Black Men Hitting The Wall Too!

Listen, men will attempt to indoctrinate you with long ass soliloquies about the diminishment of your self worth because of age. They make it seem as if their erections don’t become temperamental when they hit their 30’s and 40’s..

They tell tall tales of their virility and feed the social constructs of dignified aging while assisting in destroying women’s confidence to have access to her body for little or equivalent gifts offered..

This is what id like to share with you ladies about the proverbial “Wall” that men gleefully watch us hit.. Because they BUILT the WALL!

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Stop Being A Fuk Buddy and Get Married!

Every two years or so, you are some new guy’s girlfriend.

Doesn’t that worry you? Doesn’t the thought of being some dude’s boy toy make you emotionally uneasy?

I mean granted, you’re having fun going out to eat, bar hopping maybe, decent frequency of sexual activity, but in the back of your mind, you know this has got to end cause theres no real commitment there.

The old folks call it “Playing House”, and that’s exactly what it is: A Game. You are in an imaginary existence with a man who hasn’t decided to truly commit ALL THE WAY.

But you are sacrificing time, your vagina and more than likely your money to buy the ILLUSION of a relationship he’s giving you.

Cam Newton and his Now EX GIRLFRIEND of 6 years..

Men will suck you dry: literally!

And they gave an uncanny ability to waste your time while maintaining imagery of forward movement. But you are boxed in as a girlfriend, unable to have an absolute say about your future and direction you would like to take the relationship.

Why?

Because you are there for a good time. You are there to warm his bed or distract him from the work self improvement IF your remain JUST his girlfriend.

I Know That Marriage Isn’t The Goal for every Woman BUT>>>>>

Now, I not a total prude here. I get that marriage isn’t every woman’s goal, but the women who say this are usually those who’s phone still rings for offers of sex or situationships or Zaddy trips etc… Yet and still, when they no longer have to put that iphone on silent cause the calls start to slow down or come to a screeching halt, THEN the thought of finding that ONE life partner starts to make practical sense.

GUYS DO HIT THE WALL TOO!

You don’t want to end up like a lot of these “Hit The Wall”-“After The FactHoes out here who can’t do nothin but peddle Level Up courses that don’t even work for them!

Give these “boyfriends” expiration dates to make a decision on pulling the trigger or not because being some dude’s girlfriend for 3-5-8 years with no end game insight, will cost YOU what he can’t pay you for: which is TIME!!

Beautiful Black Women in relationships

Salkis Re is an artist, writer and Self Esteem Coach for black women. You can find her unique art pieces here And visit her YOU TUBE channel for tips on surviving in a world that has very little love for black women.

Ugly Women Get Fukked Too!

Listen, if you believe what men say about looks, you are foolish and naive!

Black men are complaining about black women being fat, unfeminine, uncooperative and unlovable but babies are still being born unto them. Kniggerspaining and ejaculating are happening simultaneously which means that black men are still engaging with women they claim to be divested from.

Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

Mgtow Is Folklore for Men!

Movements like mgtow [Men.Going.Their.Own.Way] are nothing more than internet based social clubs that black men are using to coop the talking points of disgruntled white men have concerning dating and divorce and child support.

And black women are constantly used aa emotional targets for frustrated, disempowered black men. We don’t act like civilized white women. We don’t fit into a size 5 dress that conscientious white women do. We are dispossessed of the proper pedigree and genteel femininity training like that of other races of women.

Dark and Lovely Lauren Hill

BLACK MEN GOING OVERSEAS FOR GIRLFRIENDS

And now they have threats of taking their diks overseas to give to real feminine women who respect masculinity like women of The Dominican Republic and other small island woman looking for sponsorship dollars and U.S visas.

Should black women divest from black men because of this? And if we do, where are we gonna seek acceptance and refuge from? White men? Or maybe some Sand kniggas in Saudi Arabia? The stats on swirling success is dismal at best, so running to other races isn’t the aswer.

You Need to Know Why You Are Dating a Man

The immediate cure for this social status problem that we as black women face should be addressed in a moral way. By moral I mean GOAL FOCUS MATING. We are too liberal with our sexuality and this so-called sexual liberation has reduced us to subhumans, for if its one thing we have never has an issue with, it was the notion that we are physically built for ejaculation purposes ONLY…

Create a framework of tasks called [customs] for men to do in order to qualify for access to your your mind and your body. We have to be clear, crystal clear about our worth, and develop the swag to communicate that worth to weed out lames, clowns, deadbeats, predators and the like.

Men want to control women emotionally but without shouldering any tangible responsibility on a physical level. He wants you to obey him, but he don’t want to commit to you. He wants your loyalty but wants you to pay your own way.

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They Say They Want a Good Woman But…

Men in general have major conflicts between what they are attracted too and what they claim to want.

So at the end of the day, its not about racking your brain taking level up classes and wife school courses when all you need to learn is how to love yourself in order to be loved and appreciated by men…

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Dark Skin Women Are Not Feminine?

Y’all, im so over this bias it’s not even funny. But it has to be addressed because its a living, breathing folklore of sorts and its picked up some heavy steam in the past few years.

I have always has an over sensitivity to the awareness of being perceive as masculine BECAUSE of my skin tone.

“Colored Girl” Original Art by Salkis Re

At one time, I decided that I would practice talking softer and vowed to find a superior hair gel that would lay down my edges for 8 hours straight; in doing so, I thought I could achieve the pinnacle of femininity [straight hair, with a soft spoken tone as a bonus].

I abandoned the voice lessons and got fed up of the self inflicted anxiety induced by my edges curdling back like clockwork every two hour.

I didn’t feel good about me.

And I because I was more stressed than confident while doing the hair strengthening, the skin lightening, the dressing different and the talking different, I finally mustered up the courage to say “Fuk It!”

Why?

Because I was imitating and mimicking what I was not biologically designed to be. And that put me in the category of a BEGGAR!

“Skylar” Original Art by Salkis Re

I don’t believe that the darkskin woman’s problem is that she isn’t feminine, I believe that her problem is her inability to respect who and what she is..

And I know you’ve got reasons and justifications for playing the game, like you need straight hair for your corporate job or you need to look this way because thats what brother’s are attracted too, but you will never be able to out-white a white woman, EVER!

“Colored Girl”#5 Original Art by Salkis Re

We’ve got our on lane yuh know, an entire arena where we are the status quo, yet it is on the bottom..

But in my opinion, that’s not a bad thing. Any position you play within the social pecking order has rules, our problem as darkskin women is that it’s so obvious that we are trying to play in an arena we don’t belong in so that we can be accepted by other people that we actually PURCHASE our degradation with cash!

To emulate other women is to claim self neglect and a lack of self honoring. And it doesn’t falking matter “Why” you are doing it. We get no respect because we have none for ourselves.

1970’s Beauty

And what’s even more asinine is that think we can shame people into including us; I waiting on the other side of the fence for y’all to finally figured out that the shaming-shyte doesn’t for fat women and it ain’t gonna work fir DARKSKIN women either!

Salkis Re is a Self Esteem Coach, Artist, Author, Poet who uses her creative gifts to help repair the emotional wounds of black women. You can find her work at: www.iloveherart.com And her coaching on You Tube

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STORY TIME: DODGING WRONG MEN!

African American Art
“Colored Girl” #4 Original Art by Salkis Re

I remember that time when this guy I really liked had chosen another girl who was really really young and cute.
I was going through quiet rage as most Scorpios do, wondering how I got passed up for some immature girl with a shape that was waiting on her first childbirth to ruin…

I thought about him day and night: ONLY him…

And that was new for me because I just never care enough about any guy for him to be on my mind like an infectious fever…

It was weird.
I felt so vulnerable, yet so satisfied within my feelings for him.
Even when there were other attractive men around, not even a second thought came to my head about the value of the man I loved…

I was saving up money to surprise him  because he had mentioned needing investors for some entrepreneurial endeavors..
I was thinking about giving him his first child even though I didn’t want any more kids.

But that ditzy broad swooped in with her immature giggle and womanly hips, and she left with my man..
MY MAN!!!
Sigh…


He let me down with a smile though.. Insinuating that he never made anything official promises, and he was correct. Looking back on it now, the conversations we had were nothing more than very convincing “possibilities” of us being together.
He gave me the gesture equivalent to a “chin up” baby girl and gave me a pat on back to coax me out of my delusion…

And the bounce back took a little time, but payback came like an exacto knife’s cut, for I did get the pleasure of watching  him argue with that giggly chic who became the bytch baby mama to his two kids who grew in desperate need of a gym membership and major dental work..

A man’s Rejection has always been a dodged bullet for me..
And I learned to never  look a gift horse in the mouth anymore ….

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What Ugly Women Need to Be!

When you were 16, you always had a guy sniffing around you.

There was a secret crush here, a nerd who gave you his allowance money there, the annoying boy who teased you constantly cause he liked you but didnt know how to say it!

“Blacky” Original Art by Salkis Re

There was this nerdy guy who was in love with me and I didn’t understand why.
He was part of the band club at school and he’d write songs for me and offered to walk me home from school.

As unpopular, unattractive, struggle hair buns my no frills having ass was, there was a guy willing to accept it and care for me regardless of my “un-refinement”.

Fast forward to today, and you are under the indoctrinate of talk like this and dress like that and don’t say this and don’t do that, act like this snd not like that, and its harder than ever for you to be “attractive” to the opposite sex.

Why Salkis?
Because your too invested in doing so.
Your too obsessed with what men think and feel. And you’ve allowed all the let-downs from the lack of attention to show on your face.

You don’t take care of yourself BECAUSE you dont see a point in doing so BECAUSE you don’t get the attention of men.

And that part has to change. You become infectious when truly like yourself, when you dont take yourself of anybody else so seriously. When you aren’t ashamed of who and what you are.

Self Esteem Coach,  Salkis Re

Unattractive women have to embody a “letting go” mentality. Stress isn’t your friend, but PASSION will make you MAGICAL…

What you HAVE to do is find that sweet spot between “Giving no fuks and Caring About Others”.

Ugly Girl.. Be childlike again. Fuk refinement and all the pretense and emotional trappings that only serve to reduce you into a masterbation tool.
BE the ESCAPE for people who desperately want to let their guard down.

Beautiful black women
Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re

NEVER CONFORM.
Why?
Because you don’t fit in to begin with!🤸🏿‍♀️

“The Ugly Girl’s Ambassador”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Why Aren’t You Winning in Life?

African Abstract Art
“To Be Brown” Oil Painting BY Salkis Re

Why Cant You Win?

Little Black Girl, why do you feel like you can’t win?

Was it your mommy who told you that you were no intelligent enough to win?

Was it your father’s indifference about soending time with you?

Was it your pretended to be your friend just to play with your toys?

Was it the teacher who was to impatient to help you understand the math equations so you could pass the test?


Was It Your First Love?

Was it your first love who only held your hand when no one was looking because he only want to give you attention to have access to your body?

Was it the employer at work who berates you in front of your colleagues even though you work harder than the rest?

Justification for divesting from life is abundant for you, but will it serve a purpose that benefits you in the end?


Can I Love On You?

Can I say that I love you since your Momma didn’t say it?

Can I tell you that i will protect you since your Father didn’t do it?

Can I say that I care about you since your Boyfriend never meant it?

Can I say that you have my loyalty since your Friends have never been it?


I need you to come play with me
Let’s dance and dream again.
Let’s create our reality like we did with mud pies and tea parties and catching fireflies…

Recreate Yourself today!

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Paintong: “To Be Brown”

Master The Self

I’m a little girl at heart, so I have to protect her with the big in me too.
There isn’t a woman that I’ve ever met who didn’t want someone to give her a reason to blush or to care for someone besides herself.

This is what we are designed for.
But you have to learn what I had to learn, which was that Self Love is the blueprint that your goals are achieved from.

“Can I Play With You?”

Build a relationship with yourself.

Are you interesting to you?
Can you make yourself laugh?
Do you listen to your own voice?

If not, then you need to fix this TODAY!

And we get what we want

And we get what we want when we master our emotions.

You can’t negotiate for what you want unless you’ve mastered your emotions.
You can’t beat your low self esteem and depression without mastering your emotions
You can’t even maintain physical health without mastering your emotions.

If you don’t like what being you has given you, then become someone else!

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“Self Esteem Coach” ~Salkis Re

Self Esteem Coach “
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“Author”
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~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

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Can I Play With You”

Trumpty Dumpty

We are in a time right now that includes a lot of tension and stress,but i invite you to consider that society is a nothing more than a stage play,

but the bad part is that human beings are collateral damage to ego shrug.

Remain emotionally stable and do not submerge into the obyss of fearmongering.

Politics is theater.

And life is a stage.

So when you think you will look inauthentic if you decide to ahift and make a change in your own life, i invite you to consider your environment and all the ILLUSIONS you are fed on a daily basis that youve come to believe why FEELINGS loke something is off.

It’s all a choice at the end of the day.

Fear, hate, love.

All decisions.

I choose LOVE!!

What do you choose?

Class and Status Are ILLUSIONS

We are lied to about pedigree and class you know. We’ve been conditioned to think that looking good, tailored clothing and speaking in the Queen’s English is a measure of status and even God’s favor.

Ask a maid next time you really want to know about “CLASS. I’ve had a few in my family, and they can tell you what goes on in these deluxe apartments in the sky.

How The High Status Front!

How the babies don’t get bathed or their hair combed until the nanny’s arrive even if it’s 3 days until her shift starts again.

How these privileged employers constantly short their checks and “miscalculate” their wages.

How their elderly people are alone with no one to talk to until the maid comes to clean the house and change the Depends the elders sat in all day. How they “reused” dirty panties and the wife is on some drug to keep her mania at functional levels.

How the men suggest “favors” for salary increases or for the “help” to stay past shift hours and not get compensated for it.

We’ve won every pageant but it doesn’t matter!

You mimic what you don’t truly understand and you don’t respect your own value.
We even have a Miss Teen USA, a Miss USA, a Miss America AND a Miss Universe who’s from Africa. THEY gave you a full court press win across the board, so Do we love ourselves and our likeness any more today because of it?
Is the stock market value of cake soap and skin bleaching creams dropping?

No.
Because the image of social status and even the lie about our economic power is still transfixed in our minds. And pageants nothing more than validation farms just all bureaus and judging panels: Whomever crowns you is STILL KING!!

Class and Status Are Games

You are intimidated by the STAGE PLAY called SOCIETY and the GAME called LIFE because you aren’t fully aware that this is nothing more than smoke and mirrors that holding up the appearance of “class and status”.

Waiting On Their Trophies

They claimed who “They” are and you have the power by your birthright to do the same, but you want to wait for them to knight you so that it’s more “Official”. You seek authentication from those who feel that a dog’s life is worth fighting for more than yours, but rationalize your mimicry of them as a choice instead of insanity?
It’s time to align yourself with YOUR CREATOR.

GET UP!!

“Self Esteem Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
And founder of “The Ugly Girls Club”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

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