How you “show up” in this world is how you will allow people to treat you.
I tell many of my sisters that displaying self pity is not way to win friends
or foster good relationships but you are so used to expressing your self deprecation,
that you have lost awareness that you are even doing it.
You sound more like a defeatist, than a woman who is ready for love.
You write these exhaustive dissertations about what you are looking
for in a man as if making known what you are wanting will
thwart off any snakes from coming to bite you.
The problem is NOT in the way you look!
The problem is that you are hollow and you lack substance because
you want to be sexy and desired instead of healthy, competent and virtuous.
The very things that will set you apart from other women, are the very
things you disregard as having no intrinsic value.
There are things you are here to do, and being a sex object is NOT one of them…
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Had a conversation with a sister about “nappy hair”.
She’s been proudly rocking her natural hair for most of her adult life but of late had an epiphany
about her direction towards financial independence. It required her to do a total 180 degree turn in her
habit and her physical presentation so she straightened her hair as part of he transformation. 🐾
She said that the MONEY has increased and so has the QUALITY of eligible black men.
She says that she is now treated like a “classy” woman, given money, offers for marriage etc
shea butter slathering, cowie shell and stiff-ass wax fabric tent dresses wearing shill.
She said that when she traded it those things in for straighter hair and form flattering clothes her entire life changed!…
I nodded my head pretty much through out her entire rant,
and I had to disappointedly agree with the changes she has experienced by changing her look. 🌸
Listen, I have nappy hair and dark skin, that what “The Game of Thrones” would classify as a person of “Low Birth”.
The love of women with natural hair ALSO includes a “Totem pole” or “caste system”
where the most desirable of hair types in the natural hair category are the ones that have 3B or curly, long hair. 4C hair (“nappy hair”) is only celebrated if its suffocated with gel and stretched to its fullest elastic capacity, otherwise it’s the question is asked “What are you going to do with your hair?” 🌹
Natural girls are put into a category like:
“She’s DOWN to Earth”
“She EASY going”
“She’s in tune with nature= doesn’t want material things”.
“She doesn’t have high standards”
“She is not hard to please”
“She’s is free spirited and sexually fluid”
“She’s is anti system and will struggle and turn her back on modern conviences”..
ETC ETC ETC…
If you are natural, you are put into a “poverty” class my dear, though you will enjoy the game of objectification if you have the perfect hip to waist ratio
and a decent face you most certainly will go viral online if you can get a friend to film you on your camera phone
while you playfully dance around and drop it low in a tube dress and heels.
They will oooh and ahhh at your physique, you’ll get offers for things from married and single men in your inbox, and all will feel right for a while in your world..
Now the deal is this: men generally do not want to give you ANYTHING.
You have to REQUIRE and REQEST what you want.
But what they will do is run an AUDIT on YOU! Your age. If you have kids.
Your weight, and your overall looks are what he uses to quantify your VALUE and what he is willing to LOSE/SPEND or GIVE UP to have possession of you.
Do “our” brothers revere us as “natural women”? No.
They do not.
We are assumed to be easier to get, easier to lead, easier to influence and control.
They is no real “respect” or “reverence” happening just because you don’t straighten your hair!!!
You are simply categorized as “Reachable” especially with men of meager stature and means..
They will say they want a woman of moral character don’t they? But become defensive and condescending whenever we huddle together for “course correction” or to “clean up our act and limit frivolous sexual access to our temples”.. Here they come to critique and criticize and propagate that it’s better to be in tune with the natural fiction of sex than to have requirements to have sex with YOU.
HE does not have an issue with your promiscuity, his ISSUE arises when he is NOT given a chance to BENEFIT from YOUR promiscuity because your criteria to “play” is higher than what he can afford to give…
And so it is with us “natural” sisters too. No thrones are going to be erected in your honor just because you feel you represent “goodness” and “natural” things.
He sees you as “LESS”:
And on and on…..
Do you want this BLACK PILL today ladies?
” 👉No. You don’t but giving to yuh anyway!
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Everywhere you turn, your emotions and insecurity is exploited for sensationalism and financial gain from “marketers” and “commentators” who are only concern with “click views”. I’m specifically talking about the “trend” to discuss topics concerning discrimination against dark skin women.
I’m watching these “leaders/healers/activists” of these dark skin movements rant and rave to you. I listen to them tell dark skin women dress up when going to the grocery store, or confront light skin women about their biases.
People are profiting and helping to perpectuate a stereotype where the only “gain” you actually receive is “justification” and validation for feeling inferior to lighter skinned women.
It’s a hamster wheel.
And they CANNOT help you to heal.
Step away from ALL “ME TOO” movements because ALL those “look at me, I’m sexy too” campaigns offer is a superficial, feel good “moment”
Your REPAIR will only come from understanding and accepting that NO MAN is obligated to WANT to fuck you, because that is what all this shyte is really about!
The sex force is making you feel like you are inferior because the sexual desires/perversions are not directed your way as they are with women of other skin tones and races. But let me give you dark skin women some facts: light skin women do not in any advantage over you. They suffer emotional breakdowns, identity crisis’s, self esteem issues, panic attacks, depression, suicidal thoughts, and sexual exploitation just like women of other skin tones do.
You HAVE to step away from your need to be accepted!
You have to decide that you are enough while expanding and improving yourself through self discipline, not joining no foaming at the mouth, fanatic who’s just pretending to be sincere.
You have to learn to love aloneness so that YOUR oWn thoughts can be heard by your heart .
Conformity has you looking EXTREMELY COUNTERFEIT, and an obvious BEGGAR for a seat at the table of EXPLOITED women who are seemingly at an advantage because society says they’re attractive.
You better think again!
NO WOMAN is better than you, do not fall for that lie!!!
And you have walk with that ideal until your nervous system relaxes when in the presence of ANY woman..
LOOKS ARE ALWAYS DECEIVING!!!!!!
Some of you will wrestle with your whordom. You will think that you are above reproach and that somehow your vaginal is more pristine than that of a woman who pedals her flesh. So I will tell you what you won’t accept but what is true nonetheless.
You are defiled too.
If you have had ONEpenis inside you, you have died. A little death of the girl you once was takes place.
You emotional instability begins as you start to be more concerned about that dik than yourself.
You start to dress up for the dik.
Cook for the dik.
You worry if that dik likes your pu$$y as much as you like that dik.
You become cunning and manipulative so that dik stays fixated on you.
You were balanced before that dik.
Level headed emotionally before that dik.
Less worried about things before that dik. Now he is inside you:literally and spiritually and you struggle to find your joy outside of him.
Listen Goddess, A dik is incapable of giving you self respect and honor.(for you wives that think you are different)
A dik is an instrument of pleasure and reproduction. It is an emotional tool used to “attach” souls(emotional bodies) to each other.
And If and when you break up with that first dik, the 7 years it’s takes for total celluar regenerationis of no consquence because you are “grown” now, and see no necessity behind rebuilding yourself before getting into another relationship.
Why don’t you feel this necessity to cleanse?
Because you feel like what you are now: a WHORE and you are in a tug of war your shame as you tout that the sex you had “it didn’t mean anything to you”. Your mind and your heart’s perspective differ greatly, as you reason away your confusion and anguish.
So what is the conclusion to this whorism stuff anyway? How am I supposed to feel good about myself as a woman of I think I’m a whore? Well isn’t the point of this entire article to address the FACT that you’ve ALWAYS felt that way? You just couldn’t put it into the eloquent presentation
that I’ve done here for you, but you have indeed felt that way. You are more caught up in how it reads on paper than how it feels in your heart.
But the point is to take ownership of your body and understand which things you can overrule with your thoughts and which things are governed by physical laws that cannot be overridden.
Your body is an incubator, a DNA recorder if you will. And this means that it’s a storage space for everything you put in it: dik included. The sex you have as the whore you are is indeed your right to have, just understand that when you become initiated through sex, everything you do MUST become strategic to protect your mental and physical well being.
You should understand that since you are designed as a genetic recorder/receiver, who you fuck can “dumb you down” or “build you up” depending on his physical and emotional constitution.
As a whore, you must be self absorbed. Your livelihood depends on your ability to be selfish, selective and graceful and cunning.
Because you know that dik will alter to you and it must be for gain or what is the point really.
You are wired for natural selection. Your lack of confidence and sense of entitlement as broken skewed your perception but it can be repaired.
StepOne of your reparation:
Accept that you are a Whore. Accept that you are adulterated AND that this is the natural alteration that takes place in every woman’s life. And vow to be strategic and purposeful in ALL your future alterations whether that be with one man or 60 men.
Get Up Goddess!
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