Pretty Girls Want to Join the Ugly Girls Club

Hey  There UGLY GIRL!”
Transit time 6:19 a.m. Feb.8.2019

Pull of a chair, let me have a chat with you for a moment!
You wanna know what funny Ugly Girl?

Now that I’m focusing all of my energy on YOU,

women who are NOT Ugly, who are actually attractive, pretty,

beautiful, are coming to me asking to be apart of this coalition.
They are saying that “ugly” isn’t ONLY about looks Salkis,

it’s about how you FEEL inside. Attractive women are now admitting

to feeling low self esteem, to being manipulated and used just like US.

Dark skin women

 

 

But to qualify, they are coming with vague terms like
“I have an “ugly SOUL”: can I join?
Or ” I have an “ugly VIBE”: can I join?” 
Or “I have an “ugly HEART”, can I join?
Or “I have an “ugly ATTITUDE”, can I join?
And when I ask what they mean by it,

 

 their answers reveal what they PRETEND they don’t experience!!

So now I’m stepping back to see what I can use as a teaching lesson for you UGLY GIRL.
I told you Ugly Girls, you dark skin women in particular,

that there was no such thing as “light skin privilege” and that this term used

to describe feeling rather than a FACT because it created to create division and

an emotional assumption that a certain types of women are:

immune to being abused,

low self esteem,

depression,

poor mental and physical health,

being a baby mama,

being financially unstable etc..

 

I told you that any black woman that tells you that

she enjoys light skin privilege is LYING TO YOU,
and you got angry with me and pointed fingers at me while

accusing me of being “soft” on the issue and delusional at best..

 

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

 

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

And I’m thinking to myself, how do you women do not see the “game” here?

But how could you when you’ve been boxed into an emotional lens your entire life.

I tell you that I talk to these women,

I coach these women, they come to me in confidence and tell me their struggles,

and the consensus that I’ve concluded is that there is

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

It’s funny though that now that I want to create a space for UNATTRACTIVE women,

women who aren’t unattractive want to redefine the

term by admitting their failings in life so that they can be included..

I’m all over social media spreading this message!

 

 

This is all that I talk about on all my social media platforms.

The fallacy of attractiveness being the holy grail of a woman’s life must be debunked,

yet I do know first hand that unattractive women are more times than not,

are not given a chance to reveal their true value because of

prejudice and this assumed worthlessness based on how we look…

 

So I’m going to focus THAT, on THEM, on US, because

WE need tools and support to navigate through this thing called life..

“The Ugly Girls Club”
Founder, Salkis Re
Art behind me: by Salkis Re

 

 
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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Natural Beauty Is Not In You!

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Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

Everything you feel about yourself is wrong,

corrupt,

self serving,

addictive and dangerous.

This society will not give us the balance and the peace we are looking for.

And the road to wellness requires that you pull apart everything that you assume is normal in your lives.

We were taught how to love each other, how to have sex with each other and

most if not all of what we know about love and sex is wrong.

 

We have now a deep seeded feeling of guilt and inadequacy.

We want desperately to be like other people who are other than what we are.

And even within our own so-called black community we

have caste systems in place designed to differentiate women by features,

The worth of a black woman is measured from how her outer shell is formed.

 

 

The goodness of her heart is not treasured and appreciated.

His focus on your backside has roots in homosexuality and to be truthful, and

the appetites of men these days in many ways is suspect and not as “heterosexual” as we are made to think it is…

 

 

You are running around here trying to be like men because you are scared of being hurt and manipulated. And you mimic the toxicity of men which is double jeopardy in itself..

All of us are out of our minds in one way or another..
And its time to get back to basics and the love we want to feel will come…
Your Self Love Coach
~Salkis Re

 

 

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Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Making Decisions Based On What You Are Is A Mistake!!

Young Women.

Let me talk to you.
What our society will influence you to do is to enjoy the moment.

Your friends, maybe even your well-meaning but unwise mother

will push you into believing that you are to young to plan for your future today.

Focus on your Career

(when what you really have is a “job” not a career) is what they say.

Travel the world

(and you spend money you had to save the whole year to purchase a trip you can’t afford truly to take)
DO YOU, is what they exclaim over and over again,

and the doing of YOU evolves around instantaneous

pleasures and making decisions based on what you are at this moment..

Let me explain this to you. Make decisions based on

what you want your “future” to be, NOT on what you are right now.

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Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re Art by Salkis Re

Why?
Because what you are right now is TRANSIENT.

You won’t be what you are right now in 20 years,

the calls for dates or sex will slow down or stop altogether.

The “options” that you have today will NOT be here in in 10 years, so you must plan.

EVERYTHING you do is an investment in your future, from what you eat,

to who you have sex with,

to the children you have or decided NOT to have based on

THIS MOMENT INSTEAD OF YOUR FUTURE SELF

will affect your tomorrow.
We are not men.

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Artist, Author, Life Coach; Salkis Re

Thinking whole-listically is necessary for survival for us

because our worth is judged by TIME.

Nobody is going to tell you this but me..

And though I struggle daily with the relevance of social media.
And I admittedly grow impatient by the day for the

emotional prattling of women

who habitually deflect and deny to promote and maintain their facade.
But I have a mission here.

A mission to help you see things before

you become another case study or statistic..

So plan out your day.
Leave NOTHING to chance.

Carry On..

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Why should you listen to me?

 

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals

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Achieving Your Goals Is Not Done With Vision Boards!

Authenticity is overrated.
And it will halt all your goals.
And people will shame you for pretending.
And you’ll feel ashamed for pretending.
Then you will go back to what you know.

Then realize -AGAIN- that it doesn’t work.
Then you’ll revisit trying to change.
And you’ll conclude that being unlike the real you is better.
Now all that’s left, is to be that pretender
until you forget that it’s not what you are….

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It might feel icky to be a fraud,

but that only because you believe that everyone around is telling

you the truth while being themselves.

You are being humored every DAY.

People are polite, act like they are interested in what you have to say,

some even pretend to be impressed

and attracted to you.

And here you are,

afraid to fail them by adopting a personality to fix your own life,

to get you results that could make you better.

So tell me this, how do you change while staying the same?

How do you grow while staying the same?

How can you get something you’ve never gotten before while having the same mentality?

I’ll answer the answer: It cannot be done!!

Continue reading “1# BEST Way to Accomplish ALL Your Goals”

Dark Skin Women Get No Love From Dark Skin Men???

One of my viewers made a comment on my “Are Dark Skin Men The Enemy”
I did that video because Sooooooo many dark skin women have sentiments of
struggle and trauma around getting a dark skin man
want her or keeping the relationship positive and respectful.

She Stated:
“I was told by a Light Skin woman that her mother
told her to get the dark skin
man you could find and he would work like a “slave”
and cater to you, then you won’t have to work.
She married the dark skin man but she’s “in love”
with a light skin man who treats her like shyte!!”
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life coach for black women

YOU ARE SLAVES to THEM!!


I told you men previously that a whole LOT of you are work mules and called
a stupid MONKEYS when these women huddle in secret sister circles to
swap tactics and brag about what you do for them.
Spiritual Life Coach for Black Women
Your Self Esteem Coach: Salkis Re


I am Not Blaming Light Skin Women


The problem is not in your choice to love NOR is it with Light Skin women,
it’s the extra verbal condemning of women who more times than not actually
HAVE or COULD HAVE “genuine” feelings of endearment and concern for you.
You’ll call dark women names (and clown us WITH your light SKIN girlfriend)
because you are of the impression that you are MONKEY STATUS EXEMPT
because you can throw her a few yards and have a nice ride???
How Sway??

You will Choose A Woman Who Does Not Want You Again!!


You think that because you can make her moan
that you are disqualified from the classification you put dark women in??

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Lol This “enthusiastic” dating style has got y’all running after women who

are fucking other men behind your back, taking
YOUR money to help the man -she actually IS in love with- pay a few bills and so on..

Don’t I always say: “We are always looking for someone
BETTER than ourselves” And that this is exactly why we get out hearts broken!!!
Carry On

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“Your Self Esteem Coach”
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
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We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”

“We Are Not Like Men, But We Can Be Guided By Them”
Transit time January 25, 2019 3:45 a.m.
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Dark skin women
Your Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

👉Men: Give Love /
Women: React

👉Men: Say What They Have Knowledge In/  Women: Say What you Want to hear.

👉Men: Are Vulnerable Mentally /
Women: Are vulnerable Physically

👉Men: Are Impersonal /
Women: Take Everything Personally

👉Men: Fascinated by Reasoning/
Women: Bored and find Reasoning exhausting

👉Men: Praise/  Women: Criticize

👉Men: Invent/  Women: Imitate

I am NOT pointing out these thing as a suggestion that we try to act like men, the goal here is for you to start learning about yourself so that you can be a more effective communicator with men AND you will also being to understand why you say/do the thing YOU do.

And this is why we get repetitiously limited results

And this is why we get repetitiously limited results in our lives as women. We need men to balance us, but women are so broken by numerous failed relationships that every character trait you posses is now pathological in scope.

We fake like we are unicorns flowing through life unbothered, yet it’s part of our disposition to be pretentious and critical of everything EXCEPT ourselves.

KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers

KNOWING how you tick means that you know what your triggers are and how to shift away from a behavior that doesn’t give you the results you’re looking for.

We need to be seen, we NEED to be acknowledged and this need is easily exploitable by men people they have the upper hand of logic and analysis.

You THINK with your body

THINK with your body. You filter your world through a sense of what’s hot or cold, not wrong or right.
So walking with the awareness of this truth allows you to step back a bit because you are giving your body time to settle down so that you can THINK instead of REACT.

A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets

Take your first tiny little step towards happiness by simply acknowledging that you don’t think things through in the way that you should, and vow to only make a decisions after thinking them through first. A little more mindfulness can help you dodge so many bullets and WILL change your entire life!😉

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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“The Pressure to Look Sexy!

“The Pressure to Look Sexy”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen, I’ve been accused of being undercover feminist lesbian when I get into my cautionary rants;

the resistance usually comes from men who feel in threatening a reduction in their prospects/prey or women

who believe they are more attractive than I am which makes my message inapplicable to them…

The reoccurring theme here, the message within all of my writings is that you see the truth of how your emotions become weaponized and used against you.
The pressure to “look valuable” is real.

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This is why we wear the form fitting clothes, plaster makeup on our faces, post selfies, wear weaves and high heels that some of can’t even walk in..
Somebody told you that you had to do this in order to be relevant and “considered”.

And MOST of us are looking like desperate fools in clown makeup and

clothing with spandex material in that that makes you assume you’ve bought the right size.

Shaming here?
No. Waking here!
Wake up to the fact that you are in a game that’s set up for you to lose,

because when you lose (of feel lost) you turn into a consumer/believer/minion

for those that make sales to help cure your low self esteem.

African Art by Salkis RE
African art by Salkis Re

What’s the truth here though?
The truth is that we are different, but different doesn’t necessarily mean better or worse; it simply means that I cannot be you and you cannot be me…

I’m interested in sisterhood.

 

I’m interested in sisterhood . Though I cried it down as an impossible task -because women are emotional conn artists- I am renewing my vision for this because it is needed.

We are sick, depressed, suicidal, impoverished in every way because we sit around telling lies to each other, initiating new recruits into old sorrows,making it seem like even the mistakes you made in your life was “all planned out before your birth”.

Where are the healers?
Where are the watchers?

 

 

Where are the CRONES to help and guide young women?
Are you sitting around to busy plucking your hormonal chin hair to care about the ones coming after you?

Looking good is a blessing and a curse for those of us who can transform to an acceptable level;

you WILL be picked, used, trophied, and discarded more than those if us who have minimal options.


African Art by Salkis RE
African Art by Salkis Re

You Can’t Quite Level Up

And the ones of who can’t quite “level up” feel that we live without luck or grace because the prospects are low,

so we go to extremes, often corrupting our health while making fool-hearty investments in so-called improvements,

and the only return you get on your alterations is laughed and more Usury than your previous looks allowed for..

So both spectrums meet pain and degradation, and the reason we do is because we do not help each other.

We rate,

categorize,

exclude,

and diminish each other’s value by forming social cliques where women

that aren’t a threat to each other just pass around lies and swap war stories…
And so it goes..
But I’m looking for my lost sheep just like Jesus did..

I’m here to help with the bitter BLACK PILL…
Carry On..

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Mentor”
“EMPATH”

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“Kept Women Can’t Be Nappy Heads”, Written by Salkis Re

Had a conversation with a sister about “nappy hair”.

She’s been proudly rocking her natural hair for most of her adult life but of late had an epiphany
about her direction towards financial independence. It required her to do a total 180 degree turn in her
habit and her physical presentation so she straightened her hair as part of he transformation.
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She said that the MONEY has increased and so has the QUALITY of eligible black men.
She says that she is now treated like a “classy” woman, given money, offers for marriage etc
shea butter slathering, cowie shell and stiff-ass wax fabric tent dresses wearing shill.
She said that when she traded it those things in for straighter hair and form flattering clothes her entire life changed!…

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“What Would I Be?” Original Art by Salkis Re


I nodded my head pretty much through out her entire rant,

and I had to disappointedly agree with the changes she has experienced by changing her look.
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Listen, I have nappy hair and dark skin, that what “The Game of Thrones” would classify as a person of “Low Birth”.
The love of women with natural hair ALSO includes a “Totem pole” or “caste system”
where the most desirable of hair types in the natural hair category are the ones that have 3B or curly, long hair. 4C hair (“nappy hair”) is only celebrated if its suffocated with gel and stretched to its fullest elastic capacity, otherwise it’s the question is asked “What are you going to do with your hair?”
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Natural girls are put into a category like:
“She’s DOWN to Earth”
“She EASY going”
“She’s in tune with nature= doesn’t want material things”.
“She doesn’t have high standards”
“She is not hard to please”
“She’s is free spirited and sexually fluid”
“She’s is anti system and will struggle and turn her back on modern conviences”..
ETC ETC ETC…

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If you are natural, you are put into a “poverty” class my dear, though you will enjoy the game of objectification if you have the perfect hip to waist ratio
and a decent face you most certainly will go viral online if you can get a friend to film you on your camera phone
while you playfully dance around and drop it low in a tube dress and heels.
They will oooh and ahhh at your physique, you’ll get offers for things from married and single men in your inbox, and all will feel right for a while in your world..

Now the deal is this: men generally do not want to give you ANYTHING.
You have to REQUIRE and REQEST what you want.
But what they will do is run an AUDIT on YOU! Your age. If you have kids.

Your weight, and your overall looks are what he uses to quantify your VALUE and what he is willing to LOSE/SPEND or GIVE UP to have possession of you.

Do “our” brothers revere us as “natural women”?
No.

They do not.
We are assumed to be easier to get, easier to lead, easier to influence and control.
They is no real “respect” or “reverence” happening just because you don’t straighten your hair!!!
You are simply categorized as “Reachable” especially with men of meager stature and means..

They will say they want a woman of moral character don’t they? But become defensive and condescending whenever we huddle together for “course correction” or to “clean up our act and limit frivolous sexual access to our temples”.. Here they come to critique and criticize and propagate that it’s better to be in tune with the natural fiction of sex than to have requirements to have sex with YOU.

HE does not have an issue with your promiscuity, his ISSUE arises when he is NOT given a chance to BENEFIT from YOUR promiscuity because your criteria to “play” is higher than what he can afford to give…

GAME!!
And so it is with us “natural” sisters too. No thrones are going to be erected in your honor just because you feel you represent “goodness” and “natural” things.
He sees you as “LESS”:
LESS stress,
LESS requirements,
LESS structure
LESS disciplined
And on and on…..
Do you want this BLACK PILL today ladies?

👉No. You don’t but giving to yuh anyway!
Carry On!

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
~SALKIS RE
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Talk with you soon, hugs..

 

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“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!”

“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!
Written by Salkis Re

So word on the street is that NON black men love and appreciate black women more than our own black brothers do. The word on the street is that all black men are “colorists” and prefer light skin black women with straight hair and acquiline features. Word on the street is that black men HATE women who have dark skin and “nappy hair”.

This is just the word on the street, so I can’t definitively say that I agree that ALL our brothers feel this way NOR that these accusations hold no merit.

My experience?
Well, I have been slighted, passed over and berated for the tone of my flesh by my “brothers”. I have been called a big-lipped, ‌ MonKey by brothers before. I have been exploited and degraded by my brothers because of how I looked..
Yes…..

But……

My SISTERS did all those things to me too, lest the sexual part. There’s a Big, Fat, Game being played here.
The Name of this game is called:
“Point the Finger”.

And all this “THEY don’t love us” talk, if we are going to be totally transparent, should include SISTERS TOO!

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“Black” Art by Salkis RE

We don’t love ourselves.
And sadly even some of our chocolate sistren shout self praises around how “exceptional” they are because they have smaller noses and lips “IN SPITE” of being dark skin. What is she really saying here: I may have darker skin put my features are like white women, so I’m NOT THAT UGLY!!

We class and caste our sisters with as much fervor as any man outside our circles. We say we are abused by them but offer no emotional refuge for our castaways to run too.
We say “Well honey, truth be told is that it’s not because you are dark, it’s because you are an ugly woman who HAPPENS to be dark”.

The Game is a Full Cord Press!

If you are a dark skin woman facing travail because of your tone AND features, alas my love, you have NO REAL ALLIES.
You are alone in your sorrows, but that is not necessarily a bad thing.
You simply are given by the grace of nature an opportunity to be a “sovereign thinker”. No one wants you to be a member of their club, but this means you get to be totally YOUR SELF instead of assimulating to the pressure and anguish that EVERY WOMAN puts herself through to conform to the rules of society and the social clubs they desperately want to be apart of.

You are alone.
And the beauty of that is that YOU have Card Blanche authority over the rules and regulations of your Mental Terrain..
And trust me, if you seize the opportunity that being on the outside of the pretentious, degradation fest that most of our women put themselves through, you will become a GOD/DESS over your precious gift called YOUR LIFE!!!

Black Women with Thick Locs

“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
~Salkis Re

If you would to connect with privately on any matter pertaining to womanhood, wellness, weight loss, relationship goals or life purpose, please send an email to: salkis@iloveherart.com