What IS YOUR CULTURE?

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“Be An Eagle”
Written by Salkis Re

Your identity is yours to create, especially if no one wants to claim you. That’s the fate of copper skin tones who are born on Northern soil.
Maybe you are pretending not to know, but your mirror tell NO lies.


Ask your blood to whisper its secrets in your ear. Let the Sequoia trees secrete the tales of those who burned fires and sang songs under the shade of its leaves.
Heal your heart and your confusion by creating your own legends and hero’s.
What are you?
Who are you?


If you still do not know, then declare yourself an Eagle.
The Eagle NEVER asks what it is. It doesn’t cut through the clouds wondering if it is good enough to fly. She doesn’t perch upon a tree branch contemplating her worthiness to be there.


The Eagle does not spend its days jealous and fretful over not being able to run like those beautiful Lions are down below. The Eagle is just as it, unaware that there is anything better than being an Eagle..

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING: “FALA”

 

Men Shouldn’t Have to PAY???

Male Viewer’s Comment to another Male Viewer on my You Tube Video:

“As long as you allow yourself to be USED by a woman she will never LOVE you or see you as a “companion”. She’ll only see you as an “employee”, a “mule”, or her “workhorse.
YOU CAN NOT BUY LOVE.
Also, you should NOT be giving a woman “things” when you date, because you’re only training her to be with you for “things” instead of being with you for YOU and appreciating you as a PERSON and appreciating your friendship and companionship.”
End Quote

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😼MY RESPONSE:
And if you are not “useful” she will never love either. Love is a “decision” based on opportunity and value displayed in “both” sides.
You guys think it’s unfair that a woman’s value/beauty/sex is equivalent to what you bring as men, but it’s because YOU ALL who express its importance, display favorable behaviors towards it, and make judgements and decisions that reflect how valuable it is.

We don’t make a man’s “looks” the main issue,
and MANY MANY women in relationships while SEXUALLY DISSATISFIED yet THEY STAY.
We compromise and “settle” all day long, so join the club!! Love you say?
You want “free” love?
When have you EVER had that? When HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN THAT???😼
~Salkis Re

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Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re for www.iloveherart.com

Now I posted this because I’m basically tired of this repeated narrative from men who want FREE love. None of them give anything without the intention of getting a return, but they argue about what they are expected to do to win a woman’s heart.

Are any of these men leading households: I doubt it.

Are these types of men inspired to commit to a ONE woman, I think it would be difficult for them.

These men always talk about virtue when they do not want to spend any money. But sacrifice is the barometer of the level of care a man OR woman has for the other person.

There is no way to measure your worth without compromise and sacrifice. You don’t know how important you are or how important a person thinks you are until  inconvenience presents itself…

And don’t you ladies think for one-second that these men do not understand the concept of “struggle”.

Frankly, I don’t see how you could think any other way when they repeatedly talk about “building together”.

Do you know what that term  “BUILDING TOGETHER means?

It means I cannot afford to take care of you,

and I want you to understand that,

and I want you to work to help me provide for you,

because then I will know you want me for me and not the money I don’t have

Then and only then have you earned their best efforts?? Through sacrifice and struggle we know right?

But the only problem with that is that the odds are not good for women when they invest in relationships that way.

Honestly, these are poor peoples problems ; wealthy people have a firm grasp of profit-loss, risk-reward, investment-liability. They understand that you can’t get something for nothing.

They understand  that you have to pay for what you want.

Sounds transactional right?

Tell me when is it not transactional?

You are both are INVESTING time, energy, resources, your bodies into each other. Relationships are INVESTMENTS, why else would you need or even want to commit to one person for the rest of your life if there was no gain to be had?

That is the cold, HARD truth!

Deal with it!!!!

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So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

 

You Can’t Think Like a Man!!

If we as women ask for this thing called **equality**, than the MEN who agree/give it to us still hold the power.
And what they give us is conjectured power for which they can mitigate and temper as they see fit.

Why do men have power?
Why will they always be more powerful than women?
**Because men do not CARE as must as we do.**
They are disagreeable hunters for acquisition AND SPORT.
They TAKE things for fun, to increase their self worth, you to simply outdo other men,

and these attributes are not in line with the natural inclinations

of most women no matter how much she thinks she thinks like a man.

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And this is why we will always need men. We need men to do the heavy lifting.

We need men to carry the load because we don’t want to step our anyone to get to the better life.

We want everyone to have a fair shot, and its because of feelings that

we will never reach the heights of material success

that the average man is biologically designed to reach.

This is why hypergamy exists.

This is why men lead.

And this is why a woman beauty is her biggest asset,

because successful men do not need us for much more than what we mostly are.

A Beautiful,  Charming Damsel becomes a queen and lives a life of minimal drudgery.

And that’s really what women want. 

 

Men hurt people, berate people, some even conn people to climb the ladder of  success.

We damsels have been sold a lot of lies about our values.

We believe that we can do what men do.

We can work and toil and sweat like men and we will gain the power they enjoy.

But the important point, the MOST important point is that no amount of money a woman has will NEVER make her more attractive.

Her value is not in her independence, it’s  in her ability to be a beautiful woman in need of rescuing.

But you PLAY the damsel, you act like you are innocent and vulnerable to get him to do his manly thing which is to protect and take care of you.

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Will you have to play dumb?

Yes.

Will you be a man who you may not find attractive?

More than likely YES…

But your future will be one where you are not struggling or working your fingers to the bone with no time for personal self care.

If you are not into being dependent  on a man because you feel that your ambitions will win you freedom,

the stats show that you will be working for less money than your male counterparts.

The stats show that women are being hired more than men because they are cheap labor.

Nothing glamorous about typical work my dear.

Creative work however, is something totally different and satisfying on a level that enhanced mental and physical health….

 

So what’s the moral of this story?

Go to the gym.

Eat right. 

Set goals that make you look, feel and be your best.

Read more about seduction.

Have a curiosity for life.

Learn to be charming.

Learn how to communicate without being intimidating and overbearing.

Be a girl again…

And you will get a man who is willing to work hard for you…

Peace and Love…

 

Who Am I?

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               “Artist/Life Coach”
                 ~Salkis Re

Do you need additional help to get started on your transformation goals?

Contact me by email at salkis@iloveherart.com 

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Struggle Love

We are now asking ourselves these days: why does love have to be soooo damn complicated??

We want that easy love. That Sunday morning in bed kinda love.

That fix me a sandwich after sex kinda love…

Can we be that happy all of the time?

Should we just reduce ourselves to the doom and glom of ‘reality”?????

WeLp, Yea and No!

Sunshine and rain make flowers grow. Snow and spring both bring beauty and deep contemplations..

Life cannot be all roses, but the darkness do not have to kill you…

Beautiful African American Women

A relationship is EARNED according to my sprint mother Eartha Kitt!

A relationship is given on the merit of good will and best practices, not of irrealities like NEVER doing this or that…

When you understand your flaws and shortcomings, you will naturally have patience and understanding for the hiccups in the person you love..

That is what true love is.

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There is no nothing perfect about love, nothing at all.

But improvement and advancement are the things we should always strive for within ourselves and to inspire those we love..

If you are not improving in some way, love with wither.

If you are not smarter today than you were yesterday,

if you are not more curious about life and learning how to change yourself for the better, then you will be forgotten..

That’s how this thing works.

Just like stagnant water is unsafe to drink, a body and mind immovable and unchallenged will atrophy over time..

Renew yourself. Continously.

That is how you keep struggle love at bay…

 So Who Am I?

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              “Artist/Life Coach”
                    ~Salkis Re

I help women heal from relationships so they can gain the strength to reset their path in life.

Health and Wellness, Spirituality and Creativity are my specific interests.

If you need one on one instruction from me go to my website or email me at salkis@iloveherart.com

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Light Skin Women Verses Dark Skin Women

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Black Panther Character: “The General” Okay
Artist, Salkis Re

Everywhere you turn, your emotions and insecurity is exploited for sensationalism and financial gain from “marketers” and “commentators” who are only concern with “click views”. I’m specifically talking about the “trend” to discuss topics concerning discrimination against dark skin women.

I’m watching these “leaders/healers/activists” of these dark skin movements rant and rave to you. I listen to them tell dark skin women dress up when going to the grocery store, or confront light skin women about their biases.

People are profiting and helping to perpectuate a stereotype where the only “gain” you actually receive is “justification” and validation for feeling inferior to lighter skinned women.

It’s a hamster wheel.
And they CANNOT help you to heal.
Step away from ALL “ME TOO” movements because ALL those “look at me, I’m sexy too” campaigns offer is a superficial, feel good “moment”

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Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

Your REPAIR will only come from understanding and accepting that NO MAN is obligated to WANT to fuck you, because that is what all this shyte is really about!

The sex force is making you feel like you are inferior because the sexual desires/perversions are not directed your way as they are with women of other skin tones and races. But let me give you dark skin women some facts: light skin women do not in any advantage over you. They suffer emotional breakdowns, identity crisis’s, self esteem issues, panic attacks, depression, suicidal thoughts, and sexual exploitation just like women of other skin tones do.

You HAVE to step away from your need to be accepted!
You have to decide that you are enough while expanding and improving yourself through self discipline, not joining no foaming at the mouth, fanatic who’s just pretending to be sincere.

You have to learn to love aloneness so that YOUR oWn thoughts can be heard by your heart .
Conformity has you looking EXTREMELY COUNTERFEIT, and an obvious BEGGAR for a seat at the table of EXPLOITED women who are seemingly at an advantage because society says they’re attractive.

You better think again!

NO WOMAN is better than you, do not fall for that lie!!!
And you have walk with that ideal until your nervous system relaxes when in the presence of ANY woman..
LOOKS ARE ALWAYS DECEIVING!!!!!!

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

“The Black Hat Society”
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Why is Everybody Single??

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

MOST men, no matter what age they are, want “physically” young looking women and he would be a jackpot winner if he gets a woman who is young with her own money.

Lllllllmmao! But the issue with that is that if she is young and attractive and has her own coins, she can hold out for a man who is better looking than you, who fucks better than you, who makes enough money to “handle” everything she wants and needs.

And this is why people are single!
Everybody is scouting for a partner who is better than themselves in looks or money, and if you luck up on someone who IS better than you yet wants to be with you, trust that SHE/HE is “ALWAYS MENTALLY or PHYSICALLY SHOPPING” meaning she/he is with you yet open/motivated to finding a “better” replacement.

And why is this?
Because you are a “charity case”, not a boyfriend/girlfriend they fear of losing.
Chasing women/men out of your league gets you ALL OF THAT!

So when you are seeking the “best” partner, the perfect fit, be careful that you are not signing yourself up to be a beast of burden.

And ladies,
If a man is “better” than you, you mustn’t substantiate that claim by displaying insecurity, emotional neediness, and a total disregard of your own self interests or you WILL be dragged through the mud.
Carry on…

“Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re

To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

African American Female Artist, Salkis Re captivates your eyes and your heart with her retro art pieces
“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.

 

And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

It WILL NOT….
Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Black Hat Society
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Sexually Dysfunctional

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Art by Salkis Re
  1. Unless you emotionally/sexually damaged beyond repair, your heart’s *string* will still be attached to your vagina and you WILL develop feelings.

So, the deal is this, if you want to be wiped clean of burdensome emotions for a man, DO NOT have sex with him.

🤔If you do not mind being emotionally attached, then KEEP ON having sex with him.

🤔If you are having sex with him in HOPES that he will like you( love you)more then STOP having sex with him.

🤔If you are having sex with him to display your “value” as a woman, but he gives you nothing in return, then STOP having sex with him.

🤔If you are saying to yourself “it’s only sex, but we will see what happens”, YOU ARE LYING on your heart strings and you WILL get hurt, so Do NOT START having sex with him!!

Black Panther Character: “The General” Okay
Artist, Salkis Re

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
Sex is dangerous, SERIOUS business ladies. And the only reason you are so many of you are PRETENDING to be caviler about it is simply be of the use of contraception i.e condoms, birth control pills, IUD’s etc.. Birth control has superbly done away with the need to “think” and “reason” before you open your legs and it has made you equal to men, BUT your fucking emotions are IN TACT and you still REACT as a woman while trying to ACT like a man….

Hold tight my loves.

Tinker with your intellect and activate your 6 senses. You KNOW things you cannot explain. You can FEEL what he is THINKING. You just do not trust your own ability to SEEEEEEE things..
Put your “Black Hat” on an activate your inner Goddess…

“Black Hat Practictioner”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

To Be Like Her Means You Kill Yourself!

“What Woman Are You?”

Faith in yourself is built on a foundation of work not hope or prayer or wishing.
You have a mind and you know what you “should be doing”, yet you wrestle with yourself.

You allow other women to rate your your level of competence and relevance on a

“fact sheet” derived from their summations if how you look.
Women perpetuate division and the casting of other women, and we are fervently vicious in that regard.

So where is this fairness that nostalgically speak of, cause I’ve never seen it!
Worried about what the next woman has but you do nothing

outside the level of laziness to change your own condition, to improve yourself.

Everybody’s FUGAZI out here:Everybody!!

 

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“Thinking of You” Art by Salkis Re

Listen woman, yeah you!
What do you know about women? If you are a woman, you should quite a bit,

but if you are liar to yourself you might struggle in seeing under the veil of those around you.

I said before and I will say it again so that you can Direct your energy to pursuits that will pay you dividends.

You are unlike any other woman.

This is a fact.
And this means that you have to own that.
And accept what comes with that.

The fact that you are unlike other women means that there is no such thing as equality.

To execute Equality would mean that you and I were born at the same time,

have the same anatomical structure, emotional development, share the same IQ, biological functions and so on.
But we do not.
And it’s because you and I cannot physically, mentally nor emotionally

be identical that we should not spend one fucking moment fretting over “comparisons”.

I Wanted to Be So Many Things..

 

I am not academically astute. I struggled in school something awful. I thought I wanted to be a Nurse,

but I hated blood. I wanted to be a Lawyer but my self esteem was to low to accept that vision.

I wanted to be a Clinical Psychologist but the amount of schooling for that just disgusted me.

What was I looking for above all else? To be “somebody”.

I thought an academic route would give me the respect and the love that my esthetics could not afford me.
Everything I used to do was for THEM to accept me.

For black people to care about me, for white people to respect me, for men to Love me etc…

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“Love You Anyway” African American Art by Salkis Re

Chasing what I wasn’t designed to do or be took a massive chunk out of my life!

Don’t waste time.
Read what I’m about to say carefully, this is the KEY to success.

Figure out what you are capable of being and then figure out what you are willing to SACRIFICE to become that.

Please understand that you must choose your “SACRIFICE”

or should I say the “PRICE” you are willing to pay to be the woman you want to be.

Why?
Because everything COSTS.
And if you don’t choose your SUFFERING (yes I said suffering)

deliberately, you will end up sacrificing something

other than what’s needed to become the woman you aspire to be!
Be what you want to be, but being what you CAN be trumps ALL!

 

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So Who Am I?

Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Marrying Poor Men, Here’s the Deal!

“Marrying Poor Men”
Written by Salkis Re

“Poor men” CAN’T provide anything, so they shouldn’t get married but they do.

The only purpose marriage has is share and protect current and future assets.

Now the truth is that the EMOTION of Love does not need marriage for validation

because most people can express the feeling of love without a license from the court system.

Marriage is simply the business aspect that creates the Commitment/non-emotional gesture

of a willingness to shoulder financial loss should the partner die or wake up one morning and say they don’t want you no more.
Time is MONEY.
Time is an INVESTMENT in itself. Marriage is a contract to exchange wealth between two people who enjoy sex and spending time with each other.

The “What You Bring to the Table” part…

 

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Art in Progress, Art by Salkis RE

Let me be clear here, I’m not saying that a woman should just be a pretty dimwit and nothing more.
I’m saying that the bring to the table” question directed towards her should be focused on the

nurturing aspect that every woman is capable of bringing if she is incentivized to do so.

Most women that work “hard” DO NOT want to work hard, and they would prefer alpha men who can fully finance her wants and needs.

An occupation doesn’t give you an IDENTITY, it gives you a CHECK.

What you are able to do without needing to be paid for it is more of an expression of identity.

Women don’t want “Independence/HARD WORK”, we simply do not want to be ABUSED because we depend on MEN.

 

Education is still important because intelligence is required whether you are raising children or in a corporate job.

The last half of life is going to look real ugly for many of us.

We make decisions based on “current options” instead of the 5-10-20 years down the line that sure like the air you breath COMING.

So the “struggle love” who’s narrative always seems to find it’s way to our compassionate hearts

. We always got to be grateful for the opportunity to struggle with black men.

No other woman, not white, not Indian not none of them

have exclusive terminology to emotionally express this ideal like US.

That “Ride or Die” shyte!

The fact that you are willing to endure SUFFERING and infidelity,

and mistreatment of every sort makes you a suitable candidate for respect and honor and Marriage???
You better think about that one again…

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
ARTIST ~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Nappy-Headed “Spiritual” Hoes

Life Coach, Salkis Re

“Men Who Want Natural Sisters be like”
A man who has no aspirations for “worldly” things has nothing to lose. And a man who has nothing to lose ALSO has no incentive to commit nor sacrifice for HIMSELF or YOU.

Statistically they earn less, do not get married, have no formal education, and have fatherless children. A Relationship (while on the physical plane) IS a material act.

From your first date that you dress up for, to the gas you put in your car to meet her at the “park to talk”, to the penis that goes into the vagina, to the babies that are birthed as a result of sex. All material.

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Only men with little ambition ride the “Spirituality” wave because they assume that “natural sistahs” only want a tub of Shea butter from the street vendor and a meat-free gravy and brown rice on a styrofoam plate to make us happy.

Meanwhile, he is out here heckling BUT secretly lusting after those “material girls” for whom his pockets aren’t deep enough to get. It’s a game to exploit your compassion and steal your “understanding” and your “agreeableness” for “duty-free”, “effortless pussy” nothing more.

 

When the talk of Spirituality comes up in a conversation about relationships and this conversation is directed towards any “nappy-headed sista (and I this term with endearment) I gonna need for you to understand that a net is being cast out to your vagina FREE PUSSY.

And what is the truth here?

The truth is that you are MORE SPIRITUAL WITHOUT DIK than with it so his job is to bring MATERIAL things to your feet to PAY for the “blessings” he is hoping to receive from YOUUUUU.

~Salkis Re

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

“Women Want Real Men”

Women want men who can lead

African American Artist
Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re
Women want men who can lead. We want to be with men who competent, capable and purposeful, resourceful and protective.

Relationships usually fall apart because the woman realizes that she was sold the
“Snake Oil” of “Sexual Compatibility” and “Emotional Connection“.
She now buys into his “future claims” that he cleverly

defers long enough to get her emotionally vested.

And when he is in a comfortable space and no longer holds anxiety of losing you,

he begins to feel safe enough to reveal himself.

And in actuality, he is a weak man, a beta male acting out what he assumes is an alpha male persona.

She now resides with either quiet or boisterous resentfulness


She now resides with either quiet or boisterous resentfulness and
kicks herself because she knows she “emotionally trapped”,
but she is ironically addicted to the “suffering” he provides

 because its familiar and comforting like an old pair of slippers.

Understand that “change” comes from the pain brought on by a person’s

realization of his inadequacies, not from YOU making threats and handing out ultimatums.

And for the most part, people do not change unless they experience trauma level suffering.

We as women must not translate our wants and needs as weaknesses.

We are not designed to think like or be men,
though they express desires in having a women who can “hold their own” financially.


We as women are designed with the emotional ability to be “fair”


We as women are designed with the emotional ability to be “fair” and “agreeable”

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Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re
while men are designed “take” and “conquer”.

We will not get what we want by forcing men to think like us


We will not get what we want by forcing men to think like us because
it takes a level of selfishness and self-centered behavior to achieve things.
We can offer support in a sexual way, a nurturing way, a creative way, a beautiful way and so on…
Be a woman so you can “see” a real man…
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

You Deserve the Best From Men!!

“Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

 

Listen, when it comes to relationships with men, this thing is really simple.

Relationships, whether it’s for romantic or for business purposes,

the RESULT should  ADVANCE you…

 

There is no reason to commit yourself to a man who does not provide an opportunity

to improve and enhance your physical experience. ~Salkis Re

 

This thing is not about empty promises.

And in my opinion, this notion that you have to have this thing called

LOVE to accompany the agreement to commit to someone,

more often than not, it causes blurred lines, confusion and,

misinterpretations of material and emotional unfairness.

 

What is the purpose of having a MAN?

Don’t answer so quick.

I want you think about this deeply.

I want you to consider the value that love has as a sentiment.

And value love has as an ACTION.

Because a great many women that I work with, hold equal merit for love as a statement and love as an action.

 

Protect, and Provide…

That should be the foundation of a relationship with any man….

Forget the fucking lists.

Forget all this complicated variables.

Forget what your FEELINGS tell you because they lie too!

Simplify your life WOMAN.

Don’t allow THEM to confuse you into paralysis and passivity  because you will end up giving in

and giving up without proper negotiation for a more secure standing.

Nothing is free in life, Not even LOVE!

 

African American art

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Don’t Quit!!

“Master Your Craft!
Written by Salkis Re

How you gonna quit when you’ve already started? 
Don’t stop till use your body 
moves the finish line tape aparted!

You will only hate yourself if you stop,
and you will sabotage the rest of your life 
if you don’t ride this thing till your efforts make it pop.

What else will you do other than this?
You gonna go back to dreaming
like your other loser friends?

There’s more grind left for you to do 
and it’s not over until you have
to mastered what you like to call YOU.

So you tryna quit the game?

To do what exactly?

Oh it’s hard?

AND????

Anything you worked for, had a bit of challenge

that came with it.

And guess what you did?

You trotted on anyway, wiped the

blood off your knuckles ,and kept the pace until

your chest broke that finish line tape!

African Art
The Art Process and all my Mistakes.. Salkis Re

You have to ride your purpose until the wheels fall off

so that by the end of your time on this earth, your soul has no reason to

wrestle with the anguish of unfinished business.

Empty yourself! Don’t hold back anything.

Don’t be afraid of anyone!!

You will fall, so laugh when you fall.

You will be unsure, so chuckle at your confusion.

You will feel pain, so eat your pain and keep going.

Stop looking back!!!

There is nothing BACK THERE that can help you.

because the promise land is in your windshield not your rear view mirror.

Come on girl!! GET UP!!

 “Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

 If you would like to own this art piece I just created please visit my ART STORE

 

 

 

African American art

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Poem: “You’re Not a Real Angel”

“You’re Not a Real Angel”
Written by Salkis Re

 

 

“This World is Yours” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

When they call you an angel,
you choose not to receive it,
You think angels don’t look like yourself,
and you feel you ought to look as them to believe it.

Their wings are pretty and all uniformed and white,
while you sit here in bursts of all this color.
And somehow you view your rainbows
as an embarrassment to the others.

White wings are just more classy,
is what your mind makes you say.
And all your colors are just too festive
to show the earthlings how to seriously pray…

But when God made you my angel,
he was more adventurous and brave.
And he added his sharpened skill onto you
and made what he once couldn’t create.

So open up your wings, flap them like thunder
and give the wind something to do.
And show the world that angels come in all colors
and that the best of them do look like you…

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING:”This World is Yours”
Available Here: https://www.iloveherart.com/signature…/the-world-in-my-hands

This poem I wrote today is about ownership and respect for the difference that make you who you are.

We are always looking at the grass over there thinking that its better than the patch of grass we are standing on.

Decide that you will take ownership of what makes you YOU.

We do not have to be the same.

I do not have to look the same.

And peace won’t come to you if you were to suddenly become

somebody else because inner peace only comes from acceptance of self.

Don’t Believe What They Say

African American Art
Artist, Salkis Re

If love was contingent upon the way we looked as women, then no attractive women would suffer a broken hearts.
How you look is not a marker for how successful you will be in love or life.

I have met MANY gorgeous women who have extremely flawed views of themselves.

You allow men ,who secretly want to get penetrated in the their asses, to determine your value, to tell you whether you how feminine you aren’t or if you’re attractive enough.

Decide What You Are

You must fill up your mind with what you’ve decided that you are. You have to literally flood your thoughts with the spell of your own words, with your own intention and with your own energy, and stop letting any penis rank and file your place in this world.

Gorgeous Women Who Doubt Themselves

I have yet to meet a woman who has taken a penis inside her that has also not suffered a broken heart.

There is so much other things to know, people who need your healing, your guidance, and your creativity that you have no need nor time to ponder why any mudda sucka doesn’t love you.

Your Beauty is Your Calling Card?

 

So listen, your beauty is your equity, and it can assist in desire, but it’s your countenance that determines if your beauty holds value.

Does being nice matter?
No.

Does being a good cook matter?
Not unless you want to be a chef!

Does being good in bed matter?
Not if he watches porn or has fantasies of supplementing your vagina with another woman’s slime.

So what matters more than anything?

Being challenged and fascinated by YOUR own life!

When you put yourself first, when you prioritize what is important for you, you will be infectious to be around.
When you approach life with curiosity instead of taking everything personally, what people think of you won’t stick.

The feeling that you are not good enough stems from you imagining that you are the focal point in the minds of people around you, and I’m here to tell you that you are not!
So here is the truth:

Nobody will care about you more than you care about yourself!

You aren’t the star of anyone’s life except your own

black artists

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

Go to my art store and pick up something sweet for your heart

Sugared Vagina

        Artist/ Life Coach ~Salkis Re

Sweet Vagina!!

So I’m thinking about your vagina today, lllmao. And I want to help you keep it on point.

The best advice I can give on this matter is to ditch the SUGAR.

Sugar will dry your vagina walls out, and you will become yeast infections ready if you are a sugar addict.

Sugar will cause hormonal imbalances also. If you are going through night sweats and fatigue, get off the sugar!!

Why?
Because sugar dehydrates the body and a dehydrated vagina is an unhappy vagina. Sugar can also cause your vagina to smell like trash! Throws the whole pH out of wack.

And if you eat Sugar AND Meat, then that ammonia/fish/piss fumes at the end of your day, this is the result of that combination.
Just think hydration if you want to heal your body. We don’t want slack wulls now, so put that cookie in the garbage!

Lllllol
~Salkis Re

To Contact me coaching or to buy Art link here or go to my other website:
www.iloveherart.com

Are You Ashamed About Your Desires?

African American Artist
Artist, Salkis Re for iLoveHerArt.com

So today I had this moment of euphoria. I imagined that everything I wrote on my legal pad came to pass.

Ooh the sweetness that would bring to my life, and the disruption of other’s lives too.

Ever feel kinda hesistant about what you want cause you know that people would be hurt if you attained it?

That is the issue with goals sometimes, not everyone will experience the happily ever after with you.

But it’s important for all of us to understand that we are not obligated to curtain our desires to thwart off any inconvenience others may face as a result of our ambitions.

Part of this walk, to getting the things you need, is in understanding that things could get messy during the process.

I pray for smoothness in all my transitions and transitions, and sometimes I am able to actually smooth things out… Sometimes.

But can I tell you how many opportunities you will miss while waiting for the perfect time, waiting till someone else gets on their feet, or waiting till the kids get a little bigger, or… Well you get the picture.

The hesitation, that second of pause is what scrambles your vision board. It’s concern disguised as fear really. You are afraid to stop being what people have come to rely on, what they expect.

You are afraid that your desires will disappoint people. And.. well… they will.

So we must resolve to do it anyway. Because if anyone has to experience dissatisfaction and dissapointment, it shouldn’t be you. You shouldn’t be burdened by holding your wants and desires in your heart. The burden of dreams unfulfilled will only age you, for it’s a slow but steady decline when you wake up and go to sleep ashamed about not having what you want.

So I invite you to revisit your vision board, or your goal list and meditate on it. List as many reasons as you can for why you DESERVE to have these things.

A sense of accomplishment, intellectual pursuits, love, financial freedom are NOT extras. These are not passive WANTS that you can live without. You NEED these things just like you need food, water and air.

That’s how you must look at your vision, as a NECESSITY to keep you healthy and productive as you live.

African American Art
Art by Salkis Re

STEP ONE

So if you want a new car, list the reasons why you NEED it and why you DESERVE it, and write out from a scale of 1-5 how much you really want it. (Anything with a 1-3 rating should be ditched by the way.)

STEP TWO

Once you’ve eliminated anything that rates a 3 or lower, look at your list again. Read over your list of reasons why you need and deserve the things you’ve stated and observe how you feel when you say them out loud.

STEP THREE

Replace or reframe any words that revv up uneasiness in you. If you say you want to rich for example and it makes you feel like it’s foolish thinking, then say “finanically Independent” or “a full bank account”. Reword it so that it doesn’t make you feel sleasy but it does excite and inspire you.

STEP FOUR

Comb through your list and edit it into a masterpiece that causes puts you into an excited frenzy!   From here, list actions that will get you closer to each goal. You will also need to list what you are prepared to experience in order to actualize them.

Sometimes, it means that you will have to go through isolation, not seeing family and friends for a little while. Other times, it may mean that you can’t but a new pair of shoes that year because you are reinvesting your profits to expand.

The beauty of planning all this out before hand is that you take yourself through the experience of difficulty before it happens so that when and if it does happen, you are PREPARED and less likely to quit because of obstacles. It also erases the stigma that often creeps in when you attempt to be ambitious. That guilt I was speaking of earlier, will be silenced because your mind is preoccupied with the necessities of having your desires..

Most of all, your life, my darling, is your life. There is no right or wrong, there’s only RESULTS.

What results do you want?

Xoxo,

Salkis

black artists

 

 

So who am I?

An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

**The painting featured in this post can be found here: my other website www.iloveherart.com

P.S. Be sure to share and subscribe to this blog. You will find the link in the top right corner of this site homepage..

You MAD FOR WHAT???

 

 

We always hear it. Control your emotions, or showing one’s (especially women) emotions is a sign of weakness.
No!
A sign of weakness is in being undisciplined..
Showing your emotions to a degree that is appropriate to the situation is a sign of intelligence, not weakness.

Road rage makes no sense, that’s emotional.

Throwing away your food cause it got cold, that’s emotional.

 

Black Art Eyes
                                                       African Art by Salkis Re

 

Wanting to kill someone because they don’t want you anymore, that’s EMOTIONAL!!

A disciplined mind will reheat the food if its cold, listen to an audio book while in traffic,

or help pack the bags of a lover who earnestly expresses to leave.

Anguish, the kind that takes lives or destroys property is hardly ever the appropriate display of emotions.

 

The Hermetic Maxim states

The Hermetic Maxim states that to truly rise upon any state of emotion, you should practice standing in the middle, meaning remaining neutral.

What does remaining neutral mean?
It’s sort of a gentler way of not giving fuck!
It is you remaining grounded through a storm, a sun shower, or sunshine.

You simply apply a “that’s ok” to things that go extremely well or extremely bad.
Harder to do of course, but this is the A-B-C’s and 1-2-3’s of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.
Now, how does this translate into a woman’s life?

How do we ( as we are known to be the more emotional of the sexes) learn to adopt emotional control when we are designed to express it?

Appropriation  . …..

Allocating our emotions to match the level of a given situation.

This Happened Last Week

I was at a department store shopping for a New Year’s Eve dress and couldn’t help but hear a woman gossiping on the phone about someone she knew.

From what I could make out from mumbles mixed with shouts,

she was upset about a friend making a decision to  f&*k a man she warned her friend not too.

Her cussing showed a heightened level of concern/ beratement towards her “friend”.

Black Art Eyes
African Art by Salkis RE for iLoveHerArt.com

She called her an F’ing Fool,

and Stupid Ass for not heeding her advice.

I saw spit bubbles building inside the corners of her mouth, and the dialogue was clearly dehydrating her.

And that conversation went back and forth for so long that my 11 year old started looking at her like she was crazy!!

I watched her hands flailing in the air as her eyes got wider to emphasize her point.

Could her heart rate be elevated at this point as well?

More than likely…

All worked up for what? Gossip?

All worked up for what? Gossip?
Fake concern?
Because she’s such a good friend?
Or was she revelling in her friends pain while under the guise of concern?

The point is that there was no point in getting herself upset over it. Her upsetness turned into a gossip fest and platform to trash her “friend”.

So the question YOU SHOULD ALWAYS ASK IS : What’s the Point?

Why get worked up over anything you have no control over or cannot change.

Our problem is that we spend too much time worrying over NOTHING.

We ACT concerned and blow things out of proportion as a diversion from our own troubles.
And quite frankly, I know and admittedly have experienced false satisfaction displaying emotional authority by ,ironically, defaming and alienating people you claim to love.

This was something I had to work on myself because I made a habit out finding the flaws in people and exploiting them..

So to conclude this post, I invite you to practice quietly posing the “What’s the Point” question in front of what you are about to say or do,

and if you can’t find a

legitimate reason to engage,

respond,

get worked up,

then simply let it go

because the appropriate emotion for it, obviously, is to have none for it…

Forward Motion!
Xoxo,
Salkis Re

 

black artists

 

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

I Put a Spell On Me!!

Big Eyes Art

 

Casting Love spells is a hot thing to do. I will admit it. I tried a couple spells back in the days too.

Did some pretty nasty stuff like smudging period blood on my neck, I even cooked dinner for an imaginary husband for 3 months straight.

My daughter thought I was bat shyte crazy.

And I was a little, still am actually.

I’m open to the impossible.

But…

What they say, or what I didn’t hear, was the key ingredient for ANY intention to work is focus,

That of belief and a sense of entitlement  for what you are going after.

I wasn’t ready for a man.

I didn’t think I really deserved the love that I wrote on paper.

So I ignored what I felt inside while hoping that the universe would overlook how fearful and unsure I was.

 

African Art
Art by Salkis Re

Maybe you are in the same boat…

Hurt by the ghosts of your past loves.

Wondering if it’s your lot in life never to be the object of a man’s passions.

It doesn’t have to be this way though.

And the road to healing doesn’t have to feel like 5000 stomach crunches..

Because the road to being receptive to love, to companionship, and soul mating

is one of relaxation and confidence, NOT worry.

The first step is to stop worrying about not having a man.

Yessssssss. That’s what I said.

What you worry about, is what you will get.

Why?

Because of the intensity of your emotions and the concentration on that thing you are emotive about,

which of course is: not having a man.

Get busy right now with changing your attitude.

And the only way to bring the atmosphere of love into your existence is through self care.

Self Care..

Eat Right.

Sleep Right.

Create.

DO things that Challenge you.

There are too many things you need know,

too many things you could be doing right now instead of brooding over fantom penises.

And these TOO MANY THINGS are the very glue that with bring the fairy dust transmutation and irresistibility straight to your door step.

Worry will weaken you.

Feeling lonely is a sign of a lack of imagination.

Creativity ignites passion, and its when you are truly passionate about anything that you invite people to come as spectators, lovers  and so on.

Black Angels
“The World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

SO the Answer?

Become MORE PASSIONATE.

Find something that gets your juices flowing. Do something that takes up your time in a constructive way.

And let whatever you choose transform you into a wanted woman!!!

XOXO,

Salkis

So who am I?
An Artist.

A Life Coach

A Friend.

A Mother.

A Black Woman who has sojourned her entire to find peace,

self love, and the expression of a purposeful life.

I have taken on the task of HEALER using my creative/art skill and communicative means.

I hope you share this message with all you know.

I hope you reach out to if you need guidance and instruction. Let’s make 2018 truly the best year ever!
“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re