Men Want Women To Like Them!

Men are curious creatures ready to play.

The problem is that they have no conscious about “playing” with YOUR life and your emotions.

Given the opportunity they will test you, and the testing assists them in finding a way into your heart.

That’s all courtship is really.

Courtship is the process of making you feel good while he takes you through behavioral modification.

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Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

 

 

 

His job is to alter your perception, to make you feel something for him,

to move away from your normal programming so you will want to fit him into your life..

So what’s the true tea here?

DECEPTION and COURTSHIP go hand in hand.

But it’s a beautiful thing. Courtship is seduction and seduction feels really good

because it allows us the opportunity to escape reality through his pleasantries..

Except it.

Expect it.

 

Because you’re doing also, you are doing it so he can fall in love, and he’s doing it so he can fuck you into loving him!

And the gag is that men will lay the burden of truth on you.

They will say that “you should’ve know better” or “you should’ve chosen better”

which is an admission that you shouldn’t choose with your heart but with your heart.

But the quagmire here is that they don’t feel that you value them UNTIL you display an emotional investment in them.

 

So what should you do?

Should you maintain your reasonableness and risk being viewed as a contemptuous,

heartless-bitch, or do you strive for creating a “real” emotional bond,

throw caution to the wind, and give him what he desires most?

I’d say that your lane oscillates between the two.

You want to show that you are interested, but not gullible.

You want be kind, but not compromising.

You want to be optimistic, yet sensible and observant.

You cannot be just one or the other because on one end you’ll look like a desperate fool,

and other you’ll look like a desperate bitch!

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Most men will talk your panties down are pimps.

And pimps are: smooth talking ramblers who speak in ELOQUENT INSINCERITY.

Know this, what he wants to do, what he would like to do,
what he wishes he could do,
what he’s “going” to do
and what he’s thinking about doing have NOTHING to do with you!!
Making decisions about the direction of your life based on the “hypothetical” indecisions of men will be round about the time you make your biggest misjudgment.

 

All these do is serve to create a “feeling” that “something”

is about to be done so you can gamble on your faith that it will.

So the order of the day is to take optimal care of yourself FIRST!

This means that you trust your instincts;

you move only when you are comfortable;

you keep your purpose and your mission in the forefront of your mind

ALWAYS! And know that what he offers you has to be in line with your purpose PERIOD!

 

If you need to talk, I’m HERE

No Reason to Love a Woman Like You!!

“Emotional Decisions”
 
Decisions made by the heart alone NEVER stick.
And this is why decisions made solely from an emotional place ALWAYS END.
Sometimes quickly… Most times quickly actually.
Him loving you doesn’t compel him to stay, does it?
You loving him doesn’t mean you don’t want to leave, does it?
 
So why do you stay? And why does he leave?
Because BOTH of you give it some thought.
You start weighing your options as you try to figure out a reason to NOT to carry out that conclusion your emotions offered you…
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Some people are not mentally stable enough to allow themselves time to think things through.
The ole saying “Let me sleep on it” is real and necessary to get your mind back into the rational space to give the final YES or NO.
 
Love is a scam in that way really.
You are loved today, and forgotten tomorrow based on “feelings”
I tell no lies here today.
You know its true because you have been with past lovers who you
swore you’d spend the rest of your life with that are barely even a fleeting thought now.
 
And so it is…
When you ask him “why” he loves you and he answers you with a “just because” RUN!!!
Run like a bat outa hell looking for fresh blood!
RUN like you’re in hell with gasoline draws on because you
know you are with someone who DOESN’T have a concrete reason to STAY with you.
Will and Jada Smith
 
Emotions make the decision and Logic KEEPS people together: NOT EMOTIONS...
You can decide to accept this or not, it’s certainly up to you as we all are resonating on different frequencies.
But if you’ve been “burned” by love, puzzled at how a person can love you and still hurt you,
perplexed that you’ve reached a space of loneliness when you thought you found your soul mate,
then this message is most definitely for you to eat and digest.
I know, I know, but Salkis there are happily married couples who have been together for blah blah blah amount of time,
so true love does exist, that’s what you are saying.
At least that’s what the seminars tell you, and they’d better tell you that cause you are paying good money for “HOPE”
I am not saying that love does not exist, Im saying that love is erratic, and inconsistent, therefore unreliable as a stand alone measure of the value of a relationship.
Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you fell in love with him?
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What were your reasons for that emotion?
Was he cute in the face? Nice beard? Bow-legged?
Did he f*(k the shit out you till you came 4 times in a row?
What was it that conjured up the I can’t live without you feeling?
It was probably something that felt good of course.
Some action he performed that produced a feel good moment that became repetitious ,
and before you knew it, you couldn’t see life without HIM in it!
But aside from the rigors and the conflicts and the betrayal, relationships can sharpen you as a person.
They can teach you what you like or don’t like or didn’t know about yourself.
Lovers have an uncanny way of showing you who you really are by creating hardship and challenges for you to overcome.
And if you do manage to snag a person that can hang in there with all your baggage,
you too can assist him in becoming better person as well.
While unpleasant, STRUGGLE LOVE is an opportunity you invite into your lives to “expose” for The initial purpose of an escape,
but on the back end, a miraculous thing happens and you start to dance with The Real YOU.
Learn the lesson and endure or move on….
Take the “Black Pill”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis RE
 If you need to talk, find me HERE

STOP ACTING DESPERATE!!!

If you act desperate, you will be used and abused: plain and simple.
Why?
Because desperation denotes powerlessness, and perception that you don’t have another option.

I don’t give a shit if you are a live-in girlfriend or a long time wife,

you can and had better maintain emotional control over your environment by decimating urges to share your vulnerability.

Do not allow any man to propagate to you that he is your ONLY option; he’ll just use your cosign to justify abusing you.

If you maintain an ABUNDANCE mindset, his propaganda can/will be cut at his jugular vein.
Do not give concern, do not be an audience member for his “tear you down show”

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Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re

No ma’am!
Leave him to talk to HIMSELF about what he feels about YOU.
Your display of CONCERN is what gives his glibness meaning. And you get nothing but half-ass pity for showing your foibles too.

He acts a fool, you smirk, give a shrug, and walk away as if you are unconditionally unbothered!

To recap this transmission, I will say that the only reason you are being controlled

is because you allowed him to create *neediness and *insecurity within your mind.

How should you think?
You should think that he is in your life because you WANT/ED him there, not because you

NEED/ED him there. And you have to act like that even if you actually do need him.

NEVER acknowledge your weaknesses to him,

but always just be thankful and gracious for his *contributions and let that be that…

Remember that you are the gift. You are the prize. He should be the one fighting for your love, not the other way around!

Stop with the equality nonsense and understand your position as a woman is ALWAYS better than that of a man.

We are both cursed you know. Man being the beast of burden, cursed to work by the sweat of his brow, and we…

well are cursed by needing to submit to him…

There is no way around misfortune, unfairness, hardships,

but you make life harder for yourself when you spend it trying to be something that men do not respect, admire, or love…

 

YOU ARE A WOMAN!! That brings with it a treasure desperately imitated by so many pay bring money to mimic.

You walk around with your GOLD and your value is always present, always with and within you!

Don’t give that up to toil the earth like men. A man’s purpose is to protect you and provide for you;

there is no other need for him in your life besides that.

And when you narrow down the innuendo,

when you cut the ambiguity and misinterpretations that come with emotional feelings, that’s all you have left to surmise.

PROTECT AND PROVIDE!

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“Sexual Abuse Happens to Every Woman”

All women I have had the pleasure of talking to,
coaching with, friendships and associates have a sexual abuse story from their past: ALL OF THEM!
It was an uncle here, a stepfather there, an older cousin here,
a brother there, a boyfriend over here, and a husband after that, and so on and so on…..

I remember when I was it the 4th grade, I got dragged behind a tree by this boy that I actually had a crush on.
I asked him what he was doing and he slammed me against the tree and started dry humping me.
My face was bruised cause he held my neck against the trunk of the tree so that I couldn’t move..

I started crying. Then he laughed, backed off, and ran away…
I stood there picking bits of tree trunk off my face, shaken, feeling ashamed and really confused like what the fuck just happened here!
But he laughing so I wasn’t sure if what he’d just done was even wrong.

No ‘I’m sorry’ was said, he just laughed when he saw my tears.
So I thought that maybe I was perceiving it wrong…

Isn’t that what we always do?
Second guess ourselves and our feelings because HE won’t own up to his actions…

No penetration physically happened, but a disruption of my self worth and confidence sure did!


Why?
Because I secretly LIKED that boy.
Which means I looked up to him.
And because I liked him and he didn’t like me:
it meant that HE was BETTER than me…..

This is the typical pattern that starts after you’ve been physically violated.
You don’t trust yourself anymore, you feel in your heart that the pain inflicted is somehow what you deserved..
And every relationship you seek, only aids in solidifying your false sense of low worth…

Wives aren’t exempt from this either, in fact, a lot of them are simply “under contract” to be abused because you have taken the “I’m powerless’ position..

So he gets to tell you he doesn’t like your body while he’s fucking you because he pays the mortgage. He gets to tell you that he thinks you are stupid while he rides your back to relieve his stress. He gets to blame you for his dik not being able to hold an erection, but as the “good wife” you swallow and wallow quietly in degradation because that ring says you have NO voice.

But you can repair your heart and mind..

Your heart can heal,
your emotions can stabilize when you finally come to realization of what men are,
what they can and CANNOT do for you, and the proper order of importance they fit in..

So The Maxims For Today Are:

Do NOT second guess YOURSELF anymore…
What you SEE IS what you GET…
There is NO BENEFIT IN A DOUBT,
So DON’T give the BENEFIT OF A DOUBT.
DISMISS ANY talk that calls to question your perception of reality…
And remember, you CANNOT have SELF CONFIDENCE when you Do Not trust YOUR feelings…

Aummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re
The Black Hat Society”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
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“How Do You Get a Man to Love You? “

 

Beautiful Black Women
Life CoachArtist ~Salkis Re

Well there are a few hard truths to swallow before you can position yourself for that possibility.
Some things that you will have to do are:
🌼1)Bite your tongue.
🌼2)Swallow your pride.
🌼3) Be charming.
🌼4)Play dumb.
🌼5)Act helpless.
🌼6) Stay away from intoxicants.
🌼7) Have excellent hygiene.
🌼8) Dress to compliment your form,
🌼9)Workout.
🌼10) Eat right.
🌼11) Pray.
🌼12) Do not upstage him with your intellect.
🌼13) Do not act like you can’t live without sex.
🌼14) Do not have sex too frequently because your “novelty” will wear off faster than is beneficial to you.
🌼15) Act like you are accustomed to nice things.
🌼16) Make sure you are more good looking than he is, preferably 3-5 points higher in the scale.
🌼17) Resist being argumentative because this is a sign that you care. And you shouldn’t.
🌼18) Do not check up on him or grill him about whereabouts.
🌼19) Do not consider procreation with him until you have been Married for a while because being a mother is a “little death” towards your “sexual attractiveness”..

🌼🌼20) This one’s most important. Allow a man to “pick” you. Do not fall for the sexual liberation trap that makes you think you can discern interest in a man that YOU desire, you’ll end up giving him pussy he didn’t need to perform to get.

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~Salkis Re

Do NOT pursue a man you have to convince will like your “type” i.e.(fat, dark, shorthair, skinny),

That, “You don’t know what your missing” sales pitch: piss on it and let it burn cause you are setting yourself up for “pick me” abuse.

Final words, by no means is this a comprehensive list, it is merely a foundation to build on to the other things that must be done that require mentalism and self control.

Love Doesn’t exist in romantic relationships, this is why you HAVE to do all the steps I listed to coax those feelings out of him.

When you accept that love is a game, and an unfair one at that, then you will move your mind out of the conflict of right and wrong with what you MUST do to position yourself as a woman of value.

AND………
Get over your tug of war.
Get over this happily ever after that you are ashamed you don’t have yet.
Respect the wisdom your experience has bestowed upon you.
Stop thinking that the TRUTH is sad..
Take the “BLACK PILL”
And gain control of your emotions.

Amen, Amun, Ameen
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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Salkis Re, Artist/ Author/Poet/Life Coach

“Don’t Like Sex SOOO MUCH GIRL!!!”

 

If you want to get money or resources out of a man, then NEVER act like you like sex as much as he does. Its masculine, and to get taken care of, you must act feminine or a “damsel in distress”.

If you are showing lust and encouraging talks about how you can do Olympic feats of Water Park style SQUIRTING on your 300 thread count sheets, you are going to make him think that his “peens” can be EQUAL in exchange of value when you do have sex..

Is it?……….

NOT if you are trying to be cared for: HELL NAWL its NOT!

Hide your lust. Do not offer conversations about how skilled YOU are.

If you must go there, simply indulge in his need to express what he likes and take note,

giggle, blush, and keep it classy…

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Why would you do this?

To establish that you are here to RECEiVE and his JOB as a man to to give IN EVERY WAY.

AND the sex he offers is NOT PAYMENT or COMPENSATION for the time your are spending with him..

That is the trap you pseudo feminists are getting yourself into.

The equality of the sexuality is NOT beneficial to women who want to portion themselves to be some man’s SUGAR BABY.

 

In order for a man to feel compelled to take care of you in any way,

he has to feel like you NEED him, he has to feel like he can solve your problems and rescue you.

And you cannot pull of the DAMSEL ideal by matching him it wit and sexual brawn.

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Think delicate.

Think soft.

Think charm.

Think beauty.

RUN from the modern notions of womanhood and all that WOMAN CAN DO WHAT MEN DO

IF the goal is to be a woman getting her bills paid by a ma who is madly in love with her.

It takes work. More work than I care to admit or WANT to do myself.

I fought the need to do all this nonsense for soooo many years and pissed away a large portion of my own sexual fertility shadow boxing with the notion that I too had to be vulnerable.

But I was thinking of it all wrong, it’s not about BEING vulnerable, its about ACTING vulnerable.

And these are two entirely different things.

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So my advice to you is not think of yourself as dumbing down your brilliance .

Think of all the feminine charm as a TOOL to sift your brilliance through,

because if your smarts doesn’t pad up your bottom line, then you are living “stupidly” anyway…

Fight this if you want too, and all you’ll have left is a mouth full of spermatozoa and an empty change purse..

What more help? Find my books and coaching services  here

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis

 

 

Closed Mouths DO Get Fed!!

 

“Closed Mouths DO Get Fed”
Written by Salkis Re

You should NEVER be totally open with your man. He is impersonating “friendship” with you, especially in the beginning. Leave the “real” details if your life for a “somewhere down the road” discussion or never at all.

We just chat-tup too much and women are under the impression that revealing your entire life is what brings closeness with your man.

He doesn’t care about all of that. He likes what get sees and he is doing what he does for access to your body: that’s it!

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Commitment isn’t a factor until YOU start talking about it unless you are the woman if his dreams: and most of may START off that way, then after SEX the dream diminishes because when your clothes are off and your mouth is around his peenus, it REVEALS how much you are really worth.

So you’d better resolve any moral conflict you have with running game so that you are prepared for the latter half if your life.

Men serve a purpose, just like a job, and they should only be a factor if they can better your life. THAT’S IT!!

Don’t listen to him talk about character and that “good woman” reverb while “beeches” he claims he wants nothing to do with and give him a hard time are the ones making his “peenus” hard as a rock as soon as she starts ranting.

Relax. Let Go of Guilt.
And Get Man to serve you…
“Life Coach”
“Dark Goddess”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

“You’re not a HOE, but you are a WHORE”

Written by Salkis Re

What is a hoe? I’m sitting here at my computer desk this morning thinking of something inspiring to write and that question just popped up in my mind.
I am haunted by my hot pursuit of and relentless contemplations around being a woman, a SATISFIED woman.

So I am thinking about my past lovers, why chose them and if I’d do things differently. I admit to you that I made choices in lovers with a cloud of limiting beliefs over my head. I told myself that I can’t have this, Im not entitled to that, all men do this, so I’d better just do that sort of thing.

Always settling. Always “agreeable“.
Why? Because I was more concerned with “purity”, with keeping myself ‘honorable” and unsullied than satisfied and compensated….

My vagina’s “body count” was low; my mind insisted that I had to keep it low because I associated my self worth with ‘how many’ got to plow my wet flower pedals. I was more concerned about that than being sexually satisfied actually.
Awww, the self murder, the useless priorities, the posing…

Episode after episode of sexual “duty” with little to no sense of DUTY cycled back to me.

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And with every man I laid with, there was a “filthiness” left behind, not because of the act itself although I have come to conclusion that body fluids that are NOT yours are likened unto a noxious, petre dishes of frothing pus and bloody spores waiting to invade and hatch inside your yoni through his ejaculation.(I want to throw my phone away after rereading that last line)

The *filthy feeling was from being “duped” though. I thought it was the ACT OF SEX itself, but with further examination of my feelings the “humiliation” I felt was from the unkept “promises” from these men.
My stupidity was believing in “dreams” , and Acting like the things he expressed that HE wanted, were the things he wanted with ME. More times than not, my assumption was for naught.

So I had sex for broken promises.
I had sex for “Thank You, that was great”
I had sex to show that I was committed, a team player.
I had sex to prove my worth.

And got ‘nothing” in return…. nothing to brag about at least…

Hump….. shaking my head….
It took me a looooooooong time to come to a solid conclusion about the value o sex, its purpose in a woman life I mean…
It wasn’t the *body count* that was ‘dishonorable’ or reduced my self worth, it was these MOTHER SUCKIN BYTCHE MADE MEN WHO USED MY VAGINA FOR THEIR BENEFIT WITHOUT RECIPROCATING the benefits they received that TAINTED my soul and my perception of my own SELF worth!!!
Not getting what I was promised is WHAT BROUGHT ME GUILT, PAIN AND SHAME….

That’s a revelation, isn’t it? But if you give it some thought, you might share in my conclusions.

The gag is this: EVERY woman who is NOT a VIRGIN is a WHORE.

  • AND We ALL will wear these HATS

We are born the MAIDEN.
Become the WHORE/WIFE
Then The MOTHER
Then the WIDOW
The typical cycle of a woman life…

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Art by Salkis Re “Eyota and Her Thunderbird”

So being a whore is an inevitable consequence if you take one dkye in your mouth or 25.
Your goal isn’t to AVOID BECOMING A WHORE!! Your goal is to use your sexuality for the betterment of YOUR life through marriage/commitment/ AND MONEY!!!

If you are JUST looking for pleasure, if you are merely using your vagina as a n instrument for pleasure on your part or HIS, you are wasting your essential slime.
You are putting wear and tear on your body for NO JUST CAUSE.

Sex is GOOD, SEX IS OUTSTANDINGLY MAGNIFICENT in fact IF its accompanied with a PURPOSE and a goal that reaps benefits long after you’ve washed his slime from your cervix.

Mother’s Day is coming and some of you will open your knees in gratitude of the Roses and Roasted Chicken and Mash Potato dinner that you could have bought for yourself..

So what it the truth about your value?

You get to decide/enforce what it is.
No matter what ‘offer’ is put in front of you, YOU still get to say whether its acceptable or not.
And it’s your AGREEMENT with that offer that dictates what you are, NOT THE OFFER ITSELF!!!
The moment you say YES to anything given to you, your value is then etched in stone!

So the moral here is what?
That you are a whore.. And there is nothing in THAT to be ashamed about.

And the ONLY time should be ashamed about putting a penis in your vagina, whether WIFE or GIRLFRIEND is when no stable PROVISIONS accompany your vaginal lubrication.

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

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Casting Spells

“Calling The Spirits to Work For You.”
Written by Salkis Re

Every woman should practice magic. We are a too reliant on others to steer outcomes for you.

Magic is simply focused energy and intent on a specific thing (or person) with the help of symbols

to narrow your attention and words to evoke emotion.

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Prayer is a great way to start. And the best way to pray (in my opinion) is to create your own prayer

in the way that you naturally speak and with words that have an emotional impact on you.

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“This World is Yours” CLICK HERE

Pray to remove guilt.
GUILT is the killer of dreams, and SHAME puts them in the coffin.

But you wanna know the irony of guilt and shame?
The more you don’t get what you desire, the more they grow within you…

To start releasing yourself from GUILT, you have to “accept” that you entitled to what you want.

Just Accept it, or Surrender to it I should say. And KILL any thoughts in your head that try to tell you that it’s “no big deal to have” or that  “I Can Do Without This“.

 

Everything YOU want is a BIG deal. Everything you desire IS IMPORTANT to you.

As women, we easily give up and compromise and SETTLE in our minds before mustering up the first footstep towards something we want.

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That thinking that you can “make do” is going to keep you stuck,

it’s going to keep you broke, mediocre, out of shape, unaccomplished, unattractive etc etc...

Pull your mind into focus.
Face what you want be, experience head on.
Task it to move towards you so that you can give it life!

“Medicine Woman”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING: “This World Is Yours”

Love Really is A Game..

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“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

 

Love Games Played on Broken Hearts”
Written by Salkis Re

A broken heart comes as merely a consequence of living.

And it’s because we are “agreeable” as women, more understanding and forgiving, more accepting, and inclined to second, third, tenth chance givings that we inevitably feel the residue of regret for our understandings…

 

The solution is not to become intolerable, cold hearted spinsters who make love to donuts and pies in the middle of another night in an empty bed.

 

It is to understand that with your understanding, comes the inevitable display of his character that will surpass your understandings.

 

And of course we women cannot walk away blameless. In all good conscience, I couldn’t end this utterance without the admission that women enjoy the suffering men display from their passions. We are professional agitators of the attention and lust of men.

How else could men show love for us without the feeling of loss?
It is impossible to show love without fear.
I admittedly am a propagator for love’s cruelty.

Nonetheless, a woman’s game is the heart’s thermometer testing the temperature of the fever in her man, as she makes him “sick” every so often to encourage his “appreciation” to the surface…

So what is love?
Love is Beautiful Suffering for all parties involved….

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

I Told The Doctor He’s Full of Shyte

“Relationship Talk With my Doctor Friend”
Black American Women and Propaganda

So I have been in a back and forth with my new Doctor guy friend who watches my vids on you tube about relationships.

He is in the mist if writing a self help to save black Relationships and he wanted my
opinion on some of the points he’s making for his book about the makings of a successful black relationship.

Now some of his complaints are that women of today are dishonest, golddiggers unwilling to cooperate and build with men. He says that the value of a women’s looks isn’t as high as she makes it out to be and that her beauty usually isn’t worth the sacrifice men make to obtain it.

He stated that women stack there money and look for the man’s money too, and that there no hardly any reciprocity with these high maintenance girls.he gave stats on the marriage rate decline for the Black house hold. He gave remedies for couples to keep the spice up by having date nights, and taking turns catering to each other.
The government​/penile system keep a black man down narrative came up as well. Rates of incarcerated males and single mother stats came up too.

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MY RESPONSE:
Do you want to know why the divorce rate is high in general? Because women are independent.

They make their own money, they are educated and they do not need men. All across the board.

But men are also afraid of being exploited and robbed of their finances right?

So they make sure that they get a woman who has her own so she won’t need all if his resources.
And woman who marry across instead of up will pull 50 percent of the weight of every expense.
But then you cheat on her right, cause that is what usually takes people to divorce court if it isn’t about money and most women,
no matter how they look, will experience some sort of infidelity in the life of the Marriage. That is real too.
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So the woman who married a (roommate) instead of a real man is betrayed on every level.
Not only is she paying her own to have sex with you and accumulate debt with a man not incentivized to handle the whole load,
all her superwoman efforts are thwarted and irrelevant because he is thinking about his gratification as all men do (eventually).

And women who deserve the effort a man makes have been sold the lie that they actually have “careers”

so they piss around and piddle off all the good, fertile, sexually attractive years of her life because she’s been told that men will always be there.
And that is a lie!!!!

Not only is it a small percentage of people who actually have careers, most women toil at work as if they are designed to love a 60-80 hour work week, and if they manage to climb up upper management and want to change the rules of this “boys game” to accommodate her inability to negotiate, or withstand the pressure of high performance environments. And at some point she wants a baby and just to slow down enough to do “womanly things” to care for herself.

The independent woman is a farse. Every woman is designed to sustain her life and livelihood through the efforts of men because she does not have the aggression, the conscientiousness, the disagreeableness, the competitive inclination to beat the next man for sport. Men who are wealthy or even just well off require those traits to survive and thrive in the workplace.

You say that men are in the process of accepting that less attractive women make more ideal mates? Never seen any to date openly express that. And the notion that less attractive women require less is not only an insult to her, but speaks to what men’s motivations will ALWAYS be: a woman’s looks.


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You are looking women to think like you, then you would be will other men instead of women. That is really what this is. No it is not fair for her to take your money and save hers: it’s smart for her to do so, especially if he requires that she work to be with him.


You mentioned that men would gladly take care of a woman not for access to her vagina but to “honor her like that) Really?
So you would just create an expense account to honor her for no other reason than your giving heart? How? Where? And if that is the case, why are you men so scared of being used for your money? A giving heart doesn’t give on a condition, he gives Because it feels good to give according to your definition.

So what constitutes a good woman? One who will give back to you what you have given her? Is that the bottom line?

Or does she simply have to crank up her compassion and understanding for man who is incapable of carrying the load because he has researched Cointepro, and stats, and history of systemic oppression of the Black Man to justify his defeat all while, making babies with her that he cannot afford to front. Because it’s not his fault he cannot be the man of the house because your imperial DATA refutes any notion I may have that you can actually be the man I want you to be or that you say you are???

Ok so when she uses her understanding for your “struggle” and has sex and procreates with you, that creates more financial burden, and these women are not married of course because he tells her it’s another form of systemic oppression designed solely to destroy men.

So he’s convinced her to have the bastard children even though he’s barely tryna “make it” .
And when she’s out there working, he is doing “busy work” too and filling his time up looking for more “simps” to supplement/work for him too.

Child support keeps men honest when the hand agreement goes left. And it will always go left because the woman is “compassionate” and understanding when you can’t pay or come up short. The court system creates a buffer around her UNDERSTANDING and his WILLINGNESS to uphold his promise.

So a woman’s looks hold “inflated” value and she should be able to supplement for this deficit be pulling her own weight, agreed. And now that means that nothing differentiates you from other men as well, and there is no practical reason that she should consolidate her eggs into your basket because she has to do for herself and now she can choose men based on other attributes like attractiveness and sexual proficiency in bed.

MOST men are NOT attractive, wealthy/financially stable, sexually satisfying in bed, and wants to get married in one Complete package. Most women will not get a man who is all four of those traits. But we understand where the value really is, so we are prepared to sacrifice and make do. All women married to well off men are making do in one way or another..

Look at how love is so quantifiable🤔🤗. Look at how we prattle on about facts and figures and percents and inflation. You don’t mind paying, you just don’t want to pay more than she’s actually worth, but you want to be with a girl worth paying, but you don’t actually want to have to pay her.

You want to break bread for women you feel are worth the effort and the rest of us are charity cases not worth the effort you really don’t want to put in for the woman who is worth it, far less anyone else.
How about that???
You desire what you don’t think is worth the effort you have to put in your get it.🤔

That is what’s going on with men now. And that is ok.
All of it is ok. These are things I address to women who watch my channel too. To be careful that they are not used for easy opportunity with little to no reciprocation.

In a perfect world, poor people would not mate and have children together, nor would ugly people, sick people, stupid people. But people are entitled to make that decision whether they are capable of handling the circumstances or not. That’s what we are talking about here. The right for men to choose whether or not they are qualified to choose WHAT THEY WANT!!

Men with no adequate ability to care for a woman and potential offspring, should not be having sex. Women who are capable of being mothers should not be having sex either. No conspiracy there, just an absolute fact.
But we are Emotional, and emotions bring complexity and a whole lot of debate because emotions TRUMP logic every day of the week and twice on Sunday.

This is what it is ladies.. The future looks grim for many of us, so prepare..
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

 

You Can’t Think Like a Man!!

If we as women ask for this thing called **equality**, than the MEN who agree/give it to us still hold the power.
And what they give us is conjectured power for which they can mitigate and temper as they see fit.

Why do men have power?
Why will they always be more powerful than women?
**Because men do not CARE as must as we do.**
They are disagreeable hunters for acquisition AND SPORT.
They TAKE things for fun, to increase their self worth, you to simply outdo other men,

and these attributes are not in line with the natural inclinations

of most women no matter how much she thinks she thinks like a man.

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And this is why we will always need men. We need men to do the heavy lifting.

We need men to carry the load because we don’t want to step our anyone to get to the better life.

We want everyone to have a fair shot, and its because of feelings that

we will never reach the heights of material success

that the average man is biologically designed to reach.

This is why hypergamy exists.

This is why men lead.

And this is why a woman beauty is her biggest asset,

because successful men do not need us for much more than what we mostly are.

A Beautiful,  Charming Damsel becomes a queen and lives a life of minimal drudgery.

And that’s really what women want. 

 

Men hurt people, berate people, some even conn people to climb the ladder of  success.

We damsels have been sold a lot of lies about our values.

We believe that we can do what men do.

We can work and toil and sweat like men and we will gain the power they enjoy.

But the important point, the MOST important point is that no amount of money a woman has will NEVER make her more attractive.

Her value is not in her independence, it’s  in her ability to be a beautiful woman in need of rescuing.

But you PLAY the damsel, you act like you are innocent and vulnerable to get him to do his manly thing which is to protect and take care of you.

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Will you have to play dumb?

Yes.

Will you be a man who you may not find attractive?

More than likely YES…

But your future will be one where you are not struggling or working your fingers to the bone with no time for personal self care.

If you are not into being dependent  on a man because you feel that your ambitions will win you freedom,

the stats show that you will be working for less money than your male counterparts.

The stats show that women are being hired more than men because they are cheap labor.

Nothing glamorous about typical work my dear.

Creative work however, is something totally different and satisfying on a level that enhanced mental and physical health….

 

So what’s the moral of this story?

Go to the gym.

Eat right. 

Set goals that make you look, feel and be your best.

Read more about seduction.

Have a curiosity for life.

Learn to be charming.

Learn how to communicate without being intimidating and overbearing.

Be a girl again…

And you will get a man who is willing to work hard for you…

Peace and Love…

 

Who Am I?

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               “Artist/Life Coach”
                 ~Salkis Re

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MGTOW and the INSANITY OF MEN THESE DAYS!!

 

 

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“MGTOW Will Let the Devil Take Your Pussy”
Written by Salkis Re

Men are saying that they don’t need women in their lives and that women offer nothing.
And men who think like this absolutely do not gain from being with a woman,

AND a woman gains nothing being with you. That is what I call a fair exchange.!

 

 

The truth is that men are hitting a “wall” with or without grey hairs, limps penises and pot bellies.

And the problem is that your complaints about women are inspired by YOUR “wall”.

It is not beneficial for women to attempt to mate with men who aren’t interested in that, so guys actually being honest is sooo f’ing refreshing.
Examine your future as well though, because you have an expiration date too..

 

The men are advising young men towards MGTOW(Men Going Their Own Way) seem to be complaining about what women ought to be,

YET I fail to see images of a emotional euphoria or any high level of happiness because they are NOT caring for women.

Give me some well defined examples of a man’s happiness that is totally devoid of women in it…

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Nikola Tesla is the only man I know of who did, and ended up falling in love with a pigeon later on in life…

 

So listen up, The stats also state that across the board, women make up 70 percent of University graduates.

Black and Latino women outnumber black men in education, for every 100 men in school, there are 200 women in school as well.

And guess who the employers will hire: women.

Why?

Because it’s cheaper to keep her than having to pay more for hiring men.

MGTOW

So very soon my phallus carrying friends, there will be nothing for women to GET from any man other than his penis,

and I going to get the pop corn ready to the mating game tournament into the greatest show on earth

when you guys are reduced to the proficiency of your penises and nothing more.

 

You men are be suckered in by propaganda and slowly, your relevance is being snatch from under your nose.

Fight for your ability to be self sufficient men!!

Public policy caters to women and you guys don’t have a MGTOW  programs that demand and services

and outreach for men in school and the going into the workplace.

What you’d rather do is complain about women wanting to be supported by men when that is the nature of things.
But your wish is coming like a freight train on fire. Be prepared to be happy, and irrelevant guys..
Peace

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
~Salkis Re

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I’ve Never Been in Love!?/???

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Selfish people are full of complaints and convoluted notions about love. They want what they NEVER give, yet call the world unfair.

If no one wants to love you, there is a reason for that. Search for why that is..
Then Start BEING the love you wish to receive ..

I really give a side eye to people who say this because it reflective of a disconnect with people a humanitarian level.

We are all here to help people you know.

 By working for them,

caring for them ,

teaching them,

healing them 

Protecting them

If no one can say they have benefited from your existence, then you are not using your life in way that invites reciprocity you think you are entitled too.

We want love, right? But most want to hide behind the emotions of other people to disguise how they feel about themselves.

More people abuse love than cherish it, then regret and try to repair the corrupted hearts they’ve created, and it just becomes this endless cycle of

HURT YOU/

REPAIR YOU/

HURT YOU/

BEG FOR FORGIVENESS/

HURT YOU etc….

Why are people so naturally fucked up in the first place?

Why is it that we respect what we LOSE rather than cherish what we have?

WHY?

 

Because this society is the THROW AWAY Society

We are constantly waiting for the next NEW thing to come out, even if the old phone works fine.

You wait in line and pay inflated prices for the NEW thing in order to feel like SOMEBODY.

We trade people in as well. The moment a flaw surfaces, we are outa there.

How self righteous of us indeed!

 

To maneuver as if parts of you do not have to be “tolerated” by another person,

to act like you are so perfect that you cannot allow anyone around you to slip: How Sway?

You want microwave food and microwave love.

No one wants to take time to cultivate a relationship anymore.

But those blazing hot relationships fizzle out just as fast though.

Sex will get boring no matter who you are screwing, especially if you are doing it too often.

There is no other solution for boredom and the contempt of familiarity than ABSTINENCE and DISCIPLINE.

You build together.

You grow love for each other based on time spent together learning and improving individually and as a unit.

If you have the same conversation that you had 5 years ago: you are dead.

If you haven’t tried anything new to challenge your abilities: you are dead.

If you have not done anything to support your physical health: you are dead.

Good Relationships are about MOVEMENT and PROGRESS…

This is Not about pole dancing, and other unnecessary acrobatic bedroom antics…

A person doesn’t want to kiss you because you’re a good kisser,

a person will want to kiss you are using your lips as an instrument to express emotions for them.

Love( which is PASSION) is not that hard to attain if you are to fulfill your needs BY  fulfilling the needs of others.

PERIOD!!

 

 

“You Are Good and BAD” Accept This!!!

 

 

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Do you know where virtue comes from?

It comes from your ability to be a villain, to be evil, to be treacherous and conniving,

to be a liar, to be a cut throat: YET you choose NOT TO BE.

Virtue is has nothing to do with being “incapable” of being unfair,

self absorbed, hurtful and selfish. Your ability to exercise “free will”

allows you to experience virtue because it comes from having the CHOICE to do good!!!

Watch out for people who claim to be “good” and selfless,

those people are often times dishonest and hide their intent to manipulate through appearing ‘charitable”.
If you are not ‘bad”, then that simply means that you are not assertive and lack the

confidence to say what you feel because you are worried about how you appear to others.

But again, your lack of assertiveness doesn’t mean you are incapable of making people uncomfortable,

of being a cheat, or wanting to better than those around you.

You want that too, you are just ashamed to display it because you are concerned about your self image.

Ohh but it’s there….
So accept it!!

“The Black Hat Society”

Salkis Re

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                   ~Salkis Re

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“Virtuous Women Get No Love”

 

Beautiful Black Women
Life Coach\Artist ~Salkis Re

 

There are many women that have morals and values,

who are ready and willing to be the subordinate for a strong man,

but often times, she does not come packaged in vanity.

The virtuous woman often times will come in a thrifty, plain looking package,

not the TROPHY woman men are often in pursuit of.

But she will cook for you,

have sex when and how you want it, take care of your children and do as you say.

BUT YOU WILL OVERLOOK HER***

You men do not want THAT woman. You say you do, but you don’t.

You want that women who does NOT want you, it’s called the “hunt” isn’t it?

So you men look for women who are better looking than you,

and those women are looking for men who are better than them.

And you spin around in your hamster wheel asking why did she do this,

or how could she do that.
Why?

Because she NEVER wanted you in the first place, that’s why.
So it’s wrong from the start,

but the nature of man is to care more about what they do NOT have over what they DO have…

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach/Artist/Medicine Woman
Salkis Re

Safe Sex??? There Is NO Such Thing!

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I do not understand the logic of “safe sex” using condoms. How can you enjoy sex with a man you think by chance he could be caring a disease. You make him wear a condom, but he can eat your vagina raw. You swallow his sweat and his saliva.

You suck his dick raw too, but you make sure you use a condom to practice “safe sex”???

Listen, there is NOTHING safe about sex, nothing AT ALL.
Sex is  a physical risk,

an emotional risk

and afinancial risk too.

If a man is putting his mouth on vagina raw, licking your asshole raw, and you have his scrotum in your mouth raw, then you are not “Safe Sex” anything!!

He’s got your cum juice, your urine, fecal matter and your sweat in his mouth and probably that of OTHER women too.

Unless your mouth and your vagina secrete BLEACH, you should be VERY fucking scared to feel the NEED to use a condom….

“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

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To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

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“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.

 

And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

It WILL NOT….
Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Black Hat Society
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Getting Rid of Your Fear and Self Doubt!

“Breaking that Spell”
Written by Salkis Re

You wait for an invitation to the celebration of your own life.

You are under a spell, a spell that makes you think you are not worthy,

that you are nothing in this world.

How do you break that spell?
By using the gift of Thoth/Thought.
To THINK before you act can break ANY and every manner of deception imposed upon you.
You are here for a reason. And the “reason” is what YOU, (by you actions and focus) decide it to be.

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Art by Salkis RE Painting “Love You Anyway”

“Think Things Through”= Reasoning
“Let Me Sleep on it before I decide” =Meditation
The breath of life is within you.
God/dess is within you.
Turn yourself inside out and learn to trust what you have THOUGHT through..

“Fear”
Written by Salkis Re

I wish you weren’t afraid of getting it wrong.

Because being afraid of being wrong, of failing, will not stop you getting things wrong.

When you allow fear to paralyze you, the chance that you will fail increases because

you’ve added improper timing created by your delay to expand your stumble into a actual fall.
Walk with fear and you will succeed.

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

To Be Like Her Means You Kill Yourself!

“What Woman Are You?”

Faith in yourself is built on a foundation of work not hope or prayer or wishing.
You have a mind and you know what you “should be doing”, yet you wrestle with yourself.

You allow other women to rate your your level of competence and relevance on a

“fact sheet” derived from their summations if how you look.
Women perpetuate division and the casting of other women, and we are fervently vicious in that regard.

So where is this fairness that nostalgically speak of, cause I’ve never seen it!
Worried about what the next woman has but you do nothing

outside the level of laziness to change your own condition, to improve yourself.

Everybody’s FUGAZI out here:Everybody!!

 

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“Thinking of You” Art by Salkis Re

Listen woman, yeah you!
What do you know about women? If you are a woman, you should quite a bit,

but if you are liar to yourself you might struggle in seeing under the veil of those around you.

I said before and I will say it again so that you can Direct your energy to pursuits that will pay you dividends.

You are unlike any other woman.

This is a fact.
And this means that you have to own that.
And accept what comes with that.

The fact that you are unlike other women means that there is no such thing as equality.

To execute Equality would mean that you and I were born at the same time,

have the same anatomical structure, emotional development, share the same IQ, biological functions and so on.
But we do not.
And it’s because you and I cannot physically, mentally nor emotionally

be identical that we should not spend one fucking moment fretting over “comparisons”.

I Wanted to Be So Many Things..

 

I am not academically astute. I struggled in school something awful. I thought I wanted to be a Nurse,

but I hated blood. I wanted to be a Lawyer but my self esteem was to low to accept that vision.

I wanted to be a Clinical Psychologist but the amount of schooling for that just disgusted me.

What was I looking for above all else? To be “somebody”.

I thought an academic route would give me the respect and the love that my esthetics could not afford me.
Everything I used to do was for THEM to accept me.

For black people to care about me, for white people to respect me, for men to Love me etc…

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“Love You Anyway” African American Art by Salkis Re

Chasing what I wasn’t designed to do or be took a massive chunk out of my life!

Don’t waste time.
Read what I’m about to say carefully, this is the KEY to success.

Figure out what you are capable of being and then figure out what you are willing to SACRIFICE to become that.

Please understand that you must choose your “SACRIFICE”

or should I say the “PRICE” you are willing to pay to be the woman you want to be.

Why?
Because everything COSTS.
And if you don’t choose your SUFFERING (yes I said suffering)

deliberately, you will end up sacrificing something

other than what’s needed to become the woman you aspire to be!
Be what you want to be, but being what you CAN be trumps ALL!

 

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So Who Am I?

Artist/Life Coach/ Medicine Woman
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re