Don’t Believe What They Say

African American Art
Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?

 

So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?
No.

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

When We Were Kings

African American Art
Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?

No!

They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?

No!

H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re

 

So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.

 

 

 

“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

African American Artist
Artist, Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

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Art by Salkis Re

STEP ONE

So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)

STEP TWO

Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.

STEP THREE

Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.

STEP FOUR

Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?

Xoxo,

Salkis

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

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To Be Desired or to Be Loved?

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“Black Girl” Art by Salkis Re

Do you want to be loved or desired?

That was a question I asked myself one day when I realized the distinction between the two.

Love, as I see it, is this relaxed thing.

It is comfort, reliable, easy going place you get to when you’ve been with someone for a while.

Sex is more like “Peeing”

Sex is more like “Peeing” as fucking becomes an act of “released/relief” of tension, frustration, boredom and stress.

Sometimes, if he wants you really badly, he’ll eat your pussy without you asking for it first, hell even eat it till you cum if he’s really horny.

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit

That’s what “love” sex becomes, a sort miss and hit with more misses than hits.
Then there’s desire. Smiling…

The one in which emotions like anxiety,

excitement,

thirst,

yearning,

 with Courting and unsteady emotions in play.

You feel a little pain when he has to leave,

your hips unhinge from their sockets to make more room for his dik, you want to swallow him, and he you..

That desire that interrupts your work as you start to tingle and secrete with just the thought of him inside you,

and he gets hard just watching you get dressed.

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Art Process by Salkis Re

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep

Men who “love” make promises they can’t keep because they are past the point of the intensity that initiated the vow in the first place.

Love is a road where you will meet disappointment, betrayal, boredom and regret.

Being Desired or desiring someone is a road where you are emotionally satisfied,

so satisfied that you don’t feel the sting of the betrayal,

and you recover quickly from disappointment,

you feel minimal boredom, and good experiences overshadow regrets…

So yes, you get those things you don’t want in both Love and Desire but “how” you feel them lends to entirely different experiences.

And there it is.. I had to choose one, it most definitely would be to be DESIRED.
“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

 

P.S. Be sure to share and subscribe to this blog. You will find the link in the top right corner of this site homepage..

Love Ya!

I Put a Spell On Me!!

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Casting Love spells is a hot thing to do. I will admit it. I tried a couple spells back in the days too.

Did some pretty nasty stuff like smudging period blood on my neck, I even cooked dinner for an imaginary husband for 3 months straight.

My daughter thought I was bat shyte crazy.

And I was a little, still am actually.

I’m open to the impossible.

But…

What they say, or what I didn’t hear, was the key ingredient for ANY intention to work is focus,

That of belief and a sense of entitlement  for what you are going after.

I wasn’t ready for a man.

I didn’t think I really deserved the love that I wrote on paper.

So I ignored what I felt inside while hoping that the universe would overlook how fearful and unsure I was.

 

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Art by Salkis Re

Maybe you are in the same boat…

Hurt by the ghosts of your past loves.

Wondering if it’s your lot in life never to be the object of a man’s passions.

It doesn’t have to be this way though.

And the road to healing doesn’t have to feel like 5000 stomach crunches..

Because the road to being receptive to love, to companionship, and soul mating

is one of relaxation and confidence, NOT worry.

The first step is to stop worrying about not having a man.

Yessssssss. That’s what I said.

What you worry about, is what you will get.

Why?

Because of the intensity of your emotions and the concentration on that thing you are emotive about,

which of course is: not having a man.

Get busy right now with changing your attitude.

And the only way to bring the atmosphere of love into your existence is through self care.

Self Care..

Eat Right.

Sleep Right.

Create.

DO things that Challenge you.

There are too many things you need know,

too many things you could be doing right now instead of brooding over fantom penises.

And these TOO MANY THINGS are the very glue that with bring the fairy dust transmutation and irresistibility straight to your door step.

Worry will weaken you.

Feeling lonely is a sign of a lack of imagination.

Creativity ignites passion, and its when you are truly passionate about anything that you invite people to come as spectators, lovers  and so on.

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“The World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

SO the Answer?

Become MORE PASSIONATE.

Find something that gets your juices flowing. Do something that takes up your time in a constructive way.

And let whatever you choose transform you into a wanted woman!!!

XOXO,

Salkis

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

The Critics Love You!

 

 

What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

African American Artist, Salkis Re

Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

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                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

You Are What You FEEL You Are!!

Heal From Past Relationships

Everybody sees things in their own way. There is no possible way to be completely objective.

Why? Because you process everything in your world based on the information files in your head.

You gauge what you are seeing by what you have seen before, always in route to the familiar road.

We all filter our environment in this way, and it’s necessary to do so in order to avoid stimulation overload.

You see what you see based on how you feel about yourself, and how you feel about yourself is based on your health, how your nervous system responds, and, of course, your past experiences.

The important thing to remember is that we ALL have a lense, a filter by which we SEE, so this means that reality will ALWAYS be somewhat distorted.

This also means that because we are all innately see in distortion, we should not take what we see for face value.

There’s a lot of unconscious whoo-ha happening at the same time too.

So how do you combat the distortion in your perception?

By becoming a little skeptical.

Check things out further and ask questions for clarity.

Never assume that you know exactly what you are seeing.

You cannot control what you see ALL of the time!

Your genetics as well as your experiences determine how you see and how you think.

Your:

Needs

Beliefs

Emotional State

Physiological State

and Habitual Behavior Patterns

ALL decide what you see and experience.

So let’s break down each one.

NEEDS:

Needs alter your reality because it makes you focus on fulfilling  not particular need. If you are thirsty, you are gonna be looking everywhere for water.

Ormaybe you have a need to impress a new boyfriend, so you go out of your way to find something special to wear when you have perfect clothes n your closet already.

Having a need makes you dissatisfied with your surroundings, with people, even yourself.

BELIEFS

Beliefs are predetermined or preconceived notions, Values, Prejudices, about ongoing interactions. Of instance, a neat freak who Values being extra clean will think that everything around her isn’t clean enough and often this leads to exaggeration of the level untidiness in the environment she is in.

 

EMOTIONAL STATE

When you are aroused with emotions like anger, you are gonna see the world as dangerous and unpleasant.

When you are in love, you see the world through Rose colored glasses.

And when you are depressed(you are feeling Blue).

You are, whatever you are feeling at the time, and you SEE based on what you are feeling in that moment.

 

PHYSIOLOGICAL STATE

What you see through your filter is predicated upon your physical being. If you have a fever, headache, tired, under medication, even hungry can cause you to act frustrated, detached, or argumentative.

And a lot of times, we don’t even notice the shift in our emotional constitution that the physical body invites us into.

HABITUAL BEHAVIOR PATTERNS

These are coping strategies applied to justfiable or unjustifiable situations. You simply act in a certain way to avoid pain or harm whether or not you are in situations that call for it. Most people simply reach into their bag of tricks to pull out a familiar response to their world, never taking the time to base a response on accurate assessments instead.

 

So here an exercise for you:

Spend the next few days imagining that your eyes are a camera and your ears are a microphone. Bring awareness to your ears and create a voice over in your head narrating what you see and hear.

Imagine responses you would NOT normally give and take note of how your awareness of your reality shifts.

In other words: Flip the script!

You will start to SEE with broader focus and more accurately too because you will be outside of your usual distorted response patterns.

Let me end here by saying this:

People do dastardly things for a myriad of reasons;
low blood sugar,

disease,

fear,

anxiety,

loneliness and so forth,

can and WILL distort the lenses of one’s reality AND decision making.

Take your hands off THEIR wheel!

The part were you come in is with how you respond to it, and what you do with the ‘awareness ‘ they’ve now given to you.
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“Medicine Woman”

“Artist”

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
My Website for coaching and art: www.iloveherart.com

 

 

 

Learning the Game Early

 

African American art
Art by Salkis Re

“We’ve Learned”
Written by Salkis Re

Little girls learn what the bigger girls have to do,
preoccupied their minds with looking pretty like them too.

Then mommy steps in
cause she wants to slow us down,
saying we have to wait till we’re a bit bigger to wear her crown.

But we see early
the inner workings of the game,
and we see the point, and we don’t see a point to wait.

Mommy says we look pretty,
and this makes us feel so good,
and Daddy give her more love when she puts on these clothes.

So we’re here
ransacking the dresser drawer looking for her swag,
cause we know we got to look more good
to get more than what we have.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com
#artinprogress

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Today’s message is to learn quickly. To learn without the right or wrong contemplations with necessities. If you need to do it, do it!

Game isn’t going anywhere and if you want someone in your life, you WILL have to conform in order to get what you want.

You have to be pretty to create the environment of cooperation in men.

And if the cards of life have dealt you with mediocrity in the face, you MUST act like you are prettier than you actually are.

It’s as simple as that.

 

How To Become What You Need to Be to Get What You Want?!

 

 

African American art by Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Aren’t you tired of being used?
Aren’t you tired of falling for the con game?
Aren’t you tired of giving till your hands bleed with no reciprocity in sight?
I know you are tired, but apparently not tired enough to switch your style.
You still believe in things that tell lies to your face.

You still doubt what it is that you know.
And now it’s even worse because you have access granted into Social Media Relationships. Perfect lighting, Rosy filters, and exotics locals make you fume like warm shit as you eat yourself into a drunken woe-is-me stupor.

Fussing over illusions and staged photos of people pretending to be madly in love, has now become your portion to eat..
Evaluating your life against that of women whom you’ve no clue as to the price they’ve paid for the appearance of luxury they enjoy.

Why can’t that be you is what you ask..
So what’s the answer here?
The answer is that your tongue is your sword and your word is your bond, AND whatever you desire AND EXPECT, you will get.
So am I saying that you can have the fairytale?

Absolutely!! You can have it, if, and only if, you are willing to pay the price!!

Go back to Instagram and your Facebook feeds. Take a closer look at those girls you are jealous of. What are their habits, their daily regimen? If they live in the gym, or walk around the grocery aisles with faces beat for the Gods, are you willing to do that in order to be ranked worthy of her kind of relationship?

Look again.
Are you willing to live in a van and eat berries off trees while teaching yoga classes to bum enough money for an evening meal of beans and rice? (I love those yoga couples by the way, I imagine their sex game is outstanding!!?🙈).
Sexy passion without the want/need for material things sound like a great life to you?

Or maybe it’s a 6 bedroom house with chefs and nannies with lots of shopping more your tune?
Or maybe you are one of those “Independent” girls and your dream is just to go Dutch on the dinner, half on the mortgage and the car note?
Which ever one you decide on, has its own UNIFORM, its own protocol, its rules and regulations in order to execute it successfully.
There is a mentality you have to adopt in order to affix yourself into the role you want to star in.
The point of it all is that ALL of them require WORK on your part if you plan to have some semblance of happiness within the experience.

Listen darling, you can even be a combination of all the choices I’ve listed and Hallelujah, the Saints will be marching in on your behalf for sure!

Once you decide what position you want to play, it’s then time to start working on a personality conducive to the outcome you hope to achieve.
An artist paints.
A writer, writes.
A chef, cooks.
And so on, and so on.
A wish with out work is like faith without work : DEAD!
You assignment today is to ACT as if!
You want to appear beautiful?
Then ACT like beautiful women act!!
Yesssss damn it! ACT LIKE IT!
Well what about the “Just Be YOURSELF” thing Salkis?

I call BULLSHIT on that right now!!!!!

Why?
Because you DON’T have what you want right now because you are yourself.

So this means you can’t achieve what you by being yourself!

Create the personality that YOUR mind feels is synonymous with beauty and abundance and you will train your brain to respond in that way. Even more importantly, you will be sending out feelers into the atmosphere to attract that energy back to you.
It is as simple as that.

You have to rinse and repeat..

Then rinse and repeat again

until it doesn’t feel like a lie anymore.

You have to put hand gestures into it.

You have to get excited about it because creating anything should fucking excite you!!!

You are the magician over your life, and acting AS-If is what turns ANYTHING you say into the mother sucking TRUTH!!
Doing anything long enough and loud enough, you will make you FORGET that it’s a lie, and it will STOP being a lie too!

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Are you ready for the secrets of mind control and self esteem? These are the two things you need to acquisition what you want from this life of yours.

As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And what I have found is this: when you rid the of shame and guilt you begin to SOAR.

You have to heal

You have to believe.

And you have to do!

Allow me to help you..

Email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Website: http://www.iloveherart.com/life-coach-here/

Brothers that Hate Sisters!

Beautiful Black WomenI get trolling men who enjoy “attempting” to inflict emotional pain on me with crass, emotionally packed comments which are nearly always sexually charged.

Their curiosity for my dick-sucking skills or how of dicks have actually been in my mouth is a common sentiment from our “brothers”. Another common response is in the defense of this collective notion amongst them which states that black women are manly- looking, sperm- guzzling sluts who do not deserve respect or any of the comforts other “types” of women enjoy.

I take no issue with ANY brother who expresses this IF they would just stay away from us. But here they are, pretending to like you, impregnating you, wasting your time, your money, and your body, all while having degrading thoughts within their heads about you.

And you are lost because you think the main criteria for a relationship is in how much you LOVE him. You gamble your life, your beauty, your hopes and dreams on an EMOTION. And these very men resent and call you a fool for doing so.

So what are we to do here?
What is the solution to keeping men like this at Bay?
No Sex would be THE solution.
But many of is prove our worth through sex. And we become the chasers and the subordinates straight out the gate.
You can’t win doing it in this order.
So what does this mean for you?
It means that your position, the only had you play, would be that of SHOW ME!

Salkis Re, Artist, Healer, Medicine Woman

Love is not up for interpretation, and love is quite easy to create. Spend enough time with ANY man, whether you are deeply attracted to him or not, you will begin to have feelings for him and he for you.
No Sex equates to EMOTIONAL CONTROL of your own mind!
It allows you to maintain objectivity and reasoning as you quantify the value of the man you are spending time with.

You can love any man who is interested in you, who cares for you in word AND deed. That is TRUE LOVE because you able to be practical and reasonable in your relationship with him. You are not a fiend or his sexual puppet which often happens when you give up your vagina before merit is displayed. You don’t give yourself time to see if he’s after you to fill his curiosity or have the opportunity to win your love.
The point?
The point is that he MUST win your love!
And that my dear, the winning of your love, should NEVER end!

 

 

 

Black Hat Society”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Savor”
~Salkis Re
www.iloveherart.com

Are you ready for the secrets of mind control and self esteem? These are the two things you need to acquisition what you want from this life of yours.

As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And now I’m here to shorten the learning curve for you..

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Who to Forgive?

 

 

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“Life Coach” ~Salkis Re

What is the necessity of forgiveness?
To expunge the sins of another?
To wipe the slate clean?
Can you pretend that you were never hurt?
That is what forgiveness requires.
A forgetting.
An exoneration of an act, so that person can move without shame in your presence.
But you never truly forgive because the potential to commit a crime has made you aware of a new possibility that could happen again at any moment.
How can you trust “potential” or a proclivity that comes out of hiding?
You can’t.
And no one should ask that of you.
You can live on of course.

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Can You See Me?”
Art by Salkis Re

You CAN live on the “bright” side to salvage what’s left over from the damage done.

You CAN live a dynamic life after a broken heart!!!

The most beautiful things are created from the longing of a broken heart.

Pain helps you to focus IF you use it correctly.

Many of you can’t fathom how pain and anger are the emotions for transformation, but they absolutely are!

Joy gives you hope.

BUT pain makes you change!

You can rebuild****
But to REBUILD means to make something new, thus the old way is no more.
Who can you swear by?
YOURSELF.
WHO can you trust 💯 percent?
YOURSELF!
Carry on…

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“Black Hat Society”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Life Savor”
~Salkis Re
www.iloveherart.com

Are you ready for the secrets of mind control and self esteem? These are the two things you need to acquisition what you want from this life of yours.

As an underdog my entire life, I was on a personal question to understand worth and my value in this world. And what I have found is this: when you rid the of shame and guilt you begin to SOAR.

You have to heal

You have to believe.

And you have to do!

Allow me to help you..

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You Can’t Be YOURSELF!

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  • You are what you say.
    You are what you do.
    You are how you feel.
    And everything you do, say, and feel is a result of what you are getting out the deal.

What do I mean?

I mean there is a pay off for how you behave:
Attention, sympathy, validation, love, money etc..
You would not be what you are without an audience to provide an exchange for your performance.

And if it’s a pleasant reaction, if it makes you feel good, you will do it over and over and over again.
So what am I saying here?
I’m saying that there is no such thing as authenticity.

There is no such thing as the True Self.
If no one was watching you or interacting with you, you wouldn’t be what you are right now.

If you were stranded on a deserted island suddenly, you’d quickly become a new person because there would be no one around to be what you are for.

That said, you are like quantum physics that says the atom particle behaves differently when it’s being observed.
You are living your life as an actor on a stage, making motions to shock people or to make men think sexual thoughts about you.

Moors in Art
Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

You have a sense of your value based on your interactions with people. You can’t quantify or validate your own worth outside of the presence of others.
Seems grim but it’s not really.
All this means is that you have Card Blanche and full authority to create a persona deliberately. You get to decide what qualities get activated or deactivated within you.

You now understand that permission to BE is not going to fall in your lap, and no one is capable of granting it to you. They can only interact with you based on what they feel and you let them based on what you think you will experience and the value you think you will receive from them.

Don’t BE yourself, CREATE yourself!

“Spiritual Advisor for Hire”
“Black Hat Society”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

Do visit my website to book as session with me and to buy art to help you concentrate and focus your mind in order to control it..

Stop Beating Yourself Up..

Goddess Worship Kali
“The Conjurer”
Art by Salkis Re

Do not let anyone disturb your peace. Your vibrance and vitality is contingent upon have an environment that supports your emotional well-being. Everything you are experiencing now is a direct result of how you manage your emotions.

The World In Your Hands
Painting by Salkis Re

🤔The reason why you let people run over you is because of how you manage your emotions.

🤔The reason you think you can’t follow your dreams is the result of how you manage your emotions.

🤔The reason you feel you can’t live without a man that doesn’t love is a result of how you handle your emotions.

🤔The reason you won’t ask for a raise at a job you work so hard at is due to how you handle your emotions.

Some of you need an exercism!!
A total washing away of who you have “decided” to be.

I thought I was nothing my entire life. I thought I was the “monkey” that people called me. I did not handle my emotions well because I believed the moronic shyte that people said that I was.

Listen to me..
The only thing you have to conquer is your habit of being a slave to your own emotions.
You direct your mind!
You say what you are!
You determine what it is that you are!
I am here to guide you back to self!
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“Black Hat Society”

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

“Mistress of Words”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Website: www.iloveherart.com

Your Dark Side

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“Goddess Energy”
Art by Salkis Re

 

Every woman I Coach is in conflict to some degree with their darker side. They want things that they carry shame for wanting. They want to be in control but they want it to come naturally.. They want to be the center and the main focus in the lives of men who are not incentivized to put them in that position.

And they repress and deny their desires because it’s not ‘good’ to have them, yet in a sick twist of irony, the every men who’s will they concede to get to exercise their dark sides by imposing emotional hardship and in some instances,  physical trauma too.

Women ‘allow’ a center stage to the free will and the selfish proclivities of the people, yet think its ‘wrong’ to insist that their own free will is undeserving to roam free.

Self decieving is what that’s called. A belief in something you do NOT agree with.

What fools women ‘decide’ that they have to be.

Wake Up Little Mummy.

Rise from your sarcophagus and start to live your life, on your terms and in a way that preserves LIVING flesh.

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“Mistress of Words”

African American Art
“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Medicine Woman”

“Creative Soul”

~Salkis Re

 

 

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He is Using You!

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African American Art by Salkis Re

Had a coaching session yesterday with an older woman who’s recently come back into the dating scene. She was very proud of her accomplishments financially and the fact that she “didn’t need a man”.

Unfortunately though, all that 😏 pride didn’t amount to a hill of beans when it came to her relationship with her boyfriend. Your *financial Independence doesn’t make you immune to disregard, complacency and disrespect in a *romantic relationship. You could be a waitress at Waffle House and display living in subsidized housing and still be Independent. You have all the money, but you’re still the grovelling and begging and beseeching him for quality time, sex and basic consideration.

Moors in Art
Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your bank statement can’t disguise your lack of 😯 emotional Independence 🙄 and this is why you can *make it rain for his ass and he spends YOUR money on a girl that grounded with standards that require him to either piss or get off the pot.

I’m hearing this story too often, and I’m telling you that it hurts you in the long run cause he’ll eventually see that you are only on point when it comes to your money, nothing else.
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“Mistress of Words”

witches
“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“The Crone”
~Salkis Re
🤗Art by Salkis Re

 

 

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Push Through!

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“Isabella Doesn’t Want to Leave” Art by Salkis Re

The weekend is almost here. Another week gone with tasks incomplete and more to hope to accomplish than anything actually done.

It’s easy not to try, but its cost will steal currency throughout your entire life. Not trying means that nobody gets hurt, no one suffers disappoint or the shame that comes from failing, but what also doesn’t happen is that you never get to experience what you could have become. You then live out your days in the shadow of quiet agony over what might have been.

Not trying is a the purchase of certain failure, it’s a sort death really, which is what surpression gifts you. Life is hard but it’s exciting too, and it becomes quite the game that it really is when you approach it as no big deal.

You lose, so what.

You gain, so what.

You keep moving at all costs, testing and stretching your abilities. This is ALL that life is about: trial and error.

Get out of your own way and fly my darling. Fall on your face just like a child first learning to walk. Don’t be ashamed to learn from your lessons, for this is how wisdom is obtained.

In other words, grow up AND become a child again…

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“Mistress of Words”

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

“Spiritual Healer”

“Life Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website:

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Whores Verses Hoes

African American Women
No more excuses!

I smile when people get on their soap boxes with wagging fingers against the moral character of people when they lie, cheat, manipulate on a daily basis as well. They hide behind religion and pretense, and glamor, proper English, and their expensive cars AND/OR meager dwellings so that they can and say “I’m better than you” because I’m more *blessed than you, or I’m better than you because I have *no desire to want what you have.

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

All of women utilize our sexuality in various degrees, but we pretend to abhor intense representations of feminine sexuality.

Why?

Because you can be discreet about rug burns on your knees as you gag from the flesh of man/men being pushed down your throat? The man you’re married to that doesn’t want to fork you anymore, boyfriends who are with you cause they need a place to stay, male friends that come and “maintenance” your hole every few  weeks like clock work.

Salkis Re

You are full of shit!

Church whores and Head Wrapped hoes alike! I regret my naivete that became my stupidity after I knew better.. I regret all the wasted moisture my body created for dicks that couldn’t fuck me well and the pretty *eggplants that were good but didn’t genuinely care for me. Whoring myself for NOTHING. I know what that is. I know the pain and wasted time that comes when you ignore the facts to insist on remaining *hopeful.

So I say all this to say: do not let ANY other woman make make you feel intimidated AT ALL! Some of us are just better at hiding the crosses we bear. If you want what she has, then you can get it too, but do outright assume her life is honky-dory because her shoe game and makeup is perfect OR because she gets to fork her boyfriend and make baby number 5 in a tree house he built to drag you into off the grid living cause he’s against paying taxes.

witches
“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Creative Soul”
“Spiritual Advisor”
~Salkis Re

You need me. OK. Then click this link and let me coach you.
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How a Woman Should Love a Man

“Understanding How to Love”
Written by Salkis Re

Appreciation rushes into your heart only when you’re about to lose what you’ve taken for granted. And Love works the same way; you don’t love until your life is disrupted by the anguish for losing someone. Familiarity breeds contempt and disregard for that person. But if they leave, if they display any indifference towards you, it levels the playing field and the upper hand you enjoyed crumbles like a house of cards.

Big eyes in art
Sketch by Salkis Re

You start questioning your value as it seems your kingdom was mirage of sorts, a figment of your ego instead of reality. Love is like that.
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A give and take, which is a “loss” and “gain”, both intentionally or unexpected. You as a woman are a nurturing soul, designed to observe, create, absolver, build and repair the environment around you. You are designed to lead while being shielded, that may be from the back, or from the side, but never in harms way. Your obligation is to position yourself so that you are always protected.
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Art in progress by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your cunning is your “natural defense”. All the things that you are to be: sensitive, respectful, loving, supportive should only come out in its fullest capacity AFTER the receiver is “tried and proven” worthy of it, and even then, you know what it does, so you give and take away in accordance with what’s needed to maintain an environment that keeps you intrigued and delighted.
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“Mistress of Words”

African American Art
“Spiritual Advisor” ~Salkis Re

“Black Hat Society”

“Spiritual Advisor”

“Creative Soul”

~Salkis Re

 

 

 

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Are You Begging to Be Used?

African American art
“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

“Never beg cause begging is like asking someone if it’s OK to pay to abuse you…”
~Salkis Re

I see it all over the place. Women “asking” to be accepted, crying or foaming at the mouth with anger for not having a “fair shot” at love and companionship.

I worry about them a lot.

In fact, I was one of them.

Bitter. Angry. Vulnerable.

I spent so much time crafting rants and venting session, orchestrated smear campaigns and rebuttals to all the low life basterds who didn’t think a “woman like me” deserved to be respected and loved.

It felt good; but it was pointless.

I had to come to that stark conclusion after a while.

My look is that of a “slave archetype“, large lips, dark skin and nappy hair.

Yup. That’s all me.

But what I realized that I didn’t need to intentionally fight the stereotypes put forth by society.

In fact, as I examined things further, a lot of the notions of beauty are really a matter of “class” than esthetics. If you have a certain amount of money, you can get whatever the funk you want and WHO ever the future know you want.

That is top, middle AND the bottom line.

Money brings status and self esteem and a sense of entitlement which are the attributes that opens doors for anyone.It’s best to condition your mind to start thinking like you are rich already, instead of waiting on what might never come in actual numbers.

African American Art
Art by Salkis Re

Begging for love is what slaves do. Begging or should say (in a kinder way)’asking’ to be accepted and admired will only reduce you to servitude status.

Why?

  • Because when you ask for these things

its because they are not inside of you.

  • You think the person you want it from is responsible for giving it to you.
  • And more importantly than any reason is the fact that you think they are BETTER than you are or you would never ask it of them in the first place.

Ahh…

Servitude indeed…

Are you a master in training or a professional slave?

“Black Hat Wisdom”

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”

“Self Esteem Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website: www.iloveherart.com