Should We Stop Wearing Weaves?

“Everybody Wants to Look Better Than They Actually Are”
January 24, 2019 8:04 a.m.

Women wear WIGS to be more attractive, and Men wear 👉WOMEN to be more attractive..

Your Self Esteem Coach, Salkis Re


Everbody trying to look better than they actually are out here..

Shaming You is a Subjugation Tactic

I’ll tell you why Shaming women is so effective, it’s effective because we WANT to subjugated, we WANT to comply, we WANT to help, we WANT fairness.

And because we are by nature inclined to comply, these campaigns to make us feel worthless and nonsensical work because women are NOT negotiators.

I have never met a man yet who felt “shame” about what he liked have , be or do!! But women are put on blast accused of being unreasonable, impractical, delusional and emotionally unstable at every turn.

This is because men know that more times than not, we want give in, we’d rather have fairness than GET WHAT WE WANT..

Please stop taking men seriously


How Sway?

Please stop taking men seriously. It’s all a game, chess moves if you will. The way to get you to become a team player is by “leading” you and to lead you he has to show you that he knows what’s best for you.

He has to establish that his goals should be yours (this is what get you to open your legs for him before it safe or profitable to do so).

This is also why “showing” that you are smarter than him or 👉aggressively noncompliant is makes you unattractive in general to men..


Have your convictions and your boundaries set in STONE..

Your “Self Esteem Coach”

~Salkis Re

“Assertiveness Training for So-Called Unattractive Women”


January 18, 2019

Let me tell you unattractive women

and the rest of you unattractive women that pretend

like you DON’T think you are Unattractive. 
It’s not about your looks you know..
That’s not why you are mistreated and disregarded by men. 


This has more to do with your “agreeableness” and proclivity to “comply” as a WOMAN and in particular as an unattractive woman..

If you were born with a face that’s only your mother thinks is beautiful

If you were born with a face that’s only

your mother thinks is beautiful or that people

assume easy advantage over, then you have to put aside your virtue

and that “turn the other cheek” mentality to unearth your “INNER BITCH”. 

Yes, I said inner bitch! That part of you that

you’ve repressed in hopes that people look pass your

face to find something likeable about you.

Agreeableness is not an effective strategy for getting people to like you, ESPECIALLY when you are dealing with men!

You can’t distract men from your face!!

You can’t distract men from your face by “acting” kind and sweet: you have to DEFEND yourself as an unattractive woman!!

And this mean that you allow your spine to grow, that you show people that you are unafraid and unbothered by what they think,

and you are not EASY to befriend or have sex with!!

See a lot you cowering in a corner.

You never have anything of substance to share,

you never tell a joke, or say you are proud of yourself.

You never voice a thought or string opinion about anything…

Cause you’re trying to stay invisible so sees you as a target to ridicule.


GET UP! And show the world who you are, what YOU feel about things, share your intellect, your ability to create and medicine woman ways.

Stop trying to be liked when people are offended by your looks.

You have to walk another route so that your life becomes a fantastic ride!
TAKE THE BLACK PILL

Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman: Salkis Re

If you need help with self improvement and/or relationships challenges, please contact me via email at salkis @iloveherart.com


Single Mothers Be AWARE!

you cannot afford to believe in any fairytales, or allow your positive thinking to make decision on your behalf when the majority of men you reveal your “situation” to will have pseudo psycho analyzed you as a woman with little to NO OPTIONS…

“Kept Women Can’t Be Nappy Heads”, Written by Salkis Re

Had a conversation with a sister about “nappy hair”.

She’s been proudly rocking her natural hair for most of her adult life but of late had an epiphany
about her direction towards financial independence. It required her to do a total 180 degree turn in her
habit and her physical presentation so she straightened her hair as part of he transformation.
🐾
She said that the MONEY has increased and so has the QUALITY of eligible black men.
She says that she is now treated like a “classy” woman, given money, offers for marriage etc
shea butter slathering, cowie shell and stiff-ass wax fabric tent dresses wearing shill.
She said that when she traded it those things in for straighter hair and form flattering clothes her entire life changed!…

Watercolor portrait Painting, African Art
“What Would I Be?” Original Art by Salkis Re


I nodded my head pretty much through out her entire rant,

and I had to disappointedly agree with the changes she has experienced by changing her look.
🌸
Listen, I have nappy hair and dark skin, that what “The Game of Thrones” would classify as a person of “Low Birth”.
The love of women with natural hair ALSO includes a “Totem pole” or “caste system”
where the most desirable of hair types in the natural hair category are the ones that have 3B or curly, long hair. 4C hair (“nappy hair”) is only celebrated if its suffocated with gel and stretched to its fullest elastic capacity, otherwise it’s the question is asked “What are you going to do with your hair?”
🌹
Natural girls are put into a category like:
“She’s DOWN to Earth”
“She EASY going”
“She’s in tune with nature= doesn’t want material things”.
“She doesn’t have high standards”
“She is not hard to please”
“She’s is free spirited and sexually fluid”
“She’s is anti system and will struggle and turn her back on modern conviences”..
ETC ETC ETC…

🌻
If you are natural, you are put into a “poverty” class my dear, though you will enjoy the game of objectification if you have the perfect hip to waist ratio
and a decent face you most certainly will go viral online if you can get a friend to film you on your camera phone
while you playfully dance around and drop it low in a tube dress and heels.
They will oooh and ahhh at your physique, you’ll get offers for things from married and single men in your inbox, and all will feel right for a while in your world..

Now the deal is this: men generally do not want to give you ANYTHING.
You have to REQUIRE and REQEST what you want.
But what they will do is run an AUDIT on YOU! Your age. If you have kids.

Your weight, and your overall looks are what he uses to quantify your VALUE and what he is willing to LOSE/SPEND or GIVE UP to have possession of you.

Do “our” brothers revere us as “natural women”?
No.

They do not.
We are assumed to be easier to get, easier to lead, easier to influence and control.
They is no real “respect” or “reverence” happening just because you don’t straighten your hair!!!
You are simply categorized as “Reachable” especially with men of meager stature and means..

They will say they want a woman of moral character don’t they? But become defensive and condescending whenever we huddle together for “course correction” or to “clean up our act and limit frivolous sexual access to our temples”.. Here they come to critique and criticize and propagate that it’s better to be in tune with the natural fiction of sex than to have requirements to have sex with YOU.

HE does not have an issue with your promiscuity, his ISSUE arises when he is NOT given a chance to BENEFIT from YOUR promiscuity because your criteria to “play” is higher than what he can afford to give…

GAME!!
And so it is with us “natural” sisters too. No thrones are going to be erected in your honor just because you feel you represent “goodness” and “natural” things.
He sees you as “LESS”:
LESS stress,
LESS requirements,
LESS structure
LESS disciplined
And on and on…..
Do you want this BLACK PILL today ladies?

👉No. You don’t but giving to yuh anyway!
Carry On!

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Artist”
“Writer”
“Poet”
~SALKIS RE
If this commentary has inspired you to get private training and mentoring on the matters of womanhood, self esteem, emotional intelligence then let’s talk.
Send me your inquiry to salkis@iloveherart.com
My website is www.iloveherart.com
Talk with you soon, hugs..

 

“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!”

“Black Men Are ALL Colorists!!!!
Written by Salkis Re

So word on the street is that NON black men love and appreciate black women more than our own black brothers do. The word on the street is that all black men are “colorists” and prefer light skin black women with straight hair and acquiline features. Word on the street is that black men HATE women who have dark skin and “nappy hair”.

This is just the word on the street, so I can’t definitively say that I agree that ALL our brothers feel this way NOR that these accusations hold no merit.

My experience?
Well, I have been slighted, passed over and berated for the tone of my flesh by my “brothers”. I have been called a big-lipped, ‌ MonKey by brothers before. I have been exploited and degraded by my brothers because of how I looked..
Yes…..

But……

My SISTERS did all those things to me too, lest the sexual part. There’s a Big, Fat, Game being played here.
The Name of this game is called:
“Point the Finger”.

And all this “THEY don’t love us” talk, if we are going to be totally transparent, should include SISTERS TOO!

racist cartoons and postcards
“Black” Art by Salkis RE

We don’t love ourselves.
And sadly even some of our chocolate sistren shout self praises around how “exceptional” they are because they have smaller noses and lips “IN SPITE” of being dark skin. What is she really saying here: I may have darker skin put my features are like white women, so I’m NOT THAT UGLY!!

We class and caste our sisters with as much fervor as any man outside our circles. We say we are abused by them but offer no emotional refuge for our castaways to run too.
We say “Well honey, truth be told is that it’s not because you are dark, it’s because you are an ugly woman who HAPPENS to be dark”.

The Game is a Full Cord Press!

If you are a dark skin woman facing travail because of your tone AND features, alas my love, you have NO REAL ALLIES.
You are alone in your sorrows, but that is not necessarily a bad thing.
You simply are given by the grace of nature an opportunity to be a “sovereign thinker”. No one wants you to be a member of their club, but this means you get to be totally YOUR SELF instead of assimulating to the pressure and anguish that EVERY WOMAN puts herself through to conform to the rules of society and the social clubs they desperately want to be apart of.

You are alone.
And the beauty of that is that YOU have Card Blanche authority over the rules and regulations of your Mental Terrain..
And trust me, if you seize the opportunity that being on the outside of the pretentious, degradation fest that most of our women put themselves through, you will become a GOD/DESS over your precious gift called YOUR LIFE!!!

Black Women with Thick Locs

“Spiritual Advisor”
“Artist”
“Writer”
~Salkis Re

If you would to connect with privately on any matter pertaining to womanhood, wellness, weight loss, relationship goals or life purpose, please send an email to: salkis@iloveherart.com

 

Is Your Body Sacred?

We are too cavalier when it comes to that gateway that is nestled betweenour knees.

Too many men have had access to it for nothing more than a kind word and Big Mac with super sized fries…

 

It takes no effort to get inside of you. You don’t require him to do any grand in exchange for the risk you take in opening your uterus and cervix to his bacteria and anxiety..

Pink bunny rabbit
World Renowned Artist, Author, Poet and Life Coach, Salkis Re creates beautiful paintings of little girls on canvas.

Trash receptacles for sperm is what many women have become, and we are having more sex than ever before in history, yet we are more depressed and dissatisfied than ever before too.

 

Now men want to claim that they are the prize because they do all the work. They have to entertain us, feed us, cloth us, teach us, protect us, yet we bring nothing to the table according to them.

 

To answer that, I will ask this: what price should you pay to have lifetime access to my body, my heart and my mind? How much is gaining almost total control over me worth?

👉How much is my nurturing and forgiveness worth?

👉How much are the babies that I will give birth to worth?

👉How much is all the time I have taken preoccupied with while simultaneously being taken off the dating market worth?

You can make the money back that you’ve given me should you decide that I am not the one for you, but what you can’t give ME back is the time I put into a relationship with you.

That part is gone forever. Every year that I am with you, the pool of other candidates that could take your place diminishes.

And you expect that a woman isn’t entitled to care and resources when she’s dealing with a race against the clock from you and any other man who shows interest?

Your role is your role and you are curse to work and I am cursed to obey you. Live with it!

Or don’t take on the responsibility…

Carry On…..

“Spiritual Advisor”

~Salkis Re

 

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“Heal the Mind, Heal the Body!”

Salkis Re and Dr.Sebi

Me and my boyfriend, (hehe) Sebi talked for hours about healing and he told me that healing was a psychological thing, and that most of us are angry and suppressed which is why we are sick.

He said that we should strive to be “child-like” which is a ‘free thinking” way to be, but that it was difficult because we are so attached to what we identify with.

Food he said, was part of a person’s identity because it’s attached to their culture. “When I take away someone’s food, I take away someone’s IDENTITY and most people can’t deal with that, he said.

He also said: “This is why I had no luck in Africa, I couldn’t get past the “witch doctors” to help the people heal… They had too much “belief” in spirits and things to listen to me… And it’s the same thing here in America.
I can’t get a man from Louisiana to stop eating his ‘dirty rice’ cause that’s what he grew up on….
In fact, my success rate with healing people from there is very low!

Listen to me, if you really want to heal yourself, you have to let go of everything you think you NEED to be: EVERYTHING!!!
Let it all go and strip yourself down to a NAKED baby because the identity you have now is what created the environment for disease the to manifest…
SO BECOME WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO BE TO HEAL YOURSELF!!!

“Spiritual Advisor”
Salkis Re

If you want a mentor to healthy on your spiritual journey to self love and wellness, please contact me here

Seeing Things In Black and White

black and white minimalist painting
Art in Process by Salkis Re

 

“No Fillers”
Written by Salkis Re

Nearing the completion of this piece. I’m so tempted to put some color on her,

but I have to arrest my ego and let her simmer as she is…

I’m taking the minimalist approach to things lately.
Thinking more and more about how I really enjoy simplicity and less “stuff”.
😑
If the floor is clean, I could sleep on it now problem.

Give me some candles and I don’t need lamps.. I just don’t want to ” need” so much anymore.

I haven’t had food or water anything since last Sunday evening.
👉I’m dry fasting right for a goal of 48 hours for mind control and self improvement purposes.

I’m doing what Mystics I suppose. My sense of smell is acute, my heating too, and I’m trancing out as I work.
Feels more weird than usually but in a very good way.

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
*Prints will be available when she’s complete..

Website: www.iloveherart.com

dark skin women

Why You Want to Please People So Damn Badly!

Why is it so hard for you to consider how you feel FIRST??
I will tell you why.

Because a long time ago, when you were just a little girl, someone you loved and depended on told you it was wrong not to want to share.

These people were giants to you and you looked up to them literally and figuratively. They told you that you have to listen to what you are told regardless of what your desires were. They told you that it was wrong and disrespectful to be or show anger.

So you learned to hide your emotions.

You learned that for people to love you, you could not disagree with them in anyway lest you become a disappointment to them and yourself.

And so, here we are today…
And the same reasonings, the same thinking process you had as a little still prevails.

So what is the truth here?

The truth is that this all proves how “conditional” love actually is.
It also proves that what you thought you had to be was never the TRUTH, for it was merely

abstract portrait painting
“Love You Anyway”
Art by Salkis Re

Indoctrination to conform you for easier control over your behavior and actions.

You are FREE now baby girl…

You are no longer under the jurisdiction of your parents; furthermore, lovers and husbands that enter your life are there by your grace and the generosity within you to give them the opportunity to be a “part” of your life…

Abstract portrait painting
“This World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

Take these broken wings and learn to fly again..

Get the book that will help you here.

If you need to talk to me, I am here..

 

Men Want Women To Like Them!

Men are curious creatures ready to play.

The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.

Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.

That’s all courtship is really.

Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.

Beautiful Black women with thick locs
Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

 

 

His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,

to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..

So what’s the true tea here?

DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.

But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good

because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..

Except it.

Expect it.

 

Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!

And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.

They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”

which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.

But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.

 

So what should you do?

Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,

heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,

throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?

I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.

You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.

You want be kind, but not compromising.

You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.

You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,

and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!

Thick Locs
iLoveHerArt.com

Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.

And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.

Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.

 

All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”

is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.

So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!

This means that you trust your instincts;

you move only when you are comfortable;

you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind

ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!

 

If you need to talk, I’m HERE