Pain is GIFT!!!

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

Yes darling, pain can be a true gift to your life if utilized correctly. But most of you will not use it. You will run from it. You run because you actually feel that you can get away from your feelings. Sure you can distract yourself for a little while, or “pretend” to have moved on like most of you do, but destiny still arrives to meet you.

You worry about how you look: Daily.

You worry about him not loving you: Daily.

You insist on being happy and having all the things “they” say are needed in order to experience that.

But you really never reach that Utopia they promise you when you supposedly “let go” and let it flow.

You take pics to show people how great your life is, how much weight you’ve lost, how sexy  you hope THEY think that YOU think you are, now and so on, but inside….. Your mind sends you reminders that you are not well, and you become extremely ashamed and depressed that the pain caught up to you again.

Will you change?
The truth?
It’s not impossible that you will, it’s just not probable that you will.

Because it takes being present and conscious and having vigilant watchfulness to change, and most people prefer to divorce themselves from “thinking” too much.

Thinking itself is given a bad rap, and most people who do express deep thoughts are considered pessimistic, cat-shit crazy nut bags with nothing better to do than look for everything wrong with the world.

But pain is the light bulb that helps you SEE where you are if you can bear to look. Joy does not bring enlightenment like pain because joy is “inspirational” while pain is a “Learning/ Experiential” encounter.

What you have been through HURTS, but that hurt can have usefulness when you conclude that you HAVE to change if you’re going to survive this thing called LIFE…

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“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

You Will Pick The Wrong Man Again!

“You Will Pick The Wrong Person Again, So Rela
Written by Salkis Re

You pick partners not based on what you want, but what you are familiar with! You have your list of demands and characteristics that a man must have. And you are proud of this well thought out list because it represents a sane mind, a woman who exercises conscientiousness and reasonability.

But your list most likely contains what you’ve been TOLD to look for, NOT what you emotions predisposed you too.
You know how many women actually find the guy that fits all the characteristics on her list, but then she has lunch with her girlfriends and expresses how “boring” he is??

He’s perfect! He has everything, but he bores you.

Because he is unable to give you the “suffering” that YOU have come to associate with the feeling of REAL love.

Your Mother gives you a template for love, and if was irate and loud and intimidating, you will subconsciously seek men who will criticize and berate you.
If you had a Father whom you observed to be weak and emotionally fragile, you will find a partner who is weak and needs constant reassurance which you WILL find frustrating, BUT it provides a LOVE you know!!🤔

If a partner’s personality is NOT familiar with how you interpret love, you are going to consider him a miss-match.

The WRONG guy is the guy you go for because he is represents what REAL love is to you.
It is near impossible to rewire your templates for love, but you can “reframe” how you react and respond to the person representing your love template.

You like bullies? Then don’t let the bully be a bully to YOU.
You like loud, patronizing men?
Do NOT let him define YOU with his insults
And so on..

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

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To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

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“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.


And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

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Getting Rid of Your Fear and Self Doubt!

“Breaking that Spell”
Written by Salkis Re

You wait for an invitation to the celebration of your own life.

You are under a spell, a spell that makes you think you are not worthy,

that you are nothing in this world.

How do you break that spell?
By using the gift of Thoth/Thought.
To THINK before you act can break ANY and every manner of deception imposed upon you.
You are here for a reason. And the “reason” is what YOU, (by you actions and focus) decide it to be.

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Art by Salkis RE Painting “Love You Anyway”

“Think Things Through”= Reasoning
“Let Me Sleep on it before I decide” =Meditation
The breath of life is within you.
God/dess is within you.
Turn yourself inside out and learn to trust what you have THOUGHT through..

Written by Salkis Re

I wish you weren’t afraid of getting it wrong.

Because being afraid of being wrong, of failing, will not stop you getting things wrong.

When you allow fear to paralyze you, the chance that you will fail increases because

you’ve added improper timing created by your delay to expand your stumble into a actual fall.
Walk with fear and you will succeed.

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

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Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
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Fuck For Coins


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So this topic has been pillaging my mind of late.

This notion of immorality and requiring money for access to you vagina.

When aren’t we in negotations for our bodies?

I’m waiting for a real answer on this..

Some of us fuck for gas money.

Some of us fuck to pay a cell phone bill.

Some of us fuck for trips or to get half the rent money.

Some of us fuck to show our sexual value(especially the ugly girls)

Some us fuck for Commitment.

Some of us fuck for love.

But ALL of us fuck for an exchange in value.

The problem is that some exchanges are considered adequate compensation.


Some of our vaginas are not seen as value packed because the face it’s attached to lacks luster.

But the reason for default on a promise of reciprocity is not the point here.

The point is that you WANT something from him,

and have worked out in your heart and mind what you intend to GIVE in order to get it.

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“My Spliff” Art By Salkis Re

We all selling pussy round here.

Unfortunately some of us receive wooden nickels for it because we lack emotional control,

seductive presentation, and negotiation skills.

We think morality, being a moral woman will invite honor and respect and Fidelity.

How Sway???

So the question is this. Are you being unreasonable in your expectations?

Are you setting the bar too high?

Are your demands in line with the “value” you bring?

To be totally honest, if someone isn’t sold on your value, it’s because you haven’t lied enough.

It’s because you haven’t seduced enough.

It’s because you too busy presenting your fucking virtue instead of creating anxiety.

Men hold no power in the matter, and if you uncover their

secrets you will find that would like to ejaculate in any hole, any “type” of hole too.

Market yourself. Learn how to market yourself for results.

That is all “love” is about, especially for you girls who are NOT standard beauties,

though many of you would like to argue differently.

This is Black Hat Wisdom.

Put on Your Hat….

Life Coach, Salkis Re

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“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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Nappy-Headed “Spiritual” Hoes

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“Men Who Want Natural Sisters be like”
A man who has no aspirations for “worldly” things has nothing to lose. And a man who has nothing to lose ALSO has no incentive to commit nor sacrifice for HIMSELF or YOU.

Statistically they earn less, do not get married, have no formal education, and have fatherless children. A Relationship (while on the physical plane) IS a material act.

From your first date that you dress up for, to the gas you put in your car to meet her at the “park to talk”, to the penis that goes into the vagina, to the babies that are birthed as a result of sex. All material.

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Only men with little ambition ride the “Spirituality” wave because they assume that “natural sistahs” only want a tub of Shea butter from the street vendor and a meat-free gravy and brown rice on a styrofoam plate to make us happy.

Meanwhile, he is out here heckling BUT secretly lusting after those “material girls” for whom his pockets aren’t deep enough to get. It’s a game to exploit your compassion and steal your “understanding” and your “agreeableness” for “duty-free”, “effortless pussy” nothing more.


When the talk of Spirituality comes up in a conversation about relationships and this conversation is directed towards any “nappy-headed sista (and I this term with endearment) I gonna need for you to understand that a net is being cast out to your vagina FREE PUSSY.

And what is the truth here?

The truth is that you are MORE SPIRITUAL WITHOUT DIK than with it so his job is to bring MATERIAL things to your feet to PAY for the “blessings” he is hoping to receive from YOUUUUU.

~Salkis Re

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Spiritual Relationships are Bullshyte!


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“Be Who You Are” Art by Salkis Re

“Spiritual Connection”
Written by Salkis Re

What is that “Connection” that you feel when you’re describing that new man you want to be with?
Well this is the breakdown of the process by which that “connection” is created.

The connection that you refer to as a “spiritual connection” is an emotional assessment of how well you “relate” to him.

Spiritual equates to Emotional, and your emotions are based on your feelings.

And your Feelings are based on your Thoughts

AND your Thoughts are filtered and categorized by what you see, hear, touch: HIS ACTIONs…..

You cannot experience “Spirituality” without emotions and emotions is Energy created by movement=ACTION.
So when you speak of a “spiritual connection” as something “Nonphysical”,

you are misinformed and that farce leads many assuming women down a path of unmet expectations.

Let’s put on our Black Hats shall we….
What part of a male and female romantic or even platonic relationship is Nonphysical?
🤔He has to talk to you: that is a physical act.

🤔He has to spend time with you: that’s a physical act.

🤗He has to fucc you: that’s a physical act.

🤔He has to show care for you: that’s a physical act.

🤔He has to appreciate you: that’s a physical act.

🤔🤔He has to commit to you: that’s a physical limitations of choice and movement toward any other woman besides you.

We like to believe in things to make feel better about things we are powerless over or lack comprehension in.


🌼But the “spiritual” talk is mostly the ponderings and entertainment of women who are attracted to “Unresourceful Men”, for these men ONLY have the power of EMOTION to fuccing sell you on, nothing more.

😏🙄😱😮He can tell you that he’s looking for virtue because he thinks your lack attractiveness means that you are MORE MORAL than a woman who is physically out of his league.


“Artist/Life Coach
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re


She Taught Me How to Use Men!!

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“I Want You to Want Me” Art by Salkis Re


How do you get love?

Is it by being beautiful?

By speaking softly?

By being skilled at sex?

By learning how to cook?

By doing pretty hair styles?

By paying have the rent?
How do win the heart of a man?


He Kept Running Behind Her Ass

I was perplexed about this because I saw many women who couldn’t cook, but had a man who loved them to pieces. I know many women who are average looking, questionable hygiene, spastic, aggressive personalities, beautiful “bitches” who had men hearts on life support, but he KEPT running behind her ass!


She Took His Veterans Check!!

I remember when I had my salon, I had a client who would come in only on the 1st and the 15th of the month to look cute for her “visits” to some of Veteran companions.

She would doll herself up to go sit on their laps and if they broke off enough money, she’d play with their balls for an hour or two. These gentle would give her portions of their Social Security check as compensation for the “happy hour” Now, she wasn’t particularly spectacular looking, a some of her teeth were noticably gone whenever she smiled really wide, and she was fat but her fat was nicely distributed with a good hip to waist ratio.

Her Personality was larger than life!!

Her personality??? OMG her personality was truly larger than life. She would shut the entire salon down because we could stop laughing at her stories, and she orated with bravo and self confidence. She assumed what she did with the old men as “Good Samaritan” work, and I fell out my chair with roaring laughter at her comedic convictions..


Crippled Midgets and Ugly Husbands

What was more astonishing to me was that her main man knew about these seniors “Breaking Bread” with his girl. I asked her how she kept Harmony in her household with her man knowing what she does, and she simply said to him “I’m Going to Get OUR MONEY BOO”. Well, I flat lined again laughing so hard that I couldn’t breathe.

But I was examining her quietly too. I assumed that her man must have been an unattractive, crippled midget (no offensive to any cripple midgets reading this) but when we walked to PAY for her hairdo and gas for her car and brought her lunch, I was flabbergasted. He was cute!!! He was VERY attractive and well built too.


Who’s Your Daddy?

I Flat Lined Again!!!!


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“Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

So what is the lesson she can teach us as women about love?

She is an example of a woman who is NOT conflicted AT ALL about her value.

And her value was not predicated upon how she looked. Whether her hair was done or makeup on or not,

she commanded a room, she was the center of attention because her value wasn’t determined by your judgement of her.

She knew what to say, and more importantly, she knew HOW to say it.

Those that needed to feel in control (like her man), were allowed to think they were so that she could extract what she needed.
And her mouth was like Cannon FIRE,

she could cus on an executive level,

but she didn’t unsheathe​ her tongue gun unless it was necessary.

So the conclusion is this: be what you need to be for the situation at hand.

Play up your strengths and give ZERO energy to your weaknesses

unless they are something you’re incentivized to change.


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“Eva” Art by Salkis Re

Understand that your self worth is not a community event and

true self worth doesn’t fluctuate in accordance with how good you look.

And lastly, being congruent with your wants and needs is essential to the manifestation of them.

If you feel ashamed about what you want, you will not get it,

and if you manage to get it, you won’t be able to hold it for long…

That is what my darling client taught me about being a woman…

Now lets be what we need to be, to get what we want to have…

~Salkis Re


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“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Women Want Real Men”

Women want men who can lead

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Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re
Women want men who can lead. We want to be with men who competent, capable and purposeful, resourceful and protective.

Relationships usually fall apart because the woman realizes that she was sold the
“Snake Oil” of “Sexual Compatibility” and “Emotional Connection“.
She now buys into his “future claims” that he cleverly

defers long enough to get her emotionally vested.

And when he is in a comfortable space and no longer holds anxiety of losing you,

he begins to feel safe enough to reveal himself.

And in actuality, he is a weak man, a beta male acting out what he assumes is an alpha male persona.

She now resides with either quiet or boisterous resentfulness

She now resides with either quiet or boisterous resentfulness and
kicks herself because she knows she “emotionally trapped”,
but she is ironically addicted to the “suffering” he provides

 because its familiar and comforting like an old pair of slippers.

Understand that “change” comes from the pain brought on by a person’s

realization of his inadequacies, not from YOU making threats and handing out ultimatums.

And for the most part, people do not change unless they experience trauma level suffering.

We as women must not translate our wants and needs as weaknesses.

We are not designed to think like or be men,
though they express desires in having a women who can “hold their own” financially.

We as women are designed with the emotional ability to be “fair”

We as women are designed with the emotional ability to be “fair” and “agreeable”

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Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re
while men are designed “take” and “conquer”.

We will not get what we want by forcing men to think like us

We will not get what we want by forcing men to think like us because
it takes a level of selfishness and self-centered behavior to achieve things.
We can offer support in a sexual way, a nurturing way, a creative way, a beautiful way and so on…
Be a woman so you can “see” a real man…
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Don’t Quit!!

“Master Your Craft!
Written by Salkis Re

How you gonna quit when you’ve already started? 
Don’t stop till use your body 
moves the finish line tape aparted!

You will only hate yourself if you stop,
and you will sabotage the rest of your life 
if you don’t ride this thing till your efforts make it pop.

What else will you do other than this?
You gonna go back to dreaming
like your other loser friends?

There’s more grind left for you to do 
and it’s not over until you have
to mastered what you like to call YOU.

So you tryna quit the game?

To do what exactly?

Oh it’s hard?


Anything you worked for, had a bit of challenge

that came with it.

And guess what you did?

You trotted on anyway, wiped the

blood off your knuckles ,and kept the pace until

your chest broke that finish line tape!

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The Art Process and all my Mistakes.. Salkis Re

You have to ride your purpose until the wheels fall off

so that by the end of your time on this earth, your soul has no reason to

wrestle with the anguish of unfinished business.

Empty yourself! Don’t hold back anything.

Don’t be afraid of anyone!!

You will fall, so laugh when you fall.

You will be unsure, so chuckle at your confusion.

You will feel pain, so eat your pain and keep going.

Stop looking back!!!

There is nothing BACK THERE that can help you.

because the promise land is in your windshield not your rear view mirror.

Come on girl!! GET UP!!

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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“Fuel Your Pain to Fuel Your Change?”

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                                                                                          ~Salkis Re


It takes you being smack down to within a inch of your life,

cause as long as you can justify what you do or what’s been done to you,

all you’re gonna do is sit right there and fucking stew in your shit and piss!

You will be preoccupied developing, editing and executing your hard luck story

🤔You are not gonna change until your whole nervous system rewired itself

and there’s nothing like tragedy/heartbreak to make

you say never a fucking again to being less than the best that you be!

The truth??

Is that we confirm up until it’s no longer beneficial to do so.

We don’t change, not unless there’s tremendous pain involved with remaining the same,

and even then, the default button is ever ready to be pressed again…
So do not stress over the emotions of other people.

It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.


It’s not your job to convince/control the feelings and emotions of other people.

The sun is on your back and you cannot carry anyone…

Move on..So feel your pain, feel every nuk and cranny of the pain so it can shake your world

and turn the shit upside down so you can extract the essential FIRE to transform and fly like the Phoenix rising from the ashes..

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Don’t Believe What They Say

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Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?


So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Sugared Vagina

        Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re

Sweet Vagina!!

So I’m thinking about your vagina today, lllmao. And I want to help you keep it on point.

The best advice I can give on this matter is to ditch the SUGAR.

Sugar will dry your vagina walls out, and you will become yeast infections ready if you are a sugar addict.

Sugar will cause hormonal imbalances also. If you are going through night sweats and fatigue, get off the sugar!!

Because sugar dehydrates the body and a dehydrated vagina is an unhappy vagina. Sugar can also cause your vagina to smell like trash! Throws the whole pH out of wack.

And if you eat Sugar AND Meat, then that ammonia/fish/piss fumes at the end of your day, this is the result of that combination.
Just think hydration if you want to heal your body. We don’t want slack wulls now, so put that cookie in the garbage!

~Salkis Re

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What is Dating a Man Really For?

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Salkis Re, Artist/ Life Coach


I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?

**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.

Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**

with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.

Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.

Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,


goal appraisals and so forth.

Now Getting to know a person is another matter.


Now spending time with a person is another matter.

That could include sharing a ride home from work.

I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.

I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.

Would my presence be welcomed?

Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?

A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances  could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,

how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.

Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.

Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity

to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining  or making an impression on you!!

The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection

**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…

Take it for what it is, or not..

But this message is EXACT!

[This is wisdom.](
**Please pass this email on to your girlfriends, especially the young ladies you know..**Thank You.


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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.


Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

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So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

African American Art
Art by Salkis Re


So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)


Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.


Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.


Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?



black artists



So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website

P.S. Be sure to share and subscribe to this blog. You will find the link in the top right corner of this site homepage..

To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

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“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,




 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

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Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website


P.S. Be sure to share and subscribe to this blog. You will find the link in the top right corner of this site homepage..

Love Ya!

The Critics Love You!



What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

African American Artist, Salkis Re

Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

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                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

You Are What You FEEL You Are!!

Heal From Past Relationships

Everybody sees things in their own way. There is no possible way to be completely objective.

Why? Because you process everything in your world based on the information files in your head.

You gauge what you are seeing by what you have seen before, always in route to the familiar road.

We all filter our environment in this way, and it’s necessary to do so in order to avoid stimulation overload.

You see what you see based on how you feel about yourself, and how you feel about yourself is based on your health, how your nervous system responds, and, of course, your past experiences.

The important thing to remember is that we ALL have a lense, a filter by which we SEE, so this means that reality will ALWAYS be somewhat distorted.

This also means that because we are all innately see in distortion, we should not take what we see for face value.

There’s a lot of unconscious whoo-ha happening at the same time too.

So how do you combat the distortion in your perception?

By becoming a little skeptical.

Check things out further and ask questions for clarity.

Never assume that you know exactly what you are seeing.

You cannot control what you see ALL of the time!

Your genetics as well as your experiences determine how you see and how you think.




Emotional State

Physiological State

and Habitual Behavior Patterns

ALL decide what you see and experience.

So let’s break down each one.


Needs alter your reality because it makes you focus on fulfilling  not particular need. If you are thirsty, you are gonna be looking everywhere for water.

Ormaybe you have a need to impress a new boyfriend, so you go out of your way to find something special to wear when you have perfect clothes n your closet already.

Having a need makes you dissatisfied with your surroundings, with people, even yourself.


Beliefs are predetermined or preconceived notions, Values, Prejudices, about ongoing interactions. Of instance, a neat freak who Values being extra clean will think that everything around her isn’t clean enough and often this leads to exaggeration of the level untidiness in the environment she is in.



When you are aroused with emotions like anger, you are gonna see the world as dangerous and unpleasant.

When you are in love, you see the world through Rose colored glasses.

And when you are depressed(you are feeling Blue).

You are, whatever you are feeling at the time, and you SEE based on what you are feeling in that moment.



What you see through your filter is predicated upon your physical being. If you have a fever, headache, tired, under medication, even hungry can cause you to act frustrated, detached, or argumentative.

And a lot of times, we don’t even notice the shift in our emotional constitution that the physical body invites us into.


These are coping strategies applied to justfiable or unjustifiable situations. You simply act in a certain way to avoid pain or harm whether or not you are in situations that call for it. Most people simply reach into their bag of tricks to pull out a familiar response to their world, never taking the time to base a response on accurate assessments instead.


So here an exercise for you:

Spend the next few days imagining that your eyes are a camera and your ears are a microphone. Bring awareness to your ears and create a voice over in your head narrating what you see and hear.

Imagine responses you would NOT normally give and take note of how your awareness of your reality shifts.

In other words: Flip the script!

You will start to SEE with broader focus and more accurately too because you will be outside of your usual distorted response patterns.

Let me end here by saying this:

People do dastardly things for a myriad of reasons;
low blood sugar,




loneliness and so forth,

can and WILL distort the lenses of one’s reality AND decision making.

Take your hands off THEIR wheel!

The part were you come in is with how you respond to it, and what you do with the ‘awareness ‘ they’ve now given to you.

“Medicine Woman”


“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
My Website for coaching and art:




Learning the Game Early


African American art
Art by Salkis Re

“We’ve Learned”
Written by Salkis Re

Little girls learn what the bigger girls have to do,
preoccupied their minds with looking pretty like them too.

Then mommy steps in
cause she wants to slow us down,
saying we have to wait till we’re a bit bigger to wear her crown.

But we see early
the inner workings of the game,
and we see the point, and we don’t see a point to wait.

Mommy says we look pretty,
and this makes us feel so good,
and Daddy give her more love when she puts on these clothes.

So we’re here
ransacking the dresser drawer looking for her swag,
cause we know we got to look more good
to get more than what we have.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re


Today’s message is to learn quickly. To learn without the right or wrong contemplations with necessities. If you need to do it, do it!

Game isn’t going anywhere and if you want someone in your life, you WILL have to conform in order to get what you want.

You have to be pretty to create the environment of cooperation in men.

And if the cards of life have dealt you with mediocrity in the face, you MUST act like you are prettier than you actually are.

It’s as simple as that.