and ย special type of relationship she has.

It’s ALWAYS a point they make even though the question if ethnicity or race is brought up.
You think you are “extra special” because a man that “shouldn’t” love a woman like you does!????!!!??!!

๐Ÿ‘‰IGNORING This Message Could Result In you Spinning Your Wheels and being PLAYED Again!!

****Some of you “dime pieces” are going to have a hard time

hearing this because men “appear” to worship you…

But they don’t see you pep talking yourself and obsessing in the mirror ritualistically every single day. You assume your beauty makes you a Goddess, but did every man you faced think so too?

Didn’t Cierra get “Baby Mothered by Future??

Didn’t Beyonce is cheated on by JayZ??

Didn’t Hallie Barry lose her hearing after getting punched in her head??

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Pink bunny rabbit
World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

๐Ÿ‘‰ See, we have to stop believing that we are the “best” anything when we come into a man’s life.

This is the game they run to stroke your fragile ego, soothe the worry and doubt

most women have about their looks, all so they can have access to you!
๐Ÿ‘‰ Most people, men particularly have a “type”, and chances are high that you are

JUST LIKE MOST OTHER WOMEN he’s enjoyed sexually,

and you say the same fuccing things intellectually or and you look

the same aesthetically as every other woman he’s fell in love with!

So no my sweet, sweet daughters, you are NOT “special” :YOU ARE SIMPLY “NEW”.

Now take this BLACK PILL and wash it down with the glass of wisdom.
Carry On…

 

Black Women with Thick Locs

Who Am I?

“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
“Mentor”
“Lifecoach”
“Mother”
“The Crone”
~Salkis Re

๐Ÿ‘‰If you feel you could use some private mentoring please send your questions/concerns to: salkis@iloveherart.com

 

“Kept Women Can’t Be Nappy Heads”, Written by Salkis Re

Had a conversation with a sister about “nappy hair”.

She’s been proudly rocking her natural hair for most of her adult life but of late had an epiphany
about her direction towards financial independence. It required her to do a total 180 degree turn in her
habit and her physical presentation so she straightened her hair as part of he transformation.
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She said that the MONEY has increased and so has the QUALITY of eligible black men.
She says that she is now treated like a “classy” woman, given money, offers for marriage etc
shea butter slathering, cowie shell and stiff-ass wax fabric tent dresses wearing shill.
She said that when she traded it those things in for straighter hair and form flattering clothes her entire life changed!…

Watercolor portrait Painting, African Art
“What Would I Be?” Original Art by Salkis Re


I nodded my head pretty much through out her entire rant,

and I had to disappointedly agree with the changes she has experienced by changing her look.
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Listen, I have nappy hair and dark skin, that what “The Game of Thrones” would classify as a person of “Low Birth”.
The love of women with natural hair ALSO includes a “Totemย pole” or “caste system”
where the most desirable of hair types in the natural hair category are the ones that have 3B or curly, long hair. 4C hair (“nappy hair”) is only celebrated if its suffocated with gel and stretched to its fullest elastic capacity, otherwise it’s the question is asked “What are you going to do with your hair?”
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Natural girls are put into a category like:
“She’s DOWN to Earth”
“She EASY going”
“She’s in tune with nature= doesn’t want material things”.
“She doesn’t have high standards”
“She is not hard to please”
“She’s is free spirited and sexually fluid”
“She’s is anti system and will struggle and turn her back on modern conviences”..
ETC ETC ETC…

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If you are natural, you are put into a “poverty” class my dear, though you will enjoy the game of objectification if you have the perfect hip to waist ratio
and a decent face you most certainly will go viral online if you can get a friend to film you on your camera phone
while you playfully dance around and drop it low in a tube dress and heels.
They will oooh and ahhh at your physique, you’ll get offers for things from married and single men in your inbox, and all will feel right for a while in your world..

Now the deal is this: men generally do not want to give you ANYTHING.
You have to REQUIRE and REQEST what you want.
But what they will do is run an AUDIT on YOU! Your age. If you have kids.

Your weight, and your overall looks are what he uses to quantify your VALUE and what he is willing to LOSE/SPEND or GIVE UP to have possession of you.

Do “our” brothers revere us as “natural women”?
No.

They do not.
We are assumed to be easier to get, easier to lead, easier to influence and control.
They is no real “respect” or “reverence” happening just because you don’t straighten your hair!!!
You are simply categorized as “Reachable” especially with men of meager stature and means..

They will say they want a woman of moral character don’t they? But become defensive and condescending whenever we huddle together for “course correction” or to “clean up our act and limit frivolous sexual access to our temples”.. Here they come to critique and criticize and propagate that it’s better to be in tune with the natural fiction of sex than to have requirements to have sex with YOU.

HE does not have an issue with your promiscuity, his ISSUE arises when he is NOT given a chance to BENEFIT from YOUR promiscuity because your criteria to “play” is higher than what he can afford to give…

GAME!!
And so it is with us “natural” sisters too. No thrones are going to be erected in your honor just because you feel you represent “goodness” and “natural” things.
He sees you as “LESS”:
LESS stress,
LESS requirements,
LESS structure
LESS disciplined
And on and on…..
Do you want this BLACK PILL today ladies?

๐Ÿ‘‰No. You don’t but giving to yuh anyway!
Carry On!

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
~SALKIS RE
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Talk with you soon, hugs..

 

Dating Outside Your Race Black Women?

I could join you picket line…but I won’t because part of the blame, well most of it was my doing,
for I chose to give men who I knew were not interest in me a chance.
I knew that the guys I LIKED didn’t really like me,
but I hadn’t any concrete “evidence” to substantiate my suspicions, yet and still, the situations
that by the grace of God revealed the truth, I dismissed the truth anyway.
I didn’t want to admit the truth because that would mean that in my mind,
I was acknowledging that I wasn’t good enough.
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Watercolor Portrait Painting
“I’m a Girl!” Original Art by Salkis Re
And what’s the best way to relieve the mind of anxiety and depression: distraction!
Men pretended with me and I pretended right along with them, hoping that “proving value” by “selling myself” to an
*unmotivated buyer to begin with would somehow turn things around for me…
This what you do too.
You pretend.
You pretend you don’t see what you see.
You even pretend to be confused, but you know.
You ALWAYS know, the problem is that you do not trust in what you know because you
cannot differentiate your true self from the pretense you’ve created to get along with others.
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Most of the time it was just a “feeling” though. In the mist of a conversation,
his mind does not seem fully engaged, and if a woman walked by that he liked,
he took the liberty to take a long and quite substantial look,
not feeling instinctively compelled to respectfully conceal his arousal from you.
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There were other times when dates would be cancelled at the last minute
but then he’d show up at midnight to my door claiming to “miss me”,
I knew that he lied but I let him in because I wanted to feel wanted: truth be damned!
Then there were those times when holidays came around and gifts didn’t come neither the presence of his body,
probably because he was too busy stocking stuffing at “homes” of women who’s company he valued more.
And it was no buggy in my mind because
I bought my daughter all the gifts on her list which allowed me to a distraction from my feelings of inadequacy from being unwanted…
abstract portrait painting
“Powder” Original Abstract Portrait by Salkis RE
So now here you are, running from your acute ability to make poor decisions
by seeking refuge in the arms of men who do not share your genetic makeup.
You are fascinated with the “novelty” of it all. You get to even be “blacker” with him than you are
with your own brothers as you show and tell stories about what means to be a black woman in America.
And all well until you notice that he likes you a bit too much,
almost like you are trinket or an object of a fetish he has for black fresh.
And here you were thinking he is crazy about you…
Yeah he is krazy* about you…
You dismiss it though, still on somewhat of a high that a
man from another race considers you as beautiful.
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But the truth is that you are that same woman who made agreements with men whom,
you knew were not to be trusted, not to be fucced, not to be husband or a father to your children.
Moving to another race doesn’t remove how your process and filter out your world and more importantly what you think of yourself.
You cannot run from you.
The respect and love that you desire comes when you become intimate with YOU.
It will come from black men when you have a love for your wellbeing that cannot be bought or bargained with.
Carry On…
Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
~Salkis Re
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“Heal the Mind, Heal the Body!”

Salkis Re and Dr.Sebi

Me and my boyfriend, (hehe) Sebi talked for hours about healing and he told me that healing was a psychological thing, and that most of us are angry and suppressed which is why we are sick.

He said that we should strive to be “child-like” which is a ‘free thinking” way to be, but that it was difficult because we are so attached to what we identify with.

Food he said, was part of a person’s identity because it’s attached to their culture. “When I take away someone’s food, I take away someone’s IDENTITY and most people can’t deal with that, he said.

He also said: “This is why I had no luck in Africa, I couldn’t get past the “witch doctors” to help the people heal… They had too much “belief” in spirits and things to listen to me… And it’s the same thing here in America.
I can’t get a man from Louisiana to stop eating his ‘dirty rice’ cause that’s what he grew up on….
In fact, my success rate with healing people from there is very low!

Listen to me, if you really want to heal yourself, you have to let go of everything you think you NEED to be: EVERYTHING!!!
Let it all go and strip yourself down to a NAKED baby because the identity you have now is what created the environment for disease the to manifest…
SO BECOME WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO BE TO HEAL YOURSELF!!!

“Spiritual Advisor”
Salkis Re

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God’s Child

“God’s Child”
Written by Salkis Re

Perfection is something none of us possess but we all criticize others for not being…

And the more critical you are of others,

the more it exposes of the secret hell you live in as you surround yourself with persistent, private condemnation.

When you release your desires for perfectionism, you can AND will enjoy your life a whole lot more…

Colorism in the Black Community
“Blacky” Art by Salkis Re

You will give yourself permission to make mistakes, to take chances, to explore the unknown.
You will become intriguing and exciting to be around.

You will give every inhale and exhale of your lungs a purpose outside of causing others pain…

And then your soul will begin to create your mission, a reason for living,

and a good reason for living is what your life will become when you inspire others,

when you uplift the weak, when you encourage the fearful instead

of the being the one fueling discouragement in others…..

This is what God’s children do…
Who’s child are you?

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Blacky”

Please click the picture if you’d like to ave collector piece of this painting…

How to Heal Your Body With The Right Man!

Something that I’ve come to know in my own journey towards physical and

emotional healing is that your emotions are responsible for disease.

The emotional body holds the feelings in place whether it be

depression,

anger,

fear,

sorrow

and it assists in creating a stable environment for those emotions to thrive and grow.

African American Art
“Please Forgive Me” Original Art by Salkis Re

 

Once your emotions have a stable atmosphere to thrive, you start to feel off balance physically,

your immune system starts to weaken and dysfunction and illness sets in.

This is why the relationships you choose are SO FREAKIN IMPORTANT to your overall health and emotional well being.

Men whom you have sex with that do not love you will affect your health.

A Man that you are in long term toxic relationshipย with will affect your health.

 

Lingering Sorrow is not good for your soul, it’s not good for your heart,

it’s not good for your mind…..

Decide that you will put your health ABOVE your compassion for other peoples foolery.

Decide that you will sacrifice your convenience and

instant gratification for the long term goal of longevity and vitality.

Your insulin level must be low to loose weight and to keep your hormones regulated.

 

High insulin means higher cortisol levels which is the fat storing hormone.

Stress will keep you sick and fat. Stress from junk food and junk people will keep you fat and exhausted.

You will kick yourself into early menopause along with a host of other physical imbalances…

 

Cut The Excess: ALL OF IT!!

 

Do you need a push to bring emotional and physical balance to your life again?

I am here to help you!

You can Find Me HERE

 

 

 

Are You A CHEAP Date?

 

 

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

 

I had a session with a client yesterday and she was explaining
to me how the conversation went on her pseudo date for the evening.

She told me that it basically tuned into a **therapy session**
for him to complain about all the money he was expected to spend in **his previous relationship**
and how he felt it was unfair that he was required to
give her so much of his money among other things…

Uh……

SO let me tell all of you ladies something that I did want to accept for a long time.
**YOUR APPEARANCE MATTERS!!**

 

Why do I say this?

Because she saw him for a “quick” informal date,

she wore a new pair of jeans(but they were jeans) and a cute casual looking blouse= **Minimal Effort**

 

Now she assured me that she looked very **VERY cute.**
But the message she sent to him was that of *convenience and *less requirements because she

was ok with riding around with him in his car with no plan and no money spent for her time.

And to top it off, he is all of 60 years old man with 4 baby mama’s

to divvy out child support too.
A 60 year old man has to pay to TALK far yes pay for an actual date.

Sound sluttish?
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**Get over it!**
Why?
Because HE assumed from the gate that this sister
WASN’T WORTH doing as much for like the previous woman was,
cause what? HE SAID HE GAVE THE OTHER WOMAN THE MONEY SHE ASKED FOR…..
SO his complaints are really a mute point AFTER the fact…

African Art
“Never Again” Art by Salkis Re

Do not ever take that take as some sort of compliment to your **”good girl”** archetype.
Being GOOD serves a purpose, and if that purpose isn’t being met,
then you should walk alone with the virtue you are so proud of.

Bottom line is that he didn’t think my client was on
the level of the previous woman he was complaining about.

You think if he thought she was ‘high maintenance’
AND deserved to be take care of, that he’d suffer her
through the entire date complaining about how much
money he didn’t want to spend on a mother woman????

NOOOOOOOOOOO!

Men know who they will low ball from the gate.

And they will spend on what they think is worth the effort and the price.

You being a Good Woman, a woman of fairness and honesty is beneficial only if the man has no alter agenda, and what man doesn’t???

A relationship with you becomes something of quality based on how YOU respond to offers and insinuations and sexual advances etc..

You make it ‘something more” than a one night bang” by not banging?

His morals are based on what you require.. PERIOD!!

Do not compromise on your requirements at all! You won’t get a no crown for suffering or not getting your basic needs met!!

 

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You Want to Float in Sky

“You Can Be Anything, Now What?”
Written by Salkis Re

You want to learn how to levitate and walk through walls and see auras and things, but you can’t control what you put in your mouth or commit to anything practical that will assist in repairing your physical and mental state?????
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Ohhh you better wake up during the “witching hours” and put some energy into your mortal life instead trying to find ways to run from your shame and guilt.
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African Art
“I Wonder Why” “Pencil Portrait by Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

You Hide your low self esteem with finery and excess, and the only emotional sovereignty you can muster up is displayed in your ability to sexually seduce the minds of undisciplined people who are also looking to escape their reality.
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And here you are, afraid and hesitant to do ALL the things that offer ACTUAL improvement to your flesh and bone life, so your solution is to fly away…
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African American Art
“Am I Black Enough?” Art by Salkis Re

GROUND yourself and prepare to get your hands dirty rebuilding YOU. Do what you have to do so you can stop wishing you were a balloon…
Carry On….
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“Artist”
“Life Coach”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Am I Black Enough?”
Website: www.iloveherart.com
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dark skin women

Why You Want to Please People So Damn Badly!

Why is it so hard for you to consider how you feel FIRST??
I will tell you why.

Because a long time ago, when you were just a little girl, someone you loved and depended on told you it was wrong not to want to share.

These people were giants to you and you looked up to them literally and figuratively. They told you that you have to listen to what you are told regardless of what your desires were. They told you that it was wrong and disrespectful to be or show anger.

So you learned to hide your emotions.

You learned that for people to love you, you could not disagree with them in anyway lest you become a disappointment to them and yourself.

And so, here we are today…
And the same reasonings, the same thinking process you had as a little still prevails.

So what is the truth here?

The truth is that this all proves how “conditional” love actually is.
It also proves that what you thought you had to be was never the TRUTH, for it was merely

abstract portrait painting
“Love You Anyway”
Art by Salkis Re

Indoctrination to conform you for easier control over your behavior and actions.

You are FREE now baby girl…

You are no longer under the jurisdiction of your parents; furthermore, lovers and husbands that enter your life are there by your grace and the generosity within you to give them the opportunity to be a “part” of your life…

Abstract portrait painting
“This World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

Take these broken wings and learn to fly again..

Get the book that will help you here.

If you need to talk to me, I am here..