Love Attachments

“Holding On”
Written by Salkis Re
I love you so much, and this is why I keep holding onto you.
We’ve been through too much,
and you’ve done things I never thought you’d do.

But there is not much else that can actually hurt me
cause I’m not focused on your mistakes, only how I feel.

They told me to get rid of you
one million and a thousand times,
but they offer nothing to replace
the space you hold in my heart.

And I know it ain’t all you,
cause you were my emotional prisoner
and had all manner of reasons to run.
But know this baby, that my love is reformed.

And I realize that to love you,
I can’t be afraid to let you go.
All I can do now is simply is care,
and hope that my love is strong enough
to reignite the love we once shared.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.ilovherart.com

 

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“Holding On” Art by Salkis Re

 

Sometimes, we have to take the blame for running people we love away from us.

Sometimes the love is just overbearing and people feel imprisoned by your excessive compulsion to express one’s feelings.

Saying “I love You” everyday isn’t as powerful as saying it when you TRULY feel it.

When you hold on too tight, people start to build resentment

and disregard for what you are desperately trying to convey.

Sometimes saying nothing is all you need to create a longing…

Sometime giving someone their space is the elixir for appreciation.

And then….

When they need to be held, hold them tight. Rock him in your arms so close that you leave your scent on him.

But allow him to WANT you.

This is key to love…

The KEY is to LET GO!!!

 

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

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Artist, Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

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Art by Salkis Re

STEP ONE

So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)

STEP TWO

Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.

STEP THREE

Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.

STEP FOUR

Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?

Xoxo,

Salkis

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

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                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

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African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

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So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

A Woman’s Place

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Woman’s Advocate”
“Spiritual Healer”
~Salkis Re

Morning on Monday

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“Morning on Monday” Written by Salkis Re

Everybody is suppressed on some level. If you are doing anything on a regular basis that you wish you didn’t have to do I.e. *your Job, it will affect your perception of the world and question your own value. Because you have made a lifestyle out of *hiding your true self, it now a norm you to feel unfulfilled.

Today is Monday morning, the hardest, most depressing day of the week because it reminds you that you are a slave to the ambitions and dreams of another/s. Sadly, the weekend further solidifies your fate because you don’t utilize it to plan, learn, implement change, or to become inspired. The weekend’s purpose is to help you *forget the week, and its utility is to give you privacy while you lick the emotional wounds accumulated from feeling weak and inconsequential at work.
Will today be a new day for you?
The fantastic news is that it can be, and nothing is stopping that from happening but YOU..
Waaaaake Uuuuuup! *Radio Raheem Voice

“Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Prolific Writer”
“Dream Catcher”
“Creative Soul”
~Salkis Re
☆Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

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A New Day Wastes Away

 

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“The Power of the Sun”
Written by Salkis Re
You are depressed because you are preoccupied with thoughts of the past, what you used to be or what was done to you. And the new day your standing in gets no respect at all. This new day is tainted with old thoughts and the sun rises again for you, yet your dwelling mind has given the sunshine a purpose.
So you’ve decided to be depressed. And you have a juicy script to tell anyone that will listen. And you like the attention you get from sharing your anguish, you feel like “somebody” for a little while as people stand entranced by the tales of what your hard luck story.

And this new day just stands here. The sun watches you give reverence to past days, wondering to itself it you notice it shining and the clean slate from the new day it has made for you right now.

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“What’s All the Fuss About?”
Painting my Salkis Re

A new day is clean, empty vessel for you to fill with new experiences, joyful experiences so that can one day become your past you enjoy talking about. Whatever it was that has happened to you doesn’t need your energy anymore; what it needs is dissipation, and that can only happen if you shift your focus to the present instead of your past.
The people that have hurt you are not spending every moment thinking about you! They’ve long gone on with their lives and forgiven themselves for any damage they’re aware that they’ve caused you. Some people don’t even know they’ve hurt you as badly as they did, and others aren’t even alive for you to recoup an “I’m sorry” from.
Now what?
They are either dead, don’t care or never knew the pain they caused you and yet you make new stew, a new swill for your stale bread to sop up every forking day as you replay your past over and over again.

And yet the sun rises again for you, watching and listening to you prattle on about yesteryear, wondering why you’re ignoring the clean slate it has given you called “A New Day” and why refuse to make a new script and a new past and a new life!
Start respecting the new day. It needs you to make a life you like living.

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Self Esteem Coach”

~Salkis Re

 

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How Tell If Someone is Lying!

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Self Esteem Coach
~Salkis Re

 

Sooo, I decided to make a video today about communication.

Why?

Because we are asking a million questions but still ain’t gettin the right answers.

There’s a way to get to the truth because truth be told, everybody lies and they lie about not telling lies too.

Let me put you up on game today. You can thanknow me later.

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You Are One of A kind

You really are one of a kind. But is it hard to asses the value of your worth

without comparing it to something or should I say someone else. But this leads to anguish as

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“Waiting On Your Love Baby” Painted by Salkis Re

your mind can only cop an ease from self ridicule when in the company of less physically blessed beauties.

The constant internal conversation about who you can look better than, Continue reading “You Are One of A kind”

Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!

Aww the new year is here!! And we are alive to enjoy whoo-hoo. 2016 was a roller coaster for sure and I can’t say that im not relieved to see it go.

I brought in the new year on the phone with a client of mine. She booked a session with me just to thank me for the advice I give young women on love and Continue reading “Guess What Ms. Re is Cookin for the New Year!!!”

Distraction Dingalings Are Expensive!

You must test man for mental and physical strength. You are too quick to allow entry into your mind far less your body. And it’s so easy to weed out the weak

minded. They are easily distracted, have no goals, very undisciplined, and emotionally fragile.

Self Portrait by artist Tim Baxter

 

He wants what they are to stingy to pay for.

He expects something for nothing and usually at your expense.

But your longing to quench your on thirst makes you a beggar of your own desires. You will become a new victim for a different face because you

never learn your lesson. The needle spins around the record of your life, skipping over the scratch again and again.

You admire the beauty of other women, and you want the power you think their beauty affords them. And you soak in their hollow doctrines and their enchantments and things, only to find out that you are right back where you started: starving for attention.

And the truth is that I’m not telling you anything that your heart does not already know. You just feel that the truth will bring you further away from companionship and love. But you are sleeping with men who do not love you, who don’t have the aptitude to provide or protect you, who will abandon you crisis hits.

Though a penis inserts itself into your vagina regularly, you are alone, even more alone than if you were by yourself.

So my question to you is when will you get out of the fog and face the truths? Distractions cost a lot of time and money you know, any they are never worth what you have to expel to maintain them. They devour you eventually.

But there is a light at the end of all these tunnel rats you’ve been trying to leap over. It will take a brain washing of sorts. It will mean that you have to challenge notions of sexuality, femininity, self worth, pleasure etc.. Smiling, what it means is that you will have to upgrade your thinking and the basic need to “just be heard”, and you will have to move into solution based thinking instead of get ‘coping’ with your problems.

Awww, you want to be a Goddess and you think its all fun right? No. It is not.

How many can sit at a throne seat?

That’s right! ONLY ONE! So be prepared for that, the alone time I mean.

That’s one of the biggest hurdles, being alone I mean. We want the sisterhood to hold us up, to give shoulders that we can soak with our tears. And it feels good for a moment. What you want is more than a moment, you want a lifetime fix!

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