How Control Your Thoughts

Evil People, Control Others

You can’t control people unless you are a psychopath with a low threshold of shame and remorse, or a fallen angel like the Devil who has access to unlimited funds to con people through Hollywood style sorcery.

Since you aren’t either of these, your control mechanism is limited to your person. You get to regulate YOU at any time, 24 hours a day.

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“Claudine’s Hotcomb Blue”

You Thoughts Are Powerful

And that’s nothing to dimiss here. It’s very powerful, especially when you start realizing the scale in which you can exercise your right to think for yourself.

  • You feel devalued because of : the opinions of other people.
  • You feel unattractive because of: the opinions of other people.
  • You think you ARE pretty because of: the opinions of other people.
  • You think you are special because of: the opinions of other people.

Kind Words Are Always Snatched Back

And what people will do is twist their view points of you to serve the purpose at hand.
If you need to be controlled, your self worth will be challenged by taking away what was once a trusted opinion of your grandiosity.

If your trust is needed to acquire something, he will offer you an “opinion” about your looks or encourage you to be confident so that your perception of his intent goes unchallenged .

And when it serves him to do so, he or she can snatch that opinion away,, and drop you right back off at the place where you were questioning your value to begin with.

How do you feel about what people think of you?

And I bet you whisper that they are wrong about you, yet you continue to live like you believe them.

You Feel a Bit Foolish

You know that there’s something off about how much reassurance you need from others.

That attention you seek makes you feel a bit foolish, especially as you wash the makeup off your face and place your wig on the nightstand.

You Check Your Sanity By Looking at Other Women

You feel trapped.
Literally.
But you look around to other women to check your sanity, and since every other woman you see acts the same way, you that decide your suspicions about your sanity are just you over thinking things..

Trust yourself.
Ask yourself what you want or how you feel about your worth.
Fix what is broken, but don’t tinker with nature cause she will kick your arse for trying.

“Self Esteem Coach”
“Artist”
“Author”
“Poet”
And founder of: “The Ugly Girls Club ”
~Salkis Re
Painting: “Claudine’s Hotcomb Blues”

Pain is GIFT!!!

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

Yes darling, pain can be a true gift to your life if utilized correctly. But most of you will not use it.

You will run from it.

You run because you actually feel that you can get away from your feelings.

Sure you can distract yourself for a little while, or “pretend” to have moved on like most of you do, but destiny still arrives to meet you.

You worry about how you look: Daily.

You worry about him not loving you: Daily.

You insist on being happy and having all the things “they” say are needed in order to experience that.

But you really never reach that Utopia they promise you when you supposedly “let go” and let it flow.

You take pics to show people how great your life is, how much weight you’ve lost, how sexy  you hope THEY think that YOU think you are, now and so on, but inside….. Your mind sends you reminders that you are not well, and you become extremely ashamed and depressed that the pain caught up to you again.

 

Will you change?
The truth?
It’s not impossible that you will, it’s just not probable that you will.

Why?
Because it takes being present and conscious and having vigilant watchfulness to change, and most people prefer to divorce themselves from “thinking” too much.

Thinking itself is given a bad rap, and most people who do express deep thoughts are considered pessimistic, cat-shit crazy nut bags with nothing better to do than look for everything wrong with the world.

But pain is the light bulb that helps you SEE where you are if you can bear to look. Joy does not bring enlightenment like pain because joy is “inspirational” while pain is a “Learning/ Experiential” encounter.

What you have been through HURTS, but that hurt can have usefulness when you conclude that you HAVE to change if you’re going to survive this thing called LIFE…

The Black Hat Society”
“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

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SWIRLING, MATING AND YOUR RIGHT TO CHOOSE

I have made videos in the past addressing the matter of black women this thing called “swirling” before.

I personally feel that dating and mating is not a community event and that there are no obligations to

Ancestors, Ghosts, Angels, Demons, God, Krakens and whatever else you’ve passed your shame, blame and fears on too.

You can and will decide what you want to be matched to based on your own emotions,

your insecurities, self esteem, intellect, past sexual experiences, whether you’ve been sexually violated or not, and on and fucking on it goes.

 

YOU CHOOSE MATES BASED ON YOUR FEARS!!

And someone who chooses to “stay with their race” is NOT divorce from their fear of rejection, self doubt,

peer pressure, not wanting to go to hell,

people pleasing, and all manner of imaginative reasons for choosing or not choosing mates.

My only angst in all this is the perception that you as a woman could be “winning” by having relationships with “boyfriend’s”.

African American Women

 

Thinking Bigger Of Yourself than you Actually ARE!!

There is nothing to aggrandize yourself about if you have a “boyfriend”.

He, no matter what skin suit he wears, is enjoying you and your body without the requirement of motivation of Commitment or the shouldering any risk.

To me, the ultimate expression of “love” is when a person is willing to shoulder Commitment/cutting off other options/woman to have you in his life.
If he isn’t willing or able to do so, then there is no win for you. And your vagina is a “rental” until he finds his “dream home”.

 

So to end this CLASS session today

So to end this CLASS session today, I will tell you to think before you act. No matter how light skin he is, how soft his hair is, how pretty his smile is, how mannerly he seems, how good he sucks and fuccs you, THINK about your bottom fuccing line at ALL times… RELEASE THE KRAKEN and get what’s rightfully yours…

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
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