I had a session with a client yesterday and she was explaining
to me how the conversation went on her pseudo date for the evening.
She told me that it basically tuned into a **therapy session**
for him to complain about all the money he was expected to spend in **his previous relationship**
and how he felt it was unfair that he was required to
give her so much of his money among other things…
SO let me tell all of you ladies something that I did want to accept for a long time.
**YOUR APPEARANCE MATTERS!!**
Why do I say this?
Because she saw him for a “quick” informal date,
she wore a new pair of jeans(but they were jeans) and a cute casual looking blouse= **Minimal Effort**
Now she assured me that she looked very **VERY cute.**
But the message she sent to him was that of *convenience and *less requirements because she
was ok with riding around with him in his car with no plan and no money spent for her time.
And to top it off, he is all of 60 years old man with 4 baby mama’s
to divvy out child support too.
A 60 year old man has to pay to TALK far yes pay for an actual date.
**Get over it!**
Because HE assumed from the gate that this sister
WASN’T WORTH doing as much for like the previous woman was,
cause what? HE SAID HE GAVE THE OTHER WOMAN THE MONEY SHE ASKED FOR…..
SO his complaints are really a mute point AFTER the fact…
Do not ever take that take as some sort of compliment to your **”good girl”** archetype.
Being GOOD serves a purpose, and if that purpose isn’t being met,
then you should walk alone with the virtue you are so proud of.
Bottom line is that he didn’t think my client was on
the level of the previous woman he was complaining about.
You think if he thought she was ‘high maintenance’
AND deserved to be take care of, that he’d suffer her
through the entire date complaining about how much
money he didn’t want to spend on a mother woman????
Men know who they will low ball from the gate.
And they will spend on what they think is worth the effort and the price.
You being a Good Woman, a woman of fairness and honesty is beneficial only if the man has no alter agenda, and what man doesn’t???
A relationship with you becomes something of quality based on how YOU respond to offers and insinuations and sexual advances etc..
You make it ‘something more” than a one night bang” by not banging?
His morals are based on what you require.. PERIOD!!
Do not compromise on your requirements at all! You won’t get a no crown for suffering or not getting your basic needs met!!