“What Relationships Really Are”

Written by Salkis Re

The conclusion of relationships is this: you are going to be lied too.
You ARE being lied too.
And the man telling lies is doing it for his benefit.
The man telling you to “build” with him is doing it for his benefit.
The man pumping and dumping you without a condom is doing it for his benefit.
The man who isn’t ready to marry you is doing it for his benefit.

So what is he doing for YOUR benefit?
Absolutely NOTHING more than YOU require him to do…
Love has nothing to do with honesty.
It has nothing to do with commitment.
It has nothing to do with fidelity.

It has EVERYTHING to do with how incentivized a man is to produce for YOU,

and that is based on your own AMBITION and CLEVERNESS.

Nothing is fair and square in love.. This is why are played over and over and over again…
This is why you are a single mother.
This is why you can’t find a “good” man.

The TRUTH??
EVERYTHING YOU DO WITH A MAN should be for a purpose and a quantifiable benefit to you…
It’s YOU that drives a man to produce.
It is you that gives a man incentive to wash his testicles, shave and get dressed to go conquer the world..

If you have no goals, then YOUR man has no reason to work, and no one to work for.
HE is responsible for your safety and wellbeing, and there is no other reasons for him being in your bed or your heart…
PERIOD..
PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT!!!
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

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Life Coach, Salkis Re

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While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

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What IS YOUR CULTURE?

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“Be An Eagle”
Written by Salkis Re

Your identity is yours to create, especially if no one wants to claim you. That’s the fate of copper skin tones who are born on Northern soil.
Maybe you are pretending not to know, but your mirror tell NO lies.


Ask your blood to whisper its secrets in your ear. Let the Sequoia trees secrete the tales of those who burned fires and sang songs under the shade of its leaves.
Heal your heart and your confusion by creating your own legends and hero’s.
What are you?
Who are you?


If you still do not know, then declare yourself an Eagle.
The Eagle NEVER asks what it is. It doesn’t cut through the clouds wondering if it is good enough to fly. She doesn’t perch upon a tree branch contemplating her worthiness to be there.


The Eagle does not spend its days jealous and fretful over not being able to run like those beautiful Lions are down below. The Eagle is just as it, unaware that there is anything better than being an Eagle..

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING: “FALA”

 

I’ve Never Been in Love!?/???

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Selfish people are full of complaints and convoluted notions about love. They want what they NEVER give, yet call the world unfair.

If no one wants to love you, there is a reason for that. Search for why that is..
Then Start BEING the love you wish to receive ..

I really give a side eye to people who say this because it reflective of a disconnect with people a humanitarian level.

We are all here to help people you know.

 By working for them,

caring for them ,

teaching them,

healing them 

Protecting them

If no one can say they have benefited from your existence, then you are not using your life in way that invites reciprocity you think you are entitled too.

We want love, right? But most want to hide behind the emotions of other people to disguise how they feel about themselves.

More people abuse love than cherish it, then regret and try to repair the corrupted hearts they’ve created, and it just becomes this endless cycle of

HURT YOU/

REPAIR YOU/

HURT YOU/

BEG FOR FORGIVENESS/

HURT YOU etc….

Why are people so naturally fucked up in the first place?

Why is it that we respect what we LOSE rather than cherish what we have?

WHY?

 

Because this society is the THROW AWAY Society

We are constantly waiting for the next NEW thing to come out, even if the old phone works fine.

You wait in line and pay inflated prices for the NEW thing in order to feel like SOMEBODY.

We trade people in as well. The moment a flaw surfaces, we are outa there.

How self righteous of us indeed!

 

To maneuver as if parts of you do not have to be “tolerated” by another person,

to act like you are so perfect that you cannot allow anyone around you to slip: How Sway?

You want microwave food and microwave love.

No one wants to take time to cultivate a relationship anymore.

But those blazing hot relationships fizzle out just as fast though.

Sex will get boring no matter who you are screwing, especially if you are doing it too often.

There is no other solution for boredom and the contempt of familiarity than ABSTINENCE and DISCIPLINE.

You build together.

You grow love for each other based on time spent together learning and improving individually and as a unit.

If you have the same conversation that you had 5 years ago: you are dead.

If you haven’t tried anything new to challenge your abilities: you are dead.

If you have not done anything to support your physical health: you are dead.

Good Relationships are about MOVEMENT and PROGRESS…

This is Not about pole dancing, and other unnecessary acrobatic bedroom antics…

A person doesn’t want to kiss you because you’re a good kisser,

a person will want to kiss you are using your lips as an instrument to express emotions for them.

Love( which is PASSION) is not that hard to attain if you are to fulfill your needs BY  fulfilling the needs of others.

PERIOD!!

 

 

“You Are Good and BAD” Accept This!!!

 

 

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Do you know where virtue comes from?

It comes from your ability to be a villain, to be evil, to be treacherous and conniving,

to be a liar, to be a cut throat: YET you choose NOT TO BE.

Virtue is has nothing to do with being “incapable” of being unfair,

self absorbed, hurtful and selfish. Your ability to exercise “free will”

allows you to experience virtue because it comes from having the CHOICE to do good!!!

Watch out for people who claim to be “good” and selfless,

those people are often times dishonest and hide their intent to manipulate through appearing ‘charitable”.
If you are not ‘bad”, then that simply means that you are not assertive and lack the

confidence to say what you feel because you are worried about how you appear to others.

But again, your lack of assertiveness doesn’t mean you are incapable of making people uncomfortable,

of being a cheat, or wanting to better than those around you.

You want that too, you are just ashamed to display it because you are concerned about your self image.

Ohh but it’s there….
So accept it!!

“The Black Hat Society”

Salkis Re

Who AM I?

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            “Artist/Life Coach”
                   ~Salkis Re

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To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

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“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,

excitement,

thirst,

yearning,

 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

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Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Learning the Game Early

 

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Art by Salkis Re

“We’ve Learned”
Written by Salkis Re

Little girls learn what the bigger girls have to do,
preoccupied their minds with looking pretty like them too.

Then mommy steps in
cause she wants to slow us down,
saying we have to wait till we’re a bit bigger to wear her crown.

But we see early
the inner workings of the game,
and we see the point, and we don’t see a point to wait.

Mommy says we look pretty,
and this makes us feel so good,
and Daddy give her more love when she puts on these clothes.

So we’re here
ransacking the dresser drawer looking for her swag,
cause we know we got to look more good
to get more than what we have.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
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Today’s message is to learn quickly. To learn without the right or wrong contemplations with necessities. If you need to do it, do it!

Game isn’t going anywhere and if you want someone in your life, you WILL have to conform in order to get what you want.

You have to be pretty to create the environment of cooperation in men.

And if the cards of life have dealt you with mediocrity in the face, you MUST act like you are prettier than you actually are.

It’s as simple as that.

 

Wishing You Were Someone Else?

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Art by Salkis Re

When you start every day and end every day thinking about the grass being greener on the other side, what is your body supposed to do with that?

You think your thoughts just dissipates after you forget what you’ve thought?

How?

How can is dissolve when your actions and the words coming out of your mouth are all carefully crafted to be in congruence with what you feel?!

Words are food just like a piece of broccoli or an apple.

Words get ingested just like any meal that touches your lips, and it can, like any food, either nourish your body or poison it.

You have to understand that you are casting spells continuously with your thoughts, and the knowledge of that fact should invite you to take inventory of what you are saying to yourself on an ongoing basis.

You wanting to be other than you are, is a result of self neglect. You thinking that you are not enough means that you have too much time on your hands.

Too much time to think about the wrong thing.

And that thinking will cripple you eventually.

It is time to consider you tonque to be your personal draftsman, the Grand Architect if you will.

Why?

Because it’s your mouth that solidifies the thoughts of your mind, for it pulls your thought out of the ethers and into the physical realm.

And once it’s made a word, YOU WILL RESPOND to it.

That’s how prayer works doesn’t it?

Do you not believe in an insult?

Have you not been hurt by the arrangement of words accompanied by strong emotion before.

What you say to others can hurt or heal them, and so it be with you also my darling..

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~Salkis Re

 

How To Become What You Need to Be to Get What You Want?!

 

 

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Aren’t you tired of being used?
Aren’t you tired of falling for the con game?
Aren’t you tired of giving till your hands bleed with no reciprocity in sight?
I know you are tired, but apparently not tired enough to switch your style.
You still believe in things that tell lies to your face.

You still doubt what it is that you know.
And now it’s even worse because you have access granted into Social Media Relationships. Perfect lighting, Rosy filters, and exotics locals make you fume like warm shit as you eat yourself into a drunken woe-is-me stupor.

Fussing over illusions and staged photos of people pretending to be madly in love, has now become your portion to eat..
Evaluating your life against that of women whom you’ve no clue as to the price they’ve paid for the appearance of luxury they enjoy.

Why can’t that be you is what you ask..
So what’s the answer here?
The answer is that your tongue is your sword and your word is your bond, AND whatever you desire AND EXPECT, you will get.
So am I saying that you can have the fairytale?

Absolutely!! You can have it, if, and only if, you are willing to pay the price!!

Go back to Instagram and your Facebook feeds. Take a closer look at those girls you are jealous of. What are their habits, their daily regimen? If they live in the gym, or walk around the grocery aisles with faces beat for the Gods, are you willing to do that in order to be ranked worthy of her kind of relationship?

Look again.
Are you willing to live in a van and eat berries off trees while teaching yoga classes to bum enough money for an evening meal of beans and rice? (I love those yoga couples by the way, I imagine their sex game is outstanding!!?🙈).
Sexy passion without the want/need for material things sound like a great life to you?

Or maybe it’s a 6 bedroom house with chefs and nannies with lots of shopping more your tune?
Or maybe you are one of those “Independent” girls and your dream is just to go Dutch on the dinner, half on the mortgage and the car note?
Which ever one you decide on, has its own UNIFORM, its own protocol, its rules and regulations in order to execute it successfully.
There is a mentality you have to adopt in order to affix yourself into the role you want to star in.
The point of it all is that ALL of them require WORK on your part if you plan to have some semblance of happiness within the experience.

Listen darling, you can even be a combination of all the choices I’ve listed and Hallelujah, the Saints will be marching in on your behalf for sure!

Once you decide what position you want to play, it’s then time to start working on a personality conducive to the outcome you hope to achieve.
An artist paints.
A writer, writes.
A chef, cooks.
And so on, and so on.
A wish with out work is like faith without work : DEAD!
You assignment today is to ACT as if!
You want to appear beautiful?
Then ACT like beautiful women act!!
Yesssss damn it! ACT LIKE IT!
Well what about the “Just Be YOURSELF” thing Salkis?

I call BULLSHIT on that right now!!!!!

Why?
Because you DON’T have what you want right now because you are yourself.

So this means you can’t achieve what you by being yourself!

Create the personality that YOUR mind feels is synonymous with beauty and abundance and you will train your brain to respond in that way. Even more importantly, you will be sending out feelers into the atmosphere to attract that energy back to you.
It is as simple as that.

You have to rinse and repeat..

Then rinse and repeat again

until it doesn’t feel like a lie anymore.

You have to put hand gestures into it.

You have to get excited about it because creating anything should fucking excite you!!!

You are the magician over your life, and acting AS-If is what turns ANYTHING you say into the mother sucking TRUTH!!
Doing anything long enough and loud enough, you will make you FORGET that it’s a lie, and it will STOP being a lie too!

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Are you ready for the secrets of mind control and self esteem? These are the two things you need to acquisition what you want from this life of yours.

As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And what I have found is this: when you rid the of shame and guilt you begin to SOAR.

You have to heal

You have to believe.

And you have to do!

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Brothers that Hate Sisters!

Beautiful Black WomenI get trolling men who enjoy “attempting” to inflict emotional pain on me with crass, emotionally packed comments which are nearly always sexually charged.

Their curiosity for my dick-sucking skills or how of dicks have actually been in my mouth is a common sentiment from our “brothers”. Another common response is in the defense of this collective notion amongst them which states that black women are manly- looking, sperm- guzzling sluts who do not deserve respect or any of the comforts other “types” of women enjoy.

I take no issue with ANY brother who expresses this IF they would just stay away from us. But here they are, pretending to like you, impregnating you, wasting your time, your money, and your body, all while having degrading thoughts within their heads about you.

And you are lost because you think the main criteria for a relationship is in how much you LOVE him. You gamble your life, your beauty, your hopes and dreams on an EMOTION. And these very men resent and call you a fool for doing so.

So what are we to do here?
What is the solution to keeping men like this at Bay?
No Sex would be THE solution.
But many of is prove our worth through sex. And we become the chasers and the subordinates straight out the gate.
You can’t win doing it in this order.
So what does this mean for you?
It means that your position, the only had you play, would be that of SHOW ME!

Salkis Re, Artist, Healer, Medicine Woman

Love is not up for interpretation, and love is quite easy to create. Spend enough time with ANY man, whether you are deeply attracted to him or not, you will begin to have feelings for him and he for you.
No Sex equates to EMOTIONAL CONTROL of your own mind!
It allows you to maintain objectivity and reasoning as you quantify the value of the man you are spending time with.

You can love any man who is interested in you, who cares for you in word AND deed. That is TRUE LOVE because you able to be practical and reasonable in your relationship with him. You are not a fiend or his sexual puppet which often happens when you give up your vagina before merit is displayed. You don’t give yourself time to see if he’s after you to fill his curiosity or have the opportunity to win your love.
The point?
The point is that he MUST win your love!
And that my dear, the winning of your love, should NEVER end!

 

 

 

Black Hat Society”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Savor”
~Salkis Re
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Who to Forgive?

 

 

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“Life Coach” ~Salkis Re

What is the necessity of forgiveness?
To expunge the sins of another?
To wipe the slate clean?
Can you pretend that you were never hurt?
That is what forgiveness requires.
A forgetting.
An exoneration of an act, so that person can move without shame in your presence.
But you never truly forgive because the potential to commit a crime has made you aware of a new possibility that could happen again at any moment.
How can you trust “potential” or a proclivity that comes out of hiding?
You can’t.
And no one should ask that of you.
You can live on of course.

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Can You See Me?”
Art by Salkis Re

You CAN live on the “bright” side to salvage what’s left over from the damage done.

You CAN live a dynamic life after a broken heart!!!

The most beautiful things are created from the longing of a broken heart.

Pain helps you to focus IF you use it correctly.

Many of you can’t fathom how pain and anger are the emotions for transformation, but they absolutely are!

Joy gives you hope.

BUT pain makes you change!

You can rebuild****
But to REBUILD means to make something new, thus the old way is no more.
Who can you swear by?
YOURSELF.
WHO can you trust 💯 percent?
YOURSELF!
Carry on…

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“Black Hat Society”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Savor”
~Salkis Re
www.iloveherart.com

Are you ready for the secrets of mind control and self esteem? These are the two things you need to acquisition what you want from this life of yours.

As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And what I have found is this: when you rid the of shame and guilt you begin to SOAR.

You have to heal

You have to believe.

And you have to do!

Allow me to help you..

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A Queen’s Way

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“The Throne”
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Queen’s Way”
Written by Salkis Re

When they tell you that you can’t, don’t believe it. You must stretch past their doubts so you can see it.
And know that how people feel is not your fault,
so don’t spend time worrying about what they have thought.

You must learn that your value is a matter of what you say,
because society has convinced us to be proud of how much we have to pay.

And you have the right to dictate exactly what you are worth,
but you have to understand that it starts with you becoming self-assured.

I know this because I was unsure for most of my entire life.
Wondering why my kindness never afforded me very many likes.

Then I released my responsibility for other’s emotions,
and turned inward to build control in what I have control over.

And I relaxed into the goddess that you see before you today.
And I stretch forth my hand to pull you towards A Queen’s Way.
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“Mistress of Words”©

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“Artist”
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Whores Verses Hoes

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No more excuses!

I smile when people get on their soap boxes with wagging fingers against the moral character of people when they lie, cheat, manipulate on a daily basis as well. They hide behind religion and pretense, and glamor, proper English, and their expensive cars AND/OR meager dwellings so that they can and say “I’m better than you” because I’m more *blessed than you, or I’m better than you because I have *no desire to want what you have.

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

All of women utilize our sexuality in various degrees, but we pretend to abhor intense representations of feminine sexuality.

Why?

Because you can be discreet about rug burns on your knees as you gag from the flesh of man/men being pushed down your throat? The man you’re married to that doesn’t want to fork you anymore, boyfriends who are with you cause they need a place to stay, male friends that come and “maintenance” your hole every few  weeks like clock work.

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You are full of shit!

Church whores and Head Wrapped hoes alike! I regret my naivete that became my stupidity after I knew better.. I regret all the wasted moisture my body created for dicks that couldn’t fuck me well and the pretty *eggplants that were good but didn’t genuinely care for me. Whoring myself for NOTHING. I know what that is. I know the pain and wasted time that comes when you ignore the facts to insist on remaining *hopeful.

So I say all this to say: do not let ANY other woman make make you feel intimidated AT ALL! Some of us are just better at hiding the crosses we bear. If you want what she has, then you can get it too, but do outright assume her life is honky-dory because her shoe game and makeup is perfect OR because she gets to fork her boyfriend and make baby number 5 in a tree house he built to drag you into off the grid living cause he’s against paying taxes.

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

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“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Creative Soul”
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Are You Begging to Be Used?

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Never beg cause begging is like asking someone if it’s OK to pay to abuse you…”
~Salkis Re

I see it all over the place. Women “asking” to be accepted, crying or foaming at the mouth with anger for not having a “fair shot” at love and companionship.

I worry about them a lot.

In fact, I was one of them.

Bitter. Angry. Vulnerable.

I spent so much time crafting rants and venting session, orchestrated smear campaigns and rebuttals to all the low life basterds who didn’t think a “woman like me” deserved to be respected and loved.

It felt good; but it was pointless.

I had to come to that stark conclusion after a while.

My look is that of a “slave archetype“, large lips, dark skin and nappy hair.

Yup. That’s all me.

But what I realized that I didn’t need to intentionally fight the stereotypes put forth by society.

In fact, as I examined things further, a lot of the notions of beauty are really a matter of “class” than esthetics. If you have a certain amount of money, you can get whatever the funk you want and WHO ever the future know you want.

That is top, middle AND the bottom line.

Money brings status and self esteem and a sense of entitlement which are the attributes that opens doors for anyone.It’s best to condition your mind to start thinking like you are rich already, instead of waiting on what might never come in actual numbers.

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Art by Salkis Re

Begging for love is what slaves do. Begging or should say (in a kinder way)’asking’ to be accepted and admired will only reduce you to servitude status.

Why?

  • Because when you ask for these things

its because they are not inside of you.

  • You think the person you want it from is responsible for giving it to you.
  • And more importantly than any reason is the fact that you think they are BETTER than you are or you would never ask it of them in the first place.

Ahh…

Servitude indeed…

Are you a master in training or a professional slave?

“Black Hat Wisdom”

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Self Esteem Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

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Be Who You Are!!

 

 

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

I get it!
You don’t want to look like a fool.
You don’t want to seem strange to people.
What want to be “normal” like everybody else.
All illusions though and elaborate figments of your imagination.
Why?
Because being like everybody else is comfortable, but it doesn’t mean that people will automatically care about you, and it certainly doesn’t guarantee love!
Quite the opposite is true.

Let me hip you to a secret about people. When you conform to their way, the perception of your value is immediately reduced in their minds.
Why Salkis?

Because to be like them when they have secret loathing within them means that you are as good or not as good as they are, and if you are on the same level, there is no reason to respect you.

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Abstract Portrait Painting by
Salkis Re

People respect those they deem better than themselves. The “herd” mentality offers comfort in that there is no one to compete with, no one to take her boyfriend away or get promoted over her at work. It’s like we all are comfortable in our collective misery, steering clear of out shining each other: BUT we don’t respect each other either.

So I got a bit sentimental today and loaded up my pen to write down what you should do.
The point is to NEVER conform. You will ALWAYS reduce yourself if you do.
Why? Because the people you are “trying” to be like are already “doing them” better than you can!

Do YOU!

My Poem:

What You See” Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Why are you so afraid
of people seeing who you are,
or doing what your heart wants you to do?
The best thing you should be wanting
is to do things so people stop fronting
like they ever really cared about you.

Your obligation is to your dreams
and making sure that what you’ve seen
becomes real for all to bear witness.
And if people admire you
then see that as nothing more than a result from you minding your business.

Pledge your allegiance to yourself
and all that you wish you could be.
Let no one interrupt,
the flow of what you want
And never be afraid of showing them
what you’ve always wanted yourself to see.

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
Website:www.iloveherart.com

Pretty Dark Skin Women

Your Vagina is Tired!

 

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

 

Your Vagina is Tired
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself how many men you’ve slept with that you wish you’d never had sex with? How many of them hold regrets for you and the wish to turn back “Father Time” for a clean slate again.

How many?

One?

Two?

ALL of them maybe?

The vagina is used to make friends,

make money,

make love,

native american art
“Eyota and Her Thunderbird”:Art by Salkis Re

and life decisions, all while being pounded and tossed about like she is separate from the rest of your body.

You act like your vagina doesn’t feel your regrets, like it doesn’t feel your shame or desire to be washed clean from your disregard of her. I think Queen Afua coined it :”The Angry Vagina”. Your vagina has been through alot.

***Your indifference and how you’ve isolated her from your heart and mind have taken a toll on you.

It’s time to stop chasing love and pleasure from those who wanted to heartlessly use your vagina like it wasn’t attached to a living breathing soul being.
It’s time to heal through right action..

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“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re ”
She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe ”
“Self Esteem Coach ”
“Queen Bee”
“Artist ”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

Pretty Dark skin Girls

Men Can Spot the Weakness in Women

Pretty Dark skin Girls
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

We say men are hunters right? Ok what are the characteristics of a hunter? Isn’t Isn’t a hunter observant and watchful of what he has his eye on? Isn’t a hunter looking for the easiest prey?

Can a hunter not spot frailties and weaknesses? Men are more observant than you think. And when they care about what they’re after, then they REALLY watch.

Men can sniff out insecure women and “feed” off you just a kill. Desperation is not what you want to be; it will make you a sitting duck. Get your mind together and quit thinking you can conceal how you feel about yourself because you can’t.

 

We have to stOP thinking that we are really concealing our feelings. These things seep into everything we do. You are going look insecure, and you will act it out or reveal it eventually.

The point is to build yourself from the inside, to have integrity and follow through is what will build your self esteem. I tell the i coach girls Guilt will destroy you faster than any other emotion because leads to shame,  self doubt, fear, intimidation, and cowardly behavior.

So how do you break the cycle of low self esteem? You have to keep your word.

Yes!!!

Keep your fucking word to yourself#!

Make a promise and come hell or high water, (keep that shit)and actually finish what you start.

When you do this, your guilt will start falling away and you will begin to trust yourself. And trusting yourself means that you can say NO to what you need to walk away from. It means you can count on yourself yo always do what is in your best interest.

How freaking awesome is that!!!

To finally be your best friend!!!

AND what does this mean for men who are after you? It means that they have to right or not at all. It means that they cannot convince you to go against your better judgment because you no longer decide what is right or wrong for you based on the approval or disappointment of ANYONE.

You are chief.

The head Honcho!

Numero Uno baby!!!

BAM!

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Who am I?

I am your fairy Godmother

“Liberator of the Breath”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”

“The Lie Slayer”

~Salkis Re

 

Black Girl Blues: I Tried to Straighten My Nose With a Cloths Pin

beautiful Dark Skin Women
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Clothes Pins on My Nose”

I remember when I would put clothes pin on my nose to try to make my nose less ‘African’. I’d steal one from the clothes line and after I said my prayers, I’d put it on my nose to try to sleep with it on through the night.

Almost made it through the night
I tossed and turned under sheets trying to console myself through the discomfort, and of course I never actually made it through the night: My record for the longest time spent with that forking clothes pin on my nose was whopping two hours though.

I know it you know

That feeling like you wish you born another way, as someone else. I would look at my mother and secretly be angry with her for mating with my dad because if she picked a lighter man, then I would have turned out prettier instead of this black and ugly that my peers called me everyday.

I thought I was Ugly

Now, my father was a handsome man. Hands down ‘Sagga Boy‘ as they say in Trinidad. I loved my father dearly, I was a ‘daddy’s girl’ through and through.

  • But I was tall like him,
  • But I had big lips like him,
  • But I had his nose
  • But I was dark like him,

so I thought I looked ugly because I looked like him and to like him meant I looked like a boy. And to top of that notion,( in my child mind) I also thought that boys should be dark and girls should be light-skin cause that’s all I saw in the media, my community etc.
It took years to get over my suppositions about beauty; It took years of allowing myself to be used, believing the biases of society and being played by the people I loved and respected for me to realize the lies.

You have to ‘decide’ to have self esteem. And in your decision to value yourself comes the responsibility of how you ‘act’ and what you do to support that. People are more concerned with themselves than you, so the approval you are seeking from others is never going to come. And They can’t give you approval because are in search of it for themselves too!

 

Your notions of yourself, if based solely on the reaction or response from other people, will be false and that’s whether they give you a compliment or a dis! Be careful with kind words too. You could become a slave to ‘positive reinforcement’ also. I’ve met gorgeous women who are used to hearing that they are gorgeous, and still get in a panic attack if the ‘aggrandizing’ from others is nonexistent or comes in a little slow.

And those early thoughts of myself is a major reason behind my artistry. I see the power of imagery.

You either Create who you want to be, or let others tell you what you are.
Which will you choose?

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How to Stop the Disease to Please!

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

How Not to Give a Shit! Oops! Did I Just Swear??

 

If you could get this one thing together, I mean this would blow this need to people please to smithereens, and
You’d have what you want out a life!

Validation and acceptance from the “tribe” was once a survival requirement.
You could have been ran out a town or burned at the stake if the important folk in your town thought you were a lunatic.

And your DNA is wired for tribal approval, which means that your brain is still operating in the vein
of “I need a group to love me so that I will gave food, protection and shelter”.
But those hunter gatherer days are long gone and you have to bribe your own mother to watch your children overnight.

You are alone…

(I get so excited saying this)
Why?
Because it means you are also FREE.

  • Free to be what you want.
  • Free to do what you want.
  • Free to have what you want.

[No tribe is gonna run you outa town for being whomever you’ve chosen to be.]

You must get this in your thick skull!
And the irony today is this: people prefer to be around people who have a strong identity.

People latch onto self aware people like white on rice!**
So you wouldn’t be alone even if you tried because you being you will also attract others who are looking for people that they too can be themselves with.
It’s a Win-Win situation my darling..

So today’s Mantra is:

The rescue I want to see is
In me being me.

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Queen Bee, Salkis Re