“Realistic Thinking or Positive Thinking”

Written by Salkis Re

It’s more beneficial to think realistically than it is to think positively.

But to think realistically can offer up as much delusions as bright-side thinking too.
Positive thinking feels good, but it does not contain a *sense of urgency and the FIRE of discomfort that is the ūüĎČblood supply of transformation.

And realistic thinking at times makes it difficult for you to perceive the potential you posses to be more than what you are at this moment.

I see so many of you who are professional complainers, you cry yourselves down obsessing over the “flaws” of their bodies.

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“Just Like Me” Original Art by Salkis Re for iLoveherArt.com

And those flaws might very well be “real”, but the potential to be better through diet and exercise,

going out and touching your feet to earth, prayer or mediation all are tactics to improve but are negated to wallow in pity.

All practical things to change your reality are thwarted and exchanged for excuses which give you a painless “OUT”.

This is really what positive thinking amounts to for many women: a stall!

Do diligence is needed here.
Do not think that things are worse than what they are(realistic) and do not think things are just fine(positive)
Accept what you SEE as real and then start the active task of self improving.

In others words: just be honest with yourself and stop making up delusions of grandeur or defeat!!

Carry On…

 

Black Women with Thick Locs
“Spiritual Advisor”
“Medicine Woman”
“Mentor”

“Artist”
~Salkis Re

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“Woman to Woman” Written by Salkis Re

Dorothy and the Wicked Witch
“The Maiden and The Crone”

Older women are seen as the bitter, jealous,expired enemies of younger women. This is done deliberately to keep us out of the “catacombs” where we can,exchange secrets and confer “degrees” amongst each other. There isn’t a “new” that you’ll experience heartbreak so nothing that any woman knows could ever be “antiquated”….

The narrative of competition is heavily perpetuated within our society, and as a result younger women throw away and totally disregard the wisdom right within their reach. Older women were young once and if you are young now, old age is walking by your side too.

The appropriate way to view your world as a woman is with insatiable curiosity and respect for knowledge wherever it may reside. You are no better than any other woman, not really. You have the same fears and desires as all of us no matter what your station in life may be at this moment.

Talk to you mothers, your grandmothers, women you meet bump into in the fitting room or while standing at the check out isle.
Every woman you meet can potentially solve a problem you are facing, any woman you talk to could change your life in a few words..
Your “sisters” are everywhere…

“Spiritual Advisor”
~Salkis Re

 

New Art Piece:

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“Just Like Me” Watercolor Art by Salkis Re

 

This painting symbolizes everything I’ve discussed here today. We are no different than any other woman. Lets unite our super powers to strenthen each other! To purchase this original piece, GOTO: www.iloveherart.com

God’s Child

“God’s Child”
Written by Salkis Re

Perfection is something none of us possess but we all criticize others for not being…

And the more critical you are of others,

the more it exposes of the secret hell you live in as you surround yourself with persistent, private condemnation.

When you release your desires for perfectionism, you can AND will enjoy your life a whole lot more…

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“Blacky” Art by Salkis Re

You will give yourself permission to make mistakes, to take chances, to explore the unknown.
You will become intriguing and exciting to be around.

You will give every inhale and exhale of your lungs a purpose outside of causing others pain…

And then your soul will begin to create your mission, a reason for living,

and a good reason for living is what your life will become when you inspire others,

when you uplift the weak, when you encourage the fearful instead

of the being the one fueling discouragement in others…..

This is what God’s children do…
Who’s child are you?

“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Blacky”

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You’ve Got to Be Evil!

 

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House of Black and White Collection: “I Wonder Why” Original Art by Salkis Re

I want to hammer that point home today.
Why?
Because you and many MANY others are under some impression that in this life,

all you have to do is be good and your actions will be reciprocated by the other you are being selfless with.
Nothing can be further form he truth.

The truth is that BAD people often win in this world, and that reality for freakin unfair
YET it is entirely true.
_Open your eyes._.

Look who is winning in your circle, in the world.

Is it the bruised knuckle man **working 3 jobs** to keep up payments on his trailer home?
Is it the virtuous housewife who is in love with a husband,

**the only man she’s ever slept with** whom she hardly sees because he’s at his other
woman’s house to get a peaceful sleep and a break
from the constant racket of his screaming kids?

How many women you know who sacrifice their entire

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lives and sadly get people who feel the need to muster up a
“thank you” for her selflessness and sacrifice?

You know people like this everywhere.
You may be one of them yourself!

To be GOOD is something you do to feel self esteem, to feel good about yourself. I get it. I AM it.
But there is another side that is necessary to bring forth when you want

to accomplish things, and unfortunately VIRTUE DOES NOT GET THE JOB DONE.

Virtue will have you excusing mistreatment.
Virtue will have you passing up opportunities to
further yourself because it may cause inconvenience for another person.
Selflessness will have you depleted and and drained and badly in need of self replenishment and self care.

Bad people give themselves what they need, no matter who gets hurt or disrupted in the process.
And the BiGGEST of all secrets is that you will have to adopt selfishness to accomplish your goals.

 

There is no way to climb the ladder of success without a few bruises, self inflicted and administers to others.

I don’t care what they say.

Now you can opt for virtue and sleep in your car, or bum food off your family and friends because you are anti “the System” or anti government.

You could certainly say you’ve had it with the world system and move to a hut in some remote island and live off potatoes and water while laying in the sun all day.

 

BUT YOU ARE IN THE SYSTEM!!!

GET OVER IT!

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Life Coach ~Salkis Re

You have a cell phone?

Great. You are a customer of enterprise, of slave labor and unfair pay.

You like designer clothes?

PERFECT you are participant in an economy that creates caste systems and greed , low class and high class, welcome home!

You like movies? Then you support and industry that perpetuates unbalance and propaganda to control the masses.

NOW, you’ve got to make a decision here in what part you want to play in it and how much control you want to have over your own life.

I know, I know, listen you are probably not as religious as I am or as I have been.

I have been radical about sin in my past and I still hold some virtues in pocket to keep me from going over the edge.

But what I am talking about is simply this: There is good, and there is bad within you.

There is hate and there is love within you.

If you think you are going to make it through life without displaying and actively

participation in ALL the emotions between love and hate, good and bad YOU ARE FOOLING YOURSELF!

Not if you want to be excellent!

Excellence take pain my darling, pain in the form of sacrifice and discipline 

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Life Coach~Salkis Re

 

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Are You A CHEAP Date?

 

 

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

 

I had a session with a client yesterday and she was explaining
to me how the conversation went on her pseudo date for the evening.

She told me that it basically tuned into a **therapy session**
for him to complain about all the money he was expected to spend in **his previous relationship**
and how he felt it was unfair that he was required to
give her so much of his money among other things…

Uh……

SO let me tell all of you ladies something that I did want to accept for a long time.
**YOUR APPEARANCE MATTERS!!**

 

Why do I say this?

Because she saw him for a “quick” informal date,

she wore a new pair of jeans(but they were jeans) and a cute casual looking blouse= **Minimal Effort**

 

Now she assured me that she looked very **VERY cute.**
But the message she sent to him was that of *convenience and *less requirements because she

was ok with riding around with him in his car with no plan and no money spent for her time.

And to top it off, he is all of 60 years old man with 4 baby mama’s

to divvy out child support too.
A 60 year old man has to pay to TALK far yes pay for an actual date.

Sound sluttish?
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**Get over it!**
Why?
Because HE assumed from the gate that this sister
WASN’T WORTH doing as much for like the previous woman was,
cause what? HE SAID HE GAVE THE OTHER WOMAN THE MONEY SHE ASKED FOR…..
SO his complaints are really a mute point AFTER the fact…

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“Never Again” Art by Salkis Re

Do not ever take that take as some sort of compliment to your **”good girl”** archetype.
Being GOOD serves a purpose, and if that purpose isn’t being met,
then you should walk alone with the virtue you are so proud of.

Bottom line is that he didn’t think my client was on
the level of the previous woman he was complaining about.

You think if he thought she was ‘high maintenance’
AND deserved to be take care of, that he’d suffer her
through the entire date complaining about how much
money he didn’t want to spend on a mother woman????

NOOOOOOOOOOO!

Men know who they will low ball from the gate.

And they will spend on what they think is worth the effort and the price.

You being a Good Woman, a woman of fairness and honesty is beneficial only if the man has no alter agenda, and what man doesn’t???

A relationship with you becomes something of quality based on how YOU respond to offers and insinuations and sexual advances etc..

You make it ‘something more” than a one night bang” by not banging?

His morals are based on what you require.. PERIOD!!

Do not compromise on your requirements at all! You won’t get a no crown for suffering or not getting your basic needs met!!

 

If you need my help, find me here

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Why You Want to Please People So Damn Badly!

Why is it so hard for you to consider how you feel FIRST??
I will tell you why.

Because a long time ago, when you were just a little girl, someone you loved and depended on told you it was wrong not to want to share.

These people were giants to you and you looked up to them literally and figuratively. They told you that you have to listen to what you are told regardless of what your desires were. They told you that it was wrong and disrespectful to be or show anger.

So you learned to hide your emotions.

You learned that for people to love you, you could not disagree with them in anyway lest you become a disappointment to them and yourself.

And so, here we are today…
And the same reasonings, the same thinking process you had as a little still prevails.

So what is the truth here?

The truth is that this all proves how “conditional” love actually is.
It also proves that what you thought you had to be was never the TRUTH, for it was merely

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“Love You Anyway”
Art by Salkis Re

Indoctrination to conform you for easier control over your behavior and actions.

You are FREE now baby girl…

You are no longer under the jurisdiction of your parents; furthermore, lovers and husbands that enter your life are there by your grace and the generosity within you to give them the opportunity to be a “part” of your life…

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“This World is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

Take these broken wings and learn to fly again..

Get the book that will help you here.

If you need to talk to me, I am here..

 

Are You A PlaceHolder???

“Place Holders”
Written by Salkis Re
 
You think you fucked the shit outta him, yet he left you.
You think you are a dime piece, yet he left you.
You think you are the most intelligent woman he’s ever been with, yet he left you.
You think you are smarter than him, yet he left you.
You have a big ass, yet he left you.
You neck and chinned his dick till your throat was sore and snot ran out yuh nose, yet he left you.
You think you have manners and self respect, yet he left you.
You have a good paying job, yet he left.
You have a degree, yet he left you.
You didn’t have sex with him for 90 days, yet he still left
He never talked about sex, then you fucked him, and he still left you.
You have a tight pussy, yet he left you.
You look better than all his other girlfriends, yet he left you.
and on and on and on…
Lightskin black women
 
ALL of you’s on this list were/are PLACEHOLDERS.
A placeholder is a woman good enough for “now” or even a few years,
some of you are even married placeholders believe it or not!
And the gag is that all of the you’s on this list knew something wasn’t right.
You felt that something was wrong, you knew it!
 
You can regulate your pussy all day long, and it doesn’t cause you are not the “one” to begin with..
You claim you have preference, but men know you are liberal with your convictions, he’s banking on it.
 
You know what gets every woman caught into the net of PLACEHOLDER???
 

****FLATTERY******

 
Appealing to your vanity.
That knocks you off your throne EVERY FUCKING TIME!
What did I tell you before?
Without vanity, and appealing to your need to be validated through it, men have NO POWER OVER YOU..
He bends time, and dodges a lot of incidentals through flattering you.
He makes you feel like you are actually in a commitment,
that he actually has genuine feelings for you all through administering FLATTERY!
Lord help us if you feel he is handsome or better than you because of money or status our whatever,
then you’ll start making concessions in your boundaries in order to impress him!
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Be immoveable.
Be unshakable.
Be unimpressible.
Be unbothered.
Be self contained.
And just observe him like he is observing you.
DO not assume that anything being said, any show of affection, gifts or money is some actually show of true feelings.
Take your time.
DO not give u your vagina.
BE fabulous, cordial, and unapologetic about your personal magic…
Be different.
Be unafraid to show flaws.
Honor the value you have for yourself at all time,
and do not negotiate your morals..
Now go back and RECLAIM YOUR THRONE!!back queens
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Men Want Women To Like Them!

Men are curious creatures ready to play.

The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.

Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.

That’s all courtship is really.

Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.

Beautiful Black women with thick locs
Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

 

 

His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,

to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..

So what’s the true tea here?

DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.

But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good

because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..

Except it.

Expect it.

 

Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!

And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.

They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”

which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.

But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.

 

So what should you do?

Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,

heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,

throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?

I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.

You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.

You want be kind, but not compromising.

You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.

You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,

and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!

Thick Locs
iLoveHerArt.com

Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.

And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.

Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.

 

All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”

is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.

So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!

This means that you trust your instincts;

you move only when you are comfortable;

you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind

ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!

 

If you need to talk, I’m HERE

No Reason to Love a Woman Like You!!

“Emotional Decisions”
 
Decisions made by the heart alone NEVER stick.
And this is why decisions made solely from an emotional place ALWAYS END.
Sometimes quickly… Most times quickly actually.
Him loving you doesn’t compel him to stay, does it?
You loving him doesn’t mean you don’t want to leave, does it?
 
So why do you stay? And why does he leave?
Because BOTH of you give it some thought.
You start weighing your options as you try to figure out a reason to NOT to carry out that conclusion your emotions offered you…
Kloe Kardashian and
 
Some people are not mentally stable enough to allow themselves time to think things through.
The ole saying “Let me sleep on it” is real and necessary to get your mind back into the rational space to give the final YES or NO.
 
Love is a scam in that way really.
You are loved today, and forgotten tomorrow based on “feelings”
I tell no lies here today.
You know its true because you have been with past lovers who you
swore you’d spend the rest of your life with that are barely even a fleeting thought now.
 
And so it is…
When you ask him “why” he loves you and he answers you with a “just because” RUN!!!
Run like a bat outa hell looking for fresh blood!
RUN like you’re in hell with gasoline draws on because you
know you are with someone who DOESN’T have a concrete reason to STAY with you.
Will and Jada Smith
 
Emotions make the decision and Logic KEEPS people together: NOT EMOTIONS...
You can decide to accept this or not, it’s certainly up to you as we all are resonating on different frequencies.
But if you’ve been “burned” by love, puzzled at how a person can love you and still hurt you,
perplexed that you’ve reached a space of loneliness when you thought you found your soul mate,
then this message is most definitely for you to eat and digest.
I know, I know, but Salkis there are happily married couples who have been together for blah blah blah amount of time,
so true love does exist, that’s what you are saying.
At least that’s what the seminars tell you, and they’d better tell you that cause you are paying good money for “HOPE”
I am not saying that love does not exist, Im saying that love is erratic, and inconsistent, therefore unreliable as a stand alone measure of the value of a relationship.
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you fell in love with him?
DL Hugley
What were your reasons for that emotion?
Was he cute in the face? Nice beard? Bow-legged?
Did he f*(k the shit out you till you came 4 times in a row?
What was it that conjured up the I can’t live without you feeling?
It was probably something that felt good of course.
Some action he performed that produced a feel good moment that became repetitious ,
and before you knew it, you couldn’t see life without¬†HIM in it!
But aside from the rigors and the conflicts and the betrayal, relationships can sharpen you as a person.
They can teach you what you like or don’t like or didn’t know about yourself.
Lovers have an uncanny way of showing you who you really are by creating hardship and challenges for you to overcome.
And if you do manage to snag a person that can hang in there with all your baggage,
you too can assist him in becoming better person as well.
While unpleasant, STRUGGLE LOVE is an opportunity you invite into your lives to “expose” for The initial purpose of an escape,
but on the back end, a miraculous thing happens and you start to dance with The Real YOU.
Learn the lesson and endure or move on….
Take the “Black Pill”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis RE
 If you need to talk, find me HERE

STOP ACTING DESPERATE!!!

If you act desperate, you will be used and abused: plain and simple.
Why?
Because desperation denotes powerlessness, and perception that you don’t have another option.

I don’t give a shit if you are a live-in girlfriend or a long time wife,

you can and had better maintain emotional control over your environment by decimating urges to share your vulnerability.

Do not allow any man to propagate to you that he is your ONLY option; he’ll just use your cosign to justify abusing you.

If you maintain an ABUNDANCE mindset, his propaganda can/will be cut at his jugular vein.
Do not give concern, do not be an audience member for his “tear you down show”

Freeform locs
Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

No ma’am!
Leave him to talk to HIMSELF about what he feels about YOU.
Your display of CONCERN is what gives his glibness meaning. And you get nothing but half-ass pity for showing your foibles too.

He acts a fool, you smirk, give a shrug, and walk away as if you are unconditionally unbothered!

To recap this transmission, I will say that the only reason you are being controlled

is because you allowed him to create *neediness and *insecurity within your mind.

How should you think?
You should think that he is in your life because you WANT/ED him there, not because you

NEED/ED him there. And you have to act like that even if you actually do need him.

NEVER acknowledge your weaknesses to him,

but always just be thankful and gracious for his *contributions and let that be that…

Remember that you are the gift. You are the prize. He should be the one fighting for your love, not the other way around!

Stop with the equality nonsense and understand your position as a woman is ALWAYS better than that of a man.

We are both cursed you know. Man being the beast of burden, cursed to work by the sweat of his brow, and we…

well are cursed by needing to submit to him…

There is no way around misfortune, unfairness, hardships,

but you make life harder for yourself when you spend it trying to be something that men do not respect, admire, or love…

 

YOU ARE A WOMAN!! That brings with it a treasure desperately imitated by so many pay bring money to mimic.

You walk around with your GOLD and your value is always present, always with and within you!

Don’t give that up to toil the earth like men. A man’s purpose is to protect you and provide for you;

there is no other need for him in your life besides that.

And when you narrow down the innuendo,

when you cut the ambiguity and misinterpretations that come with emotional feelings, that’s all you have left to surmise.

PROTECT AND PROVIDE!

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