“You Will Pick The Wrong Person Again, So Rela
Written by Salkis Re
You pick partners not based on what you want, but what you are familiar with! You have your list of demands and characteristics that a man must have. And you are proud of this well thought out list because it represents a sane mind, a woman who exercises conscientiousness and reasonability.
But your list most likely contains what you’ve been TOLD to look for, NOT what you emotions predisposed you too.
You know how many women actually find the guy that fits all the characteristics on her list, but then she has lunch with her girlfriends and expresses how “boring” he is??
He’s perfect! He has everything, but he bores you.
Because he is unable to give you the “suffering” that YOU have come to associate with the feeling of REAL love.
Your Mother gives you a template for love, and if was irate and loud and intimidating, you will subconsciously seek men who will criticize and berate you.
If you had a Father whom you observed to be weak and emotionally fragile, you will find a partner who is weak and needs constant reassurance which you WILL find frustrating, BUT it provides a LOVE you know!!🤔
If a partner’s personality is NOT familiar with how you interpret love, you are going to consider him a miss-match.
The WRONG guy is the guy you go for because he is represents what REAL love is to you.
It is near impossible to rewire your templates for love, but you can “reframe” how you react and respond to the person representing your love template.
You like bullies? Then don’t let the bully be a bully to YOU.
You like loud, patronizing men?
Do NOT let him define YOU with his insults
And so on..
“The Black Hat Society”
Artist/Life Coach/Medicine Woman