Black Girls Want to Rock Too!

If you wait on people to accept who and what you are, you’ll be waiting a life time to get it.

And I you manage to get it, you’ll son realize it wasn’t worth the wait to begin with.

 

I have always made it a point extend an olive branch to other women of all shapes and sizes and colors

so that I wouldn’t be classified as bitter or insecure over other women.

 

But the conclusion I’ve reached is that it doesn’t matter if you say hello first,

if you give first,

if you offer friendship or understanding first, all people see is COLOR.

“La Petite Moor”

 

As A black woman, that’s all I’ve been all my life: BLACK 

My talents, my wisdom or anything else I had of value always took a back seat to how I looked.

 

Even in the art world, there are private discussions about what “type” of work sells and WHO can sell it,

and I was advised on several occasions not to do the “Black Girl” thing cause it’s not what black people want to see.

Some hard conclusion arose though.

African Art
“La Negra”

And it wasn’t that black girls don’t sell, its that black girls created by black girls don’t move as fast.

I’ve seen white artists paint black girls, pitch black girls in folk art style on old doors and other eclectic stuff,

some of which can be misconstrued as “Coonery” and BLACK PEOPLE bought their art.

 

I’ve seen white women do paintings exclusively of black women who decide to keep themselves inconspicuous

and BLACK PEOPLE BUY THEIR WORK too!

 

And here I am, and actual black woman

And here I am, and actual black woman concerned about the politics of painting dark skin women because

I didn’t want to be misconstrued as a “hater”….

Imagine that?

Telling my story and worried about acceptance when everybody else can enjoy

( without scrutiny) what they prefer to paint for whatever reason they choose to paint it.

“I Don’t Know”

Everybody Can DO What They Want to Do Except Me??

Everyone else gets to enjoy the novelty of it all, but I need sensible reasons for why I do what I do?

No More…

 

It’s a New Day..

And Im here to tell OUR STORY through the faces of Dark skin women.

I won’t say that I’ll never paint another complexion again because I will,

but the FOCUS now is on Black Girl Magic.

To see the entire collection and buy something sweet. for you or someone you love, go to www.iloveherart.com

Sanaa Says Marriage Ain’t That Important!

 

 

 

Sanaa Lathan And marriage
Taylor Rooks and Sanaa Lathan at CultureCon event,

 

A WEIRD obsession that black women have to get married??

Why is a woman wanting to get married now classified as a weird obsession??

Sanaa goes on to say that the divorce rate is over 50% and she doesn’t invest in anything that has such low odds..

She went on to say that black women are being pressured into marriage as well.

 

So we are pressured to get married and have a weird obsession with it as well.

Hmmm…

 

Well I will say this. With 72% of all black births from 2015 were from non married black women, how successful is this pressure on black women to get married???

 

Only 25% of Black Are Married??

Among currently married adults between the ages of 15 to 44 only 26 percent of black women were married, 45 percent of Hispanic women were married and 51 percent of white women were married (Goodwin, Mosher, and Chandra 2010

 

Over the life course, Blacks are the least likely of all racial groups to ever marry (Parker and Wang 2014).

 

We cannot subscribe to this feminism agenda.. Sanaa comes from a privileged background.

 

She is financially independent, childless and almost 50 years old. Good genetics has afforded her steady marketability with her industry BUT in real life, she would be considered a woman who has HIT A WALL.

 

Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese
Sanaa Lathan and ex Boyfriend Tyrese

Putting Marriage Last?

Putting yourself first is fabulous, and I support that 100%, but if you are unable

to have found and experienced a life partnership at almost 50 years old,

there is a probability that there is some mental instability or just narcissistic or extreme selfishness at play here.

 

There are no men dragging black women down the isle and the girlfriends of

black women are supporters, accomplices, providers of alibis

for black women who find it a more attainable goal to f*CK for money and fun and babies instead of marriage.

 

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“Women want POWER not Equality or Responsibility”~ DR Phil Valentine

That’s a problem.

To insinuate that a black woman is emotionally unstable because she earnestly wants a life partner is parasitic

in scope and an enemy to the structure of the family and our race in general.

 

The Problem With Our Black MEN

The problem we are having now is a lack of warriors and men to reset the order of society and men in general are not problem solvers. Men offer no solutions, no protection and no provisions for the black woman.

 

Therefore, black women have become their own protectors, their own providers, they educate their children on their own which leaves a residue of low self worth, hopelessness and suspiciousness of the intentions and the efficiency of black men altogether.

 

So This post is about becoming clear about what our collective aim is as black women. And we don’t need black women who have “given Up” on the goal of sacred unions to be the voice for the young black women coming up who SHAMED now  for even wanting to be marriage from women who can’t get a man to stay with them long enough to ask!

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of

The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Jason Pope Black Girl Pimpin

Jason Pope

White Guy Lures Black Women for Sex

This news story came across my newsfeed on facebook two days ago.

Apparently this white man Jason Pope, also known as DJ KID, has been enticing black women and minors to have sex with him in exchange for concert tickets and other medial trinkets for years.

He is an accused pedophile who has been rumored to have exposed over 600 black women to HIV also.

What’s more is that he has been arrested and charged with sex trafficking minors and has a non sexually related criminal history going all the way back to 1995.

Jason Pope
Jason Pope, Aka DJ KID

 

He BlackMailed One of His Victims

He had blackmailed an underage victim in 2017 and pressured her into performing sex acts after she left him for two weeks.

He then proceeded to trash her all over social media when he couldn’t get her to comply.

Six months later, this same victim’s mother alerted deputies that Pope was luring girls for sex off of Facebook and Snapchat by promising prizes..

So apparently this creep would pay these girls for sex then talk about the experience on social media to entertain his followers.

 

 

Dark Skin Women, Unloved Everywhere

I think what disturbs me the most about this is that he strategically targeted dark skin black girls 

and women to solicit sex for money.

Every picture I’ve seen to date with this criminal has been in the arms of a dark skin black woman.

Reading and viewing the commentary about the pictures, I’ve heard these women described as “Duties”, Section 8 Recipients and Monkeys for the most part.

Jason Pope

Speaking as a Dark skin black woman myself, I know all too well the underlying bias and prejudice that society has for us. We are the rejects even amongst our own people, the throwaways of society if you will.

And I warn black women to stop sexualizing themselves and making themselves agreeable and available to men for pleasure or a few coins.

When you are considered unattractive, there’s no moral instinct in a man to not want to harm you.

And that is the cold, hard, facts of life.

 

 

Leave Vanity ALONE

The women I coach get an earful of that medicine because I want them to be aware and prepared emotionally so that they can resist the emotional mind f*(k  people, BOTH MALE AND FEMALE with play on them.

Dark skin women are always used for sexploitation because we are like animals to men in our society whether they are white OR black.

 

And this is why I telling all my black Doves, my clients, to LEAVE VANITY ALONE.

Women end up in the arms of men like this fool because you are seeking validation and a sense of self worth that you feel only a man can give you.

You want to be wanted, even if it’s only for sex.

And the temporary affection you get during the sex act satisfies a need to feel loved. But it also puts you in harms way. You can destroy your life while chasing a fantasy. And the sorrowful part about many of us ark skin women is that we turn to sexual freedom experience worthiness and the only attention many of us get is sexual attention.

It’s a GAME, and men will play with you LIFE if you let them.

Don’t give any man the authority to affirm you, to upgrade you, to give you an identity.

Your life is your responsibility. Clean it it. Clean yourself of the filthy thoughts of low self worth through RIGHT ACTION.

 

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Why Calling Yourself UGLY IS IMPORTANT!

 

Inner Shame and Guilt That You Are Trying to Cover Up!

Listen, I know it’s “shameful” to call yourself UGLY..
I get it, truly..
It feels icky and degrading and self deprecating and whatever other

fancy word you’ve found in your thesaurus to use..

But guess what?
It’s everything that you ALREADY feel about yourself too!

So what are we doing here?

We are EXPOSING OURSELVES so that we can disarm the inner critic.

This is the only way to get to the root of our emotions so that we can fishing out the inner sabotage that happens on a daily basis.

Everything you feel that hold any negative connotation is tied into the way you look. VANITY is a woman’s curse.

 

It keeps us under control, it makes us obedient servants to those whom we feel can provide us an identity…

 

We look to others for this validation all day, every day.

 

And if other women seem to have more beauty than we do, we cease trying to better ourselves as we slump into the normality of GIVING UP.

Vanity is a CURSE. It destroys your ability to discern, to think clearly, to judge others justly and skews the perception of our TRUE worth…

 

You gotta embrace it..

The word Ugly is the key that unlocks the door to your mind in order to unleash your power!

 

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Why Is It So Easy to Con Women?

Criticism leads to a need for one to defend her position.

Whether it’s right or wrong is not as important as feeling demeaned by another person.

This is why it’s so effective to just tell you what you want to hear.
Make it sounds supportive, beef it up with praise and your “Wulls” come tumbling down.

Your wallet open, and you become an emotional pawn for every charismatic charlatan out here.

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I think we are smarter than we REALIZE though.
I just think we use our intellect when it’s too late for it to make a difference.

It’s always when the damage is already done that we ADMIT that we always “knew” that this or that was a misrepresentation or an outright lie.

It’s our fear of the REALITY of rejection that keeps you hopeful for hopeless things..

You will defend what will ultimately destroys you.
You defend what doesn’t reciprocate love.
Willing footstools you be, a purveyor and propagator of IMAGINATION not reality..

Don’t be a “Dumb” woman.

There are enough women out here who are only fit for the slaughter house,

but HER level of comprehension doesn’t have to be YOURS.
If your instincts are telling you that something isn’t right,

resist the fear of ostracism, and stand on your principals.
Don’t go for the herd mentality to feel “safe”.

Because the this: Your friends and family are the ones who seek to, and often times, are VERY successful in making you feel diminished and unworthy under the guise of “care” and “concern”.

So my dear.. Don’t worry about the Devil, for the Devil TELLS you what he wants; it’s the SAINT PRETENDS not to want anything from you so it can take EVERYTHING from you.

You need me to coach you?
Need a breakthrough?
Tired of feeling like you are beneath other women?

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Contact ME!
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“Life Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
~Salkis Re

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How Not to Influence People

You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that Life is Journey***Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

Why You Need to Be Different!

It Must be emotionally exhausting carrying around feelings of self doubt of your low self worth every day of your life right?

You wake up unexcited, barely looking at yourself in the mirror and if you do, you grimmace with dissapointment at your reflection!
Day in, day out, the same secret sentiments of self loathe and dissatisfaction infect your mind…

If you keep waking up like this, where do you think you are headed?

You want some relief…

I know…
Cause I was exhausted feeling fu8ked up about myself too.
I felt jacked up because I believed the corrupted side of my imagination!

I talked myself into believing that I was stupid, unworthy of success and love,

and in my mind, everyone around me presumed they same things that I assumed about myself..

Abstract portait painting
“Skylar” art by Salkis Re

So I decide one day to acknowledge that I had FEAR.
FEAR of rejection.
FEAR of failure.
FEAR of being alone.
And every decision I made or avoided, was because I used my (corrupted) imagination to convince me that my failure was almost a guarantee.

SO I suppressed my desires.

I spent a lot of years being quiet and careful not to say too much because (as a ‘stupid’ woman) I thought I’d probably say the wrong thing.

I spent a lot of years being quiet and careful not to say too

much because (as a ‘stupid’ woman) I thought I’d probably say the wrong thing.
I had decided back then, to be “compliant” and “submissive” to avoid pain and rejection…

And guess what happened?
Pain and rejection came ANYWAY!!
PAIN AND NO RESULTS is all this way of thinking got me.

Is this how you live right now?
Is this your Every Day Life?.
Are you Scared to start?
Scared to even want what you want?

Black and White Portrait Painting
“This Is The Way” Art by Salkis RE

Even at the expense of your own safety and emotional stability.
BUT you still get no results!
So what does change require?
*It requires you to FAIL.
**It needs for to prepared to TAKE RISKS.
It requires that you GO FOR BROKE while obtaining guidance, while developing your skill for measurable SELF improvement !

SELF LOVE is the foundation that success is created on!
And you need to LEARN HOW to love yourself.
I’m the only black woman who can truly help change your lowly

thinking and your proclivities towards self defeatism .

AND:
You won’t have to be 20 years younger to do it!
An hourglass shape is not need to do it!
It’s not in creating stipulations that you don’t have to

inspiration, the discipline or the biology to meet!
You are going to focus ONLY on what you CAN DO!!
This is how you will get what you want of life!.
Lets Get It!

 

Beautiful Black Women in relationships

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Being a Dumb Woman IS Profitable!

Transit Time 7:32 a.m.

Well I’ve been up since 4 a.m. actually.

Early rising helps bye think about the message I want to convey.

So I thought about.

And this post came to mind because of an exchange I had about relationships with a man on my facebook page

Men LOVE to tell a woman what to think..

To them, we all have the mentality of a 10 year girl who needs to be taught what to feel and what to think..

When you start trusting yourself, your own wisdom that your experiences have taught you, your eyes will become WIDE OPEN to the fallibilities of men.

Black Women And Self esteem Issues

Your insecurities and self doubt are how men get their needs met for little to no cost, for their mission (not all but most) is to either become the source of your confidence or knock you down a peg or two if you come equip with your own self governance…

The effectiveness of the indoctrination of men who want to spoon feed you an identity will start to wane when you decide to give your VANITY a back seat.

Black women therapy

No contracts nor real commitment required if he can’t get you in your “Feelings” .
 

Being VAIN means that you are INEFFECTUAL and FEEBLE MINDED.
Being EMOTIONALLY NEEDY means that you are STUPID, not by insinuation, but as an actual, quantifiable fact!

BUUUUUUUTTTT this is what men expect, what they hope for, what they encourage you to display because YOUR stupidity guarantees THEIR fulfillment.

ISSA GAME!

A real life Game of Thrones is what it is dealing with the mentality of men.

If you are a fan of the show, you would have noticed that a Queen ONLY PLAYS DUMB to get what she needs….
PERIOD!

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“Medicine Woman”
“Spiritual Advisor”
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“Writer”
“Poet”
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~Salkis Re

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DO You Feel Threatened?

 

 

 

black and white African Art
“Room For Two” Original Art by Salkis

 

 

Every choice has a bit of risk.

Every choice as an element of suffering involved in it..

But there is a difference between THREAT and a CHALLENGE.

 

 Having challenges is a nutritional requirement to be challenged in life.

I tell all my clients/collectors that  having challenges is a nutritional requirement to be challenged in life.

You have toface your problemshead on or you

leave them to grow roots and stipend its own blood supply.

Once you get clear on what is a threat and what is a challenge,

you will start to venture out and take more risks.

 

 

You’ll create the potential to receive.

You’ll create the potential to receive.

This thing called YOUR LIFE is a numbers game.

The more you do a thing, the better you get at it.

The more you practice, the more you give is the more

you will master and the more you’ll receive…

 

                                                               Why Should You Heed My Advice?

 

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Go to The Gym!

Self care supports your desires.

Self care makes you feel good about who you are.

Self care is a soup of oily habits that can also seal your fate!

But I am not talking about soaking in a bubble

bath or eating some calorically dense powdered donut.

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I am talking doing what I’m about to do which is head to the gym at 8 o’clock at night

to get my workout out in when I’d rather being under the covers scratching my are!

I am talking about eating the piece of fruit and some water before bed instead of greasy fries.

I’m talking about the extra hours of study or staying up late to finish a project that with get you big money.

I am talking about talking your vitamins and cutting down on your salt intake (which is soooo hard for me).

Self care is about doing what you don’t want to do in order to get the results you Do want to get.

Are you about THAT life?

GOOD.

Now Let’s Go to the gym! Wink!

“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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