How you “show up” in this world is how you will allow people to treat you.
I tell many of my sisters that displaying self pity is not way to win friends
or foster good relationships but you are so used to expressing your self deprecation,
that you have lost awareness that you are even doing it.
You sound more like a defeatist, than a woman who is ready for love.
You write these exhaustive dissertations about what you are looking
for in a man as if making known what you are wanting will
thwart off any snakes from coming to bite you.
The problem is NOT in the way you look!
The problem is that you are hollow and you lack substance because
you want to be sexy and desired instead of healthy, competent and virtuous.
The very things that will set you apart from other women, are the very
things you disregard as having no intrinsic value.
There are things you are here to do, and being a sex object is NOT one of them…
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about anything but complaining that nobody wants you.
You as an “Ugly Girl” have resolved to a life of mediocrity and self pity,
and you’ve killed your dreams simply because you don’t look a certain way.
The Ugly Girls Club is a coalition of women who are
not cowering down because society has placed our looks in a negative category.
We are defining ourselves by how we look.
That game is a losing game for most women, and we have accepted it as such.
SO now that we’ve let that nightmare go, we’ve got all this room to learn
and grow and express how we feel about our lives and the things
we want to do or become to live our fullest lives.
Now as for these dating sites like OkCUPID, Plenty of Fish, E Harmony etc.. I want you to treat these sites like just another form of social media, because is what they are.
Don’t go thinking that you’ll win cool points for putting all your business on the street, for being transparent and term I think I hate most of all “OPEN MINDED”
You can’t vet a person effectively through a dating app or a profile.
And what you should do is just keep it light enough to spark interest and curiosity.
Yes you are going to get crazy nut jobs coming to you to solicit you for fun, and your success rate is shit on these sites.
You should assume that you’ll need to go thru 30 -50 contacts to get one that is decent enough to give a shot.
And Im going to add this as well, leave the booty pics, the cleavage pics and lease for God sake, close your mouth if you are not smiling.
You don’t want to send messages to these perverts that they can ask you for Netflix and Chill! OK!
Now back to the point of it all…..
The Ugly Girl SHOWS THE WORLD WHAT SHE CAN DO!
And her goal is not too be anybody’s reject version of a Video Vixen.
She is not waiting for men to have mercy on her and that her as a charity case.
She walks with her head up and DOES EVERYTHING to nature her body,
mind and soul.. GET UP UGLY GIRL!!
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It is time to step your game up!
NOT FOR MEN!! For yourself… If I could shake the degradation out of you, I would gladly do it. But this is something you have to feel inside of you. You have to be tired of being lied to, tired of being led to create frivolous personas based on pageantry and not any real substance.
Men are craving this actually. To be turned on in an untypical way.
Everything about you should be UNTYPICAL if you are an ugly girl!
When you realize that you could’ve done what you didn’t do. Then you come back around to vow that you’ll follow through. Then you wait cause it’s not the perfect time, but then you wait so long that again you change your mind. Then your mind reminds yourself of it again, but you still do nothing for fear you cannot win. And then when you’ve reached the end of your road you regret that you’ve listened to what you were told. And then you feel it’s too late to make amends but your dreams could care less, for they come to your mind again..
Men are not happy when you give them everything they want, they are happy when you make them work for what they get. Your “habit” is to keep him excited about having you, motivated to please you, and lucky to have you. Comfort does NOT inspire excitement; it yields complacency, disregard and familiarity blindness for your presence in his life… ————————————————
Will he appreciate your unconditional love for him? Yesssssssssssssss( me hissing like a snake) He will appreciate that you will stay put if he strays, that you are committed to your subordinate role and appreciative of the emotional and animate provisions he provides you with…
And those of you women who do not fall into the category of a “great beauty”, fear not! Your finesse ( well ALL women actually) is based on *stratagem* NOT in the way you LOOK! —————————————————–
Some of you are waiting for permission from men to “act worthy”. You are nothing until you are loved by a man. I suppose this has some truth to it, but your order of modus operandi , or your HABITS I should say, are displaced. You cannot assume your self a treasure if you wear the stench of desperation in your garments.
You must walk untethered. Your temperament must be one of unadulterated sweetness. Your smile because you are happy, not because he has made you so.. Let him wonder how you feel about him, IF you feel anything about him.. ——————————————————–
You need not confirm or deny ANYTHING about you! Are you a mystery, or has he got you all figured out? yessssssssssssssss( hissing again) Stratagem, not honesty or fairness will get you the results you require to ‘feel’ happy…
Sit back and relax…… That is the correct temperament for planning seduction…
I have been added without request several crazy groups where women post provocative pics and guys, well guys get all excited and complimentary or at least they give the illusion of being complimentary, but some of these women are getting clowned and they are not well versed in communication, but I guess who needs to think that deep when the goal is attention. Its quite painful to watch actually because you know they have no clue that some are disgusted yet toying with her emotions.
I get all in my feelings about it.
If I was a bear, I’d growl,
if I was a wolf, I’d howl,
If I was a bird I’d watch you like a hawk
and if I was a lion I’d stalk.
I hate the misrepresentation and the mental weakness of it all.
And in loving yourself, you can start to see what is nurturing to you. Some of you do not know that these men are “joshing” you and really not that big of a deal ,UNTIL it leads you into private conversations with him.
We need women to encourage us, sell is the dream, comfort and lick our wounds: and then there’s me. The one that holds the mirror up to all that you hide cause you can only concern things when you stop pretending they are not there.
I see new cycles of old shyte starting all over again and the year is only two days old. I see that some of you are gonna act like you were in a coma for all of 2016. Wake up sleeping beauty.
Here, drink this tea with me..
“Your Life Coach, Artist/Author/Poet” ~Salkis Re
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