“Don’t Like Sex SOOO MUCH GIRL!!!”

 

If you want to get money or resources out of a man, then NEVER act like you like sex as much as he does. Its masculine, and to get taken care of, you must act feminine or a “damsel in distress”.

If you are showing lust and encouraging talks about how you can do Olympic feats of Water Park style SQUIRTING on your 300 thread count sheets, you are going to make him think that his “peens” can be EQUAL in exchange of value when you do have sex..

Is it?……….

NOT if you are trying to be cared for: HELL NAWL its NOT!

Hide your lust. Do not offer conversations about how skilled YOU are.

If you must go there, simply indulge in his need to express what he likes and take note,

giggle, blush, and keep it classy…

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Why would you do this?

To establish that you are here to RECEiVE and his JOB as a man to to give IN EVERY WAY.

AND the sex he offers is NOT PAYMENT or COMPENSATION for the time your are spending with him..

That is the trap you pseudo feminists are getting yourself into.

The equality of the sexuality is NOT beneficial to women who want to portion themselves to be some man’s SUGAR BABY.

 

In order for a man to feel compelled to take care of you in any way,

he has to feel like you NEED him, he has to feel like he can solve your problems and rescue you.

And you cannot pull of the DAMSEL ideal by matching him it wit and sexual brawn.

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Think delicate.

Think soft.

Think charm.

Think beauty.

RUN from the modern notions of womanhood and all that WOMAN CAN DO WHAT MEN DO

IF the goal is to be a woman getting her bills paid by a ma who is madly in love with her.

It takes work. More work than I care to admit or WANT to do myself.

I fought the need to do all this nonsense for soooo many years and pissed away a large portion of my own sexual fertility shadow boxing with the notion that I too had to be vulnerable.

But I was thinking of it all wrong, it’s not about BEING vulnerable, its about ACTING vulnerable.

And these are two entirely different things.

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So my advice to you is not think of yourself as dumbing down your brilliance .

Think of all the feminine charm as a TOOL to sift your brilliance through,

because if your smarts doesn’t pad up your bottom line, then you are living “stupidly” anyway…

Fight this if you want too, and all you’ll have left is a mouth full of spermatozoa and an empty change purse..

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“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis

 

 

Closed Mouths DO Get Fed!!

 

“Closed Mouths DO Get Fed”
Written by Salkis Re

You should NEVER be totally open with your man. He is impersonating “friendship” with you, especially in the beginning. Leave the “real” details if your life for a “somewhere down the road” discussion or never at all.

We just chat-tup too much and women are under the impression that revealing your entire life is what brings closeness with your man.

He doesn’t care about all of that. He likes what get sees and he is doing what he does for access to your body: that’s it!

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Commitment isn’t a factor until YOU start talking about it unless you are the woman if his dreams: and most of may START off that way, then after SEX the dream diminishes because when your clothes are off and your mouth is around his peenus, it REVEALS how much you are really worth.

So you’d better resolve any moral conflict you have with running game so that you are prepared for the latter half if your life.

Men serve a purpose, just like a job, and they should only be a factor if they can better your life. THAT’S IT!!

Don’t listen to him talk about character and that “good woman” reverb while “beeches” he claims he wants nothing to do with and give him a hard time are the ones making his “peenus” hard as a rock as soon as she starts ranting.

Relax. Let Go of Guilt.
And Get Man to serve you…
“Life Coach”
“Dark Goddess”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

“You’re not a HOE, but you are a WHORE”

Written by Salkis Re

What is a hoe? I’m sitting here at my computer desk this morning thinking of something inspiring to write and that question just popped up in my mind.
I am haunted by my hot pursuit of and relentless contemplations around being a woman, a SATISFIED woman.

So I am thinking about my past lovers, why chose them and if I’d do things differently. I admit to you that I made choices in lovers with a cloud of limiting beliefs over my head. I told myself that I can’t have this, Im not entitled to that, all men do this, so I’d better just do that sort of thing.

Always settling. Always “agreeable“.
Why? Because I was more concerned with “purity”, with keeping myself ‘honorable” and unsullied than satisfied and compensated….

My vagina’s “body count” was low; my mind insisted that I had to keep it low because I associated my self worth with ‘how many’ got to plow my wet flower pedals. I was more concerned about that than being sexually satisfied actually.
Awww, the self murder, the useless priorities, the posing…

Episode after episode of sexual “duty” with little to no sense of DUTY cycled back to me.

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And with every man I laid with, there was a “filthiness” left behind, not because of the act itself although I have come to conclusion that body fluids that are NOT yours are likened unto a noxious, petre dishes of frothing pus and bloody spores waiting to invade and hatch inside your yoni through his ejaculation.(I want to throw my phone away after rereading that last line)

The *filthy feeling was from being “duped” though. I thought it was the ACT OF SEX itself, but with further examination of my feelings the “humiliation” I felt was from the unkept “promises” from these men.
My stupidity was believing in “dreams” , and Acting like the things he expressed that HE wanted, were the things he wanted with ME. More times than not, my assumption was for naught.

So I had sex for broken promises.
I had sex for “Thank You, that was great”
I had sex to show that I was committed, a team player.
I had sex to prove my worth.

And got ‘nothing” in return…. nothing to brag about at least…

Hump….. shaking my head….
It took me a looooooooong time to come to a solid conclusion about the value o sex, its purpose in a woman life I mean…
It wasn’t the *body count* that was ‘dishonorable’ or reduced my self worth, it was these MOTHER SUCKIN BYTCHE MADE MEN WHO USED MY VAGINA FOR THEIR BENEFIT WITHOUT RECIPROCATING the benefits they received that TAINTED my soul and my perception of my own SELF worth!!!
Not getting what I was promised is WHAT BROUGHT ME GUILT, PAIN AND SHAME….

That’s a revelation, isn’t it? But if you give it some thought, you might share in my conclusions.

The gag is this: EVERY woman who is NOT a VIRGIN is a WHORE.

  • AND We ALL will wear these HATS

We are born the MAIDEN.
Become the WHORE/WIFE
Then The MOTHER
Then the WIDOW
The typical cycle of a woman life…

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Art by Salkis Re “Eyota and Her Thunderbird”

So being a whore is an inevitable consequence if you take one dkye in your mouth or 25.
Your goal isn’t to AVOID BECOMING A WHORE!! Your goal is to use your sexuality for the betterment of YOUR life through marriage/commitment/ AND MONEY!!!

If you are JUST looking for pleasure, if you are merely using your vagina as a n instrument for pleasure on your part or HIS, you are wasting your essential slime.
You are putting wear and tear on your body for NO JUST CAUSE.

Sex is GOOD, SEX IS OUTSTANDINGLY MAGNIFICENT in fact IF its accompanied with a PURPOSE and a goal that reaps benefits long after you’ve washed his slime from your cervix.

Mother’s Day is coming and some of you will open your knees in gratitude of the Roses and Roasted Chicken and Mash Potato dinner that you could have bought for yourself..

So what it the truth about your value?

You get to decide/enforce what it is.
No matter what ‘offer’ is put in front of you, YOU still get to say whether its acceptable or not.
And it’s your AGREEMENT with that offer that dictates what you are, NOT THE OFFER ITSELF!!!
The moment you say YES to anything given to you, your value is then etched in stone!

So the moral here is what?
That you are a whore.. And there is nothing in THAT to be ashamed about.

And the ONLY time should be ashamed about putting a penis in your vagina, whether WIFE or GIRLFRIEND is when no stable PROVISIONS accompany your vaginal lubrication.

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

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Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

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Casting Spells

“Calling The Spirits to Work For You.”
Written by Salkis Re

Every woman should practice magic. We are a too reliant on others to steer outcomes for you.

Magic is simply focused energy and intent on a specific thing (or person) with the help of symbols

to narrow your attention and words to evoke emotion.

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Prayer is a great way to start. And the best way to pray (in my opinion) is to create your own prayer

in the way that you naturally speak and with words that have an emotional impact on you.

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“This World is Yours” CLICK HERE

Pray to remove guilt.
GUILT is the killer of dreams, and SHAME puts them in the coffin.

But you wanna know the irony of guilt and shame?
The more you don’t get what you desire, the more they grow within you…

To start releasing yourself from GUILT, you have to “accept” that you entitled to what you want.

Just Accept it, or Surrender to it I should say. And KILL any thoughts in your head that try to tell you that it’s “no big deal to have” or that  “I Can Do Without This“.

 

Everything YOU want is a BIG deal. Everything you desire IS IMPORTANT to you.

As women, we easily give up and compromise and SETTLE in our minds before mustering up the first footstep towards something we want.

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That thinking that you can “make do” is going to keep you stuck,

it’s going to keep you broke, mediocre, out of shape, unaccomplished, unattractive etc etc...

Pull your mind into focus.
Face what you want be, experience head on.
Task it to move towards you so that you can give it life!

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
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Love Really is A Game..

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Love Games Played on Broken Hearts”
Written by Salkis Re

A broken heart comes as merely a consequence of living.

And it’s because we are “agreeable” as women, more understanding and forgiving, more accepting, and inclined to second, third, tenth chance givings that we inevitably feel the residue of regret for our understandings…

 

The solution is not to become intolerable, cold hearted spinsters who make love to donuts and pies in the middle of another night in an empty bed.

 

It is to understand that with your understanding, comes the inevitable display of his character that will surpass your understandings.

 

And of course we women cannot walk away blameless. In all good conscience, I couldn’t end this utterance without the admission that women enjoy the suffering men display from their passions. We are professional agitators of the attention and lust of men.

How else could men show love for us without the feeling of loss?
It is impossible to show love without fear.
I admittedly am a propagator for love’s cruelty.

Nonetheless, a woman’s game is the heart’s thermometer testing the temperature of the fever in her man, as she makes him “sick” every so often to encourage his “appreciation” to the surface…

So what is love?
Love is Beautiful Suffering for all parties involved….

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
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So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

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I Told The Doctor He’s Full of Shyte

“Relationship Talk With my Doctor Friend”
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So I have been in a back and forth with my new Doctor guy friend who watches my vids on you tube about relationships.

He is in the mist if writing a self help to save black Relationships and he wanted my
opinion on some of the points he’s making for his book about the makings of a successful black relationship.

Now some of his complaints are that women of today are dishonest, golddiggers unwilling to cooperate and build with men. He says that the value of a women’s looks isn’t as high as she makes it out to be and that her beauty usually isn’t worth the sacrifice men make to obtain it.

He stated that women stack there money and look for the man’s money too, and that there no hardly any reciprocity with these high maintenance girls.he gave stats on the marriage rate decline for the Black house hold. He gave remedies for couples to keep the spice up by having date nights, and taking turns catering to each other.
The government​/penile system keep a black man down narrative came up as well. Rates of incarcerated males and single mother stats came up too.

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MY RESPONSE:
Do you want to know why the divorce rate is high in general? Because women are independent.

They make their own money, they are educated and they do not need men. All across the board.

But men are also afraid of being exploited and robbed of their finances right?

So they make sure that they get a woman who has her own so she won’t need all if his resources.
And woman who marry across instead of up will pull 50 percent of the weight of every expense.
But then you cheat on her right, cause that is what usually takes people to divorce court if it isn’t about money and most women,
no matter how they look, will experience some sort of infidelity in the life of the Marriage. That is real too.
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So the woman who married a (roommate) instead of a real man is betrayed on every level.
Not only is she paying her own to have sex with you and accumulate debt with a man not incentivized to handle the whole load,
all her superwoman efforts are thwarted and irrelevant because he is thinking about his gratification as all men do (eventually).

And women who deserve the effort a man makes have been sold the lie that they actually have “careers”

so they piss around and piddle off all the good, fertile, sexually attractive years of her life because she’s been told that men will always be there.
And that is a lie!!!!

Not only is it a small percentage of people who actually have careers, most women toil at work as if they are designed to love a 60-80 hour work week, and if they manage to climb up upper management and want to change the rules of this “boys game” to accommodate her inability to negotiate, or withstand the pressure of high performance environments. And at some point she wants a baby and just to slow down enough to do “womanly things” to care for herself.

The independent woman is a farse. Every woman is designed to sustain her life and livelihood through the efforts of men because she does not have the aggression, the conscientiousness, the disagreeableness, the competitive inclination to beat the next man for sport. Men who are wealthy or even just well off require those traits to survive and thrive in the workplace.

You say that men are in the process of accepting that less attractive women make more ideal mates? Never seen any to date openly express that. And the notion that less attractive women require less is not only an insult to her, but speaks to what men’s motivations will ALWAYS be: a woman’s looks.


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You are looking women to think like you, then you would be will other men instead of women. That is really what this is. No it is not fair for her to take your money and save hers: it’s smart for her to do so, especially if he requires that she work to be with him.


You mentioned that men would gladly take care of a woman not for access to her vagina but to “honor her like that) Really?
So you would just create an expense account to honor her for no other reason than your giving heart? How? Where? And if that is the case, why are you men so scared of being used for your money? A giving heart doesn’t give on a condition, he gives Because it feels good to give according to your definition.

So what constitutes a good woman? One who will give back to you what you have given her? Is that the bottom line?

Or does she simply have to crank up her compassion and understanding for man who is incapable of carrying the load because he has researched Cointepro, and stats, and history of systemic oppression of the Black Man to justify his defeat all while, making babies with her that he cannot afford to front. Because it’s not his fault he cannot be the man of the house because your imperial DATA refutes any notion I may have that you can actually be the man I want you to be or that you say you are???

Ok so when she uses her understanding for your “struggle” and has sex and procreates with you, that creates more financial burden, and these women are not married of course because he tells her it’s another form of systemic oppression designed solely to destroy men.

So he’s convinced her to have the bastard children even though he’s barely tryna “make it” .
And when she’s out there working, he is doing “busy work” too and filling his time up looking for more “simps” to supplement/work for him too.

Child support keeps men honest when the hand agreement goes left. And it will always go left because the woman is “compassionate” and understanding when you can’t pay or come up short. The court system creates a buffer around her UNDERSTANDING and his WILLINGNESS to uphold his promise.

So a woman’s looks hold “inflated” value and she should be able to supplement for this deficit be pulling her own weight, agreed. And now that means that nothing differentiates you from other men as well, and there is no practical reason that she should consolidate her eggs into your basket because she has to do for herself and now she can choose men based on other attributes like attractiveness and sexual proficiency in bed.

MOST men are NOT attractive, wealthy/financially stable, sexually satisfying in bed, and wants to get married in one Complete package. Most women will not get a man who is all four of those traits. But we understand where the value really is, so we are prepared to sacrifice and make do. All women married to well off men are making do in one way or another..

Look at how love is so quantifiable🤔🤗. Look at how we prattle on about facts and figures and percents and inflation. You don’t mind paying, you just don’t want to pay more than she’s actually worth, but you want to be with a girl worth paying, but you don’t actually want to have to pay her.

You want to break bread for women you feel are worth the effort and the rest of us are charity cases not worth the effort you really don’t want to put in for the woman who is worth it, far less anyone else.
How about that???
You desire what you don’t think is worth the effort you have to put in your get it.🤔

That is what’s going on with men now. And that is ok.
All of it is ok. These are things I address to women who watch my channel too. To be careful that they are not used for easy opportunity with little to no reciprocation.

In a perfect world, poor people would not mate and have children together, nor would ugly people, sick people, stupid people. But people are entitled to make that decision whether they are capable of handling the circumstances or not. That’s what we are talking about here. The right for men to choose whether or not they are qualified to choose WHAT THEY WANT!!

Men with no adequate ability to care for a woman and potential offspring, should not be having sex. Women who are capable of being mothers should not be having sex either. No conspiracy there, just an absolute fact.
But we are Emotional, and emotions bring complexity and a whole lot of debate because emotions TRUMP logic every day of the week and twice on Sunday.

This is what it is ladies.. The future looks grim for many of us, so prepare..
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

 

You Can’t Think Like a Man!!

If we as women ask for this thing called **equality**, than the MEN who agree/give it to us still hold the power.
And what they give us is conjectured power for which they can mitigate and temper as they see fit.

Why do men have power?
Why will they always be more powerful than women?
**Because men do not CARE as must as we do.**
They are disagreeable hunters for acquisition AND SPORT.
They TAKE things for fun, to increase their self worth, you to simply outdo other men,

and these attributes are not in line with the natural inclinations

of most women no matter how much she thinks she thinks like a man.

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And this is why we will always need men. We need men to do the heavy lifting.

We need men to carry the load because we don’t want to step our anyone to get to the better life.

We want everyone to have a fair shot, and its because of feelings that

we will never reach the heights of material success

that the average man is biologically designed to reach.

This is why hypergamy exists.

This is why men lead.

And this is why a woman beauty is her biggest asset,

because successful men do not need us for much more than what we mostly are.

A Beautiful,  Charming Damsel becomes a queen and lives a life of minimal drudgery.

And that’s really what women want. 

 

Men hurt people, berate people, some even conn people to climb the ladder of  success.

We damsels have been sold a lot of lies about our values.

We believe that we can do what men do.

We can work and toil and sweat like men and we will gain the power they enjoy.

But the important point, the MOST important point is that no amount of money a woman has will NEVER make her more attractive.

Her value is not in her independence, it’s  in her ability to be a beautiful woman in need of rescuing.

But you PLAY the damsel, you act like you are innocent and vulnerable to get him to do his manly thing which is to protect and take care of you.

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Will you have to play dumb?

Yes.

Will you be a man who you may not find attractive?

More than likely YES…

But your future will be one where you are not struggling or working your fingers to the bone with no time for personal self care.

If you are not into being dependent  on a man because you feel that your ambitions will win you freedom,

the stats show that you will be working for less money than your male counterparts.

The stats show that women are being hired more than men because they are cheap labor.

Nothing glamorous about typical work my dear.

Creative work however, is something totally different and satisfying on a level that enhanced mental and physical health….

 

So what’s the moral of this story?

Go to the gym.

Eat right. 

Set goals that make you look, feel and be your best.

Read more about seduction.

Have a curiosity for life.

Learn to be charming.

Learn how to communicate without being intimidating and overbearing.

Be a girl again…

And you will get a man who is willing to work hard for you…

Peace and Love…

 

Who Am I?

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               “Artist/Life Coach”
                 ~Salkis Re

Do you need additional help to get started on your transformation goals?

Contact me by email at salkis@iloveherart.com 

And you can book a one on one phone session with me right HERE

 

 

MGTOW and the INSANITY OF MEN THESE DAYS!!

 

 

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“MGTOW Will Let the Devil Take Your Pussy”
Written by Salkis Re

Men are saying that they don’t need women in their lives and that women offer nothing.
And men who think like this absolutely do not gain from being with a woman,

AND a woman gains nothing being with you. That is what I call a fair exchange.!

 

 

The truth is that men are hitting a “wall” with or without grey hairs, limps penises and pot bellies.

And the problem is that your complaints about women are inspired by YOUR “wall”.

It is not beneficial for women to attempt to mate with men who aren’t interested in that, so guys actually being honest is sooo f’ing refreshing.
Examine your future as well though, because you have an expiration date too..

 

The men are advising young men towards MGTOW(Men Going Their Own Way) seem to be complaining about what women ought to be,

YET I fail to see images of a emotional euphoria or any high level of happiness because they are NOT caring for women.

Give me some well defined examples of a man’s happiness that is totally devoid of women in it…

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Nikola Tesla is the only man I know of who did, and ended up falling in love with a pigeon later on in life…

 

So listen up, The stats also state that across the board, women make up 70 percent of University graduates.

Black and Latino women outnumber black men in education, for every 100 men in school, there are 200 women in school as well.

And guess who the employers will hire: women.

Why?

Because it’s cheaper to keep her than having to pay more for hiring men.

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So very soon my phallus carrying friends, there will be nothing for women to GET from any man other than his penis,

and I going to get the pop corn ready to the mating game tournament into the greatest show on earth

when you guys are reduced to the proficiency of your penises and nothing more.

 

You men are be suckered in by propaganda and slowly, your relevance is being snatch from under your nose.

Fight for your ability to be self sufficient men!!

Public policy caters to women and you guys don’t have a MGTOW  programs that demand and services

and outreach for men in school and the going into the workplace.

What you’d rather do is complain about women wanting to be supported by men when that is the nature of things.
But your wish is coming like a freight train on fire. Be prepared to be happy, and irrelevant guys..
Peace

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
~Salkis Re

Women with locs

If you would like to speak with me for spiritual advisement as it pertains to love,

relationships, mentoring, wellness/weight management or anything troubling your heart,

You can contact me email: salkis@iloveherart.com or Book a session here 

I’ve Never Been in Love!?/???

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Selfish people are full of complaints and convoluted notions about love. They want what they NEVER give, yet call the world unfair.

If no one wants to love you, there is a reason for that. Search for why that is..
Then Start BEING the love you wish to receive ..

I really give a side eye to people who say this because it reflective of a disconnect with people a humanitarian level.

We are all here to help people you know.

 By working for them,

caring for them ,

teaching them,

healing them 

Protecting them

If no one can say they have benefited from your existence, then you are not using your life in way that invites reciprocity you think you are entitled too.

We want love, right? But most want to hide behind the emotions of other people to disguise how they feel about themselves.

More people abuse love than cherish it, then regret and try to repair the corrupted hearts they’ve created, and it just becomes this endless cycle of

HURT YOU/

REPAIR YOU/

HURT YOU/

BEG FOR FORGIVENESS/

HURT YOU etc….

Why are people so naturally fucked up in the first place?

Why is it that we respect what we LOSE rather than cherish what we have?

WHY?

 

Because this society is the THROW AWAY Society

We are constantly waiting for the next NEW thing to come out, even if the old phone works fine.

You wait in line and pay inflated prices for the NEW thing in order to feel like SOMEBODY.

We trade people in as well. The moment a flaw surfaces, we are outa there.

How self righteous of us indeed!

 

To maneuver as if parts of you do not have to be “tolerated” by another person,

to act like you are so perfect that you cannot allow anyone around you to slip: How Sway?

You want microwave food and microwave love.

No one wants to take time to cultivate a relationship anymore.

But those blazing hot relationships fizzle out just as fast though.

Sex will get boring no matter who you are screwing, especially if you are doing it too often.

There is no other solution for boredom and the contempt of familiarity than ABSTINENCE and DISCIPLINE.

You build together.

You grow love for each other based on time spent together learning and improving individually and as a unit.

If you have the same conversation that you had 5 years ago: you are dead.

If you haven’t tried anything new to challenge your abilities: you are dead.

If you have not done anything to support your physical health: you are dead.

Good Relationships are about MOVEMENT and PROGRESS…

This is Not about pole dancing, and other unnecessary acrobatic bedroom antics…

A person doesn’t want to kiss you because you’re a good kisser,

a person will want to kiss you are using your lips as an instrument to express emotions for them.

Love( which is PASSION) is not that hard to attain if you are to fulfill your needs BY  fulfilling the needs of others.

PERIOD!!

 

 

“You Are Good and BAD” Accept This!!!

 

 

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Do you know where virtue comes from?

It comes from your ability to be a villain, to be evil, to be treacherous and conniving,

to be a liar, to be a cut throat: YET you choose NOT TO BE.

Virtue is has nothing to do with being “incapable” of being unfair,

self absorbed, hurtful and selfish. Your ability to exercise “free will”

allows you to experience virtue because it comes from having the CHOICE to do good!!!

Watch out for people who claim to be “good” and selfless,

those people are often times dishonest and hide their intent to manipulate through appearing ‘charitable”.
If you are not ‘bad”, then that simply means that you are not assertive and lack the

confidence to say what you feel because you are worried about how you appear to others.

But again, your lack of assertiveness doesn’t mean you are incapable of making people uncomfortable,

of being a cheat, or wanting to better than those around you.

You want that too, you are just ashamed to display it because you are concerned about your self image.

Ohh but it’s there….
So accept it!!

“The Black Hat Society”

Salkis Re

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“Virtuous Women Get No Love”

 

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Life Coach\Artist ~Salkis Re

 

There are many women that have morals and values,

who are ready and willing to be the subordinate for a strong man,

but often times, she does not come packaged in vanity.

The virtuous woman often times will come in a thrifty, plain looking package,

not the TROPHY woman men are often in pursuit of.

But she will cook for you,

have sex when and how you want it, take care of your children and do as you say.

BUT YOU WILL OVERLOOK HER***

You men do not want THAT woman. You say you do, but you don’t.

You want that women who does NOT want you, it’s called the “hunt” isn’t it?

So you men look for women who are better looking than you,

and those women are looking for men who are better than them.

And you spin around in your hamster wheel asking why did she do this,

or how could she do that.
Why?

Because she NEVER wanted you in the first place, that’s why.
So it’s wrong from the start,

but the nature of man is to care more about what they do NOT have over what they DO have…

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach/Artist/Medicine Woman
Salkis Re

Safe Sex??? There Is NO Such Thing!

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I do not understand the logic of “safe sex” using condoms. How can you enjoy sex with a man you think by chance he could be caring a disease. You make him wear a condom, but he can eat your vagina raw. You swallow his sweat and his saliva.

You suck his dick raw too, but you make sure you use a condom to practice “safe sex”???

Listen, there is NOTHING safe about sex, nothing AT ALL.
Sex is  a physical risk,

an emotional risk

and afinancial risk too.

If a man is putting his mouth on vagina raw, licking your asshole raw, and you have his scrotum in your mouth raw, then you are not “Safe Sex” anything!!

He’s got your cum juice, your urine, fecal matter and your sweat in his mouth and probably that of OTHER women too.

Unless your mouth and your vagina secrete BLEACH, you should be VERY fucking scared to feel the NEED to use a condom….

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

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“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.

 

And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

It WILL NOT….
Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Black Hat Society
~Salkis Re
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Getting Rid of Your Fear and Self Doubt!

“Breaking that Spell”
Written by Salkis Re

You wait for an invitation to the celebration of your own life.

You are under a spell, a spell that makes you think you are not worthy,

that you are nothing in this world.

How do you break that spell?
By using the gift of Thoth/Thought.
To THINK before you act can break ANY and every manner of deception imposed upon you.
You are here for a reason. And the “reason” is what YOU, (by you actions and focus) decide it to be.

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Art by Salkis RE Painting “Love You Anyway”

“Think Things Through”= Reasoning
“Let Me Sleep on it before I decide” =Meditation
The breath of life is within you.
God/dess is within you.
Turn yourself inside out and learn to trust what you have THOUGHT through..

“Fear”
Written by Salkis Re

I wish you weren’t afraid of getting it wrong.

Because being afraid of being wrong, of failing, will not stop you getting things wrong.

When you allow fear to paralyze you, the chance that you will fail increases because

you’ve added improper timing created by your delay to expand your stumble into a actual fall.
Walk with fear and you will succeed.

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

To Be Like Her Means You Kill Yourself!

“What Woman Are You?”

Faith in yourself is built on a foundation of work not hope or prayer or wishing.
You have a mind and you know what you “should be doing”, yet you wrestle with yourself.

You allow other women to rate your your level of competence and relevance on a

“fact sheet” derived from their summations if how you look.
Women perpetuate division and the casting of other women, and we are fervently vicious in that regard.

So where is this fairness that nostalgically speak of, cause I’ve never seen it!
Worried about what the next woman has but you do nothing

outside the level of laziness to change your own condition, to improve yourself.

Everybody’s FUGAZI out here:Everybody!!

 

Black Women with Locs
“Thinking of You” Art by Salkis Re

Listen woman, yeah you!
What do you know about women? If you are a woman, you should quite a bit,

but if you are liar to yourself you might struggle in seeing under the veil of those around you.

I said before and I will say it again so that you can Direct your energy to pursuits that will pay you dividends.

You are unlike any other woman.

This is a fact.
And this means that you have to own that.
And accept what comes with that.

The fact that you are unlike other women means that there is no such thing as equality.

To execute Equality would mean that you and I were born at the same time,

have the same anatomical structure, emotional development, share the same IQ, biological functions and so on.
But we do not.
And it’s because you and I cannot physically, mentally nor emotionally

be identical that we should not spend one fucking moment fretting over “comparisons”.

I Wanted to Be So Many Things..

 

I am not academically astute. I struggled in school something awful. I thought I wanted to be a Nurse,

but I hated blood. I wanted to be a Lawyer but my self esteem was to low to accept that vision.

I wanted to be a Clinical Psychologist but the amount of schooling for that just disgusted me.

What was I looking for above all else? To be “somebody”.

I thought an academic route would give me the respect and the love that my esthetics could not afford me.
Everything I used to do was for THEM to accept me.

For black people to care about me, for white people to respect me, for men to Love me etc…

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“Love You Anyway” African American Art by Salkis Re

Chasing what I wasn’t designed to do or be took a massive chunk out of my life!

Don’t waste time.
Read what I’m about to say carefully, this is the KEY to success.

Figure out what you are capable of being and then figure out what you are willing to SACRIFICE to become that.

Please understand that you must choose your “SACRIFICE”

or should I say the “PRICE” you are willing to pay to be the woman you want to be.

Why?
Because everything COSTS.
And if you don’t choose your SUFFERING (yes I said suffering)

deliberately, you will end up sacrificing something

other than what’s needed to become the woman you aspire to be!
Be what you want to be, but being what you CAN be trumps ALL!

 

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Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
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Marrying Poor Men, Here’s the Deal!

“Marrying Poor Men”
Written by Salkis Re

“Poor men” CAN’T provide anything, so they shouldn’t get married but they do.

The only purpose marriage has is share and protect current and future assets.

Now the truth is that the EMOTION of Love does not need marriage for validation

because most people can express the feeling of love without a license from the court system.

Marriage is simply the business aspect that creates the Commitment/non-emotional gesture

of a willingness to shoulder financial loss should the partner die or wake up one morning and say they don’t want you no more.
Time is MONEY.
Time is an INVESTMENT in itself. Marriage is a contract to exchange wealth between two people who enjoy sex and spending time with each other.

The “What You Bring to the Table” part…

 

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Art in Progress, Art by Salkis RE

Let me be clear here, I’m not saying that a woman should just be a pretty dimwit and nothing more.
I’m saying that the bring to the table” question directed towards her should be focused on the

nurturing aspect that every woman is capable of bringing if she is incentivized to do so.

Most women that work “hard” DO NOT want to work hard, and they would prefer alpha men who can fully finance her wants and needs.

An occupation doesn’t give you an IDENTITY, it gives you a CHECK.

What you are able to do without needing to be paid for it is more of an expression of identity.

Women don’t want “Independence/HARD WORK”, we simply do not want to be ABUSED because we depend on MEN.

 

Education is still important because intelligence is required whether you are raising children or in a corporate job.

The last half of life is going to look real ugly for many of us.

We make decisions based on “current options” instead of the 5-10-20 years down the line that sure like the air you breath COMING.

So the “struggle love” who’s narrative always seems to find it’s way to our compassionate hearts

. We always got to be grateful for the opportunity to struggle with black men.

No other woman, not white, not Indian not none of them

have exclusive terminology to emotionally express this ideal like US.

That “Ride or Die” shyte!

The fact that you are willing to endure SUFFERING and infidelity,

and mistreatment of every sort makes you a suitable candidate for respect and honor and Marriage???
You better think about that one again…

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
ARTIST ~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Fuck For Coins

 

Natural Hair

So this topic has been pillaging my mind of late.

This notion of immorality and requiring money for access to you vagina.

When aren’t we in negotations for our bodies?

I’m waiting for a real answer on this..

Some of us fuck for gas money.

Some of us fuck to pay a cell phone bill.

Some of us fuck for trips or to get half the rent money.

Some of us fuck to show our sexual value(especially the ugly girls)

Some us fuck for Commitment.

Some of us fuck for love.

But ALL of us fuck for an exchange in value.

The problem is that some exchanges are considered adequate compensation.

 

Some of our vaginas are not seen as value packed because the face it’s attached to lacks luster.

But the reason for default on a promise of reciprocity is not the point here.

The point is that you WANT something from him,

and have worked out in your heart and mind what you intend to GIVE in order to get it.

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“My Spliff” Art By Salkis Re

We all selling pussy round here.

Unfortunately some of us receive wooden nickels for it because we lack emotional control,

seductive presentation, and negotiation skills.

We think morality, being a moral woman will invite honor and respect and Fidelity.

How Sway???

So the question is this. Are you being unreasonable in your expectations?

Are you setting the bar too high?

Are your demands in line with the “value” you bring?

To be totally honest, if someone isn’t sold on your value, it’s because you haven’t lied enough.

It’s because you haven’t seduced enough.

It’s because you too busy presenting your fucking virtue instead of creating anxiety.

Men hold no power in the matter, and if you uncover their

secrets you will find that would like to ejaculate in any hole, any “type” of hole too.

Market yourself. Learn how to market yourself for results.

That is all “love” is about, especially for you girls who are NOT standard beauties,

though many of you would like to argue differently.

This is Black Hat Wisdom.

Put on Your Hat….

Life Coach, Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Pain Comes With Love

 

 

“What is A GOOD Relationship?”
Written by Salkis Re

The dark side exists in us all. We try as best we can to suppress our disagreeable nature,

but the moment there is cause for resentment or anger,

it will come gushing out like a ticklish sneeze.

So how do we manage?

By making a conscientious effort not to add on to our dysfunction by compounding on existing horrific decisions.

WE make amends simply by “thinking” before we do a thing.

And pray that there is enough goodness within us for someone to love.

This is why commitment is so important; It makes it more different for a lover to run when they come face to face with your demons,

and vice versa, of course.

Abstract Portrait Painting
Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re

Relationships are good when two people are interested in the well being of each other.

When each of you feel safe enough to challenge the other partner to improve.

But if you stay together long enough, you WILL WEAR hats like: Priest, Psychiatrist, Doctor, Friend, Lover, Punching Bag, Enemy and so on..

The love of your life WILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL  lie to you.

He will cheat on emotionally and/or sexually.

He will wish he had never met you. And he’ll develop persistent melancholy when you’re not around..

This is what relationships are…..
Except it so you can weather the storm.

Honor your commitment because chances are extremely favorable that you will simply

meet yourself and what you’re running from in another person…

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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She Taught Me How to Use Men!!

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“I Want You to Want Me” Art by Salkis Re

 

How do you get love?

Is it by being beautiful?

By speaking softly?

By being skilled at sex?

By learning how to cook?

By doing pretty hair styles?

By paying have the rent?
How do win the heart of a man?

 

He Kept Running Behind Her Ass

I was perplexed about this because I saw many women who couldn’t cook, but had a man who loved them to pieces. I know many women who are average looking, questionable hygiene, spastic, aggressive personalities, beautiful “bitches” who had men hearts on life support, but he KEPT running behind her ass!

 

She Took His Veterans Check!!

I remember when I had my salon, I had a client who would come in only on the 1st and the 15th of the month to look cute for her “visits” to some of Veteran companions.

She would doll herself up to go sit on their laps and if they broke off enough money, she’d play with their balls for an hour or two. These gentle would give her portions of their Social Security check as compensation for the “happy hour” Now, she wasn’t particularly spectacular looking, a some of her teeth were noticably gone whenever she smiled really wide, and she was fat but her fat was nicely distributed with a good hip to waist ratio.

Her Personality was larger than life!!

Her personality??? OMG her personality was truly larger than life. She would shut the entire salon down because we could stop laughing at her stories, and she orated with bravo and self confidence. She assumed what she did with the old men as “Good Samaritan” work, and I fell out my chair with roaring laughter at her comedic convictions..

 

Crippled Midgets and Ugly Husbands

What was more astonishing to me was that her main man knew about these seniors “Breaking Bread” with his girl. I asked her how she kept Harmony in her household with her man knowing what she does, and she simply said to him “I’m Going to Get OUR MONEY BOO”. Well, I flat lined again laughing so hard that I couldn’t breathe.

But I was examining her quietly too. I assumed that her man must have been an unattractive, crippled midget (no offensive to any cripple midgets reading this) but when we walked to PAY for her hairdo and gas for her car and brought her lunch, I was flabbergasted. He was cute!!! He was VERY attractive and well built too.

Huh?

Who’s Your Daddy?

I Flat Lined Again!!!!

 

Abstract Portrait Painting
“Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

So what is the lesson she can teach us as women about love?

She is an example of a woman who is NOT conflicted AT ALL about her value.

And her value was not predicated upon how she looked. Whether her hair was done or makeup on or not,

she commanded a room, she was the center of attention because her value wasn’t determined by your judgement of her.

She knew what to say, and more importantly, she knew HOW to say it.

Those that needed to feel in control (like her man), were allowed to think they were so that she could extract what she needed.
And her mouth was like Cannon FIRE,

she could cus on an executive level,

but she didn’t unsheathe​ her tongue gun unless it was necessary.

So the conclusion is this: be what you need to be for the situation at hand.

Play up your strengths and give ZERO energy to your weaknesses

unless they are something you’re incentivized to change.

 

Abstract Portrait Painting
“Eva” Art by Salkis Re

Understand that your self worth is not a community event and

true self worth doesn’t fluctuate in accordance with how good you look.

And lastly, being congruent with your wants and needs is essential to the manifestation of them.

If you feel ashamed about what you want, you will not get it,

and if you manage to get it, you won’t be able to hold it for long…

That is what my darling client taught me about being a woman…

Now lets be what we need to be, to get what we want to have…

~Salkis Re

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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The Other Side of Your Good Side…

 

Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re
Abstract Art Series by Salkis Re

Love isn’t what you think it is

Young women, I implore you to consider what you’ve already been through in order to absorb what I’m about to say.

I ask you to examine your past or even current relationship to find the congruency between your experience and my advice.

The love you want is called “passion”. It is a feeling of intense desire and longing for another person.

Passion itself is brought on by the building up of anxiety/suffering over what you do not posses.

Before you engage in sex with a man, he LOVES you.

By loves definition here, I mean that he has PASSION=love in his heart for you because he wants/desires to have your body.

So what will he do to quell and satisfy his desire for you?

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.

 

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.
The constant sweet nothings in your ear, the display of concern( calling after work or when you’ve arrived back home from a date).

If he is really attracted to you, you will get little gifts, nice dinners, all of which are INVESTMENTS towards swift SALE of your vagina.

The dates are to make you excited, to make you want him even more because of the joyous experiences he’s providing you with.

And the hours of cell phone talk and his attentiveness and interest in

what you have to say leaves you with the impression that guys have this thing you call a “Connection”.

And though you are a little unsure. Though you suspect it might be too soon to open your legs,

you let your emotions override your mental reasoning.

Why?

Oh because you don’t trust your own mind;

you think you are over thinking this and that you’re gonna miss an opportunity to be with a great man…

And then you open your thighs to him because he wined and dined you,

and you talked with him for hours, and enticing yet “Deferred” promises to you for month or more,

so you think he is THE ONE.
And the love making was fantastic, or average, or not so good at all.

But it doesn’t matter if it was good or not to you because you are “open” now.

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

 

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

His thirst is quenched, and HIS anxiety over you has turned back into self confidence.

The job is complete; the eagle has landed; the ejaculation has happened and now he can relax again.

The first thing you will notice is that your phone conversations shorten,

or that when you do talk, he seems distracted and not as enthralled with your conversation.

Then calls become less frequent because he is suddenly too “busy” to make time to talk.

Dates begin to cancel or begin to cheapen in quality.

The connection you swore you felt in the beginning,

now starts to dwindle down to begging for his time.

Why is this? Because after sex, women begin to smother,

cling, and display insecurity, couple this with having already tasted

your “sauce” and he has absolutely no incentive to DESIRE/LOVE you anymore.

So what do you do to avoid this?

The truth?

Some of you can’t avoid it because you are entrenched in insecurity and low self esteem.

Your heart will be broken again this year because your focus is the hot button tips and tricks on how to ensnare a man,

and the Snake Oil Conjurers will gladly exchange HOPE for your money.

A woman who Puts on her BLACK HAT understands that to fix this,

she must bring forth her inner BITCH!!!

YOUR “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

 

Her “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

She doesn’t think in CONJECTURE. She understands human nature.

She isn’t conflicted about her worth or the outcome she wants her lover to provide.

It IS, what F’ing IS!!!!!!!

Compassion and agreeableness is what women are hardwired to be,

but can your compassion protect you from Manipulation

that you will face whether HE IS GENUINELY INTERESTED OR NOT????
No. It won’t…
What YOU want comes FIRST, and what he wants is SECONDARY..

Life Coach, Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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