Poem: “You’re Not a Real Angel”

“You’re Not a Real Angel”
Written by Salkis Re

 

 

“This World is Yours” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

When they call you an angel,
you choose not to receive it,
You think angels don’t look like yourself,
and you feel you ought to look as them to believe it.

Their wings are pretty and all uniformed and white,
while you sit here in bursts of all this color.
And somehow you view your rainbows
as an embarrassment to the others.

White wings are just more classy,
is what your mind makes you say.
And all your colors are just too festive
to show the earthlings how to seriously pray…

But when God made you my angel,
he was more adventurous and brave.
And he added his sharpened skill onto you
and made what he once couldn’t create.

So open up your wings, flap them like thunder
and give the wind something to do.
And show the world that angels come in all colors
and that the best of them do look like you…

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING:”This World is Yours”
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This poem I wrote today is about ownership and respect for the difference that make you who you are.

We are always looking at the grass over there thinking that its better than the patch of grass we are standing on.

Decide that you will take ownership of what makes you YOU.

We do not have to be the same.

I do not have to look the same.

And peace won’t come to you if you were to suddenly become

somebody else because inner peace only comes from acceptance of self.

The Critics Love You!

 

 

What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

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Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

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                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

The Right to be Right

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A lot of time is wasted contemplating why people could bring you unfair and disadvantages with their actions.

No energy should be spent on why any man would take advantage of you because your answer is of no consequence.

The question to ask is “HOW” person is able to do that to you.

Nobody has to do things the way you do because you do what you do based on your own:

trauma,

guilt,

shame etc..

You are as good as you need to be too.
Facts!!

Now let’s move on..

 

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“Black Hat Society ”

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~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

Wishing You Were Someone Else?

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Art by Salkis Re

When you start every day and end every day thinking about the grass being greener on the other side, what is your body supposed to do with that?

You think your thoughts just dissipates after you forget what you’ve thought?

How?

How can is dissolve when your actions and the words coming out of your mouth are all carefully crafted to be in congruence with what you feel?!

Words are food just like a piece of broccoli or an apple.

Words get ingested just like any meal that touches your lips, and it can, like any food, either nourish your body or poison it.

You have to understand that you are casting spells continuously with your thoughts, and the knowledge of that fact should invite you to take inventory of what you are saying to yourself on an ongoing basis.

You wanting to be other than you are, is a result of self neglect. You thinking that you are not enough means that you have too much time on your hands.

Too much time to think about the wrong thing.

And that thinking will cripple you eventually.

It is time to consider you tonque to be your personal draftsman, the Grand Architect if you will.

Why?

Because it’s your mouth that solidifies the thoughts of your mind, for it pulls your thought out of the ethers and into the physical realm.

And once it’s made a word, YOU WILL RESPOND to it.

That’s how prayer works doesn’t it?

Do you not believe in an insult?

Have you not been hurt by the arrangement of words accompanied by strong emotion before.

What you say to others can hurt or heal them, and so it be with you also my darling..

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~Salkis Re

 

The First Time You Became a Whore!


Yes, You are a WHORE Too!

Some of you will wrestle with your whordom. You will think that you are above reproach and that somehow your vaginal is more pristine than that of a woman who pedals her flesh. So I will tell you what you won’t accept but what is true nonetheless.
You are defiled too.
If you have had ONE penis inside you, you have died. A little death of the girl you once was takes place.
You emotional instability begins as you start to be more concerned about that dik than yourself.

  1. You start to dress up for the dik.
  2. Cook for the dik.
  3. You worry if that dik likes your pu$$y as much as you like that dik.

You become cunning and manipulative so that dik stays fixated on you.

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~Salkis Re
  • You were balanced before that dik.
  • Level headed emotionally before that dik.
  • Less worried about things before that dik. Now he is inside you:literally and spiritually and you struggle to find your joy outside of him.

Listen Goddess, A dik is incapable of giving you self respect and honor. (for you wives that think you are different)
A dik is an instrument of pleasure and reproduction. It is an emotional tool used to “attach” souls(emotional bodies) to each other.

And If and when you break up with that first dik, the 7 years it’s takes for total celluar regeneration is of no consquence because you are “grown” now, and see no necessity behind rebuilding yourself before getting into another relationship.

Why don’t you feel this necessity to cleanse?

Because you feel like what you are now: a WHORE  and you are in a tug of war your shame as you tout that the sex you had “it didn’t mean anything to you”. Your mind and your heart’s perspective differ greatly, as you reason away your confusion and anguish.

So what is the conclusion to this whorism stuff anyway? How am I supposed to feel good about myself as a woman of I think I’m a whore? Well isn’t the point of this entire article to address the FACT that you’ve ALWAYS felt that way? You just couldn’t put it into the eloquent presentation

that I’ve done here for you, but you have indeed felt that way. You are more caught up in how it reads on paper than how it feels in your heart.

But the point is to take ownership of your body and understand which things you can overrule with your thoughts and which things are governed by physical laws that cannot be overridden.

Your body is an incubator, a DNA recorder if you will. And this means that it’s a storage space for everything you put in it: dik included. The sex you have as the whore you are is indeed your right to have, just understand that when you become initiated through sex, everything you do MUST become strategic to protect your mental and physical well being.

You should understand that since you are designed as a genetic recorder/receiver, who you fuck can “dumb you down” or “build you up” depending on his physical and emotional constitution.

As a whore, you must be self absorbed.  Your livelihood depends on your ability to be selfish, selective and graceful and cunning.

Why?

Because you know that dik will alter to you and it must be for gain or what is the point really.

You are wired for natural selection. Your lack of confidence and sense of entitlement as broken skewed your perception but it can be repaired.

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The World In Your Hands
Painting by Salkis Re

Step One of your reparation:

Accept that you are a Whore. Accept that you are adulterated AND that this is the natural alteration that takes place in every woman’s life. And vow to be strategic and purposeful in ALL your future alterations whether that be with one man or 60 men.

Get Up Goddess!

Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens The Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Queen Bee”

“Self Esteem Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

 

 

 

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Selling Out or Selling Myself?

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Me and a painting in progress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OK sooo, I have been trying to put some energy into myself lately, fighting my ‘I don’t give a shit’ attitude for a bit more refinement.

Just a bit!

I know us as artists do have creative license to be outlaws and misfits; I think it’s even expected actually. But for who I want to reach and how far I am expecting to take my personal brand, just be a rogue will not do.

I like money, LOTS of money, and I realized a while back that tapping into the reservoir of abundance does require a balance of freedom and conformity, thus the dreaded word for artists: stability.

  • My paintbrush and my pen and my voice are all mediums I use to communicate with you, and it’s my job to make it all cohesive.

Offers to sell out’ come pretty often, nice checks to commercialize my brand are coming in more and more. But I told myself a long time ago that I would wear a dress and red lipstick to get your attention, but I will never compromise my babies/art.

They will always have a message, they have to, or there’s no point in doing any of this. I could make art that has a broader market, but then, they wouldn’t be as meaningful and as special as I intend for them to be.

But I did have to cave in and show my face a little more. All these hot young girls all over social media displaying their ‘art’ along with their nice round asses and perky tits broke me down, I bite and admit I wanted a piece of that action. I watched how that no matter what skill level they had, they were the ones gaining exposure and buyers.

My girls are sweet. My girls are magical. The eyes are that way for more than the look of innocence. My art is liken to real children.

They feel very real!

But I have come to know that I am as important as the work itself, and it is part of my job description to show up and talk and shmooze and explain, and display and interview, and whatever else is needed to their respective homes.

So yeah, I resisted, then I joined in. And it’s not as bad as all that really. I love that people get to see the person behind those big doe-like eyes I paint. I see what seeing ‘me’ has done for for those connected to my work They understanding of my work so much more now that I’m front and center.

I had to tap into my own sexuality to pull out what I liked about myself in order for you all to understand the ‘me’ on these canvases.

So here I am. More open, yet More in control. And walking towards my destiny. …

~Salkis Re

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Artists Shaming ME, Another Artist: YIKES!

 

Facebook Group Flunkies

So this has been an interesting few days. I have been scolded in a few facebook art groups for the commentary that usually accompanies my artwork. I have never been an artist to just post a pic of my work with the measurements and a buy now link at the bottom of it. That is fuvking boring and it doesn’t stimulate emotions like words along with work do.

No Why NO WAY!

But I understand that this is my way of doing things, this is my “style” and I get it: I LOVE IT! But my problem is when the admins of these groups tell me how I ‘should’ present my work. I was told recently that I should just stick to art instead of writing a “book” length post because the opinion was that I didn’t write well enough to lend relevance to my work.

BIHHHHHHHHHH! lllmao. It is always these washed up, non visionary artists that want to lend critique on the way an artist should present their work. My art started because I wanted to illustrate a book I was writing, so I would have never picked up a brush if I didn’t have a need to ‘write” something. But I’m thankful this happened though, because it forced me to audit my time and where I was dispersing my energies, and booooooy was I wasting time “entertaining” people who really didn’t care for my words.

 

I think this is a sign that I’m getting better at orchestrating my words though, the fact that I’m making people’s skin crawl  with what means that they are tasting the bitter medicine of truth. I tell my fans that they have to develop a thick skin. Yes. You have to grow armor and not give a fuvk what people think: especially people who have nothing and who’s lives offer little to no fuvking semblance of where you aspire to be.

Naked in Stilettoes

If you want to show off your artwork while twirling a baton in stilettos and a see-through tu-tu , then DO IT! Seriously though, you got to know the “why” behind what you do or you will drift with every insinuation these forking losers can muster up while they take a break from their miserable lives. I am invested in my success as an artist,  and exposing all the dimensions of myself with the world. AND meeting the people who show tangible appreciation for what it is I do is the mission..

Listen, make you voice heard. Do your art with passion and curiosity to make yourself better with each canvas you paint on. Insecurity is the demon to slay. Insecurity affects you physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and all the other ALLY’s I left out.

DO YOU!!

“Your Life Coach, Artist, Author, Poet” ~Salkis Re

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You Are One of A kind

You really are one of a kind. But is it hard to asses the value of your worth

without comparing it to something or should I say someone else. But this leads to anguish as

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“Waiting On Your Love Baby” Painted by Salkis Re

your mind can only cop an ease from self ridicule when in the company of less physically blessed beauties.

The constant internal conversation about who you can look better than, Continue reading “You Are One of A kind”

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Lions and Tigers and Bears Dorothy!!! Follow The Yellow Brick Road

I have been added without request several crazy groups where women post provocative pics and guys, well guys get all excited and complimentary or at least they give the illusion of being complimentary, but some of these women are getting clowned and they are not well versed in communication, but I guess who needs to think that deep when the goal is attention. Its quite painful to watch actually because you know they have no clue that some are disgusted yet toying with her emotions.

I get all in my feelings about it.

If I was a bear, I’d growl,

 

 

 

 

 

 

if I was a wolf, I’d howl,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

If I was a bird I’d watch you like a  hawk

 

 

 

 

and if I was a lion I’d stalk.

 

 

 

I  hate the misrepresentation and the mental weakness of it all.

Love yourself.

And in loving yourself, you can start to see what is nurturing to you. Some of you do not know that these men are “joshing” you and really not that big of a deal ,UNTIL it leads you into private conversations with him.

We need women to encourage us, sell is the dream, comfort and lick our wounds: and then there’s me. The one that holds the mirror up to all that you hide cause you can only concern things when you stop pretending they are not there.

I see new cycles of old shyte starting all over again and the year is only two days old. I see that some of you are gonna act like you were in a coma for all of 2016. Wake up sleeping beauty.

Here, drink this tea with me..
“Your Life Coach, Artist/Author/Poet” ~Salkis Re

 

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You Can’t See Through What You Want to See!

You need to know “how’ to get to know.

The “slight of hand” makes you think you know.

Your need for pleasure puts a filter over your eyes towards any truth that appears in front of you. You deny what you want, what you feel, and what you see because you think your will to have can affect a person’s character.

You think your prayers have been answered before you even give yourself a chance to test for false prophets. Your prayers and meditations do not calm your mind into the relaxation you need in order to see what is right or wrong in men.

You go into it with a sense of entitlement, yet you cannot see when the ‘show’ is being put on for you. You are hopeful, optimistic, cheerful, and appealing, and you think these things will get you what you want. They can assist of course, but they have to be in conjunction with your wisdom and a clear objective for your own life.

***Attractiveness will not cure boredom, or wandering eye. And being nice and sweet will not keep him interested. Keeping a level head is the only way to “know” what you need to know.

And what are you looking for?

*Emotional stability,

*natural tendencies,

*spontaneous reactions to unexpected things,

*what he says about people he loves, 

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*does he love his work,

*is he disciplined,

*does he take care of his body,

*how much leisure time does he need and how does he spend it. And so on.

BUT you have to know yourself in order to access others without projecting yourself on to him. 

If you need help with that, I can coach you..

But for now, just Take Your Time in order to see.

Know what you are deserving of and watch for his ability and motivation to give it to you.

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The Great Pretenders

I watch people,

I listen.

I ponder.

I wonder about ‘us’. Us women I mean.

And how we are afraid of things that give us no legitimate cause to fear while other things display their harm to us repeatedly yet we stay the course, weather the storm, hope for the best, bestow optimism towards. You do these things for everybody else but yourself. You can see the bright side of a slap in the face if his d&85k makes you cum.
But for you, well.. you doubt even what you know you are capable of!
Why do you do this?

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Who taught you to hate yourself this much? When one person says your nothing, you think the world agrees with him. Truth is, I’m asking like I have not been you, and I have. What I am trying to do here is save you time, to help you learn the lesson fast and live slow. Time is important, the most important thing you got.
Time is not money, its more valuable than money because money cannot renew it; once its gone, its gone forever… The truth is bitter, the truth is not harsh:

THE TRUTH IS YOUR BEST AND ONLY FRIEND!! I need for you to want it, to crave it.
It is the only thing that will bring your right mind back you know. You got to dance with it in order to heal and transform..
From the desk of “Your Life Coach” ~Salkis Re
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The Farce of Romance


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I love..love. I think romance is the juice that runs through the veins of all relationships. Its makes people crave each other, makes them want to fuck and give gifts and procreate. Romance and love, people think they are the same.

But they are not.

Love needs no entertaining, it’s a feeling you have when you don’t have to speak to each other. It’s a comfort that comes from just being in the space you room as the person you care about.

Yeah.

Love is ‘care’ it’s a deep concern for the person you are sharing your life with. It’s those kisses he wants even before you’ve brushed your teeth. It’s the encouragement she knows you need without you even saying a word. Love becomes instinctive when you care deeply about a person.

Romance is beguiling

Smiling…. But romance.. Romance is beguiling. It encourages feelings that you may not want to feel. It ‘creates’ emotional, coaxes them to the surface. Romance confuses all logic. He may not be good for you, but he feels good to you kind of a thing.

We all want to tune out or turn off reality at times, romance obliges that need with pleasurable escapes. Get-ways from responsibilities back home. You can have another  life for a night or maybe a whole weekend where there is all this good food you didn’t have to cook and fucking in a bed you don’t have to make up.

It would be beautiful to have both though!

All the things you want to hear are said, true or not they may be, but the honesty in it all is not a requirement for romance to pull off without a hitch.  It would be beautiful to have both though. But it would mean that you have to be close and then a little vague too. To push and pull each other in order to make things feel new.

The etymology of the word Romance is defined as:

recite; composition in vernacular; verse narrative

In other words, it’s a pleasurable story, a language of niceties, verbal entertainment 

Me? Well, I don’t want your kiss as a gesture of good manners, I want the I’ve missed you kiss. But you have to actually miss me to be able to kiss me like that. Separate rooms maybe? Go see me mom for a month? Fuck you in another country? Awwwwww lol My vagina jumped for the latter option!

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Do I think Interracial Dating is a Bad Thing?

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Someone asked me about interracial dating.

I will be asking two questions:

1)do black men watch porn?

2)Do black men have a “type” of female they like?

And then more questions:

3)Do you understand that most of them watch non black women and are very excited by the pink snatch and Tu Ball Cains jumping around ?

4)Do you understand that what they watch is what turns them on?

5)How many times is it going to be someone that looks exactly like you?

6)Do you understand that having a “type” is a prejudice within itself, and that it’s a predisposition towards a particular esthetic?

7)What are you ashamed of admitting exactly?

8)And why when men have no problem objectifying and separating parts of your body into what is valuable and what is not useful?

You are attracted to what you are attracted to and that’s it. We can cradle the politics of it and the turncoat , coon labels can be rather discomforting to say the least. But you must know that what should concern you most is what happens behind the door of your own house. You are ALONE:I keep drilling this into your head because its this collective allegiance to nothingness that as many of us putting opportunity on hold or passing it up altogether.

Prejudice is everywhere. And YES, it is within the ‘black community’ of which there really isn’t a community more so than neighborhoods where we densely reside. The truth of someone’s heart, you can never really know, so why rely on what you hope is comradery when the only man you can put to task on defending you, is the one you go to bed with?! You must narrow your focus and listen to your heart and mind. You make vows to people who will not help you in times of need. You show you are ‘down’ for men who will never consider you as wife material.

Self care is the first and the most important vow you will ever make. Angry people cannot love, hateful people cannot love, racist people cannot love etc.

When you start looking at EVERYTHING for what it really is, you start to really grasp how much “performing” is going on. Some of us have allegiance to those that look at us as an “experiment” or something to do when they are bored or have a dry spell. You are ALONE.. This walk is yours. No one is coming to save you. No revolution. . Look around and you can see if u open your eyes. You are aligned with nostalgia and illusions.

Live YOUR life..
“Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

 

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Baking Cakes So He Can Break Bread!

Those women that tell you that you can do without, are themselves doing WITH and laugh as that ransack your house while they steal the spoils of war. This aggression makes us diseased, angry for no reason, it bloats our binge-eating bellies and hurries us to our graves.

We must let go.

We must let go of what we think is power and ignite what is actually power. Men take orders, they don’t give them. They need a purpose and a reason to strive or they’ll fall back in their beer stained easy chairs sweating out piss from their foreheads while they wonder all the “what if’s” of life. His purpose should be to please you and keep you safe. This is what he’s designed to do. If you play your part, your role will not wear him out, it will strengthen him and make him sharper still. Be a woman through and true woman.


I’m talking about being in expectation, NOT neediness

I’m designed to receive and when i’m not receiving, i’m not thriving. Getting your own is good but it doesn’t satisfy like being given does. There are parts of me that are off limits to everyone, those parts require my energy alone, and we all should have an off limit side to keep the mind mentally balanced. Being needy is an example of an unbalanced woman. I’m talking about being in expectation, NOT neediness; there is a difference in results and a difference in respect for each of those. Become a woman who expects the best from your man. You can make do if you’re by yourself. Wink!

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Times of War

I am so into emotional stability these days. I guess its inspired my new media events and the constant bombardment of terrorism that people seem to “enjoy” sharing. I remember when I saw someone die in the movies, now I’m watching snuff films pretty much daily thanks to social media enthusiasts. What puzzles me about it all is that the emotional rants are getting so theatrical, yet the ‘solutions’ posed to actually affect change are met with: “We have to think things through” or ” We can’t do that right now” There is always a slow down all the way to a complete stop when we talk about things that we can actually do to change our condition that would not require anyone getting killed.

 

But then it becomes a matter of “practicality” when people are called to  task. But before the sit down, y’all were OK with insisting that people kill the pigs. The insane things seem to be easier to suggest that simple things that would require you to be inconvenienced for a little while. Are yall going to Wait until the UN brings foreign police to regulate urban streets? And I’m hearing that is the plan: they will bring in military from other countries for population control. Boycotting is still an effective method for change, but we have to be willing to give up comforts for the change we seek.

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Love Tender, Love Me True…

Never had a real shot at this love thing. I’m either caught begging or regretting. I’m either settling or chasing. They love me and I don’t love them, or I love them and they could care less about me. Been looking for the circle of reciprocity for as long as penises have entered my vagina. I hurt and supplied hurt. I sit at the window of my thoughts hoping that my karma has finally burned out for a fresh start at this romance game. Looking for someone I could be proud to call my own. Will it come? I’m not sure. I hope so. I can only settle my mind, body and soul in preparation for receiving it. But I got a million stories out the heartbreak deal, and my willingness to share has made for new friends. I would rather they not try to exploit my transparency cause its as if they think I expose myself in order to be used again.. Lol I laugh when they come trying to put band aids on old wounds.

I’m bored with their attempts to console me. Don’t play me for a victim because I have exposed myself to you. Those things you know of me have been worked out already, so its time to tell me about you. Can you reveal the things that make you look less put together? Can you show vulnerability? Will you show concern for me more than proper manners of “how are you”? How deep will you go to have me in your world? That is the question. Stop trying to figure out how you can get something out of me without risk or loss. You will have to give up something to be with me, your job is simply to decide how much of a risk im worth you taking. Its as simple as that. I win however the dice may role. There are plenty of ‘sure bets’ out here so don’t try to guilt me into offering you the opportunity to receive the results you are used to getting for those girls who are not goal oriented. I am not a manipulator: what I am however, is an “Uncoverer”, and by the time I’m finished finding out all you try to hide we both will be giggling as we relax into friendshipping each other.

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~Salkis RE

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Damsels Make Distress

My mother always said “Even if yuh dun need, yuh need!” Translation: Make a man useful by needing him to do things for you. Now my mom is like me. She is soft and non aggressive, but she definitely gets what ever she wants by being her sweet feminine self. I have been talking a great deal about feminine charm, and us as women need to take another look at the most receptive way to posture in order to have a peaceful and fulfilling relationship.

There is too much blame and vindictiveness going on among us as women. Too many pity party’s and rants about our disappointments in men and not enough effective introspection and behavioral modification. They treat us bad and we respond in kind. Then they treat us bad some more and we rebut with more revenge. The cycle just spins out of control with no end in site.

I really believe that femininity is power. Submissiveness doesn’t have to be jail time if done with a mission to achieve and receive the things you want and desire. Real men are not compelled to care for women who act like men. Having an attitude invites contempt and defensiveness ,not respect. Speak what you want gently yet firmly as if you expect to get it. Ditch the loud, abrasive tone and stand your ground by expectation, not fights.

And if you don’t get what you want, then you pull back quietly. No announcement please!! Just do more of you to fill the space of whatever you were doing for him. BUT, I must say that you should ALWAYS be busy being and doing you. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you give up your interests and passions. If you start falling off your program, you will become a bore quickly. Be busy with life. ALWAYS. And with sweetness make your demands so he can be the man he is designed to be: a problem solver!

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I Can Love You Better!

Making things better in a relationship.. Hmm I don’t think a turn around in a down hill spiral takes a tremendous amount of time. If you are with someone who treats you unkind, its not because they are sitting there waiting on the ‘right time” to treat you right. They treat you dastardly because they want to, because they have no inspiration or incentive to treat you any other way. But one hand cannot clap my lovelies: it’s a master and slave relationship. He can’t rule without subjects that have agreed to his appointed sovereignty.

The instinct to hold you dear is a gumbo mix of give and take IT away. Its an atmosphere of anxiety and incomplete comfort that causes one to strive to make pleasing you their number one purpose. Equality doesn’t feed passion. Truthfulness doesn’t make one treat you fair.. But of course you know this as you have had much lonely nights to asses and account for all your uprightness and your willingness to show, (even at the risk of  chasing reciprocity), how much you genuinely care.

You have given him no room to earn you! You are impatient and needy, yet so motivated to learn the lesson for the 100th time that beggars can’t be choosers. What is the secret I must share? You do not give to get, you BE to get. This is what Queens do!

We all appreciate and cherish what we have earned. We shine them up like trophies on  beautiful display cases, but with things given without merit, we put them in the back of our closet, or box them in the attic to collect dust until we fine someone who can find more use for them than we can fairly give.

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~Salkis Re

 

 

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Ooooh She’s Naked!!!!

Soo I am revamping, cleaning house, looking our my business plans, my goals and motivations.  What is my message? What has been my message this entire time?

Empowerment of course. Female Empowerment to be precise. And healing..

I wanted and still do intend on portray life’s lessons through the eyes of the sweet little girls I paint. But questions were posed to me the other day, and it became apparent to me that I was editing myself as an artist so that I would not offend people. I dabbled here and there in sensuality and sexuality, but I realized that some of the story was being left untold. If I am truly for the autonomy of women, this means being comfortable with everything that being a woman is about.

Some people are offended by nudes and I respect that. But what I don’t have to do is make my work a reflection of what they are uncomfortable with. So I ask them now, are you offended when you take off your clothes? Maybe that is where the angst comes from. A disgust with one’s self possibly? I know that one very well too. So I face myself in the mirror while making corrections instead hiding behind morality like so many of my beloved sisters do. Anyone who has followed my work or commentary for any length of time knows that I’m not an advocate for parting your legs whenever the munchies hit you. Discipline is what I propose for all vices and corrections in character flaws not over indulgences.

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Nudity in my work represents total relaxation with the self, nothing to hide and no need to hide. This is what I’m on a mission to embody as I shed old skin and look for new experiences to aid in the formation of my new personality. Self respect is about doing in the dark the same things you do in the light. Its about packing up the need to pretend that you ‘don’t this’ for anyone. Are we holding up billboards? No. Every man doesn’t need to know what I do in bed, but the man that I want to be with should be told without hesitation what my needs are. But  what I find is that people that hide what they fear also inadvertently hide and are unable to communicate what they really want too. Guilt has no place in healing. No place in my world. I will leave that charge to those of you who enjoy the dance of deception, so I will not carry your burden for you. One of the main reasons that I became an artist is for the freedom to do whatever I wanted to do and find those who resonate with my form of expression.

That’s it!

I hope my fans continue to walk with me as I evolve and explore the vastness of love as I see it. Some of you will drop off, and I don’t mind if you do. I just ask that you do classy and quietly like you expect me to be….

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Your Only As Sick As Your Secrets

 

I love my paid hoes and poor sluts…

I have a few unmentionables. Things that have caused me shame in my life. Things that a few people know and maybe more than I think know because you just never know if your secrets are held sacred after you utter them. I wish I could go back in time, I wish it so badly. But I can’t. The ‘damage’ is done and I have to live on. But this thing called shame is paralyzing. Its like you walk one egg shells hoping you won’t be found out, like living while looking over your shoulder everyday. I can’t do that anymore. I won’t. There is no power in pretense. There is no glory in being discreet if your deeds haunt you, if you can’t forgive yourself. I’m for women. ALL of us. I love my prayer warriors and my jump off’s, and my paid hoes and poor sluts. I have been them all, unwillingly perhaps, led by fear most probably, trying to survive mostly. 20150402_071924

The fat gene won a few times but…

I know what its like to feel the thrust of man’s third leg inside me that didn’t care about me. I know what its like to “pretend” not to care while I let him do it too! I know what its like to latch on to someone because I thought this was the last train for me, that this was the best I’d ever get. I know what its like to pretend not to want anything so I’d be free feeling what I thought was inevitable disappointment. I know what its like to have a baby to keep the peace and get rid of one to keep “my peace”. I have been homeless. I have slept in my car. I know what a grocery store run feels like when you only have 5 dollars in your pocket for peanut butter and bread, but I also know what its like to give my savings away to my man’s next big business venture only to have nothing but a garage full of  novelty trash that wouldn’t sell. I fought the fat gene, won a few times, lost a few and Im winning right now and have a deeper understanding to stay here too.

Dear God, it’s me Salkis!

I spent a lot of time trying figure out what I wanted to do, what I wanted to be good at.. But that voice in my head was always nagging at me, telling me this ain’t gonna work or that ain’t gonna work. I even thought that being dark skin was a curse. I think I was 11 or 12 years old when I’d have frequent ‘talks’ with God about my complexion and I’d make deals with him I’d pass all my math tests and stop stealing the Fig Newtons out the cookie jar if he just would make me lighter skinned. Every morning, I ran to the mirror believing something changed, but there I was, just the same as the night before.

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Daddy, Mommy and Me

I’d say: “You don’t love me God, if you did, you’d answer my prayers….”

Sex and donuts…

This is why I speak of self esteem and self awareness so much. I can see in the eyes of many women, the anguish, the confusion, the fear and dissatisfaction within their existence. I know it well. Even the psychics and the oracles can’t hide that look from me.  I know what they are feeling too. Bravado means nothing. The “I can do what I want to do” doesn’t mean a hill of beans. Its like one rice grain to a hungry belly. Only the strong will survive? No. Not true. Only the people who make the right decisions at the right time survive, only those who exercise purposeful discipline will survive. Much of our bumps in the road is do to lack of discipline, laziness, gluttony, focus. These things make one sick, broke, unhealthy etc.. Good sex is pleasurable, and I don’t know about you but glazed donut makes me hum my favorite tune. But are they good for us just because they bring us pleasure? That is what we have to reason out with the decisions we make.

So I decided that my goal, what I wanted to center myself around was love, self love in particular, but all aspects of it because it shapes and influences every part of our lives. I want love to be simple. I want the me that I was before I thought I needing fixing, the me that I was before the need to repair.. Before I was 11 years old I suppose….

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