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If I could shake the degradation out of you, I would gladly do it. But this is something you have to feel inside of you. You have to be tired of being lied to, tired of being led to create frivolous personas based on pageantry and not any real substance.

Should We Stop Wearing Weaves?

“Everybody Wants to Look Better Than They Actually Are”
January 24, 2019 8:04 a.m.

Women wear WIGS to be more attractive, and Men wear 👉WOMEN to be more attractive..

Your Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re


Everbody trying to look better than they actually are out here..

Shaming You is a Subjugation Tactic

I’ll tell you why Shaming women is so effective, it’s effective because we WANT to subjugated, we WANT to comply, we WANT to help, we WANT fairness.

And because we are by nature inclined to comply, these campaigns to make us feel worthless and nonsensical work because women are NOT negotiators.

I have never met a man yet who felt “shame” about what he liked have , be or do!! But women are put on blast accused of being unreasonable, impractical, delusional and emotionally unstable at every turn.

This is because men know that more times than not, we want give in, we’d rather have fairness than GET WHAT WE WANT..

Please stop taking men seriously


How Sway?

Please stop taking men seriously. It’s all a game, chess moves if you will. The way to get you to become a team player is by “leading” you and to lead you he has to show you that he knows what’s best for you.

He has to establish that his goals should be yours (this is what get you to open your legs for him before it safe or profitable to do so).

This is also why “showing” that you are smarter than him or 👉aggressively noncompliant is makes you unattractive in general to men..


Have your convictions and your boundaries set in STONE..

Your “Self Esteem Coach”

~Salkis Re

What Self Esteem NEVER IS!!

“What They See is NOT What You Are!”
Transmitted on January 23, 2019 7:43 a.m.

Self esteem has NOTHING to do with how you look!

You planned your look in the bathroom,
You rehearsed in your head people’s reactions and responses to how you look .


You’ve spent money to create an image in hopes that you can effectively make people think a certain way about you.

Your presentation is about MARKETING NOT SELF ESTEEM.

Look around you.


I know you know plenty of women who look attractive AND YET they have low self esteem.

You scratch your head and remain confused and maybe even resentful that a woman with all that beauty still find a herself inadequate or depressed.

You’d kill for her body, her pretty teeth and long natural hair..

Because you just can’t understand why she feels that way while looking so freaking gorgeous.
Lies…

Self image is the holy grail of all self help programs catering to Black women.

Change your hair and you’ll raise your self esteem.

Lose weight and you’ll increase your self esteem.

👉Date more men at the same time and you’ll feel less desperate so you can increase your self esteem.(Yes.. Who you date is about self image too)

Self image is NOT SELF Love!!!

Self image is an idea you create in your head, then you project outwardly for others to see so that they think a certain way about you…

👉👉👉Self image is all about who you want people to think you are, NOT what you think about about yourself!!


Your self esteem resides in the TOTAL acceptance what you NOT in how people see you…


“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

Need help? Drop me a line at salkis@iloveherart.com

Self Esteem Coach, Artist, Author, Poet: Salkis Re