Black Girls Want to Rock Too!

If you wait on people to accept who and what you are, you’ll be waiting a life time to get it.

And I you manage to get it, you’ll son realize it wasn’t worth the wait to begin with.

 

I have always made it a point extend an olive branch to other women of all shapes and sizes and colors

so that I wouldn’t be classified as bitter or insecure over other women.

 

But the conclusion I’ve reached is that it doesn’t matter if you say hello first,

if you give first,

if you offer friendship or understanding first, all people see is COLOR.

“La Petite Moor”

 

As A black woman, that’s all I’ve been all my life: BLACK 

My talents, my wisdom or anything else I had of value always took a back seat to how I looked.

 

Even in the art world, there are private discussions about what “type” of work sells and WHO can sell it,

and I was advised on several occasions not to do the “Black Girl” thing cause it’s not what black people want to see.

Some hard conclusion arose though.

African Art
“La Negra”

And it wasn’t that black girls don’t sell, its that black girls created by black girls don’t move as fast.

I’ve seen white artists paint black girls, pitch black girls in folk art style on old doors and other eclectic stuff,

some of which can be misconstrued as “Coonery” and BLACK PEOPLE bought their art.

 

I’ve seen white women do paintings exclusively of black women who decide to keep themselves inconspicuous

and BLACK PEOPLE BUY THEIR WORK too!

 

And here I am, and actual black woman

And here I am, and actual black woman concerned about the politics of painting dark skin women because

I didn’t want to be misconstrued as a “hater”….

Imagine that?

Telling my story and worried about acceptance when everybody else can enjoy

( without scrutiny) what they prefer to paint for whatever reason they choose to paint it.

“I Don’t Know”

Everybody Can DO What They Want to Do Except Me??

Everyone else gets to enjoy the novelty of it all, but I need sensible reasons for why I do what I do?

No More…

 

It’s a New Day..

And Im here to tell OUR STORY through the faces of Dark skin women.

I won’t say that I’ll never paint another complexion again because I will,

but the FOCUS now is on Black Girl Magic.

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Are You Clowning Yourself?

African Art by Salkis Re; Clowns
Salkis Re, Artist, Author, Poet

Are You A Clown?

I was one for most of my life. Trying hard to make people laugh and smile and like me.

Masking how I truly felt for fear of experiencing rejection and loneliness.

The more I tried, the more invisible I felt as I never got what I wanted.

Some of us are used for the entertainment of others who never seem to feel an inclination to reciprocate the generosity and care they’ve received.

I came to the conclusion that being kind wasn’t the way to get love. I figured out that being selfless wasn’t the way to want he hearts of others..

What would give me a quality experience when interacting with other souls is to LOVE MYSELF.

Joaquin Phoenix

Are you playing the Clown in real life?

Are you doing things for laughs and cheers at the expense of your ideals and self esteem?

Are you afraid to ask for what you need from those whom you give too?

Then you are playing a clown, and it’s time to stop entertaining people at the cost of your identity.

 

Energy is EVERYTHING..

The respect you want to enjoy requires ENERGY.

The love you want to experience requires energy.

What signal are you sending out into the world?

What are you eating to support your cells and organs?

What are you thinking in order to change the way your genes express themselves?

Joker Abstract Art , African Art, Cowns, Scary Clown, Sad Clown
“Joker” Original Art by Salkis Re

Feeling good about who you are requires new thought patterns and a new environment to support a new thought.

You ever rearrange the furniture in your bedroom and feel like its a brand new room? That the same concept needed to change the results you get in your life. Rearrange your thoughts by manipulating your environment.

The game of life and abundance and wellness is about about changing your perception of your reality.

feel love permeate through your body. When you go out the door, breathe deeply and think positively about yourself.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Salkis Re is an artist, author, poet, relationship expert, CowGirl, Life Coach and the founder of The Ugly Girl’s Club

When she is slapping paint on a canvas, she’s helping women across the globe heal emotionally from toxic relationships and societal conditioning.. Visit her art site too iLoveHerArt.com

Conjure Women, Witches Hold Imagination…

Black Women Witches
Salkis Re- Conjuring Up The Heavens

 

So what if everything we have seen, heard, read or know is misinformation?

What if we are living in a dream state and our dreams are actually reality..

Well if my dreams were true I’d be able to fly in helicopters, fight off lions with my bare hands and have sex with Angels… haha!

I think dreams are “potentials”…

I think they are excess thoughts that become junk because we do nothing with them; we don’t act upon them, so they have to release themselves from our minds to unburden us with thoughts that we cannot produce anything with..

Goddess art
“The Conjurer” Art by Salkis Re

To create your life, the life you want, takes a heavy dose of imagination and creativity.. It requires that you feels things you have never get in your hands, to know things you have not experienced first hand..

It requires a vivid imagination and a high tolerance for pain..

You’ve got to risk it all for what you want. You’ve got to be SO O.K. with putting yourself on the line, with looking like you don’t know what you are doing, with people not supporting you etc…

You want power.

I know I do.

And it was hard for me to admit that because it seemed like it had an immoral stain on it. Only evil people are powerful, right? But who told us that?

Who told us that a working man who barely gets to see his wife and kids is doing a more noble act than a man who would rather live on the street than be a slave for another man?

Abstract portrait painting
“This World Is Yours” Art by Salkis Re

Morality is marketed to us, just like lipstick and StarBucks coffee…

It’s all made up..

So now that you know this, and hopefully on a road to accepting it, which fears will you start to let go of? What doubts are you going to scratch off your little list of “Can’t Do’s” and “Never Gonna Happen”

 

 

 

Black women with thick locs

Who AM I?

I am an Ugly Girl who paints beautiful girls while helping women feel better about themselves

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How Not to Influence People

You Can’t Get to Freedom by thinking that Life is Journey***Only poor, undisciplined, insecure people talk that nonsense about a journey!

Why You Can’t Get a Man: And It’s Not Because of How You Look!

You don’t have love and you think it’s because you are an unattractive black woman with a:

dark skin,

big nose,

overweight,

uneducated,

no curves etc…
It’s not because of ANY of those reasons!!
Yes.

People you who are apart of this society will come to you with their “programmed” perceptions of your worth.

So WHAT!!!

Who can use you without your participation?
Who can lie to without your belief in them?
Who can string you along without your patience?

black women dating issues

You don’t get what you want because you let “them” beat the PASSION out of you!
You don’t get what you want because you are “The Walking Dead”.
Soulless.
An Inanimate mass of flesh waiting for “them” to “Turn You On”!


This why YOU don’t have what you want.
Being “Nice” or “Good” doesn’t translate into PASSION.
And you have to ask yourself this: What am I willing to lose to show who I truly am?

Can you bear the criticism?
Can you stomach looking like you are crazy?
Can you come to terms with your unconventional looks and the skin suit you wear?

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If you are unattractive AND boring, there is no hope for you. Just jump off the next bridge to put yourself out of your own misery!


But if you don’t want to end it all: THEN RISK IT ALL.
Put yourself on blast!
Speak what’s on your mind!
Do what your God has assigned for you.
And let the chips fall where they got damn may!!
.
“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

Beautiful Black Women in relationships

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

 

If you enjoy these emails packed with nuggets of wisdom,

please do share them, and leave a comment to let me know

how you feel about what I’ve said..

“Life Coach”

“Artist”

“Author”

“Poet”
~Salkis Re

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Go to The Gym!

Self care supports your desires.

Self care makes you feel good about who you are.

Self care is a soup of oily habits that can also seal your fate!

But I am not talking about soaking in a bubble

bath or eating some calorically dense powdered donut.

Abstract art
‘Skylar” Original Art by Salkis Re Click Here to buy

I am talking doing what I’m about to do which is head to the gym at 8 o’clock at night

to get my workout out in when I’d rather being under the covers scratching my are!

I am talking about eating the piece of fruit and some water before bed instead of greasy fries.

I’m talking about the extra hours of study or staying up late to finish a project that with get you big money.

I am talking about talking your vitamins and cutting down on your salt intake (which is soooo hard for me).

Self care is about doing what you don’t want to do in order to get the results you Do want to get.

Are you about THAT life?

GOOD.

Now Let’s Go to the gym! Wink!

“Ugly Girl Ambassador”
Founder of “The Ugly Girl’s Club”
~Salkis Re

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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You Are Leaving Him Because You Are Bored???

As I coach women lately, I’m finding that many

of you are considering ending stable

relationships because the man is “boring”

and seems to be unable to stimulate you emotionally.

 

He pays the bills

He pays the bills, you don’t have to wonder where food and shelter will come from.

You get what ever you wants BUT you’re bored..

 

Exciting Men Will LEAVE!

These men with “community deicks” bring a lot of excitement.

They are undisciplined, unpredictable, care-free and purpose driven for fun,

and can offer that feeling of being “wanted” that you prize so much.

 

Intellectual Men Are Manipulators

Those “Intellectual” prophets can tell you something you never heard before,

wow you with recitations of cosmic theory and speculations

of our origins of man while he ‘experiences you instead of claiming you’: just like Nipsy did to Lauren….

On SALE NOW ” “DO You Still Love Me?”

STOP BEING A FOOL!

Don’t let your emotions make a fool out of you.

A regimented man can fiancé your need for “stimulation”

He can provide the resources you need to get out

of your dissatisfaction with what you are.

BE the stimulator.
Be the catalyst.
Be the fantasy.
Be the PURPOSE for your own life and stop being a brat

for attention and go find something constructive to do…

Thick LocsWhy Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconformist, AND an introvert who

had to bind her insecurities and throw that b#tch in the closet so

I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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The One Way to a Healthy Lifestyle

African American Art
“DO I Have Too?”

 

 

Doing what you don’t want to do is usually the best thing that you should do..

This is how life goes.

All the pleasurable things cause tummy aches, unnecessary loses, lies, betrayal and hardships…

I have been talking about simplification for weeks now,

and I guess this will be the theme for the duration.

It is so important that you discipline yourself.

Discipline is such a cuss word these days,

for we see how living in excess seems to be more rewarding than withholding.

But the future will come for all of us.

And what we do today will make the futures days gentle and relaxed or chaotic and regretful…

 

So to be healthy in mind, body and soul… Eat your veggies…..

 

 

Why Should You Heed My Advice?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Pretty Girls Want to Join the Ugly Girls Club

Hey  There UGLY GIRL!”
Transit time 6:19 a.m. Feb.8.2019

Pull of a chair, let me have a chat with you for a moment!
You wanna know what funny Ugly Girl?

Now that I’m focusing all of my energy on YOU,

women who are NOT Ugly, who are actually attractive, pretty,

beautiful, are coming to me asking to be apart of this coalition.
They are saying that “ugly” isn’t ONLY about looks Salkis,

it’s about how you FEEL inside. Attractive women are now admitting

to feeling low self esteem, to being manipulated and used just like US.

Dark skin women

 

 

But to qualify, they are coming with vague terms like
“I have an “ugly SOUL”: can I join?
Or ” I have an “ugly VIBE”: can I join?” 
Or “I have an “ugly HEART”, can I join?
Or “I have an “ugly ATTITUDE”, can I join?
And when I ask what they mean by it,

 

 their answers reveal what they PRETEND they don’t experience!!

So now I’m stepping back to see what I can use as a teaching lesson for you UGLY GIRL.
I told you Ugly Girls, you dark skin women in particular,

that there was no such thing as “light skin privilege” and that this term used

to describe feeling rather than a FACT because it created to create division and

an emotional assumption that a certain types of women are:

immune to being abused,

low self esteem,

depression,

poor mental and physical health,

being a baby mama,

being financially unstable etc..

 

I told you that any black woman that tells you that

she enjoys light skin privilege is LYING TO YOU,
and you got angry with me and pointed fingers at me while

accusing me of being “soft” on the issue and delusional at best..

 

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

 

Dark skin women beautiful
Self Love Coach, Salkis Re

And I’m thinking to myself, how do you women do not see the “game” here?

But how could you when you’ve been boxed into an emotional lens your entire life.

I tell you that I talk to these women,

I coach these women, they come to me in confidence and tell me their struggles,

and the consensus that I’ve concluded is that there is

NO PRIVILEGE that they enjoy outside of the “privilege”

of being offered more opportunities to be sexually exploited.

It’s funny though that now that I want to create a space for UNATTRACTIVE women,

women who aren’t unattractive want to redefine the

term by admitting their failings in life so that they can be included..

I’m all over social media spreading this message!

 

 

This is all that I talk about on all my social media platforms.

The fallacy of attractiveness being the holy grail of a woman’s life must be debunked,

yet I do know first hand that unattractive women are more times than not,

are not given a chance to reveal their true value because of

prejudice and this assumed worthlessness based on how we look…

 

So I’m going to focus THAT, on THEM, on US, because

WE need tools and support to navigate through this thing called life..

“The Ugly Girls Club”
Founder, Salkis Re
Art behind me: by Salkis Re

 

 
beautiful black women with locs

Why should you listen to me?

Because I’m CRAZY, a nonconfirmist, AND an introvert who had to bind her insecurities and throw that bitch in the closet so I could pound the pavement and be found by good women like you!

“Your Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re

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Beauty for Black Women


African Art

So I’ve been hammering at the point of arresting the worry

and self doubt you may harbor over how you look.

I have had to battle with my self esteem for most of my life.

I did things to try to fit on, to try to e liked, try to be LOVED..

And there was nothing that is DID that actually helped me experience self love.

Nothing aesthetically I mean…

I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

So at some point I had to find a way to compensate for my visual shortcomings.

I became a hair stylist and worked hard until I had my own salon,

I made women beautiful for a living.

And I wanted to make women beautiful for a living because I thought

that if I surrounded myself with beautiful women,

then somehow their beauty would rub off on me..

Nothing rubbed off. Not one damn smear!

But what happened was that I began to be an ear for the stories of my clients. I began to me the counselor and the beauty consultant and the priest and the mother a lot of these women needed.

It opened my eyes to things, to notions I had about certain “types’ of women.

I came to a conclusion that none of us have it necessarily ‘better” than others of us.

Same pain different face.

Same worry, pretty face.

Same rejection, nice body..

What an eye opener is was when I started becoming more interested in their stories than putting conditioner in their hair..

I was hooked!

I had another calling I didn’t realize was inside of my heart.

Something that had nothing to do with superficial pretty and more to

do with healing the heart and stabilizing the emotions and the ramblings of the mind.

Maybe you need someone to talk too..

Maybe you haven’t had the best relationship with your mother and you desperately need some wisdom and help in making decisions in your life..

This is why I paint, why I write, why I consult and console women..

I need your attention.

I need for you to understand the messages I convey.

because I truly believe, with all my heart,

that what I give in the way of advice and creativity can

change your perspective of your value, your purpose, your desires..

“Tune In”
Written by Salkis Re
Nobody has a problem rating others
until it is time to rate themselves.
Beauty then becomes speculative
as they disregard
what their own mirror tells.
All of a sudden
when the tables turn on you
you want kindness and understanding,
but asked to rate anybody else
you don’t see your words as reprimanding.
So I choose not to play
with your head games
and just walk a path of my own.
And Never again
will I look to others
to confirm what I’ve always known.
This road will be a lonely one
as I abandon all those fake friends,
and all these family members
who make assume I could
be vulnerable with them.
I will put flowers in my hair
every day,
and let sun’s rays be my biggest fan.
And finally sit down
surrounded by nature
no longer needing
them to love me as I am.

Mistress of Words
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
Painting: “Tune In”

African Art
“Tune In” Art by Salkis RE

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