“Don’t Like Sex SOOO MUCH GIRL!!!”

 

If you want to get money or resources out of a man, then NEVER act like you like sex as much as he does. Its masculine, and to get taken care of, you must act feminine or a “damsel in distress”.

If you are showing lust and encouraging talks about how you can do Olympic feats of Water Park style SQUIRTING on your 300 thread count sheets, you are going to make him think that his “peens” can be EQUAL in exchange of value when you do have sex..

Is it?……….

NOT if you are trying to be cared for: HELL NAWL its NOT!

Hide your lust. Do not offer conversations about how skilled YOU are.

If you must go there, simply indulge in his need to express what he likes and take note,

giggle, blush, and keep it classy…

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Why would you do this?

To establish that you are here to RECEiVE and his JOB as a man to to give IN EVERY WAY.

AND the sex he offers is NOT PAYMENT or COMPENSATION for the time your are spending with him..

That is the trap you pseudo feminists are getting yourself into.

The equality of the sexuality is NOT beneficial to women who want to portion themselves to be some man’s SUGAR BABY.

 

In order for a man to feel compelled to take care of you in any way,

he has to feel like you NEED him, he has to feel like he can solve your problems and rescue you.

And you cannot pull of the DAMSEL ideal by matching him it wit and sexual brawn.

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Think delicate.

Think soft.

Think charm.

Think beauty.

RUN from the modern notions of womanhood and all that WOMAN CAN DO WHAT MEN DO

IF the goal is to be a woman getting her bills paid by a ma who is madly in love with her.

It takes work. More work than I care to admit or WANT to do myself.

I fought the need to do all this nonsense for soooo many years and pissed away a large portion of my own sexual fertility shadow boxing with the notion that I too had to be vulnerable.

But I was thinking of it all wrong, it’s not about BEING vulnerable, its about ACTING vulnerable.

And these are two entirely different things.

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So my advice to you is not think of yourself as dumbing down your brilliance .

Think of all the feminine charm as a TOOL to sift your brilliance through,

because if your smarts doesn’t pad up your bottom line, then you are living “stupidly” anyway…

Fight this if you want too, and all you’ll have left is a mouth full of spermatozoa and an empty change purse..

What more help? Find my books and coaching services  here

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis

 

 

Men Shouldn’t Have to PAY???

Male Viewer’s Comment to another Male Viewer on my You Tube Video:

“As long as you allow yourself to be USED by a woman she will never LOVE you or see you as a “companion”. She’ll only see you as an “employee”, a “mule”, or her “workhorse.
YOU CAN NOT BUY LOVE.
Also, you should NOT be giving a woman “things” when you date, because you’re only training her to be with you for “things” instead of being with you for YOU and appreciating you as a PERSON and appreciating your friendship and companionship.”
End Quote

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😼MY RESPONSE:
And if you are not “useful” she will never love either. Love is a “decision” based on opportunity and value displayed in “both” sides.
You guys think it’s unfair that a woman’s value/beauty/sex is equivalent to what you bring as men, but it’s because YOU ALL who express its importance, display favorable behaviors towards it, and make judgements and decisions that reflect how valuable it is.

We don’t make a man’s “looks” the main issue,
and MANY MANY women in relationships while SEXUALLY DISSATISFIED yet THEY STAY.
We compromise and “settle” all day long, so join the club!! Love you say?
You want “free” love?
When have you EVER had that? When HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN THAT???😼
~Salkis Re

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Now I posted this because I’m basically tired of this repeated narrative from men who want FREE love. None of them give anything without the intention of getting a return, but they argue about what they are expected to do to win a woman’s heart.

Are any of these men leading households: I doubt it.

Are these types of men inspired to commit to a ONE woman, I think it would be difficult for them.

These men always talk about virtue when they do not want to spend any money. But sacrifice is the barometer of the level of care a man OR woman has for the other person.

There is no way to measure your worth without compromise and sacrifice. You don’t know how important you are or how important a person thinks you are until  inconvenience presents itself…

And don’t you ladies think for one-second that these men do not understand the concept of “struggle”.

Frankly, I don’t see how you could think any other way when they repeatedly talk about “building together”.

Do you know what that term  “BUILDING TOGETHER means?

It means I cannot afford to take care of you,

and I want you to understand that,

and I want you to work to help me provide for you,

because then I will know you want me for me and not the money I don’t have

Then and only then have you earned their best efforts?? Through sacrifice and struggle we know right?

But the only problem with that is that the odds are not good for women when they invest in relationships that way.

Honestly, these are poor peoples problems ; wealthy people have a firm grasp of profit-loss, risk-reward, investment-liability. They understand that you can’t get something for nothing.

They understand  that you have to pay for what you want.

Sounds transactional right?

Tell me when is it not transactional?

You are both are INVESTING time, energy, resources, your bodies into each other. Relationships are INVESTMENTS, why else would you need or even want to commit to one person for the rest of your life if there was no gain to be had?

That is the cold, HARD truth!

Deal with it!!!!

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So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

Love Really is A Game..

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“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

 

Love Games Played on Broken Hearts”
Written by Salkis Re

A broken heart comes as merely a consequence of living.

And it’s because we are “agreeable” as women, more understanding and forgiving, more accepting, and inclined to second, third, tenth chance givings that we inevitably feel the residue of regret for our understandings…

 

The solution is not to become intolerable, cold hearted spinsters who make love to donuts and pies in the middle of another night in an empty bed.

 

It is to understand that with your understanding, comes the inevitable display of his character that will surpass your understandings.

 

And of course we women cannot walk away blameless. In all good conscience, I couldn’t end this utterance without the admission that women enjoy the suffering men display from their passions. We are professional agitators of the attention and lust of men.

How else could men show love for us without the feeling of loss?
It is impossible to show love without fear.
I admittedly am a propagator for love’s cruelty.

Nonetheless, a woman’s game is the heart’s thermometer testing the temperature of the fever in her man, as she makes him “sick” every so often to encourage his “appreciation” to the surface…

So what is love?
Love is Beautiful Suffering for all parties involved….

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
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So Who Am I?

African American art
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

I Told The Doctor He’s Full of Shyte

“Relationship Talk With my Doctor Friend”
Black American Women and Propaganda

So I have been in a back and forth with my new Doctor guy friend who watches my vids on you tube about relationships.

He is in the mist if writing a self help to save black Relationships and he wanted my
opinion on some of the points he’s making for his book about the makings of a successful black relationship.

Now some of his complaints are that women of today are dishonest, golddiggers unwilling to cooperate and build with men. He says that the value of a women’s looks isn’t as high as she makes it out to be and that her beauty usually isn’t worth the sacrifice men make to obtain it.

He stated that women stack there money and look for the man’s money too, and that there no hardly any reciprocity with these high maintenance girls.he gave stats on the marriage rate decline for the Black house hold. He gave remedies for couples to keep the spice up by having date nights, and taking turns catering to each other.
The government​/penile system keep a black man down narrative came up as well. Rates of incarcerated males and single mother stats came up too.

🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼
MY RESPONSE:
Do you want to know why the divorce rate is high in general? Because women are independent.

They make their own money, they are educated and they do not need men. All across the board.

But men are also afraid of being exploited and robbed of their finances right?

So they make sure that they get a woman who has her own so she won’t need all if his resources.
And woman who marry across instead of up will pull 50 percent of the weight of every expense.
But then you cheat on her right, cause that is what usually takes people to divorce court if it isn’t about money and most women,
no matter how they look, will experience some sort of infidelity in the life of the Marriage. That is real too.
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So the woman who married a (roommate) instead of a real man is betrayed on every level.
Not only is she paying her own to have sex with you and accumulate debt with a man not incentivized to handle the whole load,
all her superwoman efforts are thwarted and irrelevant because he is thinking about his gratification as all men do (eventually).

And women who deserve the effort a man makes have been sold the lie that they actually have “careers”

so they piss around and piddle off all the good, fertile, sexually attractive years of her life because she’s been told that men will always be there.
And that is a lie!!!!

Not only is it a small percentage of people who actually have careers, most women toil at work as if they are designed to love a 60-80 hour work week, and if they manage to climb up upper management and want to change the rules of this “boys game” to accommodate her inability to negotiate, or withstand the pressure of high performance environments. And at some point she wants a baby and just to slow down enough to do “womanly things” to care for herself.

The independent woman is a farse. Every woman is designed to sustain her life and livelihood through the efforts of men because she does not have the aggression, the conscientiousness, the disagreeableness, the competitive inclination to beat the next man for sport. Men who are wealthy or even just well off require those traits to survive and thrive in the workplace.

You say that men are in the process of accepting that less attractive women make more ideal mates? Never seen any to date openly express that. And the notion that less attractive women require less is not only an insult to her, but speaks to what men’s motivations will ALWAYS be: a woman’s looks.


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You are looking women to think like you, then you would be will other men instead of women. That is really what this is. No it is not fair for her to take your money and save hers: it’s smart for her to do so, especially if he requires that she work to be with him.


You mentioned that men would gladly take care of a woman not for access to her vagina but to “honor her like that) Really?
So you would just create an expense account to honor her for no other reason than your giving heart? How? Where? And if that is the case, why are you men so scared of being used for your money? A giving heart doesn’t give on a condition, he gives Because it feels good to give according to your definition.

So what constitutes a good woman? One who will give back to you what you have given her? Is that the bottom line?

Or does she simply have to crank up her compassion and understanding for man who is incapable of carrying the load because he has researched Cointepro, and stats, and history of systemic oppression of the Black Man to justify his defeat all while, making babies with her that he cannot afford to front. Because it’s not his fault he cannot be the man of the house because your imperial DATA refutes any notion I may have that you can actually be the man I want you to be or that you say you are???

Ok so when she uses her understanding for your “struggle” and has sex and procreates with you, that creates more financial burden, and these women are not married of course because he tells her it’s another form of systemic oppression designed solely to destroy men.

So he’s convinced her to have the bastard children even though he’s barely tryna “make it” .
And when she’s out there working, he is doing “busy work” too and filling his time up looking for more “simps” to supplement/work for him too.

Child support keeps men honest when the hand agreement goes left. And it will always go left because the woman is “compassionate” and understanding when you can’t pay or come up short. The court system creates a buffer around her UNDERSTANDING and his WILLINGNESS to uphold his promise.

So a woman’s looks hold “inflated” value and she should be able to supplement for this deficit be pulling her own weight, agreed. And now that means that nothing differentiates you from other men as well, and there is no practical reason that she should consolidate her eggs into your basket because she has to do for herself and now she can choose men based on other attributes like attractiveness and sexual proficiency in bed.

MOST men are NOT attractive, wealthy/financially stable, sexually satisfying in bed, and wants to get married in one Complete package. Most women will not get a man who is all four of those traits. But we understand where the value really is, so we are prepared to sacrifice and make do. All women married to well off men are making do in one way or another..

Look at how love is so quantifiable🤔🤗. Look at how we prattle on about facts and figures and percents and inflation. You don’t mind paying, you just don’t want to pay more than she’s actually worth, but you want to be with a girl worth paying, but you don’t actually want to have to pay her.

You want to break bread for women you feel are worth the effort and the rest of us are charity cases not worth the effort you really don’t want to put in for the woman who is worth it, far less anyone else.
How about that???
You desire what you don’t think is worth the effort you have to put in your get it.🤔

That is what’s going on with men now. And that is ok.
All of it is ok. These are things I address to women who watch my channel too. To be careful that they are not used for easy opportunity with little to no reciprocation.

In a perfect world, poor people would not mate and have children together, nor would ugly people, sick people, stupid people. But people are entitled to make that decision whether they are capable of handling the circumstances or not. That’s what we are talking about here. The right for men to choose whether or not they are qualified to choose WHAT THEY WANT!!

Men with no adequate ability to care for a woman and potential offspring, should not be having sex. Women who are capable of being mothers should not be having sex either. No conspiracy there, just an absolute fact.
But we are Emotional, and emotions bring complexity and a whole lot of debate because emotions TRUMP logic every day of the week and twice on Sunday.

This is what it is ladies.. The future looks grim for many of us, so prepare..
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

 

I’ve Never Been in Love!?/???

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Selfish people are full of complaints and convoluted notions about love. They want what they NEVER give, yet call the world unfair.

If no one wants to love you, there is a reason for that. Search for why that is..
Then Start BEING the love you wish to receive ..

I really give a side eye to people who say this because it reflective of a disconnect with people a humanitarian level.

We are all here to help people you know.

 By working for them,

caring for them ,

teaching them,

healing them 

Protecting them

If no one can say they have benefited from your existence, then you are not using your life in way that invites reciprocity you think you are entitled too.

We want love, right? But most want to hide behind the emotions of other people to disguise how they feel about themselves.

More people abuse love than cherish it, then regret and try to repair the corrupted hearts they’ve created, and it just becomes this endless cycle of

HURT YOU/

REPAIR YOU/

HURT YOU/

BEG FOR FORGIVENESS/

HURT YOU etc….

Why are people so naturally fucked up in the first place?

Why is it that we respect what we LOSE rather than cherish what we have?

WHY?

 

Because this society is the THROW AWAY Society

We are constantly waiting for the next NEW thing to come out, even if the old phone works fine.

You wait in line and pay inflated prices for the NEW thing in order to feel like SOMEBODY.

We trade people in as well. The moment a flaw surfaces, we are outa there.

How self righteous of us indeed!

 

To maneuver as if parts of you do not have to be “tolerated” by another person,

to act like you are so perfect that you cannot allow anyone around you to slip: How Sway?

You want microwave food and microwave love.

No one wants to take time to cultivate a relationship anymore.

But those blazing hot relationships fizzle out just as fast though.

Sex will get boring no matter who you are screwing, especially if you are doing it too often.

There is no other solution for boredom and the contempt of familiarity than ABSTINENCE and DISCIPLINE.

You build together.

You grow love for each other based on time spent together learning and improving individually and as a unit.

If you have the same conversation that you had 5 years ago: you are dead.

If you haven’t tried anything new to challenge your abilities: you are dead.

If you have not done anything to support your physical health: you are dead.

Good Relationships are about MOVEMENT and PROGRESS…

This is Not about pole dancing, and other unnecessary acrobatic bedroom antics…

A person doesn’t want to kiss you because you’re a good kisser,

a person will want to kiss you are using your lips as an instrument to express emotions for them.

Love( which is PASSION) is not that hard to attain if you are to fulfill your needs BY  fulfilling the needs of others.

PERIOD!!

 

 

“You Are Good and BAD” Accept This!!!

 

 

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Do you know where virtue comes from?

It comes from your ability to be a villain, to be evil, to be treacherous and conniving,

to be a liar, to be a cut throat: YET you choose NOT TO BE.

Virtue is has nothing to do with being “incapable” of being unfair,

self absorbed, hurtful and selfish. Your ability to exercise “free will”

allows you to experience virtue because it comes from having the CHOICE to do good!!!

Watch out for people who claim to be “good” and selfless,

those people are often times dishonest and hide their intent to manipulate through appearing ‘charitable”.
If you are not ‘bad”, then that simply means that you are not assertive and lack the

confidence to say what you feel because you are worried about how you appear to others.

But again, your lack of assertiveness doesn’t mean you are incapable of making people uncomfortable,

of being a cheat, or wanting to better than those around you.

You want that too, you are just ashamed to display it because you are concerned about your self image.

Ohh but it’s there….
So accept it!!

“The Black Hat Society”

Salkis Re

Who AM I?

African American art
            “Artist/Life Coach”
                   ~Salkis Re

Need Help? Looking fro a way to manage your relationships and wellness goals.

I special in helping women rebuild their self esteem, HEALTHY Sexuality, and wellness around weight loss and healthy eating

Book a Session Here.

 

Ok, sigh…

I have been getting so much comments from males about their perception of what black women choose for dating /Marriage etc. The repetitive talk is this “Black women ONLY want Attractive/Rich men”.
Where these men get these notions from, I have no idea but I’m going to clear it up today.

MOST women are with unattractive men. This could mean unattractive as in literally *ugly or unattractive as in SHE LOOKS BETTER THAN HE DOES. Most women are falling into one of either of those catergories.

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

And why is this? Because ALL men seek out women who are attractive whether they themselves posses handsomeness or not; this is how men are wired to choose.
And for women, a man’s looks generally comes in second place to the size of his wallet(security) so the emotional needs of men and women actually compliment each other.

Look around you… How many brothers do you come across in your day that look like a 10?? Even a 7??? There are NOT that many “really attractive”, and there are not too many above average men out here either.

And the gag is that men who make bank, who gather REAL BAGS are VERY “average” looking. But God bless the suit and tie because they can easily bring a man up 2-3 notches in the looks department.

Most women are or will be with men who are “odd looking” disporportion noses and lips, big ears with a little mouth, etc. But generally, his face doesn’t have perfect symmetry. But she loves him anyway.

Most women will not be with men who match her beauty, but that is ok cause it really works in our favor in end.

The moral is this: Men want women that look better than them, and women want men to earn more than them.

And everybody is looking for somebody who is better than themselves, so nobody hardly ever gets everything they want. We are all “SETTLING” at the end of the day…

AUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
Salkis Re

Struggle Love

We are now asking ourselves these days: why does love have to be soooo damn complicated??

We want that easy love. That Sunday morning in bed kinda love.

That fix me a sandwich after sex kinda love…

Can we be that happy all of the time?

Should we just reduce ourselves to the doom and glom of ‘reality”?????

WeLp, Yea and No!

Sunshine and rain make flowers grow. Snow and spring both bring beauty and deep contemplations..

Life cannot be all roses, but the darkness do not have to kill you…

Beautiful African American Women

A relationship is EARNED according to my sprint mother Eartha Kitt!

A relationship is given on the merit of good will and best practices, not of irrealities like NEVER doing this or that…

When you understand your flaws and shortcomings, you will naturally have patience and understanding for the hiccups in the person you love..

That is what true love is.

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There is no nothing perfect about love, nothing at all.

But improvement and advancement are the things we should always strive for within ourselves and to inspire those we love..

If you are not improving in some way, love with wither.

If you are not smarter today than you were yesterday,

if you are not more curious about life and learning how to change yourself for the better, then you will be forgotten..

That’s how this thing works.

Just like stagnant water is unsafe to drink, a body and mind immovable and unchallenged will atrophy over time..

Renew yourself. Continously.

That is how you keep struggle love at bay…

 So Who Am I?

African American art
              “Artist/Life Coach”
                    ~Salkis Re

I help women heal from relationships so they can gain the strength to reset their path in life.

Health and Wellness, Spirituality and Creativity are my specific interests.

If you need one on one instruction from me go to my website or email me at salkis@iloveherart.com

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Spiritual Relationships are Bullshyte!

 

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“Be Who You Are” Art by Salkis Re

“Spiritual Connection”
Written by Salkis Re

What is that “Connection” that you feel when you’re describing that new man you want to be with?
Well this is the breakdown of the process by which that “connection” is created.

The connection that you refer to as a “spiritual connection” is an emotional assessment of how well you “relate” to him.

Spiritual equates to Emotional, and your emotions are based on your feelings.

And your Feelings are based on your Thoughts

AND your Thoughts are filtered and categorized by what you see, hear, touch: HIS ACTIONs…..

You cannot experience “Spirituality” without emotions and emotions is Energy created by movement=ACTION.
So when you speak of a “spiritual connection” as something “Nonphysical”,

you are misinformed and that farce leads many assuming women down a path of unmet expectations.

Let’s put on our Black Hats shall we….
What part of a male and female romantic or even platonic relationship is Nonphysical?
🤔He has to talk to you: that is a physical act.

🤔He has to spend time with you: that’s a physical act.

🤗He has to fucc you: that’s a physical act.

🤔He has to show care for you: that’s a physical act.

🤔He has to appreciate you: that’s a physical act.

🤔🤔He has to commit to you: that’s a physical limitations of choice and movement toward any other woman besides you.

We like to believe in things to make feel better about things we are powerless over or lack comprehension in.

 

🌼But the “spiritual” talk is mostly the ponderings and entertainment of women who are attracted to “Unresourceful Men”, for these men ONLY have the power of EMOTION to fuccing sell you on, nothing more.

😏🙄😱😮He can tell you that he’s looking for virtue because he thinks your lack attractiveness means that you are MORE MORAL than a woman who is physically out of his league.

AND THIS IS THE GOSPEL ACCORDING to SALKIS RE
AUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

“Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

The Other Side of Your Good Side…

 

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Abstract Art Series by Salkis Re

Love isn’t what you think it is

Young women, I implore you to consider what you’ve already been through in order to absorb what I’m about to say.

I ask you to examine your past or even current relationship to find the congruency between your experience and my advice.

The love you want is called “passion”. It is a feeling of intense desire and longing for another person.

Passion itself is brought on by the building up of anxiety/suffering over what you do not posses.

Before you engage in sex with a man, he LOVES you.

By loves definition here, I mean that he has PASSION=love in his heart for you because he wants/desires to have your body.

So what will he do to quell and satisfy his desire for you?

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.

 

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.
The constant sweet nothings in your ear, the display of concern( calling after work or when you’ve arrived back home from a date).

If he is really attracted to you, you will get little gifts, nice dinners, all of which are INVESTMENTS towards swift SALE of your vagina.

The dates are to make you excited, to make you want him even more because of the joyous experiences he’s providing you with.

And the hours of cell phone talk and his attentiveness and interest in

what you have to say leaves you with the impression that guys have this thing you call a “Connection”.

And though you are a little unsure. Though you suspect it might be too soon to open your legs,

you let your emotions override your mental reasoning.

Why?

Oh because you don’t trust your own mind;

you think you are over thinking this and that you’re gonna miss an opportunity to be with a great man…

And then you open your thighs to him because he wined and dined you,

and you talked with him for hours, and enticing yet “Deferred” promises to you for month or more,

so you think he is THE ONE.
And the love making was fantastic, or average, or not so good at all.

But it doesn’t matter if it was good or not to you because you are “open” now.

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

 

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

His thirst is quenched, and HIS anxiety over you has turned back into self confidence.

The job is complete; the eagle has landed; the ejaculation has happened and now he can relax again.

The first thing you will notice is that your phone conversations shorten,

or that when you do talk, he seems distracted and not as enthralled with your conversation.

Then calls become less frequent because he is suddenly too “busy” to make time to talk.

Dates begin to cancel or begin to cheapen in quality.

The connection you swore you felt in the beginning,

now starts to dwindle down to begging for his time.

Why is this? Because after sex, women begin to smother,

cling, and display insecurity, couple this with having already tasted

your “sauce” and he has absolutely no incentive to DESIRE/LOVE you anymore.

So what do you do to avoid this?

The truth?

Some of you can’t avoid it because you are entrenched in insecurity and low self esteem.

Your heart will be broken again this year because your focus is the hot button tips and tricks on how to ensnare a man,

and the Snake Oil Conjurers will gladly exchange HOPE for your money.

A woman who Puts on her BLACK HAT understands that to fix this,

she must bring forth her inner BITCH!!!

YOUR “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

 

Her “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

She doesn’t think in CONJECTURE. She understands human nature.

She isn’t conflicted about her worth or the outcome she wants her lover to provide.

It IS, what F’ing IS!!!!!!!

Compassion and agreeableness is what women are hardwired to be,

but can your compassion protect you from Manipulation

that you will face whether HE IS GENUINELY INTERESTED OR NOT????
No. It won’t…
What YOU want comes FIRST, and what he wants is SECONDARY..

Life Coach, Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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“Women Want Real Men”

Women want men who can lead

African American Artist
Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re
Women want men who can lead. We want to be with men who competent, capable and purposeful, resourceful and protective.

Relationships usually fall apart because the woman realizes that she was sold the
“Snake Oil” of “Sexual Compatibility” and “Emotional Connection“.
She now buys into his “future claims” that he cleverly

defers long enough to get her emotionally vested.

And when he is in a comfortable space and no longer holds anxiety of losing you,

he begins to feel safe enough to reveal himself.

And in actuality, he is a weak man, a beta male acting out what he assumes is an alpha male persona.

She now resides with either quiet or boisterous resentfulness


She now resides with either quiet or boisterous resentfulness and
kicks herself because she knows she “emotionally trapped”,
but she is ironically addicted to the “suffering” he provides

 because its familiar and comforting like an old pair of slippers.

Understand that “change” comes from the pain brought on by a person’s

realization of his inadequacies, not from YOU making threats and handing out ultimatums.

And for the most part, people do not change unless they experience trauma level suffering.

We as women must not translate our wants and needs as weaknesses.

We are not designed to think like or be men,
though they express desires in having a women who can “hold their own” financially.


We as women are designed with the emotional ability to be “fair”


We as women are designed with the emotional ability to be “fair” and “agreeable”

African American Art
Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re
while men are designed “take” and “conquer”.

We will not get what we want by forcing men to think like us


We will not get what we want by forcing men to think like us because
it takes a level of selfishness and self-centered behavior to achieve things.
We can offer support in a sexual way, a nurturing way, a creative way, a beautiful way and so on…
Be a woman so you can “see” a real man…
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Poem: “You’re Not a Real Angel”

“You’re Not a Real Angel”
Written by Salkis Re

 

 

“This World is Yours” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

When they call you an angel,
you choose not to receive it,
You think angels don’t look like yourself,
and you feel you ought to look as them to believe it.

Their wings are pretty and all uniformed and white,
while you sit here in bursts of all this color.
And somehow you view your rainbows
as an embarrassment to the others.

White wings are just more classy,
is what your mind makes you say.
And all your colors are just too festive
to show the earthlings how to seriously pray…

But when God made you my angel,
he was more adventurous and brave.
And he added his sharpened skill onto you
and made what he once couldn’t create.

So open up your wings, flap them like thunder
and give the wind something to do.
And show the world that angels come in all colors
and that the best of them do look like you…

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING:”This World is Yours”
Available Here: https://www.iloveherart.com/signature…/the-world-in-my-hands

This poem I wrote today is about ownership and respect for the difference that make you who you are.

We are always looking at the grass over there thinking that its better than the patch of grass we are standing on.

Decide that you will take ownership of what makes you YOU.

We do not have to be the same.

I do not have to look the same.

And peace won’t come to you if you were to suddenly become

somebody else because inner peace only comes from acceptance of self.

To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

African Art Eyes
“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,

excitement,

thirst,

yearning,

 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

African Art
Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Justification of Bullshit!!

Your Life Coach, Salkis Re

Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.

It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
But you know what this means too?
It means that you can also justify the things that give you pleasure,
the things or experiences that improve you physically and mentally.
Justification for laziness,
sloth,
indecisiveness,
fear,
and anger takes the same amount of energy as the justification for wanting a man with a gigantic penis,
or a house with 6 bedrooms.Why?
Because your justification creates the importance behind anything you do or don’t do,

and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.

There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.

African American Art by Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
The answer?
Nothing!
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships

because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.

I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.

The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,

or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.

I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!

And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
No Sir!
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!

So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,

or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
GAME!!
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

Not saying you need help with finding new justifications, but if you do Click HERE

 

You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

Black Art Eyes
                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

Black Art Eyes
African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

black artists

 

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

How To Become What You Need to Be to Get What You Want?!

 

 

African American art by Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Aren’t you tired of being used?
Aren’t you tired of falling for the con game?
Aren’t you tired of giving till your hands bleed with no reciprocity in sight?
I know you are tired, but apparently not tired enough to switch your style.
You still believe in things that tell lies to your face.

You still doubt what it is that you know.
And now it’s even worse because you have access granted into Social Media Relationships. Perfect lighting, Rosy filters, and exotics locals make you fume like warm shit as you eat yourself into a drunken woe-is-me stupor.

Fussing over illusions and staged photos of people pretending to be madly in love, has now become your portion to eat..
Evaluating your life against that of women whom you’ve no clue as to the price they’ve paid for the appearance of luxury they enjoy.

Why can’t that be you is what you ask..
So what’s the answer here?
The answer is that your tongue is your sword and your word is your bond, AND whatever you desire AND EXPECT, you will get.
So am I saying that you can have the fairytale?

Absolutely!! You can have it, if, and only if, you are willing to pay the price!!

Go back to Instagram and your Facebook feeds. Take a closer look at those girls you are jealous of. What are their habits, their daily regimen? If they live in the gym, or walk around the grocery aisles with faces beat for the Gods, are you willing to do that in order to be ranked worthy of her kind of relationship?

Look again.
Are you willing to live in a van and eat berries off trees while teaching yoga classes to bum enough money for an evening meal of beans and rice? (I love those yoga couples by the way, I imagine their sex game is outstanding!!?🙈).
Sexy passion without the want/need for material things sound like a great life to you?

Or maybe it’s a 6 bedroom house with chefs and nannies with lots of shopping more your tune?
Or maybe you are one of those “Independent” girls and your dream is just to go Dutch on the dinner, half on the mortgage and the car note?
Which ever one you decide on, has its own UNIFORM, its own protocol, its rules and regulations in order to execute it successfully.
There is a mentality you have to adopt in order to affix yourself into the role you want to star in.
The point of it all is that ALL of them require WORK on your part if you plan to have some semblance of happiness within the experience.

Listen darling, you can even be a combination of all the choices I’ve listed and Hallelujah, the Saints will be marching in on your behalf for sure!

Once you decide what position you want to play, it’s then time to start working on a personality conducive to the outcome you hope to achieve.
An artist paints.
A writer, writes.
A chef, cooks.
And so on, and so on.
A wish with out work is like faith without work : DEAD!
You assignment today is to ACT as if!
You want to appear beautiful?
Then ACT like beautiful women act!!
Yesssss damn it! ACT LIKE IT!
Well what about the “Just Be YOURSELF” thing Salkis?

I call BULLSHIT on that right now!!!!!

Why?
Because you DON’T have what you want right now because you are yourself.

So this means you can’t achieve what you by being yourself!

Create the personality that YOUR mind feels is synonymous with beauty and abundance and you will train your brain to respond in that way. Even more importantly, you will be sending out feelers into the atmosphere to attract that energy back to you.
It is as simple as that.

You have to rinse and repeat..

Then rinse and repeat again

until it doesn’t feel like a lie anymore.

You have to put hand gestures into it.

You have to get excited about it because creating anything should fucking excite you!!!

You are the magician over your life, and acting AS-If is what turns ANYTHING you say into the mother sucking TRUTH!!
Doing anything long enough and loud enough, you will make you FORGET that it’s a lie, and it will STOP being a lie too!

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Are you ready for the secrets of mind control and self esteem? These are the two things you need to acquisition what you want from this life of yours.

As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And what I have found is this: when you rid the of shame and guilt you begin to SOAR.

You have to heal

You have to believe.

And you have to do!

Allow me to help you..

Email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Website: http://www.iloveherart.com/life-coach-here/

Your Dark Side

goddess worship
“Goddess Energy”
Art by Salkis Re

 

Every woman I Coach is in conflict to some degree with their darker side. They want things that they carry shame for wanting. They want to be in control but they want it to come naturally.. They want to be the center and the main focus in the lives of men who are not incentivized to put them in that position.

And they repress and deny their desires because it’s not ‘good’ to have them, yet in a sick twist of irony, the every men who’s will they concede to get to exercise their dark sides by imposing emotional hardship and in some instances,  physical trauma too.

Women ‘allow’ a center stage to the free will and the selfish proclivities of the people, yet think its ‘wrong’ to insist that their own free will is undeserving to roam free.

Self decieving is what that’s called. A belief in something you do NOT agree with.

What fools women ‘decide’ that they have to be.

Wake Up Little Mummy.

Rise from your sarcophagus and start to live your life, on your terms and in a way that preserves LIVING flesh.

☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘

“Mistress of Words”

African American Art
“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Medicine Woman”

“Creative Soul”

~Salkis Re

 

 

Website: www.iloveherart.com

Blow Your Whistle!

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many of you play yourselves small everyday? Worried about appeasing people’s fragile egos at the expense of your own heart and mind… Nobody is worth you diminishing yourself for, and you need to understand that your momentary display of humility won’t cure any of their self inflicted angst either.

Whatever they feel is what they have been feeling long before the knowledge of your existence. This means that you MUST aggrandize and affirm your self, and release the emotional shackles of wanting anyone’s stamp of approval to do so.

Today’s VIDEO is all about this and the step you need to take right now to fix this disease of humility once and for all.

Watch Here

He is Using You!

African american art
African American Art by Salkis Re

Had a coaching session yesterday with an older woman who’s recently come back into the dating scene. She was very proud of her accomplishments financially and the fact that she “didn’t need a man”.

Unfortunately though, all that 😏 pride didn’t amount to a hill of beans when it came to her relationship with her boyfriend. Your *financial Independence doesn’t make you immune to disregard, complacency and disrespect in a *romantic relationship. You could be a waitress at Waffle House and display living in subsidized housing and still be Independent. You have all the money, but you’re still the grovelling and begging and beseeching him for quality time, sex and basic consideration.

Moors in Art
Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your bank statement can’t disguise your lack of 😯 emotional Independence 🙄 and this is why you can *make it rain for his ass and he spends YOUR money on a girl that grounded with standards that require him to either piss or get off the pot.

I’m hearing this story too often, and I’m telling you that it hurts you in the long run cause he’ll eventually see that you are only on point when it comes to your money, nothing else.
🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿🌿
“Mistress of Words”

witches
“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“The Crone”
~Salkis Re
🤗Art by Salkis Re

 

 

websitewww.iloveherart.com

 

Push Through!

dark skin girls in art
“Isabella Doesn’t Want to Leave” Art by Salkis Re

The weekend is almost here. Another week gone with tasks incomplete and more to hope to accomplish than anything actually done.

It’s easy not to try, but its cost will steal currency throughout your entire life. Not trying means that nobody gets hurt, no one suffers disappoint or the shame that comes from failing, but what also doesn’t happen is that you never get to experience what you could have become. You then live out your days in the shadow of quiet agony over what might have been.

Not trying is a the purchase of certain failure, it’s a sort death really, which is what surpression gifts you. Life is hard but it’s exciting too, and it becomes quite the game that it really is when you approach it as no big deal.

You lose, so what.

You gain, so what.

You keep moving at all costs, testing and stretching your abilities. This is ALL that life is about: trial and error.

Get out of your own way and fly my darling. Fall on your face just like a child first learning to walk. Don’t be ashamed to learn from your lessons, for this is how wisdom is obtained.

In other words, grow up AND become a child again…

☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘☘

“Mistress of Words”

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

“Spiritual Healer”

“Life Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website:

www.iloveherart.com