Why Our Black Men Date Outside

He said that he’s tired of hearing from black women “But Your Momma is Black” when he dates out because most black women are hoes and tricks anyway.

His advice: Stopping hating black men and love yourself!

My RESPONSE:

Was this suppose to be you showing support brother?
Cause it doesn’t read that way.
Yes black women do say “Your Momma Black”. And why does she say this?

Because she knows that her womb created you and to see you in the arms of other than self and kind goes against natural law.

We Push Our Men Into The White System

You are in the white man’s system and you are conditioned to seek what he has and the black woman pushes you to do so (at her own expense). And then she watches you get exploited and used by the white women within the environment that she encourages you to strive for.

A “No Good Woman” is created through the emotional schooling she gets from wounded men! And this is why SHE has to be meticulous in who she chooses because a relationship builds her CHARACTER or ALTERS it depend on who’s sperm she’s ingesting.

But MEN have minds and understanding here too.

Your momma might not have been shyte to you, but the black women you barrel through as penance for the lack of nurturing you received didn’t deserve your intent for retribution either.

You bring Bad Karma to Your Own Daughters

You men bring bad karma to your own daughter’s with the abuse you bring to women. And you think fukking around with someone else’s daughter won’t affect your own and I’m here to tell YOU that nature doesn’t work that way.
You keep that in mind when you’re tossing salads and making more baby mommas out here.🤘🏿
PERIODT!

“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re

Do Not Have Sex!

Sex Deteriorates A Woman’s Body

The some total of what I’ve studied on intimate relationships with men is that they is a HIGH probably of mental and physical deterioration involved with romanctic mating.

Your body is NEVER the same after starting sexual intercourse, niether does it completely restore itself after childbirth. These are what i call “little deaths”.

Issues with hormones fluctuations, excess weight, depression, bloating bellies, heart disease, brain fog, fits of rage, eat disorders, stink vaginas, reproductive issues, low self esteem, loss of creativity and definite purpose can all be attributed to the trauma induced by improper mating.

This is why recreational sex should be forbidden altogether.

Say what??
You lame Selkis, Sarkis, Sulkus Salukus!👀

Transmute Sexual Energy Instead

Sex drains our life force energy, causes premature aging, disease etc…

Feminine vitality comes withholding sex and transmuting that energy towards other aspects of her feminine essence.

Women Who Have Frequent Sex Look Drained

Women who have a lot of sex, have a certain look.

They talk fast.

Never quite content with anything.
Nervous energy.

You talk to her and you can sense that she isn’t present.

Always “acting”, never genuine engagement.

Need constant stimulation and attention.

Manipulate others for personal gain.

Don’t Even Sleep With Your Husband Too Much

It is better for a woman’s physical wellbeing to sleep with one man and NOT to even sleep with him too frequently so that you maintain optimal health.

How You Doin!?👀

“Self Esteem Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
And founder of: “The Ugly Girls Club”
~Salkis Re

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Being a Hoe Is Better

You “love” or accept love based on how you perceive your own worth. Deciding NOT to identify with a culture or a race or dating outside your race is a irreality because when you look at your reflection, you are reminded of WHO YOU ARE.

Abandoning identity is something EASY to propagated to low value people or poor people to mitigate the internal struggle and shame about who they are.

A black man can date white women and still claim identity

A black man can date whomever he wants and still position himself as a voice for “his” people. He can rally people around eloquent speeches of racial injustice while enjoying a white wife and biracial offspring and his “brothers” will overlook it and won’t bat an eye.

He isn’t seen as trauma based dating like the black woman. But he also isn’t compelled to “act” different in any way because his choice to love is simply a “choice” independent of how he feels about himself.

👉🏿Yeah Right.

But how and why we choose mates isn’t seperate from our culture, our fears, our self image and trauma. You choose partners by the sum total of your experiences, good, bad, easy, tough etc..

We are sold on the virtue of emotional dependency

Women are always sold on the virtue of displaying a “personality” instead of who they are because our value is not in how secure we are,
it’s in how emotionally dependent (feminine) we can pretend to be while simultaneously pulling off an image of value/beauty ..

But The Mother represents customs and culture and morality of society. How and who you choose to reproduce with is a bank deposit into the quality of future generations. You pass that on to her children, and if the FEmale/M-Other abandons her scientific role as decision maker for who gets to pass on their genetics, the quality of offspring will diminish within our society as a WHOLE!

Women get caught up in the salesmanship of men

Women get caught up in the salesmanship of men because we need men to see us and DESIRE us in order to EXPERIENCE value and an identity.
This is why a woman can/does feel worthless when rejected by MEN.

But there was a time when this was NOT so, when vanity did not make YOU an emotional prisoner, when you were not underneath MEN.
And this isn’t a feminist “I hate men ” rant!

This is a Ringing of THE ALARM!!

  1. It’s the need to be desired that lands us in bed with men who do not care.
  2. It’s the need to be seen as valued that lands us in these labor and delivery rooms by ourselves.
  3. It’s the need to be identified through the eyes of men that has us casting our pearls to swine.

We have a responsibility that’s bigger than burden of being beautiful for men!

We have a responsibility that’s bigger than burden of being beautiful for men! And when you release yourself from FEARING men, from seeking their lust, you will begin to bloom as you will finally utilize the sun and rain that M-other Nature AS ALWAYS provided you!

GET UP!
“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re

The Ugly Girlfriend

Ugly Women are objectified by everybody

Ugly Women are objectified by everybody including lovers but especially your nothing ass friends who encourage you to wear shyte that don’t fit and funk for coins so that you can buy them free liquor.

2020 is the start of accepting the wissom and knowledge you’ve accumulated throughout your life.
No more second guessing intent when someone blatantly disrespects you under the guise of constructive criticism or “love“.

Only Value the Opinions You Ask For

The only opinion you should ever consider is the one you actually “ask” for or “PAY” for,
then take the rest as banter with 3 grains of salt.

2020 Is the year I’m dedicating to decreasing my hesitation with educating black, unattractive women about your pathologies and that of the women you are jealous of, intimidated by or fearful of.

A New Focus For 2020

I’m expanding my coaching skills for a SPECIFIC class of women, so GET READY for THE BLACK PILL.

Why?

Because objectification isn’t going to cure your self esteem. Neither is wearing a dress nor talking in a whisper going to make you look more feminine.

Sure, acting more feminine will assure you a “Stepford Wife” result, but intrinsic self worth, a relaxed mind, and self actualization won’t ever be realized when you are forking ACTING 24 hours a day..

You Won’t Marry A Millionaire

The truth is that You/we/us will mostly likely have to create your own millions before you find a millionaire who wants to participate in anything more than fetish Mami Sex with you, and I’m NOT just talking about white men here either!👀

I’m moving FULL COURT PRESS with The Ugly Girl’s Club for 2020!
GET UP!!!

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Why Black Men and Women Don’t Love Each Other AnyMore..

How is he able to actualize his full potential in a world where his right to freedom and the pursuit of happiness cannot be realized outside of a womans crotch?Justified, yes! Justifiable, no!

Colorism: The Sister to Racism

 

The conversation around colorism is hitting a fever pitch now. I just read an article about Lupita and her experiences with colorism while growing up in Kenya and then seperation by color when she moved to the U.S. She said: “Colorism is the Daughter to Racism“.

And she suffered from self worth issues and wished her skin was a different shade. Now she is contributing to the mental wellness of our black girls with her new book, “Sulwe” which is a book to encourage love of skin and beauty within..

This Evelyn Lozada and OG beef

This Evelyn Lozada and OG beef which also includes accusations of favoritism do to skin tone has got viewers upset about preferential treatment Lozada had received even though she is arguably the most “aggressive” and “violent” cast member on that show. She insinuated that OG, a darkskinned African woman, was a monkey. She repeated called her UGLY and “DIRTY” on the show but Shawnie has called OG “aggressive” on the show.

The thing I find with colorist reviews is that I’ve these negative “racist” terminology from pretty much “EVERYONE” out here.

I’ve worked in the beauty field for over 20 years and watched how mothers talked about their “nappy-headed” daughters and mates notation of how this one didn’t get the “good hair” or that the other daughter was “the pretty one”/

I’ve seen so-called “friends” make colorist statements about their “friends” by calling them  “black bytches” and “ashy S.O.B’s” and all manner of derogatory colorist statements were hurled all over the place.

Black Beauty in America
“Claudine’s Hotcomb Blues” Art by salkis Re

I’ve listened as women clowned their Dark skin boyfriends or husbands and the word “nigger” or “black mother fockker”, “crusty arse nigger” or “field niggas” was used to describe a man who either didn’t know or didn’t care that he was getting scammed for his money.

I told my little black doves about the biases in place that support a low value narrative where we are concerned.

 

I said that they think black women are: Aggressive, Dirty, Masculine, Unlovable, Unintelligent, Bitter, Impoverished….

And these notions will often times come right your own home, from people you love and respect…

Colorism in America
Evelyn Lozada’s Racist tweets Against Cats member

Colorism is a fight from within AND without

Colorism is a fight from within AND without. It is in your backyard, at your workplace, it might even be that penis you welcome into your birth canal...

So you have to change your energy.

STOP giving emotional support (envy, mimicry, jealousy, admiration, commerce) To people who do not reciprocate emotional and monetary value towards you.

It’s YOU who WORSHIPS their image and cries unfair treatment later.

YOU don’t pedestalize people who look like YOU.

Why?

Because you want to be them, be accepted by them, be admired by them and you feel that you have to be LIKE THEM to experience that..

Change your energy.

Do not exert emotional energy to ANYONE who does not INSTINCTIVELY reciprocate it to you.
PERIODT

“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
~Salkis Re

 

Beautiful Black Women in relationships

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

What Self Esteem NEVER IS!!

“What They See is NOT What You Are!”
Transmitted on January 23, 2019 7:43 a.m.

Self esteem has NOTHING to do with how you look!

You planned your look in the bathroom,
You rehearsed in your head people’s reactions and responses to how you look .


You’ve spent money to create an image in hopes that you can effectively make people think a certain way about you.

Your presentation is about MARKETING NOT SELF ESTEEM.

Look around you.


I know you know plenty of women who look attractive AND YET they have low self esteem.

You scratch your head and remain confused and maybe even resentful that a woman with all that beauty still find a herself inadequate or depressed.

You’d kill for her body, her pretty teeth and long natural hair..

Because you just can’t understand why she feels that way while looking so freaking gorgeous.
Lies…

Self image is the holy grail of all self help programs catering to Black women.

Change your hair and you’ll raise your self esteem.

Lose weight and you’ll increase your self esteem.

👉Date more men at the same time and you’ll feel less desperate so you can increase your self esteem.(Yes.. Who you date is about self image too)

Self image is NOT SELF Love!!!

Self image is an idea you create in your head, then you project outwardly for others to see so that they think a certain way about you…

👉👉👉Self image is all about who you want people to think you are, NOT what you think about about yourself!!


Your self esteem resides in the TOTAL acceptance what you NOT in how people see you…


“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need help? Drop me a line at salkis@iloveherart.com

Self Esteem Coach, Artist, Author, Poet: Salkis Re

To Know You Is To Control you!

“I Wanna Know You” Written by Salkis Re 

I want to know

if YOU MEAN what you say,

if YOU ACT like you say,

if YOU DO what you say…

This is the goal of anyone who wants to get to know you.

And they will find out, just as YOU WILL for them,

that they don’t entirely mean what they say or do what they say.

We call it being cordial or having manners, or establishing rapport.

The goal in any courtship, in any “I want to get to know you”

session is to simply to establish that you are EQUALLY YOKED

The, (I’m just like you, and that’s why you should like me) thing.

It’s all a feast of selling yourself until one of you is no longer

afraid of how you are perceived by the other.

When he is no longer afraid of LOSING you, then he

will start to show you who he really is…

Carry On

Your Life Coach” ~Salkis Re

Art by Salkis Re