“What Relationships Really Are”

Written by Salkis Re

The conclusion of relationships is this: you are going to be lied too.
You ARE being lied too.
And the man telling lies is doing it for his benefit.
The man telling you to “build” with him is doing it for his benefit.
The man pumping and dumping you without a condom is doing it for his benefit.
The man who isn’t ready to marry you is doing it for his benefit.

So what is he doing for YOUR benefit?
Absolutely NOTHING more than YOU require him to do…
Love has nothing to do with honesty.
It has nothing to do with commitment.
It has nothing to do with fidelity.

It has EVERYTHING to do with how incentivized a man is to produce for YOU,

and that is based on your own AMBITION and CLEVERNESS.

Nothing is fair and square in love.. This is why are played over and over and over again…
This is why you are a single mother.
This is why you can’t find a “good” man.

The TRUTH??
EVERYTHING YOU DO WITH A MAN should be for a purpose and a quantifiable benefit to you…
It’s YOU that drives a man to produce.
It is you that gives a man incentive to wash his testicles, shave and get dressed to go conquer the world..

If you have no goals, then YOUR man has no reason to work, and no one to work for.
HE is responsible for your safety and wellbeing, and there is no other reasons for him being in your bed or your heart…
PERIOD..
PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT!!!
“Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

“PUT ON YOUR BLACK HAT”
Life Coach| Artist| Author| Poet
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Beautiful African American Women
Life Coach, Salkis Re

So if any of this resonates with you, and you want MORE wisdom personalized to help you fight your insecurities and mediocre relationships, I am your girl.

Why me? Cause I’ve been the underdog for most of my life.

While a painful position it has been, it was also a gift, because people rarely were pretentious around me. People are only compelled to pretentiousness if they feel the need to “Impress” you.

They didn’t with me,  BUT this gave me the opportunity to see into people’s souls, to see the true nature of men AND women..

Don’t come to me if you want to feel good. I don’t do any of that. You come to me to solve your problems and most of the time it will not be pleasant, but it will FREE YOU!

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Love Really is A Game..

Dark Skin Girls in Art
“Sophia’s Second Thoughts”- Original work by Salkis Re

 

Love Games Played on Broken Hearts”
Written by Salkis Re

A broken heart comes as merely a consequence of living.

And it’s because we are “agreeable” as women, more understanding and forgiving, more accepting, and inclined to second, third, tenth chance givings that we inevitably feel the residue of regret for our understandings…

 

The solution is not to become intolerable, cold hearted spinsters who make love to donuts and pies in the middle of another night in an empty bed.

 

It is to understand that with your understanding, comes the inevitable display of his character that will surpass your understandings.

 

And of course we women cannot walk away blameless. In all good conscience, I couldn’t end this utterance without the admission that women enjoy the suffering men display from their passions. We are professional agitators of the attention and lust of men.

How else could men show love for us without the feeling of loss?
It is impossible to show love without fear.
I admittedly am a propagator for love’s cruelty.

Nonetheless, a woman’s game is the heart’s thermometer testing the temperature of the fever in her man, as she makes him “sick” every so often to encourage his “appreciation” to the surface…

So what is love?
Love is Beautiful Suffering for all parties involved….

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

Well, Im a black woman.

A black woman who low self worth, low self esteem and self doubt for much of my life. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, well at least anywhere I wanted to be. So I adopted an aggressive, over sensitive attitude to protect myself from being hurt by people. I tried to do things to face like skin bleaching and severe weight loss diets in hopes of transforming myself into a gorgeous woman entitled to respect and love.

I did so many things under the guise of self improvement and ended up damaging by physical body while creating more to hate about myself.

I’ve learned a lot along the way to self efficacy.  And it didn’t come from new make up techniques or having longer hair.

It really came from facing my demons and all the repetitive dialog I had in my head about my self worth.

In my awakening, a heightened level of creativity emerged.black artists

A new level of femininity and my own brand of sensuality came to the surface too.

I want to show you how to accept who you are, TOTALLY and open the flood gates to your own authentic, wild, unconventional representation of your best self. FLAWS AND ALL.

If that sounds like something that you want, please give me a shout by email: salkis@iloveherart.com

Or if you are ready to take the chance and take a plunge, book a session HERE

I Told The Doctor He’s Full of Shyte

“Relationship Talk With my Doctor Friend”
Black American Women and Propaganda

So I have been in a back and forth with my new Doctor guy friend who watches my vids on you tube about relationships.

He is in the mist if writing a self help to save black Relationships and he wanted my
opinion on some of the points he’s making for his book about the makings of a successful black relationship.

Now some of his complaints are that women of today are dishonest, golddiggers unwilling to cooperate and build with men. He says that the value of a women’s looks isn’t as high as she makes it out to be and that her beauty usually isn’t worth the sacrifice men make to obtain it.

He stated that women stack there money and look for the man’s money too, and that there no hardly any reciprocity with these high maintenance girls.he gave stats on the marriage rate decline for the Black house hold. He gave remedies for couples to keep the spice up by having date nights, and taking turns catering to each other.
The government​/penile system keep a black man down narrative came up as well. Rates of incarcerated males and single mother stats came up too.

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MY RESPONSE:
Do you want to know why the divorce rate is high in general? Because women are independent.

They make their own money, they are educated and they do not need men. All across the board.

But men are also afraid of being exploited and robbed of their finances right?

So they make sure that they get a woman who has her own so she won’t need all if his resources.
And woman who marry across instead of up will pull 50 percent of the weight of every expense.
But then you cheat on her right, cause that is what usually takes people to divorce court if it isn’t about money and most women,
no matter how they look, will experience some sort of infidelity in the life of the Marriage. That is real too.
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So the woman who married a (roommate) instead of a real man is betrayed on every level.
Not only is she paying her own to have sex with you and accumulate debt with a man not incentivized to handle the whole load,
all her superwoman efforts are thwarted and irrelevant because he is thinking about his gratification as all men do (eventually).

And women who deserve the effort a man makes have been sold the lie that they actually have “careers”

so they piss around and piddle off all the good, fertile, sexually attractive years of her life because she’s been told that men will always be there.
And that is a lie!!!!

Not only is it a small percentage of people who actually have careers, most women toil at work as if they are designed to love a 60-80 hour work week, and if they manage to climb up upper management and want to change the rules of this “boys game” to accommodate her inability to negotiate, or withstand the pressure of high performance environments. And at some point she wants a baby and just to slow down enough to do “womanly things” to care for herself.

The independent woman is a farse. Every woman is designed to sustain her life and livelihood through the efforts of men because she does not have the aggression, the conscientiousness, the disagreeableness, the competitive inclination to beat the next man for sport. Men who are wealthy or even just well off require those traits to survive and thrive in the workplace.

You say that men are in the process of accepting that less attractive women make more ideal mates? Never seen any to date openly express that. And the notion that less attractive women require less is not only an insult to her, but speaks to what men’s motivations will ALWAYS be: a woman’s looks.


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Art by Salkis Re Click the Painting

 

 


You are looking women to think like you, then you would be will other men instead of women. That is really what this is. No it is not fair for her to take your money and save hers: it’s smart for her to do so, especially if he requires that she work to be with him.


You mentioned that men would gladly take care of a woman not for access to her vagina but to “honor her like that) Really?
So you would just create an expense account to honor her for no other reason than your giving heart? How? Where? And if that is the case, why are you men so scared of being used for your money? A giving heart doesn’t give on a condition, he gives Because it feels good to give according to your definition.

So what constitutes a good woman? One who will give back to you what you have given her? Is that the bottom line?

Or does she simply have to crank up her compassion and understanding for man who is incapable of carrying the load because he has researched Cointepro, and stats, and history of systemic oppression of the Black Man to justify his defeat all while, making babies with her that he cannot afford to front. Because it’s not his fault he cannot be the man of the house because your imperial DATA refutes any notion I may have that you can actually be the man I want you to be or that you say you are???

Ok so when she uses her understanding for your “struggle” and has sex and procreates with you, that creates more financial burden, and these women are not married of course because he tells her it’s another form of systemic oppression designed solely to destroy men.

So he’s convinced her to have the bastard children even though he’s barely tryna “make it” .
And when she’s out there working, he is doing “busy work” too and filling his time up looking for more “simps” to supplement/work for him too.

Child support keeps men honest when the hand agreement goes left. And it will always go left because the woman is “compassionate” and understanding when you can’t pay or come up short. The court system creates a buffer around her UNDERSTANDING and his WILLINGNESS to uphold his promise.

So a woman’s looks hold “inflated” value and she should be able to supplement for this deficit be pulling her own weight, agreed. And now that means that nothing differentiates you from other men as well, and there is no practical reason that she should consolidate her eggs into your basket because she has to do for herself and now she can choose men based on other attributes like attractiveness and sexual proficiency in bed.

MOST men are NOT attractive, wealthy/financially stable, sexually satisfying in bed, and wants to get married in one Complete package. Most women will not get a man who is all four of those traits. But we understand where the value really is, so we are prepared to sacrifice and make do. All women married to well off men are making do in one way or another..

Look at how love is so quantifiable🤔🤗. Look at how we prattle on about facts and figures and percents and inflation. You don’t mind paying, you just don’t want to pay more than she’s actually worth, but you want to be with a girl worth paying, but you don’t actually want to have to pay her.

You want to break bread for women you feel are worth the effort and the rest of us are charity cases not worth the effort you really don’t want to put in for the woman who is worth it, far less anyone else.
How about that???
You desire what you don’t think is worth the effort you have to put in your get it.🤔

That is what’s going on with men now. And that is ok.
All of it is ok. These are things I address to women who watch my channel too. To be careful that they are not used for easy opportunity with little to no reciprocation.

In a perfect world, poor people would not mate and have children together, nor would ugly people, sick people, stupid people. But people are entitled to make that decision whether they are capable of handling the circumstances or not. That’s what we are talking about here. The right for men to choose whether or not they are qualified to choose WHAT THEY WANT!!

Men with no adequate ability to care for a woman and potential offspring, should not be having sex. Women who are capable of being mothers should not be having sex either. No conspiracy there, just an absolute fact.
But we are Emotional, and emotions bring complexity and a whole lot of debate because emotions TRUMP logic every day of the week and twice on Sunday.

This is what it is ladies.. The future looks grim for many of us, so prepare..
“The Black Hat Society”
~Salkis Re

 

You Can’t Think Like a Man!!

If we as women ask for this thing called **equality**, than the MEN who agree/give it to us still hold the power.
And what they give us is conjectured power for which they can mitigate and temper as they see fit.

Why do men have power?
Why will they always be more powerful than women?
**Because men do not CARE as must as we do.**
They are disagreeable hunters for acquisition AND SPORT.
They TAKE things for fun, to increase their self worth, you to simply outdo other men,

and these attributes are not in line with the natural inclinations

of most women no matter how much she thinks she thinks like a man.

hypergamy

 

And this is why we will always need men. We need men to do the heavy lifting.

We need men to carry the load because we don’t want to step our anyone to get to the better life.

We want everyone to have a fair shot, and its because of feelings that

we will never reach the heights of material success

that the average man is biologically designed to reach.

This is why hypergamy exists.

This is why men lead.

And this is why a woman beauty is her biggest asset,

because successful men do not need us for much more than what we mostly are.

A Beautiful,  Charming Damsel becomes a queen and lives a life of minimal drudgery.

And that’s really what women want. 

 

Men hurt people, berate people, some even conn people to climb the ladder of  success.

We damsels have been sold a lot of lies about our values.

We believe that we can do what men do.

We can work and toil and sweat like men and we will gain the power they enjoy.

But the important point, the MOST important point is that no amount of money a woman has will NEVER make her more attractive.

Her value is not in her independence, it’s  in her ability to be a beautiful woman in need of rescuing.

But you PLAY the damsel, you act like you are innocent and vulnerable to get him to do his manly thing which is to protect and take care of you.

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Will you have to play dumb?

Yes.

Will you be a man who you may not find attractive?

More than likely YES…

But your future will be one where you are not struggling or working your fingers to the bone with no time for personal self care.

If you are not into being dependent  on a man because you feel that your ambitions will win you freedom,

the stats show that you will be working for less money than your male counterparts.

The stats show that women are being hired more than men because they are cheap labor.

Nothing glamorous about typical work my dear.

Creative work however, is something totally different and satisfying on a level that enhanced mental and physical health….

 

So what’s the moral of this story?

Go to the gym.

Eat right. 

Set goals that make you look, feel and be your best.

Read more about seduction.

Have a curiosity for life.

Learn to be charming.

Learn how to communicate without being intimidating and overbearing.

Be a girl again…

And you will get a man who is willing to work hard for you…

Peace and Love…

 

Who Am I?

African American art
               “Artist/Life Coach”
                 ~Salkis Re

Do you need additional help to get started on your transformation goals?

Contact me by email at salkis@iloveherart.com 

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MGTOW and the INSANITY OF MEN THESE DAYS!!

 

 

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“MGTOW Will Let the Devil Take Your Pussy”
Written by Salkis Re

Men are saying that they don’t need women in their lives and that women offer nothing.
And men who think like this absolutely do not gain from being with a woman,

AND a woman gains nothing being with you. That is what I call a fair exchange.!

 

 

The truth is that men are hitting a “wall” with or without grey hairs, limps penises and pot bellies.

And the problem is that your complaints about women are inspired by YOUR “wall”.

It is not beneficial for women to attempt to mate with men who aren’t interested in that, so guys actually being honest is sooo f’ing refreshing.
Examine your future as well though, because you have an expiration date too..

 

The men are advising young men towards MGTOW(Men Going Their Own Way) seem to be complaining about what women ought to be,

YET I fail to see images of a emotional euphoria or any high level of happiness because they are NOT caring for women.

Give me some well defined examples of a man’s happiness that is totally devoid of women in it…

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Art ny Salkis Re

Nikola Tesla is the only man I know of who did, and ended up falling in love with a pigeon later on in life…

 

So listen up, The stats also state that across the board, women make up 70 percent of University graduates.

Black and Latino women outnumber black men in education, for every 100 men in school, there are 200 women in school as well.

And guess who the employers will hire: women.

Why?

Because it’s cheaper to keep her than having to pay more for hiring men.

MGTOW

So very soon my phallus carrying friends, there will be nothing for women to GET from any man other than his penis,

and I going to get the pop corn ready to the mating game tournament into the greatest show on earth

when you guys are reduced to the proficiency of your penises and nothing more.

 

You men are be suckered in by propaganda and slowly, your relevance is being snatch from under your nose.

Fight for your ability to be self sufficient men!!

Public policy caters to women and you guys don’t have a MGTOW  programs that demand and services

and outreach for men in school and the going into the workplace.

What you’d rather do is complain about women wanting to be supported by men when that is the nature of things.
But your wish is coming like a freight train on fire. Be prepared to be happy, and irrelevant guys..
Peace

“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
~Salkis Re

Women with locs

If you would like to speak with me for spiritual advisement as it pertains to love,

relationships, mentoring, wellness/weight management or anything troubling your heart,

You can contact me email: salkis@iloveherart.com or Book a session here 

 

Ok, sigh…

I have been getting so much comments from males about their perception of what black women choose for dating /Marriage etc. The repetitive talk is this “Black women ONLY want Attractive/Rich men”.
Where these men get these notions from, I have no idea but I’m going to clear it up today.

MOST women are with unattractive men. This could mean unattractive as in literally *ugly or unattractive as in SHE LOOKS BETTER THAN HE DOES. Most women are falling into one of either of those catergories.

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Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

And why is this? Because ALL men seek out women who are attractive whether they themselves posses handsomeness or not; this is how men are wired to choose.
And for women, a man’s looks generally comes in second place to the size of his wallet(security) so the emotional needs of men and women actually compliment each other.

Look around you… How many brothers do you come across in your day that look like a 10?? Even a 7??? There are NOT that many “really attractive”, and there are not too many above average men out here either.

And the gag is that men who make bank, who gather REAL BAGS are VERY “average” looking. But God bless the suit and tie because they can easily bring a man up 2-3 notches in the looks department.

Most women are or will be with men who are “odd looking” disporportion noses and lips, big ears with a little mouth, etc. But generally, his face doesn’t have perfect symmetry. But she loves him anyway.

Most women will not be with men who match her beauty, but that is ok cause it really works in our favor in end.

The moral is this: Men want women that look better than them, and women want men to earn more than them.

And everybody is looking for somebody who is better than themselves, so nobody hardly ever gets everything they want. We are all “SETTLING” at the end of the day…

AUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
“The Black Hat Society”
Life Coach
Salkis Re

To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

“To Look Good is to Feel Good?”

If you look better, will you feel better? Is the solution to your depression , imagined or REAL inadequacies, poor hygiene, excessive eating, or lack of intellect going to resolved with lipstick and concealer?

I had to look at the “reasons” behind the things I did to myself. I had go in a room where my thoughts lingered on the walls so that I could face them.

Going through many physical extremes to muster up some self worth. Sure I’d medita here and there. Sure I’d read inspirational stuff here and there, but I always gravitated back to Beauty Tips and “cheat sheets” to help project fake esteem.

African American Female Artist, Salkis Re captivates your eyes and your heart with her retro art pieces
“Holding onto Love”, Art by Salkis Re

I thought that learning to hold a Yoni egg in my vagina would make all my chakras align and magically turn my vagina into some type of Hoover Vacuum pussy that enchant and entrap a man I had interest in.
Did NOT happen.

I lost 65 pounds and got down to a size 4 . I was excited about being able to wear things that skinny chics wore, but did having a small waist catapult me into higher regard for myself? NO!

I bleached my face, became about 3shades lighter and thought “Awww, I finally a Brownin and will get a man to love me for sure. Didn’t Happen!

I put on straight hair weaves to look like a black Barbie Doll hoping that the straight hair would distract people from seeing me as a woman who’s skin was too dark.

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“Princess” Art by Salkis Re

No, the ILLUSION/Distraction did NOT work!

I had to go back, right back to the drawing the drawing board of my own mind to gather up all the Suppositions I had accumulated over many years about my place in this world.

Searching my thoughts, I concluded that I was living in a mental prison with bars made from assumptions I’d chosen to believe.
Everything about my “character” was falsehood:EVERYTHING.

 

And all my “worth” had been measured by which man/men found me appealing enough to fuck!

All the prepping and redesigning myself amounted to a big fat zero!!!!!
Vanity will make you a prisoner to your own body. I’m telling you from EXPERIENCE.
The cross you bear is related to your vanity and this competitive, relentless, demonizing need to be more “fuckable” than other women around you. And you will go to unsuccessful extremes for that position because you think your life will change.

It WILL NOT….
Not until you divorce yourself from your desperation to be what you are not biologically fit to be, what you are not emotionally designed to withstand, and what the laws of nature will NEVER require you to do.

Beautiful Black Women
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman”~Salkis Re

“Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman
Black Hat Society
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

Marrying Poor Men, Here’s the Deal!

“Marrying Poor Men”
Written by Salkis Re

“Poor men” CAN’T provide anything, so they shouldn’t get married but they do.

The only purpose marriage has is share and protect current and future assets.

Now the truth is that the EMOTION of Love does not need marriage for validation

because most people can express the feeling of love without a license from the court system.

Marriage is simply the business aspect that creates the Commitment/non-emotional gesture

of a willingness to shoulder financial loss should the partner die or wake up one morning and say they don’t want you no more.
Time is MONEY.
Time is an INVESTMENT in itself. Marriage is a contract to exchange wealth between two people who enjoy sex and spending time with each other.

The “What You Bring to the Table” part…

 

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Art in Progress, Art by Salkis RE

Let me be clear here, I’m not saying that a woman should just be a pretty dimwit and nothing more.
I’m saying that the bring to the table” question directed towards her should be focused on the

nurturing aspect that every woman is capable of bringing if she is incentivized to do so.

Most women that work “hard” DO NOT want to work hard, and they would prefer alpha men who can fully finance her wants and needs.

An occupation doesn’t give you an IDENTITY, it gives you a CHECK.

What you are able to do without needing to be paid for it is more of an expression of identity.

Women don’t want “Independence/HARD WORK”, we simply do not want to be ABUSED because we depend on MEN.

 

Education is still important because intelligence is required whether you are raising children or in a corporate job.

The last half of life is going to look real ugly for many of us.

We make decisions based on “current options” instead of the 5-10-20 years down the line that sure like the air you breath COMING.

So the “struggle love” who’s narrative always seems to find it’s way to our compassionate hearts

. We always got to be grateful for the opportunity to struggle with black men.

No other woman, not white, not Indian not none of them

have exclusive terminology to emotionally express this ideal like US.

That “Ride or Die” shyte!

The fact that you are willing to endure SUFFERING and infidelity,

and mistreatment of every sort makes you a suitable candidate for respect and honor and Marriage???
You better think about that one again…

“Black Hat Wisdom”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

Artist/Life Coach ~Salkis Re
ARTIST ~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Nappy-Headed “Spiritual” Hoes

Life Coach, Salkis Re

“Men Who Want Natural Sisters be like”
A man who has no aspirations for “worldly” things has nothing to lose. And a man who has nothing to lose ALSO has no incentive to commit nor sacrifice for HIMSELF or YOU.

Statistically they earn less, do not get married, have no formal education, and have fatherless children. A Relationship (while on the physical plane) IS a material act.

From your first date that you dress up for, to the gas you put in your car to meet her at the “park to talk”, to the penis that goes into the vagina, to the babies that are birthed as a result of sex. All material.

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Only men with little ambition ride the “Spirituality” wave because they assume that “natural sistahs” only want a tub of Shea butter from the street vendor and a meat-free gravy and brown rice on a styrofoam plate to make us happy.

Meanwhile, he is out here heckling BUT secretly lusting after those “material girls” for whom his pockets aren’t deep enough to get. It’s a game to exploit your compassion and steal your “understanding” and your “agreeableness” for “duty-free”, “effortless pussy” nothing more.

 

When the talk of Spirituality comes up in a conversation about relationships and this conversation is directed towards any “nappy-headed sista (and I this term with endearment) I gonna need for you to understand that a net is being cast out to your vagina FREE PUSSY.

And what is the truth here?

The truth is that you are MORE SPIRITUAL WITHOUT DIK than with it so his job is to bring MATERIAL things to your feet to PAY for the “blessings” he is hoping to receive from YOUUUUU.

~Salkis Re

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“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Love Attachments

“Holding On”
Written by Salkis Re
I love you so much, and this is why I keep holding onto you.
We’ve been through too much,
and you’ve done things I never thought you’d do.

But there is not much else that can actually hurt me
cause I’m not focused on your mistakes, only how I feel.

They told me to get rid of you
one million and a thousand times,
but they offer nothing to replace
the space you hold in my heart.

And I know it ain’t all you,
cause you were my emotional prisoner
and had all manner of reasons to run.
But know this baby, that my love is reformed.

And I realize that to love you,
I can’t be afraid to let you go.
All I can do now is simply is care,
and hope that my love is strong enough
to reignite the love we once shared.

“Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Website: www.ilovherart.com

 

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“Holding On” Art by Salkis Re

 

Sometimes, we have to take the blame for running people we love away from us.

Sometimes the love is just overbearing and people feel imprisoned by your excessive compulsion to express one’s feelings.

Saying “I love You” everyday isn’t as powerful as saying it when you TRULY feel it.

When you hold on too tight, people start to build resentment

and disregard for what you are desperately trying to convey.

Sometimes saying nothing is all you need to create a longing…

Sometime giving someone their space is the elixir for appreciation.

And then….

When they need to be held, hold them tight. Rock him in your arms so close that you leave your scent on him.

But allow him to WANT you.

This is key to love…

The KEY is to LET GO!!!

 

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Pain Comes With Love

 

 

“What is A GOOD Relationship?”
Written by Salkis Re

The dark side exists in us all. We try as best we can to suppress our disagreeable nature,

but the moment there is cause for resentment or anger,

it will come gushing out like a ticklish sneeze.

So how do we manage?

By making a conscientious effort not to add on to our dysfunction by compounding on existing horrific decisions.

WE make amends simply by “thinking” before we do a thing.

And pray that there is enough goodness within us for someone to love.

This is why commitment is so important; It makes it more different for a lover to run when they come face to face with your demons,

and vice versa, of course.

Abstract Portrait Painting
Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re

Relationships are good when two people are interested in the well being of each other.

When each of you feel safe enough to challenge the other partner to improve.

But if you stay together long enough, you WILL WEAR hats like: Priest, Psychiatrist, Doctor, Friend, Lover, Punching Bag, Enemy and so on..

The love of your life WILLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL  lie to you.

He will cheat on emotionally and/or sexually.

He will wish he had never met you. And he’ll develop persistent melancholy when you’re not around..

This is what relationships are…..
Except it so you can weather the storm.

Honor your commitment because chances are extremely favorable that you will simply

meet yourself and what you’re running from in another person…

“Artist/Life Coach”
~Salkis Re

 

 

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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They Said You’re Ugly, And They Are Right!!!!

They Are Right About how you look!

When you are told over and over again that you are unattractive,
I want you to consider that “they”
might have just cause for saying it.
 
Now before you berate me or try simulate
“outrage” to go along with your other displaced emotions,
I would like for you to simply consider
what you are “projecting”, moreso than what you “look” like.

Approval Addiction Makes You Unattractive!

Your beauty, or “lack there of”, comes from
the showcasing of your anxiety and need for approval.
AND when you, BLACK girl, “conform” in any way,
you WILL display an improper fit and show
the world that you own no identity outside
of what you’ve been given.

You Wear your Insecurities On Your Sleeve

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                   Black Girl Magic by Salkis Re
 
And you sojourn while thinking you are
making progress, but you are stuck.
But you stay committed to the clownish makeup
while wearing clothes that will not compliment your form
with hairstyles that resemble assembly line wigs
at the China Man’s beauty supply store.
All of this will affect you swift “invisibility” to men.

Conformity KILLS Beauty

And the irony is that in your attempt to be
what Society considers beautiful, you become MORE unattractive,
BECAUSE you’ve positioned yourself
as a substandard DUPLICATE of what you CANNOT be,
a walking, talking, mannequin that represents
a type of woman whom you’ve decided is “better” that yourself.
 
And you think these facts can be “hidden” around glamor.
You can only suppress yourself emotions for so long: they will eventually burst forth to tell the truth of all you hide.
 

Beauty is NOT anxiety driven, it’s Peace based.

It is the personalization of what you were born
to represent in an unapologetically creative way.
 
And that peace within you will start to relax your furrowed lines on your face.
And that peace will cause your skin to glow.
And that peace will make your voice sound soothing to hear.
And that peace gives room for your individuality to be expressed.
And that peace makes grace hover over you.
And that peace makes you a moving meditation.
And that peace makes you enjoy caring for yourself.
And that peace will attraction men to you.
And on and on and on again… ~Salkis Re
 

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

You Deserve the Best From Men!!

“Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

 

Listen, when it comes to relationships with men, this thing is really simple.

Relationships, whether it’s for romantic or for business purposes,

the RESULT should  ADVANCE you…

 

There is no reason to commit yourself to a man who does not provide an opportunity

to improve and enhance your physical experience. ~Salkis Re

 

This thing is not about empty promises.

And in my opinion, this notion that you have to have this thing called

LOVE to accompany the agreement to commit to someone,

more often than not, it causes blurred lines, confusion and,

misinterpretations of material and emotional unfairness.

 

What is the purpose of having a MAN?

Don’t answer so quick.

I want you think about this deeply.

I want you to consider the value that love has as a sentiment.

And value love has as an ACTION.

Because a great many women that I work with, hold equal merit for love as a statement and love as an action.

 

Protect, and Provide…

That should be the foundation of a relationship with any man….

Forget the fucking lists.

Forget all this complicated variables.

Forget what your FEELINGS tell you because they lie too!

Simplify your life WOMAN.

Don’t allow THEM to confuse you into paralysis and passivity  because you will end up giving in

and giving up without proper negotiation for a more secure standing.

Nothing is free in life, Not even LOVE!

 

African American art

So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Don’t Quit!!

“Master Your Craft!
Written by Salkis Re

How you gonna quit when you’ve already started? 
Don’t stop till use your body 
moves the finish line tape aparted!

You will only hate yourself if you stop,
and you will sabotage the rest of your life 
if you don’t ride this thing till your efforts make it pop.

What else will you do other than this?
You gonna go back to dreaming
like your other loser friends?

There’s more grind left for you to do 
and it’s not over until you have
to mastered what you like to call YOU.

So you tryna quit the game?

To do what exactly?

Oh it’s hard?

AND????

Anything you worked for, had a bit of challenge

that came with it.

And guess what you did?

You trotted on anyway, wiped the

blood off your knuckles ,and kept the pace until

your chest broke that finish line tape!

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The Art Process and all my Mistakes.. Salkis Re

You have to ride your purpose until the wheels fall off

so that by the end of your time on this earth, your soul has no reason to

wrestle with the anguish of unfinished business.

Empty yourself! Don’t hold back anything.

Don’t be afraid of anyone!!

You will fall, so laugh when you fall.

You will be unsure, so chuckle at your confusion.

You will feel pain, so eat your pain and keep going.

Stop looking back!!!

There is nothing BACK THERE that can help you.

because the promise land is in your windshield not your rear view mirror.

Come on girl!! GET UP!!

 “Here I Am” Art by Salkis Re

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So Who Am I?

“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Get My Artwork and Coaching Services here: www.iloveherart.com

Poem: “You’re Not a Real Angel”

“You’re Not a Real Angel”
Written by Salkis Re

 

 

“This World is Yours” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

When they call you an angel,
you choose not to receive it,
You think angels don’t look like yourself,
and you feel you ought to look as them to believe it.

Their wings are pretty and all uniformed and white,
while you sit here in bursts of all this color.
And somehow you view your rainbows
as an embarrassment to the others.

White wings are just more classy,
is what your mind makes you say.
And all your colors are just too festive
to show the earthlings how to seriously pray…

But when God made you my angel,
he was more adventurous and brave.
And he added his sharpened skill onto you
and made what he once couldn’t create.

So open up your wings, flap them like thunder
and give the wind something to do.
And show the world that angels come in all colors
and that the best of them do look like you…

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
PAINTING:”This World is Yours”
Available Here: https://www.iloveherart.com/signature…/the-world-in-my-hands

This poem I wrote today is about ownership and respect for the difference that make you who you are.

We are always looking at the grass over there thinking that its better than the patch of grass we are standing on.

Decide that you will take ownership of what makes you YOU.

We do not have to be the same.

I do not have to look the same.

And peace won’t come to you if you were to suddenly become

somebody else because inner peace only comes from acceptance of self.

When We Were Kings

African American Art
Artist/Life Coach

I just want to say this. Advertising, media in general really, has been used as a weapon against the minds of the unassuming public.

There is nothing created in the media that doesn’t have an alternate purpose underneath what they are selling.

Do the beer commercials sell beer?

No!

They sell Friendship, and Leisure.

Do car companies sell cars?

No!

H&M Racist Advertisement

They sell status and the opportunity to bang beautiful women.

All media does it feed us messages about what are

supposed to feel and the things we are supposed to want.

Take it that seriously…

There is no bigger magician than the media.

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“When We Were Kings” Art by Salkis Re

 

So here is my interpretation of  H&M’s “oversight”.

This is a poem I wrote explaining the piece.

 

 

 

“When We Were Kings”
Written by Salkis Re

My mother said that if we went there,
we would make a lot of money.
She said I shouldn’t be upset
cause we’ll get paid
if she allows them to call me a Monkey.
I wasn’t sure,
but what could I do?
Since mom insisted the shirt was just fine.
So I sucked in my pride
and did what they said
so that I could finish in time.
But I was a little down, and to cheer me up,
my mother took me for ice cream.
And when we got home,
she talked on the phone
about how she’s so proud of me.
But I was a little hurt
that I had to wear that shirt,
when the white boy was
the “Expert” on the scene.
I went and watched T.V.
to distract myself
from of all my unsettling gnaws.
And then I saw him, right there on T.V, ,
I was excited by how confident he was.
And everywhere he went
Ali had them compelled to chant
about how great of a man he actually was.
He talked to the kids
that looked just like me
and told them how they could be so much more.
And this was right on time
cause I need the hear
that I could be more than how they made me feel
and that black boys from everywhere should know
that we are sons that come from KINGS!

“Mistress of Words”
~ Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: When We Were Kings”

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The Right to be Right

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A lot of time is wasted contemplating why people could bring you unfair and disadvantages with their actions.

No energy should be spent on why any man would take advantage of you because your answer is of no consequence.

The question to ask is “HOW” person is able to do that to you.

Nobody has to do things the way you do because you do what you do based on your own:

trauma,

guilt,

shame etc..

You are as good as you need to be too.
Facts!!

Now let’s move on..

 

🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼
“Black Hat Society ”

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Salkis Re

~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

Blow Your Whistle!

Abstract Portrait
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How many of you play yourselves small everyday? Worried about appeasing people’s fragile egos at the expense of your own heart and mind… Nobody is worth you diminishing yourself for, and you need to understand that your momentary display of humility won’t cure any of their self inflicted angst either.

Whatever they feel is what they have been feeling long before the knowledge of your existence. This means that you MUST aggrandize and affirm your self, and release the emotional shackles of wanting anyone’s stamp of approval to do so.

Today’s VIDEO is all about this and the step you need to take right now to fix this disease of humility once and for all.

Watch Here

Push Through!

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“Isabella Doesn’t Want to Leave” Art by Salkis Re

The weekend is almost here. Another week gone with tasks incomplete and more to hope to accomplish than anything actually done.

It’s easy not to try, but its cost will steal currency throughout your entire life. Not trying means that nobody gets hurt, no one suffers disappoint or the shame that comes from failing, but what also doesn’t happen is that you never get to experience what you could have become. You then live out your days in the shadow of quiet agony over what might have been.

Not trying is a the purchase of certain failure, it’s a sort death really, which is what surpression gifts you. Life is hard but it’s exciting too, and it becomes quite the game that it really is when you approach it as no big deal.

You lose, so what.

You gain, so what.

You keep moving at all costs, testing and stretching your abilities. This is ALL that life is about: trial and error.

Get out of your own way and fly my darling. Fall on your face just like a child first learning to walk. Don’t be ashamed to learn from your lessons, for this is how wisdom is obtained.

In other words, grow up AND become a child again…

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“Mistress of Words”

Pretty Dark Skin Women
Self Esteem Coach
-Salkis Re

“Spiritual Healer”

“Life Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

Website:

www.iloveherart.com