“The Pressure to Look Sexy!

“The Pressure to Look Sexy”
Written by Salkis Re

Listen, I’ve been accused of being undercover feminist lesbian when I get into my cautionary rants;

the resistance usually comes from men who feel in threatening a reduction in their prospects/prey or women

who believe they are more attractive than I am which makes my message inapplicable to them…

The reoccurring theme here, the message within all of my writings is that you see the truth of how your emotions become weaponized and used against you.
The pressure to “look valuable” is real.

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This is why we wear the form fitting clothes, plaster makeup on our faces, post selfies, wear weaves and high heels that some of can’t even walk in..
Somebody told you that you had to do this in order to be relevant and “considered”.

And MOST of us are looking like desperate fools in clown makeup and

clothing with spandex material in that that makes you assume you’ve bought the right size.

Shaming here?
No. Waking here!
Wake up to the fact that you are in a game that’s set up for you to lose,

because when you lose (of feel lost) you turn into a consumer/believer/minion

for those that make sales to help cure your low self esteem.

African Art by Salkis RE
African art by Salkis Re

What’s the truth here though?
The truth is that we are different, but different doesn’t necessarily mean better or worse; it simply means that I cannot be you and you cannot be me…

I’m interested in sisterhood.

 

I’m interested in sisterhood . Though I cried it down as an impossible task -because women are emotional conn artists- I am renewing my vision for this because it is needed.

We are sick, depressed, suicidal, impoverished in every way because we sit around telling lies to each other, initiating new recruits into old sorrows,making it seem like even the mistakes you made in your life was “all planned out before your birth”.

Where are the healers?
Where are the watchers?

 

 

Where are the CRONES to help and guide young women?
Are you sitting around to busy plucking your hormonal chin hair to care about the ones coming after you?

Looking good is a blessing and a curse for those of us who can transform to an acceptable level;

you WILL be picked, used, trophied, and discarded more than those if us who have minimal options.


African Art by Salkis RE
African Art by Salkis Re

You Can’t Quite Level Up

And the ones of who can’t quite “level up” feel that we live without luck or grace because the prospects are low,

so we go to extremes, often corrupting our health while making fool-hearty investments in so-called improvements,

and the only return you get on your alterations is laughed and more Usury than your previous looks allowed for..

So both spectrums meet pain and degradation, and the reason we do is because we do not help each other.

We rate,

categorize,

exclude,

and diminish each other’s value by forming social cliques where women

that aren’t a threat to each other just pass around lies and swap war stories…
And so it goes..
But I’m looking for my lost sheep just like Jesus did..

I’m here to help with the bitter BLACK PILL…
Carry On..

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“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Mentor”
“EMPATH”

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“Kept Women Can’t Be Nappy Heads”, Written by Salkis Re

Had a conversation with a sister about “nappy hair”.

She’s been proudly rocking her natural hair for most of her adult life but of late had an epiphany
about her direction towards financial independence. It required her to do a total 180 degree turn in her
habit and her physical presentation so she straightened her hair as part of he transformation.
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She said that the MONEY has increased and so has the QUALITY of eligible black men.
She says that she is now treated like a “classy” woman, given money, offers for marriage etc
shea butter slathering, cowie shell and stiff-ass wax fabric tent dresses wearing shill.
She said that when she traded it those things in for straighter hair and form flattering clothes her entire life changed!…

Watercolor portrait Painting, African Art
“What Would I Be?” Original Art by Salkis Re


I nodded my head pretty much through out her entire rant,

and I had to disappointedly agree with the changes she has experienced by changing her look.
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Listen, I have nappy hair and dark skin, that what “The Game of Thrones” would classify as a person of “Low Birth”.
The love of women with natural hair ALSO includes a “Totem pole” or “caste system”
where the most desirable of hair types in the natural hair category are the ones that have 3B or curly, long hair. 4C hair (“nappy hair”) is only celebrated if its suffocated with gel and stretched to its fullest elastic capacity, otherwise it’s the question is asked “What are you going to do with your hair?”
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Natural girls are put into a category like:
“She’s DOWN to Earth”
“She EASY going”
“She’s in tune with nature= doesn’t want material things”.
“She doesn’t have high standards”
“She is not hard to please”
“She’s is free spirited and sexually fluid”
“She’s is anti system and will struggle and turn her back on modern conviences”..
ETC ETC ETC…

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If you are natural, you are put into a “poverty” class my dear, though you will enjoy the game of objectification if you have the perfect hip to waist ratio
and a decent face you most certainly will go viral online if you can get a friend to film you on your camera phone
while you playfully dance around and drop it low in a tube dress and heels.
They will oooh and ahhh at your physique, you’ll get offers for things from married and single men in your inbox, and all will feel right for a while in your world..

Now the deal is this: men generally do not want to give you ANYTHING.
You have to REQUIRE and REQEST what you want.
But what they will do is run an AUDIT on YOU! Your age. If you have kids.

Your weight, and your overall looks are what he uses to quantify your VALUE and what he is willing to LOSE/SPEND or GIVE UP to have possession of you.

Do “our” brothers revere us as “natural women”?
No.

They do not.
We are assumed to be easier to get, easier to lead, easier to influence and control.
They is no real “respect” or “reverence” happening just because you don’t straighten your hair!!!
You are simply categorized as “Reachable” especially with men of meager stature and means..

They will say they want a woman of moral character don’t they? But become defensive and condescending whenever we huddle together for “course correction” or to “clean up our act and limit frivolous sexual access to our temples”.. Here they come to critique and criticize and propagate that it’s better to be in tune with the natural fiction of sex than to have requirements to have sex with YOU.

HE does not have an issue with your promiscuity, his ISSUE arises when he is NOT given a chance to BENEFIT from YOUR promiscuity because your criteria to “play” is higher than what he can afford to give…

GAME!!
And so it is with us “natural” sisters too. No thrones are going to be erected in your honor just because you feel you represent “goodness” and “natural” things.
He sees you as “LESS”:
LESS stress,
LESS requirements,
LESS structure
LESS disciplined
And on and on…..
Do you want this BLACK PILL today ladies?

👉No. You don’t but giving to yuh anyway!
Carry On!

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
~SALKIS RE
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“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!”

“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!
Written by Salkis Re

So word on the street is that NON black men love and appreciate black women more than our own black brothers do. The word on the street is that all black men are “colorists” and prefer light skin black women with straight hair and acquiline features. Word on the street is that black men HATE women who have dark skin and “nappy hair”.

This is just the word on the street, so I can’t definitively say that I agree that ALL our brothers feel this way NOR that these accusations hold no merit.

My experience?
Well, I have been slighted, passed over and berated for the tone of my flesh by my “brothers”. I have been called a big-lipped, ‌ MonKey by brothers before. I have been exploited and degraded by my brothers because of how I looked..
Yes…..

But……

My SISTERS did all those things to me too, lest the sexual part. There’s a Big, Fat, Game being played here.
The Name of this game is called:
“Point the Finger”.

And all this “THEY don’t love us” talk, if we are going to be totally transparent, should include SISTERS TOO!

racist cartoons and postcards
“Black” Art by Salkis RE

We don’t love ourselves.
And sadly even some of our chocolate sistren shout self praises around how “exceptional” they are because they have smaller noses and lips “IN SPITE” of being dark skin. What is she really saying here: I may have darker skin put my features are like white women, so I’m NOT THAT UGLY!!

We class and caste our sisters with as much fervor as any man outside our circles. We say we are abused by them but offer no emotional refuge for our castaways to run too.
We say “Well honey, truth be told is that it’s not because you are dark, it’s because you are an ugly woman who HAPPENS to be dark”.

The Game is a Full Cord Press!

If you are a dark skin woman facing travail because of your tone AND features, alas my love, you have NO REAL ALLIES.
You are alone in your sorrows, but that is not necessarily a bad thing.
You simply are given by the grace of nature an opportunity to be a “sovereign thinker”. No one wants you to be a member of their club, but this means you get to be totally YOUR SELF instead of assimulating to the pressure and anguish that EVERY WOMAN puts herself through to conform to the rules of society and the social clubs they desperately want to be apart of.

You are alone.
And the beauty of that is that YOU have Card Blanche authority over the rules and regulations of your Mental Terrain..
And trust me, if you seize the opportunity that being on the outside of the pretentious, degradation fest that most of our women put themselves through, you will become a GOD/DESS over your precious gift called YOUR LIFE!!!

Black Women with Thick Locs

“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
~Salkis Re

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“Realistic Thinking or Positive Thinking”

Written by Salkis Re

It’s more beneficial to think realistically than it is to think positively.

But to think realistically can offer up as much delusions as bright-side thinking too.
Positive thinking feels good, but it does not contain a *sense of urgency and the FIRE of discomfort that is the 👉blood supply of transformation.

And realistic thinking at times makes it difficult for you to perceive the potential you posses to be more than what you are at this moment.

I see so many of you who are professional complainers, you cry yourselves down obsessing over the “flaws” of their bodies.

African portrait Art
“Just Like Me” Original Art by Salkis Re for iLoveherArt.com

And those flaws might very well be “real”, but the potential to be better through diet and exercise,

going out and touching your feet to earth, prayer or mediation all are tactics to improve but are negated to wallow in pity.

All practical things to change your reality are thwarted and exchanged for excuses which give you a painless “OUT”.

This is really what positive thinking amounts to for many women: a stall!

Do diligence is needed here.
Do not think that things are worse than what they are(realistic) and do not think things are just fine(positive)
Accept what you SEE as real and then start the active task of self improving.

In others words: just be honest with yourself and stop making up delusions of grandeur or defeat!!

Carry On…

 

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Mentor”

“Artist”
~Salkis Re

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Alone and Afraid?

Being yourself is going to hurt people.

Its going to dispassion people against you.

Why?

Because they will not be able to control you,

to manipulate you to do things that are not in line with your safety or life goals.

The only reason you have friends or lovers is because they like the way you make them feel.

But once you step away from he act of pleasing and choose to be passionate and purposeful

about the act of self fulfillment, people are going to take issue with you.

Watercolor Portrait Painting
“I AM a GIRL!” Original Watercolor Portrait Art by Salkis Re

They will stop calling you, stop inviting you, stop fucking you, stop buying gifts for you and so on…

And then the harsh reality of your aloneness will start to take form.

Do you know when the revelation of aloneness usually hits?

When you start to get old..

And you realize that all your sacrificing didn’t afford you their loyalty or undying concern.

then you become old and bitter because you have to face that you wasted so much time TRYING.

Trying to get LOVE.

Trying to get RESPECT.

 

What matters is your time and how much of ti you spend on frivolity or purpose.

And your purpose will need most of your energy because

you will have to fight the status quo of mediocrity and the fear that others try to infect you with…

You are your OWN GOD/ESS because your ACTIONS determine your road and your destination…

Be a god today…..

Carry On…

 

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a Spiritual Advisor,

An Artist,

And a Mentor

Here to Help Your Path Back to Selfhood

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“Woman to Woman” Written by Salkis Re

Dorothy and the Wicked Witch
“The Maiden and The Crone”

Older women are seen as the bitter, jealous,expired enemies of younger women. This is done deliberately to keep us out of the “catacombs” where we can,exchange secrets and confer “degrees” amongst each other. There isn’t a “new” that you’ll experience heartbreak so nothing that any woman knows could ever be “antiquated”….

The narrative of competition is heavily perpetuated within our society, and as a result younger women throw away and totally disregard the wisdom right within their reach. Older women were young once and if you are young now, old age is walking by your side too.

The appropriate way to view your world as a woman is with insatiable curiosity and respect for knowledge wherever it may reside. You are no better than any other woman, not really. You have the same fears and desires as all of us no matter what your station in life may be at this moment.

Talk to you mothers, your grandmothers, women you meet bump into in the fitting room or while standing at the check out isle.
Every woman you meet can potentially solve a problem you are facing, any woman you talk to could change your life in a few words..
Your “sisters” are everywhere…

“Spiritual Advisor”
~Salkis Re

 

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Watercolor portrait painting
“Just Like Me” Watercolor Art by Salkis Re

 

This painting symbolizes everything I’ve discussed here today. We are no different than any other woman. Lets unite our super powers to strenthen each other! To purchase this original piece, GOTO: www.iloveherart.com

Work Without Pain

racist cartoons and postcards
“Blacky” Art by Salkis RE

Smiling..

SO you ladies know about my You Tube channel; I hope…..

And it’s so interesting to me when the guys muster up enough interest to comment on the content of my videos.

And what’s even more interesting is the context of their statements are always the same.

“Some dude must have really hurt you”, Or “You are just unattractive, their isn’t an issue with black women” Or “I like Your Mouth” etc..

 

The comments are always slight jabs or deliberate stabs at MY looks or MY temperament and not much is ever mentioned about the content itself.

 

This is why I advise ladies to be aware of “presentation”.

Though I will admit that I’m not a real life example of “perfect” presentation, I understand its power.

I understand that most of the time, its all the power you need really.

its never what you its: HOW you say it.

Its never about what you do: Its HOW you do it….

What’s the difference between a Sex Surrogate and a Prostitute?

The Answer: And OFFICE 

 

People generally are interested in the surface stuff. Ok, let me stop talking in third person and talk to YOU right now..

YOU are concerned with surface stuff, with how you APPEAR to other people. You want people to think you are HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL, LOVED, INTELLIGENT, SEXY etc..

But how do you TRULY feel? NO as good as the pretense you give off?

abstract portrait painting
“Powder” Original Abstract Portrait by Salkis RE

I understand.. Believe me I do…

And the tragedy of that is that YOU spend so much time in that space,

the pretending part of your life,

that you put off all the elements that could actually assist you in truly feeling self worth and self esteem.

YOU have come to learn that the SHOW is all that matters because the show is all anyone sees…

WRONG!!!

What you feel about yourself manifests in ALLLLLLLLL your decisions.

Everything  you decide to do, that you decide is right, that you think is wrong is shaped around YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOUR VALUE!!

SO guess what?!

People see the real you by way of your ACTIONS 

You don’t get to hide low self esteem as well as you think you are doing…

It shows through, and these men quickly find out how fraudulent you are WHEN HE GETS TO NOW YOU

And eventually you expose your weaknesses as you sit there perplexed as to why he doesn’t show up in your life anymore like he used too..

You showed your hand, your TRUE hand, and it was an insecure hand, a hand full of nothingness,

and the conclusion was that you really aren’t worth the effort or the sacrifice…

 

All MAN/Woman has the power to do is MAKE YOU AN OFFER, that is where their power begins and ends…

YOU get to decide if that offer is sufficient and if you will take it.

You get to negotiate the rules of engagement.

And your rules are your expectations

and your expectations are your boundaries,

and your boundaries are your protection..

ANYTHING OFFERED THAT IS NOT IN LINE WITH WHAT YOU WANT IS AN OFFENSE..

Remember That!

 

Who Am I ?

dark skin women
Life Coach~Salkis Re

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Seeing Things In Black and White

black and white minimalist painting
Art in Process by Salkis Re

 

“No Fillers”
Written by Salkis Re

Nearing the completion of this piece. I’m so tempted to put some color on her,

but I have to arrest my ego and let her simmer as she is…

I’m taking the minimalist approach to things lately.
Thinking more and more about how I really enjoy simplicity and less “stuff”.
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If the floor is clean, I could sleep on it now problem.

Give me some candles and I don’t need lamps.. I just don’t want to ” need” so much anymore.

I haven’t had food or water anything since last Sunday evening.
👉I’m dry fasting right for a goal of 48 hours for mind control and self improvement purposes.

I’m doing what Mystics I suppose. My sense of smell is acute, my heating too, and I’m trancing out as I work.
Feels more weird than usually but in a very good way.

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
*Prints will be available when she’s complete..

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You’ve Got to Be Evil!

 

Pencil Portait
House of Black and White Collection: “I Wonder Why” Original Art by Salkis Re

I want to hammer that point home today.
Why?
Because you and many MANY others are under some impression that in this life,

all you have to do is be good and your actions will be reciprocated by the other you are being selfless with.
Nothing can be further form he truth.

The truth is that BAD people often win in this world, and that reality for freakin unfair
YET it is entirely true.
_Open your eyes._.

Look who is winning in your circle, in the world.

Is it the bruised knuckle man **working 3 jobs** to keep up payments on his trailer home?
Is it the virtuous housewife who is in love with a husband,

**the only man she’s ever slept with** whom she hardly sees because he’s at his other
woman’s house to get a peaceful sleep and a break
from the constant racket of his screaming kids?

How many women you know who sacrifice their entire

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lives and sadly get people who feel the need to muster up a
“thank you” for her selflessness and sacrifice?

You know people like this everywhere.
You may be one of them yourself!

To be GOOD is something you do to feel self esteem, to feel good about yourself. I get it. I AM it.
But there is another side that is necessary to bring forth when you want

to accomplish things, and unfortunately VIRTUE DOES NOT GET THE JOB DONE.

Virtue will have you excusing mistreatment.
Virtue will have you passing up opportunities to
further yourself because it may cause inconvenience for another person.
Selflessness will have you depleted and and drained and badly in need of self replenishment and self care.

Bad people give themselves what they need, no matter who gets hurt or disrupted in the process.
And the BiGGEST of all secrets is that you will have to adopt selfishness to accomplish your goals.

 

There is no way to climb the ladder of success without a few bruises, self inflicted and administers to others.

I don’t care what they say.

Now you can opt for virtue and sleep in your car, or bum food off your family and friends because you are anti “the System” or anti government.

You could certainly say you’ve had it with the world system and move to a hut in some remote island and live off potatoes and water while laying in the sun all day.

 

BUT YOU ARE IN THE SYSTEM!!!

GET OVER IT!

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Life Coach ~Salkis Re

You have a cell phone?

Great. You are a customer of enterprise, of slave labor and unfair pay.

You like designer clothes?

PERFECT you are participant in an economy that creates caste systems and greed , low class and high class, welcome home!

You like movies? Then you support and industry that perpetuates unbalance and propaganda to control the masses.

NOW, you’ve got to make a decision here in what part you want to play in it and how much control you want to have over your own life.

I know, I know, listen you are probably not as religious as I am or as I have been.

I have been radical about sin in my past and I still hold some virtues in pocket to keep me from going over the edge.

But what I am talking about is simply this: There is good, and there is bad within you.

There is hate and there is love within you.

If you think you are going to make it through life without displaying and actively

participation in ALL the emotions between love and hate, good and bad YOU ARE FOOLING YOURSELF!

Not if you want to be excellent!

Excellence take pain my darling, pain in the form of sacrifice and discipline 

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Life Coach~Salkis Re

 

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