“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

Motivational Quotes
Artist/ Life Coach
                                                                                          ~Salkis Re

 

It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

🤔You are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

 

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Don’t Believe What They Say

African American Art
Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?

 

So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?
No.

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Sugared Vagina

        Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re

Sweet Vagina!!

So I’m thinking about your vagina today, lllmao. And I want to help you keep it on point.

The best advice I can give on this matter is to ditch the SUGAR.

Sugar will dry your vagina walls out, and you will become yeast infections ready if you are a sugar addict.

Sugar will cause hormonal imbalances also. If you are going through night sweats and fatigue, get off the sugar!!

Why?
Because sugar dehydrates the body and a dehydrated vagina is an unhappy vagina. Sugar can also cause your vagina to smell like trash! Throws the whole pH out of wack.

And if you eat Sugar AND Meat, then that ammonia/fish/piss fumes at the end of your day, this is the result of that combination.
Just think hydration if you want to heal your body. We don’t want slack wulls now, so put that cookie in the garbage!

Lllllol
~Salkis Re

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What is Dating a Man Really For?

African Art
Salkis Re, Artist/ Life Coach

 

I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?

**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.

Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**

with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.

Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.

Why?
Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,

honesty,

goal appraisals and so forth.

Now Getting to know a person is another matter.

 

Now spending time with a person is another matter.

That could include sharing a ride home from work.

I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.

I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.

Would my presence be welcomed?

Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?

A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances  could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,

how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.

Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.

Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity

to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining  or making an impression on you!!

The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection

**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…

Take it for what it is, or not..

But this message is EXACT!

[This is wisdom.](https://www.iloveherart.com/life-coach-here/)
**Please pass this email on to your girlfriends, especially the young ladies you know..**Thank You.

 

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

 

Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

African American Artist
Artist, Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

African American Art
Art by Salkis Re

STEP ONE

So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)

STEP TWO

Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.

STEP THREE

Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.

STEP FOUR

Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?

Xoxo,

Salkis

black artists

 

 

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

P.S. Be sure to share and subscribe to this blog. You will find the link in the top right corner of this site homepage..

To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

African Art Eyes
“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,

excitement,

thirst,

yearning,

 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

African Art
Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

 

P.S. Be sure to share and subscribe to this blog. You will find the link in the top right corner of this site homepage..

Love Ya!

The Critics Love You!

 

 

What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

African American Artist, Salkis Re

Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

African American Art
                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

You Are What You FEEL You Are!!

Heal From Past Relationships

Everybody sees things in their own way. There is no possible way to be completely objective.

Why? Because you process everything in your world based on the information files in your head.

You gauge what you are seeing by what you have seen before, always in route to the familiar road.

We all filter our environment in this way, and it’s necessary to do so in order to avoid stimulation overload.

You see what you see based on how you feel about yourself, and how you feel about yourself is based on your health, how your nervous system responds, and, of course, your past experiences.

The important thing to remember is that we ALL have a lense, a filter by which we SEE, so this means that reality will ALWAYS be somewhat distorted.

This also means that because we are all innately see in distortion, we should not take what we see for face value.

There’s a lot of unconscious whoo-ha happening at the same time too.

So how do you combat the distortion in your perception?

By becoming a little skeptical.

Check things out further and ask questions for clarity.

Never assume that you know exactly what you are seeing.

You cannot control what you see ALL of the time!

Your genetics as well as your experiences determine how you see and how you think.

Your:

Needs

Beliefs

Emotional State

Physiological State

and Habitual Behavior Patterns

ALL decide what you see and experience.

So let’s break down each one.

NEEDS:

Needs alter your reality because it makes you focus on fulfilling  not particular need. If you are thirsty, you are gonna be looking everywhere for water.

Ormaybe you have a need to impress a new boyfriend, so you go out of your way to find something special to wear when you have perfect clothes n your closet already.

Having a need makes you dissatisfied with your surroundings, with people, even yourself.

BELIEFS

Beliefs are predetermined or preconceived notions, Values, Prejudices, about ongoing interactions. Of instance, a neat freak who Values being extra clean will think that everything around her isn’t clean enough and often this leads to exaggeration of the level untidiness in the environment she is in.

 

EMOTIONAL STATE

When you are aroused with emotions like anger, you are gonna see the world as dangerous and unpleasant.

When you are in love, you see the world through Rose colored glasses.

And when you are depressed(you are feeling Blue).

You are, whatever you are feeling at the time, and you SEE based on what you are feeling in that moment.

 

PHYSIOLOGICAL STATE

What you see through your filter is predicated upon your physical being. If you have a fever, headache, tired, under medication, even hungry can cause you to act frustrated, detached, or argumentative.

And a lot of times, we don’t even notice the shift in our emotional constitution that the physical body invites us into.

HABITUAL BEHAVIOR PATTERNS

These are coping strategies applied to justfiable or unjustifiable situations. You simply act in a certain way to avoid pain or harm whether or not you are in situations that call for it. Most people simply reach into their bag of tricks to pull out a familiar response to their world, never taking the time to base a response on accurate assessments instead.

 

So here an exercise for you:

Spend the next few days imagining that your eyes are a camera and your ears are a microphone. Bring awareness to your ears and create a voice over in your head narrating what you see and hear.

Imagine responses you would NOT normally give and take note of how your awareness of your reality shifts.

In other words: Flip the script!

You will start to SEE with broader focus and more accurately too because you will be outside of your usual distorted response patterns.

Let me end here by saying this:

People do dastardly things for a myriad of reasons;
low blood sugar,

disease,

fear,

anxiety,

loneliness and so forth,

can and WILL distort the lenses of one’s reality AND decision making.

Take your hands off THEIR wheel!

The part were you come in is with how you respond to it, and what you do with the ‘awareness ‘ they’ve now given to you.
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“Medicine Woman”

“Artist”

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
My Website for coaching and art: www.iloveherart.com

 

 

 

Learning the Game Early

 

African American art
Art by Salkis Re

“We’ve Learned”
Written by Salkis Re

Little girls learn what the bigger girls have to do,
preoccupied their minds with looking pretty like them too.

Then mommy steps in
cause she wants to slow us down,
saying we have to wait till we’re a bit bigger to wear her crown.

But we see early
the inner workings of the game,
and we see the point, and we don’t see a point to wait.

Mommy says we look pretty,
and this makes us feel so good,
and Daddy give her more love when she puts on these clothes.

So we’re here
ransacking the dresser drawer looking for her swag,
cause we know we got to look more good
to get more than what we have.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
#artinprogress

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Today’s message is to learn quickly. To learn without the right or wrong contemplations with necessities. If you need to do it, do it!

Game isn’t going anywhere and if you want someone in your life, you WILL have to conform in order to get what you want.

You have to be pretty to create the environment of cooperation in men.

And if the cards of life have dealt you with mediocrity in the face, you MUST act like you are prettier than you actually are.

It’s as simple as that.

 

Wishing You Were Someone Else?

African Art
Art by Salkis Re

When you start every day and end every day thinking about the grass being greener on the other side, what is your body supposed to do with that?

You think your thoughts just dissipates after you forget what you’ve thought?

How?

How can is dissolve when your actions and the words coming out of your mouth are all carefully crafted to be in congruence with what you feel?!

Words are food just like a piece of broccoli or an apple.

Words get ingested just like any meal that touches your lips, and it can, like any food, either nourish your body or poison it.

You have to understand that you are casting spells continuously with your thoughts, and the knowledge of that fact should invite you to take inventory of what you are saying to yourself on an ongoing basis.

You wanting to be other than you are, is a result of self neglect. You thinking that you are not enough means that you have too much time on your hands.

Too much time to think about the wrong thing.

And that thinking will cripple you eventually.

It is time to consider you tonque to be your personal draftsman, the Grand Architect if you will.

Why?

Because it’s your mouth that solidifies the thoughts of your mind, for it pulls your thought out of the ethers and into the physical realm.

And once it’s made a word, YOU WILL RESPOND to it.

That’s how prayer works doesn’t it?

Do you not believe in an insult?

Have you not been hurt by the arrangement of words accompanied by strong emotion before.

What you say to others can hurt or heal them, and so it be with you also my darling..

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“Mistress of Words”African American museum

“Spiritual Healer”

“Medicine Woman”

“Black Hat Society”

~Salkis Re

 

Brothers that Hate Sisters!

Beautiful Black WomenI get trolling men who enjoy “attempting” to inflict emotional pain on me with crass, emotionally packed comments which are nearly always sexually charged.

Their curiosity for my dick-sucking skills or how of dicks have actually been in my mouth is a common sentiment from our “brothers”. Another common response is in the defense of this collective notion amongst them which states that black women are manly- looking, sperm- guzzling sluts who do not deserve respect or any of the comforts other “types” of women enjoy.

I take no issue with ANY brother who expresses this IF they would just stay away from us. But here they are, pretending to like you, impregnating you, wasting your time, your money, and your body, all while having degrading thoughts within their heads about you.

And you are lost because you think the main criteria for a relationship is in how much you LOVE him. You gamble your life, your beauty, your hopes and dreams on an EMOTION. And these very men resent and call you a fool for doing so.

So what are we to do here?
What is the solution to keeping men like this at Bay?
No Sex would be THE solution.
But many of is prove our worth through sex. And we become the chasers and the subordinates straight out the gate.
You can’t win doing it in this order.
So what does this mean for you?
It means that your position, the only had you play, would be that of SHOW ME!

Salkis Re, Artist, Healer, Medicine Woman

Love is not up for interpretation, and love is quite easy to create. Spend enough time with ANY man, whether you are deeply attracted to him or not, you will begin to have feelings for him and he for you.
No Sex equates to EMOTIONAL CONTROL of your own mind!
It allows you to maintain objectivity and reasoning as you quantify the value of the man you are spending time with.

You can love any man who is interested in you, who cares for you in word AND deed. That is TRUE LOVE because you able to be practical and reasonable in your relationship with him. You are not a fiend or his sexual puppet which often happens when you give up your vagina before merit is displayed. You don’t give yourself time to see if he’s after you to fill his curiosity or have the opportunity to win your love.
The point?
The point is that he MUST win your love!
And that my dear, the winning of your love, should NEVER end!

 

 

 

Black Hat Society”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Savor”
~Salkis Re
www.iloveherart.com

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Blow Your Whistle!

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many of you play yourselves small everyday? Worried about appeasing people’s fragile egos at the expense of your own heart and mind… Nobody is worth you diminishing yourself for, and you need to understand that your momentary display of humility won’t cure any of their self inflicted angst either.

Whatever they feel is what they have been feeling long before the knowledge of your existence. This means that you MUST aggrandize and affirm your self, and release the emotional shackles of wanting anyone’s stamp of approval to do so.

Today’s VIDEO is all about this and the step you need to take right now to fix this disease of humility once and for all.

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A Woman’s Place

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Woman’s Advocate”
“Spiritual Healer”
~Salkis Re

This is Your Dream Killer

 

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“The Humans”   Art by Salkis Re

 

“The Dream Killer Is..”

Taking control of a thing is not a passive protocol. Some of you are “waiting” for something to fall out the sky, for the great Conjunction, a shooting star, waiting on Jesus, or the Pleadians to come for you, or some shamanic rites of passage to give you ceremony to trick you into moving your arse.

Continue reading “This is Your Dream Killer”

Are You Begging to Be Used?

African American art
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Never beg cause begging is like asking someone if it’s OK to pay to abuse you…”
~Salkis Re

I see it all over the place. Women “asking” to be accepted, crying or foaming at the mouth with anger for not having a “fair shot” at love and companionship.

I worry about them a lot.

In fact, I was one of them.

Bitter. Angry. Vulnerable.

I spent so much time crafting rants and venting session, orchestrated smear campaigns and rebuttals to all the low life basterds who didn’t think a “woman like me” deserved to be respected and loved.

It felt good; but it was pointless.

I had to come to that stark conclusion after a while.

My look is that of a “slave archetype“, large lips, dark skin and nappy hair.

Yup. That’s all me.

But what I realized that I didn’t need to intentionally fight the stereotypes put forth by society.

In fact, as I examined things further, a lot of the notions of beauty are really a matter of “class” than esthetics. If you have a certain amount of money, you can get whatever the funk you want and WHO ever the future know you want.

That is top, middle AND the bottom line.

Money brings status and self esteem and a sense of entitlement which are the attributes that opens doors for anyone.It’s best to condition your mind to start thinking like you are rich already, instead of waiting on what might never come in actual numbers.

African American Art
Art by Salkis Re

Begging for love is what slaves do. Begging or should say (in a kinder way)’asking’ to be accepted and admired will only reduce you to servitude status.

Why?

  • Because when you ask for these things

its because they are not inside of you.

  • You think the person you want it from is responsible for giving it to you.
  • And more importantly than any reason is the fact that you think they are BETTER than you are or you would never ask it of them in the first place.

Ahh…

Servitude indeed…

Are you a master in training or a professional slave?

“Black Hat Wisdom”

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Self Esteem Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website: www.iloveherart.com

Where Are Your Balls?

Black art
“Self Esteem Coach”
Salk is Re

Look at the world today!

The people who are getting along splendid in this world are the ballsy people. The people who don’t give a shyte what anyone thinks are the ones who live opulent lives.

But all the “good folk” seem to live the entirety of their days conflicted between their morals and desires, between manners and their secret desires to exercise conceit.

  • The good folk get used,
  • have low self esteem,
  • and are too scared of fire and brimstone to make a real move.

You got to be a little bad.

Yeah…

I said it.

dark skin girls in art
“Clementine”
Art by Salkis Re

A little scoundrel is what you need to incorporate into your personality so you can build a back bone and some conviction.

Watch my New Video about Fear. IT’S TIME TO END YOUR FEAR

 

Be Who You Are!!

 

 

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

I get it!
You don’t want to look like a fool.
You don’t want to seem strange to people.
What want to be “normal” like everybody else.
All illusions though and elaborate figments of your imagination.
Why?
Because being like everybody else is comfortable, but it doesn’t mean that people will automatically care about you, and it certainly doesn’t guarantee love!
Quite the opposite is true.

Let me hip you to a secret about people. When you conform to their way, the perception of your value is immediately reduced in their minds.
Why Salkis?

Because to be like them when they have secret loathing within them means that you are as good or not as good as they are, and if you are on the same level, there is no reason to respect you.

women with locs
Abstract Portrait Painting by
Salkis Re

People respect those they deem better than themselves. The “herd” mentality offers comfort in that there is no one to compete with, no one to take her boyfriend away or get promoted over her at work. It’s like we all are comfortable in our collective misery, steering clear of out shining each other: BUT we don’t respect each other either.

So I got a bit sentimental today and loaded up my pen to write down what you should do.
The point is to NEVER conform. You will ALWAYS reduce yourself if you do.
Why? Because the people you are “trying” to be like are already “doing them” better than you can!

Do YOU!

My Poem:

What You See” Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Why are you so afraid
of people seeing who you are,
or doing what your heart wants you to do?
The best thing you should be wanting
is to do things so people stop fronting
like they ever really cared about you.

Your obligation is to your dreams
and making sure that what you’ve seen
becomes real for all to bear witness.
And if people admire you
then see that as nothing more than a result from you minding your business.

Pledge your allegiance to yourself
and all that you wish you could be.
Let no one interrupt,
the flow of what you want
And never be afraid of showing them
what you’ve always wanted yourself to see.

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
Website:www.iloveherart.com

Pretty Dark Skin Women

Your Vagina is Tired!

 

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

 

Your Vagina is Tired
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself how many men you’ve slept with that you wish you’d never had sex with? How many of them hold regrets for you and the wish to turn back “Father Time” for a clean slate again.

How many?

One?

Two?

ALL of them maybe?

The vagina is used to make friends,

make money,

make love,

native american art
“Eyota and Her Thunderbird”:Art by Salkis Re

and life decisions, all while being pounded and tossed about like she is separate from the rest of your body.

You act like your vagina doesn’t feel your regrets, like it doesn’t feel your shame or desire to be washed clean from your disregard of her. I think Queen Afua coined it :”The Angry Vagina”. Your vagina has been through alot.

***Your indifference and how you’ve isolated her from your heart and mind have taken a toll on you.

It’s time to stop chasing love and pleasure from those who wanted to heartlessly use your vagina like it wasn’t attached to a living breathing soul being.
It’s time to heal through right action..

Start your initiation; Click Here:
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“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re ”
She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe ”
“Self Esteem Coach ”
“Queen Bee”
“Artist ”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

Love Is Never Enough!

African American art
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

If love was enough then why are there so many women experiencing low self worth. Not all of us came from jacked up mothers. A great many of us came from loving homes, and yet, the issue of self worth and the question of you being worthy still rears it’s ugly head.

That is because “kind words” won’t heal you. Sweet words are like cracked and you become an addict looking for you next hit or shot of self esteem based on what other people would like you to believe they think of you.
It’s a game.
Words without action are like pages in a book that you read and put back on the shelf. You have stand on your own two feet and become an independent thinker because those words that make you feel good can stop coming at any moment.

At the drop of a dime, you could cause someone who once professed love for you to now wrath against you. And your self esteem, your confidence and worth go down the drain along side their concern.
Flattery is a spell. It can easily trap your emotions and make you addicted to the issuer of the compliment.

The whole point of this is that how a person feels about you means nothing at the end of the day. You can’t borrow their feelings for you. You can’t pretend to believe them.

Either you believe it or you don’t.

You need to hear it frequently that you are good as you are because you do not believe it!! Your little heart craves validation and it is for this reason that you can’t handle hearing anything that doesn’t support what you DON’T feel within yourself.

You are going to have to quit that drug girlfriend!

Yes.

That drug of validation has made you a cripple, a functioning retard trying to mask your inadequacy instead of facing your demons head on.
I’m no fairy.
I realize that my approach to coaching is a bit edgy, less “put your head on my shoulder” kind of deal. And I will admit that I’m jealous of those women who can package themselves in that airy fairy way because that way offers the least amount of work and the least amount of resistance from you.

But I just cannot do it though. Kind words are a spinning wheel to nowhere; and they disarm your intellect and your reason. Soothing words make you forget what you need to fix, what you need to address and tend too.
And it creates a stall in you the real progress you could be making towards mental ownership and your own soul retrieval.

 

Stop holding your breath.
Stop pretending to feel what you have never felt.
Uncover where these notions of yourself have come from, and withdraw your sword as you question your own beliefs. Start chopping down any belief that isn’t factual.
Ask what you are not, and that whatever is left after your omit the negatives should be examined for self improve.
It’s work ladies.
Yoni eggs, good sex and a shot of Bourbon will not cure what ails your heart.
You want a spell that will help reconstruct your life right now?
Here it is in 4 easy steps

  1.  Exercise Your Body-
    This means to get your ass up and move. Do yoga or go to gym. Body movement is the best drug to boost your self image, confidence and it’s awesome to stabilize your emotions. Your body is how you communicate to the world. It tells the world how you feel about yourself.
  2.  Clean
    Nothing moves the spirit of good fortune and a sound mind like a clean organized space. Look at your surroundings. Can you get rid of sone of that shit? Is there clutter and mess anywhere? Filth will affect your body, mind and spirit. It will also affect your money because you won’t know where to find what you need, what is due, you might be re-buying what you already have because your junk pile is hiding what you have.
  3.  Eat What Your Body Wants
    Yes. Eat what your body wants, not what YOU want. You want sweets but you it hurts your teeth. You want potato chips but the salt makes your ankle swell. You want fruit but it gives you diarrhea. You want beef but it constipates you. Now what? You disregard the imbalance and the warning signs your body gives you because you can’t control your feelings? No ma’am! Let your body tell you what it can handle and OBEY the answer you get. Period.
  4. Create
    I don’t care if it’s a math test or a table cloth: create something. We as women are designed to give birth/create to things. It is a nutritional requirement to have some sort of creative outlet that you can use to destress yourself. It could be dance, crocheting, painting , writing, whatever! Just have something you do that doesn’t have anything to do with anybody else.
    Have that “me time” set. Your creativity is the curator of your self worth and gives you am excuse to be selfish if you are one of those women who have a hard time saying no to people.

It’s time for you to change.. Let me help you.

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