Poem: “You’re Not a Real Angel”

“You’re Not a Real Angel”
Written by Salkis Re

 

 

“This World is Yours” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

When they call you an angel,
you choose not to receive it,
You think angels don’t look like yourself,
and you feel you ought to look as them to believe it.

Their wings are pretty and all uniformed and white,
while you sit here in bursts of all this color.
And somehow you view your rainbows
as an embarrassment to the others.

White wings are just more classy,
is what your mind makes you say.
And all your colors are just too festive
to show the earthlings how to seriously pray…

But when God made you my angel,
he was more adventurous and brave.
And he added his sharpened skill onto you
and made what he once couldn’t create.

So open up your wings, flap them like thunder
and give the wind something to do.
And show the world that angels come in all colors
and that the best of them do look like you…

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING:”This World is Yours”
Available Here: https://www.iloveherart.com/signature…/the-world-in-my-hands

This poem I wrote today is about ownership and respect for the difference that make you who you are.

We are always looking at the grass over there thinking that its better than the patch of grass we are standing on.

Decide that you will take ownership of what makes you YOU.

We do not have to be the same.

I do not have to look the same.

And peace won’t come to you if you were to suddenly become

somebody else because inner peace only comes from acceptance of self.

What is Dating a Man Really For?

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Salkis Re, Artist/ Life Coach

 

I think some of you ladies may be confused as to the purpose of dating.
So what is it?

**Dating is the process of setting up new experiences** with a person you are physically attracted too.

Dating is an **opportunity to establish emotional memory**

with a person you do not know which will in turn invite the motivation for the “getting to know” process to begin.

Anything with enjoyment involved will not give you proper lens needed to SEE what you actually have in him.

Why?
Because you are in a state of joy, and enjoyment doesn’t require true intent,

honesty,

goal appraisals and so forth.

Now Getting to know a person is another matter.

 

Now spending time with a person is another matter.

That could include sharing a ride home from work.

I would surprise him by bringing lunch up to his job if I wanted to get to know him.

I would be interested to see how he handled unexpected things like that.

Would my presence be welcomed?

Would he feel embarrassed, violated maybe?

A bite to eat on a Sunday afternoon while you’ll discuss social issues with other friends and acquaintances  could also give you a feel of how in control he is emotionally,

how well he can articulate his thoughts or how thoughtful he is to other people.

Spending time together while he is doing an assignment for work would allow you to see certain characteristics of his personality that he may not have revealed to you just yet.

Any time you get to be a spectator instead of the focal point of an interaction is an opportunity

to get a glimpse of one’s character because he is not so preoccupied with entertaining  or making an impression on you!!

The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection

**The only thing that can be achieved through dating is an emotional connection caused by excitement and pleasure.**
The _knowing_ ****part comes in when you start to see the dark side of people, that side that they don’t show when they are manufacturing joy for you…

Take it for what it is, or not..

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

 

Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

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Artist, Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

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Art by Salkis Re

STEP ONE

So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)

STEP TWO

Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.

STEP THREE

Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.

STEP FOUR

Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?

Xoxo,

Salkis

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So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Justification of Bullshit!!

Your Life Coach, Salkis Re

Listen, anything and Everything can be justified.

It doesn’t take much to justify why you did something or why you’ve allowed it be done to you.
All that’s required is some intense emotion like anger or fear, and you can carefully craft a whole imaginary story around it.
We are “Imaginators” like Walt Disney called his cartoonists back in the day.

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..

So the ingredients for justification is emotional conviction and repetition to become the standard in your life..
But you know what this means too?
It means that you can also justify the things that give you pleasure,
the things or experiences that improve you physically and mentally.
Justification for laziness,
sloth,
indecisiveness,
fear,
and anger takes the same amount of energy as the justification for wanting a man with a gigantic penis,
or a house with 6 bedrooms.Why?
Because your justification creates the importance behind anything you do or don’t do,

and you decision to reason with or against anything you want or don’t want is based in a FEELING, nothing more.

There are people who can argue the right want children sexually.
There people who can justify drinking urine.
There are people who can reason out the benefits of slavery.
There are people who justify cooking and then eating a new mother’s *placenta to celebrate the birth of a child.
There are people who justify killing people over animals.
There are people who justify the mistreatment of dark skin, black women.

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Art by Salkis Re

I can go on, but I think you get the point.
So the question what makes a justification right or wrong?
The answer?
Nothing!
Nothing other than how you feel about a thing.
Take me for instance, I am ANTI PORN in relationships

because I think it disables strong intimate sexual connects between male and female.

I think porn creates false expectations and performance anxiety for both men and women.

The pressure to have a pretty “Pu$$y” with no bumps or stretched out labia’s,

or a baby arm size dick that shoot cum all the way across the room, is that realistic?
I think it makes people dissatisfied with each other and it’s a form of infidelity in my book.
So I don’t partake.

I don’t want to need to imagine having sex with someone else so that I can be wet enough to fuck you!!

And I would hope that declaration could be made on my behalf also vice-versa of course.
No Sir!
But people swear by the benefits of it, and some have claimed that it saved their sex lives.
So who’s right here?
I’m right to me and they are right to them: Justification!!

So how will you justify what you need and want?
Are gonna start this year playing passive by waiting for the North Star to shine down into your apartment while you are meditating,

or are you gonna CREATE your justification like you do for alllllllllllllllllllllllll those things you don’t want to face or do?
GAME!!
That’s all this life is really, a game to me played as you wish.
You want something different? Then you have to deliberately create it. Justification is the spice that can fuel a new point of view.
Make up your FACTS based on what you FEEL.
Let’s Do This!!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

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The Critics Love You!

 

 

What people have the time to speak about is what they have concern for, and this includes you. Take criticism as inverted care, a destructive side of passion and admiration, and more often than not, self reflection.

African American Artist, Salkis Re

Nonetheless, you are charged with fluidity, to keep your heart moving and your soul occupied with whatever you are called to do.

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                                                                                         “Feel Me” by Salkis Re

Life is truly to short to give such heavy credence to the emotional whims of others. In fact, objective criticism usually followed by a solicited quest for help, and it should be sought after by those who are further along than you are.

This is the parameters necessary to CARE what one thinks about you or what you are doing.

Remember, you ARE what YOU say you are.

black artistsSo who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace, self love, and the expression of a purposeful life. I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means. I hope you share this message with all you know. I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

You Are What You FEEL You Are!!

Heal From Past Relationships

Everybody sees things in their own way. There is no possible way to be completely objective.

Why? Because you process everything in your world based on the information files in your head.

You gauge what you are seeing by what you have seen before, always in route to the familiar road.

We all filter our environment in this way, and it’s necessary to do so in order to avoid stimulation overload.

You see what you see based on how you feel about yourself, and how you feel about yourself is based on your health, how your nervous system responds, and, of course, your past experiences.

The important thing to remember is that we ALL have a lense, a filter by which we SEE, so this means that reality will ALWAYS be somewhat distorted.

This also means that because we are all innately see in distortion, we should not take what we see for face value.

There’s a lot of unconscious whoo-ha happening at the same time too.

So how do you combat the distortion in your perception?

By becoming a little skeptical.

Check things out further and ask questions for clarity.

Never assume that you know exactly what you are seeing.

You cannot control what you see ALL of the time!

Your genetics as well as your experiences determine how you see and how you think.

Your:

Needs

Beliefs

Emotional State

Physiological State

and Habitual Behavior Patterns

ALL decide what you see and experience.

So let’s break down each one.

NEEDS:

Needs alter your reality because it makes you focus on fulfilling  not particular need. If you are thirsty, you are gonna be looking everywhere for water.

Ormaybe you have a need to impress a new boyfriend, so you go out of your way to find something special to wear when you have perfect clothes n your closet already.

Having a need makes you dissatisfied with your surroundings, with people, even yourself.

BELIEFS

Beliefs are predetermined or preconceived notions, Values, Prejudices, about ongoing interactions. Of instance, a neat freak who Values being extra clean will think that everything around her isn’t clean enough and often this leads to exaggeration of the level untidiness in the environment she is in.

 

EMOTIONAL STATE

When you are aroused with emotions like anger, you are gonna see the world as dangerous and unpleasant.

When you are in love, you see the world through Rose colored glasses.

And when you are depressed(you are feeling Blue).

You are, whatever you are feeling at the time, and you SEE based on what you are feeling in that moment.

 

PHYSIOLOGICAL STATE

What you see through your filter is predicated upon your physical being. If you have a fever, headache, tired, under medication, even hungry can cause you to act frustrated, detached, or argumentative.

And a lot of times, we don’t even notice the shift in our emotional constitution that the physical body invites us into.

HABITUAL BEHAVIOR PATTERNS

These are coping strategies applied to justfiable or unjustifiable situations. You simply act in a certain way to avoid pain or harm whether or not you are in situations that call for it. Most people simply reach into their bag of tricks to pull out a familiar response to their world, never taking the time to base a response on accurate assessments instead.

 

So here an exercise for you:

Spend the next few days imagining that your eyes are a camera and your ears are a microphone. Bring awareness to your ears and create a voice over in your head narrating what you see and hear.

Imagine responses you would NOT normally give and take note of how your awareness of your reality shifts.

In other words: Flip the script!

You will start to SEE with broader focus and more accurately too because you will be outside of your usual distorted response patterns.

Let me end here by saying this:

People do dastardly things for a myriad of reasons;
low blood sugar,

disease,

fear,

anxiety,

loneliness and so forth,

can and WILL distort the lenses of one’s reality AND decision making.

Take your hands off THEIR wheel!

The part were you come in is with how you respond to it, and what you do with the ‘awareness ‘ they’ve now given to you.
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“Medicine Woman”

“Artist”

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
My Website for coaching and art: www.iloveherart.com

 

 

 

Best Friends

 

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“Forever Best Friends”
Written by Salkis Re

True friendship is like a flower that grows at the spring of each second season.
For us to share and give each other care,
needs no particular reason.

Her concern for you is shown when she gives you her lollipops,
and you return the favor when she asks you to play another fun game of hopscotch.

And we sip the Kool-Aid and eat sweet things that pop and fizz in our mouths,
And we vow yet again to be friends forevermore, just as we are right now..

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Website:www.iloveherart.com

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Sometimes I like to write my thoughts in poetry form. It helps me perge my emotions in a safe, yet entertaining way.

Hobbies are important for emotional balance, and I feel that it is necessary ,for sanity purposes, to have something you do just for yourself.

Holiday season is upon us now and it’s a somber time for a lot of people.

Tokeep you from slumping down, I suggest you engage in something creative to occupy your mind. An idle mind will always lean towards depression and artificial stimulants for distraction and self pity.

Don’t be that type of woman.

Life is a flash in the pan respective to time, and it will all be over soon enough. In the mean time, color your world with your love. Express yourself in a way that makes your heart flutter. Whatever it is that gets your juices flowing, do exactly that.

Me?

Well I like old things.

Antebellum homes and rustic scenes.

I like anything “yesterday”, anything with that retro feel. Like Loud wall paper patterns and plastic couch covers.

I wish my body could still handle sugar cause I sure would love a tall glass of that strawberry flavored Nestle Quick right now!

I miss Double Dutch and Red Light-Green- Light-123.

That’s my cozy place.

I just abhor modern.

I love the smell of old books too.

Find your peace.

Find your type of solace or excitement..

Peace and Love

~Salkis

 

 

 

 

Brothers that Hate Sisters!

Beautiful Black WomenI get trolling men who enjoy “attempting” to inflict emotional pain on me with crass, emotionally packed comments which are nearly always sexually charged.

Their curiosity for my dick-sucking skills or how of dicks have actually been in my mouth is a common sentiment from our “brothers”. Another common response is in the defense of this collective notion amongst them which states that black women are manly- looking, sperm- guzzling sluts who do not deserve respect or any of the comforts other “types” of women enjoy.

I take no issue with ANY brother who expresses this IF they would just stay away from us. But here they are, pretending to like you, impregnating you, wasting your time, your money, and your body, all while having degrading thoughts within their heads about you.

And you are lost because you think the main criteria for a relationship is in how much you LOVE him. You gamble your life, your beauty, your hopes and dreams on an EMOTION. And these very men resent and call you a fool for doing so.

So what are we to do here?
What is the solution to keeping men like this at Bay?
No Sex would be THE solution.
But many of is prove our worth through sex. And we become the chasers and the subordinates straight out the gate.
You can’t win doing it in this order.
So what does this mean for you?
It means that your position, the only had you play, would be that of SHOW ME!

Salkis Re, Artist, Healer, Medicine Woman

Love is not up for interpretation, and love is quite easy to create. Spend enough time with ANY man, whether you are deeply attracted to him or not, you will begin to have feelings for him and he for you.
No Sex equates to EMOTIONAL CONTROL of your own mind!
It allows you to maintain objectivity and reasoning as you quantify the value of the man you are spending time with.

You can love any man who is interested in you, who cares for you in word AND deed. That is TRUE LOVE because you able to be practical and reasonable in your relationship with him. You are not a fiend or his sexual puppet which often happens when you give up your vagina before merit is displayed. You don’t give yourself time to see if he’s after you to fill his curiosity or have the opportunity to win your love.
The point?
The point is that he MUST win your love!
And that my dear, the winning of your love, should NEVER end!

 

 

 

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“Life Savor”
~Salkis Re
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Be Who You Are!!

 

 

“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

I get it!
You don’t want to look like a fool.
You don’t want to seem strange to people.
What want to be “normal” like everybody else.
All illusions though and elaborate figments of your imagination.
Why?
Because being like everybody else is comfortable, but it doesn’t mean that people will automatically care about you, and it certainly doesn’t guarantee love!
Quite the opposite is true.

Let me hip you to a secret about people. When you conform to their way, the perception of your value is immediately reduced in their minds.
Why Salkis?

Because to be like them when they have secret loathing within them means that you are as good or not as good as they are, and if you are on the same level, there is no reason to respect you.

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Abstract Portrait Painting by
Salkis Re

People respect those they deem better than themselves. The “herd” mentality offers comfort in that there is no one to compete with, no one to take her boyfriend away or get promoted over her at work. It’s like we all are comfortable in our collective misery, steering clear of out shining each other: BUT we don’t respect each other either.

So I got a bit sentimental today and loaded up my pen to write down what you should do.
The point is to NEVER conform. You will ALWAYS reduce yourself if you do.
Why? Because the people you are “trying” to be like are already “doing them” better than you can!

Do YOU!

My Poem:

What You See” Written by Salkis Re (c) 2017

Why are you so afraid
of people seeing who you are,
or doing what your heart wants you to do?
The best thing you should be wanting
is to do things so people stop fronting
like they ever really cared about you.

Your obligation is to your dreams
and making sure that what you’ve seen
becomes real for all to bear witness.
And if people admire you
then see that as nothing more than a result from you minding your business.

Pledge your allegiance to yourself
and all that you wish you could be.
Let no one interrupt,
the flow of what you want
And never be afraid of showing them
what you’ve always wanted yourself to see.

“Mistress of Words”
“Black Hat Wisdom”
“Liberator of the Breath of Re”
“She Who Opens the Throat to Breathe”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re
Website:www.iloveherart.com

You Are One of A kind

You really are one of a kind. But is it hard to asses the value of your worth

without comparing it to something or should I say someone else. But this leads to anguish as

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“Waiting On Your Love Baby” Painted by Salkis Re

your mind can only cop an ease from self ridicule when in the company of less physically blessed beauties.

The constant internal conversation about who you can look better than, Continue reading “You Are One of A kind”

Times of War

I am so into emotional stability these days. I guess its inspired my new media events and the constant bombardment of terrorism that people seem to “enjoy” sharing. I remember when I saw someone die in the movies, now I’m watching snuff films pretty much daily thanks to social media enthusiasts. What puzzles me about it all is that the emotional rants are getting so theatrical, yet the ‘solutions’ posed to actually affect change are met with: “We have to think things through” or ” We can’t do that right now” There is always a slow down all the way to a complete stop when we talk about things that we can actually do to change our condition that would not require anyone getting killed.

 

But then it becomes a matter of “practicality” when people are called to  task. But before the sit down, y’all were OK with insisting that people kill the pigs. The insane things seem to be easier to suggest that simple things that would require you to be inconvenienced for a little while. Are yall going to Wait until the UN brings foreign police to regulate urban streets? And I’m hearing that is the plan: they will bring in military from other countries for population control. Boycotting is still an effective method for change, but we have to be willing to give up comforts for the change we seek.

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~Salkis RE

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Shadow Boxing, But You Can’t Win

I don’t thinking arguing is effective to get one’s point across. Though I do get my panties in a bunch when I hear someone trying to indoctrinate me with their foolery, I have been exercising great care in responding emotionally to every shit stirrer that crosses my path. I have to say I feel more empowered by my silence than in any illusionary win I could have created with my foot stomping banter. I don’t think I’m physically designed for that anyway. I’m one of those that loses her voice after a view minutes irateness, so I guess I was born to keep the peace. So my advice to you ladies is exert your energy where it can be utilized in the most beneficial way possible.

And I want you to understand that people do the things they do because they want to, you can’t guilt someone into changing their character. That my darlings is something I would tell my younger self if I could. I thought my pleas could change hearts, but it halted offenses long enough for your guard to diminish, and then the offense was committed again. Now, I am not saying that you shouldn’t address the ills that affect your life, you most certainly need to be on record so no one can throw the ignorance card in your face. But should you find yourself repetitive in the beseechment of his mercy and good doings, then you have an issue in that person that was probably created shortly after he was weaned from his mother’s breast.

Find a way to cope or cut your loses and move on. Think your moves through, twist them, reorder them, picture possible results, and if your ok with what could potentially happen then move on it and let the chips fall. Time and your body are the two priceless things you have,and one of them in nonrenewable and the other has an expiration date. Live your life… It’s Yours….

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Damsels Make Distress

My mother always said “Even if yuh dun need, yuh need!” Translation: Make a man useful by needing him to do things for you. Now my mom is like me. She is soft and non aggressive, but she definitely gets what ever she wants by being her sweet feminine self. I have been talking a great deal about feminine charm, and us as women need to take another look at the most receptive way to posture in order to have a peaceful and fulfilling relationship.

There is too much blame and vindictiveness going on among us as women. Too many pity party’s and rants about our disappointments in men and not enough effective introspection and behavioral modification. They treat us bad and we respond in kind. Then they treat us bad some more and we rebut with more revenge. The cycle just spins out of control with no end in site.

I really believe that femininity is power. Submissiveness doesn’t have to be jail time if done with a mission to achieve and receive the things you want and desire. Real men are not compelled to care for women who act like men. Having an attitude invites contempt and defensiveness ,not respect. Speak what you want gently yet firmly as if you expect to get it. Ditch the loud, abrasive tone and stand your ground by expectation, not fights.

And if you don’t get what you want, then you pull back quietly. No announcement please!! Just do more of you to fill the space of whatever you were doing for him. BUT, I must say that you should ALWAYS be busy being and doing you. Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you give up your interests and passions. If you start falling off your program, you will become a bore quickly. Be busy with life. ALWAYS. And with sweetness make your demands so he can be the man he is designed to be: a problem solver!

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Honesty? Oh! Honestly Please!

I hear this verbado all the time. “Oh I don’t play no games, I’m straight up when it comes to relationships!” I hear this and immediately think: “This person has no clue in how to seduce!” Playing games is a part of courtship, its apart of creating emotional connections with people. Now, I am not talking about anything malicious here, I am speaking of creating fantasies in the mind of the person you are wanting to pursue YOU.

Telling him you can cook rather than surprising him with a 4 course meal is going to have a different effect. Both will yield a favorable result, but being caught off guard, being surprised will have more emotional cushioning surrounding the big reveal. This is what Im speaking of. We just talk to f’ing much and don’t allow the other person to paint a picture of us, to dream of us. By putting is ‘All Out There’, you leave nothing for discovery. You don’t give him a chance to feel happy and honored about being chosen by you…

Hold you tongue. This is not about you. This is about the man that you want to be with who cannot know that he has already won your heart. That is what hurried honesty does, it breeds contempt and a slow down in the chase. “Oh I got time, she wants me!” Is what he says to himself. If you are not aware of this yet, anxiety is the best friend of passion. Save your truth for your own heart and disclose over time, not in one 4 hour phone call. You do that talk all night ish on the first run, and you are done before you start… Pace Yourself..

~Salkis Re

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I Can Love You Better!

Making things better in a relationship.. Hmm I don’t think a turn around in a down hill spiral takes a tremendous amount of time. If you are with someone who treats you unkind, its not because they are sitting there waiting on the ‘right time” to treat you right. They treat you dastardly because they want to, because they have no inspiration or incentive to treat you any other way. But one hand cannot clap my lovelies: it’s a master and slave relationship. He can’t rule without subjects that have agreed to his appointed sovereignty.

The instinct to hold you dear is a gumbo mix of give and take IT away. Its an atmosphere of anxiety and incomplete comfort that causes one to strive to make pleasing you their number one purpose. Equality doesn’t feed passion. Truthfulness doesn’t make one treat you fair.. But of course you know this as you have had much lonely nights to asses and account for all your uprightness and your willingness to show, (even at the risk of  chasing reciprocity), how much you genuinely care.

You have given him no room to earn you! You are impatient and needy, yet so motivated to learn the lesson for the 100th time that beggars can’t be choosers. What is the secret I must share? You do not give to get, you BE to get. This is what Queens do!

We all appreciate and cherish what we have earned. We shine them up like trophies on  beautiful display cases, but with things given without merit, we put them in the back of our closet, or box them in the attic to collect dust until we fine someone who can find more use for them than we can fairly give.

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~Salkis Re

 

 

You Have a Right to Change!

Soooo being an artist has taught me how to be more fluid with everything in life. We have every right to change what no longer feels good, what no longer serves us. Our elders were consistent in their behaviors, and it was easy because there wasn’t too many things to distract them from their usual habits. But know the world is literally at our fingertips.

I KNOW TOO MUCH

We’ve got information overload, and with just a few clicks of your mouse, you can learn that you should be dissatisfied with your entire life!! You can read about how much sex you should have, or how fat you are compared to the national average.

Pap Smears and Underwear

Thanks to social media, I get to know how your pap smear exam went, who’s mother died and what you made for dinner. I’m frazzled by all the selfie pics from women who seem uncomfortable taking them in the first place and barrage of unwanted suitors that crowd my inbox with pleasantries even though they are clearly spoken for. I change my mind a lot! I don’t do it as much as I change underwear, but it would be a close second if I did wear underwear (insert diabolical laughter here) lol.

They Whisper to Me, Come here…

 Seems like when its really quiet, I could hear the paintings calling me to do something. My paintings are never really done. I just decide to put down the brush and walk away. But Sometimes they call me back and give them new life. 

Change is good….. Sometimes

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Ooooh She’s Naked!!!!

Soo I am revamping, cleaning house, looking our my business plans, my goals and motivations.  What is my message? What has been my message this entire time?

Empowerment of course. Female Empowerment to be precise. And healing..

I wanted and still do intend on portray life’s lessons through the eyes of the sweet little girls I paint. But questions were posed to me the other day, and it became apparent to me that I was editing myself as an artist so that I would not offend people. I dabbled here and there in sensuality and sexuality, but I realized that some of the story was being left untold. If I am truly for the autonomy of women, this means being comfortable with everything that being a woman is about.

Some people are offended by nudes and I respect that. But what I don’t have to do is make my work a reflection of what they are uncomfortable with. So I ask them now, are you offended when you take off your clothes? Maybe that is where the angst comes from. A disgust with one’s self possibly? I know that one very well too. So I face myself in the mirror while making corrections instead hiding behind morality like so many of my beloved sisters do. Anyone who has followed my work or commentary for any length of time knows that I’m not an advocate for parting your legs whenever the munchies hit you. Discipline is what I propose for all vices and corrections in character flaws not over indulgences.

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Nudity in my work represents total relaxation with the self, nothing to hide and no need to hide. This is what I’m on a mission to embody as I shed old skin and look for new experiences to aid in the formation of my new personality. Self respect is about doing in the dark the same things you do in the light. Its about packing up the need to pretend that you ‘don’t this’ for anyone. Are we holding up billboards? No. Every man doesn’t need to know what I do in bed, but the man that I want to be with should be told without hesitation what my needs are. But  what I find is that people that hide what they fear also inadvertently hide and are unable to communicate what they really want too. Guilt has no place in healing. No place in my world. I will leave that charge to those of you who enjoy the dance of deception, so I will not carry your burden for you. One of the main reasons that I became an artist is for the freedom to do whatever I wanted to do and find those who resonate with my form of expression.

That’s it!

I hope my fans continue to walk with me as I evolve and explore the vastness of love as I see it. Some of you will drop off, and I don’t mind if you do. I just ask that you do classy and quietly like you expect me to be….

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The Unpleasantness of being an Artist

Sooooo, I just decide that instead of venting on a piece of paper and then trashing it like I usually do, I thought it would be more exciting to burden you with my angst (snickering). I am a full time artist. I make that very clear throughout my communications in social media.
Yep! I am an artist, and here is my work. Then someone comes along and asks:”So, uh.. What do you do?” Now unless they were looking specifically for shots of my “snatch” I’m not sure how they bypassed all my progress photos, slideshows, videos of me painting to very eclectic music selections, my art gallery, and my collage of beautiful big-eyed baby girls. Yup. I’m an artist. No its not a hobby. Yes its cutesy, but its serious subject matter behind my work here!
God give me patience to deal with “suggestions” from casual admirers. “You should illustrate childrens books, you should make puzzles and shower curtains with your art, why don’t you do dolls, I see you don’t paint boys, you should paint boys, why not make the eyes more realistic so that children can see themselves in your work, why don’t you paint chubby girls, can you paint this on my clutch purse and shoes to match? (WUH,WUH,WUH,Charlie Brown’s teacher voice). And it always seems to come from people who haven’t purchased anything from me, but somehow they are a part of my “tribe” making the most demands on me.

Enough!
Then the critques that are moreso an out for getting away with insulting you. I have gotten better with this one though, much better. I simply delete, block and keep it moving. I am intuitive, I also study people. Yes, I’d call myself a witch but there are too many negative connotations to that title, plus I don’t know any spells, but I am definitely accute in my perception of people. But the down side of that is that it’s very easy to become indifferent and cynical about everything. Why? Well because you know when you are being lied too most of the time.

What I do as an artist is put my thoughts and experiences about love and life on canvas and I use children as the lens to interpret that because I see that humans are more honest and open than  they will ever be when they are young. They express themselves honestly until they are taught to filter what they think and feel for “appropriateness”.
I interact with a lot of adults who claim to be honest, but they just chose an area were they can assert themselves cause the rest of there lived are in shambles..

I am an artist and it not easy exposing my feelings on cavas to be judged, classed and rated. Its uncomfortable talking to people who I know aren’t interested in my work but still want to hold my ear hostage with hollow compliments.

Now, they’re not all bad of course, I’ve cried on the phone with collectors while discussing an art piece they purchased, I have talked about growing pains and connects with clients transitioning into new scary chapters of their lives.African american art

I have conjured up happy memories for people through my brush and they show me real appreciation for that. They say “There’s just something about your paintings, I don’t know what it is, but it calls me!” (Grinning again) yeah I know.. Its that connection that I do this for. Its so exciting when people “Get It”. I’m stoked when I have a chance to explain my concept and inspiration to true fans. 

Ok I think I have let off some weight with this post hehe..

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