You Will Pick The Wrong Man Again!

“You Will Pick The Wrong Person Again, So Rela
Written by Salkis Re

You pick partners not based on what you want, but what you are familiar with! You have your list of demands and characteristics that a man must have. And you are proud of this well thought out list because it represents a sane mind, a woman who exercises conscientiousness and reasonability.

But your list most likely contains what you’ve been TOLD to look for, NOT what you emotions predisposed you too.
You know how many women actually find the guy that fits all the characteristics on her list, but then she has lunch with her girlfriends and expresses how “boring” he is??

He’s perfect! He has everything, but he bores you.

Why?
Because he is unable to give you the “suffering” that YOU have come to associate with the feeling of REAL love.

Your Mother gives you a template for love, and if was irate and loud and intimidating, you will subconsciously seek men who will criticize and berate you.
If you had a Father whom you observed to be weak and emotionally fragile, you will find a partner who is weak and needs constant reassurance which you WILL find frustrating, BUT it provides a LOVE you know!!🤔

If a partner’s personality is NOT familiar with how you interpret love, you are going to consider him a miss-match.

The WRONG guy is the guy you go for because he is represents what REAL love is to you.
It is near impossible to rewire your templates for love, but you can “reframe” how you react and respond to the person representing your love template.

You like bullies? Then don’t let the bully be a bully to YOU.
You like loud, patronizing men?
Do NOT let him define YOU with his insults
And so on..

Women with Locs
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman ~Salkis Re

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Abstract Portrait Painting by Salkis Re
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Love isn’t what you think it is

Young women, I implore you to consider what you’ve already been through in order to absorb what I’m about to say.

I ask you to examine your past or even current relationship to find the congruency between your experience and my advice.

The love you want is called “passion”. It is a feeling of intense desire and longing for another person.

Passion itself is brought on by the building up of anxiety/suffering over what you do not posses.

Before you engage in sex with a man, he LOVES you.

By loves definition here, I mean that he has PASSION=love in his heart for you because he wants/desires to have your body.

So what will he do to quell and satisfy his desire for you?

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.

 

He will try to make you LOVE/DESIRE him too.
The constant sweet nothings in your ear, the display of concern( calling after work or when you’ve arrived back home from a date).

If he is really attracted to you, you will get little gifts, nice dinners, all of which are INVESTMENTS towards swift SALE of your vagina.

The dates are to make you excited, to make you want him even more because of the joyous experiences he’s providing you with.

And the hours of cell phone talk and his attentiveness and interest in

what you have to say leaves you with the impression that guys have this thing you call a “Connection”.

And though you are a little unsure. Though you suspect it might be too soon to open your legs,

you let your emotions override your mental reasoning.

Why?

Oh because you don’t trust your own mind;

you think you are over thinking this and that you’re gonna miss an opportunity to be with a great man…

And then you open your thighs to him because he wined and dined you,

and you talked with him for hours, and enticing yet “Deferred” promises to you for month or more,

so you think he is THE ONE.
And the love making was fantastic, or average, or not so good at all.

But it doesn’t matter if it was good or not to you because you are “open” now.

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

 

You are emotionally vulnerable and his DESIRE is now satisfied.

His thirst is quenched, and HIS anxiety over you has turned back into self confidence.

The job is complete; the eagle has landed; the ejaculation has happened and now he can relax again.

The first thing you will notice is that your phone conversations shorten,

or that when you do talk, he seems distracted and not as enthralled with your conversation.

Then calls become less frequent because he is suddenly too “busy” to make time to talk.

Dates begin to cancel or begin to cheapen in quality.

The connection you swore you felt in the beginning,

now starts to dwindle down to begging for his time.

Why is this? Because after sex, women begin to smother,

cling, and display insecurity, couple this with having already tasted

your “sauce” and he has absolutely no incentive to DESIRE/LOVE you anymore.

So what do you do to avoid this?

The truth?

Some of you can’t avoid it because you are entrenched in insecurity and low self esteem.

Your heart will be broken again this year because your focus is the hot button tips and tricks on how to ensnare a man,

and the Snake Oil Conjurers will gladly exchange HOPE for your money.

A woman who Puts on her BLACK HAT understands that to fix this,

she must bring forth her inner BITCH!!!

YOUR “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

 

Her “Dark Side” IS the COCK BLOCKER and she is not concerned with promises or innuendo.

She doesn’t think in CONJECTURE. She understands human nature.

She isn’t conflicted about her worth or the outcome she wants her lover to provide.

It IS, what F’ing IS!!!!!!!

Compassion and agreeableness is what women are hardwired to be,

but can your compassion protect you from Manipulation

that you will face whether HE IS GENUINELY INTERESTED OR NOT????
No. It won’t…
What YOU want comes FIRST, and what he wants is SECONDARY..

Life Coach, Salkis Re

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~Salkis Re
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They Said You’re Ugly, And They Are Right!!!!

They Are Right About how you look!

When you are told over and over again that you are unattractive,
I want you to consider that “they”
might have just cause for saying it.
 
Now before you berate me or try simulate
“outrage” to go along with your other displaced emotions,
I would like for you to simply consider
what you are “projecting”, moreso than what you “look” like.

Approval Addiction Makes You Unattractive!

Your beauty, or “lack there of”, comes from
the showcasing of your anxiety and need for approval.
AND when you, BLACK girl, “conform” in any way,
you WILL display an improper fit and show
the world that you own no identity outside
of what you’ve been given.

You Wear your Insecurities On Your Sleeve

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                   Black Girl Magic by Salkis Re
 
And you sojourn while thinking you are
making progress, but you are stuck.
But you stay committed to the clownish makeup
while wearing clothes that will not compliment your form
with hairstyles that resemble assembly line wigs
at the China Man’s beauty supply store.
All of this will affect you swift “invisibility” to men.

Conformity KILLS Beauty

And the irony is that in your attempt to be
what Society considers beautiful, you become MORE unattractive,
BECAUSE you’ve positioned yourself
as a substandard DUPLICATE of what you CANNOT be,
a walking, talking, mannequin that represents
a type of woman whom you’ve decided is “better” that yourself.
 
And you think these facts can be “hidden” around glamor.
You can only suppress yourself emotions for so long: they will eventually burst forth to tell the truth of all you hide.
 

Beauty is NOT anxiety driven, it’s Peace based.

It is the personalization of what you were born
to represent in an unapologetically creative way.
 
And that peace within you will start to relax your furrowed lines on your face.
And that peace will cause your skin to glow.
And that peace will make your voice sound soothing to hear.
And that peace gives room for your individuality to be expressed.
And that peace makes grace hover over you.
And that peace makes you a moving meditation.
And that peace makes you enjoy caring for yourself.
And that peace will attraction men to you.
And on and on and on again… ~Salkis Re
 

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“Artist/ Life Coach”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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Poem: “You’re Not a Real Angel”

“You’re Not a Real Angel”
Written by Salkis Re

 

 

“This World is Yours” Abstract Art by Salkis Re

When they call you an angel,
you choose not to receive it,
You think angels don’t look like yourself,
and you feel you ought to look as them to believe it.

Their wings are pretty and all uniformed and white,
while you sit here in bursts of all this color.
And somehow you view your rainbows
as an embarrassment to the others.

White wings are just more classy,
is what your mind makes you say.
And all your colors are just too festive
to show the earthlings how to seriously pray…

But when God made you my angel,
he was more adventurous and brave.
And he added his sharpened skill onto you
and made what he once couldn’t create.

So open up your wings, flap them like thunder
and give the wind something to do.
And show the world that angels come in all colors
and that the best of them do look like you…

Mistress of Words”
~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re
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This poem I wrote today is about ownership and respect for the difference that make you who you are.

We are always looking at the grass over there thinking that its better than the patch of grass we are standing on.

Decide that you will take ownership of what makes you YOU.

We do not have to be the same.

I do not have to look the same.

And peace won’t come to you if you were to suddenly become

somebody else because inner peace only comes from acceptance of self.

The Right to be Right

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A lot of time is wasted contemplating why people could bring you unfair and disadvantages with their actions.

No energy should be spent on why any man would take advantage of you because your answer is of no consequence.

The question to ask is “HOW” person is able to do that to you.

Nobody has to do things the way you do because you do what you do based on your own:

trauma,

guilt,

shame etc..

You are as good as you need to be too.
Facts!!

Now let’s move on..

 

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~Salkis Re
Art by Salkis Re

 

 

 

 

Brothers that Hate Sisters!

Beautiful Black WomenI get trolling men who enjoy “attempting” to inflict emotional pain on me with crass, emotionally packed comments which are nearly always sexually charged.

Their curiosity for my dick-sucking skills or how of dicks have actually been in my mouth is a common sentiment from our “brothers”. Another common response is in the defense of this collective notion amongst them which states that black women are manly- looking, sperm- guzzling sluts who do not deserve respect or any of the comforts other “types” of women enjoy.

I take no issue with ANY brother who expresses this IF they would just stay away from us. But here they are, pretending to like you, impregnating you, wasting your time, your money, and your body, all while having degrading thoughts within their heads about you.

And you are lost because you think the main criteria for a relationship is in how much you LOVE him. You gamble your life, your beauty, your hopes and dreams on an EMOTION. And these very men resent and call you a fool for doing so.

So what are we to do here?
What is the solution to keeping men like this at Bay?
No Sex would be THE solution.
But many of is prove our worth through sex. And we become the chasers and the subordinates straight out the gate.
You can’t win doing it in this order.
So what does this mean for you?
It means that your position, the only had you play, would be that of SHOW ME!

Salkis Re, Artist, Healer, Medicine Woman

Love is not up for interpretation, and love is quite easy to create. Spend enough time with ANY man, whether you are deeply attracted to him or not, you will begin to have feelings for him and he for you.
No Sex equates to EMOTIONAL CONTROL of your own mind!
It allows you to maintain objectivity and reasoning as you quantify the value of the man you are spending time with.

You can love any man who is interested in you, who cares for you in word AND deed. That is TRUE LOVE because you able to be practical and reasonable in your relationship with him. You are not a fiend or his sexual puppet which often happens when you give up your vagina before merit is displayed. You don’t give yourself time to see if he’s after you to fill his curiosity or have the opportunity to win your love.
The point?
The point is that he MUST win your love!
And that my dear, the winning of your love, should NEVER end!

 

 

 

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“Life Savor”
~Salkis Re
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You Can’t Be YOURSELF!

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  • You are what you say.
    You are what you do.
    You are how you feel.
    And everything you do, say, and feel is a result of what you are getting out the deal.

What do I mean?

I mean there is a pay off for how you behave:
Attention, sympathy, validation, love, money etc..
You would not be what you are without an audience to provide an exchange for your performance.

And if it’s a pleasant reaction, if it makes you feel good, you will do it over and over and over again.
So what am I saying here?
I’m saying that there is no such thing as authenticity.

There is no such thing as the True Self.
If no one was watching you or interacting with you, you wouldn’t be what you are right now.

If you were stranded on a deserted island suddenly, you’d quickly become a new person because there would be no one around to be what you are for.

That said, you are like quantum physics that says the atom particle behaves differently when it’s being observed.
You are living your life as an actor on a stage, making motions to shock people or to make men think sexual thoughts about you.

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Am I Black Enough?
Art by Salkis Re

You have a sense of your value based on your interactions with people. You can’t quantify or validate your own worth outside of the presence of others.
Seems grim but it’s not really.
All this means is that you have Card Blanche and full authority to create a persona deliberately. You get to decide what qualities get activated or deactivated within you.

You now understand that permission to BE is not going to fall in your lap, and no one is capable of granting it to you. They can only interact with you based on what they feel and you let them based on what you think you will experience and the value you think you will receive from them.

Don’t BE yourself, CREATE yourself!

“Spiritual Advisor for Hire”
“Black Hat Society”
“Life Coach”
“Artist”
~Salkis Re

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What Will You Do?

🌼What makes life worth living? I had to ask myself this to gain some clarity and perspective. And I realized that having “challenges” was a key component for my growth.

🌼I realized that I didn’t want to “suffer”. I need accomplishments and joy in my journey, still,
I came to the conclusion that the journey of champions is not filled with a lot of people.

🌼And I’ve come know, as you will also, that most people feel powerless, and in their daily grind, they simply look to others who can soothe their anxiety within the reality they’ve come to accept.

🌼You can’t let people abuse your time, your body, or your spirit because there is no “lesson” to be had if the outcome has given you a repeated result.

So what will you do?
🌼I know what I’m here to do! I am here to activate your memory, to creatively disseminate wisdom to women, to encourage you to come out of your mental prison and fly.. It’s more than wearing vintage garments and crazy hair styles; those are expressions of your “look at me” button, and hardly has anything to do with freedom of the mind.

🌼There are plenty of intellectual fools out here. There’s a plethora of well dressed manic depressives. There are cashiers with bachelors degrees. Choices, genetics, habits, environment try to script out your life, BUT you have the last say in how your world plays out..

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A Woman’s Place

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Art by Salkis Re

 

 

“A Woman’s Place”
Written by Salkis Re

The woman’s role is that of a *prize in her man’s life. Not equal prize nor him being more of a prize than her. This is the “natural” order of things and real men do not take issue with taking a back seat to her shine because his worth is valued in another way.

Propaganda has done a bang up job making women ashamed of being actual women as “gender fluidity” sinks it’s claws into your psyche.

You are tolerating being called “cis women” like like you caught some disease called a *vaginal canal, and you allow human beings, both male and female to call you weak because you want to play the subordinate to a “capable” man. You want to dig ditches with men to prove what? At the end of the day, he is still designed to “insert” himself into your body so you are the *receiver my dear.

The only thing that is “beneath” me is *struggle and not getting what the f$&k I want! My comfort is important to me and a man in my life has to feel like *my comfort is important to him too.

I am a *fantastic woman with creativity, sharp wit, intellectual acuity, ovulating ovaries and a snug-fit vagina that entitles me to sheltered, protected and loved. Period!
“Black Hat Society”

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“Black Hat Society” ~Salkis Re

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The First Time You Became a Whore!


Yes, You are a WHORE Too!

Some of you will wrestle with your whordom. You will think that you are above reproach and that somehow your vaginal is more pristine than that of a woman who pedals her flesh. So I will tell you what you won’t accept but what is true nonetheless.
You are defiled too.
If you have had ONE penis inside you, you have died. A little death of the girl you once was takes place.
You emotional instability begins as you start to be more concerned about that dik than yourself.

  1. You start to dress up for the dik.
  2. Cook for the dik.
  3. You worry if that dik likes your pu$$y as much as you like that dik.

You become cunning and manipulative so that dik stays fixated on you.

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“Self Esteem Coach”
~Salkis Re
  • You were balanced before that dik.
  • Level headed emotionally before that dik.
  • Less worried about things before that dik. Now he is inside you:literally and spiritually and you struggle to find your joy outside of him.

Listen Goddess, A dik is incapable of giving you self respect and honor. (for you wives that think you are different)
A dik is an instrument of pleasure and reproduction. It is an emotional tool used to “attach” souls(emotional bodies) to each other.

And If and when you break up with that first dik, the 7 years it’s takes for total celluar regeneration is of no consquence because you are “grown” now, and see no necessity behind rebuilding yourself before getting into another relationship.

Why don’t you feel this necessity to cleanse?

Because you feel like what you are now: a WHORE  and you are in a tug of war your shame as you tout that the sex you had “it didn’t mean anything to you”. Your mind and your heart’s perspective differ greatly, as you reason away your confusion and anguish.

So what is the conclusion to this whorism stuff anyway? How am I supposed to feel good about myself as a woman of I think I’m a whore? Well isn’t the point of this entire article to address the FACT that you’ve ALWAYS felt that way? You just couldn’t put it into the eloquent presentation

that I’ve done here for you, but you have indeed felt that way. You are more caught up in how it reads on paper than how it feels in your heart.

But the point is to take ownership of your body and understand which things you can overrule with your thoughts and which things are governed by physical laws that cannot be overridden.

Your body is an incubator, a DNA recorder if you will. And this means that it’s a storage space for everything you put in it: dik included. The sex you have as the whore you are is indeed your right to have, just understand that when you become initiated through sex, everything you do MUST become strategic to protect your mental and physical well being.

You should understand that since you are designed as a genetic recorder/receiver, who you fuck can “dumb you down” or “build you up” depending on his physical and emotional constitution.

As a whore, you must be self absorbed.  Your livelihood depends on your ability to be selfish, selective and graceful and cunning.

Why?

Because you know that dik will alter to you and it must be for gain or what is the point really.

You are wired for natural selection. Your lack of confidence and sense of entitlement as broken skewed your perception but it can be repaired.

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The World In Your Hands
Painting by Salkis Re

Step One of your reparation:

Accept that you are a Whore. Accept that you are adulterated AND that this is the natural alteration that takes place in every woman’s life. And vow to be strategic and purposeful in ALL your future alterations whether that be with one man or 60 men.

Get Up Goddess!

Liberator of the Breath of Re”

“She Who Opens The Throat to Breathe”

“Mistress of Words”

“Queen Bee”

“Self Esteem Coach”

“Artist”

~Salkis Re

 

 

 

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“The ‘Act” of Unconditional Love”

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Most of us women have been “trained” to “act” in ways that will be appealing to men. To talk softly and smile, be agreeable and non threatening. No up-staging or acting like we know it all, I’d even go so far as to play dumb in order to be a good subordinate. You can’t overrule the king, and you certainly better not if you are closer to average looking or you’ll blow straight into oblivion the entire “mirage” of your “packaged” beauty.

Trained and ready to serve is the initiation into womanhood for most of us. Everybody worrying about gray hair and keep the body together so his “love” never ceases. And some of you still have the audacity to utter ideals of unconditional love when you’ve been conditioned your entire life for that love..

Great romances abound. I see intense kisses and braggadocios parading using “planned” photo ops of blissful folly to make the ether audience entertained and slightly jealous too. You’ve felt inadequate since the first cartoon you watched and that first comb you put to your barbie doll’s head. Everywhere you turn, there is a “problem” or a “flaw about you that needs tending too. EVERYWHERE!! And that inadequacy drowns the heart worry and fear. You compete with women who don’t even know you, you try up outclass and eclipse the women who threaten your livelihood/man.

Lol what is the tea? Men love sex more than they love women. And your hole holds more value than you whole. As a matter of fact, the rest of your body, your needs just get in the way as that hole is used like a toilet bowl for his frustration and stress. But that’s another post. I don’t want you to think I’m brooding here, and I certainly am not recruiting for any hidden: let’s all hate men propaganda. Men are yummy, and admirable, some god-like even.

Most of the people I look up to are indeed men. When they are worthy of course..

So no, I want you to have love by whatever it represents to you.  I don’t focus on the hope part because I know we have the scornful parts of ourselves to even get to a place where we can see what deserves the time to cultivate love. The parts you hide, are the parts you have to see so you can release your shame, doubt and fear of not being good enough for the very love you want..

Who’s zooming who? Like a Lady Aretha Franklin says..

I’m being bit facetious now, but the point must be made.

The tea is medicinal, tastes bitter, yet always needed.

“Your Life Coach ” ~ Salkis Re

Distraction Dingalings Are Expensive!

You must test man for mental and physical strength. You are too quick to allow entry into your mind far less your body. And it’s so easy to weed out the weak

minded. They are easily distracted, have no goals, very undisciplined, and emotionally fragile.

Self Portrait by artist Tim Baxter

 

He wants what they are to stingy to pay for.

He expects something for nothing and usually at your expense.

But your longing to quench your on thirst makes you a beggar of your own desires. You will become a new victim for a different face because you

never learn your lesson. The needle spins around the record of your life, skipping over the scratch again and again.

You admire the beauty of other women, and you want the power you think their beauty affords them. And you soak in their hollow doctrines and their enchantments and things, only to find out that you are right back where you started: starving for attention.

And the truth is that I’m not telling you anything that your heart does not already know. You just feel that the truth will bring you further away from companionship and love. But you are sleeping with men who do not love you, who don’t have the aptitude to provide or protect you, who will abandon you crisis hits.

Though a penis inserts itself into your vagina regularly, you are alone, even more alone than if you were by yourself.

So my question to you is when will you get out of the fog and face the truths? Distractions cost a lot of time and money you know, any they are never worth what you have to expel to maintain them. They devour you eventually.

But there is a light at the end of all these tunnel rats you’ve been trying to leap over. It will take a brain washing of sorts. It will mean that you have to challenge notions of sexuality, femininity, self worth, pleasure etc.. Smiling, what it means is that you will have to upgrade your thinking and the basic need to “just be heard”, and you will have to move into solution based thinking instead of get ‘coping’ with your problems.

Awww, you want to be a Goddess and you think its all fun right? No. It is not.

How many can sit at a throne seat?

That’s right! ONLY ONE! So be prepared for that, the alone time I mean.

That’s one of the biggest hurdles, being alone I mean. We want the sisterhood to hold us up, to give shoulders that we can soak with our tears. And it feels good for a moment. What you want is more than a moment, you want a lifetime fix!

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The Great Pretenders

I watch people,

I listen.

I ponder.

I wonder about ‘us’. Us women I mean.

And how we are afraid of things that give us no legitimate cause to fear while other things display their harm to us repeatedly yet we stay the course, weather the storm, hope for the best, bestow optimism towards. You do these things for everybody else but yourself. You can see the bright side of a slap in the face if his d&85k makes you cum.
But for you, well.. you doubt even what you know you are capable of!
Why do you do this?

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Who taught you to hate yourself this much? When one person says your nothing, you think the world agrees with him. Truth is, I’m asking like I have not been you, and I have. What I am trying to do here is save you time, to help you learn the lesson fast and live slow. Time is important, the most important thing you got.
Time is not money, its more valuable than money because money cannot renew it; once its gone, its gone forever… The truth is bitter, the truth is not harsh:

THE TRUTH IS YOUR BEST AND ONLY FRIEND!! I need for you to want it, to crave it.
It is the only thing that will bring your right mind back you know. You got to dance with it in order to heal and transform..
From the desk of “Your Life Coach” ~Salkis Re
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Be A Quiet Hoe!

I don’t think there is anything worse than wanting someone in your life that doesn’t want to be with you. I have been on the receiving end of this more times than I care to admit. I have also been the progenitor of emotional devastation in men I no longer wanted to be with. It’s not easy letting people go, but what’s worse than that moment you break someone’s heart,is the loss of time. Time is that shit you can’t get back. You can get another lover but you can’t recover the time you wasted trying to make things work with someone you know you no longer want to be with.

Break ups can get tricky when the sex is good, when children are born into it, or when financial investments are tied into it. But time is more valuable than anything you could lose because it is not a renewable resource.  When you are not sure, you’re not sure. But when you know, when you have already tallied up the cost of separation, talked to the lawyers secretly, took vacations to see another lover, well you know that you know.

A piece of mind is priceless. Being free to start over is scary but exciting at the same time when you are perfectly clear on your objectives. We are not jumping from the frying pan into the fire here. You need to stay your ass put if that is the case. I have seen breakups happen and the chic just goes on dick binge: in one fell swoop, her virtue and reputation ends up in the toilet cause she couldn’t handle the responsibility of her new freedom. Freedom does not negate consequence. You can’t escape consequence just because no one can stop you from making a decision.

Results will happen, and you need to know what you are striving for. But if you must be a hoe, just don’t be a noisy one. Work your “hoedom” quietly and stop leaving verifiable evidence all over the place for people to point fingers at you. Tell your mama if you must and maybe one tried and proven friend, but no bull horns unless your getting tell all book deal like Super Head. Just do you best to reason out your decisions because adding “causal pu$$y giving” regret to a roster  already filled with years of unfulfilling obligation, just invites more confusion and turmoil to your mind and heart.

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Natural Hair and Self love The Easy Escape

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Im an artist right. I paint little girls and young ladies with natural hair right. I know the importance of imagery and their power to alter the perceptions of one’s self worth. I didn’t see what I paint when I was growing up. No symbols of affection and love for my “kind”. And I get it. Every black girl needs a super hero, an alter ego like the boys have with their Transformers, G.I.Joes, Batman etc.

But what do we really have?

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The Unpleasantness of being an Artist

Sooooo, I just decide that instead of venting on a piece of paper and then trashing it like I usually do, I thought it would be more exciting to burden you with my angst (snickering). I am a full time artist. I make that very clear throughout my communications in social media.
Yep! I am an artist, and here is my work. Then someone comes along and asks:”So, uh.. What do you do?” Now unless they were looking specifically for shots of my “snatch” I’m not sure how they bypassed all my progress photos, slideshows, videos of me painting to very eclectic music selections, my art gallery, and my collage of beautiful big-eyed baby girls. Yup. I’m an artist. No its not a hobby. Yes its cutesy, but its serious subject matter behind my work here!
God give me patience to deal with “suggestions” from casual admirers. “You should illustrate childrens books, you should make puzzles and shower curtains with your art, why don’t you do dolls, I see you don’t paint boys, you should paint boys, why not make the eyes more realistic so that children can see themselves in your work, why don’t you paint chubby girls, can you paint this on my clutch purse and shoes to match? (WUH,WUH,WUH,Charlie Brown’s teacher voice). And it always seems to come from people who haven’t purchased anything from me, but somehow they are a part of my “tribe” making the most demands on me.

Enough!
Then the critques that are moreso an out for getting away with insulting you. I have gotten better with this one though, much better. I simply delete, block and keep it moving. I am intuitive, I also study people. Yes, I’d call myself a witch but there are too many negative connotations to that title, plus I don’t know any spells, but I am definitely accute in my perception of people. But the down side of that is that it’s very easy to become indifferent and cynical about everything. Why? Well because you know when you are being lied too most of the time.

What I do as an artist is put my thoughts and experiences about love and life on canvas and I use children as the lens to interpret that because I see that humans are more honest and open than  they will ever be when they are young. They express themselves honestly until they are taught to filter what they think and feel for “appropriateness”.
I interact with a lot of adults who claim to be honest, but they just chose an area were they can assert themselves cause the rest of there lived are in shambles..

I am an artist and it not easy exposing my feelings on cavas to be judged, classed and rated. Its uncomfortable talking to people who I know aren’t interested in my work but still want to hold my ear hostage with hollow compliments.

Now, they’re not all bad of course, I’ve cried on the phone with collectors while discussing an art piece they purchased, I have talked about growing pains and connects with clients transitioning into new scary chapters of their lives.African american art

I have conjured up happy memories for people through my brush and they show me real appreciation for that. They say “There’s just something about your paintings, I don’t know what it is, but it calls me!” (Grinning again) yeah I know.. Its that connection that I do this for. Its so exciting when people “Get It”. I’m stoked when I have a chance to explain my concept and inspiration to true fans. 

Ok I think I have let off some weight with this post hehe..

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You Not Gonna Waste My Time!

The unpleasant side of being an artist is having to deal with all the flakes and foolery from folks who pretend that they are interested in buying. I used to entertain conversations with anyone who made a statement about my work, especially on social media. But these days I have very guarded with my time and the emotional conversation pertaining to my art.

I GET SOME STUPID ASS QUESTIONS!!

I had to deal with a very combative troll a few weeks ago asking me why I don’t paint boys in my art. I simply said “Because I do what I want to do!” But he kept igging me on, trying to figure out if I’m some closet feminist man hater. I assumed because I didn’t have any pictures up with men. (I’ve never paraded my relationships on social media and I never will.) But I got hot about this because as an artist, I don’t have to ‘answer’ to anyone about why I do what I do. I never heard anyone ask an artist who only paints animals why they don’t paint people or artists who paint nature scenes why they don’t paint skyscrapers!!

And its always these mother suckers that what to make ‘suggestions’ about what you should add to your body of work: but if you added it for their sake, they still wouldn’t or probably could afford to buy from you. They are energy drainers indeed and I immediately put the brakes on when I see them. Everyone who ‘likes’ your work is NOT your market. And I had to learn that the hard way.

WOMAN ASKS ME WHY IM CHARGING SO MUCH!!

OMG! that conversation took all the restraint I had left and there wasn’t much to begin with. I told this girl the price of an original art piece and she goes into a whole dialog about being a young mother, not a corporate CEO and she wanted the painting for her daughter. Then she continues by asking about my pricing structure. I told her that I offered her the option of buying a print which was more within range of what she could afford, I even offered a payment plan for the original! And she was still yapping about pricing.

I politely told her that I don’t based my price or alter it because someone has a low paying job, or unemployed, or plan to give to their 1 year old daughter… That has nothing to do with me. By the end of the conversation, what she wanted was to license the art piece and she thought by buying the original that it gave her the right to reproduce it!! WTF!!! LOL SHe came back a few minutes later with the “My boyfriend said I was wrong and owed you an apology”.. Uh Yeah Whatever.

Needless to say, I had to fall back.. I mean waaaaay back from all the noise. I don’t allow people to gets minutes of my time when it starts with me having to alter anything. I see people try to play the emotional game and I guess that works for some, but I am very clear on the ‘why’ of my art business. Im not conflicted at all about the value I bring to the world…

~Salkis Re

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