Seeing Things In Black and White

black and white minimalist painting
Art in Process by Salkis Re

 

“No Fillers”
Written by Salkis Re

Nearing the completion of this piece. I’m so tempted to put some color on her,

but I have to arrest my ego and let her simmer as she is…

I’m taking the minimalist approach to things lately.
Thinking more and more about how I really enjoy simplicity and less “stuff”.
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If the floor is clean, I could sleep on it now problem.

Give me some candles and I don’t need lamps.. I just don’t want to ” need” so much anymore.

I haven’t had food or water anything since last Sunday evening.
👉I’m dry fasting right for a goal of 48 hours for mind control and self improvement purposes.

I’m doing what Mystics I suppose. My sense of smell is acute, my heating too, and I’m trancing out as I work.
Feels more weird than usually but in a very good way.

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
*Prints will be available when she’s complete..

Website: www.iloveherart.com

Are You A CHEAP Date?

 

 

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

 

I had a session with a client yesterday and she was explaining
to me how the conversation went on her pseudo date for the evening.

She told me that it basically tuned into a **therapy session**
for him to complain about all the money he was expected to spend in **his previous relationship**
and how he felt it was unfair that he was required to
give her so much of his money among other things…

Uh……

SO let me tell all of you ladies something that I did want to accept for a long time.
**YOUR APPEARANCE MATTERS!!**

 

Why do I say this?

Because she saw him for a “quick” informal date,

she wore a new pair of jeans(but they were jeans) and a cute casual looking blouse= **Minimal Effort**

 

Now she assured me that she looked very **VERY cute.**
But the message she sent to him was that of *convenience and *less requirements because she

was ok with riding around with him in his car with no plan and no money spent for her time.

And to top it off, he is all of 60 years old man with 4 baby mama’s

to divvy out child support too.
A 60 year old man has to pay to TALK far yes pay for an actual date.

Sound sluttish?
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**Get over it!**
Why?
Because HE assumed from the gate that this sister
WASN’T WORTH doing as much for like the previous woman was,
cause what? HE SAID HE GAVE THE OTHER WOMAN THE MONEY SHE ASKED FOR…..
SO his complaints are really a mute point AFTER the fact…

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“Never Again” Art by Salkis Re

Do not ever take that take as some sort of compliment to your **”good girl”** archetype.
Being GOOD serves a purpose, and if that purpose isn’t being met,
then you should walk alone with the virtue you are so proud of.

Bottom line is that he didn’t think my client was on
the level of the previous woman he was complaining about.

You think if he thought she was ‘high maintenance’
AND deserved to be take care of, that he’d suffer her
through the entire date complaining about how much
money he didn’t want to spend on a mother woman????

NOOOOOOOOOOO!

Men know who they will low ball from the gate.

And they will spend on what they think is worth the effort and the price.

You being a Good Woman, a woman of fairness and honesty is beneficial only if the man has no alter agenda, and what man doesn’t???

A relationship with you becomes something of quality based on how YOU respond to offers and insinuations and sexual advances etc..

You make it ‘something more” than a one night bang” by not banging?

His morals are based on what you require.. PERIOD!!

Do not compromise on your requirements at all! You won’t get a no crown for suffering or not getting your basic needs met!!

 

If you need my help, find me here

You Want to Float in Sky

“You Can Be Anything, Now What?”
Written by Salkis Re

You want to learn how to levitate and walk through walls and see auras and things, but you can’t control what you put in your mouth or commit to anything practical that will assist in repairing your physical and mental state?????
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Ohhh you better wake up during the “witching hours” and put some energy into your mortal life instead trying to find ways to run from your shame and guilt.
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“I Wonder Why” “Pencil Portrait by Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

You Hide your low self esteem with finery and excess, and the only emotional sovereignty you can muster up is displayed in your ability to sexually seduce the minds of undisciplined people who are also looking to escape their reality.
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And here you are, afraid and hesitant to do ALL the things that offer ACTUAL improvement to your flesh and bone life, so your solution is to fly away…
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“Am I Black Enough?” Art by Salkis Re

GROUND yourself and prepare to get your hands dirty rebuilding YOU. Do what you have to do so you can stop wishing you were a balloon…
Carry On….
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“Artist”
“Life Coach”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Am I Black Enough?”
Website: www.iloveherart.com
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“Label Makers, Label Breakers”

Written by Salkis Re

Self esteem challenges can happen in people who are attractive,

in people with higher IQs, in people with money, in people who are religious etc.
You’d be surprised at the type of people who really emotionally fragile out here.
Don’t let appearances fool you…

I remember a “Guy Friday” I had working for me at my salon back in the day.

He was dark skin an older man, but you could tell he was extremely handsome

in his youth because he still had six pack abs and pretty white teeth.
He come in a few times a week and clean my shop for a six pack of beer,

pork rinds and on Fridays, I threw in a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken just to see his face light up.

 

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He didn’t want much, he didn’t need much really because of his lifestyle.

But he wasn’t ashamed of his standard of living.

He was quick-witted, wisdom filled, and his sense of humor would shortened any difficult day I’d have.

I remember him inviting me to his home that he’d often call his “Palace”.

He was so proud that he had this home and he often told stories of his lovers tryna lay claim to it by leaving panties and toothbrushes behind..lol

So I went to see the palace, and it turned out to be an old, tiny,

Southern Georgia shack! He had a dirty couch on the patio with a rickety table next to it to prop his beer.

He called it his “seating area” lllllmao.
I asked, “You entertain your hoes here Millified?”
“Yes Boss Lady, haha ha ha”, he said with his raspy voice.

 

He opened the door and invited me inside. The floor boards screeched and some of them lifted when we took a step.

I was scared I was going to fall through the floor, so he took my hand and we zig-zagged through the living.

He chuckled looking at my “wtf” face. But he still wasn’t fazed by my frowning giggles.

The floor of the entire house was on an incline, you could have slid right into the kitchen if the floor was wet.

The walls were painted with dirt. A few water bugs came out to see who was in the house too.

He had plastic lawn cheers in front of a 52 inch TV. That TV was the focal piece of the house and would be the reason all the ladies didn’t want to leave his chateau, hahaha!

He said he had cable and he’d make some squash casserole and fried chicken if I ever wanted to come hang out on Sunday after church.

We went to his bedroom and he had a queen size mattress on the floor that looked like he pulled it out a land fill,

and the bedroom closet was almost as small as a medicine cabinet.
His bathroom couldn’t hold two people at the same time; you could literally shit, shower and shave all in one cause it was so damn tiny!

He said he was ready to whip up a batch of red Kool Aid if I was thirsty and motioned him not to bother.

When the tour was done, I looked at him in disbelief.

I wanted him to see how disgusted I was,

but he continued to look at me and laugh.

 

He was unfazed by my distain, and I showed my distain because I knew he didn’t give a shit what I thought.
He was proud of himself. He was proud of who he was. He had “pretty teeth” so to him he was a “pretty boy”..lllllmao

He was one of the few people I’ve met that was just unbothered by people’s opinions,

he stated what he was and that was all his heart and mind had room for.

The rest of us have so much more than him, but we disregard it for the perpetual fear that others may feel we are not good enough.

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Your self esteem is built on a weaker foundation than his one room shack!

All while you look good, you work a so-called “good job”.

You can save for vacation and occasionally splurge on nonessential things,

but you still are afraid of what people think of you.
You don’t take a chance, because your thoughts of failure plaque you without rest.

You have their degrees, their licenses and certificates but still feel invalid..

Your Perception of who you are has been “Given” to you.

That is why you are not empowered, and that is why you live so unsure of yourself in spite of all your accolades.

My Guy Friday stayed happy, even with what I classified as an impoverished lifestyle, he had a mentality of wealth.

Maybe that was the reason he remained so attractive and charismatic.

He could have been more I suppose had he taken advantage of the education system, maybe he would be more than hustler.

But that was my opinion of him, and one he didn’t share in…

He wasn’t intimidated by others who had more.

He talked to everybody, and free beer and free meals were the regular thank you gifts he received for his humor and charismatic optimism.

So what will you do?

Continue to live in fear of not being good enough,

not living good enough,

not being attractive enough,

not having enough money to be enough?

When will you arrest those hypothesizing thoughts of imaginary restraints?

When you say fuck it, this is what I am and I’m fabulous as is???
You can do it right now.

You don’t need to kneel before a Queen,

or get a certificate in the mail,

or have an engagement ring on your finger to claim your right to feel fantastic about yourself today!!

Make the shift.
Make the decision..
And be what YOU say you are…

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re

 

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“Black Men DO Not Want Black Women???”

Written by Salkis Re
 
Begging of any kind immediately puts you in a subordinate position.
Stop harassing these black women that you “think” do not what to date you.black love
It doesn’t make a difference and NEWS FLASH,
you can’t SHAME men not changing their minds about where they want to insert their penises.
It is a totally waste of energy, and it send a message that you are insecure about your own self worth.
There is a power in SILENCE that is unequivocal to any vocalized aggression against black men who date outside their race.
 
And until YOU stop with your own hypocrisy, the double standards of who gets a pass when you YOURSELF are praying for an opportunity to have a mixed baby or a
Light skin child, when you stop supporting those swirling channels that get MILLIONS of views AND SUBSCRIBERS,
you stop beauty practices that reflected an alignment with what you CANNOT BE BIOLOGICALLY,
then and only then can we effectively take a position of “Injustice” with the vehicle of self honor and self respect and truth behind in.
 
You try to denigrate what you secretly have affection for.
You say you HATE when you really admire and privately wish
the cards of life would have dealt a different hand to you.
I have participated in the hypocrisy for many, MANY years.
I had a chip on my shoulder for light skin women for any woman
who appeared to be mixed race or who claimed blackness while enjoying ambiguity.
I went through a stage in high school were I relaxed my edges EVERY WEEEK!!.
Yeah, as soon as then naps started forming, I take a little tooth brush and zap that shit away.
I wanted no part of my blackness, and I hated other women because they didn’t have to go through what I went through.
Not being shut after sexually is a crushing blow to a girls self esteem here in America.
Because here in American, beauty is regarded as VIRTUE, as TRUTH, As GOODNESS.
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But beauty that comes from the validation of men always leads to self esteem issues.
It always leads to disease and mental instability.
Why?
Because his “love” for you is based on what he sees and this means that
you experience differences in your relationship when your looks start to change.
Beauty as a vehicle for companionship is a necessity, but approaching beauty as a “tool” rather than the sum total of your
self worth is a more balanced way to be because then you can manage
“change” and you will do things to maintain your beauty that are more productive
and nourishing to your body instead of destructive and corrosive to your physical form…
The bottom line is this: When you BEG, you get their PITY, Nothing more.
“Black Love” starts with you!
 
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis RE

Men Want Women To Like Them!

Men are curious creatures ready to play.

The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.

Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.

That’s all courtship is really.

Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.

Beautiful Black women with thick locs
Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

 

 

His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,

to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..

So what’s the true tea here?

DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.

But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good

because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..

Except it.

Expect it.

 

Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!

And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.

They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”

which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.

But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.

 

So what should you do?

Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,

heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,

throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?

I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.

You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.

You want be kind, but not compromising.

You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.

You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,

and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!

Thick Locs
iLoveHerArt.com

Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.

And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.

Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.

 

All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”

is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.

So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!

This means that you trust your instincts;

you move only when you are comfortable;

you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind

ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!

 

If you need to talk, I’m HERE

Being a Witch Over Your Life!

So today lets talk about you.
Why are you so afraid of people? Why do you care more about what they think about you, than what you think about yourself?

Doesn’t make sense right?
But you do it! You will spend the majority of your life doing it until you become old and with grouchy chip on your shoulders inspired by the reality that you have to face.

 

What’s that reality?
That you’ve wasted your life…

That is where you are headed if you don’t grow a new set of ovaries and get on with living.
Failure is UNAVOIDABLE.
But it’s not humiliating .
It will not diminish your value.

Failure is merely a blueprint of what NOT to do anymore.
And isn’t it a good thing to know what you should avoid?
Isn’t knowing a generally self serving thing that makes you wise!?

The Wiz

Ain’t you tired of playing yourself small to save face?
Are you not bored to tears with all this “playing it safe” that you are doing?

Are you getting more love and more LIFE for your lack of effort?

Are people respecting you more because they never see you make a mistake?

Are you satisfied with doing the same thing you’ve done for the last 10 years of your life?

No growth.
No change.

 

Yet you are not standing still. You are not moving forward with any of your goals, but you are on a slow decline.

That is scary: Moving downward instead of upward I mean.

Your actions are your magic wand you know.

You are the MAGI, the magician, The Fairy Godmother over your own life!!

But you sit there staring at the wand/your talents scared to use it because you are afraid of the outcome.

 

 

NEWS FLASH!!!

You will never be able to control the “outcome” of anything you do.
But you CAN control the PROCESS of getting there. What you toil on, what you practice daily is what you have 100% control over!
FOCUS ON THAT!!!!!!!

 

 

And release yourself from he anxiety over the end result.

The end result turn out to be less than you were hoping for,

or BETTER than your wildest dreams,

but doing NOTHING ensures that NOTHING will happen either way.

GET UP!!

Dorothy in the Wiz

So I’m gonna tell you to walk through your trials  just like Dorothy did.

Walk through it to find what you are made of,

and you will realize just like she did that **THE POWER WAS WITHIN YOU ALL ALONG!**

 

 

Thick Locs
Artist?Life Coach ~Salkis RE

 

Who Am I?
A Magi!
A Medicine Woman
AND and **ARTIST on a crusade to create a quiet revolution and **mental freedom** for women of color,

I have dedicated my life mission and purpose to helping your find that sweet spot, that hole that unlocks the key to color your black and white life…

I was afraid just like you.
And sometimes I still am, but I WELCOME THE PROCESS and invite you to do the same.<-

If you need me, find me :HERE

No Reason to Love a Woman Like You!!

“Emotional Decisions”
 
Decisions made by the heart alone NEVER stick.
And this is why decisions made solely from an emotional place ALWAYS END.
Sometimes quickly… Most times quickly actually.
Him loving you doesn’t compel him to stay, does it?
You loving him doesn’t mean you don’t want to leave, does it?
 
So why do you stay? And why does he leave?
Because BOTH of you give it some thought.
You start weighing your options as you try to figure out a reason to NOT to carry out that conclusion your emotions offered you…
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Some people are not mentally stable enough to allow themselves time to think things through.
The ole saying “Let me sleep on it” is real and necessary to get your mind back into the rational space to give the final YES or NO.
 
Love is a scam in that way really.
You are loved today, and forgotten tomorrow based on “feelings”
I tell no lies here today.
You know its true because you have been with past lovers who you
swore you’d spend the rest of your life with that are barely even a fleeting thought now.
 
And so it is…
When you ask him “why” he loves you and he answers you with a “just because” RUN!!!
Run like a bat outa hell looking for fresh blood!
RUN like you’re in hell with gasoline draws on because you
know you are with someone who DOESN’T have a concrete reason to STAY with you.
Will and Jada Smith
 
Emotions make the decision and Logic KEEPS people together: NOT EMOTIONS...
You can decide to accept this or not, it’s certainly up to you as we all are resonating on different frequencies.
But if you’ve been “burned” by love, puzzled at how a person can love you and still hurt you,
perplexed that you’ve reached a space of loneliness when you thought you found your soul mate,
then this message is most definitely for you to eat and digest.
I know, I know, but Salkis there are happily married couples who have been together for blah blah blah amount of time,
so true love does exist, that’s what you are saying.
At least that’s what the seminars tell you, and they’d better tell you that cause you are paying good money for “HOPE”
I am not saying that love does not exist, Im saying that love is erratic, and inconsistent, therefore unreliable as a stand alone measure of the value of a relationship.
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you fell in love with him?
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What were your reasons for that emotion?
Was he cute in the face? Nice beard? Bow-legged?
Did he f*(k the shit out you till you came 4 times in a row?
What was it that conjured up the I can’t live without you feeling?
It was probably something that felt good of course.
Some action he performed that produced a feel good moment that became repetitious ,
and before you knew it, you couldn’t see life without HIM in it!
But aside from the rigors and the conflicts and the betrayal, relationships can sharpen you as a person.
They can teach you what you like or don’t like or didn’t know about yourself.
Lovers have an uncanny way of showing you who you really are by creating hardship and challenges for you to overcome.
And if you do manage to snag a person that can hang in there with all your baggage,
you too can assist him in becoming better person as well.
While unpleasant, STRUGGLE LOVE is an opportunity you invite into your lives to “expose” for The initial purpose of an escape,
but on the back end, a miraculous thing happens and you start to dance with The Real YOU.
Learn the lesson and endure or move on….
Take the “Black Pill”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis RE
 If you need to talk, find me HERE

STOP ACTING DESPERATE!!!

If you act desperate, you will be used and abused: plain and simple.
Why?
Because desperation denotes powerlessness, and perception that you don’t have another option.

I don’t give a shit if you are a live-in girlfriend or a long time wife,

you can and had better maintain emotional control over your environment by decimating urges to share your vulnerability.

Do not allow any man to propagate to you that he is your ONLY option; he’ll just use your cosign to justify abusing you.

If you maintain an ABUNDANCE mindset, his propaganda can/will be cut at his jugular vein.
Do not give concern, do not be an audience member for his “tear you down show”

Freeform locs
Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

No ma’am!
Leave him to talk to HIMSELF about what he feels about YOU.
Your display of CONCERN is what gives his glibness meaning. And you get nothing but half-ass pity for showing your foibles too.

He acts a fool, you smirk, give a shrug, and walk away as if you are unconditionally unbothered!

To recap this transmission, I will say that the only reason you are being controlled

is because you allowed him to create *neediness and *insecurity within your mind.

How should you think?
You should think that he is in your life because you WANT/ED him there, not because you

NEED/ED him there. And you have to act like that even if you actually do need him.

NEVER acknowledge your weaknesses to him,

but always just be thankful and gracious for his *contributions and let that be that…

Remember that you are the gift. You are the prize. He should be the one fighting for your love, not the other way around!

Stop with the equality nonsense and understand your position as a woman is ALWAYS better than that of a man.

We are both cursed you know. Man being the beast of burden, cursed to work by the sweat of his brow, and we…

well are cursed by needing to submit to him…

There is no way around misfortune, unfairness, hardships,

but you make life harder for yourself when you spend it trying to be something that men do not respect, admire, or love…

 

YOU ARE A WOMAN!! That brings with it a treasure desperately imitated by so many pay bring money to mimic.

You walk around with your GOLD and your value is always present, always with and within you!

Don’t give that up to toil the earth like men. A man’s purpose is to protect you and provide for you;

there is no other need for him in your life besides that.

And when you narrow down the innuendo,

when you cut the ambiguity and misinterpretations that come with emotional feelings, that’s all you have left to surmise.

PROTECT AND PROVIDE!

*****If You need to Speak with me privately, I am HERE

“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN????

“T.I Cheated on Tiny AGAIN???

So the gag is that Tiny, T.I’s wife is a fool for staying with Tip because once again he is caught cheating.
Some of y’all say she has no self esteem because she keeps forgiving him for his infidelity.

That could very well be the case, but let me say something about commitment: it is a sacrifice!!!
She took him in at the height of her career with escape, he was TI back then, he wasn’t anything, but she backed him.

She gave him the best years of her life and 5 children. She gave him passes, and threesomes too. She got surgery to keep her tits and ass tight and high, she took the charge when they got caught with cocaine in they car, she stayed chase while he was doing his bid in jail.

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And guess what? HE STILL CHEATED over and over and over again.

So what SHOULD that tell you ladies. What should be included in all those seminars, You tube vids, vegan potlucks, yoni egg user brigades and the like, need to just say what is inevitable, what is highly probable, what is almost a guarantee if your make has a half way working penis and/or a little bit of money. And that is that men CHEAT.

You are killing yourself trying to hold it together for HIM, when all he wants is simply someone NEW. Your loyalty doesn’t mean shit, how much of the rent you can pay or even if you’re paying ALL of the rent, it doesn’t mean shit, you can think you’re hot or maybe you actually are hot, and guess what?
It doesn’t matter!!!

So Tiny should walk away from time and money SHE put into him so he can be free and clear to dick hop? She can move out the house and get a condo across town with a nice looking Guy Friday who comes to check her “plumbing”, but divorce?
Divorce him to do what? Date again?
To find another fool that just wants to say he fucked T.I’s ex wife?
NO! She should ride it out. Ride that shit into the sunset and find joy however she can because at this stage the odds that she can pull another T.I is slim.

She got time and the stamina to build up another man at this stage of her life?
And at is the point of all of that when all roads still lead to what she is facing now..

She need to do what Snoop Dog wife did: visit down and let him figure it out while the bag keeps coming in

Tiny, monitor your bag. The rest is irrelevant… Period…
Take the Black Pill!!

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re